WEBVTT - The Mid-Year Reset for Messy Minds: Life Audit, Goals Check-in + My 3-Day Itinerary 0:00:00.120 --> 0:00:02.360 If your mornings and nights are shit, the middle of 0:00:02.400 --> 0:00:05.120 your day is going to be a disaster. Like is 0:00:05.160 --> 0:00:07.760 it the mornings, because like, the lunches aren't made, the 0:00:07.800 --> 0:00:10.080 bags aren't packed. You've woken up to kids screaming in 0:00:10.119 --> 0:00:12.520 your face because they want chocolate for breakfast, and there's 0:00:12.560 --> 0:00:15.800 peanut butter on the dog? How is it bloody July? 0:00:16.320 --> 0:00:18.480 Like can we just pause for a second, please? I 0:00:18.520 --> 0:00:22.040 actually think it's a little bit rude, Like I just 0:00:22.079 --> 0:00:25.000 need a minute just to catch my breath and catch 0:00:25.079 --> 0:00:27.800 up with life. But chances are, if you're listening to 0:00:27.840 --> 0:00:30.840 this episode, you're feeling really overwhelmed right now, and you're 0:00:30.880 --> 0:00:34.080 probably feeling like you have to live up to some 0:00:34.120 --> 0:00:37.800 expectation that you set yourself back in January. And the 0:00:37.880 --> 0:00:40.240 other reason that you're probably here is because you're a 0:00:40.240 --> 0:00:43.040 bloody hot mess like me. Welcome, You're in the right place. 0:00:43.120 --> 0:00:46.360 We have shirts now. I'm aware that there are a 0:00:46.400 --> 0:00:49.519 million media researts out there, and they're all so intense, 0:00:49.680 --> 0:00:53.040 and if anything like me and have ADHD, you tend 0:00:53.120 --> 0:00:56.440 to do step one and then you bail, and then 0:00:56.480 --> 0:00:58.560 you tend to revert back, and then your whole life 0:00:58.600 --> 0:01:02.440 turns into a mess two seconds. So I've broken this 0:01:02.520 --> 0:01:07.160 whole mid year reset down into something that's really doable. 0:01:07.440 --> 0:01:10.679 We know, I love that word digestible, and I've done 0:01:10.680 --> 0:01:13.760 the heavy lifting for you. I've really like spent years 0:01:13.760 --> 0:01:19.200 researching all the things and frameworks and actual doable steps 0:01:19.520 --> 0:01:23.360 that can honestly just reset not only our mindset and 0:01:23.440 --> 0:01:26.200 get a set back up for our goals for the 0:01:26.280 --> 0:01:28.760 rest of the year, but also like literally just zoom 0:01:28.760 --> 0:01:30.720 out and look at all the areas of our life, 0:01:30.760 --> 0:01:34.080 like I want to be taking you through audits everything 0:01:34.120 --> 0:01:35.600 like that. And I know when you hear the word 0:01:35.720 --> 0:01:37.920 order it sounds terrifying, but I promise you it's not. 0:01:39.280 --> 0:01:41.960 But this is the episode where you're going to stop 0:01:42.000 --> 0:01:43.720 being an arsehole to yourself. You're going to stop putting 0:01:43.720 --> 0:01:48.320 yourself down and stop putting yourself on that bloody train 0:01:48.440 --> 0:01:51.440 wreck to Expectation Town because the train doesn't stop and 0:01:51.480 --> 0:01:53.720 you're going to end up burnt out feeling like you're 0:01:53.720 --> 0:01:57.760 inadequate when you're not. So in this episode, we're doing 0:01:57.760 --> 0:02:01.200 a proper mid year reset, but the messy minds version. 0:02:01.360 --> 0:02:04.760 So I like with this, you guys can be listening 0:02:04.760 --> 0:02:07.080 along at home, like you don't have to. Like in 0:02:07.120 --> 0:02:08.600 this episode, I'm going to be giving you a full 0:02:08.639 --> 0:02:10.639 work book. I'm giving you As I said, I've done 0:02:10.639 --> 0:02:13.000 the heavy lifting for you. But if you're just going 0:02:13.040 --> 0:02:15.200 on a walk or in the car, you can do 0:02:15.360 --> 0:02:17.600 this as you listen, Like, you don't have to grab 0:02:17.600 --> 0:02:19.720 your notebook out, you can just do it as we 0:02:19.800 --> 0:02:23.080 go through it step by step. Now, this is a 0:02:23.120 --> 0:02:26.200 media review, a life audit, and a quick time audit 0:02:26.280 --> 0:02:27.680 as well, and we're going to be checking in with 0:02:27.760 --> 0:02:30.160 your goals and resetting them for the next quarter and 0:02:30.200 --> 0:02:33.320 fixing up your routine. I'm also going to be giving 0:02:33.360 --> 0:02:35.920 you the three days to schedule into this month to 0:02:36.000 --> 0:02:37.760 reset for the rest of the year. And if you've 0:02:37.760 --> 0:02:41.240 been here since the season opener, yes, the Potato Day 0:02:41.280 --> 0:02:45.760 is back. Now this is the three day reset routine 0:02:45.760 --> 0:02:50.560 that honestly just makes me feel like I've completely hit 0:02:50.639 --> 0:02:53.880 the reset button on my life. And it's not overwhelming, 0:02:54.480 --> 0:02:58.240 but it's really really going to help. Now. Fair warning, 0:02:58.320 --> 0:03:00.880 one of these review questions that I'm be getting into 0:03:01.280 --> 0:03:03.000 in the first step is going to sting a little 0:03:03.040 --> 0:03:05.680 bit and you'll know when we get to it. But 0:03:06.040 --> 0:03:08.520 stick around because I've actually turned this whole reset into 0:03:08.560 --> 0:03:10.919 a free work book and it will take you through 0:03:10.960 --> 0:03:12.720 this step by step and I'll tell you how to 0:03:12.720 --> 0:03:14.400 grab it at the end, or you could just check 0:03:14.440 --> 0:03:19.160 the show notes. Let's be honest, but before we get 0:03:19.160 --> 0:03:22.480 into our life changing midyear reset, a bit of a 0:03:22.520 --> 0:03:26.640 life update. Now. I'm actually on a break at the moment, Like, 0:03:26.680 --> 0:03:29.360 I'm on a work break, and if you know me, like, 0:03:29.720 --> 0:03:31.920 I'm very passionate about what I do, and I wear 0:03:31.919 --> 0:03:33.919 many hats and I do many things. But luckily I've 0:03:33.960 --> 0:03:37.440 got an incredible team at SPP and they also wear 0:03:37.520 --> 0:03:41.080 many hats as well. But yeah, like I want to 0:03:41.120 --> 0:03:44.360 be completely honest. I went to therapy and my therapist 0:03:44.480 --> 0:03:46.200 was like, Steph, I think you need a break. Oh 0:03:46.240 --> 0:03:49.200 you're going to break, And I was like, yeah, fair points. 0:03:49.240 --> 0:03:51.760 So here I am. I've actually had a couple weeks 0:03:51.760 --> 0:03:54.840 off already and it's been like smack bang in the 0:03:54.880 --> 0:03:57.480 middle of the school holidays, which is also good. But 0:03:57.520 --> 0:03:59.840 I want to be totally honest with you and say 0:04:01.120 --> 0:04:05.000 it's still holidays. So I think you guys know what 0:04:05.040 --> 0:04:08.840 I'm trying to put down. But I'm actually headed off 0:04:08.880 --> 0:04:12.480 tomorrow to a health retreat with my friend Lauren, and 0:04:12.520 --> 0:04:14.640 I'm really really excited. This is the same health retreat 0:04:14.680 --> 0:04:16.600 I wrote about in my book. It's the same health 0:04:16.600 --> 0:04:18.440 retreat I go to. I try to go to once 0:04:18.480 --> 0:04:21.000 a year because you just go off the grid. If 0:04:21.080 --> 0:04:24.480 you have no reception, you do whatever you want. Like 0:04:24.520 --> 0:04:26.719 you can do craft, you can do like the fitness stuff, 0:04:26.720 --> 0:04:28.479 you can do the mindfulness stuff, or you can do 0:04:28.520 --> 0:04:33.440 a mix. But I'm really really excited, and I think sometimes, 0:04:34.360 --> 0:04:36.800 you know, like I felt like it's a good time 0:04:36.839 --> 0:04:38.960 for me to like connect with you know, Lauren, my friend, 0:04:39.160 --> 0:04:41.080 and then also my therapist telling me I need to 0:04:41.120 --> 0:04:44.040 like kind of chill a little bit. And you might 0:04:44.080 --> 0:04:46.520 be wondering, well, Steph, you're on a break. Why you 0:04:46.560 --> 0:04:50.640 were recording a podcast. Well that's because sometimes you still 0:04:50.640 --> 0:04:52.400 have to do the things. And I'm not gonna leave 0:04:52.400 --> 0:04:54.320 you guys hanging for a couple of weeks while I'm 0:04:54.920 --> 0:04:58.760 running around in the mountains without my phone. And you 0:04:58.839 --> 0:05:01.120 might have noticed I've been recorded the podcast at home, 0:05:01.200 --> 0:05:03.800 but I am back to Nova after the next episode, which, 0:05:03.839 --> 0:05:05.160 oh my god, you guys are going to love next 0:05:05.160 --> 0:05:08.200 week's episode. It's more of like a I want to say, 0:05:08.240 --> 0:05:10.080 bite size, but knowing me, it's still going to be 0:05:10.200 --> 0:05:12.840 normal length, but it's going to be my top home hacks, 0:05:12.839 --> 0:05:14.120 So you're going to want to listen to that one 0:05:14.120 --> 0:05:16.400 next week. And it's kind of funny, like the start 0:05:16.440 --> 0:05:18.080 of this break that I'm on, I kind of had 0:05:18.120 --> 0:05:19.800 this idea of what it was going to look like, 0:05:20.279 --> 0:05:22.280 and the thing's always going to do. Like I was 0:05:22.279 --> 0:05:24.000 going to go to sauna's, I was going to make 0:05:24.040 --> 0:05:26.640 sure I start watching TV because if you guys follow me, 0:05:26.680 --> 0:05:29.400 you know I'm terrible watching television. Not because I'm better 0:05:29.400 --> 0:05:31.960 than anyone, It's just because I physically can't sit still 0:05:31.960 --> 0:05:36.080 in focus and I'm terrible. And just like I guess 0:05:36.160 --> 0:05:37.800 that mind frame that I was in at the start 0:05:37.839 --> 0:05:40.240 of the breaks the same as when you start off, 0:05:40.400 --> 0:05:42.640 you know, a new year. You know, just because you're 0:05:42.640 --> 0:05:45.200 halfway through the year doesn't mean you have to become 0:05:45.240 --> 0:05:47.520 the best version of yourself, Like you don't have to 0:05:47.520 --> 0:05:49.800 do the whole new month. Knew me none of that shit, 0:05:50.120 --> 0:05:52.480 And it's the same with me on my break right now. 0:05:52.520 --> 0:05:54.800 And look, I haven't done a sauna once. I haven't 0:05:54.800 --> 0:05:58.080 watched one episode of anything. And it's just really important 0:05:58.120 --> 0:06:02.040 to remember that this whole reset, and we're not chasing 0:06:02.880 --> 0:06:05.480 the best version of you. We're chasing the happiest version 0:06:05.480 --> 0:06:07.960 of you and whatever that looks like. And sometimes the 0:06:07.960 --> 0:06:10.679 happiest version of you isn't about saying yes to more. 0:06:10.720 --> 0:06:14.800 It's about saying no to more and setting boundaries, which 0:06:14.839 --> 0:06:18.120 I do need to learn to do that myself. And 0:06:18.160 --> 0:06:19.919 here's the thing you'll probably find when we get to 0:06:19.920 --> 0:06:23.800 the goals part of this reset process. The goals that 0:06:23.839 --> 0:06:26.920 you set back in January might not even be relevant anymore. 0:06:27.040 --> 0:06:30.160 Shit's changed and you've changed, and that's not a failure. 0:06:30.279 --> 0:06:32.560 That is exactly why we need to do a mid 0:06:32.640 --> 0:06:36.599 year reset, because it makes no sense for you to 0:06:36.640 --> 0:06:39.200 still be slogging it out towards a goal that you 0:06:39.279 --> 0:06:41.440 don't even really want to do anymore, you don't even 0:06:41.560 --> 0:06:45.880 like anymore. So it's okay to pivot with purpose, all right. 0:06:46.040 --> 0:06:49.880 So step one of our mid year reset is, of course, 0:06:49.960 --> 0:06:53.360 the review. Now, before you can move forward in anything 0:06:53.400 --> 0:06:55.839 that you do, you need to look in the rearview mirror. 0:06:56.200 --> 0:06:58.839 You need to see, Okay, what's not working? What have 0:06:58.920 --> 0:07:01.440 you been doing? Where have we kind of got stuck 0:07:01.480 --> 0:07:04.240 into some potholes along the way And we need to 0:07:04.320 --> 0:07:07.240 learn from our past, even when it stings. Now I 0:07:07.279 --> 0:07:09.960 do this in my journal morning and night because my 0:07:10.000 --> 0:07:14.920 brain is crazy, so like I will literally just you know, say, 0:07:15.040 --> 0:07:17.000 you know, some people think journaling has to be like 0:07:17.040 --> 0:07:19.200 a set way, and I should actually do a whole 0:07:19.200 --> 0:07:21.680 episode on journaling because I think there's a massive stigma 0:07:21.760 --> 0:07:23.640 attached to it and people think it has to be 0:07:23.680 --> 0:07:26.480 perfect or has to be really long winded. But if 0:07:26.520 --> 0:07:28.880 you actually saw my journal, you probably wouldn't even be 0:07:28.960 --> 0:07:31.560 able to read it, which is probably a good thing, 0:07:32.480 --> 0:07:33.880 but you need to be able to just like it's 0:07:33.880 --> 0:07:36.080 about just getting it out of your head, and it 0:07:36.080 --> 0:07:38.360 can be messy. It doesn't even have to make sense, 0:07:38.440 --> 0:07:41.120 like you don't have to use the words and like 0:07:41.200 --> 0:07:43.480 you don't have to have any grammar. It can just 0:07:43.880 --> 0:07:46.600 not really make sense to other people. Now, when I 0:07:46.640 --> 0:07:49.080 read back at my January reflections, I feel like a 0:07:49.080 --> 0:07:51.960 totally different person. And that's also the point of this, 0:07:52.080 --> 0:07:56.760 because whilst it's important for us to use this review 0:07:56.800 --> 0:08:00.560 to obviously, you know, maybe not keep reating the same 0:08:00.600 --> 0:08:03.200 mistakes and seeing where we could go better, but it's 0:08:03.240 --> 0:08:05.600 also important for us to see how much we've grown, 0:08:05.960 --> 0:08:09.680 because growth is very slow, and sometimes you don't even 0:08:09.720 --> 0:08:11.960 notice it. Most of the time we don't even notice it. 0:08:12.600 --> 0:08:14.560 And that's another reason why I love to keep my 0:08:14.640 --> 0:08:19.280 old planners, because our planner is like our diary is 0:08:20.160 --> 0:08:22.680 the best snapshot of our day to day life. So 0:08:23.000 --> 0:08:25.960 when I look back at an old diary, old planner, 0:08:26.800 --> 0:08:29.440 it really shows me my day to day life back then. 0:08:29.840 --> 0:08:31.920 And when I look back at even last year or 0:08:31.920 --> 0:08:34.880 the year before, it shows me how much I've grown 0:08:34.880 --> 0:08:37.120 and changed and how much my environment has changed for 0:08:37.160 --> 0:08:39.120 the better as well. And then also there can be 0:08:39.200 --> 0:08:41.880 parts to show you, oh, I've dropped this habit or 0:08:41.880 --> 0:08:44.080 that habit. So that's why I love like. I feel 0:08:44.120 --> 0:08:46.040 like planners are such a keepsake and I love it 0:08:46.080 --> 0:08:49.640 for that reason. Now here are the questions for your review. 0:08:50.320 --> 0:08:52.360 Now again this is all. I want to pop these 0:08:52.360 --> 0:08:53.800 in the show notes as well for you guys, just 0:08:53.800 --> 0:08:57.120 because it's easier, but it will also be in your workbook. Now, 0:08:57.200 --> 0:08:59.600 what are three lessons you've learned this year so far? 0:09:00.480 --> 0:09:03.440 Usually the tough ones are the best ones. So for me, 0:09:03.559 --> 0:09:07.960 this one always comes up that I tend to use 0:09:08.440 --> 0:09:14.280 like perfection as self sabotage because with me and I've 0:09:14.320 --> 0:09:16.440 talked about this before, but we always attach an emotion 0:09:16.640 --> 0:09:18.880 to certain tasks, and I do that a lot with 0:09:18.960 --> 0:09:22.160 sometimes with work, especially when it comes to content, and 0:09:22.200 --> 0:09:25.160 I do get in my own way, so sometimes and 0:09:25.200 --> 0:09:27.360 even in business, for me, like a lot of the 0:09:27.400 --> 0:09:31.560 lessons I learn is that sometimes you can't do all 0:09:31.600 --> 0:09:34.120 the things, and there is going to be people better 0:09:34.200 --> 0:09:36.680 at certain tasks than you that you need a handover. 0:09:37.120 --> 0:09:38.719 And that also comes down to, you know, being a 0:09:38.800 --> 0:09:40.839 mom at home, and that like you need, we need 0:09:40.880 --> 0:09:43.040 to be able to allocate tasks to other people because 0:09:43.040 --> 0:09:45.520 you simply can't be everything to everyone all the time. 0:09:46.520 --> 0:09:48.679 So now we've done your top three lessons, and now 0:09:48.679 --> 0:09:51.120 we're going to do your top three wins. And we 0:09:51.200 --> 0:09:53.760 never actually stop to acknowledge these. So for me, a 0:09:53.800 --> 0:09:56.280 win for me this year so far is getting back 0:09:56.280 --> 0:09:58.440 into my habits that I fell out of while I 0:09:58.520 --> 0:10:01.000 was writing my book. I was writing my book, I 0:10:01.040 --> 0:10:03.439 lived on Indian food like I was again, I was 0:10:03.480 --> 0:10:09.080 eighty percent butter chicken, and I wasn't like eating well 0:10:09.160 --> 0:10:11.040 for my body. I was just kind of like, I 0:10:11.040 --> 0:10:13.440 don't remember what I was doing, and I wasn't at 0:10:13.480 --> 0:10:15.760 the gym and look it was fair. I was writing 0:10:15.760 --> 0:10:19.080 a book like that was wild. But the gym for 0:10:19.160 --> 0:10:21.400 me has always been my consistent and it's been like 0:10:21.440 --> 0:10:23.840 the only reason I've honestly stuck to the gym for 0:10:23.880 --> 0:10:26.560 so long, for the last what fifteen years, is because 0:10:26.600 --> 0:10:29.200 it helps my anxiety so very much. It makes me 0:10:29.400 --> 0:10:32.559 so much more patient with the girls. And I'm not 0:10:32.600 --> 0:10:34.400 a very nice person unless I go to the gym, 0:10:34.800 --> 0:10:39.080 I'll be honest. So I've gotten back into the gym 0:10:39.280 --> 0:10:42.400 and it's been amazing, And it's just been good because 0:10:42.400 --> 0:10:44.360 for me too, because I work from home a lot, 0:10:44.520 --> 0:10:46.000 and you know, I've got the team at the warehouse, 0:10:46.040 --> 0:10:49.000 but I'm really bad at focusing. So I used to 0:10:49.080 --> 0:10:50.599 be like, like a long time ago, I used to 0:10:50.640 --> 0:10:52.240 be the warehouse five days a week and I just 0:10:52.240 --> 0:10:54.840 couldn't get my things done. And then as the team 0:10:54.920 --> 0:10:57.000 grows and I don't have to physically be packing all 0:10:57.040 --> 0:10:59.360 the orders and like stepping in everywhere and doing all 0:10:59.400 --> 0:11:02.600 the things, I'm actually my time is a lot better off. 0:11:02.840 --> 0:11:05.360 Just sometimes being like stuck stuck in my office is 0:11:05.440 --> 0:11:08.840 like getting work done. I think I went on a 0:11:08.880 --> 0:11:13.200 tangent just then. I'm sorry, but you know, I don't 0:11:13.200 --> 0:11:14.360 know what I was just saying. I just went on 0:11:14.400 --> 0:11:17.920 a full tangent. Okay, Stephanie, back to what you're talking about. 0:11:18.160 --> 0:11:20.240 But yes, so I've been better at the gym, back 0:11:20.240 --> 0:11:23.240 into my routine, and then eating enough protein again because 0:11:23.880 --> 0:11:26.360 apparently protein and water is a little bit important for 0:11:26.440 --> 0:11:30.400 our body and like in turn, like sometimes your winds 0:11:30.480 --> 0:11:33.720 can also be a lesson. So for me, after years 0:11:33.720 --> 0:11:35.760 of burning out, I finally accepted that I can't be 0:11:35.840 --> 0:11:38.320 everything to everyone all the time, not at work and 0:11:38.360 --> 0:11:41.120 not at home. So now instead of telling myself I'll 0:11:41.160 --> 0:11:43.760 do X, Y Z, I'll just say I'm going to 0:11:43.760 --> 0:11:46.720 do X and Y and that's a win. Now, the 0:11:46.760 --> 0:11:49.200 next question is did I set any boundaries with others 0:11:49.200 --> 0:11:53.360 and myself? Now? Mine is also knowing when to stop working. 0:11:53.440 --> 0:11:56.400 I know that sounds lame, but when I plan for 0:11:56.440 --> 0:12:00.000 my work data end, it ends. Have I been doing that? No? 0:12:00.200 --> 0:12:02.320 Except look, look, I am on a break, so I 0:12:02.320 --> 0:12:04.600 feel like I should get a bit of a little 0:12:04.640 --> 0:12:08.560 pat on the back. But you know, my boundaries is 0:12:08.559 --> 0:12:10.760 a big one, and it's not even with other people. 0:12:10.800 --> 0:12:14.080 For me, it's with myself because again that perfectionism comes 0:12:14.080 --> 0:12:18.120 into play, So you know, really just looking back for 0:12:18.240 --> 0:12:22.319 me on the last six months, seeing what boundaries I've 0:12:22.320 --> 0:12:26.000 said in place, and I think for me and I 0:12:26.040 --> 0:12:29.079 know I've read on my review for this midyear reset, 0:12:29.200 --> 0:12:32.160 and I did write about how I need to kind 0:12:32.200 --> 0:12:34.800 of parent myself. I say that a lot in content, 0:12:34.880 --> 0:12:37.640 like how I need to parent myself, like setting up 0:12:37.720 --> 0:12:41.760 my screen time apps, all that type of thing. Even 0:12:41.840 --> 0:12:44.640 like with my supplements, I literally label them so a 0:12:44.679 --> 0:12:48.640 five year old could take the supplements because I, you know, 0:12:48.720 --> 0:12:51.400 all the little micro decisions and the extra effort to like, 0:12:51.520 --> 0:12:53.800 you know, picking up the bottle and reading all the instructions. 0:12:53.880 --> 0:12:57.480 So I just got a label printer and I just printed, 0:12:57.600 --> 0:13:00.640 like take me after breakfast, take me up to lunch. 0:13:00.880 --> 0:13:03.920 So doing things like that and just setting the boundaries 0:13:03.960 --> 0:13:06.480 with myself is a big key for me for the 0:13:06.480 --> 0:13:09.880 next half of the year. Now, the next question is 0:13:10.040 --> 0:13:12.559 which areas of your life feel best right now? Now. 0:13:12.559 --> 0:13:14.319 It doesn't have to be amazing, like I would love 0:13:14.400 --> 0:13:16.320 you guys to be out there thriving and living your 0:13:16.320 --> 0:13:21.320 best life, but like feeling content also counts. Progression counts, 0:13:21.440 --> 0:13:24.080 and there's no finish line with this stuff. And I 0:13:24.120 --> 0:13:26.920 think we very much get stuck into the mindset of 0:13:26.920 --> 0:13:29.400 like when I get to X, I'll feel happy. When 0:13:29.440 --> 0:13:32.240 I get that job, I'll feel happy, and it just 0:13:32.280 --> 0:13:34.680 it's not the reality of it. Like a great example 0:13:34.760 --> 0:13:36.960 of this for me is I thought, when we moved 0:13:36.960 --> 0:13:41.120 into this house, I had this expectation and I thought, 0:13:41.160 --> 0:13:42.679 you know, when I'm in this house, I want to 0:13:42.720 --> 0:13:45.080 feel X, Y Z, and i'd have everything set up. 0:13:45.200 --> 0:13:48.920 But as you guys know, like you know, we moved 0:13:48.920 --> 0:13:51.360 into an unfinished house, and I want to be honest, 0:13:51.440 --> 0:13:53.240 it's a money thing, like you can't finish at all, 0:13:53.280 --> 0:13:56.880 and that's okay, But you know, I just need to 0:13:57.000 --> 0:14:00.520 learn that like I can't, I can still be happy 0:14:00.559 --> 0:14:04.920 with things not finished, I can still be happy amongst 0:14:05.000 --> 0:14:06.800 the mess of life. And if you've ever heard me 0:14:06.800 --> 0:14:09.160 talk about decluttering, I always say, like, I don't want 0:14:09.160 --> 0:14:10.599 you to think of the whole house. I want you 0:14:10.640 --> 0:14:13.600 to think of that draw that covered that bench, and 0:14:13.640 --> 0:14:16.440 that relates to me in this circumstance. But also for 0:14:16.520 --> 0:14:18.960 you guys, like you know, I don't want you to 0:14:18.960 --> 0:14:21.360 think about overhauling your whole life. I want you to 0:14:21.360 --> 0:14:24.440 think about going for that one book every morning. I 0:14:24.440 --> 0:14:27.200 want you to think about reading, you know, five pages 0:14:27.240 --> 0:14:30.800 of a book every evening, just tiny little bite sized chunks. 0:14:31.440 --> 0:14:33.080 And that's where you are going to be able to 0:14:33.120 --> 0:14:35.960 feel your best in certain areas of life, because you're not, 0:14:36.560 --> 0:14:40.480 you know, just striving to be a perfectionist with everything. 0:14:41.080 --> 0:14:42.720 And this is where I'm going to go into lowering 0:14:42.760 --> 0:14:45.000 the bar. And you need to lower your bar a 0:14:45.000 --> 0:14:47.360 little bit and also lower your expectations a little bit. 0:14:47.360 --> 0:14:50.600 And I know we see, like you'll be scrolling TikTok 0:14:50.760 --> 0:14:52.920 or something and you hear those bros and they're like, 0:14:53.080 --> 0:14:54.880 you know, I woke up at six am and I 0:14:54.960 --> 0:14:58.320 ten x life, like I've already lived three years this 0:14:58.400 --> 0:15:00.400 morning and I've done this, that and the other. You're like, 0:15:01.520 --> 0:15:04.080 this doesn't sound very fun. That doesn't sound very fun 0:15:04.120 --> 0:15:06.560 to me, James. I think you need to settle down 0:15:06.560 --> 0:15:10.440 a little bit, mate. And this also really ties into 0:15:10.480 --> 0:15:14.560 the next question, which is how much fun did you have? 0:15:14.960 --> 0:15:17.360 So how much fun in the last six months have 0:15:17.480 --> 0:15:20.960 you had? You know, as adults, we only do things 0:15:21.000 --> 0:15:23.400 that produce a certain outcome, more money, clean a house, 0:15:23.440 --> 0:15:25.480 fitter body. You guys, hear me say that all the time. 0:15:25.960 --> 0:15:29.520 But we don't do things for fun. Anymore, and you know, 0:15:29.640 --> 0:15:32.960 when the fun stops, life does start feeling flat, it 0:15:33.040 --> 0:15:35.880 starts feeling like groundhog Day. And I did hear this. 0:15:36.280 --> 0:15:38.000 I think it was a study or something done. I 0:15:38.040 --> 0:15:40.720 probably should have looked into this first, but they said 0:15:41.360 --> 0:15:45.400 apparently when humans continue to try new things, it does, 0:15:46.040 --> 0:15:48.840 like obviously bring you fulfillment, but it does make time 0:15:48.960 --> 0:15:51.880 slow down because you are experiencing things for the first 0:15:51.880 --> 0:15:54.760 time again. And also that comes with fun as well. 0:15:55.280 --> 0:15:57.200 You know, you're living in the moment. And I really 0:15:57.200 --> 0:16:02.000 do believe as kids, obviously, and it's relative to how 0:16:02.000 --> 0:16:04.640 many years you've been on the planet, but as kids, 0:16:04.640 --> 0:16:07.360 you've always felt like time went pretty slow. And I 0:16:07.360 --> 0:16:09.480 do feel like it's because it's the only time in 0:16:09.520 --> 0:16:12.240 our lives that we're truly present. We're not thinking about 0:16:12.640 --> 0:16:14.480 I have to do X y Z, We're not thinking 0:16:14.480 --> 0:16:16.880 about the bills. We're always living in the future as 0:16:16.880 --> 0:16:20.800 an adult. And I'm really bad for this because obviously anxiety, 0:16:20.880 --> 0:16:24.240 but I think the more we can have fun, which 0:16:24.240 --> 0:16:26.440 will pull us into our body and help us be present, 0:16:26.840 --> 0:16:29.240 that's going to really help us, you know, slow down 0:16:29.320 --> 0:16:31.960 time and also help us have that fun. It's like, 0:16:32.040 --> 0:16:33.840 you know, for example, like when you book a holiday 0:16:33.840 --> 0:16:36.760 and you get that buzz weeks before you go, that's 0:16:36.800 --> 0:16:39.040 because you've booked in the fun. So imagine if you 0:16:39.120 --> 0:16:42.520 book in fun every single week, and imagine that energy 0:16:42.520 --> 0:16:44.520 you would be able to walk around with. So now 0:16:44.560 --> 0:16:47.320 the last question is how much downtime did you get? 0:16:47.960 --> 0:16:50.240 Or are you someone who sees like a spare hour 0:16:50.320 --> 0:16:53.440 and you immediately fill it with tomorrow's jobs? You know 0:16:53.520 --> 0:16:56.320 what about we just sit our asses down and don't 0:16:56.320 --> 0:16:58.320 do it. And I know I meant to be like 0:16:58.360 --> 0:17:01.560 a productivity girl, but I'm also all about being a 0:17:01.600 --> 0:17:04.560 human and humans do burn out, all right. So now 0:17:04.560 --> 0:17:07.800 we're going to be moving on to your life audit. Now, look, 0:17:07.840 --> 0:17:12.359 this sounds terrifying, but I promise you it's not. You 0:17:12.440 --> 0:17:14.880 might have seen the Will of Life before online. It's 0:17:14.920 --> 0:17:17.760 like a circle and has all these different categories and 0:17:17.840 --> 0:17:20.320 you color it in and you kind of color it 0:17:20.359 --> 0:17:23.320 into how fulfilling that error of your life is. And 0:17:23.359 --> 0:17:25.439 we're not doing that. That's too much. So we're doing 0:17:25.520 --> 0:17:28.480 the easy version. So you need to pick six areas 0:17:28.480 --> 0:17:30.680 of your life. So some of these are up to you, 0:17:30.760 --> 0:17:33.840 so your career, study, home, life, finance. But then there's 0:17:33.840 --> 0:17:36.600 some that are non negotiable because well you're a human, 0:17:36.760 --> 0:17:40.800 so some non negotiable categories in this is your personal growth, 0:17:40.840 --> 0:17:43.439 so the time you spend on yourself and learning, your 0:17:43.480 --> 0:17:46.680 mental health, your physical health, fun and hobbies, which yes, 0:17:46.760 --> 0:17:49.760 these are non negotiable because we've already covered this because 0:17:49.760 --> 0:17:53.080 those adults, we suck at fun and relationships, so family, 0:17:53.119 --> 0:17:56.080 friends or both. Now I want you to rate each 0:17:56.160 --> 0:17:59.399 one from one to five. Now, the traditional will does 0:17:59.480 --> 0:18:01.520 one to ten, but that's too many options for my 0:18:01.600 --> 0:18:05.560 brain and it hurts. So one means this area feels 0:18:05.600 --> 0:18:09.000 empty or draining, and five means it feels good. So 0:18:09.040 --> 0:18:12.320 you're progressing your content. Again, five doesn't have to be 0:18:12.440 --> 0:18:16.440 amazing because it's not really realistic. Let's be honest. Now, 0:18:16.520 --> 0:18:19.520 moving on to the next part, and this is our 0:18:19.520 --> 0:18:22.600 little habits audit. Now I have this in my planners 0:18:22.920 --> 0:18:25.000 and this is a process I like to do every month. 0:18:25.040 --> 0:18:27.840 But it's habits that you start, stop and stick with. 0:18:28.040 --> 0:18:31.160 So I love this process because we're obviously looking into 0:18:31.160 --> 0:18:34.240 habits that we should start and stop, but also you're 0:18:34.240 --> 0:18:36.240 looking at habits that you want to stick with, So 0:18:36.359 --> 0:18:38.440 things that you're already doing well that you're like, cool, 0:18:38.480 --> 0:18:41.000 I want to keep doing that. Now you can do 0:18:41.040 --> 0:18:43.440 this in like three columns. Again, you can use the workbook. 0:18:43.520 --> 0:18:46.760 But this is a really good audit and just like 0:18:46.960 --> 0:18:50.119 looking at these little habits day to day that maybe 0:18:50.160 --> 0:18:53.960 you might not have noticed before. Now. So for me, 0:18:54.600 --> 0:18:57.520 habits I need to start. Is my big one right 0:18:57.520 --> 0:19:00.240 now is my bedtime. My sleep cycle is not great 0:19:00.320 --> 0:19:02.439 right now, I think because I'm also on my break 0:19:02.960 --> 0:19:05.040 and I want to be honest with you. After I 0:19:05.080 --> 0:19:07.800 finished writing the book, obviously my whole like everything was 0:19:07.880 --> 0:19:09.919 just the book. Like I literally was just writing like 0:19:10.000 --> 0:19:13.200 fourteen to sixteen hours a day, which is crazy. But 0:19:13.280 --> 0:19:15.160 before that, as you guys know, I had a really 0:19:15.200 --> 0:19:17.760 strict kind of like bedtime routine. I was really strict 0:19:17.800 --> 0:19:19.840