Speaker 1: If your mornings and nights are shit, the middle of
Speaker 1: your day is going to be a disaster. Like is
Speaker 1: it the mornings, because like, the lunches aren't made, the
Speaker 1: bags aren't packed. You've woken up to kids screaming in
Speaker 1: your face because they want chocolate for breakfast, and there's
Speaker 1: peanut butter on the dog? How is it bloody July?
Speaker 1: Like can we just pause for a second, please? I
Speaker 1: actually think it's a little bit rude, Like I just
Speaker 1: need a minute just to catch my breath and catch
Speaker 1: up with life. But chances are, if you're listening to
Speaker 1: this episode, you're feeling really overwhelmed right now, and you're
Speaker 1: probably feeling like you have to live up to some
Speaker 1: expectation that you set yourself back in January. And the
Speaker 1: other reason that you're probably here is because you're a
Speaker 1: bloody hot mess like me. Welcome, You're in the right place.
Speaker 1: We have shirts now. I'm aware that there are a
Speaker 1: million media researts out there, and they're all so intense,
Speaker 1: and if anything like me and have ADHD, you tend
Speaker 1: to do step one and then you bail, and then
Speaker 1: you tend to revert back, and then your whole life
Speaker 1: turns into a mess two seconds. So I've broken this
Speaker 1: whole mid year reset down into something that's really doable.
Speaker 1: We know, I love that word digestible, and I've done
Speaker 1: the heavy lifting for you. I've really like spent years
Speaker 1: researching all the things and frameworks and actual doable steps
Speaker 1: that can honestly just reset not only our mindset and
Speaker 1: get a set back up for our goals for the
Speaker 1: rest of the year, but also like literally just zoom
Speaker 1: out and look at all the areas of our life,
Speaker 1: like I want to be taking you through audits everything
Speaker 1: like that. And I know when you hear the word
Speaker 1: order it sounds terrifying, but I promise you it's not.
Speaker 1: But this is the episode where you're going to stop
Speaker 1: being an arsehole to yourself. You're going to stop putting
Speaker 1: yourself down and stop putting yourself on that bloody train
Speaker 1: wreck to Expectation Town because the train doesn't stop and
Speaker 1: you're going to end up burnt out feeling like you're
Speaker 1: inadequate when you're not. So in this episode, we're doing
Speaker 1: a proper mid year reset, but the messy minds version.
Speaker 1: So I like with this, you guys can be listening
Speaker 1: along at home, like you don't have to. Like in
Speaker 1: this episode, I'm going to be giving you a full
Speaker 1: work book. I'm giving you As I said, I've done
Speaker 1: the heavy lifting for you. But if you're just going
Speaker 1: on a walk or in the car, you can do
Speaker 1: this as you listen, Like, you don't have to grab
Speaker 1: your notebook out, you can just do it as we
Speaker 1: go through it step by step. Now, this is a
Speaker 1: media review, a life audit, and a quick time audit
Speaker 1: as well, and we're going to be checking in with
Speaker 1: your goals and resetting them for the next quarter and
Speaker 1: fixing up your routine. I'm also going to be giving
Speaker 1: you the three days to schedule into this month to
Speaker 1: reset for the rest of the year. And if you've
Speaker 1: been here since the season opener, yes, the Potato Day
Speaker 1: is back. Now this is the three day reset routine
Speaker 1: that honestly just makes me feel like I've completely hit
Speaker 1: the reset button on my life. And it's not overwhelming,
Speaker 1: but it's really really going to help. Now. Fair warning,
Speaker 1: one of these review questions that I'm be getting into
Speaker 1: in the first step is going to sting a little
Speaker 1: bit and you'll know when we get to it. But
Speaker 1: stick around because I've actually turned this whole reset into
Speaker 1: a free work book and it will take you through
Speaker 1: this step by step and I'll tell you how to
Speaker 1: grab it at the end, or you could just check
Speaker 1: the show notes. Let's be honest, but before we get
Speaker 1: into our life changing midyear reset, a bit of a
Speaker 1: life update. Now. I'm actually on a break at the moment, Like,
Speaker 1: I'm on a work break, and if you know me, like,
Speaker 1: I'm very passionate about what I do, and I wear
Speaker 1: many hats and I do many things. But luckily I've
Speaker 1: got an incredible team at SPP and they also wear
Speaker 1: many hats as well. But yeah, like I want to
Speaker 1: be completely honest. I went to therapy and my therapist
Speaker 1: was like, Steph, I think you need a break. Oh
Speaker 1: you're going to break, And I was like, yeah, fair points.
Speaker 1: So here I am. I've actually had a couple weeks
Speaker 1: off already and it's been like smack bang in the
Speaker 1: middle of the school holidays, which is also good. But
Speaker 1: I want to be totally honest with you and say
Speaker 1: it's still holidays. So I think you guys know what
Speaker 1: I'm trying to put down. But I'm actually headed off
Speaker 1: tomorrow to a health retreat with my friend Lauren, and
Speaker 1: I'm really really excited. This is the same health retreat
Speaker 1: I wrote about in my book. It's the same health
Speaker 1: retreat I go to. I try to go to once
Speaker 1: a year because you just go off the grid. If
Speaker 1: you have no reception, you do whatever you want. Like
Speaker 1: you can do craft, you can do like the fitness stuff,
Speaker 1: you can do the mindfulness stuff, or you can do
Speaker 1: a mix. But I'm really really excited, and I think sometimes,
Speaker 1: you know, like I felt like it's a good time
Speaker 1: for me to like connect with you know, Lauren, my friend,
Speaker 1: and then also my therapist telling me I need to
Speaker 1: like kind of chill a little bit. And you might
Speaker 1: be wondering, well, Steph, you're on a break. Why you
Speaker 1: were recording a podcast. Well that's because sometimes you still
Speaker 1: have to do the things. And I'm not gonna leave
Speaker 1: you guys hanging for a couple of weeks while I'm
Speaker 1: running around in the mountains without my phone. And you
Speaker 1: might have noticed I've been recorded the podcast at home,
Speaker 1: but I am back to Nova after the next episode, which,
Speaker 1: oh my god, you guys are going to love next
Speaker 1: week's episode. It's more of like a I want to say,
Speaker 1: bite size, but knowing me, it's still going to be
Speaker 1: normal length, but it's going to be my top home hacks,
Speaker 1: So you're going to want to listen to that one
Speaker 1: next week. And it's kind of funny, like the start
Speaker 1: of this break that I'm on, I kind of had
Speaker 1: this idea of what it was going to look like,
Speaker 1: and the thing's always going to do. Like I was
Speaker 1: going to go to sauna's, I was going to make
Speaker 1: sure I start watching TV because if you guys follow me,
Speaker 1: you know I'm terrible watching television. Not because I'm better
Speaker 1: than anyone, It's just because I physically can't sit still
Speaker 1: in focus and I'm terrible. And just like I guess
Speaker 1: that mind frame that I was in at the start
Speaker 1: of the breaks the same as when you start off,
Speaker 1: you know, a new year. You know, just because you're
Speaker 1: halfway through the year doesn't mean you have to become
Speaker 1: the best version of yourself, Like you don't have to
Speaker 1: do the whole new month. Knew me none of that shit,
Speaker 1: And it's the same with me on my break right now.
Speaker 1: And look, I haven't done a sauna once. I haven't
Speaker 1: watched one episode of anything. And it's just really important
Speaker 1: to remember that this whole reset, and we're not chasing
Speaker 1: the best version of you. We're chasing the happiest version
Speaker 1: of you and whatever that looks like. And sometimes the
Speaker 1: happiest version of you isn't about saying yes to more.
Speaker 1: It's about saying no to more and setting boundaries, which
Speaker 1: I do need to learn to do that myself. And
Speaker 1: here's the thing you'll probably find when we get to
Speaker 1: the goals part of this reset process. The goals that
Speaker 1: you set back in January might not even be relevant anymore.
Speaker 1: Shit's changed and you've changed, and that's not a failure.
Speaker 1: That is exactly why we need to do a mid
Speaker 1: year reset, because it makes no sense for you to
Speaker 1: still be slogging it out towards a goal that you
Speaker 1: don't even really want to do anymore, you don't even
Speaker 1: like anymore. So it's okay to pivot with purpose, all right.
Speaker 1: So step one of our mid year reset is, of course,
Speaker 1: the review. Now, before you can move forward in anything
Speaker 1: that you do, you need to look in the rearview mirror.
Speaker 1: You need to see, Okay, what's not working? What have
Speaker 1: you been doing? Where have we kind of got stuck
Speaker 1: into some potholes along the way And we need to
Speaker 1: learn from our past, even when it stings. Now I
Speaker 1: do this in my journal morning and night because my
Speaker 1: brain is crazy, so like I will literally just you know, say,
Speaker 1: you know, some people think journaling has to be like
Speaker 1: a set way, and I should actually do a whole
Speaker 1: episode on journaling because I think there's a massive stigma
Speaker 1: attached to it and people think it has to be
Speaker 1: perfect or has to be really long winded. But if
Speaker 1: you actually saw my journal, you probably wouldn't even be
Speaker 1: able to read it, which is probably a good thing,
Speaker 1: but you need to be able to just like it's
Speaker 1: about just getting it out of your head, and it
Speaker 1: can be messy. It doesn't even have to make sense,
Speaker 1: like you don't have to use the words and like
Speaker 1: you don't have to have any grammar. It can just
Speaker 1: not really make sense to other people. Now, when I
Speaker 1: read back at my January reflections, I feel like a
Speaker 1: totally different person. And that's also the point of this,
Speaker 1: because whilst it's important for us to use this review
Speaker 1: to obviously, you know, maybe not keep reating the same
Speaker 1: mistakes and seeing where we could go better, but it's
Speaker 1: also important for us to see how much we've grown,
Speaker 1: because growth is very slow, and sometimes you don't even
Speaker 1: notice it. Most of the time we don't even notice it.
Speaker 1: And that's another reason why I love to keep my
Speaker 1: old planners, because our planner is like our diary is
Speaker 1: the best snapshot of our day to day life. So
Speaker 1: when I look back at an old diary, old planner,
Speaker 1: it really shows me my day to day life back then.
Speaker 1: And when I look back at even last year or
Speaker 1: the year before, it shows me how much I've grown
Speaker 1: and changed and how much my environment has changed for
Speaker 1: the better as well. And then also there can be
Speaker 1: parts to show you, oh, I've dropped this habit or
Speaker 1: that habit. So that's why I love like. I feel
Speaker 1: like planners are such a keepsake and I love it
Speaker 1: for that reason. Now here are the questions for your review.
Speaker 1: Now again this is all. I want to pop these
Speaker 1: in the show notes as well for you guys, just
Speaker 1: because it's easier, but it will also be in your workbook. Now,
Speaker 1: what are three lessons you've learned this year so far?
Speaker 1: Usually the tough ones are the best ones. So for me,
Speaker 1: this one always comes up that I tend to use
Speaker 1: like perfection as self sabotage because with me and I've
Speaker 1: talked about this before, but we always attach an emotion
Speaker 1: to certain tasks, and I do that a lot with
Speaker 1: sometimes with work, especially when it comes to content, and
Speaker 1: I do get in my own way, so sometimes and
Speaker 1: even in business, for me, like a lot of the
Speaker 1: lessons I learn is that sometimes you can't do all
Speaker 1: the things, and there is going to be people better
Speaker 1: at certain tasks than you that you need a handover.
Speaker 1: And that also comes down to, you know, being a
Speaker 1: mom at home, and that like you need, we need
Speaker 1: to be able to allocate tasks to other people because
Speaker 1: you simply can't be everything to everyone all the time.
Speaker 1: So now we've done your top three lessons, and now
Speaker 1: we're going to do your top three wins. And we
Speaker 1: never actually stop to acknowledge these. So for me, a
Speaker 1: win for me this year so far is getting back
Speaker 1: into my habits that I fell out of while I
Speaker 1: was writing my book. I was writing my book, I
Speaker 1: lived on Indian food like I was again, I was
Speaker 1: eighty percent butter chicken, and I wasn't like eating well
Speaker 1: for my body. I was just kind of like, I
Speaker 1: don't remember what I was doing, and I wasn't at
Speaker 1: the gym and look it was fair. I was writing
Speaker 1: a book like that was wild. But the gym for
Speaker 1: me has always been my consistent and it's been like
Speaker 1: the only reason I've honestly stuck to the gym for
Speaker 1: so long, for the last what fifteen years, is because
Speaker 1: it helps my anxiety so very much. It makes me
Speaker 1: so much more patient with the girls. And I'm not
Speaker 1: a very nice person unless I go to the gym,
Speaker 1: I'll be honest. So I've gotten back into the gym
Speaker 1: and it's been amazing, And it's just been good because
Speaker 1: for me too, because I work from home a lot,
Speaker 1: and you know, I've got the team at the warehouse,
Speaker 1: but I'm really bad at focusing. So I used to
Speaker 1: be like, like a long time ago, I used to
Speaker 1: be the warehouse five days a week and I just
Speaker 1: couldn't get my things done. And then as the team
Speaker 1: grows and I don't have to physically be packing all
Speaker 1: the orders and like stepping in everywhere and doing all
Speaker 1: the things, I'm actually my time is a lot better off.
Speaker 1: Just sometimes being like stuck stuck in my office is
Speaker 1: like getting work done. I think I went on a
Speaker 1: tangent just then. I'm sorry, but you know, I don't
Speaker 1: know what I was just saying. I just went on
Speaker 1: a full tangent. Okay, Stephanie, back to what you're talking about.
Speaker 1: But yes, so I've been better at the gym, back
Speaker 1: into my routine, and then eating enough protein again because
Speaker 1: apparently protein and water is a little bit important for
Speaker 1: our body and like in turn, like sometimes your winds
Speaker 1: can also be a lesson. So for me, after years
Speaker 1: of burning out, I finally accepted that I can't be
Speaker 1: everything to everyone all the time, not at work and
Speaker 1: not at home. So now instead of telling myself I'll
Speaker 1: do X, Y Z, I'll just say I'm going to
Speaker 1: do X and Y and that's a win. Now, the
Speaker 1: next question is did I set any boundaries with others
Speaker 1: and myself? Now? Mine is also knowing when to stop working.
Speaker 1: I know that sounds lame, but when I plan for
Speaker 1: my work data end, it ends. Have I been doing that? No?
Speaker 1: Except look, look, I am on a break, so I
Speaker 1: feel like I should get a bit of a little
Speaker 1: pat on the back. But you know, my boundaries is
Speaker 1: a big one, and it's not even with other people.
Speaker 1: For me, it's with myself because again that perfectionism comes
Speaker 1: into play, So you know, really just looking back for
Speaker 1: me on the last six months, seeing what boundaries I've
Speaker 1: said in place, and I think for me and I
Speaker 1: know I've read on my review for this midyear reset,
Speaker 1: and I did write about how I need to kind
Speaker 1: of parent myself. I say that a lot in content,
Speaker 1: like how I need to parent myself, like setting up
Speaker 1: my screen time apps, all that type of thing. Even
Speaker 1: like with my supplements, I literally label them so a
Speaker 1: five year old could take the supplements because I, you know,
Speaker 1: all the little micro decisions and the extra effort to like,
Speaker 1: you know, picking up the bottle and reading all the instructions.
Speaker 1: So I just got a label printer and I just printed,
Speaker 1: like take me after breakfast, take me up to lunch.
Speaker 1: So doing things like that and just setting the boundaries
Speaker 1: with myself is a big key for me for the
Speaker 1: next half of the year. Now, the next question is
Speaker 1: which areas of your life feel best right now? Now.
Speaker 1: It doesn't have to be amazing, like I would love
Speaker 1: you guys to be out there thriving and living your
Speaker 1: best life, but like feeling content also counts. Progression counts,
Speaker 1: and there's no finish line with this stuff. And I
Speaker 1: think we very much get stuck into the mindset of
Speaker 1: like when I get to X, I'll feel happy. When
Speaker 1: I get that job, I'll feel happy, and it just
Speaker 1: it's not the reality of it. Like a great example
Speaker 1: of this for me is I thought, when we moved
Speaker 1: into this house, I had this expectation and I thought,
Speaker 1: you know, when I'm in this house, I want to
Speaker 1: feel X, Y Z, and i'd have everything set up.
Speaker 1: But as you guys know, like you know, we moved
Speaker 1: into an unfinished house, and I want to be honest,
Speaker 1: it's a money thing, like you can't finish at all,
Speaker 1: and that's okay, But you know, I just need to
Speaker 1: learn that like I can't, I can still be happy
Speaker 1: with things not finished, I can still be happy amongst
Speaker 1: the mess of life. And if you've ever heard me
Speaker 1: talk about decluttering, I always say, like, I don't want
Speaker 1: you to think of the whole house. I want you
Speaker 1: to think of that draw that covered that bench, and
Speaker 1: that relates to me in this circumstance. But also for
Speaker 1: you guys, like you know, I don't want you to
Speaker 1: think about overhauling your whole life. I want you to
Speaker 1: think about going for that one book every morning. I
Speaker 1: want you to think about reading, you know, five pages
Speaker 1: of a book every evening, just tiny little bite sized chunks.
Speaker 1: And that's where you are going to be able to
Speaker 1: feel your best in certain areas of life, because you're not,
Speaker 1: you know, just striving to be a perfectionist with everything.
Speaker 1: And this is where I'm going to go into lowering
Speaker 1: the bar. And you need to lower your bar a
Speaker 1: little bit and also lower your expectations a little bit.
Speaker 1: And I know we see, like you'll be scrolling TikTok
Speaker 1: or something and you hear those bros and they're like,
Speaker 1: you know, I woke up at six am and I
Speaker 1: ten x life, like I've already lived three years this
Speaker 1: morning and I've done this, that and the other. You're like,
Speaker 1: this doesn't sound very fun. That doesn't sound very fun
Speaker 1: to me, James. I think you need to settle down
Speaker 1: a little bit, mate. And this also really ties into
Speaker 1: the next question, which is how much fun did you have?
Speaker 1: So how much fun in the last six months have
Speaker 1: you had? You know, as adults, we only do things
Speaker 1: that produce a certain outcome, more money, clean a house,
Speaker 1: fitter body. You guys, hear me say that all the time.
Speaker 1: But we don't do things for fun. Anymore, and you know,
Speaker 1: when the fun stops, life does start feeling flat, it
Speaker 1: starts feeling like groundhog Day. And I did hear this.
Speaker 1: I think it was a study or something done. I
Speaker 1: probably should have looked into this first, but they said
Speaker 1: apparently when humans continue to try new things, it does,
Speaker 1: like obviously bring you fulfillment, but it does make time
Speaker 1: slow down because you are experiencing things for the first
Speaker 1: time again. And also that comes with fun as well.
Speaker 1: You know, you're living in the moment. And I really
Speaker 1: do believe as kids, obviously, and it's relative to how
Speaker 1: many years you've been on the planet, but as kids,
Speaker 1: you've always felt like time went pretty slow. And I
Speaker 1: do feel like it's because it's the only time in
Speaker 1: our lives that we're truly present. We're not thinking about
Speaker 1: I have to do X y Z, We're not thinking
Speaker 1: about the bills. We're always living in the future as
Speaker 1: an adult. And I'm really bad for this because obviously anxiety,
Speaker 1: but I think the more we can have fun, which
Speaker 1: will pull us into our body and help us be present,
Speaker 1: that's going to really help us, you know, slow down
Speaker 1: time and also help us have that fun. It's like,
Speaker 1: you know, for example, like when you book a holiday
Speaker 1: and you get that buzz weeks before you go, that's
Speaker 1: because you've booked in the fun. So imagine if you
Speaker 1: book in fun every single week, and imagine that energy
Speaker 1: you would be able to walk around with. So now
Speaker 1: the last question is how much downtime did you get?
Speaker 1: Or are you someone who sees like a spare hour
Speaker 1: and you immediately fill it with tomorrow's jobs? You know
Speaker 1: what about we just sit our asses down and don't
Speaker 1: do it. And I know I meant to be like
Speaker 1: a productivity girl, but I'm also all about being a
Speaker 1: human and humans do burn out, all right. So now
Speaker 1: we're going to be moving on to your life audit. Now, look,
Speaker 1: this sounds terrifying, but I promise you it's not. You
Speaker 1: might have seen the Will of Life before online. It's
Speaker 1: like a circle and has all these different categories and
Speaker 1: you color it in and you kind of color it
Speaker 1: into how fulfilling that error of your life is. And
Speaker 1: we're not doing that. That's too much. So we're doing
Speaker 1: the easy version. So you need to pick six areas
Speaker 1: of your life. So some of these are up to you,
Speaker 1: so your career, study, home, life, finance. But then there's
Speaker 1: some that are non negotiable because well you're a human,
Speaker 1: so some non negotiable categories in this is your personal growth,
Speaker 1: so the time you spend on yourself and learning, your
Speaker 1: mental health, your physical health, fun and hobbies, which yes,
Speaker 1: these are non negotiable because we've already covered this because
Speaker 1: those adults, we suck at fun and relationships, so family,
Speaker 1: friends or both. Now I want you to rate each
Speaker 1: one from one to five. Now, the traditional will does
Speaker 1: one to ten, but that's too many options for my
Speaker 1: brain and it hurts. So one means this area feels
Speaker 1: empty or draining, and five means it feels good. So
Speaker 1: you're progressing your content. Again, five doesn't have to be
Speaker 1: amazing because it's not really realistic. Let's be honest. Now,
Speaker 1: moving on to the next part, and this is our
Speaker 1: little habits audit. Now I have this in my planners
Speaker 1: and this is a process I like to do every month.
Speaker 1: But it's habits that you start, stop and stick with.
Speaker 1: So I love this process because we're obviously looking into
Speaker 1: habits that we should start and stop, but also you're
Speaker 1: looking at habits that you want to stick with, So
Speaker 1: things that you're already doing well that you're like, cool,
Speaker 1: I want to keep doing that. Now you can do
Speaker 1: this in like three columns. Again, you can use the workbook.
Speaker 1: But this is a really good audit and just like
Speaker 1: looking at these little habits day to day that maybe
Speaker 1: you might not have noticed before. Now. So for me,
Speaker 1: habits I need to start. Is my big one right
Speaker 1: now is my bedtime. My sleep cycle is not great
Speaker 1: right now, I think because I'm also on my break
Speaker 1: and I want to be honest with you. After I
Speaker 1: finished writing the book, obviously my whole like everything was
Speaker 1: just the book. Like I literally was just writing like
Speaker 1: fourteen to sixteen hours a day, which is crazy. But
Speaker 1: before that, as you guys know, I had a really
Speaker 1: strict kind of like bedtime routine. I was really strict
Speaker 1: with my phone and my phone would like block me
Speaker 1: out after nine pm. Well you bet. Soon as I
Speaker 1: submitted that manuscript, I was scrolling into the hours of
Speaker 1: the night because I was like, you know what this
Speaker 1: is for me, I'm going to be doing this and
Speaker 1: has she stopped? No she hasn't. So for me, habits
Speaker 1: I needed to stop. Is that? So setting up my
Speaker 1: screen time block offs again, actually charging my phone away
Speaker 1: from my bed that is a big one for me
Speaker 1: because if you bet, like if it's on my bedside table,
Speaker 1: I want to be getting into that phone. Habits for
Speaker 1: me to start is using my sunrise alarm clock, which
Speaker 1: I actually right and I lost it at an airbnb
Speaker 1: ages ago, but I finally bought a new one. I've
Speaker 1: got my sunrise alarm clocks. I want to set that up.
Speaker 1: Other habits I want to start is getting back into reading. Guys,
Speaker 1: I haven't read since I wrote my book, so I
Speaker 1: keep saying that, but it's true, like I need to
Speaker 1: get back into reading. And I love my books and
Speaker 1: I used to read like four books a month at least,
Speaker 1: but I just haven't ages and that's something i'd love
Speaker 1: to start. And habits I'd like to stick with is,
Speaker 1: you know, sticking to my protein goals, going to the gym.
Speaker 1: I've been good with my supplements. I simplified my skin
Speaker 1: care routine. Now my skin's good like those types of things.
Speaker 1: And this is the last question for this review as well.
Speaker 1: So you've done your habits review. We've done We've looked
Speaker 1: at like how much fun you've had, we looked at
Speaker 1: our lessons and our wins. So now we've got the
Speaker 1: foundations of our reset, we've got our review, and then
Speaker 1: we've also audited our life categories and from that we're
Speaker 1: going to be doing the stop, start, and stick with.
Speaker 1: Now this is a little thing I created like a
Speaker 1: couple of years ago. Now for every category, we're doing
Speaker 1: four things, stop, start, and stick with. It's a tongue twister,
Speaker 1: but it's like putting a magnifying glass. Your habits now
Speaker 1: is stop. That's the thing that's draining you. So for
Speaker 1: my mental health, stop filling every scrap of spare time
Speaker 1: with work. And now the start is what you want
Speaker 1: in its place, So start using that time to read,
Speaker 1: to paint, whatever fills your cut back up. And then
Speaker 1: for this under the start you can also write a step.
Speaker 1: So this is the actual action that makes the start happen.
Speaker 1: So for this one, order the books, by the paint,
Speaker 1: schedule the rest into your planner. And that's the part
Speaker 1: that everyone skips. So it's all well and good to
Speaker 1: say I want to start hitting ak steps a day,
Speaker 1: but how are you actually going to do that? And
Speaker 1: that's what I also put in out all our planners,
Speaker 1: so I have every month there's habits or goals, but
Speaker 1: I also put like the actions under each one so
Speaker 1: you actually know, Okay, well, how I'm I actually going
Speaker 1: to achieve this. It's like reverse engineering it, so you
Speaker 1: actually do the thing now with this. The big category
Speaker 1: that people struggle with is the home life. So for
Speaker 1: an example for this is, you know, stop leaving clutter
Speaker 1: around at night, start a non negotiable PM routine, and
Speaker 1: then a step for that would be write the checklist
Speaker 1: and stick it on the fridge where the whole family
Speaker 1: can see it. And then a stick with habit for
Speaker 1: this would be changing the sheets weekly, whatever's already working.
Speaker 1: So there are just some really quick, easy examples that you, guys,
Speaker 1: so you can take away from it. Now. Look, if
Speaker 1: you don't want to do the stop start step, stick
Speaker 1: with for all the categories that you've gone through. Just
Speaker 1: pick your non negotiables. They're like the most important, all right,
Speaker 1: Moving on to the next step of our reset. Now
Speaker 1: this is the goals check in. Now, don't get nervous,
Speaker 1: guys again, just remember like if you set goals at
Speaker 1: the start of this year that you're just not feeling anymore,
Speaker 1: just don't worry about it, Like it's we don't believe
Speaker 1: in the sunk cost fallacy here, which is if you
Speaker 1: guys don't know what that is, it's, you know, essentially,
Speaker 1: the idea that people will keep seeing things through because
Speaker 1: they don't want to give up on something they've already
Speaker 1: put certain amount of time into. But for me, if
Speaker 1: something's already making you unhappy and you're going to keep
Speaker 1: pushing through, you are eventually going to give up on
Speaker 1: that thing anyway, or you're just going to live a
Speaker 1: miserable life. So who's really winning or losing here? Now?
Speaker 1: The goals that you set at the start of the year.
Speaker 1: I'm not doing a whole goal setting masterclass here, just this,
Speaker 1: be realistic and reverse engineer every goal into bite sized
Speaker 1: steps and habits. Like I said before, have you made progress?
Speaker 1: If not, what's actually been holding you back? But you
Speaker 1: need to be specific? Is it actually time? Which part
Speaker 1: of your week can you generally not give to this?
Speaker 1: Or is it self sabotage? Procrastination, perfectionism waiting until you
Speaker 1: have all the answers before you start. Those are all
Speaker 1: self sabotage because your brain doesn't like change. Your brain
Speaker 1: wants you to stay the same because the same feels safe,
Speaker 1: even when safe is shit. For you. And that's why
Speaker 1: we tend to stay stuck in bad habits. We stay
Speaker 1: in the same routines, and we stay with things that
Speaker 1: aren't working for us because, as I've said in that
Speaker 1: podcast before about your brain, which o' link below, your
Speaker 1: brain knows the familiar and it's trying to keep you
Speaker 1: there because it knows the outcome and can keep you safe.
Speaker 1: So I want you to ask yourself, when you're looking
Speaker 1: at these goals, what is my brain doing to keep
Speaker 1: me safe from my own goals? And I do hate
Speaker 1: to break it to you guys, but our brain is
Speaker 1: really lazy. So whenever it can you take the shortcut,
Speaker 1: which definitely means not starting new habits, it's going to
Speaker 1: try to convince you not to do it. Like think
Speaker 1: about all the times when you've been like, Okay, I'm
Speaker 1: going to get up at this time and go to
Speaker 1: the gym, or I'm going to go for a walk,
Speaker 1: and then you start literally thinking, oh, but I've got
Speaker 1: to do this, or I'll be right, I'll do it tomorrow.
Speaker 1: That is literally your self sabotaging and your brain trying
Speaker 1: to keep you lazy. Now that you look through your goals,
Speaker 1: I want you to set your goals for the next quarter,
Speaker 1: and look at what your life actually looks like right now,
Speaker 1: Like what is the like, the absolute, brutal, honest version
Speaker 1: of your life right now in your day to day life,
Speaker 1: not the fantasy version. You know, we're all chasing this
Speaker 1: thing called balance, but balance isn't really the right word
Speaker 1: because life comes in seasons, and in some seasons, certain
Speaker 1: areas just need more of you. So I don't want
Speaker 1: you to be like, you know, if you don't feel
Speaker 1: like setting goals for all these different categories of your life,
Speaker 1: like I don't want you to. I want you to
Speaker 1: even focus on a couple, you know, for you, you
Speaker 1: could be in like a baby season, a work season,
Speaker 1: or moving house season, and you're just juggling. And you know,
Speaker 1: there is different balls that we all have to juggle,
Speaker 1: but we just need to know which one's a glass
Speaker 1: this quarter and which ones are plastic that can be dropped.
Speaker 1: And then you're going to be reverse engineering that goal
Speaker 1: into habits and actually schedule them into your planner, because
Speaker 1: if you don't plan it, it's not going to happen.
Speaker 1: Let's be honest, all right. So for me, guys, like
Speaker 1: I already kind of went into this. My goal for
Speaker 1: the rest this year is to really hone in on
Speaker 1: my bedtime routine. So that means I'm going to be
Speaker 1: moving my phone charger into the bathroom. That's step number one.
Speaker 1: Number two, I want to set up my sunrise alarm clock.
Speaker 1: Number three, I'm going to go into my settings in
Speaker 1: my phone and I'm going to make it block me
Speaker 1: at nine point thirty at night. Eventually I would like
Speaker 1: it to do it at nine, but let's just do
Speaker 1: baby steps. So those are my action points so I
Speaker 1: can actually achieve this. Now for you, it could be,
Speaker 1: you know, I want less screen time, so that could
Speaker 1: be again setting up the thing in your phone. You
Speaker 1: could be doing, you know, from five till seven, have
Speaker 1: a family like rule where everyone has to put their
Speaker 1: phone in the drawer, and it's going to make life
Speaker 1: a lot easier because you've got bed time, you've got
Speaker 1: dinner at that time anyway. And number three could be
Speaker 1: picking up a new hobby, so go out and buy
Speaker 1: some you know, coloring in books or something like that. Now,
Speaker 1: our final step, which is the three days to book
Speaker 1: this month to finish off this midyear reset. And these
Speaker 1: are the three days that you know you would have
Speaker 1: heard in the season opener and you already know what's coming.
Speaker 1: It's my three day reset, which is the reset day
Speaker 1: that getshit done day and Potato Day. Potato Day is
Speaker 1: my favorite. Now I went deep on these back in
Speaker 1: episode one of this and so I also link you
Speaker 1: guys that in the show notes because this is just
Speaker 1: a quick mid year edition. So get your planner out,
Speaker 1: all right. So day one is your mini reset day.
Speaker 1: So this is a mini reset of your spaces. And
Speaker 1: I mean mini like we're not doing a huge deep
Speaker 1: cleaning situation here, so just the areas that mess with
Speaker 1: your head the most. So for me, it's my my bathroom.
Speaker 1: It drives me crazy because, like you know, in the morning,
Speaker 1: when you get ready and you don't put everything back,
Speaker 1: it just gets really messy and then you've got all
Speaker 1: these extra products. So I've been decluttering that and I
Speaker 1: came up with the best hack, which I'm going to
Speaker 1: be sharing next week. It's like a caddy hack, and
Speaker 1: it literally makes my mornings so much easier to get ready.
Speaker 1: So just yeah, focus one thing. It could be the car,
Speaker 1: it could be the kitchen, it could be the pantry,
Speaker 1: it could be the fridge. But just go in there
Speaker 1: and do a mini reset, and then I want you
Speaker 1: to end that within everything shower off so you know,
Speaker 1: face mask, do a hair mask, you know, have a
Speaker 1: nice late just have like a little reward once you
Speaker 1: finish that. Now, this mini reset day that could take
Speaker 1: you twenty minutes. I only want you to pick one thing. Now.
Speaker 1: Day two is your get shit done Day. I actually
Speaker 1: post what I do every month, or my get shit
Speaker 1: Done Day, just to show you guys what I get
Speaker 1: up to. So this is the annoying stuff you've been
Speaker 1: putting off. So your get shit done day has a
Speaker 1: very specific agenda. So it's one annoying task that you've
Speaker 1: been putting off, it's one life admint task, and then
Speaker 1: there's one quick win. So, for an example, the annoying
Speaker 1: thing you've been putting off could be going to the
Speaker 1: post office. Your quick win could be cleaning your makeup brushes,
Speaker 1: and then your life admint task could be ordering groceries.
Speaker 1: Like you could get this done in like half an
Speaker 1: hour technically, so don't list out twenty things like you
Speaker 1: can do a list, but then like save some for
Speaker 1: the next month's get shit Done day. Because I love
Speaker 1: to do this once a month, like it could be
Speaker 1: doing your emails. And here's a little hack for that
Speaker 1: is if anything in your inbox is older than three months,
Speaker 1: just archive it because it's searchable. Just start fresh, and honestly,
Speaker 1: just get into AI, which I really need to do
Speaker 1: a podcast for you guys, because it's going to change
Speaker 1: your life. And while you're there, Also there's a new
Speaker 1: like if you use Gmail. I'm not sure about Outlook,
Speaker 1: but in Gmail, if you score down on the left
Speaker 1: hand side, there's subscriptions and it literally lists all the
Speaker 1: emails you subscribe to and you can just unsubscribe from
Speaker 1: all of them at once. It's so much easier now.
Speaker 1: Day three of my favorite day is the potato day.
Speaker 1: So this is a day where you're literally going to
Speaker 1: be doing absolutely nothing and you're not going to feel
Speaker 1: guilty about it. You know, you've done the reset day.
Speaker 1: You've reset like your physical space, You've done your getshit
Speaker 1: done day, which is actually really helping clear out your
Speaker 1: mental load because that's the stuff that you've been carrying around.
Speaker 1: And the potato day also has a point. It's rest
Speaker 1: and it's a thing that you don't have to earn.
Speaker 1: It's something that you deserve to have every single day.
Speaker 1: And I know what I need to do for my
Speaker 1: potato day, which is to start watching a new TV
Speaker 1: series or watching TV at all. All Right, so this
Speaker 1: is the part of the mid year reset that is
Speaker 1: actually kind of my favorite. I have to say. Now
Speaker 1: we're going to be ordering you your routine and your
Speaker 1: time technically, so I want you to write down your
Speaker 1: current routine, like in absolute detail, or at least just
Speaker 1: really think about how your week runs. So what days
Speaker 1: are the most stressful for you, What parts of the
Speaker 1: day are the most stressful, and why? Like is it
Speaker 1: the mornings, because like, the lunches aren't made, the bags
Speaker 1: aren't packed, You've woken up to kids screaming in your
Speaker 1: face because they want chocolate for breakfast, and there's peanut
Speaker 1: butter on the dog. Like pinpoint it, like get specific
Speaker 1: and why, and then we're going to rebuild it simply.
Speaker 1: So when you want to rebuild a routine, the first
Speaker 1: thing you need to do is just to list your
Speaker 1: non negotiables. So these are the things that you have
Speaker 1: to do. So it could be you know, taking the
Speaker 1: kids to school and things like that. Now, then I
Speaker 1: want you to schedule in the habits that you you know,
Speaker 1: the habits and action points that we made earlier for
Speaker 1: our goals and where they live. Because again, if you
Speaker 1: don't plan in these habits and goals, they're not going
Speaker 1: to happen. Now, I believe the most important routines that
Speaker 1: you can ever plan is your AMMPM routines because they
Speaker 1: make or break the middle. I call these the bookends
Speaker 1: of your day. And I'm actually really excited because I've
Speaker 1: been working on a product to do with this for
Speaker 1: ages now, and I've been wanting to make it for years,
Speaker 1: and I wish I could say it's ready, but it's not.
Speaker 1: It's sampling at the moment. But that's all I'm gonna say. Anyways,
Speaker 1: I'm that annoying person, I know, but like, if your
Speaker 1: mornings and nights are shit, the middle of your day
Speaker 1: is going to be absolute a disaster. I want you
Speaker 1: to make sure with your AM and PM routines you
Speaker 1: create a version of these that are for high energy
Speaker 1: days and also low energy days because we, sadly, as women,
Speaker 1: we don't wake up the same every single day. We
Speaker 1: have a twenty eight day hormone cycle, and we need
Speaker 1: to be realistic about a lot of the days where
Speaker 1: we feel average, we're not like jumping around off the walls.
Speaker 1: So just you know, you need to make the routine
Speaker 1: for the life that you have right now, not for
Speaker 1: the life that you wish you had. So I know
Speaker 1: this was a lot. I was trying to make this
Speaker 1: episode short, but it is a mid year reset, Like
Speaker 1: I know, I've kind of just gone through all the
Speaker 1: steps and I've really just kind of explained it to
Speaker 1: you and given you examples. But just you know, in
Speaker 1: the link below, just grab your work book and if
Speaker 1: there's just one thing you do today, it's just to
Speaker 1: open your planner right now and book the three days
Speaker 1: in this month for your reset day. You'll get shit
Speaker 1: done day and your potato day, and you know, and
Speaker 1: if three feels like too much, just book one. Just
Speaker 1: just book the potato day. Like I'm not going to judge.
Speaker 1: But yes, guys, all the of your questions and the
Speaker 1: life order categories are in the in the workbook, and
Speaker 1: you just do it at your own time, in your
Speaker 1: own order, like nobody's marking it. And just remember you
Speaker 1: don't have to push through the goals that you set
Speaker 1: at the start of this year. Just be really honest
Speaker 1: where you're at and what season you're in, and again,
Speaker 1: just try to just lower the bar, because once you
Speaker 1: take the pressure off, everything else in life becomes more enjoyable,
Speaker 1: even for me. Like I I remember when I first
Speaker 1: started my podcast, in my very first season, I would
Speaker 1: really really hard on myself and I actually started hating recording.
Speaker 1: And now I just don't. I don't have the pressure
Speaker 1: on anymore. I'm like, you know what, I'm just gonna
Speaker 1: talk and then it just is so much more enjoyable
Speaker 1: for me and it's what I love to do. So
Speaker 1: just don't be an asshole to yourself. Guys. Anyways, I
Speaker 1: hope you enjoyed this episode. Don't forget your workbook below
Speaker 1: and make sure you tune in next week because again
Speaker 1: you're gonna love that episode. Please do tag me on
Speaker 1: Instagram or wherever you know, listen and leave a review,
Speaker 1: and if you're not already, please subscribe to the show
Speaker 1: because it really really helps more people master their messy
Speaker 1: lives as well. I love you, guys, and I will
Speaker 1: be in your ears on Monday, babe.