1 00:00:05,921 --> 00:00:24,881 Speaker 1: Appolgate Production. Welcome back to another episode of Am I 2 00:00:24,921 --> 00:00:26,761 Speaker 1: a Bad MoMA Podcast? 3 00:00:27,241 --> 00:00:29,361 Speaker 2: I just look at myself in a camera as you 4 00:00:29,401 --> 00:00:31,961 Speaker 2: started the intro line, I was looking at my hair 5 00:00:31,961 --> 00:00:34,720 Speaker 2: and I'm like, just looks like a mushroom head today? 6 00:00:35,721 --> 00:00:38,280 Speaker 2: Why do I do this to myself? Why do I 7 00:00:38,361 --> 00:00:40,361 Speaker 2: look like a mushroom Who says that you want to 8 00:00:40,400 --> 00:00:42,400 Speaker 2: leave the house? Hey, you should leave the house and 9 00:00:42,441 --> 00:00:44,481 Speaker 2: you should go to an athletics day today looking like 10 00:00:44,521 --> 00:00:45,921 Speaker 2: a mushroom. 11 00:00:46,081 --> 00:00:47,681 Speaker 1: I actually said to you that I really like your 12 00:00:47,681 --> 00:00:48,361 Speaker 1: pants today. 13 00:00:48,441 --> 00:00:51,441 Speaker 2: Thank you tracksuit pants. I love a good tracksuit pants. 14 00:00:51,480 --> 00:00:55,281 Speaker 2: Bit smarter. Yeah, find a fancy pair of tracksuit pants 15 00:00:55,281 --> 00:00:57,601 Speaker 2: and you can wear them outside the house. Yes, this 16 00:00:57,681 --> 00:00:59,721 Speaker 2: is a color that we both wear. Yeah, I like 17 00:00:59,801 --> 00:01:02,920 Speaker 2: that green. It's like an olive green. I'd say it's 18 00:01:02,921 --> 00:01:04,961 Speaker 2: a kind of a sage. Don't come to us for 19 00:01:05,121 --> 00:01:08,560 Speaker 2: parenting advice, but come to us for fashion advice. Can 20 00:01:08,681 --> 00:01:09,640 Speaker 2: rock a mum outfit? 21 00:01:10,280 --> 00:01:11,801 Speaker 1: I'm going through a stage at the moment where I 22 00:01:11,840 --> 00:01:14,560 Speaker 1: hate everything in my water everything. 23 00:01:14,681 --> 00:01:17,481 Speaker 2: You need to get it all, Go to Jake nothing. 24 00:01:17,881 --> 00:01:23,001 Speaker 2: What did I wear last year? I don't know. Go 25 00:01:23,121 --> 00:01:26,001 Speaker 2: back to your phone, get to your photos. And put 26 00:01:26,081 --> 00:01:29,801 Speaker 2: this date in last year and then just see like 27 00:01:29,961 --> 00:01:32,560 Speaker 2: float through the like the month of like this time 28 00:01:32,640 --> 00:01:34,560 Speaker 2: last year, and see what some of your outfits are. 29 00:01:34,881 --> 00:01:37,081 Speaker 2: I can guarantee you there'll be a few cheek shirts 30 00:01:37,081 --> 00:01:38,801 Speaker 2: in there. Yeah, hundreds. 31 00:01:39,081 --> 00:01:44,440 Speaker 1: Well I've got every everything, every collection that them all. Right. 32 00:01:44,481 --> 00:01:59,921 Speaker 2: Now, am I a bad mum for showing no sympathy? 33 00:02:00,081 --> 00:02:02,561 Speaker 2: I feel really bad saying that because when we got here, 34 00:02:02,841 --> 00:02:05,441 Speaker 2: because I have a child here today, this is her list. 35 00:02:05,601 --> 00:02:08,001 Speaker 2: You gave her a list and said, here, write a 36 00:02:08,001 --> 00:02:10,401 Speaker 2: list of one to ten things that you're grateful for today. 37 00:02:10,521 --> 00:02:10,721 Speaker 1: Yeah. 38 00:02:10,721 --> 00:02:13,121 Speaker 2: Now this is like let's talk like real time. It's 39 00:02:13,161 --> 00:02:15,481 Speaker 2: late afternoon with her and I have been out all 40 00:02:15,520 --> 00:02:18,001 Speaker 2: day and I yelled out as we were walking in 41 00:02:18,041 --> 00:02:20,001 Speaker 2: and I can't be one of them. Ha ha ha. 42 00:02:21,121 --> 00:02:23,961 Speaker 2: So the first three it says mum, four is me, 43 00:02:24,321 --> 00:02:28,161 Speaker 2: five is my life, six is being fast, seven is 44 00:02:28,201 --> 00:02:31,800 Speaker 2: trying my best, eight is not giving up, nine is 45 00:02:31,960 --> 00:02:35,921 Speaker 2: family support, and Ted is being happy. Yeah. Pretty cute. 46 00:02:35,960 --> 00:02:38,761 Speaker 1: I was like, that's really nice. I mean, we talk 47 00:02:38,841 --> 00:02:41,201 Speaker 1: a lot lot about the shit that mum gets, but 48 00:02:41,361 --> 00:02:43,441 Speaker 1: interestingly dad is not on that list. 49 00:02:45,921 --> 00:02:48,201 Speaker 2: And just coming off the back of what her and 50 00:02:48,201 --> 00:02:49,800 Speaker 2: I have just done for the day. So we've been 51 00:02:49,841 --> 00:02:53,921 Speaker 2: out at the Queensland State Athletic Center. It's our first 52 00:02:53,921 --> 00:02:58,960 Speaker 2: time representing. I think it's Northwest District's team. And then 53 00:02:59,121 --> 00:03:01,001 Speaker 2: you go and then you compete. Now, when you get 54 00:03:01,041 --> 00:03:04,240 Speaker 2: to these sort of levels, there's some hard, hard, hard 55 00:03:04,281 --> 00:03:09,161 Speaker 2: competition out there. I struggle, And I've spoken about this 56 00:03:09,361 --> 00:03:12,800 Speaker 2: a lot on this podcast, about like being the what 57 00:03:12,841 --> 00:03:15,561 Speaker 2: would you call, like the support team, like the support crew. 58 00:03:15,641 --> 00:03:18,401 Speaker 2: I'm fine with sitting on the sideline, oh cheer And 59 00:03:18,481 --> 00:03:21,081 Speaker 2: like I said to her, you could come twenty fifth 60 00:03:21,240 --> 00:03:23,361 Speaker 2: out of the race and I'll still be your number 61 00:03:23,401 --> 00:03:26,960 Speaker 2: one cheerleader no matter what. Like I actually don't care 62 00:03:27,001 --> 00:03:29,761 Speaker 2: if you win or you lose, as long as you've 63 00:03:29,800 --> 00:03:33,361 Speaker 2: tried your hardest. Don't go in the half hearted. Don't 64 00:03:33,361 --> 00:03:35,041 Speaker 2: go in there and go I don't know why I 65 00:03:35,041 --> 00:03:36,761 Speaker 2: didn't win. Do you want me to tell you why 66 00:03:36,801 --> 00:03:40,481 Speaker 2: you didn't win because you didn't try. So we've been 67 00:03:40,481 --> 00:03:42,361 Speaker 2: there and done that today, and then I get this 68 00:03:42,481 --> 00:03:43,921 Speaker 2: list and now I feel like shit. 69 00:03:44,561 --> 00:03:46,601 Speaker 1: This is why this podcast is really good to do 70 00:03:46,681 --> 00:03:49,281 Speaker 1: off the back of an argument or a hard morning 71 00:03:49,401 --> 00:03:51,961 Speaker 1: with your kids, because then it's easy to talk about 72 00:03:52,001 --> 00:03:55,881 Speaker 1: the content, oh man, Whereas when they're being lovely, you're like, oh, 73 00:03:56,641 --> 00:03:58,001 Speaker 1: I don't have an episode today. 74 00:03:58,161 --> 00:04:00,641 Speaker 2: My girls now always go, oh your podcasts today? Do 75 00:04:00,681 --> 00:04:02,401 Speaker 2: you what are you going to talk about? It depends 76 00:04:02,441 --> 00:04:04,801 Speaker 2: how much of an asshole you to be. No, so 77 00:04:05,081 --> 00:04:07,401 Speaker 2: I'm the asshole today. So we just walked out. She 78 00:04:07,481 --> 00:04:11,121 Speaker 2: did really well. She smashed a PB for high jump 79 00:04:11,201 --> 00:04:15,201 Speaker 2: this morning, which is awesome. Didn't make the top four, 80 00:04:15,361 --> 00:04:17,601 Speaker 2: but was in the realm of like the top eight, 81 00:04:17,641 --> 00:04:21,001 Speaker 2: which is awesome. And then shot put came along, and 82 00:04:21,281 --> 00:04:25,441 Speaker 2: this kid is exceptionally strong at shot put. We're also 83 00:04:25,481 --> 00:04:28,721 Speaker 2: talking tens, like she's in tens, guys. She's not going 84 00:04:28,721 --> 00:04:32,561 Speaker 2: through the Olympics right now. But she gets out there 85 00:04:32,561 --> 00:04:35,080 Speaker 2: and she gets caught up in the vibe. She's got 86 00:04:35,081 --> 00:04:39,241 Speaker 2: friends everywhere from all walks of circles of life. Right 87 00:04:39,401 --> 00:04:42,401 Speaker 2: we go in there, and then at one stage, she's 88 00:04:42,561 --> 00:04:44,760 Speaker 2: down at the high jump and she's back looking up 89 00:04:44,801 --> 00:04:47,681 Speaker 2: at the whole grand stand of people and she's waving 90 00:04:47,721 --> 00:04:49,801 Speaker 2: to someone. I was like, do you really know someone 91 00:04:49,841 --> 00:04:52,721 Speaker 2: up there or you just like you're just pretending that 92 00:04:52,761 --> 00:04:55,281 Speaker 2: you've won a gold medal. She's just getting caught in 93 00:04:55,320 --> 00:04:58,161 Speaker 2: the vibe of things. So goes down to shotput. She 94 00:04:58,281 --> 00:05:00,520 Speaker 2: makes the top eight. Now the top eight then get 95 00:05:00,601 --> 00:05:03,600 Speaker 2: one more throw, and then with that one more throw 96 00:05:04,041 --> 00:05:07,281 Speaker 2: comes the top three, and the top three then go 97 00:05:07,361 --> 00:05:11,361 Speaker 2: away and represent states or something like that. Anyway, so 98 00:05:11,481 --> 00:05:14,361 Speaker 2: she just gets caught up in the vibe and her 99 00:05:14,440 --> 00:05:16,361 Speaker 2: name gets called. So she just walks up and she 100 00:05:16,401 --> 00:05:19,161 Speaker 2: picks up the shop put and she goes, oh, just 101 00:05:19,201 --> 00:05:24,121 Speaker 2: throws it half hearted. I was like this anyway. She 102 00:05:24,161 --> 00:05:26,801 Speaker 2: walks off. Then we're leaving, but then we get outside 103 00:05:26,841 --> 00:05:31,681 Speaker 2: and then I cop it me. I cop it because 104 00:05:31,721 --> 00:05:34,241 Speaker 2: you didn't finish. She finished in the I think it 105 00:05:34,281 --> 00:05:37,881 Speaker 2: was top five. How is it my fault that you 106 00:05:38,440 --> 00:05:39,641 Speaker 2: didn't throw? Well? 107 00:05:39,761 --> 00:05:41,640 Speaker 1: I mean top five was still really great. 108 00:05:41,921 --> 00:05:44,881 Speaker 2: It's great. You just don't make the place right. They 109 00:05:44,921 --> 00:05:49,041 Speaker 2: take the top three again, Katie, how is it my fault? 110 00:05:49,241 --> 00:05:52,401 Speaker 2: And then at that stage, I feel myself like staying calm, 111 00:05:52,561 --> 00:05:56,401 Speaker 2: staying calm, not reacting, giving her all the positives like 112 00:05:56,481 --> 00:05:58,640 Speaker 2: you could come last and I still support you, you know, 113 00:05:59,201 --> 00:06:01,880 Speaker 2: a positive positive. And then when she's still going at me, 114 00:06:02,521 --> 00:06:04,041 Speaker 2: I just turned around and I said, because you go 115 00:06:04,121 --> 00:06:07,281 Speaker 2: out there half hearted. No one said, hey, Elsey, take 116 00:06:07,320 --> 00:06:09,721 Speaker 2: your shot, but only in one second. You had all 117 00:06:09,761 --> 00:06:12,401 Speaker 2: the time in the world. Slow it down, think about 118 00:06:12,401 --> 00:06:13,921 Speaker 2: the things that you need to use. Got to use 119 00:06:13,961 --> 00:06:16,200 Speaker 2: my legs, got to power, gotta I am higher, I 120 00:06:16,241 --> 00:06:18,640 Speaker 2: got to do this, got to do that. Take your time. 121 00:06:18,721 --> 00:06:20,961 Speaker 2: No one's rushing you. But you just walked out there, 122 00:06:21,001 --> 00:06:23,441 Speaker 2: picked the ball up and threw it. And how is 123 00:06:23,481 --> 00:06:25,960 Speaker 2: it my fault? Like how you havn't go Oh to 124 00:06:25,961 --> 00:06:29,121 Speaker 2: your fault? It went from me not caring to then 125 00:06:29,201 --> 00:06:32,441 Speaker 2: me not supporting her, and then I get this ten 126 00:06:32,561 --> 00:06:33,361 Speaker 2: point letters. 127 00:06:35,401 --> 00:06:39,961 Speaker 1: I find it interesting though, because you're a very sporty family. 128 00:06:40,401 --> 00:06:45,440 Speaker 1: She's growing up with dad who played professional football, mum 129 00:06:45,521 --> 00:06:50,080 Speaker 1: who you were pro netball for a time. Yeah, very sporty, 130 00:06:50,641 --> 00:06:56,441 Speaker 1: very driven, very focused. You win the mum's race, that 131 00:06:56,601 --> 00:06:57,881 Speaker 1: the sports kind of all. 132 00:06:58,161 --> 00:07:01,161 Speaker 2: Dad wins the dad race. I know, I know, and 133 00:07:01,201 --> 00:07:02,841 Speaker 2: I really like I have to go back to that 134 00:07:02,921 --> 00:07:04,921 Speaker 2: Katie and think about, like I need to be speaking 135 00:07:04,961 --> 00:07:07,521 Speaker 2: to her, how I would want to be spoken to 136 00:07:07,641 --> 00:07:10,041 Speaker 2: do you know what I mean? Like my brain does 137 00:07:10,121 --> 00:07:13,121 Speaker 2: not operate like hers, and so I think probably where 138 00:07:13,161 --> 00:07:15,041 Speaker 2: I'm coming from a like feeling a bit shit, is 139 00:07:15,041 --> 00:07:17,961 Speaker 2: that I've got to like somehow find a different way 140 00:07:18,001 --> 00:07:20,841 Speaker 2: of being able to like almost like resonate with her 141 00:07:20,881 --> 00:07:23,801 Speaker 2: when she's feeling really flat about getting to where she 142 00:07:23,841 --> 00:07:26,001 Speaker 2: wants to. I tried to explain to her, I said, 143 00:07:26,041 --> 00:07:27,561 Speaker 2: I don't know. I think you just have to find 144 00:07:27,801 --> 00:07:29,521 Speaker 2: like that little bit more and you tell me that 145 00:07:29,601 --> 00:07:31,761 Speaker 2: makes you want to win, Like if we were talking 146 00:07:31,801 --> 00:07:37,280 Speaker 2: about physical ability and capability, you have all of it. Yeah, 147 00:07:37,321 --> 00:07:40,081 Speaker 2: you should see some of these kids today running Holy 148 00:07:40,201 --> 00:07:44,881 Speaker 2: dooly they are like athletes already, Like it's crazy to 149 00:07:44,881 --> 00:07:47,881 Speaker 2: watch anyway, shit parenting by me because it was my 150 00:07:48,001 --> 00:07:49,121 Speaker 2: fault that she didn't come. 151 00:07:51,201 --> 00:07:53,921 Speaker 1: It's a hard one though, because I think I've done 152 00:07:53,961 --> 00:07:57,601 Speaker 1: the like other extreme to that, and I'd be. 153 00:07:57,641 --> 00:08:00,401 Speaker 2: Like wow done, yeah, yeah, yeah. 154 00:08:00,441 --> 00:08:03,961 Speaker 1: And to the point where these days, like Holly all 155 00:08:04,001 --> 00:08:06,761 Speaker 1: say to me, seemed very excited by the fact that 156 00:08:06,841 --> 00:08:09,401 Speaker 1: I got a for example, and I'm like, well, what. 157 00:08:09,361 --> 00:08:10,081 Speaker 2: Do you want me to do? 158 00:08:10,281 --> 00:08:17,801 Speaker 1: Start like fireworks, throw a party for you? Because should 159 00:08:17,841 --> 00:08:20,481 Speaker 1: I have been that person that picked them up so 160 00:08:20,601 --> 00:08:24,401 Speaker 1: much that now it is disappointing. 161 00:08:24,721 --> 00:08:27,601 Speaker 2: I need to probably take a leaf out of your book, 162 00:08:27,681 --> 00:08:29,921 Speaker 2: you know, Apart from me saying good job you tried 163 00:08:30,121 --> 00:08:32,881 Speaker 2: really hard, and I'm really proud of you. I don't 164 00:08:32,881 --> 00:08:37,321 Speaker 2: have anything more because in my head I was like, okay, well, 165 00:08:37,361 --> 00:08:37,921 Speaker 2: off we go. 166 00:08:38,841 --> 00:08:39,921 Speaker 1: It was a waste of a day. 167 00:08:40,081 --> 00:08:44,041 Speaker 2: But I've been here since seven am. I just look 168 00:08:44,081 --> 00:08:46,441 Speaker 2: and go and You're like, there's so many people. Go 169 00:08:46,521 --> 00:08:48,961 Speaker 2: why wasn't she in any of the running races? And 170 00:08:49,001 --> 00:08:51,521 Speaker 2: I was like, yeah, ask her, why weren't you in 171 00:08:51,561 --> 00:08:54,681 Speaker 2: any of the running races? Because you got sore legs 172 00:08:54,681 --> 00:08:56,280 Speaker 2: so you didn't compete in the finals. 173 00:08:56,481 --> 00:09:01,241 Speaker 1: I bet it took every ounce of energy from you 174 00:09:01,281 --> 00:09:03,961 Speaker 1: not to step up and grab that shot and throw 175 00:09:04,001 --> 00:09:04,561 Speaker 1: it yourself. 176 00:09:04,921 --> 00:09:08,801 Speaker 2: I'm telling you, Katie, I would have lost today. Those 177 00:09:08,841 --> 00:09:11,281 Speaker 2: ten year old girls, some of them were bigger than me. 178 00:09:11,361 --> 00:09:14,241 Speaker 2: I swear, what are we doing with our kids these days? 179 00:09:14,321 --> 00:09:17,121 Speaker 2: I was like, one girl was stronger than me physically. 180 00:09:17,281 --> 00:09:20,721 Speaker 2: I could see she was so strong, and I was like. 181 00:09:21,601 --> 00:09:25,001 Speaker 1: Well, this is completely off topic. But when you walked 182 00:09:25,001 --> 00:09:30,001 Speaker 1: in with Elsie to do the podcast today, I said, else, 183 00:09:30,081 --> 00:09:32,561 Speaker 1: what size are your feet? Because I cleared out our 184 00:09:32,601 --> 00:09:35,001 Speaker 1: garage over the weekend and I had two pairs of 185 00:09:35,441 --> 00:09:40,321 Speaker 1: perfectly good roller which the girls had hardly ever used. 186 00:09:40,561 --> 00:09:42,601 Speaker 1: And she went I'm a size eight, and I went, oh, 187 00:09:42,681 --> 00:09:44,801 Speaker 1: Jesus you for like five to six. I was thinking 188 00:09:44,801 --> 00:09:46,161 Speaker 1: that'd be great for Elsie. 189 00:09:47,161 --> 00:09:47,881 Speaker 2: Thanks for begging. 190 00:09:48,281 --> 00:09:50,041 Speaker 1: She looked at me as though to go like, why 191 00:09:50,041 --> 00:09:52,081 Speaker 1: are you asking for my shoe size? And I went, oh, 192 00:09:52,121 --> 00:09:53,761 Speaker 1: I was going to give you some rollerblades, but now 193 00:09:53,801 --> 00:09:54,521 Speaker 1: I'm not sorry.