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Speaker 1: I'll get at Welcome to another installing the new project.

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Speaker 1: It's me. I hope you're great. Hope you're great. Now,

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Speaker 1: before we kick off, I wanted to tell you we're

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Speaker 1: doing a We're doing a thing called the typ seven

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Speaker 1: day Kickstart. It's free. It starts on our next Friday.

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Speaker 1: I'm recording this Sunday night, which I think is tenth, eleventh, twelfth, fourteenth,

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Speaker 1: all enter this month. I should off top of my head,

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Speaker 1: but I don't. For fourteenth it's a week of me coaching, coercing, educating,

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Speaker 1: probably being a little bit silly. Any of you who

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Speaker 1: feel like you need a little bit of momentum, need

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Speaker 1: a little bit of a kick in the but Tom,

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Speaker 1: I need a little bit of support to get the

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Speaker 1: wheels turning, to get the wheels of change turning, to

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Speaker 1: start to get a little bit of focus, to start

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Speaker 1: to perhaps step into some kind of process structure, accountability.

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Speaker 1: There's no hooks or catches, there's no on sell upsell,

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Speaker 1: you don't pay anything. The way that it works is

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Speaker 1: every day I'm going to put a video. Starting on

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Speaker 1: Friday Friday, I'm going to put a video which is

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Speaker 1: going to be fatty Harp sitting in his computer like

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Speaker 1: right now, talking into the camera and the microphone, setting

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Speaker 1: a range of different kind of tasks or goals or

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Speaker 1: challenges for the day. There'll be different levels, so some

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Speaker 1: of them might be physical, some of them might be

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Speaker 1: more cerebral, cognitive, psychological, but there'll be there'll be something

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Speaker 1: pretty much that everyone can do and it's not really

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Speaker 1: somebody asked me today about it and they're like, how

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Speaker 1: much can you change in seven days? Well, that's a

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Speaker 1: good question, and there's I actually wouldn't mind doing an

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Speaker 1: episode about that because the answer is you can change

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Speaker 1: a lot in seven days. But there's a few variables

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Speaker 1: around that, but it's not so much. Or we're going

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Speaker 1: to get in shape, or we're going to completely you know,

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Speaker 1: drop ten kilos, or we're going to reinvent our mind,

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Speaker 1: or we're going to change all of our nasty habits

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Speaker 1: or destructive habits, or we're going to overcome that thing

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Speaker 1: that we haven't mean able to overcome for ten years.

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Speaker 1: It's really about can you just do something for seven

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Speaker 1: days and do it? Can you commit to something and

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Speaker 1: just show up every day, whether it's fun or not fun,

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Speaker 1: whether it's painful or painless, whether it's sexy or not sexy.

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Speaker 1: Can you just go I'm going to do this thing

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Speaker 1: and then every day turn up, watch the video, figure

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Speaker 1: out which one of the challenges or tasks you're going

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Speaker 1: to do, and then go away and do that. So

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Speaker 1: for me, I'm way more interested in your a bity

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Speaker 1: to just stick something out for seven days, even if

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Speaker 1: I'm not loving this or you've lost motivational focus, because

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Speaker 1: this is kind of a metaphor for life. You know,

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Speaker 1: if you can't do seven days, by the way, you know,

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Speaker 1: if you want to jump in, good, If you don't,

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Speaker 1: also good. But for those of you who do want

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Speaker 1: to jump in, it's really your first goal. Your main

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Speaker 1: we're trying to do is we're trying to create a

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Speaker 1: just do something that maybe sucks a little bit and

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Speaker 1: we don't throw in the towel anyway. I'm rambling. So

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Speaker 1: if you want to get involved, go to the you

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Speaker 1: Project Facebook page, you Project podcast facebook page and you'll

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Speaker 1: see a little ad for it. Yesterday's podcast, which came out.

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Speaker 1: What's Today's podcast? I record it yesterday, so Sunday's podcast.

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Speaker 1: Just go below the promo for Sunday's podcast and right,

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Speaker 1: I'm in, Right, I'm in, and then we'll know you're in.

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Speaker 1: We're all going to start this Friday. Yes, we're starting Friday.

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Speaker 1: Why are we starting Friday? Because fuck it, No one

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Speaker 1: starts on Friday. Everyone starts on Monday. Monday's bullshit. Fuck it.

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Speaker 1: We're starting Friday. Anyway, that's there. If you want to

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Speaker 1: you about something that I've been thinking about for quite

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Speaker 1: a while and I've been talking about for quite a

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Speaker 1: ambition and whether or not ambition. And you think about

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Speaker 1: the way that we operate. And I'm speaking generally and broadly,

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Speaker 1: That's human. But as an observer of other people and

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