WEBVTT - THE CANDLE, FIREWORK & MIRROR THEORY + ANNA'S LAST EPISODE 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:02.960 It's so funny because Michael was like obviously lead singer 0:00:03.000 --> 0:00:04.800 in a band, had like long hair, he had a 0:00:04.840 --> 0:00:07.520 lip ring. He looks like so different. 0:00:07.760 --> 0:00:11.080 It looks like panic at the disco. Literally, that's fall 0:00:11.119 --> 0:00:15.360 out boy. No, we can't sing songs. We've got to 0:00:15.360 --> 0:00:18.880 pay royalties on this. 0:00:24.200 --> 0:00:26.600 Where's Your Head At? Is a podcast that talks full 0:00:26.720 --> 0:00:34.400 things right, Hold on a sec, let's give this a refresh. Hi, 0:00:34.800 --> 0:00:35.680 I'm Anna. 0:00:35.600 --> 0:00:38.400 And I'm Matt, and we are now too newlywed not 0:00:38.440 --> 0:00:41.000 to each other. Just a female and male best friend 0:00:41.080 --> 0:00:43.720 here for the good, the bad, and the ugly times. 0:00:43.560 --> 0:00:48.120 And exploring adulthood, family relationships, dilemmas. 0:00:47.760 --> 0:00:50.319 And whatever else we have the mental capacity to deal with. 0:00:50.640 --> 0:00:51.639 Come get the lowdown. 0:00:51.840 --> 0:00:53.600 This is your male and female perspective. 0:00:54.040 --> 0:00:56.160 So, Matt, where's your head At? 0:00:58.960 --> 0:01:01.280 Good morning morning? 0:01:01.440 --> 0:01:02.600 How are you feeling today? 0:01:02.760 --> 0:01:06.760 I'm good. We're in for our last bulk record before 0:01:06.920 --> 0:01:08.840 you take your maternity leave. 0:01:09.120 --> 0:01:13.960 No, i'm single today. The rings are officially off my fingers. 0:01:15.280 --> 0:01:19.760 My fingers, I actually have really long, skinny figures. I 0:01:19.840 --> 0:01:21.640 feel like my fingers probably just look like a normal 0:01:21.680 --> 0:01:22.319 person's hands. 0:01:22.360 --> 0:01:24.360 Now, do you think it could be a hand model? 0:01:24.880 --> 0:01:26.720 Could I have a hand model. Yeah, I don't know. 0:01:26.760 --> 0:01:27.440 Do you think I could be. 0:01:27.400 --> 0:01:27.920 A hand model? 0:01:27.959 --> 0:01:29.800 I'm asking you, are you trying to give me a 0:01:29.840 --> 0:01:33.399 compliment here or what? He's looking at his own hands. 0:01:33.959 --> 0:01:36.240 He's like, no, but I could be man's kna he 0:01:36.360 --> 0:01:38.399 was for a bit. I'm listening to his book still, Oh. 0:01:38.319 --> 0:01:40.320 You love you love a bit of Matthew mcut. 0:01:40.440 --> 0:01:42.080 I know I do. He was a hand model. 0:01:42.280 --> 0:01:43.360 Is it like self help? 0:01:44.880 --> 0:01:47.960 I might have touched on this before. He says stuff 0:01:48.000 --> 0:01:50.440 that has happened to him, and then he says green light, 0:01:51.200 --> 0:01:52.720 and then he says like it's a green light, like 0:01:52.840 --> 0:01:54.840 that's a go sign, like he goes. You know, I 0:01:54.880 --> 0:01:58.280 spoke to this the producer, and he said blah blah blah, 0:01:58.320 --> 0:02:01.240 green light. And then I I guess in the format 0:02:01.280 --> 0:02:03.080 of a book, when it's written out, it looks better. 0:02:03.120 --> 0:02:05.240 But when he says that, it's sort of right. 0:02:06.080 --> 0:02:08.560 Today, I'm officially thirty six weeks pregnant. 0:02:08.840 --> 0:02:10.519 Congratulations, Thank you. 0:02:10.639 --> 0:02:12.600 It's been a long journey. I feel like I wake 0:02:12.680 --> 0:02:16.880 up in the morning and my whole body is in pain. 0:02:16.800 --> 0:02:19.280 Like you just run a marathon or something like, Yeah, 0:02:19.639 --> 0:02:27.240 just serious workout, which I've never had. 0:02:25.919 --> 0:02:30.600 That. No, it's honestly so painful, like the hips, the 0:02:30.680 --> 0:02:35.160 inner thighs, like it's genuinely like I'm on a treadmill 0:02:35.200 --> 0:02:37.200 all night and then i wake up and I'm like, oh, 0:02:37.240 --> 0:02:38.240 that was hard training. 0:02:38.720 --> 0:02:42.800 Respect, you're carrying a child, you're carrying wife. Yeah, it's 0:02:42.960 --> 0:02:44.600 a tough gig that you've got there. 0:02:44.720 --> 0:02:46.600 I'm surprised you didn't say another s name. I was 0:02:46.639 --> 0:02:47.160 waiting for it. 0:02:47.400 --> 0:02:51.560 Ah, okay, I was actually over the weekend thought of 0:02:51.560 --> 0:02:54.760 a bunch of them. But now I've forgotten write and 0:02:55.120 --> 0:02:55.560 still no. 0:02:55.520 --> 0:02:58.000 One's got the name. How crazy is that? 0:02:58.040 --> 0:03:05.880 It's so obscure of Sammy Boy. Obscure Sammy boy? How 0:03:06.040 --> 0:03:07.280 was your weekend? So? 0:03:07.440 --> 0:03:11.400 I went to the Loom the Van Go exhibition in Melbourne. 0:03:11.520 --> 0:03:12.119 Here is that? 0:03:12.480 --> 0:03:13.880 It's actually really cool? 0:03:14.400 --> 0:03:18.639 Where is it? Is it at the Yeah? Okay, I've 0:03:18.639 --> 0:03:19.920 walked past it before. 0:03:20.160 --> 0:03:23.600 Yeah, it's pretty cool. Like there's it's basically this huge 0:03:23.680 --> 0:03:27.399 room with all of these lights and his artwork kind 0:03:27.480 --> 0:03:31.440 of projected throughout the whole space. I'm sure you've seen photos. 0:03:31.880 --> 0:03:35.240 It's pretty epic, and then there's little areas. 0:03:37.760 --> 0:03:39.200 I don't know. I feel like I have it feels 0:03:39.240 --> 0:03:39.840 very familiar. 0:03:40.280 --> 0:03:42.680 Yeah, and then there's like little spaces where you can 0:03:42.720 --> 0:03:45.880 do like different kind of projects or like artworks. Like 0:03:45.960 --> 0:03:49.520 one room there was all of these art kind of 0:03:49.760 --> 0:03:51.400 I don't even know what they're called, Like you know 0:03:51.400 --> 0:03:54.040 how they have those art things set up with the 0:03:54.120 --> 0:03:56.280 chair and then you would go there and paint or whatever. 0:03:57.120 --> 0:03:59.520 It like teaches you how to draw anyway. So basically 0:03:59.560 --> 0:04:01.880 like every was like sitting down in little rows and 0:04:01.920 --> 0:04:06.520 like drawing, which was really cute. We drew a bedroom, 0:04:07.040 --> 0:04:12.360 which was I think one of his pieces was so bad. 0:04:12.560 --> 0:04:14.800 I'll put it on the Where's your Head at group 0:04:14.840 --> 0:04:18.240 because it's actually like embarrassingly that you're going to be 0:04:18.600 --> 0:04:22.920 you're going to die. Michael was really good. He was unreal. 0:04:22.960 --> 0:04:24.160 He was doing like the full like. 0:04:24.160 --> 0:04:26.719 You know when you draw and you Drawing to me 0:04:26.960 --> 0:04:30.800 has never been a skill, has never been something that 0:04:30.880 --> 0:04:35.920 I have thought about doing. Drawing to me was just 0:04:35.960 --> 0:04:38.160 always so. I remember in like wood Tech in year 0:04:38.240 --> 0:04:39.800 nine and year eight, you know, he had to draw 0:04:39.880 --> 0:04:44.479 those proper drawings, the measurements. I would in class just 0:04:45.080 --> 0:04:47.720 sit there like pretending to draw, and then I'd take 0:04:47.720 --> 0:04:50.080 it back home and I'd say, hey, Dad, and get 0:04:50.120 --> 0:04:51.280 my dad to draw it and then I'd bring it 0:04:51.320 --> 0:04:54.840 in the next class and yeah, he's awesome. He knows 0:04:54.839 --> 0:04:56.839 exactly because my dad's good. I had all the architects 0:04:56.880 --> 0:05:00.919 sort of stuff drawing, and I just yeah. 0:05:00.040 --> 0:05:02.359 Yeah, Like there's a difference between Like the difference between 0:05:02.440 --> 0:05:04.479 Michael and I is that like he was doing the 0:05:04.560 --> 0:05:06.680 shading to draw a line, you know how you like 0:05:06.760 --> 0:05:09.800 shaved down the line, and minds was like from like 0:05:09.880 --> 0:05:13.080 point one straight down to point two. Like I wasn't 0:05:13.440 --> 0:05:14.080 looking Like. 0:05:14.160 --> 0:05:15.760 Have you done the thing with Michael where you have 0:05:15.839 --> 0:05:17.800 to paint a bit and you get like time and 0:05:17.839 --> 0:05:19.400 you have to paint and then you swap over and 0:05:19.440 --> 0:05:21.840 you pass it and you're painting a picture. No, I 0:05:21.880 --> 0:05:23.920 did that. So it was like a TikTok thing where 0:05:24.480 --> 0:05:26.920 you get a blank canvas and you paint and then 0:05:26.920 --> 0:05:28.520 you pass it to your partner and then you keep 0:05:28.520 --> 0:05:29.159 switching it over. 0:05:29.200 --> 0:05:31.960 Well you did it like a like a duel painting. 0:05:32.120 --> 0:05:33.840 Yeah, and then you add something to it. 0:05:34.160 --> 0:05:35.919 Yeah, Michael probably wouldn't want to do that with me, 0:05:35.960 --> 0:05:37.400 and I'd ruin it. 0:05:37.400 --> 0:05:40.040 It was pretty funny, Like it was originally like flowers 0:05:40.040 --> 0:05:41.920 and I drew like bugs, coming out of the thing. 0:05:41.960 --> 0:05:45.279 It's fun, it's it sounds good. I mean, I'm like 0:05:45.400 --> 0:05:47.599 so into arts and crafts. I think like a couple 0:05:47.640 --> 0:05:50.320 of years ago I got into adult drawing because obviously 0:05:50.360 --> 0:05:54.840 I'm big into meditation and mindfulness and reducing anxiety. And 0:05:54.880 --> 0:05:59.279 someone said that adult coloring in is like so good 0:05:59.320 --> 0:06:02.200 for this calming the mind because you just focus in 0:06:02.760 --> 0:06:05.279 all of your energy on adult coloring. 0:06:05.480 --> 0:06:08.440 So when we were in before we went into the 0:06:08.520 --> 0:06:10.800 villa in Love Island, when we were locked into our 0:06:11.320 --> 0:06:13.240 hotel room for seven days. 0:06:13.480 --> 0:06:14.080 You were coloring. 0:06:14.480 --> 0:06:16.680 I brought a coloring book and Texas. It was a 0:06:16.680 --> 0:06:18.760 Marvel one and I was coloring in Avengers. 0:06:19.000 --> 0:06:19.840 That's really cute. 0:06:19.960 --> 0:06:22.240 Yeah, well, what do you normally do You sit on 0:06:22.240 --> 0:06:24.159 your phone so you couldn't. 0:06:23.839 --> 0:06:24.640 Be on movies. 0:06:24.680 --> 0:06:26.880 Yeah, I watched movies. I watched like fucking I Reckon 0:06:27.040 --> 0:06:28.680 thirty something movies I would have watch. 0:06:28.720 --> 0:06:29.840 Did that much adult coloring? 0:06:30.200 --> 0:06:32.360 Well I did. I did a lot, I feel I remember. 0:06:32.360 --> 0:06:33.960 I remember I was like sitting there while watching the 0:06:33.960 --> 0:06:37.280 movies coloring it in. Apparently I was the easiest one 0:06:37.279 --> 0:06:39.640 to deal with my chaperone and told me really because 0:06:39.680 --> 0:06:42.040 I just did not care I just sat there just. 0:06:42.040 --> 0:06:43.960 Like I think I was one of the hardest. Yeah, 0:06:44.120 --> 0:06:46.680 I only they had a double eye on me. Were 0:06:46.720 --> 0:06:48.080 you talking about laugh Island? 0:06:48.120 --> 0:06:51.440 Well, I had. I had another person in my hotel 0:06:51.720 --> 0:06:53.359 on the other side, so we would have to like 0:06:53.400 --> 0:06:55.200 they would have to chat when I was allowed to leave. 0:06:55.520 --> 0:06:57.520 Apparently other people like demanding what time they left, and 0:06:57.560 --> 0:06:59.200 I was like, yeah, whatever time, I'll go eat whenever, 0:06:59.240 --> 0:07:01.719 I'll go for exors. Yeah. I wasn't like I was 0:07:01.760 --> 0:07:02.560 just chill ours. 0:07:02.960 --> 0:07:04.880 I was more like trying to like sneak out or 0:07:04.920 --> 0:07:06.480 like to. 0:07:06.480 --> 0:07:08.200 Do what in Fiji? What were you going to do? 0:07:08.440 --> 0:07:12.560 Just be free, not be stuck in a room. I 0:07:12.600 --> 0:07:16.920 honestly hate authority, Like I hate the rules. I'm like, 0:07:17.280 --> 0:07:21.880 I like to break the rules. Cool cat, I'm just 0:07:22.400 --> 0:07:23.160 an adult. 0:07:25.560 --> 0:07:28.560 I just sat there adult, coloring and watching the American football. 0:07:29.320 --> 0:07:31.720 That's like, yes, sir, yeah, like cool as I have 0:07:31.840 --> 0:07:34.680 nothing like this is what I'd be doing anyway. He 0:07:35.000 --> 0:07:39.240 is everything ready to go for old arms Scoop. 0:07:39.400 --> 0:07:46.040 Scoop Scoop. That's probably one of the most stoopy with 0:07:46.120 --> 0:07:48.400 Snoopy Snoop Dog Snoopy. 0:07:48.800 --> 0:07:51.640 Are you ready for old Snoopy's birth. Is everything ready 0:07:51.840 --> 0:07:52.200 we are? 0:07:52.200 --> 0:07:55.680 We have to still build the prem We need to 0:07:56.000 --> 0:07:59.000 get a car seat and then pretty much everything on. 0:07:59.120 --> 0:08:00.480 I need to get like a baby holder. 0:08:00.960 --> 0:08:02.800 Yeah. Right, so you're really you're on the home stretch. 0:08:02.840 --> 0:08:04.320 Now do you have it to go back? Do you 0:08:04.360 --> 0:08:05.640 have it to go back for the hospital? 0:08:05.640 --> 0:08:07.320 I have a baby. Yeah, I have a hospital bag. 0:08:07.320 --> 0:08:10.000 I have a baby bag. I have a nappy caddy. 0:08:10.360 --> 0:08:13.280 Do you know what that is? No, I'm surprised pretty 0:08:13.360 --> 0:08:14.080 much know everything. 0:08:14.160 --> 0:08:17.080 Yeah I do. No, I guess I gets a nappy bag. No. 0:08:17.160 --> 0:08:18.840 Nappy caddy is where you set them up on the 0:08:18.920 --> 0:08:19.840 nappy changing table. 0:08:20.640 --> 0:08:23.280 No. I thought it was like it's like kind of 0:08:23.280 --> 0:08:24.960 like a bag, open bag and it's got all the 0:08:25.040 --> 0:08:26.560 nappies in it. So I'm putting it in the back 0:08:26.600 --> 0:08:28.360 of the car so i can change him in the 0:08:28.400 --> 0:08:28.960 back of the car. 0:08:29.160 --> 0:08:32.439 Yeah. Yeah, that's why everyone does change it. 0:08:32.559 --> 0:08:34.600 Yeah, so I'm not like breaking your ground. 0:08:34.800 --> 0:08:38.599 No, it's definitely where posy stuff changed, posy snapping in 0:08:38.640 --> 0:08:40.640 the back of the car before. Definitely. 0:08:41.120 --> 0:08:45.439 Also, Matt, this time last year, I was a week 0:08:45.600 --> 0:08:48.280 off of heading to Grease to get married to Michael. 0:08:48.480 --> 0:08:49.360 Is that a year ago? 0:08:49.600 --> 0:08:54.280 A year ago. Can you believe that time like literally 0:08:54.360 --> 0:08:56.120 goes so fast you blink. 0:08:55.880 --> 0:08:57.760 And nah, that's scary. 0:08:58.040 --> 0:09:00.800 That is scary because I remember being there like it 0:09:00.840 --> 0:09:01.559 was yesterday. 0:09:01.840 --> 0:09:04.640 Same. No, that is scary that I honestly feels like yesterday. 0:09:05.000 --> 0:09:07.560 I was like we were traveling to Corfu, we were 0:09:07.600 --> 0:09:10.520 even getting there. Yeah. Wow. 0:09:10.760 --> 0:09:13.439 It's so funny because Michael and I obviously we got 0:09:13.480 --> 0:09:15.319 legally married a month earlier. 0:09:15.600 --> 0:09:15.800 Yeah. 0:09:15.880 --> 0:09:19.880 Right, And so we've been kind of debating what anniversary 0:09:20.000 --> 0:09:22.400 all of them, all of them, Well, we didn't do 0:09:22.480 --> 0:09:25.040 the legal one, all of them. We didn't do the 0:09:25.120 --> 0:09:27.520 legal one because it was very close to my birthday. 0:09:27.600 --> 0:09:30.400 It doesn't mean celebrating them. Just have a glass of 0:09:30.480 --> 0:09:33.280 champagne for it, or a bottle of champagne. Oh yeah, 0:09:33.280 --> 0:09:35.000 well you know what I mean, Like I know, you 0:09:35.080 --> 0:09:37.599 have like just like a dinner or something to acknowledge it. 0:09:37.640 --> 0:09:39.959 When I say celebrated, I don't mean throwing a party 0:09:40.440 --> 0:09:42.520 like you know, I don't mean like, I just mean 0:09:42.559 --> 0:09:43.600 like acknowledging it, like. 0:09:43.640 --> 0:09:45.640 Acknowledging everything that we acknowledged it. 0:09:45.720 --> 0:09:47.920 Yeah. I think that's something that I like in a relationship. 0:09:47.920 --> 0:09:49.840 It's just to acknowledge all those little things, all the 0:09:49.880 --> 0:09:53.640 little little moments they count because in the grand scheme 0:09:53.679 --> 0:09:54.680 of things, that's all you've got. 0:09:54.840 --> 0:09:57.000 It was pretty cute. Both of our parents actually sent 0:09:57.160 --> 0:10:00.599 us a message and there happy legal marriage today or 0:10:00.640 --> 0:10:04.240 wedding day. But yeah, we didn't like officially celebrate it. 0:10:04.280 --> 0:10:09.040 But we will be celebrating the Greek wedding, our Greek wedding. 0:10:09.600 --> 0:10:13.319 But it's so close to the baby's arrival, so maybe 0:10:13.320 --> 0:10:16.480 we won't be celebrating. Is mainly what I was getting at. 0:10:16.720 --> 0:10:20.840 Okay, maybe I'll tell you what you do. Just just 0:10:21.760 --> 0:10:24.480 all right and just enjoy it, just have something nice, cute, 0:10:24.640 --> 0:10:25.880 like I was, just acknowledge it. 0:10:26.240 --> 0:10:29.560 Yeah, I know it's funny because like you think, like 0:10:30.000 --> 0:10:32.160 it's weird when you're in a relationship and you've been 0:10:32.160 --> 0:10:33.920 in a relationship with someone for let's say three or 0:10:33.920 --> 0:10:35.839 four years, and then you get married, and then it's 0:10:35.840 --> 0:10:37.959 like you have to start from square one, not to 0:10:37.960 --> 0:10:41.280 start from scure one. But it's like one year acknowledged. 0:10:41.440 --> 0:10:44.560 Like I've said before, I will acknowledge the date we met, 0:10:44.679 --> 0:10:45.640 the date we said up. 0:10:45.880 --> 0:10:51.000 You can be doing a lot of celebrating in your life, 0:10:52.080 --> 0:10:54.680 but I think that's the I think that's something sweet. 0:10:54.720 --> 0:10:56.319 That's my opinion. I'm a sentimental gar. 0:10:56.679 --> 0:10:58.840 Yeah, I'm kind of like, to be honest, there's a 0:10:58.880 --> 0:11:01.320 part of me that's like, I want to book a 0:11:01.320 --> 0:11:05.120 holiday when the baby's four months old, just celebrate. I 0:11:05.120 --> 0:11:07.600 don't know where to. I would personally love to go 0:11:07.679 --> 0:11:10.240 back to grew So I don't know if that's maybe 0:11:10.520 --> 0:11:13.319 just completely out of tune with what it's going to 0:11:13.400 --> 0:11:15.840 take to have a baby. 0:11:15.240 --> 0:11:17.040 Rights the audience. I don't. 0:11:17.240 --> 0:11:20.240 I don't know, guys, if you were a mom listening 0:11:20.320 --> 0:11:23.199 to this when it was the earliest that you traveled 0:11:23.200 --> 0:11:25.080 with a baby is what I want to know. 0:11:25.280 --> 0:11:27.960 And I was relaxing over the weekend and you sent 0:11:28.040 --> 0:11:33.040 me a photo of a photo, So I'm assuming this 0:11:33.120 --> 0:11:34.840 is you charged up by I look at things your 0:11:34.880 --> 0:11:36.080 old phone. 0:11:36.280 --> 0:11:40.080 Yeah. I charged up my old phone because I'm currently 0:11:40.080 --> 0:11:42.640 going through this super annoying phase where I'm trying to 0:11:42.720 --> 0:11:47.280 change my name from Anna McAvoy to Anna Staples. So 0:11:47.640 --> 0:11:49.320 I was looking through my old phone because it has 0:11:49.360 --> 0:11:52.360 my old email in it, and then I'm not very 0:11:52.360 --> 0:11:55.640 good at admin, as we know. So then Michael started 0:11:55.640 --> 0:11:58.520 doing that and I started looking through old photos and 0:11:58.600 --> 0:11:59.520 I came across. 0:12:00.880 --> 0:12:04.040 This is a photo of This is the first ever 0:12:04.120 --> 0:12:08.480 photo taken of Anna and myself featured date back to 0:12:09.320 --> 0:12:11.640 I Reckon two thousand and fifteen. 0:12:11.800 --> 0:12:15.559 Do you reckon? We were at the Maya Catwalk and 0:12:15.920 --> 0:12:17.840 we had a break in the middle of the day. 0:12:18.040 --> 0:12:18.600 Is that right? 0:12:18.760 --> 0:12:18.960 Yep? 0:12:19.160 --> 0:12:20.800 Ye, And then we all went to like a bar, 0:12:21.480 --> 0:12:24.959 a four hour break or something before the night show. 0:12:25.880 --> 0:12:30.720 Unrecognizable both of us, to the point where I actually asked, 0:12:30.800 --> 0:12:33.439 So I sent the photo to Matt, why is your 0:12:33.520 --> 0:12:35.440 eyeliner so thick? 0:12:35.880 --> 0:12:39.120 Dude? It was a Maya Catwalk show. It's not something 0:12:39.160 --> 0:12:43.160 that I did. There was a makeup to the point. Okay, 0:12:43.160 --> 0:12:44.800 So there's a photo of Matt and I. It's first 0:12:44.800 --> 0:12:45.960 ever photo that we've. 0:12:45.720 --> 0:12:47.439 Taken to it's a group selfie. 0:12:47.559 --> 0:12:49.199 It's a group selfie with like a few of the 0:12:49.240 --> 0:12:50.959 other models. It's mainly me and you. 0:12:51.240 --> 0:12:52.240 It is mainly us. Yeah. 0:12:52.280 --> 0:12:55.400 And then I literally said to Matt, is that you? 0:12:55.440 --> 0:12:58.160 Because that's how unrecognizable you look. 0:12:59.120 --> 0:13:03.080 Man, I am a in that photo. That's yeah, that's 0:13:03.160 --> 0:13:04.440 that is ten years old. 0:13:04.360 --> 0:13:06.320 And I'm wrapping the brunette hair you are. 0:13:06.440 --> 0:13:10.760 Look at my phone? How small was the iPhone back then. 0:13:11.520 --> 0:13:13.319 Your hand is bigger than the phone. 0:13:16.160 --> 0:13:19.200 We'll put this on the Instagram and the Facebook page. 0:13:19.240 --> 0:13:21.360 That is a hilarious photo. 0:13:21.600 --> 0:13:23.880 It's a photo we didn't even know that we had. 0:13:23.960 --> 0:13:28.079 So the fact that I have somehow found this amazing. 0:13:28.679 --> 0:13:30.080 I tried to send it to myself. 0:13:30.120 --> 0:13:33.880 Didn't work. Nice phone. Okay, so it doesn't air drop 0:13:33.960 --> 0:13:36.160 or anything. You can't I message it or anything off there. 0:13:36.760 --> 0:13:38.560 I mean to go back and find that photo I 0:13:38.640 --> 0:13:41.719 was deep in, that was deep in photos. I don't 0:13:41.720 --> 0:13:43.640 know if I could, or I probably could, but I 0:13:43.640 --> 0:13:48.240 don't know if I have the mental whilst pregnant. But 0:13:48.280 --> 0:13:50.880 we will put the photo of the photo on our 0:13:50.920 --> 0:13:53.600 Facebook page, maybe on our Instagram as well, and you 0:13:53.640 --> 0:13:55.800 guys can have a laugh because it's pretty funny. 0:13:55.840 --> 0:13:56.720 It's very funny. 0:13:56.840 --> 0:13:59.560 Okay, let's jump into today's episode. 0:14:02.240 --> 0:14:05.240 We Love Theories here, where's your header? And I don't we. 0:14:05.160 --> 0:14:07.000 Love a theory conspiracy theories? 0:14:07.840 --> 0:14:11.320 No, we're not that sort of podcast, not yet, not yet, 0:14:11.440 --> 0:14:13.560 not ever. I was thinking about going and hunting for 0:14:13.640 --> 0:14:19.400 the panther, not hunting panther. Currently in like Ballarat and 0:14:19.840 --> 0:14:23.440 around the outskirts of Victoria, there's a black panther that 0:14:23.520 --> 0:14:25.080 roams around. I'm not going to hunt him to kill him, 0:14:25.080 --> 0:14:26.680 but I want to hunt him to find him and 0:14:26.800 --> 0:14:28.040 report back. I was thinking about doing. 0:14:28.120 --> 0:14:28.960 And you believe that. 0:14:29.520 --> 0:14:30.680 I don't not believe it. 0:14:31.280 --> 0:14:32.480 What makes you believe it? 0:14:32.600 --> 0:14:34.160 There's been sightings of a big. 0:14:34.960 --> 0:14:38.080 There's insightings of the Lockness Monster in Scotland. It doesn't 0:14:38.080 --> 0:14:38.800 mean he's real. 0:14:40.600 --> 0:14:42.840 That's your theory. I think Lockheest monsters. We're not a 0:14:42.840 --> 0:14:45.280 conspiracy theory podcast. Let's move one. We love theories though. 0:14:45.320 --> 0:14:47.280 I mean maybe the Locknest months who does exist? I 0:14:47.320 --> 0:14:49.240 don't know. I've been in that lake on a little 0:14:49.280 --> 0:14:51.640 tiny boat and I was thinking, well, if this is 0:14:51.760 --> 0:14:53.720 this thing's real fun. 0:14:53.760 --> 0:14:57.160 You're fucked. I actually put on a really budget rated 0:14:57.200 --> 0:14:59.120 Locknest monster movie the other day. I had to turn 0:14:59.160 --> 0:15:01.760 it off. I I don't turn off movies. And you 0:15:01.800 --> 0:15:03.040 know that that's how bad it was. 0:15:04.080 --> 0:15:08.480 Must have been real dire, dire watching. Okay, so on 0:15:08.520 --> 0:15:13.680 this episode we are talking about the three great love theory. 0:15:13.800 --> 0:15:17.360 So you're either going to be the firework, the candle, 0:15:17.840 --> 0:15:18.520 and the mirror. 0:15:19.440 --> 0:15:21.120 You're either going to be in one of those relationships 0:15:21.200 --> 0:15:21.760 or had one of. 0:15:21.760 --> 0:15:23.880 Those relationships, have had one of those relationships. So it's 0:15:23.880 --> 0:15:27.200 about people who you've fallen in love with in your past. Obviously, 0:15:27.240 --> 0:15:29.760 we love doing this, we love figuring out which one 0:15:29.760 --> 0:15:32.480 we are, and you guys can at home as well. 0:15:32.720 --> 0:15:34.120 Okay, so do you want to tell us a bit 0:15:34.160 --> 0:15:36.920 about these three theories? Anna? 0:15:37.240 --> 0:15:40.960 Yeah, So first let's start with the firework, the most 0:15:41.200 --> 0:15:45.000 crazy one, as the name suggests, being a firework. So 0:15:45.080 --> 0:15:48.880 this love is the intoxicating love, the one that burns 0:15:48.920 --> 0:15:53.480 bright but fades quickly. So we've all had that relationship, 0:15:54.000 --> 0:15:56.160 I think, especially when I was younger. I think the 0:15:56.200 --> 0:16:00.000 firework theory happened a lot. Like you meet someone, it's explosion, 0:16:00.320 --> 0:16:04.400 and then next minute like it's over. It's it all 0:16:04.440 --> 0:16:05.400 happens so quick. 0:16:05.760 --> 0:16:06.240 Super and over. 0:16:06.920 --> 0:16:07.440 Literally. 0:16:07.560 --> 0:16:10.680 Is that what they called the burn bright, die young? Yeah. 0:16:10.720 --> 0:16:15.120 So it's exciting, it's dramatic, it's explosive, basically like an 0:16:15.160 --> 0:16:19.800 actual firework. It fizzles out quickly and often leaves behind 0:16:19.880 --> 0:16:25.200 a smoky aftermath of drama and emotional wreckage. Matt, can 0:16:25.360 --> 0:16:25.880 I relate? 0:16:26.000 --> 0:16:28.920 Yeah, I think in a couple of firework relationships, definitely. 0:16:29.800 --> 0:16:33.680 I feel like these ones, though, everyone has to go 0:16:33.800 --> 0:16:35.880 through them. I mean I say everyone, that's a bit 0:16:35.920 --> 0:16:37.840 of a broad statement, but I feel like you learn 0:16:37.920 --> 0:16:39.840 from them, and I feel like you better yourself from 0:16:39.880 --> 0:16:43.440 those relationships and understand a bit more about yourself and 0:16:43.480 --> 0:16:45.400 a bit more about dating. Like we've always said on 0:16:45.400 --> 0:16:49.920 this podcast, dating is about learning, and to learn, you 0:16:49.960 --> 0:16:52.720 need to get out there and explore different scenarios and 0:16:52.760 --> 0:16:55.880 different relationships. I think it's a very not useful, but 0:16:56.080 --> 0:16:58.480 it's something that might seem traumatic at the time, but 0:16:58.560 --> 0:16:59.600 you learn from it. Yeah. 0:16:59.640 --> 0:17:03.520 I think the firework love rarely works out, and I 0:17:03.560 --> 0:17:07.399 think it's good to learn that lesson young Yeah, so 0:17:07.440 --> 0:17:10.240 that you can kind of like see that Yes, it 0:17:10.320 --> 0:17:12.760 was fun at the start, but it's not there's no 0:17:12.840 --> 0:17:15.399 longevity in that type of relationship. 0:17:15.480 --> 0:17:21.040 People mistake that passion for like love and lusters in love. 0:17:21.119 --> 0:17:22.760 I feel like that happens a lot when you're younger 0:17:22.800 --> 0:17:23.200 as well. 0:17:23.560 --> 0:17:25.800 Yeah, But in saying that, I've never been in a 0:17:25.840 --> 0:17:28.520 relationship where there's not been fireworks at the start, like 0:17:28.720 --> 0:17:32.840 you know, like tummy, but have you Yeah, I done 0:17:32.840 --> 0:17:33.680 a slow burner. 0:17:33.800 --> 0:17:36.080 Yeah, I was with one when I was like hooking 0:17:36.160 --> 0:17:38.000 up with the girl for like a couple of years 0:17:38.080 --> 0:17:40.720 before I realized that she was cool shit can started 0:17:40.800 --> 0:17:42.240 dating her for over two years. 0:17:42.359 --> 0:17:45.639 That's that must be a rare scenario. Yeah, so what 0:17:45.680 --> 0:17:48.200 you guys were like friends with benefits. Yeah, and then 0:17:48.240 --> 0:17:49.120 it moved. 0:17:48.840 --> 0:17:50.879 Into it just it just got more and more like 0:17:50.960 --> 0:17:53.920 you know, from every fortnight to like once a week, 0:17:54.000 --> 0:17:56.760 twice a week, like go home after going out with 0:17:56.800 --> 0:17:59.359 her or go like and then eventually just got more 0:17:59.400 --> 0:18:00.800 and more like you know, and the more you talk 0:18:00.840 --> 0:18:02.560 and it was like dates, more days, and it just 0:18:02.600 --> 0:18:06.199 gradually became a relationship. Didn't work out obviously, Yeah, but 0:18:06.600 --> 0:18:09.680 you know you're young. They can happen you're young. 0:18:09.840 --> 0:18:13.560