Speaker 1: Hello, thank you for joining us today on Healthy Ish. Yes,
Speaker 1: this is the daily podcast from Body and Soul with
Speaker 1: me Felicity halle Ah. Who doesn't love Olympic boxer Harry
Speaker 1: Gar's side. Did you watch that video where he poured
Speaker 1: his heart out after his loss in Paris?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 1: My heart, I just wanted to hug him. Well, we
Speaker 1: caught up with him on his recent book too. Yes,
Speaker 1: he has a new one out to chat about that
Speaker 1: finish in Paris and how he's somewhat surprised with the
Speaker 1: way he's handling it all. Now, as you know, we
Speaker 1: keep these episodes quite short, so if you want more
Speaker 1: from Harry listening to Extra Healthy Ish, where he chats
Speaker 1: about how to get comfortable with being uncomfortable, you can
Speaker 1: search for our sister pod, Extra Healthy Ish wherever you
Speaker 1: get your podcasts. Harry, it's lovely having you back on
Speaker 1: the podcast. Thanks for joining us.
Speaker 3: I want to see very grateful to be here. Thanks
Speaker 3: for listening.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Now we've seen you in a lot of interview Well,
Speaker 1: I've seen you in a lot of interviews, particularly you know,
Speaker 1: ones like the project, and I've heard people asking how
Speaker 1: you're dealing with, you know, the failure of not getting
Speaker 1: a medal, the aftermath. In your book, you talk about,
Speaker 1: you know, the aftermath of Tokyo. How is it this
Speaker 1: time around?
Speaker 2: Is it different? How are you coping?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I've really reflect on this affair. But I have
Speaker 3: been asked a couple of times, and I'm actually doing
Speaker 3: reasonably well. And I think I don't know if you
Speaker 3: saw the post much interview, but I was like distraught.
Speaker 3: I was quite scared of what the future may hold
Speaker 3: because I think, I guess we judge our reactions based
Speaker 3: on past experiences, and some of my past experiences when
Speaker 3: I failed, especially a failure of this magnitude, like I
Speaker 3: cared so deeply. I was really scared. I was terrified
Speaker 3: because I in my past I have done some really
Speaker 3: poor things when I had failed, or when I had
Speaker 3: been embarrassed, or when I have gone through a heartbreak
Speaker 3: or a family loss, like I've really struggled, and I
Speaker 3: was terrified. Did I I don't know if it's maturity.
Speaker 3: I don't know if it's age. I don't know if
Speaker 3: it's growth, or I don't know if it's because I'm
Speaker 3: distracting myself so much being at home. I'm doing really
Speaker 3: well and I'm really grateful for that.
Speaker 2: Oh that's good. Yeah. Now I think all of Australia
Speaker 2: saw that in re all.
Speaker 1: Thought, oh, Harry, I mean, how do you have you
Speaker 1: watched that back? How do you feel reflecting on that
Speaker 1: post match?
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's really interesting. I've had it played in front
Speaker 3: of me, but I seem to just say, glance over.
Speaker 3: I don't know, it's like a weird thing. I think
Speaker 3: it's like a self preservation thing, to be completely honest,
Speaker 3: Like I it was so raw, it was so real,
Speaker 3: and I think I'm terrified to sort of put myself
Speaker 3: back there, especially in an environment where I don't feel safe,
Speaker 3: and most environments right like like I don't. There's probably
Speaker 3: a handful of people in my life that I would
Speaker 3: show my true, honest, raw emotions, and I think that's
Speaker 3: probably how it's supposed to be, Like I don't. I
Speaker 3: don't know if it's anyone else's I don't know, obligations
Speaker 3: the right word, but it's like no one else has
Speaker 3: the permission or the right I guess to sort of
Speaker 3: see it in our I was vulnerable in real state,
Speaker 3: and I try my best of these authentic as I can,
Speaker 3: but at the same time, so I need to honor
Speaker 3: that thing inside myself that it's like I need to
Speaker 3: protect itself, and around my family, around my friends, I
Speaker 3: can sort of be myself a bit more.
Speaker 1: Oh, I thought your post match interview post fight interview
Speaker 1: was actually refreshing, because you know, most most athletes, we
Speaker 1: see like I'm disappointed, but I'm okay, you know, like
Speaker 1: I want to thank everyone, but you were just You're
Speaker 1: exactly how we would all feel at that point.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's the highs and levels of life, you know
Speaker 3: what I mean. I always think that, Like I was
Speaker 3: terrified in that moment, but then I also woke up
Speaker 3: the next day and I was like sort of beating
Speaker 3: myself up for half the day. And then there's like
Speaker 3: weird epiphany, like I spent twenty years chasing this journey,
Speaker 3: and I become my own friend on that journey, and
Speaker 3: like that's a way bigger reward than a gold medal
Speaker 3: or like money or finance or fame. Like having a
Speaker 3: good relationship with yourself is way more important for me.
Speaker 3: And I didn't start the journey for that reason, but
Speaker 3: I'm grateful that was the reward that I got from
Speaker 3: the journey.
Speaker 1: So what did you say to yourself, what have you
Speaker 1: been saying to yourself? Even when you're talking about it
Speaker 1: now before people, you know, you go into an interview
Speaker 1: and you know, you think, okay, people are gonna ask me,
Speaker 1: what do you say to yourself as a friend.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's really interesting, I think I very much just
Speaker 3: try to disassociate from it because it is like I
Speaker 3: don't know, I guess even on social media, the more
Speaker 3: sort of public known or fame, I guess that you have,
Speaker 3: I don't know. It's like it's a character Like I
Speaker 3: know that I'm flawed, imperfect. I also know that I'm
Speaker 3: super caring and generous, and I try my hardest in
Speaker 3: most things, and I always try and be a good person.
Speaker 3: But it's like people are just like tapping on the
Speaker 3: barm and like it's a lot of love. I'm getting
Speaker 3: a lot of lot. I'm so unbelievably grateful. Like if
Speaker 3: I start listening to all of that, like you start
Speaker 3: thinking you're a legend, and I'm like, I'm not. I'm human.
Speaker 3: I'm just like everyone else. I'm flawed, imperfect, I'm more
Speaker 3: so caring and loving, and I just try to sit
Speaker 3: in there just remember that like a lot of people
Speaker 3: who are giving me loves like they don't know the
Speaker 3: real me, and I'm really grateful that they're giving me
Speaker 3: so much. Other I feel really grateful, but at the
Speaker 3: same time, I try never let it go go to
Speaker 3: my head.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's an interesting conundrum, isn't it, Because you, you know,
Speaker 1: is your name's grown you as people watched you in Paris,
Speaker 1: and I mean you're you're following. I mean, I think
Speaker 1: when you're on this podcast last time, perhaps it was
Speaker 1: half what it is is now, so being able to
Speaker 1: perhaps divide those people but remember who you are. What
Speaker 1: are some good bits about Paris? That's what I want
Speaker 1: to talk about. What did you enjoy about it?
Speaker 3: It's so interesting. It was the first time I'd been
Speaker 3: to Paris, and I like, obviously it wasn't the result
Speaker 3: that I wanted, and I was heartbroken for a couple
Speaker 3: of days. But my family, a few of my good
Speaker 3: mates were there, and it's like I got ten days
Speaker 3: in a foreign country with some of my closest people,
Speaker 3: my inner sanctum. We got to eat bad food and
Speaker 3: drink some red wine and see the beautiful nature of
Speaker 3: France and Paris, and it's such a beautiful city and
Speaker 3: I people either love Paris or hate Paris, and I
Speaker 3: absolutely loved it. So I'm really grateful for that experience.
Speaker 3: And also as well watching like Naomi Fox absolutely don't
Speaker 3: I'm good friends with Jess Fox as well. Seeing you dominate,
Speaker 3: seeing the Australian team absolutely dominate, my favorite person, Cambin
Speaker 3: Parker on the boxing team when a bronze medal like
Speaker 3: so good. There were so many good experiences for myself.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's good.
Speaker 1: Actually, you mentioned in a sanctom you thank them in
Speaker 1: the opening of your book. How important are they and
Speaker 1: describe them, you know, the role they play in your life.
Speaker 3: Yeah, for me, it's imperative. And I went through some
Speaker 3: pretty heavy stuff last year and it was in that
Speaker 3: it was like a really heavy moment for myself and
Speaker 3: a really sort of like pivotal moment in my life.
Speaker 3: And I think my inner sanctum got way smaller in
Speaker 3: that time and I'm forever for that situation. So my
Speaker 3: inner sanctum now is less way less people, but the
Speaker 3: people who in it are solid and I know they
Speaker 3: would have my back through thick and thin, and I
Speaker 3: hope that they feel the same towards me.
Speaker 1: How I mean, just give us a ballpark, how many?
Speaker 1: Because I think this is a really I mean, we
Speaker 1: do all know that it's cliche, but it's true.
Speaker 2: You are the some of the people you surround yourself with.
Speaker 1: How you know, some people who perhaps think they're in
Speaker 1: your inn Santon who aren't anymore. Like it's it's sometimes
Speaker 1: hard kind of navigating who's that in a sanctum without
Speaker 1: offending other people who perhaps feel they should be but aren't.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think I heard this on a podcast recently.
Speaker 3: I actually think that we can only it's like a
Speaker 3: hundred people or something like that. That's the only that's
Speaker 3: a certain amount of people before we forget. And someone
Speaker 3: like me, I'm always going I think, like you're in
Speaker 3: an in a sanctum, you might be able to remember
Speaker 3: a hundred people like you're in a sanctum. I reckon
Speaker 3: it would be less than ten.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 3: It's like, of course you've got your family, and it's
Speaker 3: like sometimes they're like in and out of you in
Speaker 3: a sanctum. Like sometimes I wouldn't. I would go like
Speaker 3: a week or two without talking to my mum or dad.
Speaker 3: It's just like it's part of adulthood, right, But like
Speaker 3: they're always like on the cusp and then they're in
Speaker 3: sometimes like four, especially when I went through Paris heartbreak,
Speaker 3: like they were there to pick me up and to
Speaker 3: help me out. And I think it's less than ten,
Speaker 3: I would say in a sanctum, and that would vary
Speaker 3: throughout the time.
Speaker 2: So what does Harry gas I do now? Is over?
Speaker 1: I mean, is it there is a bit of a
Speaker 1: comdown surely when you come home? Or are you enjoying
Speaker 1: enjoying Melbourne, enjoying home.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's really interesting because this happened to me last time.
Speaker 3: Obviously it was a success after Tokyo and I rode
Speaker 3: this massive wave like doors were opening. I was like
Speaker 3: getting all these opportunities. It was wild, right, and I
Speaker 3: rode that wave for close to eighteen months, and then
Speaker 3: I like, I remember like one day I was just
Speaker 3: like wow, I'm so like sad, and I was like,
Speaker 3: what is going on? I had no idea what was
Speaker 3: going on? And I'm like, it's because I haven't actually
Speaker 3: had a proper company on post Tokyo Olympics, and I
Speaker 3: must have been I'm feeling great now. I don't I
Speaker 3: did write a poem about this. I don't know if
Speaker 3: we've got time. But like it was about, I think
Speaker 3: I'm waiting for something to like bench me or like
Speaker 3: I'm like rock me, or just like really a soul
Speaker 3: shattering moment. I don't know.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's funny, isn't it.
Speaker 3: Now?
Speaker 2: You're just like, Okay, is it come down? Gonna come?
Speaker 3: Is it?
Speaker 1: Kind of well, just sit with it and feel it
Speaker 1: when it comes. And Harry, and you've got your book
Speaker 1: to promote.
Speaker 2: Hey, that's an upset.
Speaker 3: So that's myself. I said, like, after this book tour,
Speaker 3: I'm going to create some space and get like four
Speaker 3: or five days in nature, no phone, just by myself
Speaker 3: and create the space to feel some emotions.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I like it. Harry, Thanks for coming.
Speaker 3: On healthy Ish, Thanks listening.
Speaker 2: Four friends.
Speaker 1: I am going to give a shout out to Harry's
Speaker 1: new book. It is called The Good Fight.
Speaker 2: It is out now. It'll be a good purchase, a
Speaker 2: good rate. You should get it. If you did enjoy.
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