WEBVTT - Olympian Harry Garside learnt a lot about himself after Paris

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<v Speaker 1>Hello, thank you for joining us today on Healthy Ish. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>this is the daily podcast from Body and Soul with

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<v Speaker 1>me Felicity halle Ah. Who doesn't love Olympic boxer Harry

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<v Speaker 1>Gar's side. Did you watch that video where he poured

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<v Speaker 1>his heart out after his loss in Paris?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh?

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<v Speaker 1>My heart, I just wanted to hug him. Well, we

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<v Speaker 1>caught up with him on his recent book too. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>he has a new one out to chat about that

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<v Speaker 1>finish in Paris and how he's somewhat surprised with the

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<v Speaker 1>way he's handling it all. Now, as you know, we

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<v Speaker 1>keep these episodes quite short, so if you want more

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<v Speaker 1>search for our sister pod, Extra Healthy Ish wherever you

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<v Speaker 1>get your podcasts. Harry, it's lovely having you back on

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<v Speaker 1>the podcast. Thanks for joining us.

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<v Speaker 3>I want to see very grateful to be here. Thanks

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<v Speaker 3>for listening.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Now we've seen you in a lot of interview Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I've seen you in a lot of interviews, particularly you know,

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<v Speaker 1>ones like the project, and I've heard people asking how

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<v Speaker 1>you're dealing with, you know, the failure of not getting

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<v Speaker 1>a medal, the aftermath. In your book, you talk about,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, the aftermath of Tokyo. How is it this

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<v Speaker 1>time around?

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<v Speaker 2>Is it different? How are you coping?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I've really reflect on this affair. But I have

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<v Speaker 3>been asked a couple of times, and I'm actually doing

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<v Speaker 3>reasonably well. And I think I don't know if you

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<v Speaker 3>saw the post much interview, but I was like distraught.

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<v Speaker 3>I was quite scared of what the future may hold

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<v Speaker 3>because I think, I guess we judge our reactions based

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<v Speaker 3>on past experiences, and some of my past experiences when

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<v Speaker 3>I failed, especially a failure of this magnitude, like I

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<v Speaker 3>cared so deeply. I was really scared. I was terrified

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<v Speaker 3>because I in my past I have done some really

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<v Speaker 3>poor things when I had failed, or when I had

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<v Speaker 3>been embarrassed, or when I have gone through a heartbreak

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<v Speaker 3>or a family loss, like I've really struggled, and I

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<v Speaker 3>was terrified. Did I I don't know if it's maturity.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know if it's age. I don't know if

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<v Speaker 3>it's growth, or I don't know if it's because I'm

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<v Speaker 3>distracting myself so much being at home. I'm doing really

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<v Speaker 3>well and I'm really grateful for that.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh that's good. Yeah. Now I think all of Australia

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<v Speaker 2>saw that in re all.

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<v Speaker 1>Thought, oh, Harry, I mean, how do you have you

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<v Speaker 1>watched that back? How do you feel reflecting on that

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<v Speaker 1>post match?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it's really interesting. I've had it played in front

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<v Speaker 3>of me, but I seem to just say, glance over.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know, it's like a weird thing. I think

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<v Speaker 3>it's like a self preservation thing, to be completely honest,

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<v Speaker 3>Like I it was so raw, it was so real,

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<v Speaker 3>and I think I'm terrified to sort of put myself

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<v Speaker 3>back there, especially in an environment where I don't feel safe,

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<v Speaker 3>and most environments right like like I don't. There's probably

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<v Speaker 3>a handful of people in my life that I would

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<v Speaker 3>show my true, honest, raw emotions, and I think that's

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<v Speaker 3>probably how it's supposed to be, Like I don't. I

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<v Speaker 3>don't know if it's anyone else's I don't know, obligations

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<v Speaker 3>the right word, but it's like no one else has

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<v Speaker 3>the permission or the right I guess to sort of

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<v Speaker 3>see it in our I was vulnerable in real state,

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<v Speaker 3>and I try my best of these authentic as I can,

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<v Speaker 3>but at the same time, so I need to honor

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<v Speaker 3>that thing inside myself that it's like I need to

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<v Speaker 3>protect itself, and around my family, around my friends, I

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<v Speaker 3>can sort of be myself a bit more.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, I thought your post match interview post fight interview

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<v Speaker 1>was actually refreshing, because you know, most most athletes, we

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<v Speaker 1>see like I'm disappointed, but I'm okay, you know, like

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<v Speaker 1>I want to thank everyone, but you were just You're

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<v Speaker 1>exactly how we would all feel at that point.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it's the highs and levels of life, you know

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<v Speaker 3>what I mean. I always think that, Like I was

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<v Speaker 3>terrified in that moment, but then I also woke up

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<v Speaker 3>the next day and I was like sort of beating

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<v Speaker 3>myself up for half the day. And then there's like

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<v Speaker 3>weird epiphany, like I spent twenty years chasing this journey,

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<v Speaker 3>and I become my own friend on that journey, and

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<v Speaker 3>like that's a way bigger reward than a gold medal

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<v Speaker 3>or like money or finance or fame. Like having a

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<v Speaker 3>good relationship with yourself is way more important for me.

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<v Speaker 3>And I didn't start the journey for that reason, but

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<v Speaker 3>I'm grateful that was the reward that I got from

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<v Speaker 3>the journey.

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<v Speaker 1>So what did you say to yourself, what have you

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<v Speaker 1>been saying to yourself? Even when you're talking about it

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<v Speaker 1>now before people, you know, you go into an interview

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, you think, okay, people are gonna ask me,

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<v Speaker 1>what do you say to yourself as a friend.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it's really interesting, I think I very much just

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<v Speaker 3>try to disassociate from it because it is like I

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<v Speaker 3>don't know, I guess even on social media, the more

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<v Speaker 3>sort of public known or fame, I guess that you have,

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know. It's like it's a character Like I

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<v Speaker 3>know that I'm flawed, imperfect. I also know that I'm

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<v Speaker 3>super caring and generous, and I try my hardest in

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<v Speaker 3>most things, and I always try and be a good person.

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<v Speaker 3>But it's like people are just like tapping on the

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<v Speaker 3>barm and like it's a lot of love. I'm getting

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<v Speaker 3>a lot of lot. I'm so unbelievably grateful. Like if

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<v Speaker 3>I start listening to all of that, like you start

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<v Speaker 3>thinking you're a legend, and I'm like, I'm not. I'm human.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm just like everyone else. I'm flawed, imperfect, I'm more

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<v Speaker 3>so caring and loving, and I just try to sit

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<v Speaker 3>in there just remember that like a lot of people

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<v Speaker 3>who are giving me loves like they don't know the

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<v Speaker 3>real me, and I'm really grateful that they're giving me

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<v Speaker 3>so much. Other I feel really grateful, but at the

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<v Speaker 3>same time, I try never let it go go to

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<v Speaker 3>my head.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's an interesting conundrum, isn't it, Because you, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>is your name's grown you as people watched you in Paris,

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<v Speaker 1>and I mean you're you're following. I mean, I think

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<v Speaker 1>when you're on this podcast last time, perhaps it was

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<v Speaker 1>half what it is is now, so being able to

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<v Speaker 1>perhaps divide those people but remember who you are. What

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<v Speaker 1>are some good bits about Paris? That's what I want

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<v Speaker 1>to talk about. What did you enjoy about it?

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<v Speaker 3>It's so interesting. It was the first time I'd been

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<v Speaker 3>to Paris, and I like, obviously it wasn't the result

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<v Speaker 3>that I wanted, and I was heartbroken for a couple

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<v Speaker 3>of days. But my family, a few of my good

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<v Speaker 3>mates were there, and it's like I got ten days

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<v Speaker 3>in a foreign country with some of my closest people,

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<v Speaker 3>my inner sanctum. We got to eat bad food and

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<v Speaker 3>drink some red wine and see the beautiful nature of

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<v Speaker 3>France and Paris, and it's such a beautiful city and

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<v Speaker 3>I people either love Paris or hate Paris, and I

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<v Speaker 3>absolutely loved it. So I'm really grateful for that experience.

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<v Speaker 3>And also as well watching like Naomi Fox absolutely don't

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<v Speaker 3>I'm good friends with Jess Fox as well. Seeing you dominate,

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<v Speaker 3>seeing the Australian team absolutely dominate, my favorite person, Cambin

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<v Speaker 3>Parker on the boxing team when a bronze medal like

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<v Speaker 3>so good. There were so many good experiences for myself.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's good.

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<v Speaker 1>Actually, you mentioned in a sanctom you thank them in

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<v Speaker 1>the opening of your book. How important are they and

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<v Speaker 1>describe them, you know, the role they play in your life.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, for me, it's imperative. And I went through some

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<v Speaker 3>pretty heavy stuff last year and it was in that

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<v Speaker 3>it was like a really heavy moment for myself and

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<v Speaker 3>a really sort of like pivotal moment in my life.

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<v Speaker 3>And I think my inner sanctum got way smaller in

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<v Speaker 3>that time and I'm forever for that situation. So my

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<v Speaker 3>inner sanctum now is less way less people, but the

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<v Speaker 3>people who in it are solid and I know they

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<v Speaker 3>would have my back through thick and thin, and I

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<v Speaker 3>hope that they feel the same towards me.

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<v Speaker 1>How I mean, just give us a ballpark, how many?

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<v Speaker 1>Because I think this is a really I mean, we

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<v Speaker 1>do all know that it's cliche, but it's true.

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<v Speaker 2>You are the some of the people you surround yourself with.

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<v Speaker 1>How you know, some people who perhaps think they're in

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<v Speaker 1>your inn Santon who aren't anymore. Like it's it's sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>hard kind of navigating who's that in a sanctum without

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<v Speaker 1>offending other people who perhaps feel they should be but aren't.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I think I heard this on a podcast recently.

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<v Speaker 3>I actually think that we can only it's like a

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<v Speaker 3>hundred people or something like that. That's the only that's

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<v Speaker 3>a certain amount of people before we forget. And someone

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<v Speaker 3>like me, I'm always going I think, like you're in

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<v Speaker 3>an in a sanctum, you might be able to remember

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<v Speaker 3>a hundred people like you're in a sanctum. I reckon

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<v Speaker 3>it would be less than ten.

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<v Speaker 2>Right.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like, of course you've got your family, and it's

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<v Speaker 3>like sometimes they're like in and out of you in

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<v Speaker 3>a sanctum. Like sometimes I wouldn't. I would go like

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<v Speaker 3>a week or two without talking to my mum or dad.

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<v Speaker 3>It's just like it's part of adulthood, right, But like

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<v Speaker 3>they're always like on the cusp and then they're in

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<v Speaker 3>sometimes like four, especially when I went through Paris heartbreak,

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<v Speaker 3>like they were there to pick me up and to

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<v Speaker 3>help me out. And I think it's less than ten,

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<v Speaker 3>I would say in a sanctum, and that would vary

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<v Speaker 3>throughout the time.

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<v Speaker 2>So what does Harry gas I do now? Is over?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, is it there is a bit of a

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<v Speaker 1>comdown surely when you come home? Or are you enjoying

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<v Speaker 1>enjoying Melbourne, enjoying home.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it's really interesting because this happened to me last time.

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<v Speaker 3>Obviously it was a success after Tokyo and I rode

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<v Speaker 3>this massive wave like doors were opening. I was like

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<v Speaker 3>getting all these opportunities. It was wild, right, and I

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<v Speaker 3>rode that wave for close to eighteen months, and then

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<v Speaker 3>I like, I remember like one day I was just

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<v Speaker 3>like wow, I'm so like sad, and I was like,

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<v Speaker 3>what is going on? I had no idea what was

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<v Speaker 3>going on? And I'm like, it's because I haven't actually

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<v Speaker 3>had a proper company on post Tokyo Olympics, and I

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<v Speaker 3>must have been I'm feeling great now. I don't I

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<v Speaker 3>did write a poem about this. I don't know if

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<v Speaker 3>we've got time. But like it was about, I think

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<v Speaker 3>I'm waiting for something to like bench me or like

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like rock me, or just like really a soul

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<v Speaker 3>shattering moment. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's funny, isn't it.

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<v Speaker 3>Now?

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<v Speaker 2>You're just like, Okay, is it come down? Gonna come?

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<v Speaker 3>Is it?

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<v Speaker 1>Kind of well, just sit with it and feel it

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<v Speaker 1>when it comes. And Harry, and you've got your book

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<v Speaker 1>to promote.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey, that's an upset.

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<v Speaker 3>So that's myself. I said, like, after this book tour,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm going to create some space and get like four

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<v Speaker 3>or five days in nature, no phone, just by myself

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<v Speaker 3>and create the space to feel some emotions.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I like it. Harry, Thanks for coming.

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<v Speaker 3>On healthy Ish, Thanks listening.

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<v Speaker 2>Four friends.

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<v Speaker 1>I am going to give a shout out to Harry's

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<v Speaker 1>new book. It is called The Good Fight.

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<v Speaker 2>It is out now. It'll be a good purchase, a

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<v Speaker 2>good rate. You should get it. If you did enjoy.

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