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Speaker 1: This is the Fits In with Her with Kate Richie podcast.

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Speaker 2: I want to chat about being in a relationship and

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Speaker 2: you know what the pros and cons of that might be.

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Speaker 1: Let's chat about it.

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Speaker 2: Well where we're even on the you know, on the horizon,

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Speaker 2: we're seeing our very own singles party, and what we

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Speaker 2: want to do is bring people together. But I saw

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Speaker 2: this article overnight and that's what I want to talk about.

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Speaker 2: Whether you've you have found yourself in a relationship, and

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Speaker 2: I guess that's where you think you know your life

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Speaker 2: is going to be great, but in actual fact, you

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Speaker 2: feel very lonely. You're very lonely in that relationship. And

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Speaker 2: it all comes down to your partner's hobby. Maybe they

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Speaker 2: love their hobby more than they love you.

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Speaker 1: Impossible.

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Speaker 2: Anyway, I'm going to get more up and about around

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Speaker 2: the stud feel it felt a bit, It did feel

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Speaker 2: a bit heavy.

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Speaker 3: I'm stretching at the moment, getting ready for this story.

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Speaker 2: This is fun. She has this woman has said I'm

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Speaker 2: in a great relationship in some areas, like as far

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Speaker 2: as intimacy goes.

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Speaker 1: She's like this, this is wow.

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Speaker 3: Wow.

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Speaker 2: Wee guys, you know it's just Brian Taylor it's just

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Speaker 2: it's just him and I. As far as that part

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Speaker 2: of the relationship goes, it couldn't be better, never has

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Speaker 2: been better. But then he has this hobby and that

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Speaker 2: when they're not when they're not together in that way,

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Speaker 2: she's in she calls herself invisible, how long you.

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Speaker 1: Been seeing this guy? Sorry, no, this is not me.

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Speaker 2: And he's even said, well, I have this hobby and

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Speaker 2: I'm never going to change. And I'm thinking, wow, maybe

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Speaker 2: he's into sports cars or racing or something, but he's

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Speaker 2: mad for metal detecting. Oh wow, which I think as

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Speaker 2: far as hobbies go, about as sexy as you get,

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Speaker 2: it's pretty lonsome, isn't it.

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Speaker 3: It's loansome. But it's also is there a level of

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Speaker 3: tied ass to these people where they're just trying, Because

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Speaker 3: I've always thought that you actually are trying. You're benefiting

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Speaker 3: from someone's misfortune of leaving something not high and.

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Speaker 1: Not always you're thinking of just lost property. There's a

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Speaker 1: lot of metal detecting, and there's a lot there's a

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Speaker 1: big community that are looking for gold, so they'll go

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Speaker 1: to places they believe that under the surface sits a

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Speaker 1: little nug and the next thing you know, they're out

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Speaker 1: there with their headphones swiping their detector up.

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Speaker 2: How many nugs of gold are they're still left on beaches.

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Speaker 1: People go into the rivers in Tasmania. I follow them

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Speaker 1: on Instagram and they have little vacuums and they suck

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Speaker 1: up the rocks that get pumped into sort of a

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Speaker 1: process mill that they've set up on the side of

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Speaker 1: the bank and they're siving for gold.

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Speaker 2: But that's different to looking for like going to the

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Speaker 2: beach after the end of a long, hot summer day, and.

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Speaker 3: You've got to live in regional Tasmania to do that.

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Speaker 3: We're about going down to your beach, down to Cronulla.

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Speaker 1: People in South Wales that go out into the bush looking.

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Speaker 2: For gold, well, I don't know how extreme it is

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Speaker 2: for this guy. I mean, maybe it is that extreme

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Speaker 2: that he kind of you know, they move from the

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Speaker 2: bedroom and then he gets dressed and puts his boots

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Speaker 2: on or whatever he does, and then he's helf metal

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Speaker 2: detecting and she feels really lonely. But I guess this

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Speaker 2: can happen in relationships where either somebody is a collector

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Speaker 2: or something. I don't know, I mean, maybe metal detecting

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Speaker 2: is far healthier than having a hobby of you know,

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Speaker 2: betting on the dogs.

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Speaker 3: Do you know what she needs to do right? And

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Speaker 3: I wonder if there is a bit of role play

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Speaker 3: she should ask him for a bit of role play

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Speaker 3: in the bedroom where he wears his outfit with the

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Speaker 3: metal detector on the metal detector and she's learning about

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Speaker 3: his hobby. Then they're also you know, getting frisky with

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Speaker 3: each other. Maybe that he just runs the metal detector

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Speaker 3: over her or I think I found something here, so.

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Speaker 1: She needs a piercing off for the metal detectives you herself,

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Speaker 1: and then he comes in with the metal Detector's that

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Speaker 1: he has to find her in the room by the

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Speaker 1: metal detector and the piercing.

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Speaker 2: Like hot and cold. You're saying that because she feels

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Speaker 2: utterly lonely in the relationship, she should better herself and

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Speaker 2: have taken more interest in her husband's hobby.

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Speaker 3: No, she gets to learn more about If he doesn't

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Speaker 3: want to open up about his hobby, she can learn

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Speaker 3: more and they can integrate both into the bedroom. And

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Speaker 3: then you're gonna you know what, at the end of

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Speaker 3: the day, you're both hitting Jack Potter.

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Speaker 1: You are, and it's the other thing is most people

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Speaker 1: that metal detect they will take someone with them because

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Speaker 1: one will have the swipe right the dish that's low

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Speaker 1: to the ground, and when it beeps the other he

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Speaker 1: says to the other one, Oh, that's great.

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Speaker 2: So she gets to be like the Sioux chef.

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Speaker 3: You ever seen a metal detector with two people?

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Speaker 1: Dig Now, dig deeper. It could be a little bit more.

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Speaker 1: So she could be the digger.

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Speaker 2: I actually think it says a lot about somebody's personality

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Speaker 2: metal detecting that he's always looking for that win. So

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Speaker 2: maybe yeah, so that could be taken into the relationship.

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Speaker 2: She's just for now.

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Speaker 3: We're down at the Surflar Saving Club. We used to

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Speaker 3: scatter bottle caps all into the beach and just watch

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Speaker 3: the old blokes rock up and have a bit of

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Speaker 3: a chuckle up there as we're doing flags. Oh you

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Speaker 3: find something, Oh might be a fifty cent piece another

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Speaker 3: bottle cap, Sorry.

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