1 00:00:05,921 --> 00:00:11,521 Speaker 1: Apoge Production. I need your advice. 2 00:00:12,241 --> 00:00:13,441 Speaker 2: Are you okay what happened? 3 00:00:14,041 --> 00:00:18,441 Speaker 1: Promise it won't be too much. Bring it in. Welcome 4 00:00:18,601 --> 00:00:26,320 Speaker 1: to our Bestie segment. This is the place for you. 5 00:00:28,041 --> 00:00:30,681 Speaker 3: Welcome back to She Rises for another segment on the 6 00:00:30,721 --> 00:00:33,040 Speaker 3: Bestie Advice segment. Now, this is where you bring in 7 00:00:33,040 --> 00:00:36,401 Speaker 3: your anonymous questions or things that you're needing bestie advice on. 8 00:00:36,681 --> 00:00:39,361 Speaker 3: And it's something that if you feel like you don't 9 00:00:39,361 --> 00:00:42,280 Speaker 3: really have anywhere to go, anywhere to turn to, or 10 00:00:42,321 --> 00:00:44,681 Speaker 3: anyone to lean on in your life, let us give 11 00:00:44,721 --> 00:00:46,881 Speaker 3: you our best the advice based on how we would 12 00:00:46,961 --> 00:00:50,081 Speaker 3: respond to each other. So, Ashy, before you take it away, 13 00:00:50,120 --> 00:00:52,200 Speaker 3: I just want to do a quick trigger warning that 14 00:00:52,241 --> 00:00:54,761 Speaker 3: we are going to be talking about sexual abuse and 15 00:00:54,840 --> 00:00:58,201 Speaker 3: conversations relating to sexual abuse in this episode. 16 00:00:58,481 --> 00:01:00,961 Speaker 2: Yes, once again, this is completely anonymous. We have no 17 00:01:01,001 --> 00:01:04,161 Speaker 2: idea who's written this in, but let's get straight into it. Hi, ladies, 18 00:01:04,241 --> 00:01:06,601 Speaker 2: I love listening to your podcast. It's helped me a lot. 19 00:01:06,721 --> 00:01:08,840 Speaker 2: I'm just wanting to know some advice and basically to 20 00:01:08,881 --> 00:01:11,280 Speaker 2: know whether this is wrong. So I've been with my 21 00:01:11,321 --> 00:01:13,840 Speaker 2: boyfriend for about a year now, and before we started dating, 22 00:01:13,881 --> 00:01:16,280 Speaker 2: we were just messaging each other. I hadn't had any 23 00:01:16,360 --> 00:01:20,241 Speaker 2: sexual interactions with anyone for two years. My last breakup 24 00:01:20,321 --> 00:01:23,161 Speaker 2: was quite bad, and I've had sexual assault in my past. 25 00:01:23,840 --> 00:01:25,801 Speaker 2: My thoughts and what my friends were encouraging me to 26 00:01:25,801 --> 00:01:27,481 Speaker 2: do was just to find someone to have a one 27 00:01:27,560 --> 00:01:29,280 Speaker 2: night stand with and get it over and done with 28 00:01:29,321 --> 00:01:31,000 Speaker 2: because then I wouldn't have to speak about it or 29 00:01:31,000 --> 00:01:33,241 Speaker 2: see them ever again, which in my mind I thought 30 00:01:33,321 --> 00:01:35,560 Speaker 2: might have been a good idea. Then not long after, 31 00:01:35,601 --> 00:01:37,720 Speaker 2: I end up together with my boyfriend. I don't tell 32 00:01:37,801 --> 00:01:39,440 Speaker 2: him because I don't think that's something I need to 33 00:01:39,441 --> 00:01:42,000 Speaker 2: tell him. Oh, so she was messaging him, but they 34 00:01:42,000 --> 00:01:43,920 Speaker 2: weren't flew together. She had a one night stand and 35 00:01:43,920 --> 00:01:46,481 Speaker 2: then got with him, Right, So I'm guessing the relationship 36 00:01:46,521 --> 00:01:48,601 Speaker 2: wasn't official because they were just messaging. 37 00:01:48,361 --> 00:01:50,641 Speaker 1: Right, That's what I'm saying. It was actually in a relationship. 38 00:01:50,761 --> 00:01:53,681 Speaker 2: Yoh, yeah, I had the one night stand. A couple 39 00:01:53,721 --> 00:01:55,561 Speaker 2: of months in my boyfriend goes through my room and 40 00:01:55,601 --> 00:01:57,641 Speaker 2: finds my journal and I wrote about it in there, 41 00:01:57,681 --> 00:01:59,721 Speaker 2: and that's how he finds out and it caused a 42 00:01:59,881 --> 00:02:03,081 Speaker 2: massive fight and we've nearly broken up multiple times, but 43 00:02:03,561 --> 00:02:05,761 Speaker 2: we're still together and I don't know what to do. 44 00:02:05,841 --> 00:02:08,081 Speaker 2: He calls me names and puts me down all the time, 45 00:02:08,441 --> 00:02:10,401 Speaker 2: and I don't know how to go about it because 46 00:02:10,401 --> 00:02:12,441 Speaker 2: he broke my trust reading my journal, and did I 47 00:02:12,481 --> 00:02:14,921 Speaker 2: break his by not telling him about this. I don't 48 00:02:14,921 --> 00:02:16,800 Speaker 2: know what to do or how to move forward from this. 49 00:02:17,121 --> 00:02:18,921 Speaker 2: Thanks so much. I hope your girls can help me. 50 00:02:19,240 --> 00:02:21,240 Speaker 2: You guys are so wise. Thank you. 51 00:02:21,841 --> 00:02:24,561 Speaker 3: First of all, the fact that he's like calling you 52 00:02:24,680 --> 00:02:28,081 Speaker 3: names and things like that is like, not, that's not okay, 53 00:02:28,240 --> 00:02:30,720 Speaker 3: Like I think there are multiple problems in this. It's 54 00:02:30,761 --> 00:02:33,400 Speaker 3: like the name calling is one thing, betraying your privacy 55 00:02:33,441 --> 00:02:34,880 Speaker 3: like that, and go through a journal is a whole 56 00:02:34,921 --> 00:02:36,001 Speaker 3: other thing like that. 57 00:02:36,240 --> 00:02:39,041 Speaker 1: Those behaviors to me are like absolute. No, I don't know. 58 00:02:39,161 --> 00:02:41,241 Speaker 3: I personally believe that like anything that you did before 59 00:02:41,240 --> 00:02:44,561 Speaker 3: your relationship is irrelevant. So long as you didn't actually 60 00:02:44,601 --> 00:02:47,041 Speaker 3: break the commitment of like being in a relationship and 61 00:02:47,081 --> 00:02:49,921 Speaker 3: then did something behind his back, which it doesn't sound 62 00:02:49,960 --> 00:02:51,841 Speaker 3: like you did, then I don't think your past has 63 00:02:51,881 --> 00:02:54,881 Speaker 3: anything to do with him. It's obviously his retroactive jealousy 64 00:02:55,121 --> 00:02:57,160 Speaker 3: where they worry about you know who you've been into 65 00:02:57,201 --> 00:02:59,400 Speaker 3: the past, and what's happened prior and things like that. 66 00:02:59,680 --> 00:03:01,841 Speaker 3: And I think if you have a healthy relationship, like 67 00:03:02,281 --> 00:03:05,721 Speaker 3: you should should be able to have cons like that 68 00:03:05,761 --> 00:03:09,041 Speaker 3: where your partner is aware of what you've done in 69 00:03:09,081 --> 00:03:12,240 Speaker 3: the past and that you actually had a life before 70 00:03:12,361 --> 00:03:13,121 Speaker 3: they existed. 71 00:03:13,401 --> 00:03:15,321 Speaker 2: And it's pretty normal. I mean I haven't been single 72 00:03:15,361 --> 00:03:17,001 Speaker 2: for a very long time, but even though I was single, Like, 73 00:03:17,001 --> 00:03:19,481 Speaker 2: it's very normal when you're single to be talking to 74 00:03:19,561 --> 00:03:21,680 Speaker 2: multiple people. Yeah, you might be messaging one, going on 75 00:03:21,721 --> 00:03:23,441 Speaker 2: a date with one, going another date the next day. 76 00:03:23,481 --> 00:03:25,041 Speaker 2: Like that's how you're choosing someone that you want to 77 00:03:25,041 --> 00:03:27,041 Speaker 2: spend your life with. So if you guys were just 78 00:03:27,121 --> 00:03:29,441 Speaker 2: messaging and there was no conversation around, you're being in 79 00:03:29,481 --> 00:03:31,641 Speaker 2: an actual relationship. You hadn't even met or hadn't had 80 00:03:31,680 --> 00:03:36,281 Speaker 2: any sexual interactions, there wasn't that committed like conversation. Yeah, 81 00:03:36,361 --> 00:03:37,601 Speaker 2: then you were free to go and do what you 82 00:03:37,641 --> 00:03:38,681 Speaker 2: want to do. And if you want to have a 83 00:03:38,681 --> 00:03:41,161 Speaker 2: one night stand, I don't think there's anything wrong with that. Yeah, 84 00:03:41,201 --> 00:03:42,721 Speaker 2: So the fact that he's bringing it up now and 85 00:03:42,761 --> 00:03:45,161 Speaker 2: putting you down in a name calling, it's like, I 86 00:03:45,161 --> 00:03:46,841 Speaker 2: don't think that's okay, And what are you going to 87 00:03:46,881 --> 00:03:49,321 Speaker 2: stand for? Are you going to allow this behavior to continue? 88 00:03:49,321 --> 00:03:50,841 Speaker 2: Because if that was me, I think I'd be putting 89 00:03:50,841 --> 00:03:53,561 Speaker 2: a pretty firm boundary in place that there isn't room 90 00:03:53,601 --> 00:03:55,041 Speaker 2: here for you to be bringing up my past and 91 00:03:55,081 --> 00:03:57,241 Speaker 2: calling me names in the process. And regardless of how 92 00:03:57,241 --> 00:04:00,441 Speaker 2: angry you are, I value respectful communication. Right now, you're 93 00:04:00,481 --> 00:04:02,401 Speaker 2: not respecting me. So if that's how you're going to 94 00:04:02,401 --> 00:04:04,521 Speaker 2: shop in this relationship, this relationship isn't. 95 00:04:04,361 --> 00:04:04,881 Speaker 1: Going to work. 96 00:04:05,521 --> 00:04:07,321 Speaker 2: So I think this is really like a good invitation 97 00:04:07,401 --> 00:04:09,601 Speaker 2: for you to check in on how much were yourself 98 00:04:09,641 --> 00:04:11,281 Speaker 2: worse at and what you're going to allow for and 99 00:04:11,321 --> 00:04:11,841 Speaker 2: stand for. 100 00:04:12,201 --> 00:04:13,841 Speaker 1: I don't think you deserve to be treated like that, not. 101 00:04:13,921 --> 00:04:16,200 Speaker 3: At all, especially because this is something that happened before 102 00:04:16,241 --> 00:04:18,161 Speaker 3: he was around the fact that he thinks it's okay 103 00:04:18,201 --> 00:04:22,041 Speaker 3: to name Caul, that's right, It's never okay. 104 00:04:22,081 --> 00:04:25,121 Speaker 1: So it's like just because he's mad, it's like that's irrelevant. 105 00:04:25,161 --> 00:04:26,801 Speaker 3: Like you don't get to be mad and also be 106 00:04:26,880 --> 00:04:29,401 Speaker 3: disrespectful as well. Those are two completely different things. That's 107 00:04:29,440 --> 00:04:31,361 Speaker 3: a choice, yeah, and he's choosing to be that in 108 00:04:31,401 --> 00:04:33,601 Speaker 3: this moment. And also he betrayed your privacy and no 109 00:04:33,641 --> 00:04:36,080 Speaker 3: one should go through anybody's journal, Josh, No, that is 110 00:04:36,081 --> 00:04:39,561 Speaker 3: not okay, journals, phones, nothing. Yeah, absolutely not. That's like 111 00:04:39,761 --> 00:04:43,361 Speaker 3: your basic human right to have privacy. That's crazy. 112 00:04:43,401 --> 00:04:44,881 Speaker 2: He's done that, that would have been. It breaks a 113 00:04:44,880 --> 00:04:46,880 Speaker 2: lot of trust there, doesn't it. And you know, there's 114 00:04:46,880 --> 00:04:50,440 Speaker 2: a difference between we can relate being jealous of someone's 115 00:04:50,481 --> 00:04:53,921 Speaker 2: past and who's been through me. When I first met Steve, 116 00:04:54,121 --> 00:04:56,921 Speaker 2: oh my goodness, I couldn't bear the thought of him 117 00:04:56,921 --> 00:05:00,161 Speaker 2: being with someone else, especially exes. It made me feel 118 00:05:00,601 --> 00:05:04,201 Speaker 2: physically ill to my stomach. But I wasn't getting angry 119 00:05:04,241 --> 00:05:07,001 Speaker 2: at him for it. It's expressing that I'm fucking jealous 120 00:05:07,161 --> 00:05:08,281 Speaker 2: and I don't want to lie in the bed that 121 00:05:08,320 --> 00:05:08,961 Speaker 2: the girls been. 122 00:05:08,880 --> 00:05:13,001 Speaker 1: Not get me. Yeah, not not blaming him though, No, 123 00:05:13,761 --> 00:05:14,200 Speaker 1: had a life. 124 00:05:14,201 --> 00:05:16,161 Speaker 2: I also had a life whom I to say, like, 125 00:05:16,201 --> 00:05:17,400 Speaker 2: how dare you have a life before me? 126 00:05:17,481 --> 00:05:19,281 Speaker 1: Yeah? How dare you not wait before you knew who 127 00:05:19,281 --> 00:05:20,961 Speaker 1: I was and that I was in your life? Literally? 128 00:05:21,761 --> 00:05:24,041 Speaker 2: So yeah, I think this is a cool opportunity for 129 00:05:24,041 --> 00:05:26,440 Speaker 2: you to stand up for yourself and put your boundaries 130 00:05:26,481 --> 00:05:28,161 Speaker 2: in place of what you're going to tolerate and what's 131 00:05:28,201 --> 00:05:30,801 Speaker 2: okay and what's not and then see how he responds 132 00:05:30,801 --> 00:05:33,641 Speaker 2: and how he respects your boundaries and if not, it's 133 00:05:33,681 --> 00:05:35,761 Speaker 2: speaking volume. There is that the kind of man that 134 00:05:35,761 --> 00:05:37,081 Speaker 2: you want to marry and spend the rest of your 135 00:05:37,121 --> 00:05:39,361 Speaker 2: life with someone that's name calling you, putting you down, 136 00:05:39,561 --> 00:05:41,561 Speaker 2: this is your best friend? Or if mentioned if you 137 00:05:41,561 --> 00:05:43,921 Speaker 2: had a daughter, yeah, did this man, would you be 138 00:05:43,961 --> 00:05:45,481 Speaker 2: okay with her being called names? 139 00:05:45,641 --> 00:05:45,841 Speaker 1: Yeah? 140 00:05:45,841 --> 00:05:48,001 Speaker 2: Because normally, like how you do one thing, it shows 141 00:05:48,041 --> 00:05:50,440 Speaker 2: up in other areas of your life too, So I'd 142 00:05:50,440 --> 00:05:52,561 Speaker 2: just be super aware of that and having some big 143 00:05:52,601 --> 00:05:53,601 Speaker 2: card conversations. 144 00:05:54,041 --> 00:05:57,001 Speaker 1: It's a no go. Yeah, it's a but give us an. 145 00:05:57,001 --> 00:05:59,321 Speaker 2: Update on what you decide and how you go about it, 146 00:05:59,361 --> 00:06:01,921 Speaker 2: and it's a really cool opportunity for you to communicate 147 00:06:01,921 --> 00:06:02,241 Speaker 2: all of that. 148 00:06:02,521 --> 00:06:03,001 Speaker 1: Yeah. 149 00:06:03,041 --> 00:06:05,081 Speaker 3: And it's not to say that, you know, he's not 150 00:06:05,121 --> 00:06:07,401 Speaker 3: allowed to have his emotional experience. I think I think 151 00:06:07,401 --> 00:06:10,441 Speaker 3: it's a normal human experience that, like anyone who cares 152 00:06:10,440 --> 00:06:13,320 Speaker 3: about somebody, loves somebody is likely going to feel somewhat 153 00:06:13,361 --> 00:06:15,921 Speaker 3: kind of triggered jealous, will have a little bit of something. Yeah, 154 00:06:16,201 --> 00:06:18,921 Speaker 3: you know, not everyone Not everyone's jealous. I've definitely met 155 00:06:18,921 --> 00:06:20,640 Speaker 3: some people who like it doesn't even touch the sides 156 00:06:20,681 --> 00:06:23,081 Speaker 3: to them. When it comes to jealousy, the jolt cannot relate. 157 00:06:24,401 --> 00:06:27,241 Speaker 3: I am definitely jealous and territorial. But also when I 158 00:06:27,241 --> 00:06:28,921 Speaker 3: think about that experience, if I were to think that 159 00:06:28,921 --> 00:06:30,440 Speaker 3: would happen to me, For one, I wouldn't go through 160 00:06:30,481 --> 00:06:32,441 Speaker 3: someone's journal to find it out. But if I had 161 00:06:32,481 --> 00:06:34,440 Speaker 3: heard that from someone, I would allow myself to have 162 00:06:34,440 --> 00:06:36,281 Speaker 3: my emotional experience and be like, oh, you know what, 163 00:06:36,361 --> 00:06:38,161 Speaker 3: like that makes me jealous, and I would communicate it. 164 00:06:38,361 --> 00:06:38,841 Speaker 2: Yeah, you know. 165 00:06:38,961 --> 00:06:40,641 Speaker 3: It's like, you're allowed to have your experience, but it 166 00:06:40,641 --> 00:06:42,880 Speaker 3: doesn't give you the right to be disrespectful name call 167 00:06:43,121 --> 00:06:46,161 Speaker 3: or to disrespect somebody's privacy like that. Like what you said, 168 00:06:46,161 --> 00:06:48,960 Speaker 3: it's just like going through somebody's phone. That's like having 169 00:06:49,001 --> 00:06:51,440 Speaker 3: your recordings of you and your coach on your computer 170 00:06:51,521 --> 00:06:54,361 Speaker 3: and then your partner watching them. Like that's your deepest, darkest, 171 00:06:54,401 --> 00:06:56,721 Speaker 3: your most vulnerable, intimate moments with yourself. Like I don't 172 00:06:56,721 --> 00:06:59,600 Speaker 3: think anybody should, you know, unless you're willingly being like hey, babe, 173 00:06:59,601 --> 00:07:01,961 Speaker 3: like read this. I want you to see this different story. 174 00:07:02,001 --> 00:07:05,241 Speaker 3: You're being invited to read something that is personal. I 175 00:07:05,241 --> 00:07:08,440 Speaker 3: think those two behaviors really showcase qualities in this man 176 00:07:08,561 --> 00:07:09,681 Speaker 3: that are probably not going to. 177 00:07:09,601 --> 00:07:10,720 Speaker 1: Be good for you long term. 178 00:07:11,041 --> 00:07:13,041 Speaker 2: Yeah. I remember two when I first got with Steve, 179 00:07:13,121 --> 00:07:16,721 Speaker 2: we had like transparent conversations around because I remember back 180 00:07:16,721 --> 00:07:19,601 Speaker 2: in the day when Facebook like you check in where 181 00:07:19,601 --> 00:07:19,881 Speaker 2: you were? 182 00:07:20,201 --> 00:07:20,961 Speaker 1: Remember that, Yes I did. 183 00:07:21,521 --> 00:07:24,561 Speaker 2: Steven Evans have checked in with data du at the cinemas. 184 00:07:24,721 --> 00:07:25,041 Speaker 1: Yes. 185 00:07:25,281 --> 00:07:27,881 Speaker 2: I remember one day this girl checked in at his 186 00:07:28,001 --> 00:07:30,401 Speaker 2: house and Steve and I were just talking online. We 187 00:07:30,441 --> 00:07:33,321 Speaker 2: hadn't met yet, but I was like, oh, how dare he? 188 00:07:33,441 --> 00:07:35,001 Speaker 2: But then I was like I was talking to other 189 00:07:35,081 --> 00:07:36,801 Speaker 2: men as well. You know, we're both still single. I 190 00:07:36,841 --> 00:07:38,681 Speaker 2: hadn't even met each other yet. Yeah, but remember we 191 00:07:38,721 --> 00:07:40,641 Speaker 2: decided to be together. He had this one girl who 192 00:07:40,721 --> 00:07:43,001 Speaker 2: kept messaging him, and I was like, I need to 193 00:07:43,001 --> 00:07:45,681 Speaker 2: be really honest with me, like, what was this relationship dynamic? 194 00:07:45,801 --> 00:07:46,001 Speaker 1: Yah? 195 00:07:46,201 --> 00:07:48,361 Speaker 2: When did you stop contact with her? What does she 196 00:07:48,401 --> 00:07:49,961 Speaker 2: think it was compared to what you think it was 197 00:07:50,161 --> 00:07:52,361 Speaker 2: so I can get some context. And he told me 198 00:07:52,401 --> 00:07:53,721 Speaker 2: the whole story, and I was like, Okay, at least 199 00:07:53,761 --> 00:07:56,921 Speaker 2: I understand now where she's coming from and why she's jealous. Yes, 200 00:07:57,681 --> 00:07:59,801 Speaker 2: so if he is feeling any of that, like I 201 00:07:59,841 --> 00:08:02,201 Speaker 2: think he is okay to ask you questions but to 202 00:08:02,281 --> 00:08:03,921 Speaker 2: name call and put you down and go through your 203 00:08:03,921 --> 00:08:05,881 Speaker 2: private stuff, that's not okay. 204 00:08:06,041 --> 00:08:07,121 Speaker 1: There's a way to go about it. 205 00:08:07,121 --> 00:08:10,241 Speaker 2: If you're feeling jealous and you're curious on what happened, 206 00:08:10,281 --> 00:08:14,001 Speaker 2: when to give more context and then you can reassure him. 207 00:08:13,841 --> 00:08:15,681 Speaker 1: Yeah that's beautiful. Yeah, you're right. 208 00:08:15,721 --> 00:08:17,361 Speaker 2: But to name Cole and put down and go through 209 00:08:17,361 --> 00:08:19,841 Speaker 2: your journal so boundary cross. 210 00:08:20,241 --> 00:08:21,921 Speaker 3: As somebody who would have been in that position, I 211 00:08:21,961 --> 00:08:24,641 Speaker 3: probably not the diary thing, but the finding out thing. 212 00:08:24,761 --> 00:08:26,841 Speaker 1: I probably would want to get curious and ask questions. 213 00:08:26,881 --> 00:08:30,481 Speaker 3: So I imagine that I'd be like, hey, can I ask yes, questions, timeline, 214 00:08:30,521 --> 00:08:31,321 Speaker 3: When did this happen? 215 00:08:31,401 --> 00:08:32,201 Speaker 1: How close was it? 216 00:08:32,281 --> 00:08:32,641 Speaker 2: But I did? 217 00:08:32,761 --> 00:08:34,721 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, that sort of thing I could imagine. I 218 00:08:34,721 --> 00:08:36,801 Speaker 3: feel better, Yeah for sure. If you need that kind 219 00:08:36,801 --> 00:08:38,641 Speaker 3: of closure, then that's what gives you that. 220 00:08:39,041 --> 00:08:40,641 Speaker 2: And it's coining to see how honest they are with 221 00:08:40,681 --> 00:08:42,681 Speaker 2: you too, Like I remember Steve just telling me everything 222 00:08:42,681 --> 00:08:45,121 Speaker 2: I wanted to know and hold back on any of it. 223 00:08:46,201 --> 00:08:48,681 Speaker 2: And then I was a Facebook stalker and you know, 224 00:08:48,881 --> 00:08:51,161 Speaker 2: made sure I's I went through who I'm dealing with. 225 00:08:52,401 --> 00:08:54,521 Speaker 2: You're only younger and you do that, Yes, well I 226 00:08:54,561 --> 00:08:57,081 Speaker 2: did to stalk the ex's what do they look like? Then? 227 00:08:57,201 --> 00:08:58,481 Speaker 1: Would they get up to do it? 228 00:08:58,481 --> 00:09:01,401 Speaker 2: Now? I just saw us on Instagram. True, different, same, 229 00:09:01,401 --> 00:09:05,361 Speaker 2: same look. I've been married for a long time. If 230 00:09:05,361 --> 00:09:08,361 Speaker 2: you start dating someone, I'm going to have a little stalk. Yeah, yeah, 231 00:09:08,481 --> 00:09:11,081 Speaker 2: of excess of their life, sting someone to have a 232 00:09:11,081 --> 00:09:12,961 Speaker 2: look at what their two. Yes, of course we go 233 00:09:12,961 --> 00:09:15,001 Speaker 2: on the tag photos, have a little looks. Yes, I 234 00:09:15,041 --> 00:09:18,081 Speaker 2: do that too, investigate. I get so curious tag photos 235 00:09:18,281 --> 00:09:20,241 Speaker 2: until you told me, oh, I'm looking at that man. 236 00:09:20,281 --> 00:09:22,201 Speaker 3: You know, I remember looking at my own tag photos 237 00:09:22,201 --> 00:09:23,521 Speaker 3: a couple of years ago, being like, I've got to 238 00:09:23,561 --> 00:09:26,601 Speaker 3: get rid of the evidence. Oh my god, tag photos 239 00:09:26,601 --> 00:09:28,121 Speaker 3: from like old festivals and stuff. 240 00:09:28,201 --> 00:09:30,801 Speaker 1: I'm just like, you know, like seasons of my life 241 00:09:30,841 --> 00:09:32,441 Speaker 1: where I'd like gain weight and I was like deletely, 242 00:09:32,601 --> 00:09:35,041 Speaker 1: oh so funny. 243 00:09:35,241 --> 00:09:36,761 Speaker 2: We will have our own things, So yes, there's a 244 00:09:36,761 --> 00:09:38,081 Speaker 2: way to go about it for sure. 245 00:09:38,481 --> 00:09:39,521 Speaker 1: Yeah. 246 00:09:39,561 --> 00:09:41,881 Speaker 2: All right, guys, thanks for joining us. We will see 247 00:09:41,921 --> 00:09:43,241 Speaker 2: you toury Wednesday. 248 00:09:43,401 --> 00:09:43,721 Speaker 1: Bye.