1 00:00:08,640 --> 00:00:11,800 Speaker 1: Hi everybody. It's Carli here for this week's Mojo Monday. 2 00:00:12,360 --> 00:00:15,280 Speaker 1: So I'm going to start with a question and feel 3 00:00:15,320 --> 00:00:18,119 Speaker 1: free to press poruts if you want to spend a 4 00:00:18,120 --> 00:00:20,279 Speaker 1: bit more time thinking about an answer, because it's not 5 00:00:20,320 --> 00:00:22,800 Speaker 1: one of those questions you can just kind of rattle 6 00:00:22,800 --> 00:00:25,520 Speaker 1: off the answer. It needs a bit of thinking process. 7 00:00:26,239 --> 00:00:29,160 Speaker 1: So here it is. This is a question what makes 8 00:00:29,280 --> 00:00:33,960 Speaker 1: your life worth living? So this is a question that 9 00:00:34,080 --> 00:00:36,600 Speaker 1: can help you find your ikey guy, which is a 10 00:00:36,680 --> 00:00:40,280 Speaker 1: topic I'll be talking about today. And I did question 11 00:00:40,600 --> 00:00:42,920 Speaker 1: whether I would do a Mojo Monday or iggy Guy, 12 00:00:43,000 --> 00:00:45,839 Speaker 1: as I wasn't sure ten minutes or would really do 13 00:00:45,880 --> 00:00:48,640 Speaker 1: it justice. So this is really a taste of what 14 00:00:48,720 --> 00:00:52,080 Speaker 1: egy guy is and how you can tap into it. 15 00:00:52,200 --> 00:00:54,400 Speaker 1: And then at the end, I'll give you some recommended 16 00:00:54,440 --> 00:00:57,160 Speaker 1: books and even maybe a course that you can look 17 00:00:57,200 --> 00:01:02,040 Speaker 1: into if you're interested to find out more. So when 18 00:01:02,240 --> 00:01:05,440 Speaker 1: I mentioned the word ike guy, you may have had 19 00:01:05,480 --> 00:01:07,640 Speaker 1: an image in your mind that comes up with a 20 00:01:07,720 --> 00:01:11,560 Speaker 1: ven diagram. And if you google ikey guy, or go 21 00:01:11,600 --> 00:01:15,080 Speaker 1: on LinkedIn or any of those socials, this ven diagram 22 00:01:15,160 --> 00:01:18,360 Speaker 1: comes up. And if that's the case, one I'm about 23 00:01:18,400 --> 00:01:23,160 Speaker 1: to tell you may surprise you because the true, authentic 24 00:01:23,240 --> 00:01:27,360 Speaker 1: Japanese concept of ikey guy is actually not that then diagram. 25 00:01:28,200 --> 00:01:31,720 Speaker 1: It's not a single life's purpose that we have to 26 00:01:31,800 --> 00:01:35,120 Speaker 1: seek out, and it doesn't solely come from okin Nawa 27 00:01:35,240 --> 00:01:39,959 Speaker 1: in Japan. The ven diagram is actually a Western interpretation 28 00:01:40,080 --> 00:01:43,479 Speaker 1: of ikey guy. And if you haven't seen the ven diagram, 29 00:01:43,600 --> 00:01:47,480 Speaker 1: the areas on it that they say make up ikey 30 00:01:47,520 --> 00:01:51,840 Speaker 1: guy to do something you love, do something you're good at, 31 00:01:52,120 --> 00:01:54,800 Speaker 1: do something that the world needs, and do something that 32 00:01:54,840 --> 00:01:58,680 Speaker 1: you can get paid for. And I was pleasantly surprised 33 00:01:58,720 --> 00:02:01,360 Speaker 1: to find out that this is not the Japanese concept 34 00:02:01,440 --> 00:02:05,000 Speaker 1: of ikey guy, because I always felt that meeting every 35 00:02:05,200 --> 00:02:09,280 Speaker 1: aspect of this then diagram, especially the part about getting paid, 36 00:02:10,280 --> 00:02:12,239 Speaker 1: was something that was kind of just a bit out 37 00:02:12,240 --> 00:02:15,640 Speaker 1: of reach. So how did this Van diagram come to 38 00:02:15,680 --> 00:02:20,400 Speaker 1: represent ikey Guy. Well, in twenty fourteen, an Englishman named 39 00:02:20,440 --> 00:02:23,240 Speaker 1: Mark Winn and I think he was like an entrepreneur 40 00:02:23,360 --> 00:02:27,200 Speaker 1: and a blogger, and he was watching Dan Brutner's Ted 41 00:02:27,240 --> 00:02:29,880 Speaker 1: talk on the Blue zones. So if you haven't heard 42 00:02:29,919 --> 00:02:33,080 Speaker 1: of Dan Brutner, he has done a lot of studies 43 00:02:33,200 --> 00:02:35,880 Speaker 1: on the areas which they call the blue zones where 44 00:02:35,919 --> 00:02:40,240 Speaker 1: people live the longest. And what Dan Brutner talked about 45 00:02:40,480 --> 00:02:44,280 Speaker 1: was these concepts of Ikey Guy in Okinawa and Mark 46 00:02:44,400 --> 00:02:48,040 Speaker 1: was fascinated by it, and he took another van diagram 47 00:02:48,080 --> 00:02:52,720 Speaker 1: which was created by Andreas Zununaga gosh I hope I 48 00:02:52,800 --> 00:02:56,960 Speaker 1: pronounced that right, z U z u Naga. And what 49 00:02:57,080 --> 00:02:59,880 Speaker 1: he did was he replaced the original word which was 50 00:03:00,040 --> 00:03:03,200 Speaker 1: in the middle of the venn diagram, which was purpose 51 00:03:03,440 --> 00:03:07,880 Speaker 1: with ikey Guy. And the blog post went viral and 52 00:03:07,919 --> 00:03:10,920 Speaker 1: this ven diagram, which has been the subject of many 53 00:03:10,960 --> 00:03:16,240 Speaker 1: books and used by business coaches and entrepreneurs, has become 54 00:03:16,760 --> 00:03:19,960 Speaker 1: this it's a misconception in the West that this is 55 00:03:20,000 --> 00:03:23,359 Speaker 1: what Ikey Guy is. And while the ven diagram has 56 00:03:23,360 --> 00:03:27,680 Speaker 1: been incredibly helpful for many people, especially in business, it's 57 00:03:27,760 --> 00:03:32,919 Speaker 1: actually it's important to know that it isn't Ikey Guy. Now. 58 00:03:33,000 --> 00:03:36,600 Speaker 1: Nicholas Kemp, who Paul had on the podcast probably about 59 00:03:36,640 --> 00:03:39,600 Speaker 1: a year ago, has been working hard to get the 60 00:03:39,680 --> 00:03:43,800 Speaker 1: true Ikey Guy message out to the West. He's got 61 00:03:43,920 --> 00:03:49,000 Speaker 1: a coaching course and courses that he does called Ikey 62 00:03:49,040 --> 00:03:52,480 Speaker 1: Guy Tribe, and which I did one of them over Lockdown, 63 00:03:52,600 --> 00:03:56,040 Speaker 1: which is where I discovered the true meaning and Vicky 64 00:03:56,080 --> 00:04:00,280 Speaker 1: Guy and ikey Guy's now a huge part of my 65 00:04:00,440 --> 00:04:02,839 Speaker 1: daily life and I wanted to share this with you 66 00:04:02,920 --> 00:04:06,400 Speaker 1: so perhaps you can start feeling ikey guy in your 67 00:04:06,560 --> 00:04:11,480 Speaker 1: daily life. So what is the true authentic ikey guy. Well, 68 00:04:11,520 --> 00:04:14,400 Speaker 1: ike guy is a feeling that you get. So Iki 69 00:04:14,440 --> 00:04:18,840 Speaker 1: means living and guy means value of or worth, so 70 00:04:19,040 --> 00:04:23,760 Speaker 1: it translates to a life worth living. And to my surprise, 71 00:04:23,960 --> 00:04:27,440 Speaker 1: it's actually not a special word in Japan. It's very 72 00:04:27,520 --> 00:04:31,719 Speaker 1: much used in general conversation to describe how someone is feeling. 73 00:04:32,480 --> 00:04:35,559 Speaker 1: And ikey guy is an approach to life that gives 74 00:04:35,560 --> 00:04:38,400 Speaker 1: your life meaning and it can be a number of things. 75 00:04:38,520 --> 00:04:41,960 Speaker 1: It can be small joys that you can experience every day. 76 00:04:42,640 --> 00:04:45,200 Speaker 1: And I'll give you an example from my own daily 77 00:04:45,240 --> 00:04:49,320 Speaker 1: life to kind of illustrate what that means. So I 78 00:04:49,360 --> 00:04:54,719 Speaker 1: love ceramics, particularly those ceramic pieces that are not perfect. 79 00:04:54,800 --> 00:04:58,800 Speaker 1: They have that real kind of organic and earthy quality. 80 00:04:59,400 --> 00:05:03,839 Speaker 1: And I've collected handmade boads, the small coffee mugs that 81 00:05:03,920 --> 00:05:06,880 Speaker 1: I've bought from local markets when I travel, and most 82 00:05:06,920 --> 00:05:11,200 Speaker 1: of them are without handles and shaped to almost mold 83 00:05:11,240 --> 00:05:15,680 Speaker 1: in my hand as I'm drinking. And every morning I 84 00:05:15,800 --> 00:05:18,320 Speaker 1: choose a cup and I make myself a cup of 85 00:05:18,320 --> 00:05:21,479 Speaker 1: coffee and I enjoy it while everyone else is still 86 00:05:21,520 --> 00:05:25,520 Speaker 1: in bed, and I really savor the moment, and I 87 00:05:25,560 --> 00:05:29,360 Speaker 1: don't do anything else but sip my coffee. So no texting, 88 00:05:29,640 --> 00:05:33,920 Speaker 1: no checking socials. All the news is just me, my coffee, 89 00:05:34,400 --> 00:05:38,360 Speaker 1: the dogs, and the morning bird song. And this little 90 00:05:38,480 --> 00:05:42,360 Speaker 1: ritual is my ikey guy and it brings me this 91 00:05:42,560 --> 00:05:46,240 Speaker 1: feeling of calmness, It brings me joy, a feeling of 92 00:05:46,360 --> 00:05:51,039 Speaker 1: presence and gratitude. This is what we call my ikey guy. Kh't. 93 00:05:51,560 --> 00:05:55,039 Speaker 1: So ikey guy is your source of iky guy, and 94 00:05:55,080 --> 00:05:58,039 Speaker 1: then ikey guy can't is the feeling that you get 95 00:05:58,160 --> 00:06:02,160 Speaker 1: from your ikey guy. And you notice in this example 96 00:06:02,240 --> 00:06:05,160 Speaker 1: that I've given you that in order to feel ikey Guy, 97 00:06:06,000 --> 00:06:09,560 Speaker 1: I have to be fully present, So if you're distracted, 98 00:06:10,279 --> 00:06:13,279 Speaker 1: you won't tap into ikey guy. So you really need 99 00:06:13,320 --> 00:06:16,839 Speaker 1: to have the intention to enjoy the moment of whatever 100 00:06:16,880 --> 00:06:19,800 Speaker 1: your source of iky guy is. And this could be 101 00:06:19,839 --> 00:06:23,080 Speaker 1: anything that you feel has meaning and value to you, 102 00:06:23,480 --> 00:06:27,520 Speaker 1: so like a hobby, having a meaningful conversation with a friend, 103 00:06:29,160 --> 00:06:35,000 Speaker 1: surfing nature, going for a run, whatever it is. Immersing 104 00:06:35,040 --> 00:06:38,159 Speaker 1: yourself in it, even for a few seconds, and you 105 00:06:38,240 --> 00:06:42,080 Speaker 1: will start to feel ikey Guy. And I'm actually finding 106 00:06:42,160 --> 00:06:44,440 Speaker 1: the older I get, the more I tap into my 107 00:06:44,600 --> 00:06:47,719 Speaker 1: Ikey Guy Khn't, which is that feeling is through nature. 108 00:06:47,839 --> 00:06:52,920 Speaker 1: I really love being in nature. I feel present, I 109 00:06:52,960 --> 00:06:55,520 Speaker 1: feel calm, and I would say that nature is one 110 00:06:55,560 --> 00:06:59,600 Speaker 1: of my sources of Ikey Guy. So ike Guy can 111 00:06:59,640 --> 00:07:03,240 Speaker 1: also be It can be a number of things. It 112 00:07:03,279 --> 00:07:06,880 Speaker 1: can be an object that has meaning to you. For example, 113 00:07:06,960 --> 00:07:09,200 Speaker 1: I have a chair that my late mother used to 114 00:07:09,240 --> 00:07:11,880 Speaker 1: sit in, and each time I now sit in that chair, 115 00:07:11,960 --> 00:07:15,320 Speaker 1: I remember her and it gives me a moment of joy, 116 00:07:15,520 --> 00:07:18,840 Speaker 1: and it's almost like I can feel her presence sort 117 00:07:18,840 --> 00:07:22,800 Speaker 1: of through the chair. There's been a fair amount of 118 00:07:22,840 --> 00:07:26,480 Speaker 1: research behind ikey Guy, and Nicholas camp has taken a 119 00:07:26,520 --> 00:07:29,320 Speaker 1: deep dive of this in his book Ikey Guy Khn't, 120 00:07:29,360 --> 00:07:33,120 Speaker 1: which I highly recommend if you are interested in Ikey Guy. 121 00:07:33,760 --> 00:07:38,520 Speaker 1: He talks ostensibly about mire Co Cama, who he refers 122 00:07:38,560 --> 00:07:41,880 Speaker 1: to as the mother of Ikey Guy, and she was 123 00:07:41,960 --> 00:07:45,000 Speaker 1: one of the first researchers to study ikey Guy and 124 00:07:45,040 --> 00:07:48,240 Speaker 1: included an aspect of one of the things that it 125 00:07:48,280 --> 00:07:52,520 Speaker 1: was included in her research was ikey guy being looking 126 00:07:52,560 --> 00:07:55,960 Speaker 1: forward to a bright future. And so this is something 127 00:07:56,000 --> 00:07:58,360 Speaker 1: that when we look forward to, So it could be 128 00:07:58,400 --> 00:08:01,120 Speaker 1: a holiday, you know, a birth day gathering, or some 129 00:08:01,160 --> 00:08:04,400 Speaker 1: sort of celebration or event that holds meaning for you. 130 00:08:05,040 --> 00:08:07,840 Speaker 1: So when you think about what's to come and that 131 00:08:07,960 --> 00:08:10,480 Speaker 1: gives you that sense of sort of joy or that 132 00:08:10,600 --> 00:08:13,800 Speaker 1: anticipation of joy, you can tap into that ekey guy. 133 00:08:14,520 --> 00:08:17,600 Speaker 1: And I love this as I actually think it ties 134 00:08:17,640 --> 00:08:19,960 Speaker 1: in really nicely with what Paul and I talked about 135 00:08:19,960 --> 00:08:22,200 Speaker 1: a couple of weeks ago, which is looking to your 136 00:08:22,320 --> 00:08:25,920 Speaker 1: future self in a positive light. So if you visualize 137 00:08:25,960 --> 00:08:29,800 Speaker 1: yourself living a good life, it can bring a feeling 138 00:08:29,880 --> 00:08:32,280 Speaker 1: of joy to the presence and motivate you to make 139 00:08:32,320 --> 00:08:35,920 Speaker 1: decisions now that will benefit your future self. And just 140 00:08:36,080 --> 00:08:40,080 Speaker 1: like all feelings, ikey Guy comes and goes. And when 141 00:08:40,120 --> 00:08:44,280 Speaker 1: things are challenging, it's easy to focus on those challenges 142 00:08:44,320 --> 00:08:47,320 Speaker 1: and those difficulties that you're going through, but you can 143 00:08:47,400 --> 00:08:51,840 Speaker 1: find ikey guy and moments of joy even during hard times, 144 00:08:52,480 --> 00:08:55,600 Speaker 1: and this can really help us get through the tough times. 145 00:08:56,080 --> 00:09:00,400 Speaker 1: And mere Co camea found that discovering meaning and value 146 00:09:00,400 --> 00:09:03,280 Speaker 1: in the challenges that we face in a way is 147 00:09:03,320 --> 00:09:06,559 Speaker 1: a way to experience Siki Guy, and I can really 148 00:09:06,640 --> 00:09:09,360 Speaker 1: relate to this. So some of you may know that 149 00:09:09,480 --> 00:09:12,120 Speaker 1: my son was diagnosed with a very rare disease about 150 00:09:12,120 --> 00:09:16,280 Speaker 1: eighteen months ago and it was probably the most challenging 151 00:09:16,360 --> 00:09:19,680 Speaker 1: time of my life. But there was also meaning and 152 00:09:19,800 --> 00:09:23,560 Speaker 1: value in that experience. So Oscar, my son and I 153 00:09:23,600 --> 00:09:26,880 Speaker 1: shared a deep bond that I don't think I would 154 00:09:26,880 --> 00:09:30,840 Speaker 1: have experienced if he hadn't been sick. I also tapped 155 00:09:30,880 --> 00:09:35,960 Speaker 1: into this relentless determination to do everything that I could 156 00:09:36,520 --> 00:09:40,280 Speaker 1: to get through it. And this aligns with another aspect 157 00:09:40,400 --> 00:09:44,000 Speaker 1: that came have found, which is you can find ikey 158 00:09:44,040 --> 00:09:46,959 Speaker 1: guy in growth and sense of purpose. So you can 159 00:09:47,000 --> 00:09:50,520 Speaker 1: see there's many aspects of ikey Guy, and the main 160 00:09:50,600 --> 00:09:53,560 Speaker 1: message here is that ikey Guy is not one thing 161 00:09:53,679 --> 00:09:56,120 Speaker 1: that you have to seek out, and it's certainly not 162 00:09:56,320 --> 00:09:59,000 Speaker 1: something that you need to get paid for. You can 163 00:09:59,080 --> 00:10:02,600 Speaker 1: find meaning in all areas of your life. You just 164 00:10:02,720 --> 00:10:05,400 Speaker 1: need to take the time to connect on a deeper 165 00:10:05,480 --> 00:10:08,200 Speaker 1: level with the things that you value, the things that 166 00:10:08,240 --> 00:10:11,960 Speaker 1: are important to you. So you could start with your family, 167 00:10:12,240 --> 00:10:15,959 Speaker 1: so especially if everyone is so busy that all your 168 00:10:15,960 --> 00:10:20,160 Speaker 1: conversations revolve around logistics, like you know who needs to 169 00:10:20,200 --> 00:10:22,560 Speaker 1: go where and whether something needs to be washed, or 170 00:10:23,000 --> 00:10:26,760 Speaker 1: I mean, that's my family. But take a moment to 171 00:10:26,920 --> 00:10:32,120 Speaker 1: pause and put intentionally put the logistics aside and spend 172 00:10:32,160 --> 00:10:35,560 Speaker 1: some quality time with the loved one and have a 173 00:10:35,600 --> 00:10:40,920 Speaker 1: meaningful conversation, or go outside and look up. I do 174 00:10:41,080 --> 00:10:43,480 Speaker 1: this a lot. I soak in the sounds and the 175 00:10:43,520 --> 00:10:46,520 Speaker 1: sights and the aromas, and feel the air on my 176 00:10:46,640 --> 00:10:50,080 Speaker 1: skin and connect with the fact that you're alive in 177 00:10:50,120 --> 00:10:53,480 Speaker 1: this amazing world. And that can bring you a source 178 00:10:53,520 --> 00:10:56,719 Speaker 1: of Vicky Guy. And the more you find sources of 179 00:10:56,800 --> 00:10:59,800 Speaker 1: Viky Guy, the more Iky Guy becomes a daily approaching 180 00:10:59,800 --> 00:11:04,080 Speaker 1: your life. So as we wrap up today's episode, I 181 00:11:04,280 --> 00:11:07,160 Speaker 1: just want to leave you with a few thoughts. So 182 00:11:07,240 --> 00:11:10,720 Speaker 1: Ikey Guy is about finding joy and purpose in everyday 183 00:11:10,760 --> 00:11:14,199 Speaker 1: moments of our lives. And it's certainly not a destination. 184 00:11:14,440 --> 00:11:18,160 Speaker 1: It's not a goal. It's more part of our life's journey. 185 00:11:18,760 --> 00:11:22,800 Speaker 1: It's about recognizing and appreciating the small things that bring 186 00:11:22,880 --> 00:11:26,720 Speaker 1: us happiness and fulfillment, whether it's a meaningful conversation with 187 00:11:26,800 --> 00:11:30,360 Speaker 1: a loved one or the simple pleasures of your morning 188 00:11:30,400 --> 00:11:34,640 Speaker 1: coffee or finding peace in nature. So Ikey Guy can 189 00:11:34,679 --> 00:11:38,880 Speaker 1: be found all around us. So take a moment each 190 00:11:38,960 --> 00:11:41,960 Speaker 1: day to reflect on what brings you joy and purpose, 191 00:11:42,520 --> 00:11:47,199 Speaker 1: pay attention to those moments and really embrace them. And remember, 192 00:11:47,280 --> 00:11:51,439 Speaker 1: Ikey Guy is not about meeting every criteria in a 193 00:11:51,520 --> 00:11:55,880 Speaker 1: then diagram. It's about living a life that feels worthwhile 194 00:11:55,960 --> 00:11:59,200 Speaker 1: to you in whatever form that takes. So I'm going 195 00:11:59,280 --> 00:12:02,600 Speaker 1: to recommend some resources for you to find out more 196 00:12:02,640 --> 00:12:06,760 Speaker 1: about the true authentic Ikey Guy. So a couple of books, 197 00:12:06,880 --> 00:12:09,480 Speaker 1: The Little Book of Ikey Guy which is by Ken 198 00:12:09,559 --> 00:12:13,520 Speaker 1: Mogi which is m o g. I and Paul had 199 00:12:13,600 --> 00:12:16,160 Speaker 1: him on the podcast a couple of years ago as well. 200 00:12:17,160 --> 00:12:20,360 Speaker 1: Nicholas camp As, I said, wrote a fantastic book called 201 00:12:20,400 --> 00:12:26,360 Speaker 1: Iggy Guy Khan and go to Ikey Guytribe dot com 202 00:12:26,400 --> 00:12:30,120 Speaker 1: because he has he has some courses that you can 203 00:12:30,160 --> 00:12:33,240 Speaker 1: do as well, and he's also got a podcast called 204 00:12:33,280 --> 00:12:36,840 Speaker 1: Ikey Guy Tribe, so have a look at those. So 205 00:12:37,000 --> 00:12:39,320 Speaker 1: thank you so much for joining me. I hope you've 206 00:12:39,360 --> 00:12:42,080 Speaker 1: found some inspiration to seek out and savor the moments 207 00:12:42,120 --> 00:12:45,600 Speaker 1: that make your life worth living, and wishing you a 208 00:12:45,679 --> 00:12:48,240 Speaker 1: week full of moments of iggy guy, have a great 209 00:12:48,240 --> 00:13:00,120 Speaker 1: week and see you next Monday.