WEBVTT - ProTeen Goals 0:00:06.960 --> 0:00:09.879 It's Show and Tell time. Thanks for joining us. It's 0:00:10.039 --> 0:00:11.440 Melon month today. 0:00:12.800 --> 0:00:13.000 Hi. 0:00:15.600 --> 0:00:18.440 Yeah, I'm good. I'm good today. My head, I've had 0:00:18.440 --> 0:00:20.600 a good run with my headaches at the moment, so. 0:00:20.760 --> 0:00:23.360 I really hate when you say that. 0:00:24.400 --> 0:00:26.000 Well, I said it to Sam the other day. I'm like, 0:00:26.040 --> 0:00:28.000 I've had nine weeks out of hospital, and he's like, 0:00:28.200 --> 0:00:29.720 oh my god. And then the next day I had 0:00:29.720 --> 0:00:32.920 a bad head. I don't talk about it anymore. I'm like, you, 0:00:33.000 --> 0:00:34.280 I don't want to jinx myself. 0:00:34.400 --> 0:00:35.080 Yeah. No. 0:00:35.720 --> 0:00:38.640 But because I've had a good run, it's like I'm 0:00:38.680 --> 0:00:41.840 on borrowed time now. So I've resigned to the fact 0:00:41.880 --> 0:00:44.320 that I might have to go into hospital every two months, 0:00:44.400 --> 0:00:46.159 and I've got an extra week at the moment, so 0:00:46.200 --> 0:00:48.400 I'm like, it's okay if I have to go in now. 0:00:48.600 --> 0:00:50.600 And this is okay as long as you know that 0:00:50.680 --> 0:00:52.680 there's a solution, yes, the. 0:00:52.720 --> 0:00:56.880 Issue, Yeah, the baddate solution, but there's a plan there anyway. 0:00:56.920 --> 0:01:00.160 So I'm good. But I am on the bandwagon of 0:01:00.200 --> 0:01:04.080 trying to get a lot more protein into my diet, 0:01:04.640 --> 0:01:07.360 which is doing my fucking heading. 0:01:08.080 --> 0:01:12.679 Of course it's important, Yes, all this stuff's important, but 0:01:12.680 --> 0:01:14.680 there's part of me that feels like this stuff can 0:01:14.720 --> 0:01:18.640 be a bit triggering because again it is like it's 0:01:18.760 --> 0:01:21.240 like counting calories. Yeah you. 0:01:23.440 --> 0:01:28.520 Oh, it's so it's so annoying. And also I get 0:01:28.560 --> 0:01:30.520 up in the morning and I'm not hungry, Like I'm 0:01:30.560 --> 0:01:33.000 just not that I'm working with a dietitian at the 0:01:33.040 --> 0:01:35.600 moment because my guts are so bad and I need 0:01:35.720 --> 0:01:40.560 help with getting my digestion working. And so it's a 0:01:40.600 --> 0:01:43.760 non dieting dietitian, which is the only kind of dietitian 0:01:43.760 --> 0:01:46.040 you should ever go to if you need help in 0:01:46.040 --> 0:01:48.720 that area. But she's like, you got to start having 0:01:48.800 --> 0:01:51.880 more regular small meals. I just find it's so hard 0:01:51.920 --> 0:01:54.400 because like when I'm hungry, I'm ravenous. When I'm not hungry, 0:01:54.480 --> 0:01:56.800 I'm not hungry, and trying to force myself to eat 0:01:56.960 --> 0:02:00.720 is awful. But I've looked like those I bought these 0:02:00.920 --> 0:02:05.280 like vegan protein bars. My god, they make me so gassy. 0:02:05.920 --> 0:02:09.480 My stomach looks like a pregnant belly. I'm like, oh 0:02:09.520 --> 0:02:11.359 my god, I can't do this, but I need something 0:02:11.400 --> 0:02:13.160 I can just run out the door with, you know. 0:02:13.440 --> 0:02:18.200 And I've also got those Tubani high protein yogurts and 0:02:18.280 --> 0:02:23.440 I'm just trying so hard, but I'm so bloated and 0:02:23.639 --> 0:02:27.000 so gassy that I'm like, maybe protein's not for me. 0:02:27.840 --> 0:02:32.200 You know that those yogurts that are high protein, there's 0:02:32.400 --> 0:02:34.160 like I don't know if it's a taste or a 0:02:34.280 --> 0:02:38.320 smell to them, right, it's like it's like you can 0:02:38.480 --> 0:02:42.440 smell the way or whatever is this, Yeah, you can 0:02:42.480 --> 0:02:45.840 smell it. And also with yogurts for me, once you've 0:02:45.960 --> 0:02:49.080 opened the tub, yeah, as soon as I open that 0:02:49.160 --> 0:02:51.320 lid to have it again and I see the separation, 0:02:51.880 --> 0:02:54.560 Oh yeah, you've almost got to close your eyes water. 0:02:54.720 --> 0:02:57.200 I'm like, I can't look at that. I can't do it. 0:02:57.400 --> 0:02:59.400 And I always second guess if it's off or not, 0:02:59.600 --> 0:03:02.080 which it's not. But I'm like, m's this off. But 0:03:02.120 --> 0:03:04.480 I'm trying so hard. There's only so much meat you 0:03:04.520 --> 0:03:07.480 can eat and then peanut butter, and I'm like, oh, 0:03:07.520 --> 0:03:10.200 this is so draining. I wish this wasn't our latest thing. 0:03:10.200 --> 0:03:12.480 I bet you it'll get to two years time and 0:03:12.600 --> 0:03:14.880 be like it's not protein that you need, it's this, 0:03:15.160 --> 0:03:17.440 Like it'll be one of those things that changes. Again. 0:03:17.800 --> 0:03:21.240 I'm not an advertisement for this because my diet is 0:03:21.680 --> 0:03:25.880 so bad, right, But I think I still think the 0:03:25.880 --> 0:03:29.440 barometer is just when you're going to eat something, try 0:03:29.480 --> 0:03:32.320 and have a bit of protein, a bit of veggies, 0:03:32.720 --> 0:03:34.400 whatever on your plate. Just try and make it a 0:03:34.440 --> 0:03:39.040 balanced meal, a rainin bough, a rainbow. But like it's 0:03:39.080 --> 0:03:40.680 the counting of you need this. 0:03:41.440 --> 0:03:45.720 I can't count. I'm not counting. Brook is on the protein. 0:03:45.760 --> 0:03:48.240 Brook who I do icronic with, is on the protein 0:03:48.640 --> 0:03:50.720 and for her health she absolutely has to be, which 0:03:50.760 --> 0:03:54.040 I do too. But she bumsteered me so bad. She's like, oh, 0:03:54.040 --> 0:03:56.120 I just had a high protein snack. She had a 0:03:56.240 --> 0:03:59.040 corn cakes with bisc off and a banana on it, 0:03:59.120 --> 0:04:01.720 and she's like, yeah, it's really high protein. So I 0:04:01.800 --> 0:04:04.160 get the bisk off. I look at it. It's so 0:04:04.440 --> 0:04:08.040 full of fucking sugar. There's like point five protein in there. 0:04:08.440 --> 0:04:11.080 And I'm like, a corncake's got none, banana's got none. 0:04:11.120 --> 0:04:12.920 I'm like, what are you doing to me? I ate 0:04:13.040 --> 0:04:17.560 half the jar because it's it's like natala on crack. 0:04:17.680 --> 0:04:18.680 It's just cookies. 0:04:19.600 --> 0:04:20.400 I don't rate that. 0:04:21.160 --> 0:04:23.560 What tastes like caramel. And everyone's like, you've got to 0:04:23.560 --> 0:04:26.680 get the crunchy one, the ones with crunchy bits in it. Oh, 0:04:26.800 --> 0:04:29.680 it's so good, and then I've been mixing it in 0:04:29.720 --> 0:04:33.040 with my protein yogurt and so it's just like my 0:04:33.200 --> 0:04:35.920 whole protein has just gone to shit because it's just 0:04:36.200 --> 0:04:41.839 caked in piscotti. Fuck shit. One of the other things 0:04:41.839 --> 0:04:44.560 that I really want to try, which the Kardashians are, 0:04:44.560 --> 0:04:46.440 I forget the name of the doctor, but he always 0:04:46.480 --> 0:04:49.799 pops up on my Instagram and he always talks about 0:04:49.839 --> 0:04:53.000 like ADHD and symptoms of it, and like he's more 0:04:53.200 --> 0:04:56.280 I guess, holistic doctor. But he was also on Chloe 0:04:56.400 --> 0:04:59.600 Kardashian's podcast, which I've never listened to. If you listen 0:04:59.680 --> 0:05:05.240 to that, no, no need that, but he is saying 0:05:05.279 --> 0:05:12.160 that saffron. He's always prescribed saffron supplements to his clients 0:05:12.480 --> 0:05:17.240 because apparently, and don't go off your medication, anyone who's 0:05:17.320 --> 0:05:20.360 on it, don't. None of this is like speak to 0:05:20.360 --> 0:05:23.880 your own doctor. But he was saying that saffron is 0:05:25.040 --> 0:05:27.400 done doing a lot of clinical trials and it is 0:05:27.800 --> 0:05:32.400 as good as an antidepressant, and also antidepressants quill your 0:05:32.400 --> 0:05:34.760 sex drive. Saffron apparently increases it. 0:05:36.120 --> 0:05:39.440 Antidepressants I would agree because when I've been on them 0:05:39.520 --> 0:05:43.480 in the past, that's a lot of they do totally. 0:05:43.520 --> 0:05:48.240 They absolutely annihilate it. But I was like, God, I've 0:05:48.240 --> 0:05:50.360 got to get some of these Saffron things. I looked 0:05:50.360 --> 0:05:55.039 them up. They're so expensive, because Saffron is like so 0:05:55.200 --> 0:05:57.960 ridiculously expensive, and I was like, oh my god. For 0:05:58.160 --> 0:06:01.560 thirty tablets it was like over a hundred bucks or something. 0:06:01.600 --> 0:06:04.960 I'm like, I really want to try this, and Chloe 0:06:05.000 --> 0:06:08.640 swears by them, but I'm like, oh, I can't do it. 0:06:08.880 --> 0:06:12.200 Chloe swears by it, but I'm sure. I'm sure there's 0:06:12.240 --> 0:06:18.440 other things going on for Chloe that are made life, 0:06:18.600 --> 0:06:23.039 you know, like the normal stuff that we might feel 0:06:23.320 --> 0:06:25.240 low about. And I'm not saying if you're rich or 0:06:25.240 --> 0:06:27.159 immune to being depressed, of course you're not. 0:06:27.760 --> 0:06:31.279 But you no, you're probably the opposite if you're that 0:06:31.440 --> 0:06:35.279 wealthy to be probably depressed. But I just am like, 0:06:35.760 --> 0:06:38.560 I can't. I know that some people, you know, a 0:06:38.600 --> 0:06:41.200 lot of people aren't into antidepressants and will go the 0:06:41.279 --> 0:06:44.400 natural route. I'm also like, there are so many different 0:06:44.440 --> 0:06:48.200 types of antidepressants that Saffron can't cover all the different types, 0:06:48.560 --> 0:06:51.720 no what I mean. So I'm like, oh, but I'm 0:06:51.760 --> 0:06:53.880 desperate to try it, but I need. If anyone knows 0:06:53.880 --> 0:06:56.280 a brand that doesn't cost a million bucks and is good, 0:06:56.360 --> 0:06:58.680 please show and Tell Podcasts is where you can find us. 0:06:58.720 --> 0:07:02.080 I bought some little somebody sent me ones for your kids, 0:07:02.160 --> 0:07:05.000 little chewelbuw ones that we've got vitamins and saffron like 0:07:05.080 --> 0:07:08.400 meant to be you know, moodcarmas. Oh my god, I 0:07:08.480 --> 0:07:10.200 got to give that to all my kids. 0:07:10.720 --> 0:07:12.960 Yeah, I think you know what I reckon. Just try 0:07:13.000 --> 0:07:15.679 it and see if you feel a difference. One hundred bucks. 0:07:15.720 --> 0:07:16.960 I don't know how long that's for. 0:07:16.880 --> 0:07:21.320 But let's say thirty tablets, okay, So no, no, sorry, 0:07:21.440 --> 0:07:24.040 you meant have three a day. So it worked out 0:07:24.080 --> 0:07:26.640 to be ludicrous. That's what I was like. And I'm 0:07:26.680 --> 0:07:29.760 also having beef liver tablets. I'm low on iron, so 0:07:29.760 --> 0:07:32.200 I'm having an iron tablet and beef liver four of 0:07:32.240 --> 0:07:35.480 those a day, and so's BackStar, so we're just churning 0:07:35.520 --> 0:07:40.000 through them. I'm like, this is so ridiculous how expensive 0:07:40.040 --> 0:07:42.840 it is to try and have a healthy lifestyle and 0:07:42.840 --> 0:07:45.800 get what your body needs. Also, I had another appointment 0:07:45.800 --> 0:07:49.640 with my psychiatrist yesterday, a half hour appointment, and then 0:07:49.680 --> 0:07:52.240 he pushed it into forty five, because again he went 0:07:52.280 --> 0:07:55.920 through every single note, read like on the phone to 0:07:55.960 --> 0:07:59.000 me my sleep study and all other notes eight hundred 0:07:59.040 --> 0:08:01.920 dollars again, and I ended up saying to him, Hey, 0:08:01.920 --> 0:08:03.960 I'd really like to try this, and he's like, okay, 0:08:04.000 --> 0:08:05.760 well let's try that. And that was the end of 0:08:05.760 --> 0:08:08.560 the conversation. And I said to Sam, I literally sat 0:08:08.600 --> 0:08:10.280 there in silence most of it while he went over 0:08:10.360 --> 0:08:13.040 my notes. Sam's like, what are the profession? Can you 0:08:13.160 --> 0:08:16.640 rock up to a meeting and not be prepared for 0:08:18.080 --> 0:08:18.680 There is. 0:08:18.600 --> 0:08:24.440 A real thing at the moment where I actually read 0:08:24.440 --> 0:08:28.559 a story a couple of weeks ago about a mother 0:08:29.200 --> 0:08:34.280 who diagnosed her child like her child was having all 0:08:34.320 --> 0:08:37.800 of these issues, and she took him to like eleven 0:08:37.880 --> 0:08:40.320 different doctors to try and figure out what was wrong, 0:08:40.720 --> 0:08:43.120 and they're all like, there's nothing wrong, there's nothing wrong. 0:08:43.120 --> 0:08:46.960 And she knew something was wrong. She fucking used chat 0:08:47.040 --> 0:08:51.640 GPT YEAP, and she diagnosed it. They pushed for that, 0:08:51.720 --> 0:08:54.120 she pushed for these tests to be done. Yeah, and 0:08:54.160 --> 0:08:57.960 he had what it said. I'm like, now, not that 0:08:58.000 --> 0:09:02.000 I've lost faith in doctors, but the time constraints they 0:09:02.040 --> 0:09:03.920 have all that sort of stuff. I'm like there's so 0:09:04.040 --> 0:09:08.560 much available, like of course, like see a health professional, 0:09:08.800 --> 0:09:12.240 but there's so much stuff at our disposal. And I 0:09:12.280 --> 0:09:14.360 don't mean chat GPT, but the chat. 0:09:14.280 --> 0:09:20.040 GBT is proving to give in the medical world, give clearer, 0:09:20.280 --> 0:09:26.640 more specific results and diagnosises. It's really diagnosis whatever it 0:09:26.720 --> 0:09:29.920 is than actually, and I think we're absolutely always going 0:09:29.960 --> 0:09:34.600 to need a face to face, you know, doctor. But 0:09:34.679 --> 0:09:37.840 at the same time, yeah, it's like, for example, my 0:09:38.040 --> 0:09:42.600 wrist at the moment is so fucking sore, and I 0:09:42.640 --> 0:09:44.640 went and got I went to my and I love 0:09:44.679 --> 0:09:46.600 my GP, but went and got a scan and an 0:09:46.720 --> 0:09:48.720 X ray and then I got a text from her 0:09:48.800 --> 0:09:51.840 saying it's all clear. And I'm like, I can't put 0:09:51.880 --> 0:09:54.559 my wrist down. I can't, like I can barely pick 0:09:54.640 --> 0:09:58.720 things up. So is that it like I'm now going 0:09:58.800 --> 0:10:00.000 to have to go back and go I need to 0:10:00.160 --> 0:10:02.720 get an MRI now or something, because there's clearly something 0:10:02.760 --> 0:10:05.360 going on that those scans haven't picked up. But I 0:10:05.440 --> 0:10:07.400 hate that even things like that, you have to just 0:10:07.480 --> 0:10:10.000 constantly advocate for yourself, Like I'm not just gonna sit 0:10:10.040 --> 0:10:11.480 here and go all right, well, I just can't use 0:10:11.480 --> 0:10:11.920 his wrist. 0:10:12.400 --> 0:10:15.360 I think the like their thing is when she says 0:10:15.400 --> 0:10:18.480 nothing's wrong, it's like, oh, well there's no tumor in 0:10:18.520 --> 0:10:19.600 there or whatever like. 0:10:19.600 --> 0:10:23.080 That, something carpool tunnel or something like that. But I 0:10:23.160 --> 0:10:25.840 just feel like, going, well, can we please keep investigating this? 0:10:26.040 --> 0:10:29.600 I want just somebody in my medical world because there's 0:10:29.640 --> 0:10:33.400 so many to be really proactive where no one works together. 0:10:34.480 --> 0:10:36.360 Something will come back and go, well, there's nothing in 0:10:36.400 --> 0:10:38.760 your test results. But it's like, but I'm not okay, 0:10:38.920 --> 0:10:40.920 So what else are we going to do here? Like 0:10:40.960 --> 0:10:43.720 I'm the one who constantly has to push yeah, and 0:10:43.760 --> 0:10:46.480 it's frustrating. But yeah, Sam and I were talking about 0:10:46.559 --> 0:10:50.840 chap pt PT the other day and just how yeah, 0:10:50.880 --> 0:10:56.120 it's so specific with medical stuff. But also they're doing 0:10:56.200 --> 0:10:59.880 trials for people with psychologists doing face to face like 0:11:00.000 --> 0:11:04.880 ecologists and AI psychology and the outcomes of becoming better 0:11:04.920 --> 0:11:07.319 with the AI psychology because I guess they can get 0:11:07.840 --> 0:11:11.600 so they've got access to the world's knowledge that they're having. 0:11:11.760 --> 0:11:14.360 But I would I definitely want a face to face 0:11:14.400 --> 0:11:16.679 as opposed to I don't think that would take on 0:11:16.760 --> 0:11:18.680 the information of AI for that. 0:11:19.480 --> 0:11:24.839 No, And imagine people like imagine if you're a hypochondriac 0:11:25.160 --> 0:11:28.120 and you're consulting chat GPT, and then imagine we get 0:11:28.120 --> 0:11:33.040 to a space where you can access prescription medication through 0:11:33.080 --> 0:11:37.480 it or whenever. I'm that scary, Yes, But I do 0:11:37.640 --> 0:11:40.800 think I'm not when I say this, I'm not minimizing 0:11:40.840 --> 0:11:43.440 what you're saying, because like, I am this sort of 0:11:43.480 --> 0:11:48.040 person too. But I think some people are just more 0:11:48.080 --> 0:11:51.520 in tune with their bodies or more sensitive to feeling 0:11:51.679 --> 0:11:55.960 when they've got pain somewhere or whatever. Whereas someone else 0:11:56.040 --> 0:11:58.680 might like just go, oh well, like just get on 0:11:58.800 --> 0:12:01.960 with it, or my risk a sore, Oh well, it'll 0:12:02.000 --> 0:12:06.400 be fine, Whereas there's a feeling like it's almost like 0:12:06.559 --> 0:12:08.480 when we were talking the other day about like being 0:12:08.679 --> 0:12:12.199 more emotional, it's like you're more in tuned to feelings 0:12:12.200 --> 0:12:16.920 in your body, so the intensity of it feels more 0:12:18.280 --> 0:12:20.240 because you're more connected to your body. 0:12:20.280 --> 0:12:22.880 Maybe yeah, I also think some people are just like, well, 0:12:22.880 --> 0:12:25.040 just suck it up, you know. To me, I'm like, 0:12:25.080 --> 0:12:26.559 I can't suck it up. I can't lift up my 0:12:26.640 --> 0:12:29.079 kid properly, Like no, no, you know what I mean. 0:12:29.679 --> 0:12:33.280 I feel I have a very high pain threshold. But 0:12:33.440 --> 0:12:36.440 it's like if it's I just am conscious and I 0:12:36.480 --> 0:12:38.480 think I have a health anxiety that I'm like, if 0:12:38.520 --> 0:12:39.960 I feel something in my body, I'm going to get 0:12:40.000 --> 0:12:42.319 it checked. I'm not waiting until it's too late. No, 0:12:42.440 --> 0:12:44.600 it's my worst night. I'm going to get something and go. 0:12:44.960 --> 0:12:47.880 Well if you didn't, like, for example, Sam's due to 0:12:47.960 --> 0:12:50.440 have a colonoscopy and just one of those shit tests 0:12:50.480 --> 0:12:53.600 and it's been sitting by his bed for like six months, 0:12:53.640 --> 0:12:55.480 and I'm like, that's going to be the test where 0:12:55.480 --> 0:12:57.800 it's like you should have got to it earlier, and 0:12:57.840 --> 0:13:00.800 I'm like, you just just do the fucking test. It's 0:13:00.880 --> 0:13:03.880 interesting though, talking about the doctors, you know, and getting 0:13:03.920 --> 0:13:07.400 prescription that you know, how you can do online doctors 0:13:08.000 --> 0:13:10.320 like you can just not your normal one, but you 0:13:10.360 --> 0:13:13.160 can just do I forget what they're called, yeah d 0:13:13.280 --> 0:13:17.280 on demand. Yeah exactly. So two of my mates got 0:13:17.280 --> 0:13:22.079 ozen picked through and the doctor made them take a 0:13:22.120 --> 0:13:25.840 photo and send through the photo and said through the 0:13:25.840 --> 0:13:30.120 photo yes. So one of my friends that's literally pushed 0:13:30.120 --> 0:13:33.000 her face back so it like made a bigger double 0:13:33.120 --> 0:13:37.040 chin and sent it through and got a prescription for it. Yeah. 0:13:37.080 --> 0:13:40.680 That's that's That's why I feel like we've gone too far. 0:13:41.080 --> 0:13:44.080 Yeah, things like that. It's like, that's good. It's like, 0:13:44.679 --> 0:13:50.440 what's it called, like willy nilly, Yeah, that'll do. 0:13:54.000 --> 0:13:58.520 Well. Speaking being annoyed, you know how. I'm not going 0:13:58.600 --> 0:14:00.520 to say a new segment, of course, but you know 0:14:00.600 --> 0:14:04.920 we do embarrassing for no reason. Yes, I was thinking 0:14:05.080 --> 0:14:08.600 the other day, like one of my most used phrases 0:14:08.760 --> 0:14:12.199 is for fuck's sake, Yes, just like all the time, 0:14:12.559 --> 0:14:16.960 everything pisses me off, And I was just being aware 0:14:17.080 --> 0:14:20.720 of things that were making me angry. But how irrational 0:14:20.800 --> 0:14:21.200 they were. 0:14:21.800 --> 0:14:24.240 Yes, they're all usually irrational. 0:14:24.760 --> 0:14:27.880 Well, I mean I would say, for a like a 0:14:28.000 --> 0:14:31.240 normal person, you can just go, oh, that's annoying, but 0:14:31.280 --> 0:14:33.560 you're not going to have it like a fucking hisssy 0:14:33.560 --> 0:14:36.480 fit over it. But I made a little list of 0:14:36.520 --> 0:14:40.680 some things that are making me irrationally angry. This happened 0:14:40.680 --> 0:14:43.920 the other day. You know, when you pump out moisturizer 0:14:44.120 --> 0:14:46.840 or face wash or something, and it's like on the 0:14:47.280 --> 0:14:50.080 spout where it comes out, it's hardened a little bit, 0:14:50.720 --> 0:14:52.720 and then when you push it, it squirts off in 0:14:52.760 --> 0:14:53.720 another direction. 0:14:53.880 --> 0:14:56.880 Direction. Ye hit me right in the eye. It was 0:14:56.960 --> 0:14:59.240 facial No, that's fair enough. 0:14:59.680 --> 0:15:03.560 Was so angry, like it pissed me off. And it 0:15:03.600 --> 0:15:06.800 also happens with my moisturizer a lot, my body moisturizer. 0:15:06.960 --> 0:15:10.120 The body moisturizer always clunks up there, goos. 0:15:09.840 --> 0:15:12.400 Up the top, it goes on the floor and then 0:15:12.440 --> 0:15:13.680 the floor slippery. 0:15:14.120 --> 0:15:17.080 Yes, I know it. Well, I've read a meme the 0:15:17.120 --> 0:15:20.320 other day. It's like you know that you yeah, irrationally 0:15:20.800 --> 0:15:25.080 irritable or anxious when you get like over the top 0:15:25.160 --> 0:15:29.440 about objects as opposed to people, like you know, getting 0:15:29.480 --> 0:15:32.120 your top court on a door when you cross or 0:15:32.160 --> 0:15:32.920 something like that. 0:15:33.080 --> 0:15:35.880 It always have that anger in that moment, and then 0:15:35.880 --> 0:15:38.680 you're so frustrated that it can be good because it 0:15:38.680 --> 0:15:42.480 can take a comedic turn and then the laughter breaks it. Yes, 0:15:42.760 --> 0:15:48.080 you realize how fucking stupid you look trying. Yeah, this 0:15:48.200 --> 0:15:51.600 is a people related thing, a child related thing. The 0:15:51.640 --> 0:15:57.720 following responses to questions, I don't know. It wasn't me. 0:15:59.040 --> 0:16:05.560 I forgot. And I know every time I say to 0:16:05.680 --> 0:16:08.880 my kids, you know you've got to do that, and 0:16:08.920 --> 0:16:15.960 they say, oh, I know, I have asked you five times. 0:16:16.280 --> 0:16:18.720 You don't know. Every time they say it, I look 0:16:18.720 --> 0:16:20.640 at them and I know this is very bad parenting 0:16:20.680 --> 0:16:25.120 and I'm like, don't fucking say you know you don't know, 0:16:25.360 --> 0:16:28.400 because if you knew, you would do it. They like, 0:16:28.520 --> 0:16:31.560 you're a punish Oh my god. 0:16:31.160 --> 0:16:33.240 Yes, but I hear myself with backs, and I'm like, 0:16:33.280 --> 0:16:36.000 i am such a punished because can you please pick 0:16:36.120 --> 0:16:38.760 up your clothes in the bathroom? I will. It's like, 0:16:38.840 --> 0:16:40.680 but you won't because you don't. 0:16:41.280 --> 0:16:44.560 It seems like a reasonable request, doesn't it is not 0:16:44.640 --> 0:16:48.320 reasonable reason, and you make things as easy as you can. 0:16:48.440 --> 0:16:50.840 Like my kids have baskets in their room to put 0:16:50.880 --> 0:16:51.920 their dirty washing in. 0:16:52.280 --> 0:16:54.000 I've got to do that for backs. I get them 0:16:54.000 --> 0:16:56.040 to put it straight into the laundry. I'm thinking I'm 0:16:56.040 --> 0:16:58.040 going to get him to start doing his own laundry. 0:16:59.400 --> 0:16:59.840 Do you reckon? 0:17:00.280 --> 0:17:03.720 And then I'm like, no, maybe I should still do 0:17:03.800 --> 0:17:06.000 it. It's a motherly thing to do. But I'm like, they've 0:17:06.040 --> 0:17:08.840 just got no idea what it takes to run a house. 0:17:09.080 --> 0:17:12.040 And the entitlement of them. How's this the other day? 0:17:12.560 --> 0:17:15.399 Because in the morning, it's such a fine toothcomb to 0:17:15.400 --> 0:17:17.879 get backs to school. It's like everything has to be 0:17:17.920 --> 0:17:21.479 smooth sailing. So it's like he's treated like a baby 0:17:21.520 --> 0:17:25.119 in there, because in the mornings because that's just the 0:17:25.119 --> 0:17:27.199 way it has to run in our house. And now 0:17:27.280 --> 0:17:29.600 the day, I said, get your own breakfast, and so 0:17:29.640 --> 0:17:32.600 he gets Natalla on toast and I said, don't make 0:17:32.600 --> 0:17:34.840 yourself Natella on toast again. He said, well, don't make 0:17:34.880 --> 0:17:41.760 me make my own breakfast. It's yeah. God. I was like, 0:17:41.880 --> 0:17:45.080 I fucked you. I have single handedly fucking broken you. 0:17:45.520 --> 0:17:48.200 And I got so angry. I'm like, how dare you 0:17:48.200 --> 0:17:51.080 You're making your own dattas from now? Like you just 0:17:51.119 --> 0:17:53.879 get so and he just was an off the cuff 0:17:54.480 --> 0:17:56.800 like he doesn't. He's not that much of a brat, 0:17:56.800 --> 0:17:59.280 But in that moment, I'm like, you're an entitled, fucking prick. 0:18:00.080 --> 0:18:03.080 It's so rude. You could do your In my head, 0:18:03.080 --> 0:18:04.200 I'm like, what can I get him to do or 0:18:04.200 --> 0:18:05.440 get him to do his own washing? 0:18:06.160 --> 0:18:10.000 I think maybe like washing, this is just for me though, 0:18:10.119 --> 0:18:12.840 like so everyone does their own thing. To me, washing 0:18:12.880 --> 0:18:18.320 feels extreme, but I think, like my kids make their 0:18:18.359 --> 0:18:20.720 own breakfast and their own lunches, their own school, I 0:18:20.800 --> 0:18:25.439 should right, Like I think what we do sometimes we 0:18:25.560 --> 0:18:28.879 all do is it's just you can't be fucked with 0:18:28.960 --> 0:18:29.239 the art. 0:18:29.240 --> 0:18:32.399 I can't be you're like same as I pack all 0:18:32.440 --> 0:18:35.720 the boys lunches. But that's because I like to know, Okay, 0:18:35.760 --> 0:18:38.280 you're getting a salad sandwich in there, or you're getting 0:18:38.280 --> 0:18:40.359 some fruit. If I said to backs pack your own lunch, 0:18:40.400 --> 0:18:42.439 it would just literally be six packets chips. 0:18:42.880 --> 0:18:46.080 But then maybe it's for example, like if you say 0:18:46.119 --> 0:18:48.480 to them, okay, pack it the night before, then you 0:18:48.520 --> 0:18:50.119 can look at it and say, listen, you need to 0:18:50.119 --> 0:18:52.240 put a piece of fruit in there or something. And 0:18:52.280 --> 0:18:55.200 then some days you're a bit looser like okay, well 0:18:55.320 --> 0:18:55.840 you can. 0:18:56.800 --> 0:18:59.880 You know what to do that. It literally comes down 0:19:00.080 --> 0:19:02.159 to Sam and are going what capacity do we have 0:19:02.280 --> 0:19:06.480 at the moment to enforce these rules, Like you set 0:19:06.520 --> 0:19:08.240 the rule and then it is up to you to 0:19:08.400 --> 0:19:11.080 enforce it as the parent. And sometimes I'm like, I 0:19:11.119 --> 0:19:13.800 just don't have any capacity, But I also know I'm 0:19:13.840 --> 0:19:16.439 crippling my children in the process of it. Like some 0:19:16.600 --> 0:19:20.879 I've got a friend whose kids do everything. They're unbelievable. 0:19:20.920 --> 0:19:22.879 They're the ones who prep the dinner, cook the dinner, 0:19:22.920 --> 0:19:25.640 they do their own breakfast, they do, you know, go 0:19:25.680 --> 0:19:28.800 and do the shopping and the cleanic like it's and 0:19:28.840 --> 0:19:32.679 they are such incredible kids that to me I compare 0:19:32.680 --> 0:19:36.440 myself and go, fuck my kid, like, well, just pour 0:19:36.560 --> 0:19:39.639 corn flakes or poor make himself a tell her on toast, 0:19:39.680 --> 0:19:42.959 and that's what he thinks a good breakfast. DearS, I 0:19:43.119 --> 0:19:43.920 just do everything. 0:19:44.520 --> 0:19:48.840 This is where parenting becomes, like it's so individualized. But 0:19:49.000 --> 0:19:52.560 I do think that you should let kids be kids 0:19:52.600 --> 0:19:55.440 in some ways too, So to do shopping and stuff. 0:19:55.920 --> 0:19:58.359 I'm like, I don't think that's a kid's responsibility. I 0:19:58.400 --> 0:20:01.240 think it's their responsibility to help out. Yeah, and pull 0:20:01.320 --> 0:20:04.400 their weight in some ways, but yeah, that. 0:20:04.440 --> 0:20:05.000 Sort of stuff. 0:20:05.040 --> 0:20:07.959 I sort of feel like while they're young, like if 0:20:07.960 --> 0:20:10.520 we're talking about early teenagers or whatever. 0:20:11.440 --> 0:20:14.160 I don't know. I know it's hard to know, isn't it. 0:20:14.480 --> 0:20:17.239 But you've also got to read your kids. Sometimes I 0:20:17.280 --> 0:20:19.720 get really down on myself, and then I'm like, I 0:20:19.760 --> 0:20:22.639 know my kid's capacity, I know my capacity, and I 0:20:22.680 --> 0:20:25.959 also have to remind myself I'm doing the best I can. Like, 0:20:26.080 --> 0:20:28.720 I get really down on myself around my kids because 0:20:28.720 --> 0:20:31.119 it's our biggest thing. It's our biggest thing in life, 0:20:31.160 --> 0:20:33.119 and you just don't want to raise assholes and you 0:20:33.160 --> 0:20:35.320 want to make sure they're happy. And I have to 0:20:35.359 --> 0:20:38.000 just go you're doing the best you can. Like I 0:20:38.200 --> 0:20:40.960 have to constantly remind myself that because I put myself 0:20:41.119 --> 0:20:42.600 down so much as a parent. 0:20:43.480 --> 0:20:46.520 Yeah, and like, as you've said before, though, when he's 0:20:46.600 --> 0:20:50.080 not at home, the feedback is incredible. 0:20:50.520 --> 0:20:53.320 And he's got a job, like he works, you know, 0:20:53.520 --> 0:20:56.040 every Saturday and Friday after school, so I'm like, there's 0:20:56.040 --> 0:20:58.880 stuff going on there. But then, yeah, I think it's 0:20:58.920 --> 0:21:01.800 so dangerous. Compare your kids to other kids or the 0:21:01.800 --> 0:21:04.879 way you parent to other people, especially if there's a 0:21:04.880 --> 0:21:08.920 neurodivergency in the household. It's like you're parenting is very 0:21:08.960 --> 0:21:11.959 different than when it's quote unquote typical kids. 0:21:12.240 --> 0:21:15.120