WEBVTT - WE'RE FEELING DISCONNECTED... 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:01.760 It is actually weird that when you think about it, 0:00:01.800 --> 0:00:03.240 some of you, you know, you may be the best 0:00:03.240 --> 0:00:05.560 friend when you're older, like and you're about to pass away, 0:00:05.640 --> 0:00:06.880 you might not have met yet. 0:00:07.400 --> 0:00:08.799 Oh that's a bit deep. 0:00:09.800 --> 0:00:11.039 It's very brief. 0:00:11.240 --> 0:00:18.960 Yeah, Where's your Head At? Is a podcast that talks 0:00:19.040 --> 0:00:23.599 full things. Right, hold on a sec, let's give this 0:00:23.680 --> 0:00:28.280 a refresh. Hi, I'm Anna. 0:00:28.200 --> 0:00:30.960 And I'm Matt, and we are now too newlywed not 0:00:31.040 --> 0:00:33.600 to each other. Just a female and male best friend 0:00:33.720 --> 0:00:35.760 here for the good, the bad, and the ugly. 0:00:35.600 --> 0:00:40.720 Times and exploring adulthood, family relationships, dilemmas. 0:00:40.360 --> 0:00:42.919 And whatever else we have the mental capacity to deal with. 0:00:43.280 --> 0:00:44.239 Come get the lowdown. 0:00:44.479 --> 0:00:46.200 This is your male and female perspective. 0:00:46.640 --> 0:00:53.160 So, Matt, where's your head at? It's good morning? How 0:00:53.240 --> 0:00:53.920 are you now? 0:00:54.440 --> 0:00:56.320 I'm good Anna? How are you today? 0:00:57.120 --> 0:01:03.120 Matt? I was arguing over who's more time? I'm pregnant? 0:01:03.400 --> 0:01:04.640 Does that mean you're tired? Though? 0:01:05.480 --> 0:01:07.360 Yeah? I feel like I literally wake up in the 0:01:07.400 --> 0:01:11.160 morning and my whole body is aching all over. I've 0:01:11.160 --> 0:01:13.920 also been having some round ligament. 0:01:13.600 --> 0:01:16.520 Pain and you were just talking about this. Talk us 0:01:16.560 --> 0:01:17.479 through what that means. 0:01:17.880 --> 0:01:20.880 So it's basically just a pregnancy symptom when the tummy's growing, 0:01:20.880 --> 0:01:24.600 when the baby's growing. And I've just been getting these shooting, 0:01:24.720 --> 0:01:29.440 sharp pains in my lower kind of mid tummy area, 0:01:29.560 --> 0:01:32.920 so much so that because I haven't really had that before, 0:01:33.760 --> 0:01:35.280 I was thinking maybe I would need to go to 0:01:35.319 --> 0:01:37.919 a hospital. I don't know, so I've been calling memob anyway. 0:01:38.000 --> 0:01:42.119 It's all fine, it's normal. It's around ligamit pain. But yeah, 0:01:42.319 --> 0:01:44.480 just one of the many fun things about pregnancy. But 0:01:44.640 --> 0:01:45.640 I'm more tired than you. 0:01:46.319 --> 0:01:49.440 So your belly is obviously growing, yeah, the baby, And 0:01:49.520 --> 0:01:52.760 is that what's hurting that it's growing outwards? I think So, 0:01:55.480 --> 0:01:57.640 I don't know anything about being pregnant. I don't know 0:01:57.640 --> 0:02:01.080 anything about having babies. Probably never will, so you'll have 0:02:01.120 --> 0:02:03.320 to explain to me more in detail about that. I 0:02:03.320 --> 0:02:06.200 guess like what that means, but you don't know. So 0:02:07.600 --> 0:02:13.320 next topic, No, And I think that I woke up 0:02:13.320 --> 0:02:15.399 the other day in a lot of pain as well, 0:02:15.440 --> 0:02:18.360 maybe not as much as you being pregnant, but I 0:02:18.400 --> 0:02:22.280 went and trained down at the local club Assie Rules 0:02:22.320 --> 0:02:22.959 you did. 0:02:23.520 --> 0:02:24.200 How was that? 0:02:24.760 --> 0:02:27.480 I was nervous? I haven't been or I haven't played 0:02:27.600 --> 0:02:31.440 football in probably ten years. Nineteen was the last time. 0:02:31.440 --> 0:02:36.679 I Yeah, I retired when I was nineteen, actually retired. Yeah, 0:02:36.720 --> 0:02:39.760 like there hung the votes up at nineteen. That was 0:02:39.800 --> 0:02:41.880 my last time. So yeah, exactly ten years. 0:02:42.000 --> 0:02:42.360 Wow. 0:02:42.800 --> 0:02:45.960 I did not think when I stopped playing then that 0:02:46.160 --> 0:02:48.800 ten years later I will take it again in the 0:02:48.800 --> 0:02:50.079 Gold Coast, on the Gold Coast. 0:02:50.000 --> 0:02:52.400 Ten years later, you'd come out of retirement on. 0:02:52.320 --> 0:02:54.600 The Gold Coast to play. Did not think, Well, I've 0:02:54.600 --> 0:02:57.840 had less I jumped to too much. I've only had 0:02:57.880 --> 0:03:00.519 one training session. I don't know, like if I will 0:03:00.560 --> 0:03:03.400 fully commit to playing, I'd love to. I feel like 0:03:03.440 --> 0:03:06.200 I even fitted straight into that culture straight away, like 0:03:06.240 --> 0:03:07.800 you know, with all the boys. I loved it, and 0:03:07.840 --> 0:03:09.440 I needed to make some mates as well. Off on 0:03:09.480 --> 0:03:11.240 the goal, well I need you. I've got friends. But 0:03:11.360 --> 0:03:13.560 like I guess you'd go in twice a week to training, 0:03:13.720 --> 0:03:14.680 playing on the weekend. 0:03:15.200 --> 0:03:18.799 I think it's really nice because obviously you've been I'm 0:03:18.800 --> 0:03:21.079 not gonna say worried, but you've been a bit like 0:03:22.040 --> 0:03:24.160 maybe in the dumps. Would you say about the fact 0:03:24.240 --> 0:03:27.000 that you know, you don't have as many friends up there, 0:03:27.000 --> 0:03:31.120 and you're such a social guy, and so the fact 0:03:31.160 --> 0:03:33.440 that you've gone out of your way in this new 0:03:33.600 --> 0:03:36.880 state that you've moved to, and you've really put yourself 0:03:36.920 --> 0:03:39.360 out there and joined the local footy club. I think, 0:03:39.440 --> 0:03:40.200 good on you. 0:03:40.240 --> 0:03:43.720 How good I am proud of myself because I did 0:03:43.720 --> 0:03:46.839 think to myself. I remember speaking to tamming'smum before I left, 0:03:46.880 --> 0:03:50.280 and I was like, I don't know, like, yeah, I 0:03:50.320 --> 0:03:51.520 was a bit nervous. I was like, oh, I don't 0:03:51.560 --> 0:03:53.080 know how they're going to go, like how I'm going 0:03:53.160 --> 0:03:54.800 to go talking to people. But as soon as I 0:03:54.840 --> 0:03:56.920 got there introduced myself to the coach, he was nice. 0:03:56.960 --> 0:03:59.200 He actually came up swinging. He was like a have 0:03:59.280 --> 0:04:01.440 to be spoken. He's like, I've actually just just clicked 0:04:01.440 --> 0:04:03.360 who you were and I was like oh yeah, and 0:04:03.400 --> 0:04:05.600 he goes, yeah, my wife loved that show. I mean 0:04:05.760 --> 0:04:07.640 I dabbled in it and I thought you're funny or something. 0:04:08.000 --> 0:04:10.080 And then he's like, oh you laugh. I did, And 0:04:10.080 --> 0:04:11.680 then I was like oh right, and he's like, let's 0:04:11.680 --> 0:04:13.360 not tell the other boys about that that I watched 0:04:13.360 --> 0:04:15.240 it or Anything's like let's keep down, like and I 0:04:15.280 --> 0:04:17.960 laughed and I was like oh okay, but yeah, I 0:04:18.880 --> 0:04:21.240 had a kick. I pulled up so sore did you. 0:04:21.400 --> 0:04:24.080 I that's the one thing that I realized how unfit 0:04:24.160 --> 0:04:24.960 I actually was. 0:04:25.400 --> 0:04:27.200 The body just doesn't recover this same. 0:04:27.760 --> 0:04:29.680 Not when you're nearly thirty, not like I did when 0:04:29.720 --> 0:04:32.240 I was nineteen. So I'll keep training and I'll see 0:04:32.240 --> 0:04:33.680 how I go, see if I play a game or two. 0:04:33.800 --> 0:04:35.360 Did you make any friends? 0:04:36.240 --> 0:04:38.560 I mean I didn't follow or at anyone on Facebook, 0:04:38.640 --> 0:04:40.839 so I didn't make those sort of friends. But I 0:04:41.040 --> 0:04:43.440 made Yeah, like I was mate. I hung out with 0:04:43.480 --> 0:04:44.480 people and laughed, and. 0:04:44.440 --> 0:04:46.160 You would like if you went back, you would want 0:04:46.160 --> 0:04:47.640 to hang out with them again, so they could be 0:04:47.720 --> 0:04:48.440 potentially friends. 0:04:48.480 --> 0:04:51.119 I could have potentially made friends. Who would have thought? 0:04:51.200 --> 0:04:54.240 Do you know what's so funny is I potentially made 0:04:54.279 --> 0:04:55.400 friends too recently? 0:04:55.600 --> 0:04:59.080 How do you manage that? At a baby thing? Yeah? 0:04:59.240 --> 0:05:04.200 So I I went to I've Joined Bump, which is 0:05:04.680 --> 0:05:10.479 a pregnancy pilates kind of class, and I went into 0:05:10.520 --> 0:05:12.440 the class, and I don't know, sometimes I get a 0:05:12.480 --> 0:05:16.479 bit shy going into new environments, new classes, so I 0:05:16.560 --> 0:05:19.599 kind of just kept to myself. And this girl called 0:05:19.680 --> 0:05:22.479 Jess was like, hey, like how are you? And like 0:05:22.560 --> 0:05:23.799 we spoke and I made. 0:05:23.600 --> 0:05:25.400 A new friend. Did you follow her at her? 0:05:25.440 --> 0:05:27.560 On Facebook because I didn't know her last name. 0:05:28.120 --> 0:05:29.440 Did you have another class? 0:05:30.120 --> 0:05:30.359 Did I? 0:05:30.400 --> 0:05:31.680 What? Do you have another class where you? 0:05:32.200 --> 0:05:34.800 Yeah, I'm going to go again. I've been going a 0:05:34.839 --> 0:05:36.960 couple of times, but I haven't seen her sands. But 0:05:37.600 --> 0:05:40.280 I've literally called Michael after the class and I was like, 0:05:40.360 --> 0:05:42.400 I think I made a new friend, and he was like, 0:05:42.480 --> 0:05:43.320 oh my god. 0:05:43.360 --> 0:05:46.240 Wow, Jess, if you're listening to this, please reach out 0:05:46.279 --> 0:05:48.040 to Anna. She wants to be friends. 0:05:48.279 --> 0:05:49.520 I want to be friends. No. 0:05:49.560 --> 0:05:52.440 It's funny you say that, though, because my mum's best 0:05:52.440 --> 0:05:55.600 friend she met in mother's group. Yeah, and then she's 0:05:55.640 --> 0:05:56.279 like my auntie. 0:05:56.680 --> 0:05:59.360 And it's so interesting because I feel like a lot 0:05:59.360 --> 0:06:04.279 of your initial friends you make at school, primary school 0:06:04.360 --> 0:06:04.800 or high. 0:06:04.640 --> 0:06:06.000 School playing football. 0:06:06.760 --> 0:06:08.440 If you're Matt Zukowski, you're playing for me. 0:06:08.520 --> 0:06:10.839 No, I'm talking about my best man. And I've met 0:06:10.839 --> 0:06:12.560 playing footy when I was like nine years old. 0:06:12.760 --> 0:06:15.599 Yeah. Yeah, So you like meet them in these earlier 0:06:15.600 --> 0:06:18.559 stages of your life. So it's so funny that I've 0:06:18.560 --> 0:06:21.599 come onto the podcast today being like, we made a friend. 0:06:23.000 --> 0:06:24.760 It is actually weird that when you think about it, 0:06:24.800 --> 0:06:26.560 some of you, you know, may be the best friend 0:06:26.800 --> 0:06:28.560 when you're older, like and you're about to pass away. 0:06:28.640 --> 0:06:29.800 You might not have met yet. 0:06:30.400 --> 0:06:31.799 Oh fuck, that's a bit deep. 0:06:32.800 --> 0:06:33.720 It's a very. 0:06:35.440 --> 0:06:38.120 But no, it is quite exciting to know. And like 0:06:38.160 --> 0:06:40.280 you said, like your mum's best friend she met at 0:06:40.320 --> 0:06:44.719 mother's group. That's exciting to me because every I guess 0:06:44.839 --> 0:06:47.840 they place you into a mother's group with people they 0:06:47.839 --> 0:06:50.560 look at the map and everyone who's given birth in 0:06:50.600 --> 0:06:53.680 the area recently and like pair you with people who 0:06:53.720 --> 0:06:56.680 are living in a close vicinity to you. So it's 0:06:56.760 --> 0:06:59.280 cool that I could be placed into a mother's group 0:06:59.320 --> 0:07:03.960 with people really connect, really get along, and potentially have 0:07:04.000 --> 0:07:06.440 a new friend for life. I love having saying friends 0:07:06.440 --> 0:07:09.640 like there's only one one place about my friend my. 0:07:09.640 --> 0:07:11.640 Mum and Betty also had there was another girl and 0:07:11.640 --> 0:07:13.720 they all lived in the same court together and in 0:07:13.720 --> 0:07:16.000 the same mother's group. But anyway, what I'm trying to 0:07:16.040 --> 0:07:18.320 say is that you're going to make new friends. And 0:07:18.400 --> 0:07:22.480 I'm now making new friends making new friends as so 0:07:22.560 --> 0:07:26.920 happy for that. While speaking of new friends, Anna Tammy 0:07:26.920 --> 0:07:28.520 and I have made a new friend called Patrick. 0:07:29.240 --> 0:07:33.440 Okay, elaborate color. You don't know more, you know, I 0:07:33.440 --> 0:07:35.680 do want to know more. I'm just confused. So I 0:07:35.680 --> 0:07:36.720 haven't heard of Patrick. 0:07:37.120 --> 0:07:43.920 Patrick is a made up mystical person roommate if you must, 0:07:44.320 --> 0:07:47.400 and he lives with Tammy and I, and we blame 0:07:48.600 --> 0:07:54.080 everything on him that happens. So, for instance, we will say, ah, babe, 0:07:54.120 --> 0:07:58.320 Patrick keeps leaving his bikinis in the bathroom, and she'll 0:07:58.360 --> 0:08:01.800 be like, oh okay, or she'll like, Matt Patrick doesn't 0:08:01.800 --> 0:08:03.160 make the bed in the morning, you know I mean, 0:08:03.200 --> 0:08:05.200 And then we blame Patrick for all this sort of 0:08:05.200 --> 0:08:06.560 stuff to make it less. 0:08:07.160 --> 0:08:12.200 Guys against the problem. That is literally the couple against 0:08:12.200 --> 0:08:12.679 the problem. 0:08:12.840 --> 0:08:15.440 It is, isn't it? And Patrick's a fucking problem, isn't he? 0:08:17.560 --> 0:08:18.720 God damn it? Patrick. 0:08:21.360 --> 0:08:24.640 I do really like that idea of like placing the 0:08:24.640 --> 0:08:30.760 blame on this made up, metaphorical, mystical annoying. 0:08:31.640 --> 0:08:36.840 Oh he is so annoying, trust me. So I recommend 0:08:36.840 --> 0:08:40.560 if you and Michael want to introduce Patrick to the relationship. 0:08:40.080 --> 0:08:41.959 Does it have to be called Patrick. It's kind of 0:08:42.000 --> 0:08:43.920 funny if everyone's is called Patrick. 0:08:43.640 --> 0:08:45.720 It is kind of funny. And Patrick having to say 0:08:45.760 --> 0:08:47.640 she doesn't she wants to pick a new name. But 0:08:47.760 --> 0:08:48.880 I was like, I like Patrick. 0:08:49.000 --> 0:08:50.960 Patrick's funny. It just rounds me with SpongeBob squa. 0:08:51.040 --> 0:08:56.160 I was about to say that, yeah, or Patrick Dempsey. 0:08:54.960 --> 0:08:58.360 Well, you have a new friend called Patrick and we 0:08:58.440 --> 0:09:01.680 have both made new friends in our thirties, So it 0:09:01.720 --> 0:09:05.120 is possible to not feel disconnected. And that is what 0:09:05.160 --> 0:09:11.200 we are talking about in today's episode. Let's get into it. 0:09:11.240 --> 0:09:15.079 So, a lot of relationships and Anna because one of them, 0:09:15.200 --> 0:09:20.000 or either of them fear he was trying to put 0:09:20.040 --> 0:09:22.080 my serious voice on then, and you see the way 0:09:22.120 --> 0:09:23.800 I'm sitting very serious into this mic. 0:09:24.160 --> 0:09:25.640 You've got like a shoulder off or something. 0:09:25.840 --> 0:09:30.200 I feel like someone strange sitting stands this would be 0:09:30.240 --> 0:09:32.960 more serious. I feel like a lot of relationships break 0:09:33.080 --> 0:09:35.400 up because one of them feels disconnected from the other one. 0:09:35.400 --> 0:09:36.120 Would you agree? 0:09:36.280 --> 0:09:39.559 Yeah? I literally say the words to Michael. I feel 0:09:39.559 --> 0:09:44.679 disconnected over the smallest of issues, and it drives him insane, 0:09:44.760 --> 0:09:46.600 Like he hates it when I say that. 0:09:46.720 --> 0:09:47.640 What does he reply with? 0:09:47.840 --> 0:09:50.120 Well, Michael would say why do you feel disconnected? And 0:09:50.120 --> 0:09:53.200 then I'll be like, well, blah blah blah blah blah blah. 0:09:53.240 --> 0:09:55.080 Michael does hate it because he's like it makes me 0:09:55.160 --> 0:09:57.559 feel like I'm doing something wrong, or. 0:09:57.440 --> 0:09:59.600 You know, like how often would you say you feel. 0:09:59.440 --> 0:10:01.840 Disconnected often, But I think I said it more like 0:10:01.920 --> 0:10:03.880 the start of the relationship. But I didn't really know 0:10:03.920 --> 0:10:07.360 that it was affecting him much. But now he's spoken 0:10:07.360 --> 0:10:08.600 to me about it, and he's like, I really hate 0:10:08.600 --> 0:10:11.280 it when you say that. Like the thing is with 0:10:11.360 --> 0:10:13.760 relationships as well, there's gonna be ebbs and flows. Like 0:10:13.960 --> 0:10:18.000 of course, you know, me and Michael are at our 0:10:18.080 --> 0:10:20.320 peak when we're on holidays, which is why I love 0:10:20.360 --> 0:10:22.360 being on holiday with him, because we're so in love. 0:10:22.679 --> 0:10:25.760 We give each other our full attention. Whereas I feel 0:10:25.800 --> 0:10:30.040 like when we're at home, we're working constantly. You know, 0:10:30.080 --> 0:10:32.160 you spend a lot of time on your phone if 0:10:32.200 --> 0:10:35.040 you work on your phone like me, So I feel 0:10:35.040 --> 0:10:38.400 like that kind of like plays into it. Like I 0:10:38.400 --> 0:10:40.640 I'm not just on my phone on Instagram or TikTok 0:10:40.720 --> 0:10:43.720 or whatever it is. I'm for my business talking to 0:10:43.760 --> 0:10:47.880 manufacturers constantly. We do meetings via zoom on our phone. 0:10:47.880 --> 0:10:50.360 For the podcast, I do content on my phone. I 0:10:50.520 --> 0:10:52.800 edit things on my phone. Like it's just constant. So 0:10:52.880 --> 0:10:56.040 my screen time is through the roof time. I actually 0:10:56.040 --> 0:10:57.559 don't know, I don't know how to look at it, 0:10:57.679 --> 0:10:58.960 and I'm glad I don't. 0:10:58.720 --> 0:11:00.600 Because I'm scared to love for everyone. 0:11:00.840 --> 0:11:02.760 No, I don't want to see it. 0:11:02.800 --> 0:11:06.080 All right, So my daily average last week was three 0:11:06.120 --> 0:11:09.160 hours and fifty eight minutes, with a total screen time 0:11:09.320 --> 0:11:11.160 of seven hours and fifty six minutes. 0:11:11.200 --> 0:11:13.480 So you're on your phone for about four hours a day. 0:11:13.840 --> 0:11:15.040 Yeah right. 0:11:15.840 --> 0:11:18.280 I actually hate sharing this because it makes me feel 0:11:18.320 --> 0:11:20.840 so shit and it is annoying, but I guess it's 0:11:20.960 --> 0:11:25.480 the reality. My daily average was six hours and one minute, 0:11:26.240 --> 0:11:28.960 and my total screen time for the week was twelve 0:11:29.000 --> 0:11:30.559 hours and four minutes. 0:11:31.200 --> 0:11:32.760 And not one of those times you could have called 0:11:32.800 --> 0:11:33.120 me back. 0:11:35.760 --> 0:11:38.480 I call you all the time. We seek on the 0:11:38.520 --> 0:11:40.040 phone too much as it is. 0:11:41.800 --> 0:11:44.600 I'm kiddy, no, but I think, like, no wonder Michael 0:11:44.600 --> 0:11:45.520 feels disconnected? 0:11:46.920 --> 0:11:50.200 One who said it? Not ah No, But I think 0:11:50.240 --> 0:11:53.680 it's it is worth taking into consideration that we both 0:11:53.760 --> 0:11:58.040 work on our phones a lot. So not that I'm 0:11:58.040 --> 0:12:01.120 trying to make excuses for myself, but I think today 0:12:01.120 --> 0:12:03.679 we're going to talk a lot about feeling disconnected and 0:12:03.720 --> 0:12:06.520 how phones are getting in the way of not just 0:12:07.120 --> 0:12:10.679 relationships but friendships, and what we can do to kind 0:12:10.720 --> 0:12:15.360 of fix and help this. Okay, on average, how many 0:12:15.400 --> 0:12:19.440 times do you think that smartphone you through unlock their 0:12:19.520 --> 0:12:20.600 phones per day? 0:12:22.000 --> 0:12:27.040 Oh, a day, five hundred. 0:12:27.920 --> 0:12:30.440 Not as many as any, but I mean it's still 0:12:30.440 --> 0:12:33.640 a lot. Fifty times a day. And it's so funny. 0:12:33.679 --> 0:12:35.080 I don't know if you've ever done this, but have 0:12:35.160 --> 0:12:37.439 you ever moved your apps around, like your main apps, 0:12:37.480 --> 0:12:41.120 like your Instagram or your email or whatever. And it's 0:12:41.240 --> 0:12:44.560 so your brain will automatically go to the place that 0:12:44.640 --> 0:12:48.240 it wants to go, just subconsciously without you even realizing. 0:12:48.360 --> 0:12:51.200 Oh, the amount of times that I've locked my phone 0:12:51.280 --> 0:12:53.440 and it was on the other slide of the apps 0:12:53.480 --> 0:12:55.840 that was on that side, and then I've unlocked it 0:12:55.840 --> 0:12:57.880 and gone on to where like, oh. 0:12:57.760 --> 0:12:59.959 So you're saying, if there's like two screens of apps, 0:13:00.320 --> 0:13:02.960 you've been a second screen, you've gone to the first 0:13:03.000 --> 0:13:03.760 scree it. 0:13:03.760 --> 0:13:06.800 And the times I've opened Medibank Private instead of like 0:13:06.960 --> 0:13:08.079 where my Instagram is. 0:13:08.640 --> 0:13:12.599 Killer, Yeah, And I mean it does affect your relationships. 0:13:12.920 --> 0:13:16.240 Do you sleep with your phone beside your bed? No, 0:13:16.760 --> 0:13:18.400 you don't. Where do you sleep with your phone? 0:13:18.440 --> 0:13:20.840 I've said this before on the podcast, and I'm very 0:13:20.960 --> 0:13:23.520 I don't like having a phone next to me on 0:13:23.559 --> 0:13:25.480 the bed. Or on the bedside table. I think it 0:13:25.520 --> 0:13:28.079 gives out rais do you know what I mean, like 0:13:28.280 --> 0:13:30.960 toxic stuff. I don't want to say, like it doesn't 0:13:30.960 --> 0:13:34.320 give you. I don't know, there's no Yeah, I'm worried 0:13:34.360 --> 0:13:37.160 about it. I remember some doctor when we did we 0:13:37.200 --> 0:13:39.400 put up a real of that, and some doctor debunked 0:13:39.400 --> 0:13:41.000 it and said, I have no proof of that. 0:13:41.360 --> 0:13:45.920 Because we said that Matt. Matt said that he sleeps 0:13:45.960 --> 0:13:46.880 with aeroplane mode. 0:13:47.040 --> 0:13:48.760 No, no, I don't sleep with airplane mode. I sleep with 0:13:48.760 --> 0:13:50.600 it on the ground or not next to my head 0:13:50.800 --> 0:13:52.319 or on my pillow because I don't like. 0:13:52.960 --> 0:13:54.920 You think that you could get radiation radiation. 0:13:55.480 --> 0:13:57.280 Yeah, And then this guy who. 0:13:57.160 --> 0:13:59.400 Was a doctor, well, I don't know if you can 0:13:59.440 --> 0:13:59.880 go doctor. 0:14:00.320 --> 0:14:00.880 He was a. 0:14:00.880 --> 0:14:02.160 Doctor, was he? 0:14:02.559 --> 0:14:04.200 I think so? And he was like, I have no 0:14:04.240 --> 0:14:06.199 evidence on this and I and I was like, I said, 0:14:06.200 --> 0:14:07.600 I'm saying to you. I was like, I'm not claiming 0:14:07.640 --> 0:14:09.199 to have any evidence of this. I'm just saying that's 0:14:09.240 --> 0:14:10.040 just my personal preface. 0:14:10.160 --> 0:14:12.199 What you do. I've heard people say that if you 0:14:12.240 --> 0:14:15.000 put your phone on aeroplane mode, it gives out less radiation. 0:14:15.160 --> 0:14:17.320 But again, we have to look at the scientific evidence 0:14:17.360 --> 0:14:19.920 on it. Well, I thought this was interesting. Seventy one 0:14:19.920 --> 0:14:25.080 percent of smartphone owners sleep with the phone directly beside 0:14:25.840 --> 0:14:31.320 their bed. That's a lot, and check their phone whilst 0:14:31.400 --> 0:14:34.040 using the bathroom, which I think is quite low. 0:14:34.520 --> 0:14:37.400 That is quite low. I really enjoy going to the 0:14:37.400 --> 0:14:39.760 bathroom and on your phone on my phone and just 0:14:40.440 --> 0:14:41.320 doom scrolling. 0:14:43.000 --> 0:14:45.000 So how long would you sit on the toilet for? 0:14:45.320 --> 0:14:46.000 My legs will go. 0:14:46.520 --> 0:14:47.840 Legs until the legs go numb. 0:14:47.880 --> 0:14:50.120 And then you're like, yeah, you don't get that luxury 0:14:50.120 --> 0:14:52.320 these days, and you'll realize that in a couple of months. 0:14:52.360 --> 0:14:56.720 You don't get that. Yeah, but what I do? I 0:14:56.800 --> 0:14:59.200 have noticed I've done this and I'm trying not to. 0:15:00.000 --> 0:15:02.280 I'm going to the bathroom standing up like I for 0:15:02.360 --> 0:15:04.920 a pee. I'll pull my phone out and I'm like, 0:15:04.920 --> 0:15:06.160 what the fuck am I doing? I don't need to 0:15:06.160 --> 0:15:09.640 be doing that. Yeah, and I'll put it away. I 0:15:09.680 --> 0:15:11.520 have seen myself do that a couple. 0:15:11.360 --> 0:15:13.720 Of times, especially for boys, because you stand up while 0:15:13.760 --> 0:15:17.080 we it's like, really like you should not leave a 0:15:17.120 --> 0:15:17.800 lot of hands. 0:15:17.880 --> 0:15:19.680 Yeah, I know my mates that have pulled it out 0:15:19.720 --> 0:15:23.280 and dropped it into the toilet. Yeah, I've done that 0:15:23.880 --> 0:15:25.520 and I'm like, I shouldn't do this. In case I 0:15:25.600 --> 0:15:26.640 do that, don't do that. 0:15:27.360 --> 0:15:31.200 Okay, So obviously I think we're all pretty addicted to 0:15:31.240 --> 0:15:31.920 our phones. 0:15:32.440 --> 0:15:33.440 Who are you calling addicted? 0:15:33.760 --> 0:15:36.560 No, but right, like we're all addicted. 0:15:36.600 --> 0:15:37.600 The first steps emitting it. 0:15:38.000 --> 0:15:41.160 Yeah, I can definitely admit it. My screen time is 0:15:41.480 --> 0:15:43.520 two hours more than yours a day, which is pissing 0:15:43.520 --> 0:15:43.840 me off. 0:15:44.640 --> 0:15:47.000 Lost because you do it for work? 0:15:47.720 --> 0:15:50.560 No, I know, but it does. Actually being on your 0:15:50.560 --> 0:15:54.880 phone all the time has really significant health impacts, negative 0:15:54.880 --> 0:15:56.960 health impacts. So let's talk about that. 0:16:00.080 --> 0:16:02.720 What are some of the health impacts that being on 0:16:02.760 --> 0:16:04.400 your phone all day might have for you? 0:16:04.920 --> 0:16:07.480 Okay, So disrupted sleep is a big one, especially if 0:16:07.480 --> 0:16:11.760 you're on your phone before bed. It's really exciting your 0:16:11.760 --> 0:16:14.120 brain and giving it lots of dope for being before 0:16:14.160 --> 0:16:16.120 bed as opposed to I don't know if you've ever 0:16:16.160 --> 0:16:19.800 read a book before bed. I literally will fall asleep 0:16:19.880 --> 0:16:20.960 so quickly. 0:16:21.280 --> 0:16:23.280 As opposed to be it's so boring. 0:16:23.720 --> 0:16:26.480 No, but no, because it's just like I'm taking the 0:16:26.520 --> 0:16:29.200 information and then I get so sleepy and it kind 0:16:29.200 --> 0:16:30.800 of like puts me to sleep, and I go to. 0:16:30.840 --> 0:16:35.120 A nice do you fall asleep with the TV on. No, yeah, no, 0:16:35.640 --> 0:16:38.520 Tammy guys. Really yeah, she has to have it on, 0:16:38.760 --> 0:16:43.240 so it's like it's my pet. Hay. I really don't 0:16:43.320 --> 0:16:46.400 like falling sleep with the TV on. I can't up 0:16:46.400 --> 0:16:51.040 in the middle and yeah, yeah, I like Pitch Black, 0:16:51.080 --> 0:16:54.280 no noise, so nothing. Yeah, but you'll fall asleep before me. 0:16:54.320 --> 0:16:56.360 Then I'll watch what I want to watch, and then 0:16:56.400 --> 0:16:57.280 I'll turn it off. 0:16:57.280 --> 0:16:59.000 And that's the idea. 0:16:59.200 --> 0:17:00.400 So that's the idea. 0:17:00.480 --> 0:17:05.560 Yeah, Okay, So disrupted sleep is one I strain. I 0:17:05.760 --> 0:17:08.920 definitely feel this. My eyes get super dry. I'm looking 0:17:08.920 --> 0:17:11.840 at my phone for a long time. Ry, Ye're dry, 0:17:12.040 --> 0:17:15.800 like because I'm just staring, and especially if I'm editing videos, 0:17:15.840 --> 0:17:20.360 I notice it. My eyes get quite exhausted. I'm also 0:17:20.440 --> 0:17:22.760 supposed to wear glasses, so I try to sometimes wear 0:17:22.760 --> 0:17:25.080 my glasses and it stops with the eyestrain. But ice 0:17:25.080 --> 0:17:29.280 train is a big one. Headaches, which also relates to 0:17:29.320 --> 0:17:31.640 ice train because you can get migraine headaches. 0:17:32.760 --> 0:17:33.360 My phone for too. 0:17:33.720 --> 0:17:37.399 Yeah, so like behind the eyeball headaches so annoying. And 0:17:37.440 --> 0:17:40.399 also when your vision starts to go blurry from a migraine, 0:17:40.840 --> 0:17:42.639 that's like the worst feeling. Have you ever had a 0:17:42.640 --> 0:17:47.840 migraine where your vision goes blurry on touch wood and. 0:17:47.800 --> 0:17:50.919 Watch me have one tomorrow. Not that I can remember 0:17:51.080 --> 0:17:51.640 for a long time. 0:17:51.920 --> 0:17:55.120 Yeah, I used to get them really badly, and it's 0:17:55.800 --> 0:17:58.720 it's so scary because your vision starts to go and 0:17:58.760 --> 0:18:01.159 then you know, like within hour, you need to be 0:18:01.400 --> 0:18:04.440 in a dark room in bed. I remember it happened 0:18:04.440 --> 0:18:06.560 to me once in Barron Bay and I just checked 0:18:06.560 --> 0:18:09.360 out of my hotel and I was walking. I think 0:18:09.359 --> 0:18:11.199 I had like three hours until my flight, and I 0:18:11.280 --> 0:18:14.480 was just gonna explore the town. Oh no, go shopping, 0:18:15.200 --> 0:18:18.240 and my vision started to go. And luckily I was 0:18:18.280 --> 0:18:21.280