WEBVTT - Read This: Melanie Cheng, Superstitious Doctor

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<v Speaker 1>Hello again. It's Ruby Jones and I'm back to introduce

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<v Speaker 1>another episode of Read This Our Sister podcast, hosted by

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<v Speaker 1>editor of The Monthly and bookworm Michael Williams. It features

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<v Speaker 1>conversations with some of the best and most fun loved

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<v Speaker 1>writers from Australia and around the world. In this episode,

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<v Speaker 1>we're going to hear from author Melanie Chang. Before we do,

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<v Speaker 1>Michael is here to share a bit about their conversation.

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<v Speaker 2>Hello Michael, Hi Ruby.

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<v Speaker 1>So Michael, I actually remember when you read Melchang's new

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<v Speaker 1>not Fall the Borrow, because you came into the office

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<v Speaker 1>the very next day and you were very exciting.

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<v Speaker 2>It's true, is it one of those funny things that

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<v Speaker 2>I am very lucky. Don't get me wrong. I am

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<v Speaker 2>lucky to get sent so many books from so many

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<v Speaker 2>brilliant publishers. But this kind of fatigue comes in, Like

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<v Speaker 2>they arrive and they sit on your desk, on your table,

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<v Speaker 2>and you think, oh, oh God, I've got to get

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<v Speaker 2>to that soon. But I've got these five other things

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<v Speaker 2>that are kind of competing for my attention beforehand, and

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<v Speaker 2>I was thrilled to see in your book from Melanie Ching.

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<v Speaker 2>She had two books already a short story collection called

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<v Speaker 2>Australia Day, and her first novel, which was called Room

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<v Speaker 2>for a Stranger. Like I am a fan. I was

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<v Speaker 2>pleased that the book had arrived, but I just had

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<v Speaker 2>too much on my plate. I was like, I'm going

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<v Speaker 2>to get to it when I get to it. The

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<v Speaker 2>new book was called The Burrow, had a nice picture

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<v Speaker 2>of a bunny rabbit on the front, and I was like,

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<v Speaker 2>all right, all in good time, The Burrow. I'll get

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<v Speaker 2>to you when I get to you. But I had

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<v Speaker 2>like five minutes to kill while I was waiting for

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<v Speaker 2>a wash to finish and my washing machine, so I

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<v Speaker 2>just picked it up and perched on the edge of

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<v Speaker 2>my couch and thought, I'm just going to have a

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<v Speaker 2>look at the first page and have a skin And

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<v Speaker 2>then it was like I went into this fugue state.

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<v Speaker 2>Suddenly I looked up and it was dark outside, and

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<v Speaker 2>my washing was sitting in the machine untouched for hours

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<v Speaker 2>on end because I was so transfixed by what I

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<v Speaker 2>found on the page. It was this kind of beautiful,

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<v Speaker 2>tender novel, a story of a family dealing with grief

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<v Speaker 2>during COVID lockdowns, and it was astonishing, and I immediately

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<v Speaker 2>sent a message to Mells publisher and said, I love

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<v Speaker 2>this book. I need to talk to Melanie Ching.

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<v Speaker 1>What a wonderful feeling to be immersed in someone's.

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<v Speaker 2>World like that.

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<v Speaker 1>So, Melanie, she's not only a brilliant writer, she's also

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<v Speaker 1>a doctor. She's a practicing GP. In this episode, you

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<v Speaker 1>discuss with her the power of narrative medicine. So tell

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<v Speaker 1>me a bit about what that is.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean, once I get past my utter incredulity

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<v Speaker 2>at someone being such an overachiever that they're practicing GP

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<v Speaker 2>and an award winning novelist. Once I got that out

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<v Speaker 2>of my system, it was really interesting the ways in

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<v Speaker 2>which that medical practice informs how she writes, informs how

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<v Speaker 2>she sees human beings at their best, at their worst,

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<v Speaker 2>when they're in positions of vulnerability, when they're in positions

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<v Speaker 2>of heightened anxiety. And she introduced me to the idea

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<v Speaker 2>of narrative medicine. And it's a really interesting kind of

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<v Speaker 2>conversation about the ways in which we do justice to

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<v Speaker 2>the stories of people who we have glance in contact

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<v Speaker 2>week in our lives.

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<v Speaker 1>Coming up in just a moment, Melanie Chang, superstitious doctor.

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<v Speaker 2>We began making read this just over a year ago,

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<v Speaker 2>in July of twenty twenty three. It was a little

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<v Speaker 2>over three years after the pandemic had begun, and just

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<v Speaker 2>enough time for people to experience, process and begin reflecting

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<v Speaker 2>on that life altering period of time. We were inundated

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<v Speaker 2>with what can only be described as the COVID novel

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<v Speaker 2>and bya marge, I tended to avoid them, like the plague.

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<v Speaker 2>So why was this book an exception? Well? I do

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<v Speaker 2>have something of a theory about that. See, when she's

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<v Speaker 2>not crafting delicate, richly drawn stories, Melanie cheg as a

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<v Speaker 2>day job, is a practicing GP. I know, talk about overachiever.

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<v Speaker 2>But not only does it mean that as a G

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<v Speaker 2>she spends a lot of her day listening to people

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<v Speaker 2>at the most vulnerable, they're most human. I think perhaps

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<v Speaker 2>it meant that for Melanie Chin, a pandemic and its

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<v Speaker 2>attendant losses and indignities offered a different kind of narrative potential.

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<v Speaker 2>Before I even read my first Colvid novel, I already

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<v Speaker 2>had a sense of fatigue. You know, you go through

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<v Speaker 2>those years and I think we came out the other

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<v Speaker 2>side and we're like, oh my god, this is going

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<v Speaker 2>to be every bit of culture from now on, every

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<v Speaker 2>bit of pop culture whatever. And the Burrough might be

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<v Speaker 2>the first time I've read something where placing it in

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<v Speaker 2>that time and space feels so powerful and so moving

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<v Speaker 2>and so evocative in ways that really enhance the core

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<v Speaker 2>story rather than add to a sense of cultural fatigue.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm curious about when you knew you wanted this

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<v Speaker 2>to be a kind of lockdown novel.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, I'd had kind of general discussions with you know,

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<v Speaker 3>my agent, even before you know, embarking on writing again,

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<v Speaker 3>and she was telling me, beware the lockdown novel. Publishers

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<v Speaker 3>are not interested in it, and readers don't want.

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<v Speaker 2>To go there.

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<v Speaker 3>So I already had that in my head before i'd

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<v Speaker 3>even kind of had the idea for the Burrow. I

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<v Speaker 3>didn't have that intention initially, of course, but it was

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<v Speaker 3>such a big part of my life as a working

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<v Speaker 3>GP and as a homeschooling mother. And the inspiration, of

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<v Speaker 3>course for the novel came from my own pet, mini

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<v Speaker 3>lock rabbit, which we took in as a lockdown pet,

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<v Speaker 3>as so many other families did not in rabbits necessarily,

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<v Speaker 3>but you know, something small and furry to get us

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<v Speaker 3>through the bleak pandemic, and it just felt right to

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<v Speaker 3>set it in that era, even though I knew that

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<v Speaker 3>it might be a hard cell. I think it is

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<v Speaker 3>a great magnifier the pandemic. I tend to write stories

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<v Speaker 3>set in you know, domestic setting, small homes, because I

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<v Speaker 3>feel there's a lot of drama in it, and it

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<v Speaker 3>just added to the claustrophobia, the fear, and the uncertainty.

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<v Speaker 3>And yeah, it made sense and you know, on some level,

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<v Speaker 3>and this is something that I've realized later it wasn't

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<v Speaker 3>part of my intention, but I think it is important

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<v Speaker 3>that we document that time because while we don't want

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<v Speaker 3>to revisit it now, because we have this kind of

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<v Speaker 3>almost collective PTSD about it, myself included, I think that

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<v Speaker 3>in decades in the future, we will have forgotten what

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<v Speaker 3>it was actually like on a day to day basis,

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<v Speaker 3>and future generations might also want to know what it

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<v Speaker 3>was like. I mean, we often think we'll remember, but

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<v Speaker 3>you know, as time and time again will show us

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<v Speaker 3>we to be forget.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's one of the things that shocked me,

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<v Speaker 2>and most of all, I remember moments during lockdown, thinking

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<v Speaker 2>this will change everything forever, you know, like we're not

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<v Speaker 2>going back, this is going to fundamentally change the way

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<v Speaker 2>we are as a society, the way we relate to

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<v Speaker 2>each other. And the speed with which we reverted to

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<v Speaker 2>type with which we tried to just pretend it hadn't happened,

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<v Speaker 2>was like the entire project of global capitalism was just like,

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<v Speaker 2>oh no, I'm asserting myself again. I'm not remotely interested

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<v Speaker 2>in thinking about the ways we relate to one another,

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<v Speaker 2>the ways we commute, the ways we work, all of

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<v Speaker 2>that stuff.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, very much, sir. I think that is the power

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<v Speaker 3>of denial. I think a lot of us had that

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<v Speaker 3>feeling early on in the pandemic that you know, there

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<v Speaker 3>was almost a little bit of relief in stopping and

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<v Speaker 3>pausing and you know, reconnecting with our family. Initially, there

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<v Speaker 3>was some joy in doing that, and then of course

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<v Speaker 3>two years down the track.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, you said your homeschooled a child, So anyone

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<v Speaker 2>who homeschooled their child had a limited capacity to see

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<v Speaker 2>the romance exactly, but at a thematic level, at a

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<v Speaker 2>creative level, in the context of this book, the ways

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<v Speaker 2>in which, as you say, has this kind of magnifying

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<v Speaker 2>or heightening effect on a whole lot of themes and

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<v Speaker 2>ideas that are incredibly resonant, regardless of pandemic or not.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, around isolation, around intimacy, around both that combination

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<v Speaker 2>of claustrophobia and loneliness that can happen in families. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>the ways in which those things play out.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, yeah, I mean even that denial is something that

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<v Speaker 3>this family who are ravaged by grief are also in

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<v Speaker 3>the film of denial and they haven't yet moved on,

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<v Speaker 3>and so so that also resonates, you know, with the

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<v Speaker 3>smaller story of the book set within this larger pandemic theme,

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<v Speaker 3>and working as a health professional, you know, there was

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<v Speaker 3>a great deal of fear and uncertainty and that I

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<v Speaker 3>felt was reflected in this creature, which was a prey animal.

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<v Speaker 3>And I think it was very important that the pet

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<v Speaker 3>was a prey animal. It's so different from a dog

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<v Speaker 3>or a cat, which you know, we don't tend to

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<v Speaker 3>think of as predators, but of course they are, and

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<v Speaker 3>so they are allowed to relax in a way that

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<v Speaker 3>you know, it was quite striking to me as the

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<v Speaker 3>pet owner of a rabbit. I hadn't ever spent much

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<v Speaker 3>time with rabbits before. How we would come across each

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<v Speaker 3>other and he would bolt, and you know, he was

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<v Speaker 3>always alert. He doesn't even sleep with his eyes closed,

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<v Speaker 3>and he only ever sleeps very short interludes. And you know,

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<v Speaker 3>that was a little bit like me during the pandemic.

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't sleep for very long. I was in this

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<v Speaker 3>heightened state of anxiety and awareness, and to have that

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<v Speaker 3>mirrored in this animal was really interesting to me, and

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<v Speaker 3>I did think this is something I'd like to explore.

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<v Speaker 2>His name was Minnie.

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<v Speaker 3>His name's Miles, named after by my son, after Miles Morales.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to move away from Miles just yet,

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<v Speaker 2>because I'm curious about the wise in which different kinds

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<v Speaker 2>of pet ownership do change es. You know they do.

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<v Speaker 2>Are you in a pet person pre Miles?

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<v Speaker 3>Well, no, a bit like Jin, the character in the book.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, I grew up in Hong Kong and apartments,

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<v Speaker 3>and so we felt it was a little bit cruel

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<v Speaker 3>to have pets. But I've always been quite fascinated with

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<v Speaker 3>pet ownership. I've also kind of had some difficulties to

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<v Speaker 3>reconcile with.

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<v Speaker 1>You know.

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<v Speaker 3>For instance, when we got Miles and adopted him, we

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<v Speaker 3>were taking him away from his mom and his siblings,

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<v Speaker 3>and I don't know how I completely felt about that,

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<v Speaker 3>And he's a lone pet and so it did feel

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<v Speaker 3>like somewhat a selfish kind of act in some ways.

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<v Speaker 3>And like rabbits are very interesting, and I think I

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<v Speaker 3>convey this in the book that you know, they don't

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<v Speaker 3>give you much, but when they do give you something,

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<v Speaker 3>it's quite a you know, a bit of a dopamine kick.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like, you know, hard to get lover or something.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, like it's the pursuit of it that we love.

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<v Speaker 3>But the other thing about I mean, I mentioned the

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<v Speaker 3>prey animal side of things, but there was also this

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<v Speaker 3>feeling that there was this unknowable quality two miles for me.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, we're always joking that he's giving us the

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<v Speaker 3>bombastic side eye. We don't really know what he's thinking

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<v Speaker 3>or what he's feeling. I mean that rabbits do this

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<v Speaker 3>glorious thing called a binkie, which is a little leap

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<v Speaker 3>in the air, and halfway through they kind of twist,

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<v Speaker 3>and once you've seen it, it's really delightful, and that

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<v Speaker 3>is when you know they're happy. But that is very

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<v Speaker 3>few and far between, so in between times we're really

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<v Speaker 3>left guessing and again in terms of the themes of

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<v Speaker 3>the novel, that tied in quite beautifully. I think because

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<v Speaker 3>we've got these four characters living in the house, they're

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<v Speaker 3>not really talking about the real issues with each other.

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<v Speaker 3>They're kind of trying to interpret each other's behaviors and movements.

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<v Speaker 3>There's this intense unknowable quality between them. So I love

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<v Speaker 3>that we might think that, you know, human beings are

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<v Speaker 3>more accessible to each other than animals are to humans,

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<v Speaker 3>but there is a core in all of us which

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<v Speaker 3>is unknowable.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. Absolutely, And particularly as the book lays out, particularly

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<v Speaker 2>in crisis, there is a thing about grief and a

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<v Speaker 2>family or any unit of people struck by a tragedy

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<v Speaker 2>where everyone's affected differently and everyone's having to cope in

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<v Speaker 2>different ways. That can mean closing off to one another.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, very much so. I mean the issue here was

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<v Speaker 3>the circumstances of the death is accidental, unexpected, and so

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<v Speaker 3>many of us go through life with the delusion that

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<v Speaker 3>tomorrow will be like yesterday, or next week will be

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<v Speaker 3>largely like you know, this week, And we have to

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<v Speaker 3>to some degree believe that, because why would we continue

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<v Speaker 3>doing half the things we're doing But for those people

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<v Speaker 3>and you know, I've had first hand experience dealing with

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<v Speaker 3>families through my work or friends that have gone through

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<v Speaker 3>that kind of sudden, unexpected, accidental death, and it is rocking.

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<v Speaker 3>I remember a friend of mine saying she didn't trust

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<v Speaker 3>the universe anymore. And so they also are not, as

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<v Speaker 3>I discussed in the book, a religious family and a

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<v Speaker 3>family of faith. They are very much a kind of

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<v Speaker 3>family based in science, belief, and cause and effect. And

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<v Speaker 3>so when an accident happens, what they tend to do

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<v Speaker 3>in the aftermath, at least family and gene, is to

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<v Speaker 3>look back and think, what could I have done differently?

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<v Speaker 3>And there's a lot of shame in that, a lot

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<v Speaker 3>of guilt in that, and that is what they're brewing

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<v Speaker 3>in in these years after the loss, their own guilt,

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<v Speaker 3>and they don't want to disclose it for fear of

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<v Speaker 3>what that might mean.

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<v Speaker 2>And also the difficulty of responsibility to others like that

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<v Speaker 2>sheer impossibility of being a parent while grappling with your

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<v Speaker 2>own shame, guilt, grief. You know, that thing about the

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<v Speaker 2>need to have that kind of care for others and

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<v Speaker 2>to be there for others and to be reliable to others.

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<v Speaker 2>That absolutely stifles your character's capacity, but human beings capacity

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<v Speaker 2>to go through their own process of grieving.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and we see, you know, for instance, Jin revert

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<v Speaker 3>to some of this what I call magical thinking that

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<v Speaker 3>he had as as a child, like superstitious thinking that

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<v Speaker 3>if you do this, you somehow have some control over

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<v Speaker 3>the future. And similarly, you know, Lucy does retreat to

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<v Speaker 3>prayer and Amy gets quite angry about that. And I think,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, that was important to me because I've always

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<v Speaker 3>felt a little bit envious of people of faith and

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<v Speaker 3>people of religion, because if you believe in cause and

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<v Speaker 3>effect and you're very scientific, then it comes with this

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<v Speaker 3>huge burden of responsibility as well, because you then the

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<v Speaker 3>implications are that every behavior, every action has untold or

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<v Speaker 3>unforeseen consequences, and that really comes into play when an

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<v Speaker 3>accident happens. And that's a huge burden really to bear,

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<v Speaker 3>and that's what we're seeing in this family. And so

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<v Speaker 3>in order to try and alleviate themselves of that, they

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<v Speaker 3>start to look to prayer or they look to more

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<v Speaker 3>superstitious thinking. And I think we all do that on

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<v Speaker 3>some level. There's a huge contradiction even in myself and

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<v Speaker 3>a lot of the ways I behave.

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<v Speaker 2>Are you superstitious? Yes, I would say so.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm admitting it now. I might not have I hadn't

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<v Speaker 3>read of them, because who wants a superstitious doctor?

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<v Speaker 2>Right? But I think I do. What a superstitious doctor?

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<v Speaker 2>What a doctor? That's like, well, you've done everything right,

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<v Speaker 2>but now I'm going to tap this three times? They

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<v Speaker 2>kind of walk around the building or whatever. I'm okay

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<v Speaker 2>with that.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, Well that's good.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Well I think you know, as a child, I was

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<v Speaker 3>quite superstitious. And you know, you could argue that a

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<v Speaker 3>lot of the things that we do attached to faith

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<v Speaker 3>are a kind of form of superstition or a type

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<v Speaker 3>of way of regaining control over the uncontrollable. And so

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<v Speaker 3>so yeah, that's what I was trying to achieve.

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<v Speaker 2>After the break, Melanie shares the details of her own

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<v Speaker 2>life that inspired the Burrow And have you ever heard

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<v Speaker 2>of narrative medicine? I hadn't, but it's crucial for understanding

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<v Speaker 2>this book. We'll be right back. Grandmother's are a recurring

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<v Speaker 2>thing in your work. Generally, you're clearly interested in grandmother's

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<v Speaker 2>as narrative engines and as a particular type of human being.

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<v Speaker 2>What is it about.

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<v Speaker 3>Grandma's Well, I only had one grandmother growing up, so

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<v Speaker 3>my mother's mother died when she was very young, four

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<v Speaker 3>years of age, and I think that had its own

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<v Speaker 3>impact on me and maybe even plays into this book.

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<v Speaker 3>But my other grandmother was my Chinese grandmother, who I

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<v Speaker 3>was actually named after, so my Chinese name, so Lynn,

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<v Speaker 3>is actually her name. But I could not communicate with

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<v Speaker 3>her because I don't speak Chinese and she didn't speak English,

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<v Speaker 3>and so it was a lot of mystery associated with

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<v Speaker 3>our relationship. And I wrote about that in a short

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<v Speaker 3>story included in my collection Australia Day. And Now, of

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<v Speaker 3>course I have my own children and they have two grandmothers,

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<v Speaker 3>and I think it's quite a unique and special relationship there.

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<v Speaker 3>Even in the book about the distance of the generation

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<v Speaker 3>allowing something quite fresh and new, it's very different from parenting. Now,

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<v Speaker 3>even having friends that are embarking on that relationship with

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<v Speaker 3>their own grandchildren, they talk about, you know, how magical

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<v Speaker 3>it is, how often healing it is, because it's kind

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<v Speaker 3>of all of the fun stuff about parenting without as

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<v Speaker 3>much of the day to day tedium of it.

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<v Speaker 2>That distance and closeness locked up together is such an

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<v Speaker 2>important part of it. And it does strike me that

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<v Speaker 2>grandparents in migrant families there's a particularly interesting thing at play,

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<v Speaker 2>which is the kind of gulf in lived experience. So

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<v Speaker 2>those challenges of communication, of kind of sharing a worldview

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<v Speaker 2>or reality are kind of heightened by both generational divide

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<v Speaker 2>and then place of living, geographical context, all of that stuff.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, very much so. And so we didn't mention the

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<v Speaker 3>Lucy's other pair of grandparents who are exactly that, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>they're Jin's parents, and there is this huge kind of

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<v Speaker 3>gulf between them. They do speak English, but kind of

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<v Speaker 3>haltingly and culturally they're quite separated. And in the book

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<v Speaker 3>we talk about the gifts that they buy not being

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<v Speaker 3>you know, so welcomed by Lucy because they're often either

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<v Speaker 3>judged to be too simple for her, or the clothes

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<v Speaker 3>are too big because they're trying to get a lot

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<v Speaker 3>of wear out of them, and Jin, you know, expresses

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<v Speaker 3>some jealousy about how Lucy has a closer relationship with Pauline,

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<v Speaker 3>who Amy's mother in the book.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Pauline is such a wonderful character. I do love her.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I love it.

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<v Speaker 2>You mentioned before your debut was a book of short

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<v Speaker 2>stories called Australia Day. But I'm curious, since then, you've

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<v Speaker 2>written two novels and they are both beautiful in many ways.

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<v Speaker 2>I would say, delicate novels that take the kind of

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<v Speaker 2>energy of a really wonderful short story and work out

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<v Speaker 2>how to render it deeper and more complex. I'm curious

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<v Speaker 2>about whether that's a deliberate trajectory. Have you moved away

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<v Speaker 2>from the short story or are these boundaries fluid?

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<v Speaker 3>I think you know, when I started writing, I mistakenly

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<v Speaker 3>thought short stories were easier to write, which, of course,

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<v Speaker 3>as anyone who writes short stories, it's not true. They're

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<v Speaker 3>different from the point of view of time, though they

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<v Speaker 3>are easier to complete, and so that was good for

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<v Speaker 3>me when I had another job. But I came to

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<v Speaker 3>love the form. And the reason I love the form

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<v Speaker 3>is sometimes the same reasons that people find short stories difficult,

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<v Speaker 3>which is that they demand more of the reader. They

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<v Speaker 3>expect the reader to rise up to the challenge, fill

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<v Speaker 3>in a lot of gaps with their own imagination, and

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<v Speaker 3>so that's hard if you're used to reading novels where

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<v Speaker 3>everything is tied up really neatly. But once you kind

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<v Speaker 3>of get hooked on that then you present reading novels

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<v Speaker 3>that tell you everything because you like to be respected

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<v Speaker 3>as a reader and so and I enjoy that, and

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<v Speaker 3>so I think i've I have taken that forward into

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<v Speaker 3>writing longer form. And I don't write very long forms.

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<v Speaker 2>You know.

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<v Speaker 3>My two books are short novels. But that's because I'm

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<v Speaker 3>just a ruthless editor. And that is what happened with

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<v Speaker 3>my apprenticeship through short story writing. And I love the

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<v Speaker 3>quote from Toni Morrison that it's often what you don't

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<v Speaker 3>write that gives what you do write its power. And

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<v Speaker 3>I do a narrative medicine course at Melbourne Union and

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<v Speaker 3>a student there recently talked about the negative spaces and

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<v Speaker 3>short stories, which I really love as well. So yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>I've brought that across to the novels and I think

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<v Speaker 3>that's how I'm going to practice going forward.

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<v Speaker 2>Can you talk about the relationship for you between medicine

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<v Speaker 2>and writing.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I find them to be quite complimentary, and I

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<v Speaker 3>think that maybe to do with me practicing in general

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<v Speaker 3>practice rather than maybe surgery per se. But every day

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<v Speaker 3>when I go to work and I sit down and

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<v Speaker 3>I call someone into the room, the first thing that

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<v Speaker 3>happens is that they tell me a story, the story

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<v Speaker 3>of their illness. And a great supervisor I had in

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<v Speaker 3>general practice a long time ago told me, look, just

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<v Speaker 3>spend some moments one day when you're not working, sitting

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<v Speaker 3>in a medical waiting room, and just imagine what those

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<v Speaker 3>people are doing as they sit there. They are practicing

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<v Speaker 3>what they're going to say when they sit in the chair.

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<v Speaker 3>And of course that's true, and I've done it myself

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<v Speaker 3>when I go to a GP practice. So words are

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<v Speaker 3>really important. So they tell us. And that's what narrative

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<v Speaker 3>medicine is about. It's about the patient's story meeting the

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<v Speaker 3>doctor's story and creating something entirely new. But yeah, I've

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<v Speaker 3>always found it to be, you know, an inspiration. I

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<v Speaker 3>don't write about specific patients, you know, I write in

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<v Speaker 3>the fictional space, but of course I draw on the

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<v Speaker 3>insights that I gain. You know, I don't live an

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<v Speaker 3>extraordinarily interesting life, but through my work I get to

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<v Speaker 3>see into a lot of different lives and different experiences.

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<v Speaker 3>And yeah, I've always brought that into my writing. It's

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<v Speaker 3>been a privilege, but of a great source of inspiration

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<v Speaker 3>for the writing.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, it seems to me that you're on a daily basis,

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<v Speaker 2>seeing people at their most tender and the most vulnerable.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, the people who are scared, people who are anxious,

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<v Speaker 2>people who are you in pain, and that must give

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<v Speaker 2>a particular impression of the human condition.

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<v Speaker 3>I guess yes, And I have to remind myself sometimes

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<v Speaker 3>that you know, the people that are presenting to general

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<v Speaker 3>practice are not the wider population in general. That is,

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<v Speaker 3>when they're at their most vulnerable or unwell. But I've

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<v Speaker 3>also had the experience where people tell me things that

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<v Speaker 3>they said they've never told anyone else. So as a writer,

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<v Speaker 3>that is wonderful because most of all, it's validating because

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<v Speaker 3>I think there have been things that I've thought, or

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<v Speaker 3>dark thoughts that I've had that then I see reflected

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<v Speaker 3>in patients and I realize that's quite common and normal,

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<v Speaker 3>and I can reassure them also through that process.

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<v Speaker 2>What do you want for characters like the characters in

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<v Speaker 2>the Burrows when you're writing, what's the relationship there?

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<v Speaker 3>I think I am interested in complexity. I really am

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<v Speaker 3>not interested in heroes and villains in good and bad people,

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<v Speaker 3>because I have seen people through work who have done

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<v Speaker 3>awful things, but I've seen them as a person and

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<v Speaker 3>I've seen them in a vulnerable state, and it's hard

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<v Speaker 3>to hate that person, and it's hard to reduce them

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<v Speaker 3>to this awful act that they've done. It's actually scary.

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<v Speaker 3>And maybe that's why people like to keep these hero

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<v Speaker 3>villain categories, because once you start to see the human

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<v Speaker 3>element of these awful acts, then it's confronting for you

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<v Speaker 3>as a fellow human being in that maybe you would

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<v Speaker 3>be capable of doing some of these, you know, terrible things.

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<v Speaker 2>Also, it's a weird thing that desire for empathy when

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<v Speaker 2>we read that desire to feel like, as you say,

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<v Speaker 2>there's a hero we can cheer for, or we can

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<v Speaker 2>feel a little less shabby or lost ourselves.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, well, I kind of like reading vulnerable characters because again,

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<v Speaker 3>it makes me feel less alone in my vulnerability. So

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<v Speaker 3>that's the impulse.

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<v Speaker 2>One of the things that comes through again again is

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<v Speaker 2>that the nature of grief is it can be so inarticulate,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, it can be so the impossibility of finding

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<v Speaker 2>words that are kind of sufficient for it. And our

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<v Speaker 2>relationship with animals relies on a kind of inarticulate relationship,

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<v Speaker 2>a kind of trust and I love, and then a

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<v Speaker 2>family relies on an ability to understand one another or

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<v Speaker 2>to talk to one another. And so part of what

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<v Speaker 2>I love so much about The Barrows is that comes

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<v Speaker 2>in at the intersection of all those ideas, that there

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<v Speaker 2>are some things that are impossible to put to words,

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<v Speaker 2>but there is a fundamental need to find a way

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<v Speaker 2>to do so when you're a family unit.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and I think, without giving too much away of

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<v Speaker 3>the in the book, you know, ultimately the family finds

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<v Speaker 3>salvation in opening up and actually saying those difficult words

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<v Speaker 3>to each other and actually articulating the guilt that they're

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<v Speaker 3>all nursing around what happened. And that's another thing I

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<v Speaker 3>think that I've learned through speaking to so many pages

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<v Speaker 3>through genero practice, is that so much of tragedy is

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<v Speaker 3>actually in the unspoken. You know, I might see various

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<v Speaker 3>family members from the same family and you just wish

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<v Speaker 3>that they would talk to one another. And another thing

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<v Speaker 3>I think I've learned is that intimacy comes from being

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<v Speaker 3>emotionally vulnerable with each other. It's scary to make the

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<v Speaker 3>first step, especially because you don't know, I mean, making

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<v Speaker 3>yourself vulnerable is always scary, and you don't know how

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<v Speaker 3>the other person's going to react. But when an accident

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<v Speaker 3>like this looms so large over a household, like for

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<v Speaker 3>the Lee family, their healing can only really come once

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<v Speaker 3>they let it all out in the open.

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<v Speaker 2>I think I don't think it constitutes a spoiler to

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<v Speaker 2>tell your prospective readers that they don't have to be

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<v Speaker 2>scared of this book. This is a book that is

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<v Speaker 2>very much about love and tenderness and about kind of

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<v Speaker 2>finding a way to one another through an impossible situation.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, And I'm recently read in the introduction to George

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<v Speaker 3>Saunders tenth of December, an interview with him where he

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<v Speaker 3>talks about being on a flight from Chicago to Syracuse

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<v Speaker 3>and it was a terrible flight. They flew into a

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<v Speaker 3>flock of geese and for a moment they all believed

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<v Speaker 3>that they would die. And George Saunders talks about for

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<v Speaker 3>the three or four days after that that the world

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<v Speaker 3>was the most beautiful place. Everything was suddenly imbued with

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<v Speaker 3>this meaning, and he talks about that being the trick

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<v Speaker 3>that if we could just maintain that, you know, that sense.

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<v Speaker 3>But it only lasted three to four days, even for

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<v Speaker 3>George Saunder's you see, So if there can be any

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<v Speaker 3>silver lining to this kind of awful tragedy that happens

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<v Speaker 3>to a family like that in the Burrow. It is that,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, maybe it can bring that kind of meaning,

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<v Speaker 3>gratitude you don't take things for granted.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, the other comfort that comes out of it is

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<v Speaker 2>if stories like that can create wonderful and enduring works

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<v Speaker 2>of literature. And I have no doubt that's what's happened here.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm so excited for people to get to read

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<v Speaker 2>this astonishing and beautiful book. Thank you for coming in.

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you so much, Michael, it means so much. Thank you.

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<v Speaker 2>Melanie Ching's beautiful novel The Burrow is available at all

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<v Speaker 2>Good bookstores now.

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