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Speaker 1: This. Here's a podcast.

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Speaker 2: Let's talk about happiness. I want to get into it

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Speaker 2: for el take it.

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Speaker 3: A large international studies have found something very surprising about

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Speaker 3: happiness across many countries. Happiness tends to follow a use

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Speaker 3: shaped curve throughout life.

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Speaker 2: They found a very consistent pattern.

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Speaker 3: Happiness is relatively high in early adulthood.

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Speaker 2: That's because your parents freaking pay for everything. You want

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Speaker 2: to go into the city on the weekend. I'm going

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Speaker 2: to give you fifty bucks for dinner, and then you

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Speaker 2: want me to transfer more money because that's not enough.

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Speaker 1: Put on this friggy card.

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Speaker 3: It gradually declines through midlife, then begins to rise again

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Speaker 3: later in life. Now, do you guys want to have

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Speaker 3: a crack at the age where this is where they

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Speaker 3: say that you are the saddest in life? I?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, what do you think?

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Speaker 2: Richie O cat Riches nailed what for?

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Speaker 3: What?

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Speaker 4: I've nailed it because I was fed this thing on

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Speaker 4: my own?

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Speaker 2: Is that because your alcoholism?

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Speaker 4: Forty seven?

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Speaker 5: So did everyone that was forty seven get this and

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Speaker 5: everyone who was forty three get it too.

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Speaker 1: You sent it to me, But the thing was, I'm

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Speaker 1: forty six, I'm above compared to you. These are a

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Speaker 1: bit of an old chuck.

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Speaker 3: These years often bring the highest levels of pressure and

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Speaker 3: responsibility with your demanding career, financial stress, raising children, caring

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Speaker 3: for aging parents, and expectations about where they thought they

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Speaker 3: would be in life. That's why we hit the bottom

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Speaker 3: of that you at around forty seven, forty eight years

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Speaker 3: of age. Now, this is really interesting that when they

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Speaker 3: say about feeling happier again later in life, that's because

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Speaker 3: there's less pressure to prove themselves, greater emotional stability, stronger

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Speaker 3: focus on your relationships, more appreciation.

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Speaker 2: For everyday moments.

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Speaker 3: In other words, happiness for many people isn't a straight line.

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Speaker 3: It often dips in midlife and then improves again later.

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Speaker 3: I don't you know, like it's yeah, I.

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Speaker 4: Mean, yeah, I agree.

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Speaker 1: I read a thing the other day and it was

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Speaker 1: sort of saying that in your younger years, right, there's

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Speaker 1: three things in life. You've got time, money, and health.

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Speaker 1: And in your younger years you've got time, you've got

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Speaker 1: your health, but you've got no money. And then you

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Speaker 1: kind of move your way through life, and then you've

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Speaker 1: got health, you've got your money, but you've got no time,

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Speaker 1: and then all of a sudden in the later years.

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Speaker 1: You have your time and money, but no health. So

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Speaker 1: when do you want what?

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Speaker 2: All three? You can't have all three, can't get all three.

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Speaker 4: You can't have everything.

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Speaker 3: Without without a doubt. I'm watching Houston. My eldest now,

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Speaker 3: he's sixteen. What a time to be alive, no responsibility,

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Speaker 3: you know, like it's just.

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Speaker 4: But you only know that as a forty nine year

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Speaker 4: old man.

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Speaker 1: That's a thing.

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Speaker 4: You don't know that when you're sixteen.

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Speaker 1: Do you think, Well, it'd be a very stressful time.

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Speaker 2: Those teenageer is really don't worry.

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Speaker 3: They know how to comply, And I understand that, but

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Speaker 3: oh my gosh, just like I said, he just grabbed

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Speaker 3: his mates and they jumped on the train on the

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Speaker 3: weekend and stayed in the city like it was just

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Speaker 3: that's like the best time of.

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Speaker 2: Your life depends cruise in the streets.

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Speaker 1: I agree with you, Kate. It's how you see it

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Speaker 1: now that you have the wise eyes, because I reckon

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Speaker 1: when you look at the kids now, like Ted is

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Speaker 1: panicking about going to school camp. He doesn't want to

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Speaker 1: go to school camp. He doesn't want to be away

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Speaker 1: from the family. That's the biggest stress. So I sit

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Speaker 1: back and I go if that was my biggest concern

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Speaker 1: in life, imagine if that was my biggest stress. And

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Speaker 1: the hardest part, I think is being a parent too,

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Speaker 1: is trying to say to them it's okay, that's not

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Speaker 1: Actually you don't say it's not.

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Speaker 4: Actually you can't.

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Speaker 1: It's a big thing in their world, but you know

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Speaker 1: that it's going to be okay for them.

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Speaker 5: It's the biggest, biggest it's as big as all of

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Speaker 5: your biggest problems.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I find a level of satisfaction they're living vicariously through

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Speaker 3: their lives though, because you know what's coming up for them.

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Speaker 3: I'm so excited for them.

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Speaker 2: And you know what. I know that they're going to complain.

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Speaker 3: I know they're going to make mistakes and they're going

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Speaker 3: to stuff up. But that's what life's all about. It's

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Speaker 3: so it's so exciting that period of your life. You

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Speaker 3: look back and the only thing I wish I did

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Speaker 3: was a gap year. I wish I went and traveled

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Speaker 3: more with my mates in the world. Yeah, I know,

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Speaker 3: but like that that is I reckon before you start

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Speaker 3: your working life, if you can have six months and

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Speaker 3: backpack like and I know how expensive it is now,

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Speaker 3: Like it's changed now and holidaying is so much more expensive.

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Speaker 1: But oh my god, I just just do you want

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Speaker 1: to go back? Tommy wants to go into school week.

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Speaker 1: You keep saying you want to go from the Gold Coaster.

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Speaker 5: Well, he wants to go back to school this week

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Speaker 5: without being arrested.

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Speaker 3: I love how you've set up that school is cam

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Speaker 3: where anyone can watch trom.

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Speaker 1: Where would you go back to it? You could go

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Speaker 1: back to one time.

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Speaker 4: In my life?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, as a positive Yeah, like when you go back

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Speaker 1: and go oh, I mean right now, I'm.

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Speaker 5: Very happy to be where I am because I think happiness,

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Speaker 5: very heavily based, is based on your level to not

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Speaker 5: care about what other people think, right, whether you're sixteen

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Speaker 5: or forty or eighty Okay, But I think that one

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Speaker 5: of the things that I know I won't experience again,

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Speaker 5: which I would love to because it's so special, is.

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Speaker 4: When I was pregnant with my daughter.

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Speaker 1: Right, that was a special time.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, And regardless of stress around it or whatever, or

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Speaker 5: the impending birth or what your life was doing, like

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Speaker 5: that moment and that that's like a very special was

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Speaker 5: it the.

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Speaker 1: Love of what you were doing or the excitement of

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Speaker 1: bringing a human into the world, to start a new.

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Speaker 5: Family something or the idea now and this is worth breaking,

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Speaker 5: meant to go.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I love this stuff.

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Speaker 5: I remember so clearly and I will till the day

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Speaker 5: I die, lying in bed and I was at home

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Speaker 5: on my own and heavily, heavily pregnant, not knowing when

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Speaker 5: the baby was going to come, and watching all the

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Speaker 5: lights throughout except one little lamp, and watching my tummy moving.

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Speaker 5: You know, you watch the little hand come up, and you.

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Speaker 3: Watch the movie Alien exactly, that's exactly, and I know

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Speaker 3: and you touch it.

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Speaker 4: I know that's not the answer. You're probably looking more

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Speaker 4: like that is just that is life right there. And

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Speaker 4: I'll never and that's it for me, you know. O.

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Speaker 2: Kate, Kate, It's not over.

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Speaker 3: And that's why it's perfect time timing Tommy bringing Darryl because.

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Speaker 2: We think you can go again meet your new man Darryl.

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Speaker 2: He's from and he would love to meet you. Where

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Speaker 2: we go.

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