Speaker 1: I want the fairy tale, I want the prince charming.
Speaker 2: She how do I put this? Isn't a fan of
Speaker 2: my kissing.
Speaker 1: Style boyfriend and girlfriend for about twelve hours. He's in
Speaker 1: a trash bin. He's non recyclable, catching them.
Speaker 2: Mut I love being love, I love love.
Speaker 3: On today's episode of Where's Your Head Out, we are
Speaker 3: discussing the topic of drinking whilst dating.
Speaker 2: We will also be discussing what is known as whiskey dick,
Speaker 2: and we'll share some good reasons why you shouldn't get
Speaker 2: blackout drunk on your next date.
Speaker 3: Stay tuned to hear how to make sure alcohol doesn't
Speaker 3: ruin your night. Where's Your Head Out is a podcast
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Speaker 1: Hey Matt, Hey everyone.
Speaker 2: Welcome back to another episode of Where's your Head At?
Speaker 2: And I have some news to share. Well it isn't
Speaker 2: isn't good news, But it's not good news. No, it's not.
Speaker 2: So I've gone to the doctors for my routine health check.
Speaker 2: You know, they become a lot less common these days,
Speaker 2: I don't have enough time to get around them. But
Speaker 2: I was like, you know what, I'm gonna put some
Speaker 2: time aside. I went and did it. I got a
Speaker 2: blood test and it came back with that my liver
Speaker 2: has been spiked in some areas, so.
Speaker 1: You're a liver.
Speaker 2: Yeah. So I asked the doctor, like, what does that mean.
Speaker 2: She said, let's get some more tests done, maybe an
Speaker 2: ultracent on your liver. Nothing to really stress about. But
Speaker 2: you know, me a bit of a worry wart. So
Speaker 2: I'm like, well, shit, that must be liver. That's drinking. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I was about to say, isn't that like too much alcohol?
Speaker 3: Ma?
Speaker 2: Well yeah, if you ask my girlfriend Jen, she'd say
Speaker 2: it's too much alcohol. So I'm going to now stop
Speaker 2: drinking for a little bit and you know, just take
Speaker 2: some time off the bottle.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think you definitely should. Oh my god, I'm
Speaker 3: actually worried for you.
Speaker 2: Well, the doctor assured me, she said, it's nothing to
Speaker 2: worry about. I'm going to get a second opinion, take
Speaker 2: the results to another doctor, see what they say. But
Speaker 2: I feel like I should be okay. I mean, I'm
Speaker 2: not turning yellow all my eyes not turning.
Speaker 1: Yellows, I should be well, my fingers across for you.
Speaker 3: Speaking of drinking on the weekend, I had a very big.
Speaker 2: Nightmat Really, I don't think my liver would have handled it.
Speaker 3: If it definitely wouldn't have actually got blackout drunk. And
Speaker 3: I have not been blackout drunk for a really long time.
Speaker 2: So when you say blackout drunk, do you mean you
Speaker 2: don't remember anything from the night or you remember a
Speaker 2: little bit.
Speaker 3: Or oh, I definitely remember like the first three quarters
Speaker 3: of the night, and then the last quarter is just gone.
Speaker 2: It's always that drink that knocks it over. What was
Speaker 2: that drink that? Do you remember that much? At least?
Speaker 1: So look, I was out with the girls. We were
Speaker 1: having a girl's that.
Speaker 3: We haven't had a girl's night in a really long time.
Speaker 3: Like we've really struggled for some reason to just get
Speaker 3: everyone together. Our schedules are all over the place. Everyone's
Speaker 3: living in different areas as well. I feel like as
Speaker 3: you get older, people start moving, you know, out to
Speaker 3: the country, because like my friend just bought a house
Speaker 3: in Mornington, so obviously they're a little bit further out.
Speaker 3: And then I have a friend who lives in Berwick,
Speaker 3: but she is moving to Malvern soon. That's Amber, our producer,
Speaker 3: so I'm very excited to have her living closer. But anyway,
Speaker 3: everyone's kind of spread out, so it's harder to get
Speaker 3: everyone together.
Speaker 1: So it was our first night together.
Speaker 3: We were all a bit excited, and then we have
Speaker 3: like this issue in our group at the moment, and
Speaker 3: everyone got really emotional. This is like probably four hours
Speaker 3: into the night, so there's already alcohol running around. Yeah,
Speaker 3: there's alcohol running around, but I was obviously not having
Speaker 3: a big night because I just don't have big nights anymore.
Speaker 3: Then we all got a little bit emotional. And then
Speaker 3: because everyone was getting a little bit emotional, my remedy
Speaker 3: was we shots.
Speaker 1: To numb the pain naturally, yes.
Speaker 3: And so I went and got everyone tequila shots, and
Speaker 3: then from there we all went in turns doing rounds
Speaker 3: of tequila shots.
Speaker 1: And it just went so downhill so quickly, like.
Speaker 2: So, what's that five or six rounds of tequila shots?
Speaker 3: I think we did three to four, and then the
Speaker 3: memory is nothing.
Speaker 2: That's like a bottle of tequila between you all.
Speaker 3: I'm embarrassed to say it's actually gross and I haven't
Speaker 3: been binge drinking for a long time. So I think
Speaker 3: I used to be such a heavy drinker, which we'll
Speaker 3: touch on in a minute, And I think I thought
Speaker 3: I could keep up with my old standards of drinking,
Speaker 3: and I just cannot.
Speaker 1: Like it's just.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I was the same like the last couple of
Speaker 2: times I've had a big night. I think I can
Speaker 2: drink like I used to when I was a kid,
Speaker 2: and boy, you find out the wrong way.
Speaker 3: So anyway, we got extremely drunk, and then the girls
Speaker 3: actually ended up calling Michael and he had to come.
Speaker 1: And pick me up.
Speaker 2: What from where you were having?
Speaker 1: From where we were?
Speaker 3: Because I was too drunk, Because I just went from
Speaker 3: like fifty percent happy in the perfect spot to just
Speaker 3: like Fortequila shots and just blackout.
Speaker 2: Were you like that? Were any of your friends blackout?
Speaker 2: Or was it just you? Oh?
Speaker 3: Yeah? But I went down first because I haven't drunk
Speaker 3: in ages, So I was the first man out. And
Speaker 3: slowly they started like dropping off like flies.
Speaker 1: Like everyone was not in a good way.
Speaker 3: Our group chat in the morning was just filthy, like
Speaker 3: everyone was just like sending selfies and we all looked
Speaker 3: haggard and like gross, and everyone was like ill.
Speaker 2: Anyway, did anyone share anything that you'd done while you
Speaker 2: were drinking then or yeah, And.
Speaker 3: It's just like people are like, oh, I remember when
Speaker 3: you fell over here, and I'm like, I fell over
Speaker 3: in public.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so it wasn't good. I had to be.
Speaker 3: Picked up and taken home. If you saw me that night,
Speaker 3: I'm so sorry. It was disgusting. I will be on
Speaker 3: better behavior from now on until.
Speaker 2: The tequila shots come out again.
Speaker 3: No, I'm banned from tequila shots. Michael was like, that
Speaker 3: can't happen again, no more tequila shots, and.
Speaker 1: I agree completely.
Speaker 3: So Matt, let's get into our topic of alcohol and dating.
Speaker 2: And we touched on before about how we used to
Speaker 2: be able to drink a lot more than we can now.
Speaker 2: Would you like to touch on your habits growing off
Speaker 2: with drinking.
Speaker 3: Look, it's really strange because I'm going to start by
Speaker 3: saying I actually listened to a podcast recently and it
Speaker 3: was this girl talking about her binge drinking habits and
Speaker 3: how she was a really bad drinker and literally everything
Speaker 3: she said I've done.
Speaker 1: But I just never thought it was.
Speaker 3: A problem because drinking is so normalized in Australian culture.
Speaker 2: I think part of the culture in Australia especially growing
Speaker 2: up as like a twenty year old eighteen year old,
Speaker 2: and that is to go out and just get absolutely
Speaker 2: black out drunk. Yeah, like there's no other ways around it.
Speaker 2: Even still, like if the boys get together, like we're
Speaker 2: all like drinks flow and like you're like, yeah, come on,
Speaker 2: like who can drink? The most sort of thing that's
Speaker 2: I reckon. That's a big part of Australian culture.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like when was the last time I got together
Speaker 3: with my friends or you got together with your friends
Speaker 3: and you did something that didn't revolve around drinking.
Speaker 2: Honestly, I don't remember even like I can't remember either.
Speaker 2: Even living with my housemates, like on a Friday night,
Speaker 2: it would say, let's have a couple of beers and
Speaker 2: watch the footage. Before you know, we're all drunk ass,
Speaker 2: like we're all sloppy messes. Yeah, just because that's like
Speaker 2: the culture. You're sitting in there drinking and before you
Speaker 2: know it, like one drink becomes ten.
Speaker 3: Really yeah, And I think that's the thing that I
Speaker 3: realized when listening to this podcast that kind of triggered
Speaker 3: something within me. All of my core memories growing up
Speaker 3: in my twenties.
Speaker 1: All revolve around alcohol.
Speaker 3: Without fail, every single one of them, like ninety nine percent.
Speaker 2: Well, Jen, my girlfriend, she always says, can you please
Speaker 2: tell me a story that doesn't start off with I
Speaker 2: was so fucked or I was so Yeah. She pulls
Speaker 2: me up on it all the time because I'm like, oh,
Speaker 2: over there, I was so pissed or something like that.
Speaker 2: She's like, just have one one story from your past
Speaker 2: that doesn't revolve around that.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: And I think that's the thing as well growing up
Speaker 3: is my mentality was just so all or nothing. I
Speaker 3: never actually learned to just have one or two drinks
Speaker 3: going out. In fact, I actually had the mindset that
Speaker 3: having one or two drinks was a waste of time
Speaker 3: because it's a waste of calories that I could not
Speaker 3: be having. And so then I would just get to
Speaker 3: the weekend and binge drink like an animal, and it
Speaker 3: was just foul.
Speaker 1: Like looking back, I'm.
Speaker 3: Like, my poor body, I need to like be the
Speaker 3: healthiest person alive to make up for all of the
Speaker 3: trauma that I have caused my body.
Speaker 2: Well, I was thinking about that in empty calories and
Speaker 2: all that sort of stuff drinking. I would go all
Speaker 2: week like eating religiously, like so healthily training like so much,
Speaker 2: and then on the weekend just to blow out and
Speaker 2: have a massive night on Saturday and to undo almost
Speaker 2: everything that I've done that whole week.
Speaker 1: That's crazy, isn't it.
Speaker 2: That became like a routine in my everyday life. And
Speaker 2: to think what like just stupid now if you look back, Yeah,
Speaker 2: I just didn't make sense.
Speaker 3: Well, Like, growing up, I was such a party girl.
Speaker 3: Like I loved partying, like I still do to a
Speaker 3: certain degree, but I'm so much better. Like I wouldn't
Speaker 3: go out to a club, I'd go out to a bar.
Speaker 3: Maybe I wouldn't really stay out past twelve now, like
Speaker 3: I've definitely settled down stay out those kids.
Speaker 1: But yeah, I used to go out three four times
Speaker 1: a week.
Speaker 3: I used to be a host at a nightclub, so
Speaker 3: I'd get paid a retainer every week to bring all
Speaker 3: my friends to the club.
Speaker 1: It became my job essentially.
Speaker 3: Like I'd get like twenty drink cards that I was
Speaker 3: meant to share with everyone and probably half three quarters
Speaker 3: to myself.
Speaker 2: I'm guilty of that as well.
Speaker 1: So it was just.
Speaker 3: Such a big part of me growing up. And as
Speaker 3: I said, I never saw a problem with it because
Speaker 3: it's so normalized.
Speaker 2: What a should you have your first drink?
Speaker 3: I think I had my first drink at seventeen, and
Speaker 3: that was because which is older? Which is older? Yeah,
Speaker 3: and that's because my parents were super street.
Speaker 1: Okay, So I don't know.
Speaker 3: If I had a drink earlier, like, would I have
Speaker 3: maybe learned to have one or two?
Speaker 1: To be honest, I really don't think so. I think
Speaker 1: it was a good thing that my.
Speaker 3: Parents were so strict and I didn't start drinking earlier
Speaker 3: because it has a massive effect on developing brains.
Speaker 2: Well take it from me, who had my first real
Speaker 2: piss up at fifteen.
Speaker 1: Oh that's why you're a bit.
Speaker 2: Yes, that's probably explains a lot. No, I took We
Speaker 2: had a house party and I remember going to my
Speaker 2: dad's bar and I took a bottle of jim Bean
Speaker 2: black of all things. Oh no, made myself and my
Speaker 2: mate a couple of black glasses. They couldn't drink it.
Speaker 2: So me still, I've still got this this attitude while
Speaker 2: I'm not going to waste alcohol, so drunk all these
Speaker 2: drinks and next thing you know, I remember just sitting
Speaker 2: on my front doorstep vomiting everywhere. Oh no, I have
Speaker 2: not been able to drink bourbon.
Speaker 3: Since when you had your first kiss with Jen, we drunk.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so our first date obviously was done at a
Speaker 2: period where restaurants weren't open. So what you would do
Speaker 2: is you'd go Well for most dates I think people
Speaker 2: doing and they met in that period of time, was
Speaker 2: they would go on like walks. So we met up
Speaker 2: at the botanical gardens the Tan, got an apparole each
Speaker 2: and walked, so.
Speaker 3: You were on a like a healthy walk and you
Speaker 3: still managed to get alcohol.
Speaker 2: Well, it's funny, it didn't even end up being a
Speaker 2: walk of the Tan. We ended up going stuff this,
Speaker 2: let's just walk through the gardens and get drunk. Yeah,
Speaker 2: pretty much. So we had a couple of drinks and
Speaker 2: then we went back to hers and had a drink there,
Speaker 2: and then we went back to mine and kept drinking
Speaker 2: with me and my roommates.
Speaker 3: Like it makes sense, Like first dates are extremely scary
Speaker 3: and you need the Dutch courage.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean personally, I don't think I need it
Speaker 2: to buy a.
Speaker 1: Don't then why did you have it?
Speaker 2: Maybe maybe I just love it.
Speaker 1: Matt's in denight.
Speaker 2: I like to think that I can back myself into
Speaker 2: a first date that I don't need social lubricant of
Speaker 2: a drink, but maybe I do subconsciously. I remember one
Speaker 2: of the first things I said to Jen when we
Speaker 2: started dating. We were at hers and we were drinking.
Speaker 2: We stayed up till like maybe three am, drinking on
Speaker 2: like the first week of hanging out, and I actually
Speaker 2: said to it, You're one of the first, if not
Speaker 2: the only girl I've actually stayed up with and just
Speaker 2: spoken to and drunk and not thought about, you know,
Speaker 2: taking to bed and just doing the deed, Like I'm
Speaker 2: actually into talking to you and like, you know, like
Speaker 2: it's a deeper level. So I think maybe alcohol maybe
Speaker 2: made that. Did you drink on your first date with Michael?
Speaker 3: Yeah, So it's interesting because I don't know if I've
Speaker 3: ever told this story on the podcast, but Michael and
Speaker 3: I's first date actually started at nine thirty PM one.
Speaker 3: It was a very late one, so Michael had been
Speaker 3: out all day. He was a bottle of wine deep.
Speaker 1: He was trying to.
Speaker 3: Convince me to come out, and I was like, I've
Speaker 3: just had like pasta and garlic bread. I'm like really
Speaker 3: settled in for the night. And I knew he was
Speaker 3: like a bit drunk. So I was like, you're already like.
Speaker 1: Halfway there, if not most of the way there, I
Speaker 1: don't think so.
Speaker 3: And he was like, no, no, no, like I've soave
Speaker 3: it up a bit. I really want to do this day.
Speaker 3: I'm going to flip a coin. If it's heads, we'll
Speaker 3: go on the day. If it's not, we'll stay home. Anyway,
Speaker 3: he lied it was tales. We were meant to stay in,
Speaker 3: but he was like it was heads. He was a
Speaker 3: fake video evidence. Anyway, So I had twenty minutes to
Speaker 3: get ready for our first date because he was like
Speaker 3: coming in an uber to pick me up.
Speaker 2: That's an hour and ten minutes less than normal.
Speaker 3: Geez. I mean it was very quick, but I can
Speaker 3: get ready really quickly. So I was like, you know what,
Speaker 3: fuck it.
Speaker 2: Don't look at me like that.
Speaker 3: I can.
Speaker 1: You would not know.
Speaker 3: Anyway, I was like, okay, quickly get ready. Obviously, I'm
Speaker 3: like this guy's a bottle deep. So what I did
Speaker 3: was I went to my little bar. No no, no, no,
Speaker 3: I'm not that bad, and I poured two shots of
Speaker 3: tequila and literally drunk two shots of Secula in a
Speaker 3: row mid doing my makeup in the hopes to kind
Speaker 3: of like, I don't know, give myself some courage. I
Speaker 3: don't know, I find a first dates super intimidating, like
Speaker 3: very stressful, Like I shake.
Speaker 1: I just get so overwhelmed and.
Speaker 3: I'm like, what am I going to talk about? I literally,
Speaker 3: before a first day will go to Google and be
Speaker 3: like things to talk about on a first day.
Speaker 1: I'll be like, what's happening in pop culture?
Speaker 3: Should I quickly listen to a podcast so I have
Speaker 3: something to talk about?
Speaker 1: Like I freak out, like I doubt myself.
Speaker 3: And then it's so funny because I literally will get
Speaker 3: on the date and then I'm like the most confident
Speaker 3: person ever.
Speaker 1: But it's just like the pre worry.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know, I never have that nerves before
Speaker 2: a first date. I'm sort of sweet.
Speaker 1: I'm so jealous.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I going back in myself that I know, like
Speaker 2: I know what to talk about in that, but I'm
Speaker 2: pretty good at talking.
Speaker 1: If it's all mine. But it's just like this self doubt.
Speaker 3: Also, I think first dates are intimidating because you're like
Speaker 3: what if I don't like them? And then I literally
Speaker 3: like how do I get out of this? Or like
Speaker 3: am I just gonna sit there? And I have this
Speaker 3: really bad thing where I struggle to tell people the truth.
Speaker 3: So I'll just like go along with a date and
Speaker 3: like pretend everything's all sweet, and then.
Speaker 1: At the end of it, I'm like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: that was a nightmare. But at the time, you think.
Speaker 3: The guy probably is like, oh, she's into me because
Speaker 3: I don't.
Speaker 2: Want to drink after drink, had shots trying to get
Speaker 2: through the dance.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but it's because I don't want to hurt their
Speaker 3: feelings and I feel bad like just making it clear
Speaker 3: that I'm just not vibing them, and.
Speaker 1: I don't want to be rude.
Speaker 3: Like it's like this really like weird complex where I
Speaker 3: want them to like me even though I don't like them.
Speaker 2: All Right, So then say you're going on a first date,
Speaker 2: you're nervous. Would you ever have one that didn't revolve
Speaker 2: around drinking.
Speaker 3: The only date that I can remember that I've had
Speaker 3: that didn't revolve around drinking was.
Speaker 1: When I was like eighteen, still in school.
Speaker 3: I went I had a movie day, and I remember
Speaker 3: my mom had, like I think I wasn't I couldn't
Speaker 3: drive yet, so my mom had dropped me off and
Speaker 3: I literally got dropped off. I was like hiding in
Speaker 3: the bathroom, so I was early, so I did. I
Speaker 3: didn't want him to see me yet because I didn't
Speaker 3: want to have too much talking time before the movie,
Speaker 3: because that's how nervous I was.
Speaker 1: And then I remember I called my.
Speaker 3: Mom back and I was like, pick me up. I
Speaker 3: can't do it. It's too strong, and she was like, Anna,
Speaker 3: just go on the date. I'm not picking you up,
Speaker 3: and I was forced into the day.
Speaker 2: Did you nearly stand him off?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 3: And I literally at the moment I saw him, we
Speaker 3: awkwardly hugged and then I was like trembling.
Speaker 1: I was shaking. I was like, this is the nightmare.
Speaker 1: This is the nightmare.
Speaker 2: Did you just watch the movie then and leave?
Speaker 1: Like we watched the movie the whole time.
Speaker 3: I like had my hands by my side and he
Speaker 3: kept like trying to hold my hand. He leaned in
Speaker 3: for a kiss at the very end, and I was
Speaker 3: like no, no, no, no, no no no, and then
Speaker 3: he did it. I was like, fuck it, I have
Speaker 3: to do it because I don't want to. I don't
Speaker 3: want him to like feel uncomfortable. So then I kissed
Speaker 3: him back and then I was like, Okay, thanks for
Speaker 3: the date.
Speaker 1: By sea later just like ended up ghosting.
Speaker 2: Safe to say he never got a second date.
Speaker 3: It wasn't him. It was more to do with me.
Speaker 3: And I think my insecurity is around first dates and
Speaker 3: just like the pressure I put on myself and the
Speaker 3: constant overthinking that I will do before it, which just
Speaker 3: I totally psych myself out.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so the drinking definitely makes that a lot easier
Speaker 2: for you.
Speaker 3: Yeah, the drinking has and I think that's why I
Speaker 3: turned into such a binge drinker. It's sad to say,
Speaker 3: but it totally numbed those feelings of anxiousness of worry,
Speaker 3: and I was just my confident, normal self, which if
Speaker 3: I'm not drinking alcohol, I still will get to the
Speaker 3: day and I will end up being myself.
Speaker 1: But it's just like the pre date worry that I numbed.
Speaker 3: Okay, so how much should you drink on a first day?
Speaker 3: Because we've established that we all tend to go a
Speaker 3: bit ott, But how much should you drink?
Speaker 2: Map enough that you feel confident in yourself but you're
Speaker 2: not messy drunk and slurring your words. I feel, Yeah,
Speaker 2: you have to find that lines. If you feel like
Speaker 2: you're toppling over, maybe have a glass of water.
Speaker 1: Water is key when drinking as well.
Speaker 3: They do say that three is generally the golden number
Speaker 3: of drinks. So one is customary kind of like release
Speaker 3: the nerves. Second drink can be used to feel your
Speaker 3: date out a bit more, kind of open up a
Speaker 3: little bit. And then three is kind of like reserved
Speaker 3: for the dates when you're kind of into each.
Speaker 2: Other and it's going a little bit further.
Speaker 3: It's going a bit further, things are kind of warming
Speaker 3: up a little.
Speaker 2: If you're onto your third drink, you might be feeling
Speaker 2: a little bit horny by then as well.
Speaker 1: Drinking can make you horny, like we can't deny that.
Speaker 2: Oh no, it definitely does. I don't know. Why does
Speaker 2: it make your blood flow everywhere? I don't know, because
Speaker 2: I feel like when you start.
Speaker 3: Drinking, and I mean, drunk sex is really fun and
Speaker 3: inhibitions are lowerd It's good.
Speaker 2: Drunk sex is fun if you're not too drunk. And
Speaker 2: we have the problem of whiskey dick, or also referred to,
Speaker 2: as I've learned as Foster's floff over there gave us
Speaker 2: that one. All right, let's touch on whiskey dick next.
Speaker 3: Okay, Matt, we all know what whiskey dick is that
Speaker 3: I want to hear it from you.
Speaker 1: What is your definition of whiskey dick?
Speaker 2: All right? So before I get into what a whiskey
Speaker 2: dick is, I'm going to touch on some other names
Speaker 2: that it might be called. Oh God, for other listeners
Speaker 2: that are like, hang on, is that this? It is shot,
Speaker 2: pull with a rope, bong dong, brown party liquor, Foster's floppy,
Speaker 2: Southern poison, taffy pulling, rubber knife, jackie ending, richard, whiskey.
Speaker 1: Okay, yahk ya, We're going to start there.
Speaker 2: Pushing rope, softy punch, bottle of jack, Everlasting, gummy wre beer, pickle,
Speaker 2: whiskey trick. There. The list goes on Jesus gris, but
Speaker 2: essentially it can have a many names, but essentially it
Speaker 2: is when a man has drunk too much and he
Speaker 2: cannot get an erect penis. All right, So everyone knows
Speaker 2: alcohol can slow your reaction time. So what it does
Speaker 2: is it makes it difficult to focus and concentrate. So
Speaker 2: when a man is having sex, their central nervous system
Speaker 2: isn't working like it normally would if say they were sober,
Speaker 2: which then can affect the dick and how hard it erects, right,
Speaker 2: so it can affect the blood flow to your penis.
Speaker 1: I don't even know if I want to ask this question.
Speaker 1: Has this ever happened to you?
Speaker 2: I think every man can safely say yes, it has.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's common, right, I'm sure.
Speaker 2: Have you had a man have a whiskey dick before?
Speaker 1: I don't know, not in recent times.
Speaker 3: I think maybe when I was younger, it's more just
Speaker 3: like you just wouldn't have sex because they're like, I'm
Speaker 3: too drunk.
Speaker 1: Yeah that we're trying, and they're like, oh, whiskey dick.
Speaker 1: I don't know, do you call it out? Is that
Speaker 1: a thing? Oh whiskey dick?
Speaker 2: Hey, I can't get hard, there's no blood flow into
Speaker 2: the mask.
Speaker 1: Can you undo a bit of whiskey dick?
Speaker 3: If you're like, I've got whiskey dick right now, can
Speaker 3: you maybe eat some food and then the whiskey dick
Speaker 3: will go away?
Speaker 2: Maybe have a glass of water, sleep it off, and
Speaker 2: if you.
Speaker 1: So, you're just saying way to the.
Speaker 2: Morning, Way to the morning. I think it's the safest,
Speaker 2: which could ruin some situations. I feel.
Speaker 3: How do you react as a guy in that situation,
Speaker 3: Let's just say it's a one night stand. You've taken
Speaker 3: a girl home, she's super hot, and you're.
Speaker 1: Like, tonight's gonna be fun night.
Speaker 3: You're about to do the deed, and you're like, fuck,
Speaker 3: I've got some whiskey, dick, what do you say?
Speaker 2: I think the best thing to say is to assure
Speaker 2: the girl that it's not them, So don't make them
Speaker 2: feel it's personal. Say look, I'm sorry, but like you
Speaker 2: shouldn't have pored me that extra. Don't put the flame
Speaker 2: on them. No, just say I shouldn't have had that
Speaker 2: extra drink. We've had too many. Maybe let's sleep it
Speaker 2: off and see how we go. Or do you want
Speaker 2: to go and have a glass of water and I
Speaker 2: can cook something in the kitchen?
Speaker 1: Like, oh, why don't you go down on them?
Speaker 3: Be like I don't want to have sex with you.
Speaker 3: I just want to pleasure you and take the attention off.
Speaker 2: Is that how you would prefer a man to be?
Speaker 2: Is that what you? Yeah? Is that a question? Well? Fuck,
Speaker 2: here we go, I'm learning me. Well yeah, true, okay,
Speaker 2: so maybe you just say hang on, this isn't my night,
Speaker 2: this is your night.
Speaker 1: That's the perfect way to resolve the issue.
Speaker 2: In my opinion, I was just trying to make him
Speaker 2: feel comfortable, to let them know that it's not them
Speaker 2: and it's the alcohol's fault, and you.
Speaker 1: Just make them food. You're like, if I'm not getting pleasure,
Speaker 1: none of us are.
Speaker 2: You're right you go down on them. At least someone's
Speaker 2: getting off tonight.
Speaker 3: Okay, what drinks do you think would affect your dick
Speaker 3: the most?
Speaker 2: So, even though it's called whiskey dick, whiskey doesn't cause it.
Speaker 2: It's literally any drink I can do it. As long
Speaker 2: as you've drunk too much alcohol, it will happen. So
Speaker 2: I think it's called whiskey dick common because whisky is
Speaker 2: a stronger drink, and if you have what a couple
Speaker 2: of them, it's going to affect you more than if,
Speaker 2: say you've had twelve beers. You know, in the equivalent
Speaker 2: would be a lot more beers for that. So I
Speaker 2: think that's why it's called that. But any alcohol can
Speaker 2: really do the trick.
Speaker 1: Did you know that.
Speaker 3: There is actually a female equivalent, and it's called whiskey clip.
Speaker 2: No, I don't know. It looks like I'm hearing it
Speaker 2: looks like I'm hearing a lot of new facts here today.
Speaker 1: Or new it's a learning experience for all.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's why you tune in.
Speaker 3: So there's three states of whiskey clit. So the first
Speaker 3: one is delayed orgasm, so it takes you longer to
Speaker 3: reach your point of climax. And then the second one
Speaker 3: is no orgasm at all, and then the third is
Speaker 3: the stimulation is just not possible, Like even when you
Speaker 3: stimulate the clit, you're just not feeling anything, Like you're
Speaker 3: just you're just way too drunk.
Speaker 2: Okay, So say a woman is feeling whiskey clip, what
Speaker 2: is your advice for them?
Speaker 1: Then to sleep it off, babe.
Speaker 2: So not to say I'm sitting this one out it's
Speaker 2: your time. Doesn't go both ways.
Speaker 3: Touche, you know what, Maybe I should be like, it's
Speaker 3: turn for your BJ.
Speaker 2: But maybe he's Scott whiskey dick, and everyone just goes
Speaker 2: Maybe tonight's not the innings. We sit this one out
Speaker 2: and tomorrow morning we go into bed again.
Speaker 1: Okay, something I want to talk about alcohol and breakup.
Speaker 2: Snap, It's literally like they go hand in hand.
Speaker 1: They go hand in hand.
Speaker 2: You can't say breakup without alcohol.
Speaker 3: I feel every single breakup that I've ever gone through.
Speaker 3: My alcohol intake has gone up significantly, and that is
Speaker 3: simply because I'm really upset. My emotions are at a high,
Speaker 3: and I want to drown those feelings.
Speaker 2: Drown those sorrows. As they say, when you've broken up
Speaker 2: with someone, nothing is better than going out and having
Speaker 2: a big night drinking and just forgetting about everything and
Speaker 2: just having fun.
Speaker 3: The problem is when you drink after a breakup, it's
Speaker 3: literally like getting a beach ball and pushing it under water.
Speaker 3: It's just going to come straight back up to the sad,
Speaker 3: you know what I mean. Like, dude, those nights they
Speaker 3: start some bit, you do end up at four am
Speaker 3: crying in a kebab shop.
Speaker 2: I was about to say, just talking to anyone that
Speaker 2: will listen about your breakup and their ear off. And
Speaker 2: I know I don't find this, I don't get it
Speaker 2: that bad, but I know you do. You get anxiety
Speaker 2: the next day after you.
Speaker 1: Drink, any terrible anxiety.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so all you're doing is just going to spike
Speaker 2: that the next day as well if you drink.
Speaker 3: That's a problem with breaking up and alcohol is you
Speaker 3: just hop back on the horse the next night because
Speaker 3: you're like, I need to keep drinking so that I
Speaker 3: can again get rid of those feelings. I think for me,
Speaker 3: the reason why I've always been so reliant on alcohol.
Speaker 3: You can push down those feelings for a little bit,
Speaker 3: and that helps me because then it gives you more
Speaker 3: time to accept it, and then I guess you just
Speaker 3: deal with all of the crazy emotions that is a
Speaker 3: breakup when you have actually accepted.
Speaker 2: That you're single, So denial is that.
Speaker 3: And also, like you might have had a drunken kiss,
Speaker 3: you might have been able to remember that there's other
Speaker 3: people out there and like that person is.
Speaker 1: Not the be all and end all.
Speaker 3: Like it seems like a hard concept to wrap my
Speaker 3: head around to go through a breakup stone cold sober,
Speaker 3: so like you'd need to be just doing all of
Speaker 3: that healthy, healthy, healthy work on yourself, but to like
Speaker 3: a high standard, And I just don't know if i'd
Speaker 3: be on that level if I was in a breakup mindset.
Speaker 3: Maybe you are that motivated person who's like, you know what,
Speaker 3: I'm going to get up every day.
Speaker 1: I'm going to go to the gym.
Speaker 3: I'm going to get rid of that nervous, anxious, stressed
Speaker 3: out energy, Like I mean, that is a great way
Speaker 3: to get over a breakup, as opposed to.
Speaker 2: I've done it. I've done it both ways. Yeah, one breakup,
Speaker 2: my toxic one. I did go out and drink a
Speaker 2: lot and party with my mates. But then again we
Speaker 2: were coming out of lockdown, so it was spirit that
Speaker 2: I was like, Okay, well we can do all this
Speaker 2: sort of stuff in So I was going out drinking,
Speaker 2: but my breakup before that, and I threw myself into gym,
Speaker 2: myself into like working out, getting like getting that body
Speaker 2: that makes people regret what they've done.
Speaker 3: Okay, well, look, you've done both what way do you
Speaker 3: think is the best way.
Speaker 2: To go for me? Personally? I was definitely going to gym. Yeah,
Speaker 2: felt and like working out that way.
Speaker 1: And look, I think, like I don't think me and
Speaker 1: Michael are going to break up touch wood touch wood
Speaker 1: for me.
Speaker 3: On wood, but if we did, I think maybe that
Speaker 3: is a route that I would be open to taking.
Speaker 2: I'm happy to go to gym with you, Anna and
Speaker 2: work out and get you back on that horse metaphorically
Speaker 2: and physically. It's that time of the episode again that
Speaker 2: we all love. It's where you ask us where our
Speaker 2: heads are at and we answer your questions.
Speaker 1: Let's do it.
Speaker 2: Okay, this comes around our first listening today. They have
Speaker 2: written in and.
Speaker 3: Said I was messaging this guy and he invited me
Speaker 3: out for drinks at a bar, and when I met
Speaker 3: him there, he asked me what I wanted to drink.
Speaker 3: I asked for a red wine, and then he ordered
Speaker 3: just one for me and then proceeded to tell me
Speaker 3: he doesn't drink. I'm completely fine with being sober, but
Speaker 3: at the time I felt a bit tricked into drinking
Speaker 3: by myself by the whole way he did it. I
Speaker 3: also felt a bit ashamed by him because he told
Speaker 3: me how much better it was not to be drinking anymore,
Speaker 3: and how much better his life is. Am I an
Speaker 3: asshole for seeing this as an ick?
Speaker 2: What do you think Anna, if you were in that
Speaker 2: situation and a guy I did that to you.
Speaker 3: Look, I don't think that someone not drinking should be
Speaker 3: an ick. I think it kind of does make you
Speaker 3: an asshole if you feel that way, Like, yeah, ideally
Speaker 3: you kind of want to be similar to someone, Like
Speaker 3: if you're drinking, you want them to drink.
Speaker 1: If you eat me, you kind of want them to
Speaker 1: eat me.
Speaker 3: Like sometimes people might get annoyed or a bit turned
Speaker 3: off if they're dating a vegetarian or a vegan when
Speaker 3: they're a meat eater. But I don't think that we
Speaker 3: should be judgmental. I think we should try to be
Speaker 3: more accepting. But in saying all of that, I feel
Speaker 3: like he probably should have told her that he wasn't
Speaker 3: going to drink before offering to get her a drink.
Speaker 1: Just communication. You know.
Speaker 2: Look, if he'd offered to get her a drink and
Speaker 2: said I'm not drinking, that would have been better. But
Speaker 2: then if he's going on to make her feel guilty
Speaker 2: and ashamed for actually drinking, like that's wrong. Like I
Speaker 2: hope he's not sitting there preaching that, like you shouldn't drink.
Speaker 2: Life so much better without drinking.
Speaker 3: Yeah, she's like mid red wine and he's like, my
Speaker 3: life has changed completely and drastically since not drinking, and
Speaker 3: she's like, well fuck.
Speaker 2: Like, I've dated heaps of vegetarians, heaps of vegans, and
Speaker 2: I have no problem with it personally because they're not
Speaker 2: sitting there trying to preach their ways onto me, and
Speaker 2: they don't mind if I'm sitting there with a big
Speaker 2: Scotch filet in on my way, like they're chill with that.
Speaker 2: So as long as that he's not sitting there preaching.
Speaker 2: That would give me the ick if a girl was like,
Speaker 2: you know, like one of those girls who was a
Speaker 2: vegetarian was like, look all these cows are dying in
Speaker 2: that and I'm not trying to finish my mistake, and I'm like,
Speaker 2: I don't want to know this.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's all about just respecting what each person chooses
Speaker 3: to do with their life. Not everyone is the same,
Speaker 3: and that's what makes everyone so unique and interesting.
Speaker 2: And that's actually the beauty of going on first date.
Speaker 2: You get to meet new people words see they're different quirks.
Speaker 1: Okay, the next listener has written in and they.
Speaker 2: Have said I am always so nervous before going on
Speaker 2: dates that I take the drinking a bit too far
Speaker 2: each time and end up being drunk for the last
Speaker 2: few hours of the date. I feel like it may
Speaker 2: be unattractive to my potential dates, and maybe the reason
Speaker 2: I don't always hear back from them. How do I
Speaker 2: stop drinking too much on dates?
Speaker 1: I can relate to this.
Speaker 3: I think I'm that person who sometimes takes it too far.
Speaker 3: I think for me, something that's worked is just giving
Speaker 3: yourself a limit, like setting a limit. And if you
Speaker 3: are a big drinker, you can literally set up a
Speaker 3: five drink limit, like at the maximum that's a lot.
Speaker 3: But if you're a big drinker, then at least you
Speaker 3: have a cutoff and no matter what, you won't break it.
Speaker 2: I think that you just maybe go in. I is
Speaker 2: there's something else I can sue your nerves as well? Maybe, like,
Speaker 2: is there any other like meditations you can do, maybe
Speaker 2: have like a stress band or something, so if you're
Speaker 2: feeling nervous, you can just flick that and then even
Speaker 2: if the date sees and acknowledges that could be a
Speaker 2: good conversation starter and you explain that you are nervous
Speaker 2: to be on this date, and if he's a welcoming guy,
Speaker 2: he'll be like, oh look, and he'll make you feel
Speaker 2: at ease. Yea, I know, I would.
Speaker 1: I mean, do you really want to be like pinging
Speaker 1: your wrists?
Speaker 3: Uti fat?
Speaker 2: I mean under the table? If you just do it
Speaker 2: and that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, look, I totally understand what it's like to over
Speaker 3: drink on a first date, so I get it.
Speaker 1: I think for me, setting.
Speaker 3: A limit three drink limit, four drink limit, five drink limit,
Speaker 3: whatever it is for you works.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it is nice to have a beer to take
Speaker 2: the nerves off, or a wine a d but just
Speaker 2: be within your limits.
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