WEBVTT - HOW TO MANIFEST A RELATIONSHIP… 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:02.640 I want the fairy tale. I want the prince charming. 0:00:03.120 --> 0:00:04.800 She how do I put this? 0:00:05.000 --> 0:00:07.800 Isn't a fan of my kissing style with. 0:00:08.200 --> 0:00:11.000 A boyfriend and girlfriend for about twelve hours. He's in 0:00:11.039 --> 0:00:13.760 a trash bit. He's non recyclable catching them mu. 0:00:15.160 --> 0:00:17.239 I love being love. I love love. 0:00:17.920 --> 0:00:20.000 On today's episode of Where's Your Head At, we will 0:00:20.000 --> 0:00:23.040 be discussing how to manifest a boyfriend or a girlfriend. 0:00:23.680 --> 0:00:27.000 We are thrilled to welcome Maddie Summers, a confidence and 0:00:27.120 --> 0:00:31.360 manifestation coach, to the studio to help you guys manifest 0:00:31.480 --> 0:00:32.839 your perfect partner. 0:00:33.280 --> 0:00:35.879 Stay tuned to hear all about how Anna did this 0:00:35.960 --> 0:00:37.239 to manifest her boyfriend. 0:00:42.120 --> 0:00:44.519 Where's Your Head At Is a podcast that talks all 0:00:44.600 --> 0:00:49.920 things relationships, breakups, reality TV, trending shows, and everything in between. 0:00:50.200 --> 0:00:52.919 This is your new go to destination for laughs, gossip, 0:00:53.080 --> 0:01:01.880 intimate details, advice, and much more. Matthew, Hello, and I 0:01:01.960 --> 0:01:04.000 just want to kick off by saying happy one year 0:01:04.040 --> 0:01:05.919 anniversary with you and Michael. 0:01:05.959 --> 0:01:07.520 Can you believe it's one year today? 0:01:07.880 --> 0:01:09.520 Thank you? I know you know what. 0:01:09.600 --> 0:01:10.240 It's so weird. 0:01:10.280 --> 0:01:12.360 I reckon, like sometimes I feel like. 0:01:12.319 --> 0:01:15.480 I've been with Michael, like for as far as I 0:01:15.520 --> 0:01:17.800 can remember, and then other times I'm like whoa, Like 0:01:17.840 --> 0:01:19.360 we've only been together a year? 0:01:19.560 --> 0:01:20.480 What geez? 0:01:20.560 --> 0:01:22.520 I still remember the first time I met Michael, and 0:01:22.560 --> 0:01:24.840 I was saying, this guy is the sort of boyfriend 0:01:24.840 --> 0:01:29.240 that anna as far as like physical and like like 0:01:29.319 --> 0:01:30.759 emotional as well intellectual. 0:01:30.880 --> 0:01:32.080 He had it all, he had all. 0:01:32.640 --> 0:01:34.800 Yeah, but how about you tell us a little about 0:01:34.800 --> 0:01:37.120 your headspace when you met Michael. Where were you at, 0:01:37.160 --> 0:01:39.800 because obviously you've been single what for like a year? 0:01:40.280 --> 0:01:41.479 Yeah? Yeah? Really? 0:01:41.640 --> 0:01:47.039 Yeah geez well yeah, Like so I reckon after my breakup. 0:01:47.720 --> 0:01:49.480 I was just like in a headspace where I was 0:01:49.520 --> 0:01:51.680 like I need to be single, Like I don't want 0:01:51.680 --> 0:01:55.040 a boyfriend. I just want to have fun. I want 0:01:55.080 --> 0:01:58.280 to kind of like refine myself. Obviously, like my last 0:01:58.320 --> 0:02:01.280 relationship before Michael was a little bit toxic. So I 0:02:01.320 --> 0:02:03.840 feel like I had developed some like bad habits that 0:02:03.880 --> 0:02:07.880 I wanted to break, some soul searching for some soul 0:02:07.960 --> 0:02:11.800 searching for sure. And then I reckon nine months after 0:02:12.000 --> 0:02:14.400 I had been fully single, just like not looking for 0:02:14.440 --> 0:02:17.919 anything serious, had kind of seen a few guys. Was 0:02:18.000 --> 0:02:21.000 kind of like I'm just like sick of kind of 0:02:21.040 --> 0:02:24.200 like doing this like in between thing, and I kind 0:02:24.200 --> 0:02:25.799 of got to a point where I was like, Okay, 0:02:26.840 --> 0:02:29.400 i feel like I'm at a point where I'm open 0:02:29.440 --> 0:02:33.120 to having a boyfriend, like not thinking like it's going 0:02:33.200 --> 0:02:35.280 to come immediately, because I know you just have to 0:02:35.760 --> 0:02:37.920 get to a point where you're like I'm open and 0:02:37.919 --> 0:02:40.600 then I'll just see how it goes. But I actually 0:02:40.760 --> 0:02:45.200 got in touch with my manifestation coach and kind of 0:02:45.280 --> 0:02:46.200 spoke it through. 0:02:46.040 --> 0:02:49.000 With her, and she was like, I think you should manifest. 0:02:48.520 --> 0:02:51.920 This, Like get a piece of paper and write down 0:02:51.960 --> 0:02:54.560 what you want, what you're looking for, how you want 0:02:54.600 --> 0:02:56.480 someone to make you feel. And I was like, you 0:02:56.520 --> 0:02:58.840 know what, like there's no harm in doing that. And 0:02:59.160 --> 0:03:01.560 I've always kind of kind of loved the idea of 0:03:01.600 --> 0:03:04.520 like having a journal or having a diary and kind 0:03:04.520 --> 0:03:06.440 of like writing down your thoughts at the moment and 0:03:06.440 --> 0:03:09.440 then reading it in a few years time and being like, oh, 0:03:09.560 --> 0:03:11.120 like that's where I was at at that. 0:03:11.600 --> 0:03:12.880 I want to do a lot more as well, But 0:03:12.880 --> 0:03:14.399 you're just forget. 0:03:14.240 --> 0:03:17.480 Well, you know what, we should like write a message 0:03:17.480 --> 0:03:20.400 to ourselves in a year about the podcast and be like, 0:03:20.840 --> 0:03:22.240 this is where we want to be in a year, 0:03:22.320 --> 0:03:24.080 This is where we're at now. We just hit a 0:03:24.120 --> 0:03:27.760 million listens like what do we want to achieve? Because 0:03:27.840 --> 0:03:30.639 you know, I feel like that helps you grow. And 0:03:30.680 --> 0:03:32.280 I feel like once you put it out there to 0:03:32.320 --> 0:03:34.520 the universe, which I've been taught a lot by my 0:03:34.600 --> 0:03:38.680 manifestation coach, it kind of like puts it into motion. 0:03:39.600 --> 0:03:44.880 So I the other day was looking in my bedroom drawers. 0:03:44.920 --> 0:03:47.120 I was kind of like clearing stuff out, and I 0:03:47.320 --> 0:03:51.920 found my manifestation letters that I wrote a year ago 0:03:52.360 --> 0:03:55.080 about manifesting a boyfriend. So I brought them into the 0:03:55.080 --> 0:03:56.880 studio and I want to read them to you because 0:03:56.880 --> 0:03:58.480 I feel like you're going to be like, what the fuck? 0:03:59.320 --> 0:04:01.240 I already am like what the fuck? Let's see what 0:04:01.280 --> 0:04:02.880 you are? You sure you want to read these out? 0:04:02.920 --> 0:04:07.520 There might be it might be a bit. Let's see 0:04:07.520 --> 0:04:09.280 what you said. This is it remind you this is 0:04:09.320 --> 0:04:10.800 Anna a year ago, this is me. 0:04:10.720 --> 0:04:13.640 A year ago. So I wrote two letters to myself. 0:04:14.240 --> 0:04:17.159 The first one I said, like it starts with read 0:04:17.240 --> 0:04:20.280 on the twenty first of the fourth, twenty twenty two, so. 0:04:20.240 --> 0:04:22.200 That was a year later. 0:04:22.360 --> 0:04:24.359 So I wrote that on my birthday, on my twenty 0:04:24.440 --> 0:04:26.719 ninth birthday, and I said to myself, open it on 0:04:26.760 --> 0:04:27.799 my thirtieth birthday. 0:04:27.920 --> 0:04:30.839 Okay, okay, did you read it on your sirtieth. 0:04:31.480 --> 0:04:32.520 No, I forgot about it. 0:04:32.960 --> 0:04:34.680 This is the first time you're reading about it here. 0:04:35.120 --> 0:04:36.920 But I found it like a couple of weeks ago, 0:04:36.920 --> 0:04:38.279 and I was like, oh, well, I mean it was 0:04:38.320 --> 0:04:40.240 my thirtieth a few months ago, so I mean it's 0:04:40.279 --> 0:04:41.159 not too far off. 0:04:41.320 --> 0:04:42.720 Yeah, it all works. 0:04:43.240 --> 0:04:47.680 Okay. So it says this is my manifestation letter to myself. 0:04:47.800 --> 0:04:48.280 I love this. 0:04:48.360 --> 0:04:51.200 Here we go to me, Happy birthday. 0:04:51.360 --> 0:04:55.640 You are so blessed with amazing family, friends and life. 0:04:56.120 --> 0:04:59.520 Make sure you count your blessings. My birthday wish for 0:04:59.560 --> 0:05:02.240 the twenty fi first of the fourth twenty twenty two 0:05:02.279 --> 0:05:08.000 is to have a tall, driven, kind, empathetic, handsome partner 0:05:10.320 --> 0:05:13.360 who worships me and who will be my future husband. 0:05:13.839 --> 0:05:17.000 For now, enjoy being single and enjoy everything life has 0:05:17.040 --> 0:05:20.279 to offer. I hope Byron Bay is amazing love always 0:05:20.360 --> 0:05:23.320 Anna with a love part that's cute. 0:05:25.240 --> 0:05:26.960 Well it happened, I guess, yeah. 0:05:27.000 --> 0:05:29.080 So I basically then went to Byron Bay. 0:05:29.200 --> 0:05:32.440 It met this other guy, and I feel like that 0:05:32.520 --> 0:05:35.400 was the first time I was like open to being 0:05:35.480 --> 0:05:38.120 serious about someone and that didn't work out. But then 0:05:38.360 --> 0:05:40.880 the next person who am there, which was Michael, it 0:05:41.000 --> 0:05:41.839 ended up working out. 0:05:42.440 --> 0:05:44.520 Wow, So you reckon writing it on that piece of 0:05:44.560 --> 0:05:46.160 paper made it come true. 0:05:46.480 --> 0:05:49.359 Well, it just kind of put like my feelings and 0:05:49.400 --> 0:05:52.240 thoughts into motion. I guess if I say put it 0:05:52.240 --> 0:05:56.120 out to the universe. Then my second letter says I 0:05:56.160 --> 0:05:59.080 wrote this on the first of the sixth, twenty twenty one, 0:05:59.120 --> 0:06:06.000 and its title future husband, get Ready, here we go. 0:06:06.839 --> 0:06:09.400 This one says that I'm looking for a man who 0:06:09.480 --> 0:06:18.479 is charismatic, kind, loves me, is tall, smart, driven, tanned, 0:06:19.120 --> 0:06:23.200 makes me laugh, and is well endowed. 0:06:25.800 --> 0:06:26.960 And well endowed for everyone. 0:06:27.040 --> 0:06:31.640 Listening at home means packing under the belt, bottom heavy. 0:06:32.600 --> 0:06:35.919 But look, you might think like that's asking for a lot, 0:06:36.640 --> 0:06:40.520 but it wasn't. And my dream man soon after came 0:06:40.560 --> 0:06:43.240 into my life. And it's our one year anniversary, and 0:06:43.240 --> 0:06:46.520 I just want to say to Michael, I love you. 0:06:46.520 --> 0:06:49.960 You're the best boyfriend ever, and I'm excited for what's 0:06:50.000 --> 0:06:50.600 to come for us. 0:06:50.680 --> 0:06:53.279 And your destiny came because Anna write you down on 0:06:53.320 --> 0:06:56.960 a piece of paper. So your life changed the day 0:06:57.000 --> 0:06:58.800 Anna wrote that letter to herself. 0:06:59.080 --> 0:07:00.919 Yeah, And so people come to me and they're like, 0:07:01.040 --> 0:07:04.680 how did you find this guy like Michael? He's so perfect? 0:07:04.720 --> 0:07:07.520 Do you guys just work together? You know, like you're 0:07:07.560 --> 0:07:10.440 so compatible? And I literally will say I'm like I 0:07:10.560 --> 0:07:14.640 manifested him, and I had a manifestation coach who helped 0:07:14.680 --> 0:07:17.600 me do that. So what I decided to do for 0:07:17.680 --> 0:07:20.560 those people who have been unlucky in love is to 0:07:20.640 --> 0:07:24.320 bring my manifestation coach into the studio. We have her 0:07:24.360 --> 0:07:26.480 in here and she is going to tell you how 0:07:26.560 --> 0:07:30.080 you can manifest your boyfriend or your girlfriend. 0:07:30.200 --> 0:07:31.440 Let's jump into that. 0:07:35.080 --> 0:07:38.320 Okay, guys, I'd like to welcome to the studio Maddie Summers. 0:07:38.400 --> 0:07:41.680 She is an actress, manifestation and confidence coach, and she 0:07:41.800 --> 0:07:45.840 is helping women out there everywhere find unstoppable. 0:07:45.160 --> 0:07:47.480 Confidence and the men of their dreams. 0:07:47.720 --> 0:07:49.240 Welcome to the show, Maddie. 0:07:49.520 --> 0:07:51.800 Hey, guys, thanks so much for having me. I'm so excited. 0:07:51.880 --> 0:07:53.680 Thanks for coming in. And we'd love to hear a 0:07:53.680 --> 0:07:55.680 bit about manifesting. Tell us about it. 0:07:55.720 --> 0:07:56.080 What is it? 0:07:56.480 --> 0:08:00.920 Manifestation is such a big topic actually these days, I 0:08:00.920 --> 0:08:02.080 feel like, right it's such like. 0:08:02.040 --> 0:08:03.520 A hype word. 0:08:03.240 --> 0:08:07.120 At the moment, like, oh, I've manifested and I'm manifesting. 0:08:07.960 --> 0:08:11.400 It's either everyone's doing it or people feel so separated 0:08:11.400 --> 0:08:13.080 from it. And I feel like there's such a huge 0:08:13.120 --> 0:08:17.680 chunk of people, especially men, that are like, oh, manifestation 0:08:18.000 --> 0:08:21.160 is just for people that like put toads in cauldrons 0:08:21.200 --> 0:08:23.920 and write on briss You know, they just feel like 0:08:24.000 --> 0:08:27.840 it's so woo woo, and so they really separate themselves 0:08:27.880 --> 0:08:30.240 from it, or they think that, oh, well, if it's 0:08:30.240 --> 0:08:31.880 just writing something down in a piece of paper and 0:08:31.880 --> 0:08:34.480 it comes true, then it's too simple and that's I 0:08:34.480 --> 0:08:37.480 don't agree with it. So hopefully today I'll be able 0:08:37.480 --> 0:08:39.280 to let people know that it's so much more black 0:08:39.320 --> 0:08:40.599 and white then people. 0:08:40.360 --> 0:08:41.120 Give it credit for. 0:08:41.760 --> 0:08:45.600 And there are like woo woo elements to manifestation, but 0:08:45.640 --> 0:08:47.760 at the end of the day, if you really think 0:08:47.800 --> 0:08:49.920 about it and you break it down into what it is, 0:08:50.000 --> 0:08:53.640 it's just setting a goal and achieving it and aligning 0:08:53.679 --> 0:08:56.720 your thoughts, your emotions, and your actions to that goal 0:08:56.800 --> 0:08:59.480 until you get it done. You know, when people are like, oh, 0:08:59.559 --> 0:09:02.720 it's it's you know, floating above the clouds, when really 0:09:02.720 --> 0:09:04.160 it's just so straightforward. 0:09:04.280 --> 0:09:06.480 Let's get everyone on board, because I mean Matt and 0:09:06.559 --> 0:09:09.600 I we are big believers in manifestation. 0:09:09.720 --> 0:09:11.840 But I know that some people actually don't know what 0:09:11.880 --> 0:09:15.319 it is. So for the dummies out there, not dummies, but. 0:09:15.400 --> 0:09:17.520 Like people who have never heard of it, can you 0:09:17.559 --> 0:09:21.720 just give like a super simplistic description of what it 0:09:21.800 --> 0:09:23.040 is to manifest something. 0:09:23.520 --> 0:09:26.760 Manifestation isn't something you do, it's not an act, it's 0:09:26.800 --> 0:09:29.719 not something that hasn't often on switch. Manifestation is just. 0:09:29.880 --> 0:09:32.320 Who you are to the core. It's who you show 0:09:32.440 --> 0:09:32.959 up as. 0:09:33.120 --> 0:09:34.800 And it's who you show up as in the good 0:09:34.800 --> 0:09:37.920 times and the bad times, not just on your highlight reel. 0:09:38.000 --> 0:09:40.440 It's who you show up as when a Karen yells 0:09:40.440 --> 0:09:42.000 at you on the street, or who you show up 0:09:42.040 --> 0:09:44.520 as when you're stuck in traffic or you're having a 0:09:44.559 --> 0:09:47.679 fight with your partner. That is what you're manifesting, because 0:09:47.760 --> 0:09:50.800 it's the thoughts you put out, it's the emotions you 0:09:50.840 --> 0:09:54.040 put out, and it's the actions you take. So it's 0:09:54.040 --> 0:09:57.640 getting really clear on your desire, your manifestation, and just 0:09:57.760 --> 0:10:01.440 aligning your life to that manifestation. And I've done this 0:10:01.520 --> 0:10:03.480 and I've tried to break it down as simply as 0:10:03.480 --> 0:10:05.960 I possibly can, just to take out all the bullshit, 0:10:06.160 --> 0:10:09.120 because let me tell you, I am sick of hearing 0:10:09.120 --> 0:10:13.200 all these wishy washy like fart out your root chakra 0:10:13.360 --> 0:10:16.520 until you're floating above the clouds, Like come on, babe, 0:10:16.559 --> 0:10:17.880 like just give me the facts. 0:10:18.000 --> 0:10:20.680 Yeah, we want the fact, you know, just make it easy. 0:10:20.880 --> 0:10:22.319 Let me know what I got to do to get 0:10:22.320 --> 0:10:24.200 some sugar in my life. Like that's all I want 0:10:24.200 --> 0:10:24.400 to know. 0:10:24.640 --> 0:10:28.920 I reckon the first time recently that I manifested something 0:10:29.559 --> 0:10:32.760 was actually me going on Love Islands, Like I fully 0:10:32.800 --> 0:10:35.320 manifested that. I remember it was like I was I 0:10:35.360 --> 0:10:38.280 still had a boyfriend, and I remember saying to him 0:10:38.360 --> 0:10:41.200 and truly believing it. I said to him, I was like, 0:10:41.360 --> 0:10:43.800 if I ever become single, I'm going to go on 0:10:43.880 --> 0:10:45.679 that show and I'm going to win it. 0:10:45.880 --> 0:10:47.360 And I literally did. 0:10:47.600 --> 0:10:49.640 And people are like, oh, come on, like that's just 0:10:49.880 --> 0:10:52.520 the chance, that's chance, that's luck. But I was like, no, 0:10:52.640 --> 0:10:55.560 like I truly believed that if I was single, I 0:10:55.880 --> 0:10:59.640 was like a great candidate for that show. I believed 0:10:59.679 --> 0:11:02.760 that such a hopeless romantic that if I found someone 0:11:02.760 --> 0:11:04.560 on there who I thought I was compatible with, that 0:11:04.679 --> 0:11:06.800 I could like have a chance of winning it. 0:11:06.840 --> 0:11:08.320 And I believed it and it happened. 0:11:08.360 --> 0:11:11.240 So it does happen, and it's just all about like 0:11:11.280 --> 0:11:13.960 aligning yourself with I guess what you truly know? 0:11:14.240 --> 0:11:15.319 Is that, right, Maddie. 0:11:15.600 --> 0:11:18.800 Yeah, I mean at the end of the day, manifestation. 0:11:19.080 --> 0:11:20.760 This is going to sound cheesy and I don't want 0:11:20.800 --> 0:11:22.920 it to come across that way, But manifestation is an 0:11:22.960 --> 0:11:26.560 act of self love because it's trusting yourself. It's having 0:11:26.600 --> 0:11:30.160 complete faith that you know that you're worthy of and 0:11:30.280 --> 0:11:31.400 can achieve that goal. 0:11:31.880 --> 0:11:34.400 But what would you say to someone that argues the 0:11:34.400 --> 0:11:38.320 point and rebuttals against manifestation and says, well, I'm a 0:11:38.360 --> 0:11:42.120 good person, Like I'm pretty cheerful, and like this happened 0:11:42.120 --> 0:11:43.520 to me that was bad, you know what I mean? 0:11:43.679 --> 0:11:45.560 I got broken into my house, got robbed. 0:11:45.720 --> 0:11:48.080 Yeah, And there are two sort of answers to this 0:11:48.160 --> 0:11:50.680 as well. I mean a lot of things that happened 0:11:50.720 --> 0:11:55.679 to you are universal lessons and tests. Sometimes we manifest 0:11:55.760 --> 0:11:58.720 things that are tragic and traumatic that are not in 0:11:58.760 --> 0:12:01.960 our control, and these are just those things that happen. 0:12:02.520 --> 0:12:05.720 If you bring it down to heartbreak, right, and they go, well, 0:12:05.760 --> 0:12:07.480 I've done all the things I needed to do. I'm 0:12:07.480 --> 0:12:09.400 a positive person. I put it all out there, but 0:12:09.440 --> 0:12:12.360 I'm still heartbroken, which happens a lot, right. A lot 0:12:12.360 --> 0:12:14.640 of clients come to me and they're like, I've done 0:12:14.640 --> 0:12:16.680 all the things I've needed to do, I've written my list, 0:12:16.679 --> 0:12:18.719 I've put out the good vibes, but I still keep 0:12:18.760 --> 0:12:21.360 getting caught in this pattern. It's because there is a 0:12:21.400 --> 0:12:24.440 step to manifestation which a lot of people do not 0:12:24.720 --> 0:12:29.120 do and completely disregard, which is clearing the blocks, clearing 0:12:29.160 --> 0:12:32.280 the patterns, and going into the shadow work, the limiting 0:12:32.320 --> 0:12:35.800 belief and knowing that there are residual patterns happening in 0:12:35.840 --> 0:12:39.080 your life that have been occurring since you were a kid, 0:12:39.440 --> 0:12:42.080 and these patterns and beliefs that are encoded in your 0:12:42.160 --> 0:12:46.319 subconscious are having an effect on what you're manifesting without 0:12:46.320 --> 0:12:47.400 you even realizing it. 0:12:47.559 --> 0:12:50.040 So I guess, like if I'm like thinking about this 0:12:50.120 --> 0:12:53.439 in a relationship term, So you're saying that maybe I've 0:12:53.880 --> 0:12:57.080 got this guy, I'm in love with him, he's my boyfriend, 0:12:57.559 --> 0:12:58.720 and then we break up. 0:12:59.160 --> 0:13:01.120 Maybe we are breaking up. 0:13:01.120 --> 0:13:06.079 Because there's something within him that I've attracted from, maybe 0:13:06.120 --> 0:13:09.240 like trauma when I was younger that I need to 0:13:09.320 --> 0:13:10.160 kind of get away from. 0:13:10.200 --> 0:13:10.959 Is that what you're saying. 0:13:11.240 --> 0:13:14.800 Do you mean that this guy's like a toxic, toxic guy. Yeah, totally. 0:13:15.480 --> 0:13:18.520 So this toxic guy could come into your life to 0:13:18.559 --> 0:13:20.360 teach you a lesson. And I think it's great in 0:13:20.400 --> 0:13:23.120 that intro that you're talking about, you wrote that list 0:13:23.280 --> 0:13:25.679 and you had all the intention, and then straight after 0:13:26.080 --> 0:13:28.840 you got a man that did have some toxic qualities, right, 0:13:29.240 --> 0:13:32.360 And that is such a perfect example of the universe 0:13:32.559 --> 0:13:36.640 preparing you for that next person, for that perfect person. 0:13:37.000 --> 0:13:38.720 And a lot of people disregard that. It's what we 0:13:38.760 --> 0:13:41.800 call the manifestation gap. It's when you do your part, 0:13:41.960 --> 0:13:45.439 you've done all of your steps, and the universe has 0:13:45.520 --> 0:13:48.200 to make sure that you can handle your manifestation. It 0:13:48.200 --> 0:13:50.320 wants to know that you can handle this next level guy. 0:13:50.679 --> 0:13:52.760 And in order to make sure that you can handle it, 0:13:52.760 --> 0:13:55.880 it wants to know that you've learned all the lessons, 0:13:56.480 --> 0:13:59.880 that you've been through the shit so that you can 0:14:00.040 --> 0:14:02.800 be prepared and be in a perfect place to manifest 0:14:02.800 --> 0:14:04.000 in the right person. 0:14:04.200 --> 0:14:04.400 Yeah. 0:14:04.520 --> 0:14:07.400 And whenever someone's like I've just done all this manifesting 0:14:07.400 --> 0:14:09.680 and a huge curve balls come my way, I always 0:14:09.760 --> 0:14:12.240 laugh and I go perfect. That means you are so 0:14:12.480 --> 0:14:15.480 close to your manifestation because this is one last test 0:14:15.520 --> 0:14:17.520 from the universe. But a lot of people at that 0:14:17.600 --> 0:14:21.360 point in the manifestation gap give up and they're like, oh, okay, 0:14:21.360 --> 0:14:23.120 well I've done all my part and I've still got 0:14:23.160 --> 0:14:26.440 another toxic person. Manifestation doesn't work, I quit, I'll continue 0:14:26.440 --> 0:14:30.280 to date toxic people. Whereas that's actually just one last 0:14:30.360 --> 0:14:32.440 challenge to make sure that you've learned all the things 0:14:32.440 --> 0:14:34.360 you need to learn so that you can have that partner. 0:14:34.600 --> 0:14:36.960 Well, I want to ask you a question on behalf 0:14:37.000 --> 0:14:39.400 of some of my friends, because I have a lot 0:14:39.400 --> 0:14:43.480 of friends who are single. They're trying to manifest these 0:14:43.520 --> 0:14:48.320 guys and nothing's really happening, Like why aren't they meeting 0:14:48.720 --> 0:14:51.280 the one? Like what's holding them back? What's stopping the 0:14:51.360 --> 0:14:54.400 universe from bringing in that perfect guy totally? 0:14:54.520 --> 0:14:57.400 And this is so common those women that are like, 0:14:57.520 --> 0:14:59.520 I've done all I needed to do, I'm ready, and 0:14:59.560 --> 0:15:03.680 it's not happening right. And it's because there are steps 0:15:03.720 --> 0:15:06.280 in the manifestation process that have just been glazed over. 0:15:07.080 --> 0:15:11.280 And there is this step by step process for a reason, and. 0:15:11.280 --> 0:15:13.200 It's to get out all of the shit that they 0:15:13.200 --> 0:15:13.760 need to get out. 0:15:13.800 --> 0:15:16.320 And just like I said about limiting beliefs, being clear 0:15:16.320 --> 0:15:19.080 on what you want, and having space because a lot 0:15:19.080 --> 0:15:21.120 of the time people can be like, I really want 0:15:21.120 --> 0:15:23.920 a boyfriend. I really want a boyfriend. And then when 0:15:23.920 --> 0:15:25.920 I say, okay, well is there room in your life? 0:15:26.320 --> 0:15:30.520 Do you have room for date nights? Do you have time? 0:15:31.040 --> 0:15:33.800 Are you vulnerable enough right now? Are you open? Are 0:15:33.800 --> 0:15:37.240 you emotionally ready to handle a boyfriend right now? And 0:15:37.320 --> 0:15:38.840 a lot of their time they're like, oh, well, I'm 0:15:38.840 --> 0:15:41.880 a workaholic, you know, I'm really independent, so I push 0:15:41.880 --> 0:15:46.120 people away. It's those people that are looking to fill 0:15:46.160 --> 0:15:49.520 the void, right, so they come at love and I 0:15:49.520 --> 0:15:52.760 feel like society has been such a hindrance to this, 0:15:53.200 --> 0:15:55.680 as in, like, I'm going to find my other half, 0:15:56.120 --> 0:15:59.640 someone to that missing puzzle piece right where it's like, no, 0:16:00.160 --> 0:16:02.920 you are a full person looking for another full person 0:16:03.000 --> 0:16:06.240 to compliment you. And it's those people that are like, oh, well, 0:16:06.280 --> 0:16:09.120 I'm looking for someone to feel this puzzle piece or 0:16:09.120 --> 0:16:12.800 fill that void, or help me become more vulnerable or 0:16:12.840 --> 0:16:14.960 help me do this. Those are the people where it's 0:16:14.960 --> 0:16:17.560 not really coming or when it does, it's not properly 0:16:17.640 --> 0:16:19.480 aligned to them, so. 0:16:19.440 --> 0:16:20.640 They're rushing into stuff. 0:16:21.120 --> 0:16:23.880 Yeah, it all comes back to the self, because at 0:16:23.880 --> 0:16:26.120 the end of the day, you don't attract what you want, 0:16:26.200 --> 0:16:29.240 you attract who you are, right and so if you're 0:16:29.280 --> 0:16:32.600 attracting who you are, you want yourself to be pretty 0:16:32.640 --> 0:16:36.240 freaking good because otherwise you're attracting someone that's got those 0:16:36.280 --> 0:16:38.640 missing holes as well, that's not in that right head 0:16:38.640 --> 0:16:41.720 space as well. But if you're open and you're vulnerable, 0:16:41.760 --> 0:16:44.240 and you're ready, and you are in love with yourself, 0:16:44.480 --> 0:16:46.400 then you're going to find someone with those same qualities. 0:16:46.720 --> 0:16:49.000 Oh my god, this is getting juicy. I'm loving there. 0:16:49.840 --> 0:16:51.760 If I was single and listening to this, I'd be 0:16:52.000 --> 0:16:53.760 absolutely laughing out. 0:16:55.600 --> 0:16:56.200 Absolutely. 0:16:56.480 --> 0:17:00.040 Well, look, Maddie is going to take us through the 0:17:00.200 --> 0:17:03.560 five steps on how to manifest your boyfriend. 0:17:03.680 --> 0:17:04.560 So don't go anywhere. 0:17:04.640 --> 0:17:11.240 This is going to get good, Okay, So let's start 0:17:11.280 --> 0:17:14.960 with step one on how to manifest the perfect partner. 0:17:15.240 --> 0:17:19.280 Step one is clarity, so getting really clear on what 0:17:19.359 --> 0:17:22.919 you want. So this is where the lists come into it. 0:17:23.000 --> 0:17:27.080 But lists are very controversial. So at the end of 0:17:27.080 --> 0:17:29.280 the day, we want to say what we want and 0:17:29.320 --> 0:17:30.920 we want to be clear on that and we want 0:17:30.920 --> 0:17:32.960 to stand by that, but also we don't want to 0:17:33.000 --> 0:17:37.080 become so attached to that specific characteristic or trait that 0:17:37.119 --> 0:17:39.119 we filter out all of these amazing other guys that 0:17:39.119 --> 0:17:40.200 could be perfect for you. 0:17:40.280 --> 0:17:42.320 So you're saying, let one of those go for the 0:17:42.320 --> 0:17:43.960 good of the rest of them, And. 0:17:44.040 --> 0:17:45.560 It's like, do I get ninety percent? 0:17:46.040 --> 0:17:46.359 Go on? 0:17:46.760 --> 0:17:47.560 Like, what's my success? 0:17:47.640 --> 0:17:47.760 Right? 0:17:47.920 --> 0:17:48.080 Yeah? 0:17:48.320 --> 0:17:51.280 What can you let one of the qualities go just 0:17:51.320 --> 0:17:52.760 to make up for the rest of them? 0:17:52.920 --> 0:17:53.120 Yeah? 0:17:53.200 --> 0:17:53.760 Good question. 0:17:53.880 --> 0:17:55.760 So at the end of the day, it's not about 0:17:55.800 --> 0:17:59.040 letting one quality go. It's writing a list. Rather than 0:17:59.359 --> 0:18:03.800 documenting down physical traits and documenting down you know, they 0:18:03.880 --> 0:18:07.240 must work in advertising and be six foot two and 0:18:07.440 --> 0:18:10.600 have this perfect shade of hair and blah blah blah 0:18:10.600 --> 0:18:13.520 blah blah blah blah. Instead list how you want to 0:18:13.680 --> 0:18:16.960 feel in love? What do you want to feel when 0:18:17.000 --> 0:18:19.480 you're in love? And not even how is that person 0:18:19.520 --> 0:18:21.520 going to make me feel? But how do you want 0:18:21.520 --> 0:18:23.040 to feel in love? Is this something you thought of 0:18:23.080 --> 0:18:27.600 when you were manifesting, Michael, I. 0:18:27.640 --> 0:18:30.080 Just thought of someone who I guess like made me 0:18:30.119 --> 0:18:33.280 feel safe, happy. I think I wrote down like lots 0:18:33.280 --> 0:18:37.280 of qualities, some being physical and some being like kindness, empathetic, 0:18:37.359 --> 0:18:39.199 like all of those things and I guess when I 0:18:39.240 --> 0:18:41.560 was writing those things down, I did feel like I 0:18:41.600 --> 0:18:44.919 was writing down a person who made me feel calm, 0:18:45.600 --> 0:18:48.440