Speaker 1: I want the fairy tale. I want the prince charming.
Speaker 2: She how do I put this?
Speaker 3: Isn't a fan of my kissing style with.
Speaker 1: A boyfriend and girlfriend for about twelve hours. He's in
Speaker 1: a trash bit. He's non recyclable catching them mu.
Speaker 2: I love being love. I love love.
Speaker 3: On today's episode of Where's Your Head At, we will
Speaker 3: be discussing how to manifest a boyfriend or a girlfriend.
Speaker 4: We are thrilled to welcome Maddie Summers, a confidence and
Speaker 4: manifestation coach, to the studio to help you guys manifest
Speaker 4: your perfect partner.
Speaker 3: Stay tuned to hear all about how Anna did this
Speaker 3: to manifest her boyfriend.
Speaker 4: Where's Your Head At Is a podcast that talks all
Speaker 4: things relationships, breakups, reality TV, trending shows, and everything in between.
Speaker 3: This is your new go to destination for laughs, gossip,
Speaker 3: intimate details, advice, and much more. Matthew, Hello, and I
Speaker 3: just want to kick off by saying happy one year
Speaker 3: anniversary with you and Michael.
Speaker 2: Can you believe it's one year today?
Speaker 1: Thank you? I know you know what.
Speaker 5: It's so weird.
Speaker 1: I reckon, like sometimes I feel like.
Speaker 4: I've been with Michael, like for as far as I
Speaker 4: can remember, and then other times I'm like whoa, Like
Speaker 4: we've only been together a year?
Speaker 2: What geez?
Speaker 3: I still remember the first time I met Michael, and
Speaker 3: I was saying, this guy is the sort of boyfriend
Speaker 3: that anna as far as like physical and like like
Speaker 3: emotional as well intellectual.
Speaker 2: He had it all, he had all.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but how about you tell us a little about
Speaker 3: your headspace when you met Michael. Where were you at,
Speaker 3: because obviously you've been single what for like a year?
Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah? Really?
Speaker 4: Yeah geez well yeah, Like so I reckon after my breakup.
Speaker 4: I was just like in a headspace where I was
Speaker 4: like I need to be single, Like I don't want
Speaker 4: a boyfriend. I just want to have fun. I want
Speaker 4: to kind of like refine myself. Obviously, like my last
Speaker 4: relationship before Michael was a little bit toxic. So I
Speaker 4: feel like I had developed some like bad habits that
Speaker 4: I wanted to break, some soul searching for some soul
Speaker 4: searching for sure. And then I reckon nine months after
Speaker 4: I had been fully single, just like not looking for
Speaker 4: anything serious, had kind of seen a few guys. Was
Speaker 4: kind of like I'm just like sick of kind of
Speaker 4: like doing this like in between thing, and I kind
Speaker 4: of got to a point where I was like, Okay,
Speaker 4: i feel like I'm at a point where I'm open
Speaker 4: to having a boyfriend, like not thinking like it's going
Speaker 4: to come immediately, because I know you just have to
Speaker 4: get to a point where you're like I'm open and
Speaker 4: then I'll just see how it goes. But I actually
Speaker 4: got in touch with my manifestation coach and kind of
Speaker 4: spoke it through.
Speaker 1: With her, and she was like, I think you should manifest.
Speaker 4: This, Like get a piece of paper and write down
Speaker 4: what you want, what you're looking for, how you want
Speaker 4: someone to make you feel. And I was like, you
Speaker 4: know what, like there's no harm in doing that. And
Speaker 4: I've always kind of kind of loved the idea of
Speaker 4: like having a journal or having a diary and kind
Speaker 4: of like writing down your thoughts at the moment and
Speaker 4: then reading it in a few years time and being like, oh,
Speaker 4: like that's where I was at at that.
Speaker 2: I want to do a lot more as well, But
Speaker 2: you're just forget.
Speaker 4: Well, you know what, we should like write a message
Speaker 4: to ourselves in a year about the podcast and be like,
Speaker 4: this is where we want to be in a year,
Speaker 4: This is where we're at now. We just hit a
Speaker 4: million listens like what do we want to achieve? Because
Speaker 4: you know, I feel like that helps you grow. And
Speaker 4: I feel like once you put it out there to
Speaker 4: the universe, which I've been taught a lot by my
Speaker 4: manifestation coach, it kind of like puts it into motion.
Speaker 4: So I the other day was looking in my bedroom drawers.
Speaker 4: I was kind of like clearing stuff out, and I
Speaker 4: found my manifestation letters that I wrote a year ago
Speaker 4: about manifesting a boyfriend. So I brought them into the
Speaker 4: studio and I want to read them to you because
Speaker 4: I feel like you're going to be like, what the fuck?
Speaker 3: I already am like what the fuck? Let's see what
Speaker 3: you are? You sure you want to read these out?
Speaker 3: There might be it might be a bit. Let's see
Speaker 3: what you said. This is it remind you this is
Speaker 3: Anna a year ago, this is me.
Speaker 1: A year ago. So I wrote two letters to myself.
Speaker 4: The first one I said, like it starts with read
Speaker 4: on the twenty first of the fourth, twenty twenty two, so.
Speaker 1: That was a year later.
Speaker 4: So I wrote that on my birthday, on my twenty
Speaker 4: ninth birthday, and I said to myself, open it on
Speaker 4: my thirtieth birthday.
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, did you read it on your sirtieth.
Speaker 1: No, I forgot about it.
Speaker 2: This is the first time you're reading about it here.
Speaker 4: But I found it like a couple of weeks ago,
Speaker 4: and I was like, oh, well, I mean it was
Speaker 4: my thirtieth a few months ago, so I mean it's
Speaker 4: not too far off.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it all works.
Speaker 1: Okay. So it says this is my manifestation letter to myself.
Speaker 2: I love this.
Speaker 1: Here we go to me, Happy birthday.
Speaker 4: You are so blessed with amazing family, friends and life.
Speaker 4: Make sure you count your blessings. My birthday wish for
Speaker 4: the twenty fi first of the fourth twenty twenty two
Speaker 4: is to have a tall, driven, kind, empathetic, handsome partner
Speaker 4: who worships me and who will be my future husband.
Speaker 4: For now, enjoy being single and enjoy everything life has
Speaker 4: to offer. I hope Byron Bay is amazing love always
Speaker 4: Anna with a love part that's cute.
Speaker 2: Well it happened, I guess, yeah.
Speaker 1: So I basically then went to Byron Bay.
Speaker 4: It met this other guy, and I feel like that
Speaker 4: was the first time I was like open to being
Speaker 4: serious about someone and that didn't work out. But then
Speaker 4: the next person who am there, which was Michael, it
Speaker 4: ended up working out.
Speaker 3: Wow, So you reckon writing it on that piece of
Speaker 3: paper made it come true.
Speaker 4: Well, it just kind of put like my feelings and
Speaker 4: thoughts into motion. I guess if I say put it
Speaker 4: out to the universe. Then my second letter says I
Speaker 4: wrote this on the first of the sixth, twenty twenty one,
Speaker 4: and its title future husband, get Ready, here we go.
Speaker 4: This one says that I'm looking for a man who
Speaker 4: is charismatic, kind, loves me, is tall, smart, driven, tanned,
Speaker 4: makes me laugh, and is well endowed.
Speaker 2: And well endowed for everyone.
Speaker 3: Listening at home means packing under the belt, bottom heavy.
Speaker 4: But look, you might think like that's asking for a lot,
Speaker 4: but it wasn't. And my dream man soon after came
Speaker 4: into my life. And it's our one year anniversary, and
Speaker 4: I just want to say to Michael, I love you.
Speaker 4: You're the best boyfriend ever, and I'm excited for what's
Speaker 4: to come for us.
Speaker 3: And your destiny came because Anna write you down on
Speaker 3: a piece of paper. So your life changed the day
Speaker 3: Anna wrote that letter to herself.
Speaker 4: Yeah, And so people come to me and they're like,
Speaker 4: how did you find this guy like Michael? He's so perfect?
Speaker 4: Do you guys just work together? You know, like you're
Speaker 4: so compatible? And I literally will say I'm like I
Speaker 4: manifested him, and I had a manifestation coach who helped
Speaker 4: me do that. So what I decided to do for
Speaker 4: those people who have been unlucky in love is to
Speaker 4: bring my manifestation coach into the studio. We have her
Speaker 4: in here and she is going to tell you how
Speaker 4: you can manifest your boyfriend or your girlfriend.
Speaker 1: Let's jump into that.
Speaker 3: Okay, guys, I'd like to welcome to the studio Maddie Summers.
Speaker 3: She is an actress, manifestation and confidence coach, and she
Speaker 3: is helping women out there everywhere find unstoppable.
Speaker 2: Confidence and the men of their dreams.
Speaker 1: Welcome to the show, Maddie.
Speaker 5: Hey, guys, thanks so much for having me. I'm so excited.
Speaker 3: Thanks for coming in. And we'd love to hear a
Speaker 3: bit about manifesting. Tell us about it.
Speaker 2: What is it?
Speaker 6: Manifestation is such a big topic actually these days, I
Speaker 6: feel like, right it's such like.
Speaker 5: A hype word.
Speaker 6: At the moment, like, oh, I've manifested and I'm manifesting.
Speaker 6: It's either everyone's doing it or people feel so separated
Speaker 6: from it. And I feel like there's such a huge
Speaker 6: chunk of people, especially men, that are like, oh, manifestation
Speaker 6: is just for people that like put toads in cauldrons
Speaker 6: and write on briss You know, they just feel like
Speaker 6: it's so woo woo, and so they really separate themselves
Speaker 6: from it, or they think that, oh, well, if it's
Speaker 6: just writing something down in a piece of paper and
Speaker 6: it comes true, then it's too simple and that's I
Speaker 6: don't agree with it. So hopefully today I'll be able
Speaker 6: to let people know that it's so much more black
Speaker 6: and white then people.
Speaker 5: Give it credit for.
Speaker 6: And there are like woo woo elements to manifestation, but
Speaker 6: at the end of the day, if you really think
Speaker 6: about it and you break it down into what it is,
Speaker 6: it's just setting a goal and achieving it and aligning
Speaker 6: your thoughts, your emotions, and your actions to that goal
Speaker 6: until you get it done. You know, when people are like, oh,
Speaker 6: it's it's you know, floating above the clouds, when really
Speaker 6: it's just so straightforward.
Speaker 4: Let's get everyone on board, because I mean Matt and
Speaker 4: I we are big believers in manifestation.
Speaker 1: But I know that some people actually don't know what
Speaker 1: it is. So for the dummies out there, not dummies, but.
Speaker 4: Like people who have never heard of it, can you
Speaker 4: just give like a super simplistic description of what it
Speaker 4: is to manifest something.
Speaker 6: Manifestation isn't something you do, it's not an act, it's
Speaker 6: not something that hasn't often on switch. Manifestation is just.
Speaker 5: Who you are to the core. It's who you show
Speaker 5: up as.
Speaker 6: And it's who you show up as in the good
Speaker 6: times and the bad times, not just on your highlight reel.
Speaker 6: It's who you show up as when a Karen yells
Speaker 6: at you on the street, or who you show up
Speaker 6: as when you're stuck in traffic or you're having a
Speaker 6: fight with your partner. That is what you're manifesting, because
Speaker 6: it's the thoughts you put out, it's the emotions you
Speaker 6: put out, and it's the actions you take. So it's
Speaker 6: getting really clear on your desire, your manifestation, and just
Speaker 6: aligning your life to that manifestation. And I've done this
Speaker 6: and I've tried to break it down as simply as
Speaker 6: I possibly can, just to take out all the bullshit,
Speaker 6: because let me tell you, I am sick of hearing
Speaker 6: all these wishy washy like fart out your root chakra
Speaker 6: until you're floating above the clouds, Like come on, babe,
Speaker 6: like just give me the facts.
Speaker 5: Yeah, we want the fact, you know, just make it easy.
Speaker 5: Let me know what I got to do to get
Speaker 5: some sugar in my life. Like that's all I want
Speaker 5: to know.
Speaker 4: I reckon the first time recently that I manifested something
Speaker 4: was actually me going on Love Islands, Like I fully
Speaker 4: manifested that. I remember it was like I was I
Speaker 4: still had a boyfriend, and I remember saying to him
Speaker 4: and truly believing it. I said to him, I was like,
Speaker 4: if I ever become single, I'm going to go on
Speaker 4: that show and I'm going to win it.
Speaker 1: And I literally did.
Speaker 4: And people are like, oh, come on, like that's just
Speaker 4: the chance, that's chance, that's luck. But I was like, no,
Speaker 4: like I truly believed that if I was single, I
Speaker 4: was like a great candidate for that show. I believed
Speaker 4: that such a hopeless romantic that if I found someone
Speaker 4: on there who I thought I was compatible with, that
Speaker 4: I could like have a chance of winning it.
Speaker 1: And I believed it and it happened.
Speaker 4: So it does happen, and it's just all about like
Speaker 4: aligning yourself with I guess what you truly know?
Speaker 1: Is that, right, Maddie.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean at the end of the day, manifestation.
Speaker 6: This is going to sound cheesy and I don't want
Speaker 6: it to come across that way, But manifestation is an
Speaker 6: act of self love because it's trusting yourself. It's having
Speaker 6: complete faith that you know that you're worthy of and
Speaker 6: can achieve that goal.
Speaker 3: But what would you say to someone that argues the
Speaker 3: point and rebuttals against manifestation and says, well, I'm a
Speaker 3: good person, Like I'm pretty cheerful, and like this happened
Speaker 3: to me that was bad, you know what I mean?
Speaker 3: I got broken into my house, got robbed.
Speaker 6: Yeah, And there are two sort of answers to this
Speaker 6: as well. I mean a lot of things that happened
Speaker 6: to you are universal lessons and tests. Sometimes we manifest
Speaker 6: things that are tragic and traumatic that are not in
Speaker 6: our control, and these are just those things that happen.
Speaker 6: If you bring it down to heartbreak, right, and they go, well,
Speaker 6: I've done all the things I needed to do. I'm
Speaker 6: a positive person. I put it all out there, but
Speaker 6: I'm still heartbroken, which happens a lot, right. A lot
Speaker 6: of clients come to me and they're like, I've done
Speaker 6: all the things I've needed to do, I've written my list,
Speaker 6: I've put out the good vibes, but I still keep
Speaker 6: getting caught in this pattern. It's because there is a
Speaker 6: step to manifestation which a lot of people do not
Speaker 6: do and completely disregard, which is clearing the blocks, clearing
Speaker 6: the patterns, and going into the shadow work, the limiting
Speaker 6: belief and knowing that there are residual patterns happening in
Speaker 6: your life that have been occurring since you were a kid,
Speaker 6: and these patterns and beliefs that are encoded in your
Speaker 6: subconscious are having an effect on what you're manifesting without
Speaker 6: you even realizing it.
Speaker 4: So I guess, like if I'm like thinking about this
Speaker 4: in a relationship term, So you're saying that maybe I've
Speaker 4: got this guy, I'm in love with him, he's my boyfriend,
Speaker 4: and then we break up.
Speaker 1: Maybe we are breaking up.
Speaker 4: Because there's something within him that I've attracted from, maybe
Speaker 4: like trauma when I was younger that I need to
Speaker 4: kind of get away from.
Speaker 1: Is that what you're saying.
Speaker 5: Do you mean that this guy's like a toxic, toxic guy. Yeah, totally.
Speaker 6: So this toxic guy could come into your life to
Speaker 6: teach you a lesson. And I think it's great in
Speaker 6: that intro that you're talking about, you wrote that list
Speaker 6: and you had all the intention, and then straight after
Speaker 6: you got a man that did have some toxic qualities, right,
Speaker 6: And that is such a perfect example of the universe
Speaker 6: preparing you for that next person, for that perfect person.
Speaker 6: And a lot of people disregard that. It's what we
Speaker 6: call the manifestation gap. It's when you do your part,
Speaker 6: you've done all of your steps, and the universe has
Speaker 6: to make sure that you can handle your manifestation. It
Speaker 6: wants to know that you can handle this next level guy.
Speaker 6: And in order to make sure that you can handle it,
Speaker 6: it wants to know that you've learned all the lessons,
Speaker 6: that you've been through the shit so that you can
Speaker 6: be prepared and be in a perfect place to manifest
Speaker 6: in the right person.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 6: And whenever someone's like I've just done all this manifesting
Speaker 6: and a huge curve balls come my way, I always
Speaker 6: laugh and I go perfect. That means you are so
Speaker 6: close to your manifestation because this is one last test
Speaker 6: from the universe. But a lot of people at that
Speaker 6: point in the manifestation gap give up and they're like, oh, okay,
Speaker 6: well I've done all my part and I've still got
Speaker 6: another toxic person. Manifestation doesn't work, I quit, I'll continue
Speaker 6: to date toxic people. Whereas that's actually just one last
Speaker 6: challenge to make sure that you've learned all the things
Speaker 6: you need to learn so that you can have that partner.
Speaker 4: Well, I want to ask you a question on behalf
Speaker 4: of some of my friends, because I have a lot
Speaker 4: of friends who are single. They're trying to manifest these
Speaker 4: guys and nothing's really happening, Like why aren't they meeting
Speaker 4: the one? Like what's holding them back? What's stopping the
Speaker 4: universe from bringing in that perfect guy totally?
Speaker 6: And this is so common those women that are like,
Speaker 6: I've done all I needed to do, I'm ready, and
Speaker 6: it's not happening right. And it's because there are steps
Speaker 6: in the manifestation process that have just been glazed over.
Speaker 6: And there is this step by step process for a reason, and.
Speaker 5: It's to get out all of the shit that they
Speaker 5: need to get out.
Speaker 6: And just like I said about limiting beliefs, being clear
Speaker 6: on what you want, and having space because a lot
Speaker 6: of the time people can be like, I really want
Speaker 6: a boyfriend. I really want a boyfriend. And then when
Speaker 6: I say, okay, well is there room in your life?
Speaker 6: Do you have room for date nights? Do you have time?
Speaker 6: Are you vulnerable enough right now? Are you open? Are
Speaker 6: you emotionally ready to handle a boyfriend right now? And
Speaker 6: a lot of their time they're like, oh, well, I'm
Speaker 6: a workaholic, you know, I'm really independent, so I push
Speaker 6: people away. It's those people that are looking to fill
Speaker 6: the void, right, so they come at love and I
Speaker 6: feel like society has been such a hindrance to this,
Speaker 6: as in, like, I'm going to find my other half,
Speaker 6: someone to that missing puzzle piece right where it's like, no,
Speaker 6: you are a full person looking for another full person
Speaker 6: to compliment you. And it's those people that are like, oh, well,
Speaker 6: I'm looking for someone to feel this puzzle piece or
Speaker 6: fill that void, or help me become more vulnerable or
Speaker 6: help me do this. Those are the people where it's
Speaker 6: not really coming or when it does, it's not properly
Speaker 6: aligned to them, so.
Speaker 2: They're rushing into stuff.
Speaker 6: Yeah, it all comes back to the self, because at
Speaker 6: the end of the day, you don't attract what you want,
Speaker 6: you attract who you are, right and so if you're
Speaker 6: attracting who you are, you want yourself to be pretty
Speaker 6: freaking good because otherwise you're attracting someone that's got those
Speaker 6: missing holes as well, that's not in that right head
Speaker 6: space as well. But if you're open and you're vulnerable,
Speaker 6: and you're ready, and you are in love with yourself,
Speaker 6: then you're going to find someone with those same qualities.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, this is getting juicy. I'm loving there.
Speaker 4: If I was single and listening to this, I'd be
Speaker 4: absolutely laughing out.
Speaker 1: Absolutely.
Speaker 4: Well, look, Maddie is going to take us through the
Speaker 4: five steps on how to manifest your boyfriend.
Speaker 1: So don't go anywhere.
Speaker 3: This is going to get good, Okay, So let's start
Speaker 3: with step one on how to manifest the perfect partner.
Speaker 6: Step one is clarity, so getting really clear on what
Speaker 6: you want. So this is where the lists come into it.
Speaker 6: But lists are very controversial. So at the end of
Speaker 6: the day, we want to say what we want and
Speaker 6: we want to be clear on that and we want
Speaker 6: to stand by that, but also we don't want to
Speaker 6: become so attached to that specific characteristic or trait that
Speaker 6: we filter out all of these amazing other guys that
Speaker 6: could be perfect for you.
Speaker 3: So you're saying, let one of those go for the
Speaker 3: good of the rest of them, And.
Speaker 1: It's like, do I get ninety percent?
Speaker 4: Go on?
Speaker 5: Like, what's my success?
Speaker 4: Right?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 3: What can you let one of the qualities go just
Speaker 3: to make up for the rest of them?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 5: Good question.
Speaker 6: So at the end of the day, it's not about
Speaker 6: letting one quality go. It's writing a list. Rather than
Speaker 6: documenting down physical traits and documenting down you know, they
Speaker 6: must work in advertising and be six foot two and
Speaker 6: have this perfect shade of hair and blah blah blah
Speaker 6: blah blah blah blah. Instead list how you want to
Speaker 6: feel in love? What do you want to feel when
Speaker 6: you're in love? And not even how is that person
Speaker 6: going to make me feel? But how do you want
Speaker 6: to feel in love? Is this something you thought of
Speaker 6: when you were manifesting, Michael, I.
Speaker 4: Just thought of someone who I guess like made me
Speaker 4: feel safe, happy. I think I wrote down like lots
Speaker 4: of qualities, some being physical and some being like kindness, empathetic,
Speaker 4: like all of those things and I guess when I
Speaker 4: was writing those things down, I did feel like I
Speaker 4: was writing down a person who made me feel calm,
Speaker 4: who wasn't combative, who we weren't going to be like fighting,
Speaker 4: like cat and dog, like you know, maybe like other relationships.
Speaker 4: I guess, yeah, that was kind of like my thought pattern.
Speaker 4: And hearing you say that, like, yeah, I definitely like
Speaker 4: imagined like the feeling that I would have with that person.
Speaker 6: Totally, and that's so important to come back to that feeling.
Speaker 6: And even if you're like if you're listening to this
Speaker 6: and you're like, well, I don't know what type of
Speaker 6: person I want it, you know, manifest and I don't
Speaker 6: know what type of partner I want, that's completely fine.
Speaker 6: How do you want to feel in love? How does
Speaker 6: your higher self feel? And just think about that, break
Speaker 6: it down, make it easy, doesn't You don't have to
Speaker 6: list all these traits. And then when we made that
Speaker 6: list way back then, way back when you know, you
Speaker 6: did list those physical qualities, but I remember we were
Speaker 6: practicing unattachment, right we were like they're a bonus, you know,
Speaker 6: they're a bonus for sure, and like.
Speaker 4: He's still going to be tall, He's still going to
Speaker 4: be over six two, but everything else I'm flexible.
Speaker 2: Anytime soon.
Speaker 5: She I do remember that I was a high prior.
Speaker 2: I could settle for the rest.
Speaker 4: But that's six who's a bare minimum? Laughing Michael six
Speaker 4: s three thinks you very much.
Speaker 2: I'm not looking past that floor.
Speaker 1: He'll get a note about that.
Speaker 2: Sorry, short kings, but chance.
Speaker 5: Look the manifestation.
Speaker 2: Down there.
Speaker 4: How can you be specific without eliminating potentials? Because like
Speaker 4: when you were saying that, I was thinking about, like,
Speaker 4: obviously we've all spoken about our types, like Matt's type
Speaker 4: is like a brunette with like you know, big boom.
Speaker 4: My type is like tall, tanned, long handed, but like
Speaker 4: they're quite specific from both of us. But in saying that,
Speaker 4: I reckon that we were both quite flexible. Like before
Speaker 4: we met Jen and Michael, we were dating people outside
Speaker 4: of that kind of realm, so I normally, yeah, like
Speaker 4: that's like obviously like optimum, and we both somehow ended
Speaker 4: up with those people. But in saying that, like we
Speaker 4: were also flexible, So I guess like flexibility is key
Speaker 4: and not just being like if they're not this, this
Speaker 4: and this, and I'm not I'm not keen.
Speaker 3: I know a lot of girls are single gens friends
Speaker 3: that literally if they don't do this and the so
Speaker 3: I'm not even looking at him twice and then I'm like, oh.
Speaker 2: No, wonder, you're not finding anyone.
Speaker 3: You're literally sticking to these qualities which are very rare
Speaker 3: to find in someone as well.
Speaker 5: Yeah, totally.
Speaker 6: It's Yeah, it's practicing that unattachment. You know, you have
Speaker 6: to be open and if you're starting dating, I really
Speaker 6: encourage you to let down that wall. And if you
Speaker 6: are swiping, which if you are single in this day
Speaker 6: and age, I one hundred percent think you should be
Speaker 6: on a dating.
Speaker 5: App, absolutely absolutely, But well.
Speaker 6: We can get into that more later, but I really
Speaker 6: encourage you, you know, if you're swiping, have one or
Speaker 6: so every now and then that you wouldn't usually swipe.
Speaker 6: And when I would do that, Yeah, when I was single,
Speaker 6: I would one hundred percent do that because I know
Speaker 6: my ex who I my first love, looks nothing like
Speaker 6: my current partner, and my current partner looks nothing like
Speaker 6: this guy I had a crush on, you know, when
Speaker 6: I was traveling, And thank God that I still went
Speaker 6: for those different types of relationships because I fell madly
Speaker 6: in love, you know, and it's so important that we
Speaker 6: don't put such high expectations on looks because you're filtering
Speaker 6: out all of these other incredible men that could be
Speaker 6: perfect for you.
Speaker 4: Okay, Maddie, So let's move on to step number two
Speaker 4: to manifest your boyfriend.
Speaker 1: This is clear the blocks. Can you talk us through that?
Speaker 5: So clear the blocks is number two.
Speaker 6: And this is what I was mentioning earlier about sort
Speaker 6: of the unglamorous side of manifestation. And a lot of
Speaker 6: people think that manifestation is just all good vibes and
Speaker 6: put it out there and it's going to come back,
Speaker 6: and you know, writing lists and vision boards, but really
Speaker 6: you have to clear the shit in order to let
Speaker 6: stuff in. So clear the blocks comes back to limiting beliefs.
Speaker 6: And if you're not familiar with limiting beliefs, they are
Speaker 6: a thought that has reoccurred so many times that now
Speaker 6: it is a deep rooted belief in your subconscious And
Speaker 6: these are generally formed between the ages of zero and seven,
Speaker 6: because that's when your brain is like a sponge.
Speaker 5: So a lot of.
Speaker 6: People get these limiting beliefs from family dynamics, from school,
Speaker 6: from friends, and these deep rooted subconscious beliefs are having
Speaker 6: such an effect on people's dating lives without them even
Speaker 6: realizing it. And annaor I know that when we did
Speaker 6: our coaching together, you had a lot of aha moments
Speaker 6: in this session, digging up why people tick in certain
Speaker 6: different ways and certain limiting beliefs could be. For example,
Speaker 6: if you have a parent that walks out on you
Speaker 6: at a young age, then you could form the belief
Speaker 6: that I'm unlovable, that I'm only going to be abandoned
Speaker 6: in love, which can lead to, you know, jealousy, or
Speaker 6: it could lead to pushing people away, not letting people in,
Speaker 6: not letting yourself be vulnerable, or dating toxic people because
Speaker 6: you're setting yourself up for someone to just leave you
Speaker 6: because that's what you're familiar with.
Speaker 2: Your self sabotage as well.
Speaker 6: Totally yeah, self sabotaging all of these toxic traits whenever
Speaker 6: someone's like, oh, I keep dating the same type of
Speaker 6: toxic person, or I find it really hard to let
Speaker 6: people in. The first thing we'll do is go back
Speaker 6: into your subconscious and realize, all right, what's happened there
Speaker 6: because there's a deep rooted belief that is driving your actions.
Speaker 6: This is the step where you should seek guidance from
Speaker 6: a coach or a therapist, you know, to go back,
Speaker 6: seek someone professional that you can go back into your
Speaker 6: subconscious and realize what's been going on in these deep
Speaker 6: rooted things, because a lot of them can be caused
Speaker 6: from trauma. So if that is the case, if you're listening,
Speaker 6: I really encourage you to seek help because it's something
Speaker 6: that is really apparent in you know, from coaching so
Speaker 6: many people through this journey that they've suppressed for so
Speaker 6: long that is showing up and they go, oh, my gosh,
Speaker 6: I didn't even realize that trauma from when I was
Speaker 6: a kid is showing up now in my relationships like
Speaker 6: I had no idea and bringing that all to the
Speaker 6: surface can be really overwhelming, but it can also be
Speaker 6: so freaking healing and empowering to be like, Okay, this
Speaker 6: is why I feel the way I do. This is
Speaker 6: why I'm continuing to stay in these patterns or these
Speaker 6: thought processes. So clearing the blocks is a process of
Speaker 6: uncovering the shit, taking the box out from under the bed,
Speaker 6: dusting it off, bringing it all out with love, not
Speaker 6: with judgment, and going I can't believe I think this
Speaker 6: way and then rewriting that story, healing that energy, rewriting.
Speaker 1: Those beliefs you have about yourself in saying that.
Speaker 4: Let's move on to step three, the law of attraction, Maddie.
Speaker 6: So this is where it does get a little woo woo.
Speaker 6: But stay with me because they're still I can see
Speaker 6: on your face giving me the side.
Speaker 2: Let's see, let's hear what you say. I said, I
Speaker 2: believe in it. But when it goes a bit woo,
Speaker 2: I'm a bit yeah.
Speaker 6: Okay, We'll bear with me because let's see if I
Speaker 6: can change your opinion because it actually is more scientific,
Speaker 6: then you do give it credit for. And if you
Speaker 6: are a non believer, look read Breaking the Habit of
Speaker 6: Being Yourself by doctor Joe Despenser, and he gives you
Speaker 6: a really like straight scientific definition of manifestation and how
Speaker 6: it scientifically works. But alignment and law of attraction, law
Speaker 6: of vibration. So this is like attracts like right, So
Speaker 6: if you were to put anything in the world under
Speaker 6: a really really strong microscope, it would be vibrating. You vibrate,
Speaker 6: I vibrate, the table vibrates, money, nature, every single thing
Speaker 6: on Earth is vibrating at its own individual frequency, and
Speaker 6: the law of vibration states that things that are vibrating
Speaker 6: at a similar frequency to yours, you are a magnet towo.
Speaker 6: So things that are really high vibrational frequency of things
Speaker 6: like love, joy, wealth, abundance, things that a low of
Speaker 6: vibrational frequency of things like scarcity, lack, anger, frustration, jealousy. Right,
Speaker 6: So we want to raise our vibration and make ourselves
Speaker 6: feel really good so that we are a magnet to
Speaker 6: things of a similar vibrational frequency.
Speaker 5: So I'll give you an example.
Speaker 6: You know, if you go into a party and there
Speaker 6: might be two people standing there and they're talking about
Speaker 6: similar things, they seem very similar, but one of them
Speaker 6: you just cannot bear to listen to. You're like, oh gosh,
Speaker 6: I get a really weird vibe from this person.
Speaker 5: Something feels off.
Speaker 6: And the other one, even though they're talking about the
Speaker 6: same things, you find it really easy to click and
Speaker 6: connect with them. That's because you're on a different vibrational
Speaker 6: frequency to that person. And this is why energy is
Speaker 6: so crucial for dating, right, because you're going to tap
Speaker 6: into people's energy straight away, you know, and if someone's
Speaker 6: not aligned with you energetically perfect, it means that.
Speaker 5: They are not aligned with you.
Speaker 6: But you want to make sure that your energy is
Speaker 6: at a high frequency, because maybe they're not matching with
Speaker 6: your frequency because yours is quite low and theirs is
Speaker 6: quite high. So if you're wanting to attract more love
Speaker 6: into your life, you have to be vibrating at a
Speaker 6: frequency of love, which means how are you showing up
Speaker 6: in the most loving way that you possibly can? And
Speaker 6: I don't just mean this in relationships with your significant other,
Speaker 6: this is with friends, with family.
Speaker 5: How are you.
Speaker 6: Showing up with love? Writing that email to a work colleague?
Speaker 6: How are you showing up with more love the barister
Speaker 6: who's making your coffee with a Karen that's yelling at
Speaker 6: you on the street. How are you showing up in
Speaker 6: the absolute most loving way that you can?
Speaker 3: Okay, here's my little tangent that I'm going to go on.
Speaker 3: What's this say? Is this manifesting? There's this song that
Speaker 3: Anna and me. No, it's a jingle that we sing.
Speaker 3: We were taught by someone, this jingle, the checks one.
Speaker 4: This is NAT's ex girlfriend. She taught us this jingle?
Speaker 4: What is it? It's called checks?
Speaker 3: In the mail from the audience explaining it to I
Speaker 3: was driving up to a holiday house with Jenna, her
Speaker 3: twin sister Nikki, and I was explaining it to him
Speaker 3: and I said, I said, it doesn't work unless when
Speaker 3: you sing it, you feel it and you know that
Speaker 3: it's like working.
Speaker 2: So I sang it.
Speaker 3: We're sitting there the next day having our morning coffee
Speaker 3: and I got randomly transferred for a job that idea
Speaker 3: like months before. So it was a photo shoot and
Speaker 3: they used my photo on something and I randomly got
Speaker 3: like a massive check into my bank account, and I
Speaker 3: was like, you see.
Speaker 2: It works.
Speaker 1: I feel like, for context, you need to sing the
Speaker 1: jingle mat I'm.
Speaker 5: So eager to hear.
Speaker 6: And who knows we might get a manifestation company.
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, so I'm not the best singer, but he
Speaker 3: goes checks in the mail, checks in the mail.
Speaker 2: All I want to see checks in the mail.
Speaker 1: And I li like sang that everybody checks.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well I sang that while driving up.
Speaker 3: The next day, I woke up and a job that
Speaker 3: like pretty much I did and like had gone to bed,
Speaker 3: It got resold and I got a massive check in.
Speaker 2: My bank account.
Speaker 6: One that is manifestation. So whenever I'm submitting an audition
Speaker 6: or an interview. I will stand in front of a mirror,
Speaker 6: blast my favorite Shawn Mendez song and absolutely dance like
Speaker 6: a lunatic, right, so that my energy is moved, because
Speaker 6: energy gets stuck in your body too. Right, So if
Speaker 6: you move around and you're moving that energy year round,
Speaker 6: and you're also in that high vibe, and then I
Speaker 6: send off that audition that has gone off with good vibes,
Speaker 6: that is manifesting. And I know before when I was dating,
Speaker 6: before I would go on a date, I would raise
Speaker 6: my vibe by singing in the car and you know,
Speaker 6: just letting myself feel good. So the best part of
Speaker 6: this process is just to feel good and then you're
Speaker 6: going to manifest great things. Which is why getting really
Speaker 6: clear on how you want to feel from step one
Speaker 6: is important. Because if in a relationship you want to
Speaker 6: feel more adventure perfect, what's a way right now in
Speaker 6: your life that you can feel more adventurous without a guy?
Speaker 6: Maybe that is, you know, taking yourself on dates or
Speaker 6: going for this hike that you've always wanted to do.
Speaker 6: How are you showing up with that vibration already in
Speaker 6: your life now and disregard the relationship disregard the guy.
Speaker 6: Just show up in a way that makes you feel
Speaker 6: good now, because when your vibe is high, you're going
Speaker 6: to attract things at that same frequency.
Speaker 1: And like, yeah, fuck having a boy friend as well.
Speaker 4: Like when your vibe is high and you're like doing
Speaker 4: all these things for you as well, you're having a
Speaker 4: fucking good time. Like before I got into a relationship
Speaker 4: with Michael, I was like at my highest frequency.
Speaker 1: You know, I was being spontaneous. I was booking like.
Speaker 4: Random flights to Byron Bay that I went on for
Speaker 4: my birthday, and like, you know, I was having a
Speaker 4: great time.
Speaker 6: Which is what you wanted in a relationship, right, which
Speaker 6: someone that would go traveling with you and someone that
Speaker 6: would book spontaneous flights. And then by doing all of
Speaker 6: those things, you attracted someone that liked that.
Speaker 1: I sounded Yeah.
Speaker 6: If you want to manifest this amazing soul lover, but
Speaker 6: you're swiping douchebags on Tinder, you are not in alignment.
Speaker 5: If you want to.
Speaker 6: Introduce this person that's really open and vulnerable and ready
Speaker 6: for love, but you're still closed off and you don't
Speaker 6: show vulnerability with your friends, your family, work, in any
Speaker 6: other respect of your life.
Speaker 2: You are not.
Speaker 6: Working in alignment. If you want these really high vibe
Speaker 6: group of friends, but you're still hanging out with this
Speaker 6: toxic friend, you are not working in alignment. You have
Speaker 6: to shed the layers of your life, trim the fat,
Speaker 6: and let things go that are no longer serving that
Speaker 6: high of good.
Speaker 4: Okay, well, let's move on to step four, which is
Speaker 4: embodiment and action.
Speaker 6: If you want your dream job, are you applying for
Speaker 6: your dream job? If you want a boyfriend, are you
Speaker 6: going on the dates? And I don't just mean scrolling
Speaker 6: on Tinder? Are you actually going on the dates? Are
Speaker 6: you saying what you want? If you want this brand new,
Speaker 6: amazing car and you're trying to manifest it, have you
Speaker 6: given it a test drive?
Speaker 2: You know?
Speaker 6: Do you know what that car feels like for you
Speaker 6: in your hands and feels like to drive?
Speaker 5: All of these things? You actually got to take the action.
Speaker 6: You've got to do the thing, and the universe needs
Speaker 6: you to take that action, so it knows that you
Speaker 6: can handle that manifestation, all right.
Speaker 3: And our final step, which is step five, is have
Speaker 3: faith and surrender and let go.
Speaker 6: Yes, So this is the fifth step, fifth and final,
Speaker 6: and this is where we leave it up to the universe. Right,
Speaker 6: So you've done all of your steps, You've gotten clear
Speaker 6: on what you want, you've cleared the blocks, you've made
Speaker 6: sure your vibration is raised, you're feeling good, you've taken
Speaker 6: the action. Now you have to let go of the
Speaker 6: when and the how, because so many women are like,
Speaker 6: I need to be married at this stage, and when
Speaker 6: I manifest him, he's going to come into my life
Speaker 6: on June seventh.
Speaker 5: Two thousand.
Speaker 6: You know, let go of the hen, how, and let
Speaker 6: go of the when, because when you're holding onto those
Speaker 6: feelings of.
Speaker 5: Where is he? Where is he? Where is he?
Speaker 6: That's the vibration of I don't like where I am.
Speaker 6: I'm not a whole person, And that's a vibration of
Speaker 6: like bringing you down. You're going to retract more things
Speaker 6: like that.
Speaker 4: She's speaking so much truth. I love it, Like I'm
Speaker 4: so into this everything you're saying. I'm just getting around
Speaker 4: like it's so true. And I guess like as well,
Speaker 4: like when you are in that vibration and frequency, you
Speaker 4: can like start to look a bit desperate, and that's
Speaker 4: like the.
Speaker 1: Vibe we don't want to be putting out there.
Speaker 6: Right panic, Yeah, totally, and that's not a good representation
Speaker 6: of the type of relationship you want anyway, right. You
Speaker 6: want it to be easy and trustworthy and fun. And
Speaker 6: when you go into it like is this going to
Speaker 6: be the person I marry? Is this going to be
Speaker 6: the father of my children? You know when when that
Speaker 6: type of energy is only going to push that person
Speaker 6: if they're perfect for you away because they're not at
Speaker 6: that vibration. Take the pressure off, guys, Yeah, take the pressure.
Speaker 2: Off, and the universe do its thing.
Speaker 5: Let the universe.
Speaker 4: Preach Matt, Maddie. It's been so great having you in here.
Speaker 4: We have learned so much. We have a segment of
Speaker 4: our podcast, hold Where's Our Head At? And we want
Speaker 4: you to answer this week's question since you're the expert,
Speaker 4: so we're going to jump.
Speaker 1: Into that now.
Speaker 3: Welcome to Where's Our Head At? Where you guys ask
Speaker 3: us where our heads are at, and we answer your questions.
Speaker 3: This one comes in from Sarah and.
Speaker 4: She says, I feel like I always attract toxic relationships.
Speaker 4: Why can't I meet a decent guy for ones? I've
Speaker 4: tried manifesting all months and nothing has come up. I'm
Speaker 4: saying my affirmations and meditating, but still haven't met the
Speaker 4: right one. What else can I do, Maddie, our confidence coach,
Speaker 4: our manifestor take it away girl friend perfect.
Speaker 6: I love this question for a lot of reasons. When
Speaker 6: she said, Sarah said, I've been manifesting all month, Sarah,
Speaker 6: You've been manifesting your whole life. Manifestation isn't something you
Speaker 6: can just turn off and on. So no, keep that
Speaker 6: in the back of your mind that you are always
Speaker 6: manifesting and it's your thoughts, your feelings, and your actions
Speaker 6: that are manifesting and thinking like, oh, okay, well I've
Speaker 6: been saying my informations, I've been doing these things. They're
Speaker 6: all the tools that help you to manifest. But when
Speaker 6: it comes to patterns and getting these toxic men showing
Speaker 6: up in your life again and again, like I've spoken about,
Speaker 6: I think you need to go back and realize, Okay,
Speaker 6: what's the story I'm telling myself about love, what's the
Speaker 6: story I'm telling myself about relationships about men? And really
Speaker 6: come back to what's going on in your past and
Speaker 6: what's going on in the present to make you feel
Speaker 6: that way, because that is a limiting belief, right, that's
Speaker 6: a label of I keep attracting these men because something
Speaker 6: deep rooted is attracting them to me. And this isn't
Speaker 6: ever something to be like, oh I hate myself, this
Speaker 6: is something I've done to me, Not at all. This
Speaker 6: is just a way to Okay, I'm coming back to
Speaker 6: me and I'm looking inward and come back to the self,
Speaker 6: which is where it should all begin anyway, and it
Speaker 6: should all be a form of self love and knowing
Speaker 6: that you attract who you are, not what you want.
Speaker 4: And I guess, as you said before, like take the
Speaker 4: pressure off, like you can't manifest for a month and
Speaker 4: expect to have the love of your life not really
Speaker 4: on your door, Like I guess it's more about like
Speaker 4: being the best perversion of you, and like it will
Speaker 4: come when it's the right time.
Speaker 2: She needs a little bit of a chill, I feel, yeah.
Speaker 5: Well it is.
Speaker 6: It's that energy, right, It's like letting go of the
Speaker 6: when and the how, and just knowing that when your
Speaker 6: vibration is in check, when you're feeling good, when you've
Speaker 6: sorted out your beliefs, he's just going to be a
Speaker 6: magnet to you. So instead of thinking I'm looking for him,
Speaker 6: I'm looking for him. Look for yourself first, because when
Speaker 6: you're in check, he's going to come to you organically.
Speaker 6: You attract who you are, not what you want. So
Speaker 6: come back to who you are first.
Speaker 1: Love that, Maddie.
Speaker 4: Where can people find you if they want to seek
Speaker 4: some confidence coaching from you? Yeah?
Speaker 6: So my instagram is Madeleine Summer's Coaching and I'm offering
Speaker 6: a twelve week program at the moment called the Energetic
Speaker 6: Abundance Academy. And this is private, one on one coaching.
Speaker 6: Anna did this course.
Speaker 1: I loved it.
Speaker 5: And this is where we go all in.
Speaker 6: This is for the women that are just sick of
Speaker 6: being stuck in patterns, sick of the blocks, don't know
Speaker 6: why their manifestations aren't coming, or want that extra confidence
Speaker 6: and love in their life.
Speaker 5: So we go all in.
Speaker 6: We get clear on what you want, We go through
Speaker 6: the blocks and shift that energy and rewrite your story.
Speaker 4: Okay, Maddie, thanks so much for coming. It's been such
Speaker 4: a pleasure. Thank you for sharing your five step process
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