1 00:00:00,360 --> 00:00:02,719 Speaker 1: High Scrollers is produced on Gadigul Land. 2 00:00:02,920 --> 00:00:05,720 Speaker 2: We pay our respects to the traditional custodians of this country. 3 00:00:05,720 --> 00:00:07,320 Speaker 2: An elder's past and present. 4 00:00:07,360 --> 00:00:13,200 Speaker 1: Always was, always will be Aboriginal Land. I've got a 5 00:00:13,280 --> 00:00:17,560 Speaker 1: question for you. I saw a TikTok the other day 6 00:00:17,680 --> 00:00:19,640 Speaker 1: and I thought, this is great. I'm gonna ask Matt. 7 00:00:19,920 --> 00:00:25,239 Speaker 1: The TikTok was by someone named Stephanie Mullins, and she 8 00:00:25,400 --> 00:00:28,560 Speaker 1: was talking about when people say they live in the 9 00:00:28,600 --> 00:00:32,199 Speaker 1: Gold Coast, and she was saying, no, it's on the 10 00:00:32,240 --> 00:00:34,800 Speaker 1: Gold Coast. Yeah, do you think it's in the Gold 11 00:00:34,840 --> 00:00:38,200 Speaker 1: Coast or on the Gold Coast on? But then why 12 00:00:38,200 --> 00:00:40,440 Speaker 1: do we say on the Gold Coast but then in 13 00:00:40,640 --> 00:00:41,560 Speaker 1: for other places? 14 00:00:42,360 --> 00:00:46,199 Speaker 2: Because the Gold Coast is such a broad area that 15 00:00:46,240 --> 00:00:49,680 Speaker 2: you live on it in the suburb. So if you 16 00:00:49,800 --> 00:00:51,960 Speaker 2: live in Burley on the Gold. 17 00:00:51,720 --> 00:00:56,000 Speaker 1: Coast, okay, but I say I live in Newcastle, I 18 00:00:56,080 --> 00:01:01,800 Speaker 1: don't say on Newcastle. But Newcastle is a broad area. 19 00:01:05,440 --> 00:01:06,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, I can. 20 00:01:07,240 --> 00:01:10,880 Speaker 1: If you live in Terrigle, you live in Terregl in 21 00:01:10,880 --> 00:01:11,600 Speaker 1: the Central Coast. 22 00:01:11,680 --> 00:01:14,360 Speaker 2: You live on the Central Coast intergl Okay. 23 00:01:14,600 --> 00:01:16,759 Speaker 1: But why do we say on the Central Coast but 24 00:01:16,880 --> 00:01:18,119 Speaker 1: not on Newcastle? 25 00:01:18,280 --> 00:01:20,360 Speaker 2: Because true when I lived in East Gardens, I would say, 26 00:01:20,360 --> 00:01:22,040 Speaker 2: I live in the eastern suburbs. 27 00:01:22,880 --> 00:01:23,679 Speaker 1: But why not on. 28 00:01:26,520 --> 00:01:26,679 Speaker 2: Is it? 29 00:01:26,720 --> 00:01:29,360 Speaker 1: When it has confused me? This is the whole thing. 30 00:01:29,400 --> 00:01:32,479 Speaker 1: It's confusing, is it when it's somewhere has coast? So 31 00:01:32,760 --> 00:01:37,200 Speaker 1: I live on the Sunshine Coast or in the Sunshine Coast? 32 00:01:37,280 --> 00:01:39,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, I would say in the Sunshine Coast though, but 33 00:01:39,400 --> 00:01:42,080 Speaker 2: what's the difference between that and the movie World's up 34 00:01:42,080 --> 00:01:45,520 Speaker 2: on the Gold Coast. But something is in the Sunshine Coast. 35 00:01:45,800 --> 00:01:47,440 Speaker 1: See, I would say on the Sunshine Coast. 36 00:01:48,000 --> 00:01:48,920 Speaker 2: Maybe i'd say in. 37 00:01:49,520 --> 00:01:52,200 Speaker 1: Would you live in Byron Bay or on Byron Bay? 38 00:01:52,360 --> 00:01:53,840 Speaker 2: In is it? 39 00:01:53,840 --> 00:01:55,360 Speaker 1: Because it doesn't have the word coast in it? 40 00:01:57,320 --> 00:01:59,520 Speaker 2: Brittany, This is true hard of a question for this 41 00:01:59,600 --> 00:02:00,960 Speaker 2: early on Monday morning. 42 00:02:01,520 --> 00:02:05,440 Speaker 1: Early, It's nearly two pm. 43 00:02:05,520 --> 00:02:07,960 Speaker 2: I'm not sure. I don't know how to answer this, 44 00:02:08,400 --> 00:02:11,400 Speaker 2: but it is the same. But you know what, I 45 00:02:11,440 --> 00:02:13,880 Speaker 2: can't stand in a similar vein when people say, oh, 46 00:02:14,000 --> 00:02:16,919 Speaker 2: I'm heading down to Newcastle but they're in Sydney. 47 00:02:17,120 --> 00:02:19,160 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, you got to say up up to Newcastle. 48 00:02:19,560 --> 00:02:23,480 Speaker 2: I come up to Newcastle each week to film the podcast. Yes, 49 00:02:23,639 --> 00:02:25,360 Speaker 2: I used to go down to Sydney. 50 00:02:25,480 --> 00:02:26,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm with you on that. 51 00:02:26,760 --> 00:02:29,000 Speaker 2: To record the podcast. You don't go up to Sydney. 52 00:02:29,080 --> 00:02:31,400 Speaker 1: No, it's the direction that you're traveling. 53 00:02:31,000 --> 00:02:34,200 Speaker 2: In, like we wouldn't go up to Tasmania. 54 00:02:34,480 --> 00:02:37,040 Speaker 1: No, damn. Who's saying that? 55 00:02:37,480 --> 00:02:39,880 Speaker 2: I don't know, but it could have been you. You 56 00:02:39,919 --> 00:02:41,160 Speaker 2: say nine am in the morning. 57 00:02:41,680 --> 00:02:44,320 Speaker 1: Ah, you know, I've clocked myself saying that a few times. 58 00:02:44,400 --> 00:02:46,679 Speaker 2: Yeah. I can't stand it. As soon as I read 59 00:02:46,720 --> 00:02:49,840 Speaker 2: it in a book, it turns me off the whole book. 60 00:02:50,280 --> 00:02:52,440 Speaker 1: Speaking of mad I need a new book to read. 61 00:02:52,600 --> 00:02:54,840 Speaker 2: Well, you didn't do very well with Verity, Yes I did. 62 00:02:54,880 --> 00:02:57,080 Speaker 2: Did you finish it? Yes? Did we talk about it? 63 00:02:57,160 --> 00:02:59,399 Speaker 1: I posted about it in Scroller's chat. 64 00:03:00,040 --> 00:03:02,760 Speaker 2: About it on the podcast, remember that bloody. 65 00:03:02,400 --> 00:03:07,720 Speaker 1: Long Speaking of spoiler alert, even though I'm probably the 66 00:03:07,840 --> 00:03:11,200 Speaker 1: last person in the world to read Verity, Matt, are 67 00:03:11,240 --> 00:03:19,840 Speaker 1: you manuscript is real or she's telling the truth? Umm? 68 00:03:21,000 --> 00:03:23,000 Speaker 2: Oh my god? What did I What did I think 69 00:03:23,040 --> 00:03:24,600 Speaker 2: when I first finished the book? 70 00:03:24,880 --> 00:03:27,040 Speaker 1: So let's this is spoiler alert. By the way, even 71 00:03:27,040 --> 00:03:27,880 Speaker 1: though I think if you. 72 00:03:27,840 --> 00:03:30,040 Speaker 2: Haven't read, Verity is becoming a movie as well. So 73 00:03:30,040 --> 00:03:32,119 Speaker 2: if you're going to see the Verity movie. 74 00:03:31,960 --> 00:03:34,320 Speaker 1: Don't listen don't listen to this three minutes. 75 00:03:34,400 --> 00:03:37,560 Speaker 2: And if you haven't read Verity the book, highly recommend. 76 00:03:37,600 --> 00:03:40,720 Speaker 2: It's the first book I started with and then obviously 77 00:03:40,720 --> 00:03:42,280 Speaker 2: read one hundred in a year because I was so 78 00:03:42,320 --> 00:03:45,160 Speaker 2: obsessed because I was chasing the feeling of Verity and 79 00:03:45,400 --> 00:03:47,400 Speaker 2: it's a thriller written by Colleen Hoover. 80 00:03:48,160 --> 00:03:51,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, the last like slither of the book is what 81 00:03:51,880 --> 00:03:54,000 Speaker 1: makes it. Yeah, Like I felt like the book was 82 00:03:54,120 --> 00:03:54,560 Speaker 1: very slow. 83 00:03:54,600 --> 00:03:57,200 Speaker 2: Otherwise I didn't know. I was like plot twist to 84 00:03:57,200 --> 00:03:58,800 Speaker 2: plot twistters on the edge. 85 00:03:58,840 --> 00:04:00,440 Speaker 1: I felt like it was the end and it got 86 00:04:00,440 --> 00:04:02,280 Speaker 1: me and I was like, oh fuck, that was good. 87 00:04:04,240 --> 00:04:07,320 Speaker 1: So I'm like, finally they've caught her out, like in 88 00:04:07,360 --> 00:04:09,880 Speaker 1: all her lies and pretending to not be able to 89 00:04:09,960 --> 00:04:13,760 Speaker 1: walk and talk and everything. But then you read the manuscript, 90 00:04:14,440 --> 00:04:16,840 Speaker 1: the yeah, the letter thing that she left at the end, 91 00:04:19,160 --> 00:04:21,560 Speaker 1: I'm just like, did he really have to kill her? 92 00:04:21,839 --> 00:04:23,600 Speaker 1: Like I found that to be a bit extreme. 93 00:04:26,080 --> 00:04:28,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think all those sorts of books are quite extreme, 94 00:04:28,920 --> 00:04:31,120 Speaker 2: Like you need to get onto a freedom McFadden because 95 00:04:31,120 --> 00:04:32,080 Speaker 2: they're more extreme. 96 00:04:32,160 --> 00:04:34,960 Speaker 1: Okay, I just found that a bit dramatic, like when 97 00:04:35,279 --> 00:04:38,320 Speaker 1: they finally found out she was able to move around 98 00:04:38,360 --> 00:04:41,800 Speaker 1: and talk and stuff, and his first resort was to 99 00:04:41,960 --> 00:04:44,440 Speaker 1: just kill her. Do you know what I mean? Like, 100 00:04:44,480 --> 00:04:47,360 Speaker 1: would you not like dobbering to the police and say, she's. 101 00:04:47,320 --> 00:04:49,680 Speaker 2: I mean, this is the thing, some man of fact, 102 00:04:50,240 --> 00:04:50,839 Speaker 2: very true. 103 00:04:51,040 --> 00:04:52,480 Speaker 1: I found that to be a bit dramatic. 104 00:04:54,200 --> 00:04:56,320 Speaker 2: Yeah. I don't know. I don't know what team I am. 105 00:04:56,360 --> 00:05:00,760 Speaker 2: I think I'm team. I think I'm team. 106 00:05:01,000 --> 00:05:03,839 Speaker 1: You think that she's telling the truth in the letter, yeah, 107 00:05:03,880 --> 00:05:08,520 Speaker 1: and that she was just trying to protect everyone. 108 00:05:09,160 --> 00:05:10,200 Speaker 3: Yeah. 109 00:05:11,000 --> 00:05:11,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. 110 00:05:12,480 --> 00:05:14,200 Speaker 1: So you think the manuscript that she wrote. 111 00:05:14,320 --> 00:05:16,720 Speaker 2: When I read it, I was team manuscript. I was like, 112 00:05:17,440 --> 00:05:21,600 Speaker 2: she has written the manuscript that's truthful, and it's truthful, 113 00:05:21,640 --> 00:05:24,160 Speaker 2: and the letter is to save her ass in case 114 00:05:24,200 --> 00:05:27,040 Speaker 2: she ever got found out. Yeah, then she could tell 115 00:05:27,080 --> 00:05:30,920 Speaker 2: the police go and find this letter hidden under the floorboards. Yeah, 116 00:05:30,960 --> 00:05:33,400 Speaker 2: and that'll explain everything. And that was to cover her 117 00:05:33,400 --> 00:05:34,320 Speaker 2: own ass. 118 00:05:34,880 --> 00:05:37,400 Speaker 1: Okay, So you think the manuscript is real and that 119 00:05:37,480 --> 00:05:38,360 Speaker 1: she really did. 120 00:05:38,600 --> 00:05:40,440 Speaker 2: I don't know, And I really don't care at the 121 00:05:40,520 --> 00:05:42,720 Speaker 2: end of the day, do I. But whatever it is, 122 00:05:42,880 --> 00:05:44,560 Speaker 2: it is, what do you think? 123 00:05:45,560 --> 00:05:47,960 Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm looking forward to seeing the movie, 124 00:05:48,000 --> 00:05:49,920 Speaker 1: and you know what, Matt this will be the first 125 00:05:49,920 --> 00:05:51,919 Speaker 1: movie that I go and see where I've read the book. 126 00:05:52,720 --> 00:06:03,320 Speaker 2: That's fun. Yeah, but honestly, I'm in a bit of 127 00:06:03,360 --> 00:06:06,360 Speaker 2: a reading slump at the moment. I think unfortunately I 128 00:06:06,360 --> 00:06:10,000 Speaker 2: did two things. I read all of the Heated Rivalry 129 00:06:10,040 --> 00:06:13,000 Speaker 2: series at once. Yeah, so I don't usually do that. 130 00:06:13,080 --> 00:06:15,039 Speaker 2: For me. I read like one book in a series 131 00:06:15,040 --> 00:06:17,279 Speaker 2: if it's so good and I need to need to 132 00:06:17,320 --> 00:06:19,919 Speaker 2: have the next series straight away, the next book in 133 00:06:19,920 --> 00:06:22,279 Speaker 2: the series straight away, I will go to the next series. 134 00:06:22,279 --> 00:06:24,360 Speaker 2: But I actually like to break it up, and I 135 00:06:24,440 --> 00:06:26,200 Speaker 2: like to read one book and then read a different 136 00:06:26,240 --> 00:06:28,080 Speaker 2: book and come back to the series later. The problem 137 00:06:28,160 --> 00:06:29,960 Speaker 2: is when you have so many books to read. There's 138 00:06:30,000 --> 00:06:31,920 Speaker 2: so many series now that I've started and I haven't 139 00:06:31,960 --> 00:06:35,080 Speaker 2: gone back to. And so with the Heated Rivalry series, 140 00:06:35,520 --> 00:06:38,360 Speaker 2: I also knew that, for example, the TV show had 141 00:06:38,400 --> 00:06:42,560 Speaker 2: come out, and so book one there's episode three of 142 00:06:42,600 --> 00:06:44,800 Speaker 2: the TV shows because the TV is Heated Rivalry. Well, 143 00:06:44,800 --> 00:06:46,880 Speaker 2: Heated Rivalry is the second book in the series. 144 00:06:47,040 --> 00:06:49,680 Speaker 1: Have you seen Worthering Heights yet Wear Heights? Neither? 145 00:06:50,240 --> 00:06:53,240 Speaker 2: So the second book in the series has an episode 146 00:06:53,279 --> 00:06:54,880 Speaker 2: that covers Book one. So I knew I had to 147 00:06:54,920 --> 00:06:57,159 Speaker 2: read book one and two before I read the series. 148 00:06:57,560 --> 00:07:00,240 Speaker 2: But then the way that the series works is there's 149 00:07:00,279 --> 00:07:05,080 Speaker 2: books all happening at the same time with different stories happening, 150 00:07:05,560 --> 00:07:10,560 Speaker 2: So the same kind of season is going on, and 151 00:07:10,600 --> 00:07:13,080 Speaker 2: they're all leading up to the same Grand Final, but 152 00:07:13,120 --> 00:07:15,920 Speaker 2: they're talking about each book talks about different couples on 153 00:07:16,000 --> 00:07:19,520 Speaker 2: each team. For example, like one is heated rivalry is 154 00:07:19,560 --> 00:07:21,920 Speaker 2: their rivals on rival teams, and then they fall in 155 00:07:21,920 --> 00:07:24,520 Speaker 2: love with each other, whereas like the third or fourth 156 00:07:24,520 --> 00:07:28,960 Speaker 2: book is like a player and the social media guy 157 00:07:29,000 --> 00:07:31,920 Speaker 2: who runs the social media for the team, and then 158 00:07:31,920 --> 00:07:33,800 Speaker 2: another one is like the guy who works at the 159 00:07:33,840 --> 00:07:36,000 Speaker 2: bar that all the hockey players go to, and the 160 00:07:36,040 --> 00:07:38,360 Speaker 2: coach of the team or the goalie of the team 161 00:07:38,480 --> 00:07:41,240 Speaker 2: or like whatever. Like they're all different kind of scenarios 162 00:07:41,600 --> 00:07:44,880 Speaker 2: around the same couple years in hockey. Yeah, so I 163 00:07:44,920 --> 00:07:45,960 Speaker 2: was like, I feel like I need to read all 164 00:07:46,000 --> 00:07:47,880 Speaker 2: of them to get a well rounded perspective before I 165 00:07:47,920 --> 00:07:50,120 Speaker 2: watch the TV show just in cas there's any spoilers 166 00:07:50,120 --> 00:07:51,920 Speaker 2: for other books, because I knew that they did an 167 00:07:51,960 --> 00:07:57,760 Speaker 2: episode on book one. So anyway, I have gotten all 168 00:07:57,800 --> 00:08:00,960 Speaker 2: the way through to I'm still reading currently the very 169 00:08:01,040 --> 00:08:04,560 Speaker 2: last book in the series, which is Shane and Ilia's 170 00:08:04,600 --> 00:08:07,040 Speaker 2: second book, The Long Game, which is the couple from 171 00:08:07,120 --> 00:08:11,480 Speaker 2: Heated Rivalry. Okay, and I started watching Heated Rivalry. It's 172 00:08:11,520 --> 00:08:15,400 Speaker 2: done nowhing for me, and it's very interesting because when 173 00:08:15,440 --> 00:08:18,360 Speaker 2: I posted about not liking Heated Rivalry, I only watched 174 00:08:18,360 --> 00:08:20,840 Speaker 2: the first two episodes and the third episode is apparently 175 00:08:20,880 --> 00:08:24,080 Speaker 2: the best one, which is the first book Scott and Kip, 176 00:08:24,720 --> 00:08:27,360 Speaker 2: and it was very very telling. When I put it 177 00:08:27,400 --> 00:08:29,720 Speaker 2: on my story, I said, not loving Heated Rivalry, blah 178 00:08:29,720 --> 00:08:32,800 Speaker 2: blah blah. I got so many replies, but the funniest 179 00:08:32,800 --> 00:08:36,800 Speaker 2: part was every reply from a gay man was like, girl, agree, 180 00:08:36,880 --> 00:08:41,439 Speaker 2: it's trash, it's awful, and women were like, are you kidding, 181 00:08:41,480 --> 00:08:43,600 Speaker 2: It's the best thing in the entire world. I can't 182 00:08:43,600 --> 00:08:45,600 Speaker 2: believe you don't like it. Blah blah blah blah. So 183 00:08:45,800 --> 00:08:50,720 Speaker 2: I just think that Heated Rivalry, unfortunately is made for women, 184 00:08:51,200 --> 00:08:55,000 Speaker 2: which is fine, but as a gay man watching a 185 00:08:55,040 --> 00:08:58,640 Speaker 2: show about gay men, I went, this is cringe. It's 186 00:08:58,679 --> 00:09:01,559 Speaker 2: boring as fuck. That's not how that works. 187 00:09:01,920 --> 00:09:04,040 Speaker 1: Is the weird Heated Rivalry the one that you were 188 00:09:04,040 --> 00:09:06,120 Speaker 1: telling me to watch, and you're like, it's a bit 189 00:09:06,200 --> 00:09:08,480 Speaker 1: like pawn. Yeah, and you were saying that I wouldn't 190 00:09:08,559 --> 00:09:08,839 Speaker 1: like it. 191 00:09:09,360 --> 00:09:14,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, Well, now I think you might, because all the 192 00:09:14,760 --> 00:09:17,720 Speaker 2: women in my dms were like, oh my god, it's amazing. 193 00:09:17,720 --> 00:09:19,960 Speaker 2: I've watched it three times. I can't get enough of it. 194 00:09:20,000 --> 00:09:22,920 Speaker 2: But I think women might just like watching two men fark. 195 00:09:23,360 --> 00:09:26,640 Speaker 1: Okay, Google girl's blowing up. 196 00:09:27,040 --> 00:09:30,080 Speaker 2: We'll get on the phone then Google Girls call in. 197 00:09:32,920 --> 00:09:34,520 Speaker 1: Yep, Google Girl, what do you have to say? 198 00:09:35,040 --> 00:09:39,000 Speaker 4: The show changed me, to be honest, like chemically changed me, 199 00:09:39,080 --> 00:09:42,440 Speaker 4: emotionally changed me, like I wasn't the same person after 200 00:09:42,440 --> 00:09:46,480 Speaker 4: watching I cried and was like so emotionally affected by 201 00:09:46,559 --> 00:09:48,520 Speaker 4: the show that I deleted Grinder. 202 00:09:51,200 --> 00:09:54,400 Speaker 1: Matt, I don't like it, Matt. 203 00:09:55,880 --> 00:10:01,240 Speaker 2: Xander, I think, given what we've learned about you on 204 00:10:01,280 --> 00:10:07,400 Speaker 2: this podcast, you're cooked in general. Like I think every 205 00:10:07,440 --> 00:10:12,040 Speaker 2: time you get on and share an opinion, I go, yeah, 206 00:10:12,120 --> 00:10:17,040 Speaker 2: that makes sense, because Xander is fucking cooked. 207 00:10:17,400 --> 00:10:20,720 Speaker 4: Doesn't cry when he's in the tunnel in Russia, speaking 208 00:10:20,720 --> 00:10:22,920 Speaker 4: to him in Russia on the phone, telling it he 209 00:10:22,960 --> 00:10:24,559 Speaker 4: loves him, but on the other end, he doesn't know 210 00:10:24,600 --> 00:10:26,520 Speaker 4: what he's saying, and that's the only way he could 211 00:10:26,520 --> 00:10:29,640 Speaker 4: actually express his feelings that emotionally destroyed me. 212 00:10:29,800 --> 00:10:31,400 Speaker 2: I'm not up to that part. I don't think I've 213 00:10:31,440 --> 00:10:32,560 Speaker 2: only watched the first two episodes. 214 00:10:32,559 --> 00:10:35,319 Speaker 4: Oh my god, you're not even the best bits. 215 00:10:37,160 --> 00:10:41,760 Speaker 3: No, no, no, you have one moment to hook me, 216 00:10:41,800 --> 00:10:45,040 Speaker 3: and it shouldn't take I fucking hate when people do this. 217 00:10:45,360 --> 00:10:46,840 Speaker 2: They suggest a show. 218 00:10:46,960 --> 00:10:49,720 Speaker 3: And then they go, oh no, just wait till episode 219 00:10:49,760 --> 00:10:52,400 Speaker 3: four or five. That's four fucking hours of my life 220 00:10:52,440 --> 00:10:55,400 Speaker 3: waste to get to a good payoff. 221 00:10:55,679 --> 00:10:59,520 Speaker 4: Neil relationship happens these days, like it starts out usually 222 00:10:59,600 --> 00:11:03,080 Speaker 4: with people fucking around and there's lots of sex, and it's. 223 00:11:02,960 --> 00:11:03,920 Speaker 2: All porn, porn, porn. 224 00:11:04,120 --> 00:11:05,400 Speaker 4: But then by the end of it you go on 225 00:11:05,440 --> 00:11:08,080 Speaker 4: this like emotional journey. All the most of the tech 226 00:11:08,120 --> 00:11:12,240 Speaker 4: stops and it terms with this beautiful, like emotionally destroying 227 00:11:12,280 --> 00:11:15,040 Speaker 4: love story about two people that struggle to be together. 228 00:11:15,440 --> 00:11:17,160 Speaker 1: Well, I might have to give it a go. And actually, 229 00:11:17,160 --> 00:11:19,520 Speaker 1: I've got one more thing to add by Google girl, 230 00:11:22,760 --> 00:11:25,640 Speaker 1: just kind of shifting the topic here, but talking about 231 00:11:25,800 --> 00:11:29,560 Speaker 1: just Xander just said relationships and what they start out like. 232 00:11:30,000 --> 00:11:32,000 Speaker 1: I saw a TikTok the I think it was TikTok. 233 00:11:32,080 --> 00:11:34,079 Speaker 1: I don't know if was on Instagram, But it was 234 00:11:34,120 --> 00:11:37,520 Speaker 1: a girl saying something that actually really like stood out 235 00:11:37,520 --> 00:11:39,400 Speaker 1: to me, and I think it's something that a lot 236 00:11:39,440 --> 00:11:42,679 Speaker 1: of people could hear, and it's that, you know, when 237 00:11:42,679 --> 00:11:45,600 Speaker 1: a relationship starts out. I mean, not every relationship starts 238 00:11:45,640 --> 00:11:47,640 Speaker 1: out the same, Matt, but you know how people talk 239 00:11:47,640 --> 00:11:50,160 Speaker 1: about the honeymoon phase and at the start of the 240 00:11:50,200 --> 00:11:57,040 Speaker 1: relationship where everything is, you know, amazing and there's butterflies 241 00:11:57,080 --> 00:12:00,480 Speaker 1: and sparks. She was saying that, and like, then you 242 00:12:00,520 --> 00:12:02,120 Speaker 1: know how they say, like, oh, it fades in a 243 00:12:02,160 --> 00:12:06,199 Speaker 1: relationship and you lose that spark, and then what we 244 00:12:06,320 --> 00:12:10,120 Speaker 1: end up with years into a relationship is you constantly 245 00:12:10,320 --> 00:12:12,320 Speaker 1: missing the spark that you had at the beginning, like 246 00:12:12,360 --> 00:12:15,079 Speaker 1: in that honeymoon phase. And sure some people might have 247 00:12:15,120 --> 00:12:18,640 Speaker 1: that like amazing spark for their whole relationship. Everyone's different. 248 00:12:19,040 --> 00:12:21,959 Speaker 1: But she was saying, the reason why we feel that 249 00:12:22,080 --> 00:12:26,280 Speaker 1: feeling at the very beginning is because we're nervous and 250 00:12:26,360 --> 00:12:30,240 Speaker 1: we're anxious mainly, and we mistake it for it being 251 00:12:30,440 --> 00:12:32,800 Speaker 1: you know, like a spark, because we don't know if 252 00:12:32,800 --> 00:12:35,240 Speaker 1: this person really likes us yet and we're just getting 253 00:12:35,280 --> 00:12:36,959 Speaker 1: to know them, and you know, you're going over each 254 00:12:37,000 --> 00:12:40,240 Speaker 1: other's house. It's all butterflies, and then we see that 255 00:12:40,360 --> 00:12:45,000 Speaker 1: as being like amazing sparks, when mainly it's anxiety and nerves. 256 00:12:45,120 --> 00:12:47,120 Speaker 1: But you don't know that at that time. And then 257 00:12:47,160 --> 00:12:50,280 Speaker 1: obviously once you get together and become more comfortable, you 258 00:12:50,400 --> 00:12:52,720 Speaker 1: lose what you think is that spark, but it's actually 259 00:12:52,760 --> 00:12:56,480 Speaker 1: you're not anxious about your relationship anymore because you found comfort. 260 00:12:57,040 --> 00:12:59,959 Speaker 1: And then she was saying, you know, years into the relationship, 261 00:13:00,120 --> 00:13:02,200 Speaker 1: you might just be dwelling on the fact that you've 262 00:13:02,240 --> 00:13:04,240 Speaker 1: lost that spark, or you wish you could go back 263 00:13:04,280 --> 00:13:06,280 Speaker 1: to when you first met and you had that spark, 264 00:13:06,320 --> 00:13:10,480 Speaker 1: when that spark was actually nerves and anxiety, and that 265 00:13:10,600 --> 00:13:14,360 Speaker 1: what we should be feeling years into our relationship instead 266 00:13:14,400 --> 00:13:16,360 Speaker 1: of focusing on like, oh, we lost the spark that 267 00:13:16,360 --> 00:13:19,040 Speaker 1: we had at the start, is that you know, your 268 00:13:19,080 --> 00:13:25,640 Speaker 1: relationship isn't about having the spark. It's about having stability, safety, comfort, 269 00:13:25,720 --> 00:13:28,120 Speaker 1: which is one hundred percent what you know you should 270 00:13:28,160 --> 00:13:31,240 Speaker 1: get when you're in a long term relationship. And that's 271 00:13:31,280 --> 00:13:34,520 Speaker 1: actually just a really good point because sometimes like Aj 272 00:13:34,600 --> 00:13:37,040 Speaker 1: and I have been together for eight years, over eight 273 00:13:37,120 --> 00:13:40,360 Speaker 1: years now, and like our relationship is great and we're 274 00:13:40,440 --> 00:13:43,080 Speaker 1: like best friends and we're always cracking the fuck up, 275 00:13:43,080 --> 00:13:46,080 Speaker 1: which I'm so grateful for, Like I love just like 276 00:13:46,120 --> 00:13:48,080 Speaker 1: AJ make you crack up every day, which to me, 277 00:13:48,160 --> 00:13:51,240 Speaker 1: that's like there's nothing better in a relationship than just 278 00:13:51,320 --> 00:13:54,440 Speaker 1: pissing myself at him every night, Like he never doesn't 279 00:13:54,480 --> 00:13:58,680 Speaker 1: make me laugh. But sometimes, like I find myself thinking 280 00:13:58,720 --> 00:14:00,599 Speaker 1: back to when we first met, and like when he 281 00:14:00,600 --> 00:14:03,319 Speaker 1: would come over my house and like there'd be that 282 00:14:03,400 --> 00:14:06,960 Speaker 1: like you know, excitement and spark, and I think to 283 00:14:06,960 --> 00:14:08,720 Speaker 1: myself sometimes like I wish we were still a bit 284 00:14:08,760 --> 00:14:11,880 Speaker 1: more like that. But then seeing that video just reminded 285 00:14:11,920 --> 00:14:14,160 Speaker 1: me like we don't need to be fixated on the 286 00:14:14,240 --> 00:14:17,720 Speaker 1: spark that we had in the beginning because it was 287 00:14:17,800 --> 00:14:21,720 Speaker 1: just nerves and anxiety where now you know, yeah, we're 288 00:14:21,760 --> 00:14:23,520 Speaker 1: eight years in and I could say like, oh, we 289 00:14:23,600 --> 00:14:24,960 Speaker 1: used to have much more of a spark back in 290 00:14:25,000 --> 00:14:28,200 Speaker 1: the day, but now, like I have safety and stability 291 00:14:28,480 --> 00:14:30,920 Speaker 1: and comfort, and so it just really made me like 292 00:14:31,000 --> 00:14:35,800 Speaker 1: shift my mindset around relationships, and I just felt like 293 00:14:35,880 --> 00:14:39,160 Speaker 1: I had to share that in the poty, do you 294 00:14:39,240 --> 00:14:41,080 Speaker 1: know what I mean? Though, like people, we can get 295 00:14:41,120 --> 00:14:44,040 Speaker 1: so caught up on losing the spark in the relationship 296 00:14:44,080 --> 00:14:46,160 Speaker 1: and making a big deal out of it when it's like, no, 297 00:14:46,360 --> 00:14:49,040 Speaker 1: you just lost your nervousness and anxiousness about whether this 298 00:14:49,080 --> 00:14:52,200 Speaker 1: person likes you or not, and now hopefully you're in 299 00:14:52,240 --> 00:14:57,760 Speaker 1: a safe relationship where the person is comfortable. It makes 300 00:14:57,760 --> 00:15:01,320 Speaker 1: you feel comfort and safe, and you the fuck up. 301 00:15:02,000 --> 00:15:04,120 Speaker 2: I'm really looking forward to just cracking up. 302 00:15:04,240 --> 00:15:07,800 Speaker 1: Oh my god, I love that video. One of my 303 00:15:07,840 --> 00:15:10,080 Speaker 1: biggest flexes is he follows me on tiktoks. 304 00:15:10,400 --> 00:15:12,760 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, oh my god, because. 305 00:15:13,600 --> 00:15:15,120 Speaker 1: And by the way, we're talking about the guy that 306 00:15:15,160 --> 00:15:17,960 Speaker 1: played Matt in Lizzie Maguire, like the guy that played 307 00:15:17,960 --> 00:15:21,560 Speaker 1: Lizzie's little brother. But yeah, anyway, he follows me because 308 00:15:21,560 --> 00:15:23,680 Speaker 1: I commented on the video of him saying, I'm just 309 00:15:23,720 --> 00:15:26,200 Speaker 1: really looking forward to cracking up. I haven't cracked up 310 00:15:26,200 --> 00:15:27,120 Speaker 1: in a really long time. 311 00:15:27,400 --> 00:15:29,520 Speaker 2: So he thought you were hot and gave you a follow. Yeah, 312 00:15:29,880 --> 00:15:32,560 Speaker 2: but I was gonna say, Osmosis Jones is the movie 313 00:15:32,640 --> 00:15:35,840 Speaker 2: premiere that he's at. Yeah, And that's crazy because Osmosis 314 00:15:35,960 --> 00:15:39,040 Speaker 2: Jones was my movie as a kid that would go 315 00:15:39,240 --> 00:15:44,160 Speaker 2: on repeat and I loved it. So it's literally about 316 00:15:44,160 --> 00:15:48,360 Speaker 2: like the cells inside your body and like the characters. Yeah, 317 00:15:48,360 --> 00:15:50,840 Speaker 2: the characters are all crack up germs. Yeah, I cracked 318 00:15:50,920 --> 00:15:56,000 Speaker 2: up characters are all like germs. And it's actually like 319 00:15:56,040 --> 00:15:58,360 Speaker 2: one of the best movies of all time. But I 320 00:15:58,440 --> 00:16:01,040 Speaker 2: made a TikTok about it a few years ago where 321 00:16:01,080 --> 00:16:03,520 Speaker 2: it was like there was a trending sound and it 322 00:16:03,560 --> 00:16:05,640 Speaker 2: was like everyone's got a movie from their childhood that 323 00:16:05,720 --> 00:16:07,920 Speaker 2: they watched on repeat, but no one else has ever 324 00:16:07,960 --> 00:16:11,720 Speaker 2: heard of. And for me, it's Geppeto, which is the sound? 325 00:16:11,800 --> 00:16:14,479 Speaker 2: Which is the sound. But then when they say geppedo, 326 00:16:14,920 --> 00:16:17,240 Speaker 2: you put up the movie that it was for you, 327 00:16:17,320 --> 00:16:19,760 Speaker 2: and I put up Osmosis Jones and no one fucking 328 00:16:19,800 --> 00:16:23,200 Speaker 2: knew what I was Mosus Jones was, and I was like, damn, 329 00:16:23,320 --> 00:16:25,040 Speaker 2: this was like the best. Do you know what it is? 330 00:16:25,080 --> 00:16:28,080 Speaker 2: Google girl? Yeah, I was Moss Jones. If you haven't 331 00:16:28,080 --> 00:16:29,840 Speaker 2: watched it, I wouldn't even know where you find it. 332 00:16:29,920 --> 00:16:31,640 Speaker 2: I mean, he was on Disney Channel and so I'm 333 00:16:31,640 --> 00:16:34,320 Speaker 2: assuming it was a Disney movie. Maybe it's on Disney 334 00:16:34,320 --> 00:16:37,160 Speaker 2: Plus or something. But if I can find Ozmoses Jones, 335 00:16:37,160 --> 00:16:40,680 Speaker 2: That's what I'm doing. I'm watching Oz Moss Jones tonight. 336 00:16:41,520 --> 00:16:42,120 Speaker 3: Nice. 337 00:16:42,360 --> 00:16:44,720 Speaker 1: Well, Matt, we got to go because I got business 338 00:16:44,720 --> 00:16:45,320 Speaker 1: to attend to. 339 00:16:45,480 --> 00:16:51,920 Speaker 2: Yeah right, we'll see you next Tuesday.