1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:03,640 Speaker 1: Hey everyone, and welcome back to hear Me With. Sorry, guys, 2 00:00:03,640 --> 00:00:05,920 Speaker 1: she keeps paying me to come on this podcast. I'm 3 00:00:05,960 --> 00:00:10,920 Speaker 1: spending all my life savings to be here. Hi, guys, 4 00:00:11,000 --> 00:00:14,160 Speaker 1: welcome back to hear Me Out. I'm your host Busy Armitage. 5 00:00:14,240 --> 00:00:17,239 Speaker 1: And today we've got my sister Riley again. Riley has 6 00:00:17,280 --> 00:00:19,560 Speaker 1: moved out. We don't live together, I think since we've 7 00:00:19,640 --> 00:00:22,959 Speaker 1: last recorded. I think we did last time. Yeah, probably 8 00:00:23,720 --> 00:00:28,319 Speaker 1: what's changed because I personally am living. I live with 9 00:00:28,360 --> 00:00:31,240 Speaker 1: my brother now. He made me dinner last night. I 10 00:00:31,280 --> 00:00:34,199 Speaker 1: offered to clean up. He said no. He said he 11 00:00:34,400 --> 00:00:38,640 Speaker 1: likes cleaning when he cooks. I said, fine, by me. Wow, 12 00:00:38,800 --> 00:00:41,800 Speaker 1: I know he's so cute. I go, oh, fuck, case 13 00:00:41,800 --> 00:00:44,200 Speaker 1: we need to move our cars. Like there we've got 14 00:00:44,240 --> 00:00:47,239 Speaker 1: like fucking annoying the car spot where we live is 15 00:00:47,320 --> 00:00:50,360 Speaker 1: like one behind each other, like they're not next to 16 00:00:50,400 --> 00:00:52,239 Speaker 1: each other, so you kind of whoever's leaving first in 17 00:00:52,280 --> 00:00:54,160 Speaker 1: the morning needs to make sure they're like at the back. 18 00:00:54,920 --> 00:00:56,400 Speaker 1: It's I go, oh shit, Casey, we need to move 19 00:00:56,400 --> 00:00:58,400 Speaker 1: our cars. He goes, don't worry, I'll just do it. 20 00:00:58,520 --> 00:01:02,840 Speaker 1: Give me your keys. Huh. I know what a gentleman 21 00:01:02,960 --> 00:01:07,040 Speaker 1: he's honestly, Like we were talking, Delaney, my friend, came 22 00:01:07,080 --> 00:01:09,760 Speaker 1: over to help me pack for New York, and she 23 00:01:09,840 --> 00:01:11,880 Speaker 1: was sitting with us, obviously we're eating dinner, and she 24 00:01:12,040 --> 00:01:14,720 Speaker 1: was like, fuck, Like, it's so nice seeing you and 25 00:01:14,760 --> 00:01:16,840 Speaker 1: your brother like not argue and like just chat like 26 00:01:16,880 --> 00:01:19,840 Speaker 1: normal people. And Casey was like, yeah, you know, it's 27 00:01:19,840 --> 00:01:21,720 Speaker 1: like I think it's having a like dynamic of three 28 00:01:22,000 --> 00:01:24,320 Speaker 1: as in Me, Riley, Casey, and I'm like, O, Casey, 29 00:01:24,319 --> 00:01:27,160 Speaker 1: it's you like me and Riley fight, it's you, like 30 00:01:27,280 --> 00:01:29,720 Speaker 1: you are the anomaly that like makes our life easy. 31 00:01:30,280 --> 00:01:32,959 Speaker 1: He's honestly the worst I know he really is. If 32 00:01:33,000 --> 00:01:36,080 Speaker 1: I'm go follow him on Instagram. Oh he always gets 33 00:01:36,120 --> 00:01:38,200 Speaker 1: so many follows every time we mentioned him on this 34 00:01:38,360 --> 00:01:41,320 Speaker 1: He really he's so cute. Oh no, he deserves the world. 35 00:01:41,319 --> 00:01:43,920 Speaker 1: Who really does. Yeah, there are many men out there 36 00:01:43,959 --> 00:01:46,520 Speaker 1: like that, So everyone should as fire to be like Casey. 37 00:01:47,000 --> 00:01:49,600 Speaker 1: They should. Maybe he should teach a course. So Delaney 38 00:01:49,640 --> 00:01:51,600 Speaker 1: came over to help me pack yesterday, and I'm not 39 00:01:51,680 --> 00:01:53,840 Speaker 1: leaving for a week, so like usually I'm a night 40 00:01:53,880 --> 00:01:57,320 Speaker 1: before packer. And I say that because you know how 41 00:01:57,320 --> 00:01:59,640 Speaker 1: hard it is to like pack and then need to 42 00:01:59,640 --> 00:02:05,040 Speaker 1: pull stuff from the suitcase. Then stress. So now, by 43 00:02:05,080 --> 00:02:06,840 Speaker 1: the way, I'm going to be in uglies for the 44 00:02:06,840 --> 00:02:09,959 Speaker 1: next because I've packed a nice ship, going to be 45 00:02:09,960 --> 00:02:13,760 Speaker 1: in the rejects. Yeah, so we packed all my clothes, 46 00:02:13,840 --> 00:02:16,760 Speaker 1: like my nice clothes, like not like comfies, not coach 47 00:02:16,800 --> 00:02:19,120 Speaker 1: other stuff like the clothes I'll be like wearing in 48 00:02:19,200 --> 00:02:25,720 Speaker 1: New York. One whole suitcase packed to the brim. Fuck. Yeah, 49 00:02:25,919 --> 00:02:28,639 Speaker 1: so I have going to be two suitcase. I'm bringing two. 50 00:02:29,040 --> 00:02:34,160 Speaker 1: But then I have bags, shoes, jackets, coats like coats 51 00:02:34,160 --> 00:02:36,160 Speaker 1: for cold weather. You haven't packed the coats in your 52 00:02:36,200 --> 00:02:39,760 Speaker 1: New York suitcase? Yeah? No, oh my fuck. All shoes 53 00:02:39,880 --> 00:02:43,840 Speaker 1: or bags or accessories or pajamas or comfy clothes, trackies, 54 00:02:44,480 --> 00:02:48,480 Speaker 1: none of that. This is pants, skirts, tops, and dresses. 55 00:02:49,280 --> 00:02:52,880 Speaker 1: Just nice clothes, nice clothes, and no tillerderies. No, in 56 00:02:52,880 --> 00:02:55,440 Speaker 1: my opinion, takes up half of one noes, no makeup, 57 00:02:55,440 --> 00:02:57,880 Speaker 1: no hair tools. Okay, all right, I don't know it 58 00:02:57,919 --> 00:03:00,000 Speaker 1: ever again, you're going to need to cold the clothes. 59 00:03:00,800 --> 00:03:03,399 Speaker 1: I don't want to. You have to. I don't feel 60 00:03:03,400 --> 00:03:05,799 Speaker 1: like I actually have to. I think okay, I don't 61 00:03:05,800 --> 00:03:09,079 Speaker 1: even think it's possible to purchase another suitcase. After two, 62 00:03:09,400 --> 00:03:12,280 Speaker 1: I think that's it. I'm bringing three, one of which 63 00:03:12,320 --> 00:03:16,400 Speaker 1: is Coachella stuff like boots, my stuff for Coachella. The 64 00:03:16,480 --> 00:03:19,240 Speaker 1: jackets will be wearing for the brand I'm going with, 65 00:03:19,600 --> 00:03:21,720 Speaker 1: and that I will sent home with Delaney when she 66 00:03:21,800 --> 00:03:24,359 Speaker 1: goes home because she's only there for ten days, so said, 67 00:03:24,400 --> 00:03:26,040 Speaker 1: she just take it home with Okay, So then she 68 00:03:26,080 --> 00:03:28,119 Speaker 1: can hold one of your suitcases and I'll just pay 69 00:03:28,160 --> 00:03:30,360 Speaker 1: for logistics. I'm just was wondering how that was going 70 00:03:30,400 --> 00:03:34,280 Speaker 1: to fucking work logistically. I've gone with three suitcases four 71 00:03:34,320 --> 00:03:38,520 Speaker 1: suitcases before, but two carry ons, so I have four 72 00:03:38,600 --> 00:03:40,840 Speaker 1: because the carry on is also going to be needing 73 00:03:40,880 --> 00:03:43,800 Speaker 1: to be carried. They tearry on suitcase, which is where 74 00:03:43,840 --> 00:03:47,840 Speaker 1: my bags and accessories are gonna go, and maybe some 75 00:03:47,880 --> 00:03:49,760 Speaker 1: shoes I can fit in there. How big is this 76 00:03:49,800 --> 00:03:51,520 Speaker 1: carry on? To your pick a normal one like a 77 00:03:51,560 --> 00:03:53,800 Speaker 1: July one? Yeah, I know, but that's not gonna work. 78 00:03:54,000 --> 00:03:57,200 Speaker 1: Usually I put my handbags and my shoes and my 79 00:03:57,280 --> 00:04:01,320 Speaker 1: Sonny is in the carrier, not all my shoes like Ushu. Yeah, 80 00:04:01,600 --> 00:04:03,960 Speaker 1: like one, like one shoe. And the problem with it 81 00:04:04,000 --> 00:04:07,800 Speaker 1: being like a cold place, things are bigger coats, a 82 00:04:07,840 --> 00:04:11,960 Speaker 1: bigger boots are bigger. I'm not bringing thongs. I'm bringing boots. 83 00:04:12,360 --> 00:04:14,760 Speaker 1: But then what about Coachella that'll be warm. Yeah, but 84 00:04:14,760 --> 00:04:17,159 Speaker 1: that's this whole sep of suitcase. That's fine. Wow, this 85 00:04:17,200 --> 00:04:19,440 Speaker 1: stresses me. I'm stressed. So that's why I'm like, I'm 86 00:04:19,440 --> 00:04:21,800 Speaker 1: doing it so fucking early because I need to be 87 00:04:21,839 --> 00:04:23,200 Speaker 1: able to You're not going to wear any of this 88 00:04:23,240 --> 00:04:25,960 Speaker 1: Coachella shit beforehand. No, And last year I did it 89 00:04:26,000 --> 00:04:28,120 Speaker 1: so fucking badly, which I think is why I'm just 90 00:04:28,160 --> 00:04:30,599 Speaker 1: like giving a runner heads up. Never ever packed like this. 91 00:04:31,520 --> 00:04:33,719 Speaker 1: I spent about a month before. I'm like someone that 92 00:04:33,760 --> 00:04:36,159 Speaker 1: writes lists. I've started writing a what to bring to 93 00:04:36,240 --> 00:04:39,040 Speaker 1: New York list five months ago. You know, as soon 94 00:04:39,080 --> 00:04:41,040 Speaker 1: as you have a thought. Every time I buy an 95 00:04:41,040 --> 00:04:42,640 Speaker 1: item of clothing that I think would be nice for 96 00:04:42,680 --> 00:04:44,599 Speaker 1: New York, I added to the list. And that's been Yeah. 97 00:04:44,640 --> 00:04:46,120 Speaker 1: So the list is long, and a lot of this 98 00:04:46,160 --> 00:04:47,960 Speaker 1: shit on the list is stuff that I wouldn't bring 99 00:04:48,040 --> 00:04:51,000 Speaker 1: any more. But it's nice because then at least when 100 00:04:51,000 --> 00:04:52,920 Speaker 1: i'm packing and i'm in bed the night before I leave, 101 00:04:52,960 --> 00:04:54,680 Speaker 1: you can like scroll through and just double check you've 102 00:04:54,680 --> 00:04:57,159 Speaker 1: got all those things you really wanted to bring anyway 103 00:04:58,120 --> 00:05:00,240 Speaker 1: instead of a list, well I had the list, well, 104 00:05:00,279 --> 00:05:03,720 Speaker 1: but I chucked everything I wanted to bring to LA 105 00:05:03,880 --> 00:05:07,120 Speaker 1: last year just in the corner of my room. Do 106 00:05:07,160 --> 00:05:09,320 Speaker 1: you remember how it ended up covering the whole wall. 107 00:05:10,440 --> 00:05:13,560 Speaker 1: And so then my friend Georgie comes over and goes, okay, 108 00:05:13,640 --> 00:05:16,520 Speaker 1: let's pack. It's the night before I'm leaving. She goes, Izzy, 109 00:05:17,360 --> 00:05:19,800 Speaker 1: that would take seven suitcases to fit all those fucking clothing, Like, 110 00:05:19,839 --> 00:05:21,560 Speaker 1: there's no way in hell that we can bring all 111 00:05:21,560 --> 00:05:23,760 Speaker 1: that stuff. So not only did I have to cull 112 00:05:23,800 --> 00:05:25,839 Speaker 1: through a pile of fucking clothes on the floor, like 113 00:05:25,920 --> 00:05:29,320 Speaker 1: not a pile like mountains, Yes, I remember, I also 114 00:05:29,360 --> 00:05:31,719 Speaker 1: had to rehang everything that I didn't want to bring. 115 00:05:32,360 --> 00:05:35,520 Speaker 1: So never take things off until you're packing, Like take 116 00:05:35,560 --> 00:05:36,800 Speaker 1: it out as you're putting them on. Do you know 117 00:05:36,839 --> 00:05:39,000 Speaker 1: what I mean? I don't know that regular people do that. 118 00:05:39,600 --> 00:05:41,440 Speaker 1: Put it in a pile of cloa And that pile 119 00:05:41,520 --> 00:05:43,760 Speaker 1: started a month before I left, So it just grew 120 00:05:43,800 --> 00:05:45,440 Speaker 1: and grew and grew, and then there was stuff sitting 121 00:05:45,440 --> 00:05:46,960 Speaker 1: there that I'm like, I would never fucking bring that. 122 00:05:47,760 --> 00:05:49,800 Speaker 1: And then to top it off, I go fucking shopping today. 123 00:05:52,520 --> 00:05:54,800 Speaker 1: I go shopping. You'll be in New York, do it there. 124 00:05:55,080 --> 00:05:58,480 Speaker 1: I wanted some skivvy, like a turtleneck tank top, where'd 125 00:05:58,480 --> 00:06:01,000 Speaker 1: you get it from? Cook? I lovely one? And some 126 00:06:01,120 --> 00:06:06,880 Speaker 1: nice suit shorts lovely jobblely lovely what was that? Tess? 127 00:06:06,880 --> 00:06:09,400 Speaker 1: And I've been saying all these things like sounds I 128 00:06:09,440 --> 00:06:14,279 Speaker 1: feel like done funds. That's disgusting. If we want to 129 00:06:14,320 --> 00:06:19,200 Speaker 1: do something, we go, let's David do I don't know 130 00:06:19,360 --> 00:06:22,920 Speaker 1: that is and lovely jobbley if anyone wants to implement 131 00:06:23,000 --> 00:06:25,280 Speaker 1: that into their life. I don't think anyone needs to 132 00:06:25,760 --> 00:06:29,159 Speaker 1: fund though. You know nah. One of my favorite things 133 00:06:29,160 --> 00:06:31,640 Speaker 1: that you do say though, I think you can get 134 00:06:32,520 --> 00:06:36,159 Speaker 1: fuck Okay, give me a hint, you know what, I'll 135 00:06:36,160 --> 00:06:37,719 Speaker 1: get that. But you know, when people do you see 136 00:06:37,720 --> 00:06:40,159 Speaker 1: those tiktoks, people have that thing over their head and 137 00:06:40,200 --> 00:06:42,920 Speaker 1: it's like what do we say when X y Z 138 00:06:43,080 --> 00:06:45,280 Speaker 1: and they're like some of my favorite they make me 139 00:06:45,320 --> 00:06:48,200 Speaker 1: feel like I am not living up to my potential 140 00:06:48,279 --> 00:06:50,279 Speaker 1: of like funniness, you know what I mean? Because these 141 00:06:50,320 --> 00:06:52,880 Speaker 1: people say the best fucking shit and some of these 142 00:06:52,920 --> 00:06:55,799 Speaker 1: you just go, you have the funnest fucking friendship anyway, 143 00:06:55,920 --> 00:06:58,120 Speaker 1: That's not Riley and I. We don't have that joy 144 00:06:58,160 --> 00:07:00,880 Speaker 1: of having a fun friendship. But Riley does say, Okay, 145 00:07:00,920 --> 00:07:03,440 Speaker 1: it's when something like it's kind of embarrassing, it kind 146 00:07:03,440 --> 00:07:05,680 Speaker 1: of really sucks, and it's like, oh fuck, that's fuck 147 00:07:05,760 --> 00:07:09,320 Speaker 1: my Chung's life. No, it's like Grimmothy shallow May Yeah 148 00:07:09,600 --> 00:07:20,160 Speaker 1: yeah fuck yeah, so good, so good. Any others, Yeah, 149 00:07:20,240 --> 00:07:22,320 Speaker 1: let's see if we've got any others. I don't think 150 00:07:22,360 --> 00:07:24,640 Speaker 1: I have any. I'm like, not someone that uses words 151 00:07:24,680 --> 00:07:26,960 Speaker 1: like that. Fuck. I don't know. We're gonna need longer 152 00:07:26,960 --> 00:07:31,080 Speaker 1: to think about this. What are you laughing at that? 153 00:07:31,200 --> 00:07:35,480 Speaker 1: Like we're gonna come up with that? I think of anything, 154 00:07:36,160 --> 00:07:37,680 Speaker 1: you know? The tictok I really want to do with 155 00:07:37,880 --> 00:07:42,040 Speaker 1: Izzy is I don't want to do that. It's so funny. 156 00:07:42,200 --> 00:07:45,800 Speaker 1: You've sent it to time year something I don't want 157 00:07:45,840 --> 00:07:47,680 Speaker 1: to Every time I see it, I think it's so funny. 158 00:07:47,680 --> 00:07:50,120 Speaker 1: I don't have My brain is so not funny. And 159 00:07:50,160 --> 00:07:52,080 Speaker 1: quickly I think you would think of things. I've been 160 00:07:52,120 --> 00:07:54,960 Speaker 1: pre organized, So you're gonna end up insulting me. Okay, 161 00:07:55,000 --> 00:07:56,600 Speaker 1: well that's the point. We both insult each other. I 162 00:07:56,640 --> 00:07:59,320 Speaker 1: don't want to be insulted. It's just for a context. Everyone. 163 00:07:59,320 --> 00:08:01,840 Speaker 1: It's the TikTok where people are reading out live comments 164 00:08:01,840 --> 00:08:03,720 Speaker 1: as if they're on a live and you can only 165 00:08:03,760 --> 00:08:05,760 Speaker 1: do it with someone who you can insult, and like 166 00:08:05,840 --> 00:08:08,080 Speaker 1: Riley would be like, oh fuck, that girl's had like 167 00:08:08,160 --> 00:08:10,520 Speaker 1: way too much plastic surgery, and then she'd be like whoa, 168 00:08:10,600 --> 00:08:13,040 Speaker 1: that's like so me the girl with the pinched nose, 169 00:08:13,120 --> 00:08:15,400 Speaker 1: Like how did she do her contour? Like that's what 170 00:08:15,520 --> 00:08:21,160 Speaker 1: That's what I'd be reading out, dude. Someone commented on 171 00:08:21,200 --> 00:08:23,360 Speaker 1: my video today and goes, you have a witch nose. 172 00:08:23,360 --> 00:08:25,600 Speaker 1: It's like, I actually really don't have a witch nose, 173 00:08:25,720 --> 00:08:29,040 Speaker 1: which noses, which noses a hook nose? So bad one 174 00:08:29,200 --> 00:08:36,360 Speaker 1: bad one, but nice try, but it's pinched and not witchy. Okay, 175 00:08:36,360 --> 00:08:37,880 Speaker 1: this is I don't know if it's to hear me out, 176 00:08:37,880 --> 00:08:41,240 Speaker 1: but hear me out. I really hope and pray that 177 00:08:41,679 --> 00:08:44,600 Speaker 1: Capris never go out of style. I love them so much. 178 00:08:45,080 --> 00:08:46,680 Speaker 1: I love them too. This is something I've been thinking 179 00:08:46,679 --> 00:08:49,040 Speaker 1: about because things are phases and Capris were not in 180 00:08:49,440 --> 00:08:51,840 Speaker 1: like two years ago, but they're basically just like a 181 00:08:51,920 --> 00:08:54,400 Speaker 1: pant like yeah, I know, but things good, no meaning, 182 00:08:54,600 --> 00:08:56,360 Speaker 1: I know, I'm saying, So why can't we just keep 183 00:08:56,400 --> 00:08:58,839 Speaker 1: them in forever because they're like just a pant. I 184 00:08:58,960 --> 00:09:01,160 Speaker 1: just love them. You know what used to be in 185 00:09:01,400 --> 00:09:06,760 Speaker 1: but isn't any more. Collettes, colotes, like they're like clots. 186 00:09:07,440 --> 00:09:09,800 Speaker 1: The long pants, no, but they're not long. They're like 187 00:09:09,880 --> 00:09:12,760 Speaker 1: kind of short. They're like mid calf and they're I 188 00:09:12,840 --> 00:09:15,120 Speaker 1: hate them. No, I'm saying they need to stay out. 189 00:09:15,440 --> 00:09:18,160 Speaker 1: But capris they need to be tight. They need to 190 00:09:18,200 --> 00:09:20,840 Speaker 1: be tight on the booty, and they need to sit 191 00:09:20,960 --> 00:09:22,640 Speaker 1: My favorite of the ones that sit right. Or you 192 00:09:22,679 --> 00:09:24,840 Speaker 1: can just have the like the three quarter pants who 193 00:09:24,880 --> 00:09:27,240 Speaker 1: are like a little bit looser. They're like jawts to me, 194 00:09:27,559 --> 00:09:30,360 Speaker 1: like the ones I've got from Lem They're like I 195 00:09:30,440 --> 00:09:33,000 Speaker 1: call them jawts, not caprice or whatever. Either way, the 196 00:09:33,000 --> 00:09:35,920 Speaker 1: three quarter style needs to Shorts also need to stay in. Yeah, 197 00:09:35,920 --> 00:09:38,600 Speaker 1: but they do. I think they're you know what, boys 198 00:09:39,240 --> 00:09:42,040 Speaker 1: don't the things that are like the coolest outfits for 199 00:09:42,120 --> 00:09:45,880 Speaker 1: females to wear. Boys don't like a girl with a 200 00:09:45,880 --> 00:09:48,720 Speaker 1: really cool fashion stance that wears like capris and jaorts 201 00:09:48,720 --> 00:09:51,280 Speaker 1: and all that fun stuff and like tabbies and shit. 202 00:09:51,360 --> 00:09:53,920 Speaker 1: It's like they're for the female life. They're for the girls, 203 00:09:54,280 --> 00:09:56,480 Speaker 1: and you might leave the house being like, wow, I 204 00:09:56,480 --> 00:09:59,000 Speaker 1: feel so steazy, like I look so cool and it's like, 205 00:09:59,800 --> 00:10:01,559 Speaker 1: no boy won't look at you. But there are some 206 00:10:01,679 --> 00:10:04,040 Speaker 1: men who would fucking love that. Yeah. Like, are some 207 00:10:04,080 --> 00:10:07,480 Speaker 1: girls like when men dressed in like more like femme clothes. Yeah, 208 00:10:07,520 --> 00:10:10,240 Speaker 1: I like that, yeah, and some girls fucking hate it. 209 00:10:10,280 --> 00:10:13,200 Speaker 1: But like I always say, like Capriza for the female gaze, 210 00:10:13,320 --> 00:10:15,560 Speaker 1: but I wish they weren't because they're so fucking cool. 211 00:10:15,640 --> 00:10:18,000 Speaker 1: I think I thinks are also probably for the female gaze. 212 00:10:18,160 --> 00:10:20,880 Speaker 1: I'm still not even like really on board with ballet flats. 213 00:10:20,920 --> 00:10:22,880 Speaker 1: It's not that I don't I love them. I don't 214 00:10:22,920 --> 00:10:24,800 Speaker 1: hate all of them, like those ones I quite like, 215 00:10:24,880 --> 00:10:27,480 Speaker 1: but you know the ones I fucking hate. Hear me 216 00:10:27,559 --> 00:10:31,559 Speaker 1: out the mesh ones, like the sort of fishnetty ones 217 00:10:31,600 --> 00:10:34,360 Speaker 1: where you can see your toes and sometimes they've got 218 00:10:34,440 --> 00:10:37,080 Speaker 1: diamond ties on them, and I think those are vile. 219 00:10:37,280 --> 00:10:39,800 Speaker 1: These ones. Tell me what you think. I'm obsessed with them. 220 00:10:40,040 --> 00:10:42,040 Speaker 1: I am on board with Tabby's, like I told you, 221 00:10:42,040 --> 00:10:44,040 Speaker 1: I think I mentioned you guys ages ago. I bought them, 222 00:10:44,040 --> 00:10:45,600 Speaker 1: and that would have been like six months ago. I 223 00:10:45,640 --> 00:10:48,679 Speaker 1: haven't worn them once, but I do believe that one 224 00:10:48,720 --> 00:10:52,080 Speaker 1: day I will. They're mem yeah, mimus don't. But like 225 00:10:52,160 --> 00:10:53,679 Speaker 1: the problem with the mesh ones is you can see 226 00:10:53,679 --> 00:10:55,679 Speaker 1: the outline and people's fucking toes to it. If you've 227 00:10:55,720 --> 00:10:57,839 Speaker 1: got nice toes, which I don't know, but you can 228 00:10:57,840 --> 00:11:00,680 Speaker 1: see like the toenail, like do you know what I mean? 229 00:11:00,720 --> 00:11:03,280 Speaker 1: That's like poking up through the mesh. Like it's gross. 230 00:11:03,760 --> 00:11:06,360 Speaker 1: I just think the ones you're wearing now, great, they 231 00:11:06,440 --> 00:11:08,679 Speaker 1: kind of just look like honestly, Tabby is without the 232 00:11:08,720 --> 00:11:11,280 Speaker 1: slip between the toe what you're wearing right now, Yeah, 233 00:11:11,320 --> 00:11:15,840 Speaker 1: without the cameltoe, which I prefer. Without the moose knuckle. Yeah, 234 00:11:15,880 --> 00:11:18,959 Speaker 1: it's actually ugly. It's like, fuck, I get that they 235 00:11:19,000 --> 00:11:21,319 Speaker 1: look cool, but if we actually look at that shoe, 236 00:11:21,360 --> 00:11:23,679 Speaker 1: that's hideous, you know what I mean? Yeah, but I 237 00:11:24,080 --> 00:11:26,920 Speaker 1: think they look cool with jeans, I do. I don't 238 00:11:27,000 --> 00:11:31,199 Speaker 1: like when people wear them with short skirts short skirts. 239 00:11:31,240 --> 00:11:33,079 Speaker 1: I like them only when you can see the tip 240 00:11:33,160 --> 00:11:35,640 Speaker 1: of them poking out jeans, the tip of the toe, 241 00:11:35,880 --> 00:11:38,559 Speaker 1: the tip of the moove snuckle. Yeah, moose knuckles like 242 00:11:38,600 --> 00:11:41,280 Speaker 1: one of my favorite things ever to say. I've said 243 00:11:41,280 --> 00:11:42,959 Speaker 1: it a few times in a short amount of time. 244 00:11:42,960 --> 00:11:45,079 Speaker 1: I've said it to it all three times, now, give 245 00:11:45,120 --> 00:11:47,679 Speaker 1: it a go. It feels good. Moose knuckle. Didn't that 246 00:11:48,080 --> 00:11:55,840 Speaker 1: it sounds crispy? Yeah, snuckle. We have a listener hearing 247 00:11:55,880 --> 00:11:58,040 Speaker 1: me out. Oh. We were talking about a listening hear 248 00:11:58,080 --> 00:11:59,440 Speaker 1: me out the other day and I ran into the 249 00:11:59,480 --> 00:12:01,800 Speaker 1: girl I know, and she was like because she said 250 00:12:01,800 --> 00:12:04,200 Speaker 1: she sent it in like last year, and she was like, 251 00:12:04,360 --> 00:12:05,959 Speaker 1: I can't believe you read it. Like I was randomly 252 00:12:05,960 --> 00:12:07,120 Speaker 1: just driving in my car and I was like, I 253 00:12:07,120 --> 00:12:08,960 Speaker 1: sent that in like six months ago. I can't believe you. 254 00:12:09,520 --> 00:12:11,760 Speaker 1: How funny is that? Anyway? Nice to meet you girl, 255 00:12:12,040 --> 00:12:16,240 Speaker 1: all right, why are you fucking giggling? Yeah? You the fuck? 256 00:12:16,880 --> 00:12:19,200 Speaker 1: What the fuck you hear me out. As soon as 257 00:12:19,240 --> 00:12:22,800 Speaker 1: famous people get media trained, they become so boring. Yeah, totally, 258 00:12:23,040 --> 00:12:25,319 Speaker 1: Like I don't want to hear if someone's like, oh, 259 00:12:25,400 --> 00:12:28,400 Speaker 1: how did you go recording that movie? Yeah? Like working 260 00:12:28,600 --> 00:12:33,440 Speaker 1: with the director like that was so enlightening and like, no, no, no, no, 261 00:12:33,880 --> 00:12:36,600 Speaker 1: I want your personality. I know it's really sad, but 262 00:12:36,640 --> 00:12:38,840 Speaker 1: it has to happen. There are a few celebrities I 263 00:12:38,880 --> 00:12:44,959 Speaker 1: love watching interviews of Dakota Johnson. It's hilarious of them together. 264 00:12:45,040 --> 00:12:46,720 Speaker 1: I'm not saying they're not media training, but they still 265 00:12:46,800 --> 00:12:48,840 Speaker 1: very much have personality. But like when people have a 266 00:12:48,880 --> 00:12:51,360 Speaker 1: cut and dry copy and paste answered every fucking question 267 00:12:51,400 --> 00:12:56,080 Speaker 1: they get asked. I hate it the heated rivalry interviews. Yeah, 268 00:12:56,600 --> 00:13:01,720 Speaker 1: Hudson after Hudson and Connor Connor, yeah, Hilari, Yeah, Hudson's like, 269 00:13:01,800 --> 00:13:04,719 Speaker 1: seriously not media training. He did like the glambot it 270 00:13:04,840 --> 00:13:07,280 Speaker 1: like the met Gala or something on her wasn't the 271 00:13:07,280 --> 00:13:08,719 Speaker 1: met galer? I think it was because and he like 272 00:13:08,720 --> 00:13:10,760 Speaker 1: stuck his road finger up and everyone's like, hmm, it's 273 00:13:10,840 --> 00:13:12,640 Speaker 1: kind of getting to the pot where you're like the 274 00:13:12,720 --> 00:13:14,360 Speaker 1: road fingers like a little bit immature, do you know 275 00:13:14,440 --> 00:13:18,160 Speaker 1: what I mean? He's like funny, it's personality. They are 276 00:13:18,240 --> 00:13:20,559 Speaker 1: great though they're invited to the Metala this year. Can 277 00:13:20,559 --> 00:13:22,360 Speaker 1: you imagine being on a show and then getting a 278 00:13:22,360 --> 00:13:24,560 Speaker 1: met Gala invite? You know who else is invited to 279 00:13:24,559 --> 00:13:26,760 Speaker 1: the met Gala? Supposedly, I think the list came out, 280 00:13:26,800 --> 00:13:30,320 Speaker 1: but I don't know if it's Orlandria from Love Island US. 281 00:13:31,280 --> 00:13:34,440 Speaker 1: Imagine being on last season of Love Island US and 282 00:13:34,520 --> 00:13:38,040 Speaker 1: now being invited to the Meta invited with a boyfriend 283 00:13:38,600 --> 00:13:41,800 Speaker 1: still dating a guy from that show. Yeah, Nick, Yeah, no, 284 00:13:42,200 --> 00:13:45,000 Speaker 1: just her. Wow. Well I don't know if that list 285 00:13:45,040 --> 00:13:48,160 Speaker 1: is legit, But I also like no offense. I don't 286 00:13:48,200 --> 00:13:50,680 Speaker 1: think Love Island people should be getting invited to the 287 00:13:50,679 --> 00:13:53,520 Speaker 1: met Gala one year out, Like maybe if they establish 288 00:13:53,600 --> 00:13:55,679 Speaker 1: their career and like they then like become like a 289 00:13:55,720 --> 00:13:58,120 Speaker 1: media person and they're like really you know, for a 290 00:13:58,160 --> 00:14:01,040 Speaker 1: couple of years, imagine being like one of the most 291 00:14:01,080 --> 00:14:04,400 Speaker 1: famous actors in the world, like fucking yeah, because love 292 00:14:04,559 --> 00:14:06,480 Speaker 1: and you're not really achieving anything, do you know what 293 00:14:06,480 --> 00:14:08,840 Speaker 1: I mean? Like you've just been picked plucked to be 294 00:14:08,880 --> 00:14:10,719 Speaker 1: on the show that you've applied to and now you're 295 00:14:10,720 --> 00:14:13,199 Speaker 1: at the met Gala. I don't really think they are 296 00:14:14,160 --> 00:14:16,719 Speaker 1: maybe controversial opinion. I don't think they're important enough to 297 00:14:16,720 --> 00:14:20,480 Speaker 1: be invited to the met Gala. I think not immediately anyways. 298 00:14:20,480 --> 00:14:24,440 Speaker 1: I think if they're like really fashionable, because it's like 299 00:14:24,480 --> 00:14:27,080 Speaker 1: a fashion is not I know, I don't. There's nothing 300 00:14:27,080 --> 00:14:29,240 Speaker 1: wrong with her, She's just not I don't think it's 301 00:14:29,240 --> 00:14:30,880 Speaker 1: one year out. It hasn't even been a whole year. 302 00:14:31,200 --> 00:14:33,080 Speaker 1: Has anyone else from Love Island? Oh no, it has 303 00:14:33,120 --> 00:14:36,640 Speaker 1: been a whole year because hooter, No, it hasn't No, 304 00:14:36,720 --> 00:14:39,200 Speaker 1: it hasn't even been a years since that that season 305 00:14:39,240 --> 00:14:41,760 Speaker 1: came out. That's I think you need to be A 306 00:14:41,880 --> 00:14:47,040 Speaker 1: and B listers. B Maybe I think Metgal's preylisters. Like 307 00:14:47,040 --> 00:14:50,280 Speaker 1: when James Charles is invited, I'm like, why was he invited? Yeah? 308 00:14:50,360 --> 00:14:52,320 Speaker 1: Like one, I don't think you ever got invited again, 309 00:14:52,640 --> 00:14:56,040 Speaker 1: like a couple of years ago. Hectic, man, that's like 310 00:14:56,080 --> 00:14:57,680 Speaker 1: what I'll just go apply to fucking love all in 311 00:14:57,680 --> 00:14:59,120 Speaker 1: the US and then next year I'll be invited to 312 00:14:59,160 --> 00:15:01,200 Speaker 1: the Met Gala. Do we know for sure that she's 313 00:15:01,240 --> 00:15:03,720 Speaker 1: invited her as a speculation, I'm pretty sure it's sure. 314 00:15:03,840 --> 00:15:08,360 Speaker 1: Let me look, that's crazy, man, she liken. That's been 315 00:15:08,360 --> 00:15:11,080 Speaker 1: in my head all fucking day. Really yeah, I think 316 00:15:11,080 --> 00:15:13,560 Speaker 1: this Met Gala will be great though, because the theme 317 00:15:13,640 --> 00:15:16,400 Speaker 1: is costume art. The way you're saying it is interesting 318 00:15:16,440 --> 00:15:21,320 Speaker 1: to me. Met Gala. It's met Gala Australian. Australian so 319 00:15:21,960 --> 00:15:26,200 Speaker 1: Garelian accent is Gala? Who says Gala? You've sort of 320 00:15:26,240 --> 00:15:29,880 Speaker 1: been saying that, What did the Americans say Gala? You've 321 00:15:29,880 --> 00:15:33,640 Speaker 1: been saying met Gala is well, I'm saying it like American. Yeah, Well, 322 00:15:33,680 --> 00:15:35,520 Speaker 1: because that's how you hear it said the most. You 323 00:15:35,560 --> 00:15:37,560 Speaker 1: know what I mean, Gala gala. It's not really a word. 324 00:15:37,600 --> 00:15:40,200 Speaker 1: It doesn't really fucking matter. This is a word like 325 00:15:40,280 --> 00:15:45,800 Speaker 1: I say, ketchup. No one judges me. On this week's episode, 326 00:15:45,840 --> 00:15:47,760 Speaker 1: we are doing am I the Arsehole, which honestly, yeah, 327 00:15:47,800 --> 00:15:50,040 Speaker 1: it's probably one of my favorites. I don't mind these. 328 00:15:50,120 --> 00:15:53,880 Speaker 1: Yeah they're interesting, Yeah they are interesting. Okay, ready, yeah, 329 00:15:54,000 --> 00:15:58,080 Speaker 1: hi girlies, love the pod. You were included today. I 330 00:15:58,120 --> 00:16:00,680 Speaker 1: really need some outside perspective on this. Hear me out 331 00:16:00,760 --> 00:16:04,000 Speaker 1: at my the asshole. My best friend, let's call her Lucy, 332 00:16:04,120 --> 00:16:06,440 Speaker 1: and I were friends for sixteen years, but throughout the 333 00:16:06,560 --> 00:16:09,960 Speaker 1: entire time she's had this pattern. She gets into a relationship, 334 00:16:10,840 --> 00:16:15,200 Speaker 1: completely disappears, and her whole personality becomes whatever guy she's dating. 335 00:16:15,800 --> 00:16:19,080 Speaker 1: Fucking hate people like this. I have a very specific example, 336 00:16:19,200 --> 00:16:20,640 Speaker 1: Like there was someone that every time they had in 337 00:16:20,680 --> 00:16:23,960 Speaker 1: your boyfriend, like they'd swap to support the AFL team 338 00:16:24,000 --> 00:16:26,160 Speaker 1: that whatever their boyfriend supported. And I just thought, like 339 00:16:26,760 --> 00:16:29,280 Speaker 1: that is such a weird, pathetic, nothing thing to do, 340 00:16:29,280 --> 00:16:30,760 Speaker 1: do you know what I mean? Like you could just 341 00:16:30,960 --> 00:16:32,720 Speaker 1: he's not going to hate you if you just stick 342 00:16:32,880 --> 00:16:35,240 Speaker 1: to the team. You've always supported, but every year she 343 00:16:35,320 --> 00:16:37,720 Speaker 1: just would change teams based on who her boyfriend support it. 344 00:16:37,720 --> 00:16:40,760 Speaker 1: And I just thought it was the weirdest, like embarrassing, 345 00:16:40,960 --> 00:16:43,240 Speaker 1: unnecessary thing to do, you know. I get that. Then 346 00:16:43,280 --> 00:16:45,200 Speaker 1: when things fall apart, she comes back to me like 347 00:16:45,240 --> 00:16:48,840 Speaker 1: nothing happened. This is actually having a very common issue. 348 00:16:48,960 --> 00:16:51,960 Speaker 1: So about two years ago, Lucy met this guy, let's 349 00:16:51,960 --> 00:16:54,160 Speaker 1: call him Alex. He was older than us and already 350 00:16:54,200 --> 00:16:57,640 Speaker 1: had a reputation for being unfaithful, just generally being and 351 00:16:57,720 --> 00:17:00,800 Speaker 1: just generally being a walking red flag. She really liked him, 352 00:17:00,840 --> 00:17:02,320 Speaker 1: so I supported her and I tried to be a 353 00:17:02,360 --> 00:17:05,720 Speaker 1: good friend. Within weeks, though it was the same cycle, shuttered, 354 00:17:05,720 --> 00:17:08,560 Speaker 1: ditching plans, lying about where she was for ditching the 355 00:17:08,560 --> 00:17:11,800 Speaker 1: plans already made, and centering her entire life around him. 356 00:17:12,400 --> 00:17:15,320 Speaker 1: Then Billy, six weeks in, he cheated on her, shut 357 00:17:15,400 --> 00:17:17,600 Speaker 1: up at my door crying, and of course I let 358 00:17:17,600 --> 00:17:19,879 Speaker 1: her in supported her, even though she basically ignored me 359 00:17:19,920 --> 00:17:21,800 Speaker 1: the whole time she was with him. Three days later 360 00:17:22,080 --> 00:17:25,119 Speaker 1: she told me she's back with him like this. I 361 00:17:25,160 --> 00:17:29,040 Speaker 1: actually fucking hate it, especially when they're toxic, Like if 362 00:17:29,080 --> 00:17:30,760 Speaker 1: they're a really nice guy and your friend goes a 363 00:17:30,800 --> 00:17:34,639 Speaker 1: bit mia, it's like it's not, but when they're toxic, 364 00:17:34,680 --> 00:17:37,040 Speaker 1: it's like it's like I actually had how many times 365 00:17:37,040 --> 00:17:38,560 Speaker 1: going to give you advice? I know, you know, Like 366 00:17:38,640 --> 00:17:41,560 Speaker 1: I'm done now. Apparently it was just a drunken mistake, 367 00:17:41,600 --> 00:17:44,280 Speaker 1: and just like that, the cycle continues. She went right 368 00:17:44,320 --> 00:17:47,360 Speaker 1: back to prioritizing him over everything, including me. One night 369 00:17:47,480 --> 00:17:49,959 Speaker 1: she only hung out with me because he was busy. 370 00:17:50,359 --> 00:17:52,239 Speaker 1: We all knew what that meant. What did it mean 371 00:17:52,680 --> 00:17:54,879 Speaker 1: because he was cheating? I don't know, but she probably 372 00:17:54,880 --> 00:17:57,159 Speaker 1: wouldn't like outwardly know that I've just ripped that off, 373 00:17:57,200 --> 00:18:00,359 Speaker 1: and I'm really upset. When we were together, he called 374 00:18:00,359 --> 00:18:02,400 Speaker 1: her and I heard a completely different side of him. 375 00:18:02,520 --> 00:18:06,120 Speaker 1: He was blunt, rude, arrogant, and honestly just cruel, Completely 376 00:18:06,119 --> 00:18:08,200 Speaker 1: different to the fake charm he put on at the start. 377 00:18:08,880 --> 00:18:12,200 Speaker 1: Out of nowhere, he started making nasty, unprovoked comments about 378 00:18:12,240 --> 00:18:16,760 Speaker 1: both my weight and my partner's weight. Huh, despite barely 379 00:18:16,800 --> 00:18:19,560 Speaker 1: knowing anything about us and never meeting us properly. Fuck 380 00:18:19,600 --> 00:18:21,760 Speaker 1: the fact that you've never even met your friend's boyfriend 381 00:18:21,760 --> 00:18:23,879 Speaker 1: as well. I feel like it's a huge dread flag too, 382 00:18:23,880 --> 00:18:26,800 Speaker 1: because he obviously doesn't care to put time in. I'm 383 00:18:26,840 --> 00:18:28,840 Speaker 1: a firm believer that you should never comment on someone's 384 00:18:28,840 --> 00:18:31,280 Speaker 1: body or appearance, especially when you don't know them or 385 00:18:31,280 --> 00:18:33,960 Speaker 1: what they might be going through. For context, I've struggled 386 00:18:33,960 --> 00:18:37,360 Speaker 1: with my weight for years due to PCOS and endometriosis, 387 00:18:37,680 --> 00:18:40,159 Speaker 1: something Lucy knows has been really sensitive and difficult for me. 388 00:18:40,280 --> 00:18:42,760 Speaker 1: What hurt most, Lucy just laughed and sided with him. 389 00:18:44,119 --> 00:18:46,199 Speaker 1: There's no way in the world that you were an asshole. 390 00:18:46,840 --> 00:18:49,760 Speaker 1: Lucy's boyfriend's an asshole, and Lucy's an unshole. That was 391 00:18:49,800 --> 00:18:52,080 Speaker 1: the moment something shifted for me. I told her I 392 00:18:52,160 --> 00:18:54,600 Speaker 1: wasn't okay with what he said and how she reacted, 393 00:18:54,640 --> 00:18:57,560 Speaker 1: and I started to distance myself, but it didn't stop there. 394 00:18:57,800 --> 00:19:00,840 Speaker 1: Over time, Alex cheated on her again and again eight 395 00:19:01,040 --> 00:19:05,320 Speaker 1: more times to be exact, well, cheating eight times is 396 00:19:05,440 --> 00:19:08,040 Speaker 1: fucking brutal. But like for example, when you find out 397 00:19:08,040 --> 00:19:09,760 Speaker 1: about all the cheating all in one go at the 398 00:19:09,840 --> 00:19:12,560 Speaker 1: end of the relationship, like that sucks. But like saying 399 00:19:13,119 --> 00:19:14,840 Speaker 1: they cheat on you, you find out, you end it, 400 00:19:14,880 --> 00:19:16,479 Speaker 1: you get back, they cheat on you, you find out, 401 00:19:16,520 --> 00:19:20,480 Speaker 1: you get back like that cycle eight times. Fuck me, 402 00:19:20,800 --> 00:19:24,240 Speaker 1: that's hectic. That's also like self respect. I actually don't 403 00:19:24,240 --> 00:19:26,040 Speaker 1: think I could be friends with someone that did that, 404 00:19:26,560 --> 00:19:29,800 Speaker 1: because you would be so hard to watch, and it 405 00:19:29,880 --> 00:19:33,560 Speaker 1: consumes their life, which means it consumes every conversation you 406 00:19:33,640 --> 00:19:36,920 Speaker 1: have with them, because I have had a friend exactly 407 00:19:37,000 --> 00:19:38,560 Speaker 1: like that, and it ended up going on for like 408 00:19:38,680 --> 00:19:43,240 Speaker 1: six years. Wow. He lied, constantly, disrespected her openly, and 409 00:19:43,280 --> 00:19:46,119 Speaker 1: treated her like she was completely disposable. He even got 410 00:19:46,200 --> 00:19:50,080 Speaker 1: other women pregnant while still stringing Lucy along. Every time 411 00:19:50,160 --> 00:19:52,399 Speaker 1: Lucy came back to me heartbroken and every time I 412 00:19:52,440 --> 00:19:54,760 Speaker 1: picked up the pieces, and every time he came back, 413 00:19:55,000 --> 00:19:57,640 Speaker 1: I got dropped like I didn't matter. Eventually, I hit 414 00:19:57,640 --> 00:19:59,879 Speaker 1: my limit. A year goes past, and I told her 415 00:19:59,920 --> 00:20:02,040 Speaker 1: I couldn't keep doing this. I couldn't support her while 416 00:20:02,040 --> 00:20:05,560 Speaker 1: watching her stay in a relationship that was clearly toxic, disrespectful, 417 00:20:05,600 --> 00:20:08,479 Speaker 1: and honestly humiliating, not just for her but for everyone 418 00:20:08,520 --> 00:20:11,880 Speaker 1: around her. I also told her that since she talks 419 00:20:11,920 --> 00:20:14,040 Speaker 1: about wanting to marry him and build a future, I 420 00:20:14,080 --> 00:20:16,560 Speaker 1: didn't see how he can stay close given everything that happened, 421 00:20:16,640 --> 00:20:18,480 Speaker 1: especially after the way he spoke about me and my 422 00:20:18,520 --> 00:20:21,840 Speaker 1: partner and how she allowed it. She chose him and 423 00:20:21,920 --> 00:20:24,920 Speaker 1: just like that, our friendship ended. Now fast forward to today, 424 00:20:25,000 --> 00:20:28,800 Speaker 1: out of nowhere, she messages me, you were right. Turns out, shockingly, 425 00:20:28,840 --> 00:20:32,679 Speaker 1: he never changed. He kept cheating. Shockingly, Oh shock her. 426 00:20:33,080 --> 00:20:36,439 Speaker 1: He kept cheating with multiple women, some literally showing up 427 00:20:36,440 --> 00:20:38,480 Speaker 1: at his house while Lucy was there, claiming he gave 428 00:20:38,520 --> 00:20:41,159 Speaker 1: them an STI or got them pregnant, also to the 429 00:20:41,200 --> 00:20:43,400 Speaker 1: point where he was in full blown relationships with them 430 00:20:43,400 --> 00:20:46,760 Speaker 1: as well. There were constant fights, him storming off, disappearing 431 00:20:46,760 --> 00:20:49,399 Speaker 1: for days, ignoring her, the works, a full blown man 432 00:20:49,480 --> 00:20:53,119 Speaker 1: child at thirty five who clearly has zero respect for 433 00:20:53,119 --> 00:20:56,040 Speaker 1: anyone but himself. Now they've finally broken up and she's 434 00:20:56,080 --> 00:20:59,080 Speaker 1: come back to me, apologizing and begging for forgiveness. She 435 00:20:59,119 --> 00:21:01,560 Speaker 1: has no other friends because everyone else walked away a 436 00:21:01,560 --> 00:21:04,359 Speaker 1: long time ago after seeing the same pattern repeat. Here's 437 00:21:04,359 --> 00:21:06,880 Speaker 1: where I'm start. I still care about her. Sixteen years 438 00:21:06,880 --> 00:21:09,600 Speaker 1: is a long time, but I'm also exhausted. I feel 439 00:21:09,640 --> 00:21:11,959 Speaker 1: like I've been the backup option, the emotional safety net 440 00:21:12,000 --> 00:21:13,919 Speaker 1: when things fall apart, and I don't know if I 441 00:21:13,920 --> 00:21:15,959 Speaker 1: can go back to that. So am I the asshole 442 00:21:16,000 --> 00:21:18,280 Speaker 1: for wanting to protect my peace, my relationship, and my 443 00:21:18,320 --> 00:21:20,400 Speaker 1: self respect and for wanting to not let her back 444 00:21:20,400 --> 00:21:23,240 Speaker 1: in after everything, or is this me just finally choosing myself. 445 00:21:24,240 --> 00:21:27,280 Speaker 1: Oh my god, of course you're not the asshole. No, 446 00:21:27,440 --> 00:21:32,359 Speaker 1: you know, I abs a fucking litely not that is God. 447 00:21:32,400 --> 00:21:36,240 Speaker 1: I'm exhausted listening to it. No, I know. I think 448 00:21:36,640 --> 00:21:39,160 Speaker 1: the hard thing is, yeah, they're done, but like really, 449 00:21:39,320 --> 00:21:42,440 Speaker 1: I feel like in a relationship like that, you can 450 00:21:42,480 --> 00:21:45,800 Speaker 1: never really be sure that even that is the end 451 00:21:45,800 --> 00:21:47,560 Speaker 1: of it. Yeah, she says, you were right. I'm sure 452 00:21:47,600 --> 00:21:51,600 Speaker 1: she said that before. I also think if there's a 453 00:21:51,640 --> 00:21:54,199 Speaker 1: part of you that can be friends with someone but 454 00:21:54,400 --> 00:21:57,720 Speaker 1: not be that invested, like be keep them at arm's length, 455 00:21:57,720 --> 00:21:59,240 Speaker 1: you know, catch up with them every now and then 456 00:21:59,359 --> 00:22:02,640 Speaker 1: if there were ris and if they don't talk about that. Man, 457 00:22:02,720 --> 00:22:04,480 Speaker 1: if she's a friend that gives you, like, I don't know, 458 00:22:04,560 --> 00:22:06,639 Speaker 1: you have fucking fun together, You go out, you really 459 00:22:06,720 --> 00:22:10,720 Speaker 1: enjoy yourself. Keep her canbia going out from Yeah, don't 460 00:22:10,720 --> 00:22:12,239 Speaker 1: want to wanting to bring them all the way in 461 00:22:12,320 --> 00:22:15,360 Speaker 1: because it seems like that'll just lead to more disappointment. 462 00:22:15,560 --> 00:22:18,240 Speaker 1: And the problem with them having just broken up is 463 00:22:18,400 --> 00:22:22,919 Speaker 1: now you're in for the three years of break up 464 00:22:23,000 --> 00:22:25,000 Speaker 1: conversations that you're going to have about him, do you 465 00:22:25,000 --> 00:22:27,439 Speaker 1: know what I mean? Like, it doesn't end when the 466 00:22:27,480 --> 00:22:30,720 Speaker 1: relationship ends, it's now going to be the years that 467 00:22:30,840 --> 00:22:34,600 Speaker 1: follow of talking about that relationship and what it did 468 00:22:34,640 --> 00:22:37,480 Speaker 1: to her. So I don't think you're the arsehole either way. 469 00:22:37,600 --> 00:22:39,800 Speaker 1: I think it is honestly whether you want this girl 470 00:22:39,800 --> 00:22:42,040 Speaker 1: in your life or not. Like, if you don't and 471 00:22:42,080 --> 00:22:44,240 Speaker 1: it's peaceful and she's not going to add anything and 472 00:22:44,280 --> 00:22:47,800 Speaker 1: you don't need it, don't. Like, just because something's been 473 00:22:47,800 --> 00:22:49,760 Speaker 1: a long time doesn't mean it needs to be forever. 474 00:22:49,920 --> 00:22:52,160 Speaker 1: Like you're allowed to throw away something regardless of how 475 00:22:52,160 --> 00:22:54,240 Speaker 1: long it's been. Friends are meant to They're not meant 476 00:22:54,240 --> 00:22:56,080 Speaker 1: to all stay in your life forever. They're just not. 477 00:22:56,160 --> 00:22:57,359 Speaker 1: And like I think a lot of the time you 478 00:22:57,440 --> 00:22:59,080 Speaker 1: end up keeping people that you don't really want in 479 00:22:59,080 --> 00:23:01,959 Speaker 1: your life just because it's in a long time. Yeah, Like, 480 00:23:02,240 --> 00:23:04,680 Speaker 1: it doesn't matter if it's not serving well, I don't 481 00:23:04,680 --> 00:23:06,439 Speaker 1: even mean if it's not serving you, because not everything's 482 00:23:06,480 --> 00:23:08,880 Speaker 1: put on earth to fucking serve you. But like, if 483 00:23:08,880 --> 00:23:11,280 Speaker 1: it's not something that's like fulfilling you and making you happy, 484 00:23:11,320 --> 00:23:13,560 Speaker 1: then it doesn't need to stick around. Yeah, So see 485 00:23:13,600 --> 00:23:20,040 Speaker 1: how you feel, agreed, agreed. I'm twenty six years old 486 00:23:20,080 --> 00:23:21,879 Speaker 1: and I feel like my life turned into a literal 487 00:23:22,080 --> 00:23:24,240 Speaker 1: hr nightmare. And I don't know if I'm the villain 488 00:23:24,320 --> 00:23:27,280 Speaker 1: here or if I'm just caughting someone else's meltdown. So 489 00:23:27,359 --> 00:23:30,320 Speaker 1: I used to work with two coworkers let's call them, Polly, 490 00:23:30,400 --> 00:23:32,680 Speaker 1: who was thirty seven, and Nick, who was thirty one. 491 00:23:33,000 --> 00:23:35,600 Speaker 1: Paullie and I would close at first, but over time 492 00:23:35,640 --> 00:23:38,920 Speaker 1: I naturally clicked way more with Nick. He's closer to 493 00:23:38,960 --> 00:23:42,439 Speaker 1: my age, same vibe, same humor, and it just felt easy. Polly, 494 00:23:42,480 --> 00:23:44,640 Speaker 1: on the other hand, started to feel a bit intense. 495 00:23:45,160 --> 00:23:47,040 Speaker 1: She had no friends outside of work, and no one 496 00:23:47,040 --> 00:23:54,800 Speaker 1: really liked her at work vibes. Sorry, guys, it's not funny, 497 00:23:54,880 --> 00:23:57,840 Speaker 1: but someone describing you like this is just like fuck no. 498 00:23:57,920 --> 00:24:01,880 Speaker 1: But like, there are people that isolate themselves and everyone 499 00:24:02,119 --> 00:24:03,719 Speaker 1: and make people not want to be around them. I 500 00:24:03,720 --> 00:24:06,600 Speaker 1: get I know a lot of people like that. So 501 00:24:06,640 --> 00:24:09,639 Speaker 1: here's the backstory. Polly and Nick had been sleeping together 502 00:24:09,680 --> 00:24:12,120 Speaker 1: for a few months last year. From everything I knew, 503 00:24:12,160 --> 00:24:13,879 Speaker 1: it was casual, and he made it very clear to 504 00:24:13,920 --> 00:24:16,680 Speaker 1: her that he did not want a relationship. Fast forward 505 00:24:16,720 --> 00:24:18,440 Speaker 1: to the end of last year, Nick and I started 506 00:24:18,480 --> 00:24:22,320 Speaker 1: getting closer, his tension, chemistry, the whole are we flirting 507 00:24:22,400 --> 00:24:25,119 Speaker 1: or not? Energy? And at the time I had a boyfriend, 508 00:24:25,800 --> 00:24:29,919 Speaker 1: gral Goral, but it was already falling apart and we 509 00:24:29,960 --> 00:24:32,840 Speaker 1: broke up soon after. Okay. Then one night, while Polly 510 00:24:32,880 --> 00:24:34,879 Speaker 1: was away, Nick and I went out for drinks and 511 00:24:34,920 --> 00:24:37,480 Speaker 1: it was like instant magnetic, one of those this is 512 00:24:37,480 --> 00:24:39,520 Speaker 1: probably a bad idea, but I don't care moments and 513 00:24:39,560 --> 00:24:43,520 Speaker 1: we hooked up. Sounds lovely. She has a boyfriend, No shit, 514 00:24:43,560 --> 00:24:45,920 Speaker 1: they broke up? Oh I missed that. Well, she said 515 00:24:45,960 --> 00:24:47,520 Speaker 1: I had a boyfriend, but it was already falling apart 516 00:24:47,520 --> 00:24:49,280 Speaker 1: and we broke up sooner. Okay, sorry, well, I must 517 00:24:49,520 --> 00:24:51,560 Speaker 1: does not have a whip toned out god. Nice to 518 00:24:51,560 --> 00:24:54,160 Speaker 1: know you listen when I talk. Okay. It didn't stop them. 519 00:24:54,240 --> 00:24:56,359 Speaker 1: We started seeing each other on weekends, keeping it low 520 00:24:56,400 --> 00:24:59,800 Speaker 1: key and not telling Polly because honestly, she had already 521 00:24:59,800 --> 00:25:05,439 Speaker 1: started at acting with this is not funny. I don't know. 522 00:25:05,680 --> 00:25:07,760 Speaker 1: We're having a bit of a day. By that point, 523 00:25:07,840 --> 00:25:10,280 Speaker 1: Pollie and I weren't really friends anymore. Anyway, She's gotten 524 00:25:10,280 --> 00:25:18,760 Speaker 1: super close with my manager. What just Polly? Okay, just 525 00:25:18,800 --> 00:25:25,159 Speaker 1: like fuck, that's a shit ut you know, Oh, oh okay, 526 00:25:25,920 --> 00:25:28,800 Speaker 1: things felt off. Then she actually told me I wasn't 527 00:25:28,800 --> 00:25:30,840 Speaker 1: allowed to speak to Nick unless it was in a 528 00:25:30,880 --> 00:25:35,480 Speaker 1: group chat. Pollie, I have, Polly, I have this thought 529 00:25:35,480 --> 00:25:39,439 Speaker 1: process people, especially in Melbourne and not even Melbourne anywhere, 530 00:25:39,480 --> 00:25:41,960 Speaker 1: really like friendship groups can feel really small after a 531 00:25:41,960 --> 00:25:44,080 Speaker 1: certain amount of time with like the amount of people 532 00:25:44,080 --> 00:25:46,080 Speaker 1: that people you know or work with or are friends with, 533 00:25:46,320 --> 00:25:48,760 Speaker 1: ce you know what I mean, Everyone's there's a bunch 534 00:25:48,760 --> 00:25:51,800 Speaker 1: of degrees of separation. Everyone's seen like fucking six different people, 535 00:25:51,840 --> 00:25:53,680 Speaker 1: they're all connected. You can't go for X Y zed. 536 00:25:54,800 --> 00:25:57,840 Speaker 1: There is a level to which you respect that. I think. 537 00:25:57,920 --> 00:26:00,600 Speaker 1: I think if it's a really good friend, yeah, stay 538 00:26:00,600 --> 00:26:02,200 Speaker 1: the fuck away from their boyfriends, do you know what 539 00:26:02,240 --> 00:26:04,520 Speaker 1: I mean? Generally, stay the fuck away from anyone they 540 00:26:04,520 --> 00:26:07,679 Speaker 1: had serious feelings for still maybe have issues or feelings for. 541 00:26:08,760 --> 00:26:11,760 Speaker 1: But it's like you can't stay away from fucking every 542 00:26:11,760 --> 00:26:14,800 Speaker 1: and so it's just someone had to fling with someone 543 00:26:14,800 --> 00:26:18,240 Speaker 1: who slept with them once or twice. Yeah, I honestly 544 00:26:18,400 --> 00:26:21,080 Speaker 1: am of the feeling that unless it's like there's also 545 00:26:21,119 --> 00:26:23,200 Speaker 1: a time limit on like those sort of flings too. 546 00:26:23,240 --> 00:26:26,760 Speaker 1: I feel like if it's within the last couple years 547 00:26:27,720 --> 00:26:31,120 Speaker 1: and it was like longer than like a couple months, that, yeah, 548 00:26:31,160 --> 00:26:32,959 Speaker 1: it's like at least just give them their heads up, 549 00:26:32,960 --> 00:26:35,960 Speaker 1: you know. Also if someone's in a new relationship that 550 00:26:36,920 --> 00:26:38,879 Speaker 1: changes things, that changes things too. But I'm like, if 551 00:26:38,920 --> 00:26:41,240 Speaker 1: you slept with someone a couple times, like a year ago, 552 00:26:41,280 --> 00:26:44,679 Speaker 1: and they was never anything serious, like, you do not 553 00:26:44,720 --> 00:26:46,760 Speaker 1: get dip, you do not get dis I have a 554 00:26:46,800 --> 00:26:49,120 Speaker 1: real issue with people that call DIBs on everything because 555 00:26:49,160 --> 00:26:51,600 Speaker 1: it's like everyone is so connected and we're all literally 556 00:26:51,640 --> 00:26:54,159 Speaker 1: here to like find someone and someone and it's like 557 00:26:54,280 --> 00:26:58,159 Speaker 1: you guys clearly on each other someone. Yeah, and yeah, 558 00:26:58,280 --> 00:27:01,680 Speaker 1: there's definitely levels to it. Yeah, Boyfriends to me will 559 00:27:01,720 --> 00:27:06,359 Speaker 1: always be not valid unless someone's like fucking married or 560 00:27:06,440 --> 00:27:08,760 Speaker 1: like has been like go for it, like I don't 561 00:27:08,760 --> 00:27:10,760 Speaker 1: want anything to do with him. Yeah, Also he did 562 00:27:10,760 --> 00:27:13,600 Speaker 1: the boyfriend hurt you with a horrible person. I don't know. 563 00:27:14,040 --> 00:27:17,040 Speaker 1: In this case, Polly gets no rights. Sorry, Paul, I'm 564 00:27:17,080 --> 00:27:22,160 Speaker 1: taking Polly's rights away. So that was my cutest step back. 565 00:27:22,359 --> 00:27:24,359 Speaker 1: It felt controlling and I didn't want to deal with it. 566 00:27:24,400 --> 00:27:26,840 Speaker 1: So I distanced myself from Polly and I kept seeing 567 00:27:26,880 --> 00:27:30,280 Speaker 1: Nick Eventually Polly found out, and when I say she spiraled, 568 00:27:30,400 --> 00:27:33,920 Speaker 1: I mean full nuclear She gave us death threats. Spare 569 00:27:33,960 --> 00:27:36,680 Speaker 1: in mine, thirty seven year old woman, death threats. She'd 570 00:27:36,720 --> 00:27:39,640 Speaker 1: be having better things to do. Yeah, message my ex 571 00:27:39,640 --> 00:27:43,080 Speaker 1: boyfriend and his entire family saying that I cheated. Found 572 00:27:43,119 --> 00:27:46,040 Speaker 1: my personal friend group chat for my birthday with people 573 00:27:46,080 --> 00:27:48,520 Speaker 1: from outside of work, and message them the same thing. 574 00:27:49,040 --> 00:27:53,399 Speaker 1: Wouldn't stop harassing me, constant messages in intimidation everything. I 575 00:27:53,480 --> 00:27:55,439 Speaker 1: was genuinely scared at that point because I ended up 576 00:27:55,520 --> 00:27:57,359 Speaker 1: going to the police because that just wouldn't stop. When 577 00:27:57,400 --> 00:27:59,720 Speaker 1: I reported everything to HR, because I just didn't feel 578 00:27:59,720 --> 00:28:03,560 Speaker 1: safe work anymore. Then plot twist. The very next week, 579 00:28:03,600 --> 00:28:05,920 Speaker 1: I get called into a HR meeting. Polly had gone 580 00:28:05,960 --> 00:28:08,320 Speaker 1: to my manager and pulled out old messages I sent 581 00:28:08,440 --> 00:28:11,520 Speaker 1: over a year ago, basically me venting and calling her 582 00:28:11,560 --> 00:28:15,640 Speaker 1: a bitch. Oh about the manager. Polly showed a new 583 00:28:15,640 --> 00:28:19,920 Speaker 1: manager best buddy that this about the manager a year ago. 584 00:28:20,840 --> 00:28:22,160 Speaker 1: I don't care if it was on a year ago, 585 00:28:22,200 --> 00:28:23,760 Speaker 1: I don't care if it was yesterday. You're allowed to 586 00:28:23,760 --> 00:28:26,080 Speaker 1: talk shit on your fucking manager. You could workers God, 587 00:28:26,200 --> 00:28:29,480 Speaker 1: if anyone gets access to my teams somehow that's what 588 00:28:29,600 --> 00:28:32,919 Speaker 1: got me fired. Not the threats, not the harassment, not 589 00:28:33,040 --> 00:28:35,400 Speaker 1: the fact I went to the police, but a private 590 00:28:35,520 --> 00:28:38,320 Speaker 1: vent from a year ago. So now I've lost my job, 591 00:28:38,640 --> 00:28:42,080 Speaker 1: had my reputation dragged through the mud. Babe, Pause, you 592 00:28:42,120 --> 00:28:43,800 Speaker 1: know that you're not the upshole. You know Polly is 593 00:28:44,600 --> 00:28:49,360 Speaker 1: it's Polly secret. Let me let you in. Polly's had 594 00:28:49,400 --> 00:28:51,760 Speaker 1: my ex and his entire family think I'm a horrible person, 595 00:28:51,840 --> 00:28:54,800 Speaker 1: and somehow I'm the one who got punished. Meanwhile, nicka 596 00:28:54,800 --> 00:28:57,360 Speaker 1: has always been clear, had always been clear to Polly 597 00:28:57,400 --> 00:28:59,360 Speaker 1: that he didn't want her, And to this day Nick 598 00:28:59,360 --> 00:29:01,160 Speaker 1: and I still seeing each other and it's turned into 599 00:29:01,160 --> 00:29:03,760 Speaker 1: something real. Wow, So am I the arsehole for hooking 600 00:29:03,840 --> 00:29:05,520 Speaker 1: up with Nick and not telling Polly? Or did this 601 00:29:05,560 --> 00:29:08,520 Speaker 1: whole situation spiral way beyond anything I could control? Probably 602 00:29:08,560 --> 00:29:12,160 Speaker 1: should have told Polly? Yeah, I think, hey, inside, if 603 00:29:12,200 --> 00:29:14,120 Speaker 1: you're in a workplace, you have to see these people 604 00:29:14,120 --> 00:29:17,160 Speaker 1: every fucking day, Probably tell her. I also think in 605 00:29:17,200 --> 00:29:20,120 Speaker 1: a setting like that, it's like, don't approach it with 606 00:29:20,240 --> 00:29:23,479 Speaker 1: Polly like, hey, I'm letting heym Is it okay? If 607 00:29:23,520 --> 00:29:25,600 Speaker 1: I seeing Nick, be like, hey, I'm letting you know 608 00:29:25,720 --> 00:29:28,160 Speaker 1: I've started seeing Nick. Yeah, because if you give people 609 00:29:28,200 --> 00:29:31,320 Speaker 1: sometimes the option to say no, they're going to because 610 00:29:31,360 --> 00:29:34,120 Speaker 1: life is a lot more comfortable and easier for them 611 00:29:34,320 --> 00:29:36,400 Speaker 1: if it's a no. But a lot of the time 612 00:29:36,480 --> 00:29:39,400 Speaker 1: it's not really that big a deal. Also, it's, in 613 00:29:39,440 --> 00:29:42,400 Speaker 1: my opinion, blessing in disguise. That would have gotten way 614 00:29:42,440 --> 00:29:46,240 Speaker 1: too fucking messy working every single day with the person 615 00:29:46,280 --> 00:29:49,440 Speaker 1: that you're dating. You'd get so overwhelmed and probably sick 616 00:29:49,480 --> 00:29:51,120 Speaker 1: of them. This is probably a blessing in disguise to 617 00:29:51,120 --> 00:29:53,680 Speaker 1: make your relationship work. That's how I see it. Yeah, 618 00:29:53,880 --> 00:29:55,360 Speaker 1: it's a good bady to look at it. But yeah, 619 00:29:55,480 --> 00:29:57,160 Speaker 1: Polly's the arsehole and I hope her on the manager 620 00:29:57,160 --> 00:29:59,440 Speaker 1: can run off into the sunset together. Yep, because fuck 621 00:29:59,440 --> 00:30:02,280 Speaker 1: them for fire you for that. M m okay. I 622 00:30:02,320 --> 00:30:05,720 Speaker 1: don't like my partner's grandmother. I feel like that's quite common. Actually, 623 00:30:05,920 --> 00:30:08,520 Speaker 1: her family knows that she is racist. I am of 624 00:30:08,560 --> 00:30:10,960 Speaker 1: a different race to their family, and I can just 625 00:30:11,000 --> 00:30:13,960 Speaker 1: feel her hostility. My partner and I've been together for 626 00:30:14,000 --> 00:30:17,200 Speaker 1: five years. As an example, my partner and I recently 627 00:30:17,240 --> 00:30:19,320 Speaker 1: had a ball that we went to, so we got 628 00:30:19,320 --> 00:30:22,040 Speaker 1: all dressed up, myself with hair and makeup done. His 629 00:30:22,120 --> 00:30:24,680 Speaker 1: grandmother saw us before we left, and she was complimenting 630 00:30:24,720 --> 00:30:26,880 Speaker 1: on how handsome my partner looked. But as for me, 631 00:30:27,520 --> 00:30:29,920 Speaker 1: she barely looked at me, side eyed me. And then 632 00:30:29,960 --> 00:30:32,840 Speaker 1: my partner said, how beautiful does she look? Because she 633 00:30:32,880 --> 00:30:35,680 Speaker 1: hadn't said anything to me yet when she finally speaks 634 00:30:35,680 --> 00:30:39,360 Speaker 1: out the most unfriendly you look nice, I think honestly, 635 00:30:39,920 --> 00:30:44,560 Speaker 1: sometimes with your partner's grandparents being a dick, obviously, it's 636 00:30:44,600 --> 00:30:48,600 Speaker 1: awkward being your partner's grandparents. It's always fucking awkward, and 637 00:30:48,720 --> 00:30:53,400 Speaker 1: family like your partners and is such a tough situation. Yeah, 638 00:30:53,480 --> 00:30:56,040 Speaker 1: but I feel like something as serious as like racism 639 00:30:56,120 --> 00:30:59,360 Speaker 1: or homophobia or anything like that, it's like it's definitely 640 00:30:59,400 --> 00:31:02,600 Speaker 1: worth having a compion get your partner to do it. Obviously, 641 00:31:02,760 --> 00:31:05,520 Speaker 1: Like you shouldn't really need to be in the firing 642 00:31:05,560 --> 00:31:07,560 Speaker 1: line for that conversation if you want to be like, 643 00:31:07,640 --> 00:31:10,360 Speaker 1: if she's saying something like to you, that's racist and 644 00:31:10,400 --> 00:31:13,120 Speaker 1: you want to say something by all means yeah, so yeah, 645 00:31:13,160 --> 00:31:16,440 Speaker 1: but your partners see what they want to say to 646 00:31:16,480 --> 00:31:20,000 Speaker 1: them and like, hey, what's your best protocols? Go to 647 00:31:20,040 --> 00:31:21,960 Speaker 1: the partner and be like this is making me uncomfortable. 648 00:31:21,960 --> 00:31:25,200 Speaker 1: Its very obviously You're like, yeah, grandmother is racist towards me, 649 00:31:25,320 --> 00:31:29,720 Speaker 1: Like what do we do? Grandparents are fucking weird. Grandparents 650 00:31:29,920 --> 00:31:32,880 Speaker 1: they're like they live, they come from a different world, 651 00:31:32,960 --> 00:31:34,640 Speaker 1: and some of them just are not open to and 652 00:31:34,680 --> 00:31:38,360 Speaker 1: they are so fucking way. Yeah, I know, but like 653 00:31:38,480 --> 00:31:41,200 Speaker 1: who's to saying doesn't mean you don't. You don't just 654 00:31:41,240 --> 00:31:42,600 Speaker 1: have to say anything. Like a lot of the time, 655 00:31:42,640 --> 00:31:44,560 Speaker 1: I feel like they get away with murder because they're 656 00:31:44,560 --> 00:31:46,080 Speaker 1: old and people don't want to say yeah, and people 657 00:31:46,080 --> 00:31:48,320 Speaker 1: almost comingable that having those conversations with them, But who knows, 658 00:31:48,360 --> 00:31:52,720 Speaker 1: sometimes they deserve it. Yeap, girls, My boyfriend went on 659 00:31:52,760 --> 00:31:55,560 Speaker 1: a boys trip and didn't tell me until thirty hours 660 00:31:55,600 --> 00:31:59,120 Speaker 1: before and only because I asked, even though we'd planned 661 00:31:59,400 --> 00:32:03,000 Speaker 1: to spend that weekend together going away. You guys need 662 00:32:03,040 --> 00:32:06,120 Speaker 1: a break. I'm sorry, pathetic, It's not not done yet, 663 00:32:06,120 --> 00:32:08,479 Speaker 1: but like I just feel like immediately, I'm like what 664 00:32:08,560 --> 00:32:11,360 Speaker 1: I always think about these days, little even things like that, 665 00:32:11,720 --> 00:32:14,080 Speaker 1: do you really believe that this person is your forever 666 00:32:14,120 --> 00:32:15,960 Speaker 1: person when they do shit like this? Do you know 667 00:32:16,000 --> 00:32:18,400 Speaker 1: what I mean? Even like things smaller than this and 668 00:32:18,480 --> 00:32:20,800 Speaker 1: like stuff that I never would have thought about a 669 00:32:20,840 --> 00:32:22,880 Speaker 1: couple of years ago or when I was in a relationship. 670 00:32:22,920 --> 00:32:26,080 Speaker 1: But oh, like, my boyfriend's liking these girls photos and 671 00:32:26,120 --> 00:32:28,720 Speaker 1: we're getting fights about it. It's like, do you really 672 00:32:28,760 --> 00:32:30,840 Speaker 1: think that human being that is doing that to you 673 00:32:30,840 --> 00:32:33,760 Speaker 1: and putting you in that position where you're upset or 674 00:32:33,760 --> 00:32:36,360 Speaker 1: where you have to have repeated conversations about various things 675 00:32:36,480 --> 00:32:40,280 Speaker 1: is your soulmate, your person, the person you're you are 676 00:32:40,280 --> 00:32:45,360 Speaker 1: going to marry and be happy with forever. No, sorry, Yeah, anyway, 677 00:32:45,360 --> 00:32:49,360 Speaker 1: I'll continue about that. I just wish I don't think 678 00:32:49,440 --> 00:32:51,600 Speaker 1: until I've been single for as long as I have, 679 00:32:51,720 --> 00:32:54,600 Speaker 1: that was even something I could have would have fathomed 680 00:32:54,680 --> 00:32:55,840 Speaker 1: or looked at. Do you know what I mean? I 681 00:32:55,920 --> 00:32:57,720 Speaker 1: think it's taken me at real while to get there 682 00:32:57,760 --> 00:33:01,760 Speaker 1: that any red flag, Uh, the person that is my 683 00:33:01,840 --> 00:33:04,880 Speaker 1: person will not have those red flags because there's seven 684 00:33:04,880 --> 00:33:07,080 Speaker 1: billion people in the world. Yeah, then you're gonna annoyed 685 00:33:07,080 --> 00:33:08,480 Speaker 1: at me for going out with the girls while he 686 00:33:08,520 --> 00:33:11,360 Speaker 1: was away. This guy needs to fucking put him in 687 00:33:11,400 --> 00:33:13,360 Speaker 1: the bin. I'm over it. You need to be broken 688 00:33:13,400 --> 00:33:15,640 Speaker 1: up with him by the time this episode releases. Yeah tomorrow. 689 00:33:16,080 --> 00:33:17,880 Speaker 1: I got mad and said I threatened to break up 690 00:33:17,880 --> 00:33:20,040 Speaker 1: with him if he continued having double standards and not 691 00:33:20,120 --> 00:33:23,800 Speaker 1: telling me things. Also, these boys spend thousands of dollars 692 00:33:23,840 --> 00:33:26,840 Speaker 1: at the Pokes every weekend and they're bad influencers. And 693 00:33:27,080 --> 00:33:30,440 Speaker 1: they're all single too. I hate when boys hang out 694 00:33:30,480 --> 00:33:33,160 Speaker 1: with their single friends. How dare they? Am I the 695 00:33:33,240 --> 00:33:36,120 Speaker 1: asshole for like boys feel the same way about their 696 00:33:36,120 --> 00:33:38,520 Speaker 1: girls hanging out with like? Yeah, except I don't talk 697 00:33:38,560 --> 00:33:40,680 Speaker 1: to anyone on a night out. Am I the asshole 698 00:33:40,720 --> 00:33:42,240 Speaker 1: for getting mad at him? Or should I've come down 699 00:33:42,280 --> 00:33:45,280 Speaker 1: a bit? No? No, break up with him? End of story. Seriously, 700 00:33:45,480 --> 00:33:47,120 Speaker 1: I don't have anything else to say. No and wreak 701 00:33:47,200 --> 00:33:49,200 Speaker 1: up with you. It just needs to this. This is 702 00:33:49,240 --> 00:33:52,640 Speaker 1: a fucking boy. Whoever this is is a fucking child. Yeah, 703 00:33:52,680 --> 00:33:55,400 Speaker 1: and this will be toxic and probably hard. The men 704 00:33:55,760 --> 00:33:59,040 Speaker 1: could never and like getting mad at you for going 705 00:33:59,040 --> 00:34:01,080 Speaker 1: out with the girls while he is away with fucking 706 00:34:01,120 --> 00:34:06,080 Speaker 1: on a boys trip is actually wild? Come on, come on? No? 707 00:34:06,520 --> 00:34:09,600 Speaker 1: End of story. End of all. Right, guys, that was 708 00:34:09,880 --> 00:34:12,960 Speaker 1: am I the asshole with Easy and her sister with 709 00:34:13,320 --> 00:34:18,959 Speaker 1: Easy and sister? Alright, guys, I love you next week. 710 00:34:19,280 --> 00:34:19,960 Speaker 1: Bye man.