1 00:00:01,400 --> 00:00:05,680 Speaker 1: It fits in with Kate podcast. 2 00:00:05,880 --> 00:00:10,000 Speaker 2: Was that young woman who won tickets to see Taylor 3 00:00:10,039 --> 00:00:12,879 Speaker 2: Swift and her whole wedding was going to be Taylor 4 00:00:12,920 --> 00:00:17,840 Speaker 2: Swift themed. Her husband you don't need to repeat everything 5 00:00:17,880 --> 00:00:21,480 Speaker 2: I'm saying. The husband was on board. I think their 6 00:00:21,480 --> 00:00:24,400 Speaker 2: first song was going to be Taylor Swift. Everything was 7 00:00:24,880 --> 00:00:26,920 Speaker 2: catered to a Taylor Swift. 8 00:00:26,720 --> 00:00:28,160 Speaker 3: See over in Vegas. 9 00:00:28,280 --> 00:00:32,519 Speaker 4: A Rabbit ohs couple got married in Vegas, not with Elvis, 10 00:00:33,440 --> 00:00:38,560 Speaker 4: with Reggie the Rabbit No sorry, and the Rabbit O mascot. 11 00:00:38,760 --> 00:00:42,400 Speaker 4: Reggie the Rabbit walked her down the aisle in Vegas 12 00:00:42,520 --> 00:00:45,080 Speaker 4: You love the Bunnies and they got married and then. 13 00:00:45,080 --> 00:00:46,680 Speaker 2: They sang What's the South song? 14 00:00:46,800 --> 00:00:50,800 Speaker 4: Russell Crowe presented the couple with the Book of Feuds 15 00:00:50,840 --> 00:00:52,320 Speaker 4: which you have during your marriage? 16 00:00:52,600 --> 00:00:53,320 Speaker 2: Is that Rockey? 17 00:00:53,640 --> 00:00:55,320 Speaker 3: And George Piggins was there on the wedding night. 18 00:00:55,920 --> 00:00:56,400 Speaker 1: That's weird. 19 00:00:56,440 --> 00:00:58,800 Speaker 2: How lovely boys to men? I mean, I think there's 20 00:00:58,800 --> 00:01:02,360 Speaker 2: some big ones on the end of the road, Gone 21 00:01:02,400 --> 00:01:06,640 Speaker 2: to the End of the Road. One of the big songs, though, 22 00:01:06,680 --> 00:01:08,880 Speaker 2: I think, as far as wedding songs go, is the 23 00:01:09,000 --> 00:01:15,520 Speaker 2: James Blunt You're Beautiful, Beautiful. I mean that Yard of 24 00:01:15,560 --> 00:01:18,800 Speaker 2: his song is lovely You're Beautiful. I get it, but 25 00:01:18,959 --> 00:01:21,280 Speaker 2: it turns out and I don't know whether I should 26 00:01:21,319 --> 00:01:26,080 Speaker 2: have known this before, is that James Blunt's song is 27 00:01:26,120 --> 00:01:28,959 Speaker 2: not a romantic song at all. In fact, he's actually 28 00:01:28,959 --> 00:01:31,520 Speaker 2: come out and said that if you use this song 29 00:01:31,600 --> 00:01:34,720 Speaker 2: You're Beautiful as a wedding song, that it is up 30 00:01:35,319 --> 00:01:38,600 Speaker 2: after revealing its true meaning, because it's about a guy 31 00:01:38,840 --> 00:01:44,160 Speaker 2: stalking somebody on a train. Yeah, it's the guy singing 32 00:01:44,319 --> 00:01:48,520 Speaker 2: James Blunt is looking at somebody else's girlfriend and kind 33 00:01:48,520 --> 00:01:51,400 Speaker 2: of wishing that I'd love for the cracketer he could 34 00:01:51,480 --> 00:01:55,880 Speaker 2: be with her. So it's kind of fancying somebody. It's 35 00:01:55,880 --> 00:01:58,600 Speaker 2: not Jesse's girl, but a more romantic version. 36 00:01:58,600 --> 00:02:02,080 Speaker 3: It's known as a Blunt hunt. Being a professional stalky yourself, 37 00:02:02,160 --> 00:02:04,720 Speaker 3: Tom does this? Does this strip strike accord? 38 00:02:04,840 --> 00:02:06,000 Speaker 1: You do it on a truck? 39 00:02:06,120 --> 00:02:08,640 Speaker 3: Change my song? Now, guys, that's very disappointed. 40 00:02:08,720 --> 00:02:10,360 Speaker 1: Glad you didn't write a song called I'm in the 41 00:02:10,400 --> 00:02:13,200 Speaker 1: sand Dunes with a pair of binoculars because that's sort 42 00:02:13,200 --> 00:02:14,280 Speaker 1: of more Tom's style. 43 00:02:14,360 --> 00:02:16,480 Speaker 2: Well, that's quite wordy. Didn't you get married on a 44 00:02:16,480 --> 00:02:17,280 Speaker 2: football opal? 45 00:02:17,440 --> 00:02:17,720 Speaker 1: Yeah? 46 00:02:17,800 --> 00:02:20,240 Speaker 4: We did, and it was tough because bj and I 47 00:02:20,320 --> 00:02:25,880 Speaker 4: have different musical tastes. She wanted Kylie Minogue and Jason 48 00:02:25,919 --> 00:02:28,600 Speaker 4: Donovan's especially from that song. 49 00:02:28,680 --> 00:02:30,559 Speaker 3: Yeah, well I wanted I wanted. 50 00:02:30,240 --> 00:02:33,240 Speaker 4: Something a little bit harder. I think something was a 51 00:02:33,240 --> 00:02:36,160 Speaker 4: bit more rock and roll. But we ended up combining 52 00:02:36,200 --> 00:02:37,720 Speaker 4: our musical tastes. 53 00:02:37,400 --> 00:02:39,480 Speaker 3: And ended up with True by Spanned our Ballet. 54 00:02:41,800 --> 00:02:43,280 Speaker 2: So was this the first dance or not? 55 00:02:43,760 --> 00:02:47,079 Speaker 3: This was the winning down the aisle? 56 00:02:47,160 --> 00:02:50,959 Speaker 4: We didn't have Blower's Daughter by Damien, right you? Yeah, 57 00:02:51,080 --> 00:02:52,320 Speaker 4: I think that was down the aisle. 58 00:02:52,360 --> 00:02:56,960 Speaker 2: I think that was maybe my when my first dance. 59 00:02:57,240 --> 00:02:58,040 Speaker 3: And then a song. 60 00:02:58,240 --> 00:03:03,880 Speaker 4: Yeah, at the end of the night we had Cannibal Corps. 61 00:03:02,680 --> 00:03:04,840 Speaker 1: I think, what is that? 62 00:03:08,120 --> 00:03:10,320 Speaker 3: I actually had a bit of answer. 63 00:03:11,960 --> 00:03:15,119 Speaker 2: Pan is in town in a minute. I did see 64 00:03:15,120 --> 00:03:19,960 Speaker 2: the choster. You renewing your vows with Pantera. I've just 65 00:03:20,000 --> 00:03:22,639 Speaker 2: messaged Troy Cassa daily, but he hasn't messaged me back 66 00:03:23,080 --> 00:03:30,359 Speaker 2: because he re recorded one of his songs, and that's 67 00:03:30,400 --> 00:03:32,639 Speaker 2: at the song I walked down the aisle too. Well, 68 00:03:32,639 --> 00:03:35,320 Speaker 2: it wasn't an aisle because I got married in a field. 69 00:03:35,360 --> 00:03:36,760 Speaker 1: You've always loved the country, haven't you. 70 00:03:37,320 --> 00:03:39,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, it sill end up back there one day. 71 00:03:39,640 --> 00:03:42,080 Speaker 4: Was it hard to ask him because you don't you 72 00:03:42,120 --> 00:03:44,720 Speaker 4: don't want to ask an artist, I mean the Troll's dog. 73 00:03:45,160 --> 00:03:48,640 Speaker 2: No, he actually, I think from memory it was a 74 00:03:48,640 --> 00:03:53,080 Speaker 2: long time ago, twenty ten. I think he offered because 75 00:03:55,120 --> 00:03:58,320 Speaker 2: as like a wedding kind of gift, kind of God. 76 00:03:58,520 --> 00:04:02,160 Speaker 3: It's beautiful see with her with a hounded Darryl breathway. 77 00:04:02,200 --> 00:04:04,240 Speaker 4: I think I think you ended up having to pay 78 00:04:04,280 --> 00:04:05,240 Speaker 4: for this, didn't you. 79 00:04:05,640 --> 00:04:06,120 Speaker 1: I didn't. 80 00:04:06,160 --> 00:04:08,240 Speaker 2: Did you have Darryl braithwait at your wedding? 81 00:04:08,400 --> 00:04:11,280 Speaker 1: No? I didn't because he couldn't turn up. He was 82 00:04:11,360 --> 00:04:15,440 Speaker 1: busy that day, Kate. But what I did? I did 83 00:04:15,480 --> 00:04:19,360 Speaker 1: a version of Horses for Lisa because it was her 84 00:04:19,360 --> 00:04:20,200 Speaker 1: favorite song. 85 00:04:20,160 --> 00:04:22,640 Speaker 3: Called Courses Devastation. 86 00:04:22,839 --> 00:04:27,120 Speaker 1: He had Darryl and I sang the song and we 87 00:04:27,200 --> 00:04:30,080 Speaker 1: recorded it. I did a whole film quick, It's gonna 88 00:04:30,120 --> 00:04:35,919 Speaker 1: be Lisa. Yeah, should riding on the horse? 89 00:04:39,320 --> 00:04:44,520 Speaker 2: Well, Stara, did you really do that? I'm playing on 90 00:04:44,520 --> 00:04:45,159 Speaker 2: a wedding day. 91 00:04:45,800 --> 00:04:46,080 Speaker 1: You know what? 92 00:04:46,480 --> 00:04:47,279 Speaker 3: She's not that little? 93 00:04:48,480 --> 00:04:50,760 Speaker 1: Should we put that film? Clop up? We did a 94 00:04:50,760 --> 00:04:53,720 Speaker 1: whole film clip clop You've got too much time on 95 00:04:53,760 --> 00:04:54,280 Speaker 1: your hand. 96 00:04:54,640 --> 00:04:57,200 Speaker 3: They did it in New Zealand. Well, I did a whole. 97 00:04:57,000 --> 00:04:59,880 Speaker 4: Film Clock, This is the City and Whipper with Kate 98 00:05:00,120 --> 00:05:02,680 Speaker 4: Richie podcast, How fun is arguing? 99 00:05:02,839 --> 00:05:06,000 Speaker 2: Hey and having arguments at home? 100 00:05:06,080 --> 00:05:07,240 Speaker 3: What are you talking about? 101 00:05:09,640 --> 00:05:13,240 Speaker 2: I'm being a little bit sarcastic around the I mean, 102 00:05:13,279 --> 00:05:14,600 Speaker 2: some people love a good fight. 103 00:05:14,680 --> 00:05:15,000 Speaker 1: I don't know. 104 00:05:15,120 --> 00:05:17,400 Speaker 2: They cannot get enough of it. In fact, they. 105 00:05:17,279 --> 00:05:22,520 Speaker 1: Will try to do everything they can to get a fight. 106 00:05:23,320 --> 00:05:25,039 Speaker 3: I was thinking about this the other day. 107 00:05:25,200 --> 00:05:27,960 Speaker 4: I don't know about your parents, but my mum and dad, 108 00:05:28,279 --> 00:05:31,840 Speaker 4: My gosh, the arguments that they would have would go on, 109 00:05:31,960 --> 00:05:33,360 Speaker 4: would go on for hours. 110 00:05:33,680 --> 00:05:36,840 Speaker 2: And that's what I mean, and with no end in sight. 111 00:05:37,240 --> 00:05:44,120 Speaker 2: Quite often it's lack of sleep, irritability, worry about the weekend, 112 00:05:44,200 --> 00:05:46,920 Speaker 2: worrying about money, all of that kind of thing. And 113 00:05:46,920 --> 00:05:50,120 Speaker 2: then stress is exactly, how do you even know in 114 00:05:50,160 --> 00:05:52,600 Speaker 2: the end what you're fighting about? There is no end 115 00:05:52,640 --> 00:05:56,960 Speaker 2: in sight. Here's a technique for you. I mean it's 116 00:05:57,000 --> 00:06:04,120 Speaker 2: it's come from louder exactly. Leave for three days, you 117 00:06:04,120 --> 00:06:09,360 Speaker 2: know what, Go drink drinking for three days and disappear. 118 00:06:09,760 --> 00:06:10,799 Speaker 2: Fall off the radar. 119 00:06:11,480 --> 00:06:13,880 Speaker 3: Benders are quite beneficials Ah. 120 00:06:13,920 --> 00:06:19,080 Speaker 2: They're so when you're the one at home calling trying 121 00:06:19,080 --> 00:06:23,440 Speaker 2: to find whether they've died anyway. So this, I mean, 122 00:06:23,480 --> 00:06:25,159 Speaker 2: this is this is a bit of a bit of 123 00:06:25,160 --> 00:06:27,160 Speaker 2: fun and it's not going to fix the big problems, 124 00:06:27,240 --> 00:06:30,200 Speaker 2: let's be honest. But if there's just you know, we're 125 00:06:30,279 --> 00:06:32,600 Speaker 2: just we're just fighting now and we really feel like 126 00:06:32,640 --> 00:06:36,159 Speaker 2: we don't like each other. Austin and Annie are their names, 127 00:06:36,200 --> 00:06:39,960 Speaker 2: not any the dog from to my house. They are 128 00:06:40,000 --> 00:06:42,440 Speaker 2: a couple. They're in North Carolina, and they've got this 129 00:06:42,560 --> 00:06:45,640 Speaker 2: fantastic technique. So when they're kind of arguing and they 130 00:06:45,720 --> 00:06:47,120 Speaker 2: just can't get to the end of it and they 131 00:06:47,120 --> 00:06:50,160 Speaker 2: don't know how it's going to be resolved, they've got 132 00:06:50,279 --> 00:06:53,640 Speaker 2: it feels like sorcery, doesn't it. But what they do 133 00:06:53,800 --> 00:06:57,000 Speaker 2: is they have party hats and when they know they've 134 00:06:57,040 --> 00:06:59,520 Speaker 2: reached that point in the argument, but one is not 135 00:06:59,560 --> 00:07:02,600 Speaker 2: going to apologize to the other, and it's like, can 136 00:07:02,640 --> 00:07:04,040 Speaker 2: we just eat dinner in peace? 137 00:07:04,160 --> 00:07:04,360 Speaker 1: Now? 138 00:07:04,680 --> 00:07:06,960 Speaker 2: Do we need to keep being cranky and slamming things 139 00:07:07,000 --> 00:07:08,919 Speaker 2: in the kitchen? They pop their little hats on. 140 00:07:09,080 --> 00:07:11,040 Speaker 1: But put the party hats break. 141 00:07:12,000 --> 00:07:14,640 Speaker 2: I think it's a great idea because it breaks. It 142 00:07:14,680 --> 00:07:19,000 Speaker 2: breaks the rhythm of the argument. In some ways, they 143 00:07:19,000 --> 00:07:22,960 Speaker 2: can look at each other and think, Okay, I admit 144 00:07:23,160 --> 00:07:25,760 Speaker 2: without saying it, I'm wearing a party hat. I know 145 00:07:25,800 --> 00:07:29,520 Speaker 2: I'm being ridiculous. You you might not admit it, but 146 00:07:29,600 --> 00:07:32,800 Speaker 2: you know you're being ridiculous. Let's just git on with 147 00:07:32,840 --> 00:07:33,320 Speaker 2: it now. 148 00:07:33,400 --> 00:07:36,560 Speaker 1: Kate Richie is in an argument fits. Do you think 149 00:07:36,640 --> 00:07:41,000 Speaker 1: she would ever put the party hat on? Not for 150 00:07:41,200 --> 00:07:44,960 Speaker 1: one second if someone else put the party hat on? 151 00:07:45,840 --> 00:07:46,040 Speaker 5: No? 152 00:07:46,160 --> 00:07:46,520 Speaker 3: Do you know? 153 00:07:46,640 --> 00:07:48,680 Speaker 2: I know I don't have to put the party hat on. 154 00:07:48,960 --> 00:07:50,640 Speaker 2: I would go to the kitchen. I would get the 155 00:07:50,640 --> 00:07:52,760 Speaker 2: party hat out of the fourth drawer, which is where 156 00:07:52,800 --> 00:07:54,720 Speaker 2: we keep our party hats, and I'd hand them out 157 00:07:54,760 --> 00:07:55,760 Speaker 2: to everybody else in the. 158 00:07:56,040 --> 00:07:57,640 Speaker 1: Do you and not put one on yourself to say 159 00:07:57,640 --> 00:07:58,760 Speaker 1: that I'm okay with everything? 160 00:07:59,440 --> 00:08:02,320 Speaker 2: A big hat, a hat with a feather. 161 00:08:02,480 --> 00:08:05,600 Speaker 1: Would you? After the races, I'd go to. 162 00:08:05,560 --> 00:08:07,280 Speaker 2: The garage and I'd pull out my hats from all 163 00:08:07,480 --> 00:08:09,200 Speaker 2: you know that I've worn to Flemington that I don't 164 00:08:09,200 --> 00:08:12,160 Speaker 2: wear anymore on the seriously, the miser eating them. You 165 00:08:12,200 --> 00:08:14,160 Speaker 2: know you're getting old when the mice a eating your hat. 166 00:08:14,040 --> 00:08:15,520 Speaker 1: And you would put on your hat, and you would 167 00:08:15,520 --> 00:08:17,360 Speaker 1: look at that other person as they put their hat on, 168 00:08:17,520 --> 00:08:19,400 Speaker 1: and you would think to yourself, I'm going to take 169 00:08:19,440 --> 00:08:22,000 Speaker 1: you for everything else except that party hate Kate. 170 00:08:22,080 --> 00:08:24,800 Speaker 4: Kate would put a fascinator on and then would have 171 00:08:24,840 --> 00:08:27,800 Speaker 4: a go at her partner for not commenting on how 172 00:08:27,800 --> 00:08:31,240 Speaker 4: good it looks on it. 173 00:08:30,320 --> 00:08:32,880 Speaker 2: I was trying to save your marriage. 174 00:08:32,920 --> 00:08:34,839 Speaker 1: Look at her and put your party hat on now. 175 00:08:34,840 --> 00:08:36,439 Speaker 1: It's just cracked up. Don't put your party hat on 176 00:08:36,480 --> 00:08:37,400 Speaker 1: now and see if it works. 177 00:08:38,200 --> 00:08:40,160 Speaker 2: Well, that didn't go the way it was planned? 178 00:08:40,280 --> 00:08:42,400 Speaker 4: Or do you want to do you want to borrow's 179 00:08:42,720 --> 00:08:48,320 Speaker 4: Tommy's fedora this morning, which looks hard to get headphones on? 180 00:08:48,360 --> 00:08:50,840 Speaker 1: Mate, better than my leather cap. Well that's different again. 181 00:08:51,000 --> 00:08:53,160 Speaker 1: Put that one on, Kate and see if the argument said. 182 00:08:53,320 --> 00:08:54,440 Speaker 2: You're just so rude? 183 00:08:55,120 --> 00:08:55,520 Speaker 1: Do you know what? 184 00:08:55,800 --> 00:08:57,920 Speaker 2: For two people who've never lived with me, you seem 185 00:08:57,960 --> 00:08:59,000 Speaker 2: to know a lot about me. 186 00:09:00,440 --> 00:09:04,160 Speaker 1: The fit and with a with Kate, WHICHI podcast right? 187 00:09:04,280 --> 00:09:06,680 Speaker 1: My reply, I just got a text from my mom. 188 00:09:06,840 --> 00:09:10,680 Speaker 4: Yes, because I'm a textboat, an expert, a textee, write 189 00:09:10,760 --> 00:09:11,480 Speaker 4: my reply. 190 00:09:13,160 --> 00:09:17,880 Speaker 1: Love got a text message here from Georgia. 191 00:09:18,200 --> 00:09:21,440 Speaker 2: Okay, I'm ready Georgia Love. 192 00:09:21,760 --> 00:09:24,240 Speaker 1: No, it's not George of love from the bachelorette. 193 00:09:25,400 --> 00:09:26,000 Speaker 2: No, but. 194 00:09:27,480 --> 00:09:27,720 Speaker 5: Was she? 195 00:09:28,440 --> 00:09:31,720 Speaker 2: But she did what she did much more? No, Lee. 196 00:09:32,080 --> 00:09:33,520 Speaker 2: She did much more than the batcher. 197 00:09:33,960 --> 00:09:36,160 Speaker 1: She did. She was a news reporter, was ten. I 198 00:09:36,200 --> 00:09:42,400 Speaker 1: think Georgia wants us to help her draft the first message. 199 00:09:42,400 --> 00:09:44,920 Speaker 1: She's wondering if this is a little too harsh. George's 200 00:09:45,000 --> 00:09:49,160 Speaker 1: twenty five and has been on and off with Liam, 201 00:09:49,520 --> 00:09:50,560 Speaker 1: who is twenty eight. 202 00:09:51,120 --> 00:09:53,720 Speaker 3: Prime too early to be settling there for almost a year. 203 00:09:53,800 --> 00:09:56,000 Speaker 2: You know, prime, I'm forty five. I'm in my prime. 204 00:09:56,080 --> 00:09:58,160 Speaker 1: You're warming up? So you are warming up? 205 00:09:59,200 --> 00:10:01,160 Speaker 3: Can we go through a few of your text messages? 206 00:10:02,240 --> 00:10:05,200 Speaker 2: Absolute? I want to be sacked? 207 00:10:06,000 --> 00:10:10,480 Speaker 1: Actually canceled, canceled, canceled. She opened up to him, only 208 00:10:10,640 --> 00:10:14,960 Speaker 1: to be continuously strung along with promises of maybe. So 209 00:10:15,040 --> 00:10:19,880 Speaker 1: doesn't know where she stands. So she has written this message. 210 00:10:20,480 --> 00:10:23,200 Speaker 1: Have I got this right, Jess? She's written the message here? Yeah, 211 00:10:23,200 --> 00:10:24,760 Speaker 1: that's right, Oh my. 212 00:10:24,640 --> 00:10:27,559 Speaker 2: God, wanting an answer, Abe. She's black and white, just 213 00:10:27,600 --> 00:10:28,800 Speaker 2: going on pretty much. 214 00:10:28,840 --> 00:10:31,040 Speaker 1: She's sick of the games. It sounds hi, it's me, 215 00:10:31,960 --> 00:10:37,720 Speaker 1: It's interesting. Hides me is very personal but also a 216 00:10:37,760 --> 00:10:38,520 Speaker 1: litra jarring. 217 00:10:38,600 --> 00:10:39,640 Speaker 3: Is there a joke in there? 218 00:10:39,760 --> 00:10:39,920 Speaker 4: No? 219 00:10:40,600 --> 00:10:41,000 Speaker 3: A joke? 220 00:10:41,360 --> 00:10:45,680 Speaker 4: No, He obviously must know her really well. 221 00:10:45,800 --> 00:10:48,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, of course I've been an a three year Hi, 222 00:10:48,600 --> 00:10:50,800 Speaker 1: it's me to be honest. I think I've had enough 223 00:10:50,800 --> 00:10:53,720 Speaker 1: of the games. I've put all my feelings on the table. 224 00:10:54,040 --> 00:10:55,560 Speaker 1: I've told you that I love you, and I can't 225 00:10:55,600 --> 00:10:59,480 Speaker 1: be left questioning. I'm heading down the coast at six pm. 226 00:11:00,400 --> 00:11:02,640 Speaker 1: If you're at my front door by, then come with 227 00:11:02,760 --> 00:11:04,720 Speaker 1: me and we can give things a go. If not, 228 00:11:05,200 --> 00:11:07,440 Speaker 1: I wish you all the happiness in your search for love. 229 00:11:07,600 --> 00:11:12,600 Speaker 2: Wow, I don't think it is. 230 00:11:13,240 --> 00:11:14,440 Speaker 1: I think I. 231 00:11:14,440 --> 00:11:19,920 Speaker 3: Don't think I'm going down the coast. Be there if 232 00:11:19,920 --> 00:11:21,160 Speaker 3: you want to come with me. 233 00:11:27,000 --> 00:11:30,880 Speaker 2: I think it's forcing his hand because she's she's had 234 00:11:30,880 --> 00:11:32,840 Speaker 2: a gutful of stuffing around and being left in the 235 00:11:32,960 --> 00:11:37,280 Speaker 2: unknown area. But the thing is with ultimatums, don't make 236 00:11:37,320 --> 00:11:41,560 Speaker 2: them if you don't want the reply, because it may 237 00:11:41,640 --> 00:11:44,959 Speaker 2: not be what you were hoping for. He may not 238 00:11:45,080 --> 00:11:47,800 Speaker 2: be there at six o'clock. And the last thing she 239 00:11:47,880 --> 00:11:52,760 Speaker 2: can then do is backtrack. You can't set a boundary 240 00:11:53,000 --> 00:11:56,520 Speaker 2: and then not and not stick to it because you're weak. Yeah, 241 00:11:56,520 --> 00:11:59,720 Speaker 2: I know, but she's she has also backed herself in 242 00:11:59,720 --> 00:12:02,880 Speaker 2: to the corner. I hope she's not just testing him 243 00:12:02,960 --> 00:12:06,280 Speaker 2: and she believes, well, it could be. People do it 244 00:12:06,280 --> 00:12:09,400 Speaker 2: all the time, cry about the answer. 245 00:12:09,200 --> 00:12:13,160 Speaker 1: They get hide to me as a stern answer, Yeah. 246 00:12:12,960 --> 00:12:16,400 Speaker 3: Why do you need to introduce yourself with that for 247 00:12:16,440 --> 00:12:16,840 Speaker 3: a year? 248 00:12:17,000 --> 00:12:17,200 Speaker 1: Hid? 249 00:12:18,120 --> 00:12:20,280 Speaker 2: No, it's not that's the way you're reading, hides me. 250 00:12:20,960 --> 00:12:23,280 Speaker 3: But you don't have to You don't even have to 251 00:12:23,320 --> 00:12:26,960 Speaker 3: introduce yourself. Just go Hey, that's all you need to write. 252 00:12:27,520 --> 00:12:29,600 Speaker 1: Like, to be honest, I think I've had enough of 253 00:12:29,640 --> 00:12:37,320 Speaker 1: the games. I understand that cludo no YATSI I've this 254 00:12:37,360 --> 00:12:39,120 Speaker 1: is where the angers come from, because she's saying I've 255 00:12:39,120 --> 00:12:41,560 Speaker 1: put all my feelings on the table, and she's now 256 00:12:41,600 --> 00:12:45,679 Speaker 1: reinforcing I've told you that, I've told you that I 257 00:12:45,760 --> 00:12:49,240 Speaker 1: love you. But I can't be left questioning. I feel 258 00:12:49,280 --> 00:12:52,640 Speaker 1: a bit for Georgia. I'm heading down the coast of 259 00:12:52,640 --> 00:12:56,040 Speaker 1: six pm. I think the intensity of the moment, right, 260 00:12:56,120 --> 00:12:59,040 Speaker 1: if he's still, if he's keen on her a little bit, 261 00:12:59,360 --> 00:13:01,040 Speaker 1: he's going to be there by six o'clock on the 262 00:13:01,040 --> 00:13:01,720 Speaker 1: front door step. 263 00:13:01,800 --> 00:13:03,800 Speaker 2: I think he might. He might also be the kind 264 00:13:03,840 --> 00:13:06,559 Speaker 2: of guy that doesn't like having his. 265 00:13:07,640 --> 00:13:13,640 Speaker 4: Hand in a relationship. There's usually one spontaneous person and 266 00:13:13,679 --> 00:13:15,720 Speaker 4: the other one isn't. This is the other the guy 267 00:13:16,000 --> 00:13:18,520 Speaker 4: what heir can you give you that much time? And 268 00:13:18,559 --> 00:13:22,960 Speaker 4: then go, oh right up, Okay, I'm just going to 269 00:13:23,000 --> 00:13:23,720 Speaker 4: pack everything up. 270 00:13:23,720 --> 00:13:25,600 Speaker 3: I've got footy training tonight, but I'll go and go 271 00:13:25,679 --> 00:13:26,560 Speaker 3: down the coast with it. 272 00:13:26,679 --> 00:13:28,760 Speaker 1: Or do you love her or not? That's what she's saying, 273 00:13:28,800 --> 00:13:29,680 Speaker 1: Do you love me or not? 274 00:13:30,000 --> 00:13:31,199 Speaker 3: You can't put. 275 00:13:31,040 --> 00:13:34,000 Speaker 4: An ultimatum and go, if you love me, meet me 276 00:13:34,040 --> 00:13:36,319 Speaker 4: at my house by six, I'm going down the cast. 277 00:13:36,320 --> 00:13:36,600 Speaker 2: Why not? 278 00:13:36,679 --> 00:13:37,520 Speaker 3: It's ridiculous. 279 00:13:37,559 --> 00:13:38,520 Speaker 2: Maybe if you're happy to. 280 00:13:38,440 --> 00:13:41,480 Speaker 1: Say, imagine you are. Imagine her standing there with the 281 00:13:41,559 --> 00:13:44,680 Speaker 1: car keys in hand in the driveway at five point 282 00:13:44,679 --> 00:13:45,360 Speaker 1: fifty nine. 283 00:13:45,280 --> 00:13:48,920 Speaker 4: Her Australian Zoom uniform, what her car keys? 284 00:13:49,240 --> 00:13:49,480 Speaker 1: No? 285 00:13:49,480 --> 00:13:53,160 Speaker 2: No, her cass and then wait and waiting till six 286 00:13:53,240 --> 00:13:55,280 Speaker 2: oh five and he's still not there, Like how long 287 00:13:55,440 --> 00:13:57,240 Speaker 2: you wait? Do you go and put fuel in the 288 00:13:57,240 --> 00:13:58,920 Speaker 2: car and come back, swing past the driveway. 289 00:13:59,000 --> 00:14:00,800 Speaker 1: It's now seven o'clock and he's still. 290 00:14:00,640 --> 00:14:04,600 Speaker 2: Not there, Drive the whole way down the coast in tears, 291 00:14:04,720 --> 00:14:07,559 Speaker 2: and then you take him back in three days. Well done, Dylan. 292 00:14:10,559 --> 00:14:14,160 Speaker 1: Hannah Everarra Waters Hello, hand Hi, Hey, what do you 293 00:14:14,160 --> 00:14:15,880 Speaker 1: think of the message? I mean, is it good? Is 294 00:14:15,920 --> 00:14:18,520 Speaker 1: it a good move to sort of play the forceful hand. 295 00:14:19,760 --> 00:14:21,560 Speaker 5: Oh. I think if that's where you're at in life, 296 00:14:21,600 --> 00:14:23,080 Speaker 5: that you just want to sort of give them a 297 00:14:23,160 --> 00:14:27,880 Speaker 5: challenge and give them an ultimatum, then yeah, sure, yeah, on. 298 00:14:27,880 --> 00:14:30,680 Speaker 1: And off for twelve months. It's fair to say, are 299 00:14:30,720 --> 00:14:32,920 Speaker 1: you win this or not? Don't you think, Hannah? 300 00:14:33,120 --> 00:14:33,520 Speaker 5: I do. 301 00:14:33,720 --> 00:14:37,600 Speaker 1: I agree all the sounds of it. Hannah. 302 00:14:37,680 --> 00:14:39,720 Speaker 3: You do it in a more harsh way. You just 303 00:14:39,840 --> 00:14:42,800 Speaker 3: confront them straight up. Hannah. 304 00:14:43,360 --> 00:14:45,280 Speaker 5: Oh yeah, I mean it's been a while since I've 305 00:14:45,280 --> 00:14:46,640 Speaker 5: had to do that, so I'm. 306 00:14:46,440 --> 00:14:48,880 Speaker 2: Sure I'm going down the coast. Don't bother you. 307 00:14:49,080 --> 00:14:55,560 Speaker 1: What's your relationship status at the moment, Hannah. 308 00:14:53,440 --> 00:14:54,920 Speaker 4: I've been married for the steen years. 309 00:14:55,760 --> 00:15:00,000 Speaker 1: Don't sound very happy? Oh, very happy. What's his name, Hannah? 310 00:15:00,480 --> 00:15:02,520 Speaker 3: Oh, you don't have Mark? 311 00:15:03,320 --> 00:15:03,960 Speaker 1: Mark? Yah. 312 00:15:04,040 --> 00:15:06,040 Speaker 2: Hi, he's a lucky man. 313 00:15:06,200 --> 00:15:07,480 Speaker 3: He's down the coast. 314 00:15:09,480 --> 00:15:14,760 Speaker 1: He didn't wait till six left. That's the worst joke. 315 00:15:15,040 --> 00:15:17,920 Speaker 1: This is the Fitsy and Whipper with Kate Richie podcast. 316 00:15:18,320 --> 00:15:20,200 Speaker 3: We love having this lady in the studio. 317 00:15:21,040 --> 00:15:23,160 Speaker 4: First of all, she's one of the warmest embraces that 318 00:15:23,160 --> 00:15:25,880 Speaker 4: you know with cant Can Maggie Dent can hard love 319 00:15:25,920 --> 00:15:26,280 Speaker 4: a hug. 320 00:15:26,840 --> 00:15:28,680 Speaker 3: But she's also going to a brand new podcast out. 321 00:15:28,720 --> 00:15:31,280 Speaker 4: The Good Enough Dad is available now, listen to it 322 00:15:31,320 --> 00:15:34,800 Speaker 4: wherever you get your good podcast from. She made Kate 323 00:15:35,120 --> 00:15:37,840 Speaker 4: get very emotional the last time she was in the studio. 324 00:15:37,880 --> 00:15:39,160 Speaker 4: It's the magnificent. 325 00:15:38,680 --> 00:15:41,600 Speaker 3: Maggie Dead Welcome Maggie. 326 00:15:41,960 --> 00:15:45,760 Speaker 1: Do you know what you feel like to me? Everyone's 327 00:15:45,840 --> 00:15:48,120 Speaker 1: mum And when you come in here and you give 328 00:15:48,160 --> 00:15:49,880 Speaker 1: us a hug, it just feels like I'm in a 329 00:15:49,920 --> 00:15:53,560 Speaker 1: safe space. Isn't that just gorgeous? 330 00:15:53,600 --> 00:15:57,240 Speaker 5: You know that my own mom was really cold and 331 00:15:57,280 --> 00:15:59,840 Speaker 5: aloof like she, yeah, gave you nothing. 332 00:16:00,880 --> 00:16:03,280 Speaker 2: Oh, how many children in your family? 333 00:16:03,600 --> 00:16:03,880 Speaker 3: Six? 334 00:16:04,760 --> 00:16:07,040 Speaker 5: Yeah, but she came from a family of twelve. Oh 335 00:16:07,080 --> 00:16:09,440 Speaker 5: my god, Sydney, with lots of poverty, all the reasons 336 00:16:09,520 --> 00:16:12,600 Speaker 5: why she would find it hard to do attachment. 337 00:16:12,720 --> 00:16:15,240 Speaker 1: Can I ask a question? It really took my breath 338 00:16:15,240 --> 00:16:19,000 Speaker 1: away when I saw a headline that said that in 339 00:16:19,600 --> 00:16:23,280 Speaker 1: Florida they were looking to ban social media for kids 340 00:16:23,360 --> 00:16:26,280 Speaker 1: under the age of sixteen. And I thought to myself, 341 00:16:26,840 --> 00:16:30,960 Speaker 1: my god, if I could put money towards anything or 342 00:16:30,960 --> 00:16:34,080 Speaker 1: make any effort to contribute to that movement to stop 343 00:16:34,080 --> 00:16:36,720 Speaker 1: it till the age of sixteen, that I'm one hundred 344 00:16:36,720 --> 00:16:40,320 Speaker 1: percent behind it. Can you give us some indication of 345 00:16:40,360 --> 00:16:41,160 Speaker 1: how bad it is? 346 00:16:42,080 --> 00:16:44,800 Speaker 5: Yeah, well, the stats just keep getting worse and worse. 347 00:16:44,880 --> 00:16:47,360 Speaker 5: And I think I you know, the other day when 348 00:16:48,200 --> 00:16:50,520 Speaker 5: you know, the matter boss was out there saying, oh, 349 00:16:50,520 --> 00:16:51,720 Speaker 5: I don't think it contributed. 350 00:16:51,760 --> 00:16:53,760 Speaker 1: They have evidence, of course, and we. 351 00:16:53,680 --> 00:16:55,880 Speaker 5: Also know the earlier you get a smartphone, the more 352 00:16:55,880 --> 00:16:58,920 Speaker 5: significant your chances of mental health challenges. From eighteen to 353 00:16:59,000 --> 00:17:03,200 Speaker 5: twenty four, we know it's a massive contributor to our girls' 354 00:17:03,880 --> 00:17:08,480 Speaker 5: you know, terrible sense of self and also their mental health. 355 00:17:09,080 --> 00:17:12,879 Speaker 5: We've got the evidence, so you know, it's really differ. 356 00:17:13,080 --> 00:17:14,960 Speaker 1: Why are we not doing something as a nation about this? 357 00:17:15,720 --> 00:17:17,800 Speaker 5: Because the tech companies have got a lot of money 358 00:17:18,160 --> 00:17:20,000 Speaker 5: right at the end of the day, they actually don't 359 00:17:20,080 --> 00:17:22,400 Speaker 5: care that they're damaging out No, of course not. It's 360 00:17:22,440 --> 00:17:25,440 Speaker 5: a bit like the cigarette and tobacco companies don't care 361 00:17:25,480 --> 00:17:29,600 Speaker 5: that vaping hurts our kids. They're about making money out 362 00:17:29,600 --> 00:17:33,240 Speaker 5: of our kids. And I'm with you, why aren't we outraged? 363 00:17:33,320 --> 00:17:34,000 Speaker 1: Some way to stop? 364 00:17:34,080 --> 00:17:35,320 Speaker 2: Why aren't we outraged? 365 00:17:35,359 --> 00:17:37,600 Speaker 1: I want to watch what happens in Florida as the 366 00:17:37,640 --> 00:17:40,160 Speaker 1: template for hopefully what can roll out in other parts 367 00:17:40,160 --> 00:17:40,679 Speaker 1: of the world. 368 00:17:40,880 --> 00:17:43,160 Speaker 5: You know, if there's not the phone in the classroom, 369 00:17:43,480 --> 00:17:45,879 Speaker 5: it's their device that they're using for their learning that 370 00:17:45,920 --> 00:17:49,720 Speaker 5: they're suddenly just watching YouTube videos, but they're not concentrating. 371 00:17:50,240 --> 00:17:53,400 Speaker 5: And the long term impact, I think is you need 372 00:17:53,480 --> 00:17:57,560 Speaker 5: to be able to concentrate and focus to learn well 373 00:17:58,080 --> 00:18:02,120 Speaker 5: at any age. And then noticing that is exactly what's 374 00:18:02,160 --> 00:18:03,439 Speaker 5: not happening with today's brains. 375 00:18:03,480 --> 00:18:06,040 Speaker 2: Because I do know some people who have older slightly 376 00:18:06,080 --> 00:18:08,680 Speaker 2: older children than my daughter who is nine, so they're 377 00:18:08,720 --> 00:18:14,080 Speaker 2: in that kind of tween early teen boys gaming And 378 00:18:14,160 --> 00:18:16,719 Speaker 2: what they have said is, and these are parents are 379 00:18:16,760 --> 00:18:21,119 Speaker 2: quite active themselves, they say things to me like, I 380 00:18:21,280 --> 00:18:24,400 Speaker 2: cannot get my children out of the house. I cannot 381 00:18:24,400 --> 00:18:27,760 Speaker 2: get that device from them. If I attempt to do that, 382 00:18:28,240 --> 00:18:32,280 Speaker 2: it is all hell breaks loose in the house. And 383 00:18:32,320 --> 00:18:36,200 Speaker 2: there's part of me who has not yet reached that stage. 384 00:18:36,480 --> 00:18:40,640 Speaker 2: I'm thinking, just take the iPad off them, But apparently 385 00:18:40,720 --> 00:18:43,040 Speaker 2: it's not that easy. It feels as though there are 386 00:18:43,160 --> 00:18:48,400 Speaker 2: young teens or boys and girls who are in charge 387 00:18:48,720 --> 00:18:52,880 Speaker 2: of the household by their mood and addiction to devices. 388 00:18:53,000 --> 00:18:55,560 Speaker 2: How do you implement change if you're already too far 389 00:18:55,640 --> 00:18:56,480 Speaker 2: down that track. 390 00:18:56,560 --> 00:19:01,439 Speaker 5: You've painted it so so accurately, Kate, And you know, 391 00:19:01,480 --> 00:19:03,840 Speaker 5: there's a couple of things that we've done along the journey, 392 00:19:03,880 --> 00:19:07,120 Speaker 5: and I really look to the expert. You've just got 393 00:19:07,160 --> 00:19:10,119 Speaker 5: to do this thing very gradually. And one of the 394 00:19:10,160 --> 00:19:13,879 Speaker 5: things that really does improve it is that there's something 395 00:19:13,960 --> 00:19:16,119 Speaker 5: you get that means you block the Wi Fi for 396 00:19:16,200 --> 00:19:19,160 Speaker 5: your own home. So you start with a big conversation 397 00:19:19,200 --> 00:19:21,879 Speaker 5: it says we're realizing it's getting problematic, but we also 398 00:19:22,440 --> 00:19:26,679 Speaker 5: we're also using our devices too much. So this family 399 00:19:26,760 --> 00:19:29,119 Speaker 5: is going to wind back the amount of time, and 400 00:19:29,160 --> 00:19:31,800 Speaker 5: the amount of time will be you know, let's be REASONA. 401 00:19:31,800 --> 00:19:34,600 Speaker 5: We'll say they're doing three hours gaming a night. We're 402 00:19:34,640 --> 00:19:36,320 Speaker 5: going to just go to wind it back to two 403 00:19:36,440 --> 00:19:39,240 Speaker 5: and a half hours for a couple of weeks. But also, 404 00:19:39,440 --> 00:19:42,040 Speaker 5: you don't get to go gaming until your homework's done. 405 00:19:42,080 --> 00:19:44,280 Speaker 5: So we're just going to put some slight shifts in. 406 00:19:44,600 --> 00:19:46,719 Speaker 5: Because you try and look at all our best New 407 00:19:46,760 --> 00:19:50,080 Speaker 5: Year's resolutions, you can't hand change habits quick. But while 408 00:19:50,160 --> 00:19:52,720 Speaker 5: you're doing it, you're also stoking your relationships. So you 409 00:19:52,760 --> 00:19:57,520 Speaker 5: eat more ice cream. You're nicer to them, right, you just. 410 00:19:57,560 --> 00:20:00,720 Speaker 2: Favorite dinner, courage sausagestnot. 411 00:20:00,480 --> 00:20:02,040 Speaker 5: Yeah, whatever, it is so I know that words. You're 412 00:20:02,040 --> 00:20:04,400 Speaker 5: doing it from a space of love rather than all 413 00:20:04,440 --> 00:20:07,520 Speaker 5: the old stuff they say, just do it funnish teen ages. 414 00:20:07,600 --> 00:20:09,120 Speaker 2: Well, it's a bit like if we had to give 415 00:20:09,200 --> 00:20:12,680 Speaker 2: up coffee overnight we had, you know, we wouldn't be nice. 416 00:20:12,760 --> 00:20:13,639 Speaker 2: Humans would know. 417 00:20:13,760 --> 00:20:15,760 Speaker 5: So it's a very gradual thing and it's a full 418 00:20:15,800 --> 00:20:18,439 Speaker 5: time job for today's parents. My heart goes out to you. 419 00:20:19,240 --> 00:20:20,080 Speaker 2: I was lucky. 420 00:20:20,160 --> 00:20:22,600 Speaker 5: I can't imagine what would happened if my four boys 421 00:20:22,640 --> 00:20:23,920 Speaker 5: with gaming in one house. 422 00:20:23,960 --> 00:20:30,040 Speaker 2: Oh wow there and with a with Kate whichie podcast. 423 00:20:29,000 --> 00:20:30,800 Speaker 1: Of a laugh at the party that took place, It 424 00:20:30,920 --> 00:20:34,160 Speaker 1: was so much fun. Ted was so excited. Had twenty 425 00:20:34,160 --> 00:20:37,600 Speaker 1: four mates for his ninth birthday. Yeah, twenty four mates. 426 00:20:37,800 --> 00:20:40,560 Speaker 1: And that's what I thought. And I when the kids 427 00:20:40,560 --> 00:20:42,720 Speaker 1: got dropped off, because you know, they're there age now 428 00:20:42,720 --> 00:20:45,000 Speaker 1: where the parents don't have to hang around. They're dropping 429 00:20:45,040 --> 00:20:48,320 Speaker 1: the kids off. All the parents are going to use 430 00:20:48,359 --> 00:20:50,800 Speaker 1: your brave jeez, your brave like one half of that, 431 00:20:50,800 --> 00:20:53,000 Speaker 1: And I thought, what's the big deal here? Before the 432 00:20:53,040 --> 00:20:56,760 Speaker 1: movie had started, it was just rumbles going on everywhere, headlocks, 433 00:20:56,840 --> 00:21:00,040 Speaker 1: choke holds, all boys, Yeah, all boys, it's. 434 00:21:00,080 --> 00:21:02,840 Speaker 4: It's like the first day of a music festival, isn't 435 00:21:02,880 --> 00:21:06,800 Speaker 4: it Like it's so excited you don't even want to 436 00:21:06,840 --> 00:21:07,400 Speaker 4: sit down and. 437 00:21:07,359 --> 00:21:09,439 Speaker 3: Watch the movie. You just want to run them up 438 00:21:09,440 --> 00:21:10,040 Speaker 3: with your mates. 439 00:21:10,080 --> 00:21:12,199 Speaker 1: That's first night fever, that's what it is. Fits you've 440 00:21:12,200 --> 00:21:14,959 Speaker 1: flown into Vegas and you're ready to go, and then 441 00:21:15,000 --> 00:21:17,679 Speaker 1: your turnpong near beer pong was happening. No, they had 442 00:21:17,680 --> 00:21:20,440 Speaker 1: a great candy bar set up, so here was the issue. 443 00:21:20,480 --> 00:21:22,439 Speaker 1: They had sort of coke on one side, fand on 444 00:21:22,440 --> 00:21:24,640 Speaker 1: the other, and then all these lollies. So you could 445 00:21:24,640 --> 00:21:26,879 Speaker 1: go and grab a cup, fill it full of lollies, 446 00:21:27,040 --> 00:21:27,960 Speaker 1: grab yourself. 447 00:21:27,640 --> 00:21:29,400 Speaker 3: A dream and sit in your seat with you would 448 00:21:29,440 --> 00:21:30,200 Speaker 3: have been in heaven. 449 00:21:31,040 --> 00:21:32,120 Speaker 1: The kids didn't get a lolly. 450 00:21:32,520 --> 00:21:35,480 Speaker 2: It's kind of mean to the children. So you feed 451 00:21:35,520 --> 00:21:37,919 Speaker 2: them all these things and then expect them to be 452 00:21:38,000 --> 00:21:38,600 Speaker 2: well behaved. 453 00:21:38,640 --> 00:21:40,560 Speaker 1: Followed by a slider and a choc top. 454 00:21:41,240 --> 00:21:42,960 Speaker 3: And did they like basic k in stick. 455 00:21:43,119 --> 00:21:46,000 Speaker 1: No, we didn't go with that. That was my choice. 456 00:21:46,720 --> 00:21:49,840 Speaker 1: But the tape had been broken at that Sharon Stone part. 457 00:21:50,000 --> 00:21:52,719 Speaker 1: Unfortunately they tried to stick it back together. But so 458 00:21:52,760 --> 00:21:55,200 Speaker 1: we went with Next Goal Wins, which is a Tigaway 459 00:21:55,240 --> 00:21:57,879 Speaker 1: TV Films. 460 00:21:58,119 --> 00:21:59,879 Speaker 3: Yeah, don't don't google that. 461 00:22:00,680 --> 00:22:05,240 Speaker 1: What's that? Next goal wins? Next goal wins. So it 462 00:22:05,359 --> 00:22:08,120 Speaker 1: was a soccer themed party and instead of doing party 463 00:22:08,160 --> 00:22:10,439 Speaker 1: bags and lollies, we just handed out little footies at 464 00:22:10,480 --> 00:22:13,399 Speaker 1: the end and things like that. Anyway, it was going well. 465 00:22:13,400 --> 00:22:15,040 Speaker 1: The kids loved the movie, which was great. It was 466 00:22:15,040 --> 00:22:17,400 Speaker 1: a bit of a rumble halfway through, which was disappointing. 467 00:22:18,920 --> 00:22:23,400 Speaker 1: What do you mean, Yeah, someone spilled popcorn and one 468 00:22:23,440 --> 00:22:25,159 Speaker 1: kid jun up and tipped a coke over the other 469 00:22:25,200 --> 00:22:26,240 Speaker 1: one's feel in his face? 470 00:22:26,280 --> 00:22:27,879 Speaker 2: A large coke in his face? 471 00:22:28,080 --> 00:22:30,879 Speaker 1: Yeah, drenched the poor kid. I was there dabbing his 472 00:22:30,960 --> 00:22:32,760 Speaker 1: T shirt down, trying to make you put a smile 473 00:22:32,800 --> 00:22:33,920 Speaker 1: back on the poor kid's face. 474 00:22:34,040 --> 00:22:35,880 Speaker 2: Were you dabbing the T shirt with just. 475 00:22:35,840 --> 00:22:37,840 Speaker 1: A tale that I'd got from Reese, one of the 476 00:22:37,840 --> 00:22:41,280 Speaker 1: guys there, and Caro, who was helping out emergency towel 477 00:22:41,359 --> 00:22:43,359 Speaker 1: plays down the front? 478 00:22:43,720 --> 00:22:45,760 Speaker 3: Did you have to put your foot down a little bit? 479 00:22:46,880 --> 00:22:50,120 Speaker 1: Sit down? Did you really a little bit? 480 00:22:51,960 --> 00:22:54,520 Speaker 3: And I would not be happy with that at least loud? 481 00:22:54,760 --> 00:22:55,520 Speaker 2: Was it that loud? 482 00:22:55,720 --> 00:22:55,800 Speaker 1: Like? 483 00:22:55,880 --> 00:22:58,080 Speaker 2: Don't talk yourself up now? Is he going to talk 484 00:22:58,080 --> 00:23:00,480 Speaker 2: about how you reprimanded? Other children want to know the 485 00:23:00,560 --> 00:23:01,000 Speaker 2: level to. 486 00:23:00,960 --> 00:23:03,720 Speaker 1: The point where Lisa said, can you not do that 487 00:23:04,320 --> 00:23:07,760 Speaker 1: because you're actually embarrassing Ted. So it's Ted's party and 488 00:23:07,760 --> 00:23:09,200 Speaker 1: he's got to go to school with these kids. 489 00:23:09,680 --> 00:23:12,600 Speaker 4: So it's a tough one because this happens in this 490 00:23:12,760 --> 00:23:15,000 Speaker 4: in the playground quite a bit as well. When you 491 00:23:15,040 --> 00:23:17,520 Speaker 4: see another kid go over and maybe have a go 492 00:23:17,600 --> 00:23:20,840 Speaker 4: at your child. Where where do you draw the line? 493 00:23:21,040 --> 00:23:25,760 Speaker 4: And for me, it's headlocks. I've choke learned very quickly. 494 00:23:25,880 --> 00:23:29,199 Speaker 3: No more choke holds. Number of armholds, just headlocks aren't no. 495 00:23:29,359 --> 00:23:32,240 Speaker 3: But it is, it's it's it's other it's other children. 496 00:23:32,400 --> 00:23:36,920 Speaker 1: But if you see something really wrong, it wasn't fair. 497 00:23:37,440 --> 00:23:39,800 Speaker 2: But the thing is you might embarrass ted in the moment, 498 00:23:40,200 --> 00:23:42,520 Speaker 2: but as a parent, like down the track, and I 499 00:23:42,560 --> 00:23:45,720 Speaker 2: know they're not thinking about this, they will remember the 500 00:23:45,800 --> 00:23:48,040 Speaker 2: dad's got my back, Yeah, do you know? 501 00:23:48,320 --> 00:23:50,400 Speaker 1: And I hope I hope they realized too that I'm 502 00:23:50,440 --> 00:23:52,440 Speaker 1: You're right, Kate, I'm the parent. I'm there to parent. 503 00:23:52,600 --> 00:23:52,800 Speaker 2: Yeah. 504 00:23:52,840 --> 00:23:54,520 Speaker 1: So I've got twenty four of these kids and now 505 00:23:54,600 --> 00:23:56,840 Speaker 1: my responsibility. So I'm going to make sure everyone's happy 506 00:23:56,840 --> 00:23:58,359 Speaker 1: at the party. And that's coming off the back of 507 00:23:58,440 --> 00:24:00,520 Speaker 1: me calling a kid over it, so or at four 508 00:24:00,520 --> 00:24:02,520 Speaker 1: point thirty the previous day to say, watch your language 509 00:24:02,520 --> 00:24:04,879 Speaker 1: around the kids. You might know those bad words, but 510 00:24:04,920 --> 00:24:06,479 Speaker 1: my kids don't need to hear it, So put your 511 00:24:06,480 --> 00:24:06,960 Speaker 1: head in son. 512 00:24:07,160 --> 00:24:10,200 Speaker 2: Oh he's going to be heart here can I don't 513 00:24:10,200 --> 00:24:10,919 Speaker 2: think it hurts? 514 00:24:10,920 --> 00:24:12,440 Speaker 1: No, I need do I you need a bit of 515 00:24:12,480 --> 00:24:14,320 Speaker 1: And look me in the eyes when you shake my hand. 516 00:24:15,720 --> 00:24:19,280 Speaker 2: Do you say that to other people's children? I don't 517 00:24:19,320 --> 00:24:22,080 Speaker 2: know if you need any. I think you do that 518 00:24:22,119 --> 00:24:22,720 Speaker 2: to your own. 519 00:24:23,040 --> 00:24:24,720 Speaker 1: Well, if they're not doing it already, then they're not 520 00:24:24,760 --> 00:24:27,199 Speaker 1: being taught that. So let me parent from here on in. 521 00:24:27,359 --> 00:24:29,360 Speaker 2: Oh wow, I don't thank God for you. 522 00:24:29,440 --> 00:24:32,120 Speaker 1: Hey, but you're right Kate. But in turn, I don't 523 00:24:32,119 --> 00:24:34,480 Speaker 1: get everything right now. I had one big job on 524 00:24:34,520 --> 00:24:37,400 Speaker 1: the day. I was in charge of the ice cream cake. 525 00:24:38,160 --> 00:24:39,800 Speaker 1: I said, honey, don't you worry about a thing. I'll 526 00:24:39,880 --> 00:24:41,160 Speaker 1: organize the ice cream cake. 527 00:24:41,400 --> 00:24:44,000 Speaker 3: What what can I ask? Which one? Vanetta? Or did 528 00:24:44,000 --> 00:24:45,960 Speaker 3: you go fred? Freda is always. 529 00:24:45,680 --> 00:24:48,520 Speaker 1: A Tommy or k You might know Bidella? Is it? 530 00:24:48,640 --> 00:24:52,359 Speaker 1: You know? The Oh yeah, yeah, they they do the 531 00:24:52,440 --> 00:24:54,000 Speaker 1: ice cream cakes and it's. 532 00:24:53,880 --> 00:24:56,560 Speaker 2: An ice cream though, because I know I did bang 533 00:24:56,600 --> 00:24:59,280 Speaker 2: on about this, but most ice cream cakes are ice infection. 534 00:24:59,640 --> 00:25:00,600 Speaker 2: There is dairy. 535 00:25:00,720 --> 00:25:03,560 Speaker 1: They own the dairy farm and they have an outlet 536 00:25:03,600 --> 00:25:05,800 Speaker 1: where they make the ice cream at the shops and 537 00:25:05,840 --> 00:25:08,720 Speaker 1: the milk comes from their farm to the shop to 538 00:25:08,760 --> 00:25:09,520 Speaker 1: make the ice cream. 539 00:25:09,600 --> 00:25:12,000 Speaker 2: But not everyone has a thousand dollars to spend. 540 00:25:12,040 --> 00:25:15,640 Speaker 1: It was it was sixty five dollars. Wow, anywhere an 541 00:25:15,640 --> 00:25:16,600 Speaker 1: ice cream cake? 542 00:25:17,880 --> 00:25:18,440 Speaker 2: That's all right? 543 00:25:18,840 --> 00:25:20,800 Speaker 1: All the fancy stuff ye had to feed all the it? 544 00:25:20,840 --> 00:25:21,040 Speaker 4: Does it? 545 00:25:21,080 --> 00:25:22,040 Speaker 2: Did it feed everybody? 546 00:25:22,080 --> 00:25:26,080 Speaker 1: Booby big cake? Here's the problem. I said to Lisa, 547 00:25:26,080 --> 00:25:27,040 Speaker 1: I'll go and pick it up. What I'll go and 548 00:25:27,119 --> 00:25:29,000 Speaker 1: put it in the back fridge. Now, I keep her 549 00:25:29,040 --> 00:25:30,760 Speaker 1: away from the fridge and the freezer out the back 550 00:25:30,840 --> 00:25:34,240 Speaker 1: because one fridge is full of beer. The other fridge, 551 00:25:34,280 --> 00:25:38,080 Speaker 1: which is the freezer, it's full of bait for fishing. 552 00:25:39,040 --> 00:25:40,760 Speaker 1: Oh and I thought, if we're only going to put 553 00:25:40,800 --> 00:25:41,320 Speaker 1: it in there. 554 00:25:41,359 --> 00:25:43,520 Speaker 2: Over bait, how often do you fish? 555 00:25:43,680 --> 00:25:46,080 Speaker 1: Quite a lot? So I said, if we're only going 556 00:25:46,119 --> 00:25:48,080 Speaker 1: to be the cake's going to be in there for 557 00:25:48,160 --> 00:25:52,560 Speaker 1: maybe sixteen hours, twenty hours, how bad can it be 558 00:25:53,400 --> 00:25:55,359 Speaker 1: with bait? It would anybody notice? 559 00:25:55,560 --> 00:25:56,240 Speaker 2: And it's frozen? 560 00:25:56,240 --> 00:25:56,560 Speaker 1: Stink? 561 00:25:56,800 --> 00:26:01,119 Speaker 2: Would it? Does it stink? Isn't it frozen? It's it's odorless. 562 00:26:01,359 --> 00:26:05,000 Speaker 1: Were getting We're getting in the car? Head started to 563 00:26:05,080 --> 00:26:06,879 Speaker 1: turn his head a little bit towards the cake, so 564 00:26:07,560 --> 00:26:10,960 Speaker 1: I hit record to get some feedback. It's more just 565 00:26:11,720 --> 00:26:14,960 Speaker 1: smells like fish. No, it would be part of it, 566 00:26:14,960 --> 00:26:17,680 Speaker 1: maybe a bit of the box where the box was sitting, possibly, 567 00:26:17,760 --> 00:26:19,720 Speaker 1: but and certainly once you take it out of the box, 568 00:26:20,359 --> 00:26:25,639 Speaker 1: what we'll do. Yeah, it smells terrible. Do you like 569 00:26:25,680 --> 00:26:26,480 Speaker 1: the look of it too? 570 00:26:26,760 --> 00:26:26,960 Speaker 2: Yeah? 571 00:26:27,000 --> 00:26:30,160 Speaker 1: I like the look of it. Just it smells terrible smell. 572 00:26:31,119 --> 00:26:33,000 Speaker 1: I'm going to go. Guys, can I start getting in 573 00:26:33,000 --> 00:26:37,119 Speaker 1: the car place? Francesca, have you still got the candles? 574 00:26:38,440 --> 00:26:38,920 Speaker 5: Why does it. 575 00:26:38,880 --> 00:26:39,600 Speaker 2: Smell like fish? 576 00:26:40,000 --> 00:26:42,520 Speaker 1: Just because it was in the in the freezer where 577 00:26:42,520 --> 00:26:46,720 Speaker 1: the bait goes. Mike, Seriously, people like fish. People like 578 00:26:46,760 --> 00:26:49,439 Speaker 1: ice cream. It's an Oreo ice cream cake that smells 579 00:26:49,440 --> 00:26:49,840 Speaker 1: like fish. 580 00:26:49,920 --> 00:26:51,760 Speaker 2: It's not funny, bad stuff. 581 00:26:51,840 --> 00:26:52,680 Speaker 1: I got it not funny. 582 00:26:52,720 --> 00:26:55,600 Speaker 2: Before the party had start. 583 00:26:55,880 --> 00:26:59,399 Speaker 1: You can hear the intensity of Lisa's voice. Low candle 584 00:27:00,080 --> 00:27:01,480 Speaker 1: ches cut, Okay. 585 00:27:01,240 --> 00:27:03,000 Speaker 3: You would have felt so barren in that car. 586 00:27:03,160 --> 00:27:04,879 Speaker 1: Oh, mate, I didn't know what to do. I just 587 00:27:04,880 --> 00:27:09,040 Speaker 1: wanted to get into the cinema. And that the fish 588 00:27:09,040 --> 00:27:11,320 Speaker 1: should start on the box and not into the old 589 00:27:11,400 --> 00:27:14,240 Speaker 1: rainbow ice cream. Anyway, Happy birthday, son, I think we 590 00:27:14,280 --> 00:27:17,040 Speaker 1: did a good job. A couple of rumbles and Amish 591 00:27:17,359 --> 00:27:18,280 Speaker 1: fish smelling gate. 592 00:27:20,320 --> 00:27:25,000 Speaker 2: I'll great day, great great dad to everyone, it seems 593 00:27:25,119 --> 00:27:25,800 Speaker 2: to everybody. 594 00:27:25,960 --> 00:27:28,840 Speaker 1: Sits in Whipper with Kate Ritchie is a Nova podcast 595 00:27:29,080 --> 00:27:32,440 Speaker 1: walk great shows like this. Download the Nova player, Fire, 596 00:27:32,440 --> 00:27:34,080 Speaker 1: the app Store, or Google Playing.