WEBVTT - Love languages, trigger words & our most unexpected fan 0:00:00.040 --> 0:00:02.840 And a Lady and a Lady, A Lady, A lady. 0:00:02.960 --> 0:00:03.560 I'm filtered. 0:00:03.680 --> 0:00:07.280 Hello, Hello, and welcome to another podcast. My name is 0:00:07.320 --> 0:00:09.960 Hayley and I'm Lauren and we are at. 0:00:09.800 --> 0:00:11.520 A Lady Unfiltered with Beesties. 0:00:11.800 --> 0:00:14.680 We're business partners and we're the creators of adel Lady. Hello, 0:00:14.720 --> 0:00:17.160 I say hey, Loszy Media. And we do everything together 0:00:17.280 --> 0:00:20.079 except bag except one time, because there's a baby in 0:00:20.120 --> 0:00:20.560 between us. 0:00:20.840 --> 0:00:23.239 She's squiromy, so cute. 0:00:23.480 --> 0:00:25.800 Don't talk. We are recording a podcast. 0:00:26.440 --> 0:00:28.120 She actually doesn't make you sound well. 0:00:28.160 --> 0:00:31.000 She will now because she knows b'ron air bron air and. 0:00:31.080 --> 0:00:32.520 Now she's talking for the first time. 0:00:33.280 --> 0:00:35.200 Sorry, we all have to go because I need to feed. 0:00:37.560 --> 0:00:39.320 It's so nice to have you back on my couch. 0:00:39.479 --> 0:00:42.519 Do you know what you look A million bucks? 0:00:43.720 --> 0:00:46.360 Me? Yeah, I feel about what twelve, not by what 0:00:46.360 --> 0:00:49.320 you're wearing or anything like that. I mean, is it 0:00:49.360 --> 0:00:51.280 my maternity ties to come over my books? 0:00:51.360 --> 0:00:53.599 No, you look alive. You don't look dead like I 0:00:53.640 --> 0:00:54.200 was expecting. 0:00:54.920 --> 0:01:00.400 That's really nice. Yeah, the backhanded compliment. I thought you'd 0:01:00.440 --> 0:01:02.160 look terrible, but you look fairly good. 0:01:02.280 --> 0:01:03.240 Yeah, you look nice. 0:01:03.400 --> 0:01:06.040 I'm feeling good. I'm getting good sleep like she's dream 0:01:06.680 --> 0:01:07.800 Don't tell that to you. 0:01:07.800 --> 0:01:10.000 Your friends that have just had a baby, they're not listening. 0:01:10.080 --> 0:01:12.039 Yeah, you get you feel guilty if you've got a 0:01:12.040 --> 0:01:14.120 really good baby, don't you. Oh, we're not sleeping. I 0:01:14.200 --> 0:01:14.839 was like me either. 0:01:15.080 --> 0:01:16.399 I'm sleeping all the time. 0:01:17.000 --> 0:01:18.280 Five year olds are way harder than you. 0:01:18.480 --> 0:01:19.440 In fact, I'm just saying it. 0:01:19.680 --> 0:01:23.120 Yeah, we're not talking about babies this episode because we're 0:01:23.160 --> 0:01:23.880 beyond that now. 0:01:24.160 --> 0:01:24.720 No, we can't. 0:01:25.000 --> 0:01:26.800 Out of my belly, out of sight, out of mind. 0:01:26.840 --> 0:01:30.440 We don't care about babies anymore. We'll never talk about 0:01:30.440 --> 0:01:32.319 pregnancy every Oh. 0:01:32.440 --> 0:01:34.759 She just opened her eyes. Don't mess with her. If 0:01:34.760 --> 0:01:38.480 she's anything like Sophia, she will find you leamnes. 0:01:38.000 --> 0:01:39.440 And style and she'll stab me. 0:01:39.680 --> 0:01:42.000 Yeah all right, shopping list, All right, we've got a 0:01:42.040 --> 0:01:43.839 Men of the Week each I love our little mems 0:01:43.840 --> 0:01:46.039 because they're always quite random and I never know what's 0:01:46.040 --> 0:01:49.400 going to come Props. Today, I have props. I'm going 0:01:49.440 --> 0:01:51.240 to talk about something that you and I do that 0:01:51.320 --> 0:01:53.760 annoys everyone in the world, but it doesn't annoy us, 0:01:53.760 --> 0:01:54.800 and that's why we're besties. 0:01:55.520 --> 0:01:56.280 I love that about you. 0:01:56.360 --> 0:01:58.160 And you're going to talk about I'm going to talk 0:01:58.200 --> 0:02:00.800 about I overheard something on face time with my eleven 0:02:00.880 --> 0:02:02.160 year old and his friends. 0:02:03.000 --> 0:02:05.760 I'm not trying to censor a word. The word in 0:02:05.800 --> 0:02:09.200 itself is okay, but used in this context is not okay. 0:02:09.200 --> 0:02:13.080 And it's really triggering for me. And I will explain why. Okay, 0:02:13.080 --> 0:02:15.720 it's something that it means a lot to me because of. 0:02:17.160 --> 0:02:19.440 The past. It'll make sense when I get to it. 0:02:20.080 --> 0:02:22.639 Yeah, let's start with you, mem all right, Well, I'd 0:02:22.680 --> 0:02:26.120 just like to celebrate we have a new fan I 0:02:26.160 --> 0:02:28.919 love fan mail, you know, like people liking the show, 0:02:29.440 --> 0:02:30.960 people sending nice messages. 0:02:31.440 --> 0:02:33.760 Else is so nice? Can I say? The messages are 0:02:33.760 --> 0:02:34.359 so beautiful? 0:02:34.360 --> 0:02:36.720 I screenshot them all and then often share them like 0:02:36.760 --> 0:02:39.760 it's big, noting ourselves. 0:02:39.840 --> 0:02:42.240 So on Instagram, I've seen that. I've been meaning to 0:02:42.280 --> 0:02:46.160 talk to you about that. Here we are, So remember 0:02:46.200 --> 0:02:48.160 that time my mom said she hated the podcast. 0:02:48.480 --> 0:02:51.600 Yeah, she hated the podcast. Was disappointed in you. 0:02:51.680 --> 0:02:53.960 Yes, but she'd never listened to the podcast. She didn't 0:02:54.000 --> 0:02:57.320 like me just talking about shit. Yeah, she's got private, Yeah, 0:02:57.360 --> 0:03:00.760 she's quite prudish. My mum born in eighteen forty three, Awson, 0:03:03.040 --> 0:03:04.800 do you know what's fun? I also have to watch 0:03:04.840 --> 0:03:07.440 myself now because she's listening. I can't Yeah, you can't 0:03:07.440 --> 0:03:08.239 tell anything bad about it? 0:03:08.680 --> 0:03:09.040 Her up. 0:03:09.120 --> 0:03:12.519 Yeah. So anyway, so she hated the podcast after On Saturday, 0:03:13.440 --> 0:03:17.600 I got these messages saying, I just feel like I've 0:03:17.639 --> 0:03:18.720 been sitting on the couch with you. 0:03:18.639 --> 0:03:20.600 And Haley or morning. Okay, hang on, hang on, can 0:03:20.639 --> 0:03:21.280 we do something. 0:03:21.440 --> 0:03:23.560 Yeah, I'm gonna go to my message because I got 0:03:23.600 --> 0:03:25.680 a message from Jewels and let's read out the message 0:03:25.680 --> 0:03:27.160 at the same time and see if she copied it. 0:03:27.200 --> 0:03:33.360 Wait wait, wait, okay, hen we find it. Molly Molly, Molly, Florence, Florence, 0:03:33.360 --> 0:03:38.000 like there's a lot of are you ready, okay, Hi, I've. 0:03:37.720 --> 0:03:46.400 Been listening to the podcast all morning. I've had you 0:03:46.760 --> 0:03:50.480 by Oh wait, wait, I get you that. I love 0:03:50.600 --> 0:03:52.680 that they are brought to you by a. 0:03:52.680 --> 0:04:00.840 Toilet paper company because you talk so much crap, so fitting, 0:04:01.320 --> 0:04:04.000 very funny. And then I got cry emoji, cry emoji, 0:04:04.040 --> 0:04:04.760 cry emoji. 0:04:05.240 --> 0:04:06.720 And then I got a photo with her dog. 0:04:07.560 --> 0:04:09.120 And then I got a photo with her dog. 0:04:12.920 --> 0:04:13.520 Oh my god. 0:04:13.600 --> 0:04:19.640 Okay, and then she said I loved listening to it. 0:04:19.720 --> 0:04:21.279 It was like I was sitting on the couch with 0:04:21.360 --> 0:04:24.200 you too. And then Burjo said, listen next week, I 0:04:24.240 --> 0:04:26.480 tell her on the podcast that she's full of shit, okay, 0:04:26.480 --> 0:04:28.560 And then my mom said, okay, because we all know 0:04:28.600 --> 0:04:30.680 that you're a Cornadis and we're all getting up and 0:04:30.720 --> 0:04:32.960 that's the annoying thing. Mum's always calling me a cornatist, 0:04:33.000 --> 0:04:35.640 and now Burjo started calling me a cornadan. She yeah, 0:04:35.680 --> 0:04:37.760 because I used to be like, i'll be home at seven, 0:04:38.279 --> 0:04:40.200 and then I do that. Now I'll be at. 0:04:40.120 --> 0:04:42.400 The meeting at two and you're never there. 0:04:42.520 --> 0:04:44.840 And I said to Berjo, i'll be home, I'm leaving. 0:04:45.400 --> 0:04:48.800 I'll be home from the Kangar Island Fairy at six thirty, 0:04:48.920 --> 0:04:51.040 but I'm hopping on the six thirty fairy and then 0:04:51.040 --> 0:04:53.080 it's an hour and then I have to drive from 0:04:53.120 --> 0:04:56.080 Cape Jervis. Because she often to go, oh, that's cool, 0:04:56.120 --> 0:04:57.800 she'll be home there, Whereas if I just said I'm 0:04:57.839 --> 0:04:59.320 going to be home at nine thirty, it's fine. But 0:04:59.320 --> 0:05:00.919 when I saw home six thirty and then get home 0:05:00.920 --> 0:05:02.520 at nine thirty and try and blame the fairy for 0:05:02.560 --> 0:05:04.040 beingle yeah, when he knows it. 0:05:03.880 --> 0:05:05.760 Was just me. Yeah. Anyway, your mum's a fan. 0:05:05.880 --> 0:05:08.000 Anyway, she's a fan, loves the show, so thank you. 0:05:08.360 --> 0:05:11.360 That is seriously the best thing from Jewels. 0:05:11.400 --> 0:05:14.520 It's gone from zero. She will tell you what's what 0:05:14.640 --> 0:05:16.520 she always has. If she doesn't like something that you 0:05:16.600 --> 0:05:18.520 and I are doing, she will tell you straight away. 0:05:18.720 --> 0:05:21.279 It's not funny, terrible. She's actually said to us. I 0:05:21.320 --> 0:05:24.040 remember when we I don't even want to say this 0:05:24.040 --> 0:05:25.640 because I don't want people to google, but when we've 0:05:25.800 --> 0:05:29.160 first started up, and I know exactly, but your mom 0:05:29.279 --> 0:05:31.520 was like, the only person that said that is so cringey, 0:05:31.560 --> 0:05:34.440 why are you doing that? I think she caught us 0:05:34.520 --> 0:05:38.440 try hard, try hard, and nobody else said it, but 0:05:38.480 --> 0:05:41.760 we knew inside our hearts, so we were massively try 0:05:41.800 --> 0:05:45.360 hard cringey Jesus, and she was right. 0:05:45.560 --> 0:05:46.360 Yeah, she was right. 0:05:46.520 --> 0:05:47.400 Mom's always right. 0:05:47.520 --> 0:05:49.320 Yeah, my mom didn't tell us that, but she thought 0:05:49.480 --> 0:05:50.120 she thought. 0:05:49.920 --> 0:05:53.839 It, but Rosa kept it in turner, whereas my mom 0:05:53.920 --> 0:05:55.000 had to externalize it. 0:05:55.120 --> 0:05:56.799 Yeah, that's why we love you, Jewels. 0:05:56.800 --> 0:05:59.120 Thanks Jewels number one fan. We should buy us some 0:05:59.200 --> 0:06:04.800 twitch those big hands for jewlsye all right, my mem 0:06:05.640 --> 0:06:08.039 you know how my love language is acts of service. 0:06:08.560 --> 0:06:10.640 I know. I just asked everyone if they wanted a 0:06:10.640 --> 0:06:12.920 cup of tea. Everyone said no, and you were like, oh. 0:06:13.040 --> 0:06:14.720 Everyone goes. I don't want to put you out. You're 0:06:14.720 --> 0:06:16.599 a new mum. You need to sit down. And I 0:06:16.600 --> 0:06:17.920 looked at you with my little sad eyes. 0:06:17.920 --> 0:06:20.760 I was like, el gray with one sugar with blood. 0:06:20.760 --> 0:06:25.520 Bit of cream? Are you these ones? I hope that's frost. 0:06:26.320 --> 0:06:27.320 I'm sure it's press. 0:06:28.200 --> 0:06:29.599 I love people doing things for me. 0:06:29.920 --> 0:06:33.080 It's my don't buy me things, don't buy me flowers 0:06:33.120 --> 0:06:34.920 or anything like that. I just love if someone does 0:06:34.920 --> 0:06:36.800 buy me a tea or does not buy me tea, 0:06:36.839 --> 0:06:38.719 get me a tea, just does something that makes my 0:06:38.760 --> 0:06:39.039 life a. 0:06:39.040 --> 0:06:39.640 Little bit easier. 0:06:39.680 --> 0:06:40.400 Though it was different. 0:06:40.440 --> 0:06:42.000 I want gifts, yeah, I know you do. I just 0:06:42.000 --> 0:06:42.760 love it so much. 0:06:42.800 --> 0:06:46.200 And the other day I've been I feel like I'm 0:06:46.279 --> 0:06:49.320 like at a rule. Just to be completely honest, I 0:06:49.320 --> 0:06:52.640 feel like I'm a bit overstressed at the moment with 0:06:52.760 --> 0:06:54.640 like I did this test thing last week where I 0:06:54.680 --> 0:06:57.320 put my feet into this water and all the toxins 0:06:57.360 --> 0:06:59.400 came out and everyone in this room has seen it. 0:06:59.400 --> 0:07:02.040 It was black afterwards, wasn't it. It was disgusting. It 0:07:02.080 --> 0:07:04.359 was like, I've got so much stress coming out of me. 0:07:04.400 --> 0:07:05.920 I don't know why. There's well, there's a lot of 0:07:05.960 --> 0:07:07.239 little layered things anyway. 0:07:07.440 --> 0:07:10.320 Yeah, and I got my period, and so I on 0:07:10.360 --> 0:07:11.640 the weekend, I did plarties. 0:07:11.680 --> 0:07:13.440 I left. I was tired, I was achy. 0:07:13.440 --> 0:07:16.720 I sawed all the things and then I called Jimmy 0:07:16.880 --> 0:07:17.720 and I'm like, what are you doing? 0:07:17.800 --> 0:07:19.720 He goes, I'm just the chemist. I'm like, what are 0:07:19.720 --> 0:07:20.000 you doing? 0:07:20.040 --> 0:07:23.080 He goes, well, I just went to ask what they've 0:07:23.080 --> 0:07:25.880 got for period pain, because obviously what you're using isn't right. 0:07:25.960 --> 0:07:27.560 So I've got a couple of different brands for you 0:07:27.640 --> 0:07:30.280 to make sure that. And I'm like, you asked the 0:07:30.400 --> 0:07:32.760 lady at the chemist about period pain. 0:07:33.400 --> 0:07:36.120 It's so nice. I asked you to say that. You 0:07:36.200 --> 0:07:38.960 just went and did it. And now I have like 0:07:39.120 --> 0:07:45.600 new tablets to try. And he's so nice. It's so nice. 0:07:45.920 --> 0:07:46.320 Thank you. 0:07:46.400 --> 0:07:47.640 That's your love language. 0:07:47.760 --> 0:07:50.280 It is just heaven, guys. 0:07:50.720 --> 0:07:52.280 Not that we've got any guys listen to this show, 0:07:52.320 --> 0:07:55.680 but do these little things for your partner. That's really everything. 0:07:55.800 --> 0:07:58.080 Whereas my love language was a tennis price after having 0:07:58.080 --> 0:08:00.800 a kid, and here we are without a tennis bracelet 0:08:01.360 --> 0:08:05.360 in the mill. We can be sponsored by a tennis 0:08:05.960 --> 0:08:08.920 To be honest, I don't get your fascination with tennis bracelets. 0:08:08.920 --> 0:08:12.080 Who in little diamond though you can barely see them 0:08:12.600 --> 0:08:14.120 the one I want, you can fucking see. 0:08:14.200 --> 0:08:15.560 I have big a tennis bracelet. 0:08:15.640 --> 0:08:16.880 I don't knows. I have to drag my home. 0:08:17.480 --> 0:08:20.160 And why are they so expensive? Because they're diamonds all 0:08:20.160 --> 0:08:23.080 the way around your wrist. Just go to clients and 0:08:23.080 --> 0:08:23.840 get a fake one. 0:08:23.920 --> 0:08:27.880 Clients literally died in nineteen sixty exist anymore? 0:08:29.840 --> 0:08:30.240 Do they know? 0:08:30.720 --> 0:08:32.440 Next week? Probably brought to you by climb? 0:08:32.640 --> 0:08:34.680 Hey can we check? Give clients still exist? 0:08:34.800 --> 0:08:39.160 I used to get my best friend arms Mary clients Marrion, No, 0:08:39.280 --> 0:08:42.400 there was a client's at Burnside. Where's it yet? K 0:08:42.800 --> 0:08:46.559 l I E n S? Where's our fact checker? Mum 0:08:46.600 --> 0:08:48.880 also laughed about how like we don't know anything and 0:08:48.960 --> 0:08:52.400 Millie has to fact check us for everything. So funny clients, Millie, 0:08:53.040 --> 0:08:56.679 Yeah it was a jewelry plans. Yeah, there's one at Marion. 0:08:57.480 --> 0:09:01.479 French Arms there all the time, and get my jewelry there, clients, 0:09:02.400 --> 0:09:03.800 I don't think it exists anymore. 0:09:03.840 --> 0:09:08.679 Who did one of Moggie's best friend's dad's owned one 0:09:08.679 --> 0:09:16.800 and colonades? Did you get a discount liquid added in 0:09:16.840 --> 0:09:17.600 two thousand and eight. 0:09:19.080 --> 0:09:25.040 I'm so relevant on this show. You are babies eighteen 0:09:25.120 --> 0:09:25.560 years ago. 0:09:26.400 --> 0:09:28.640 You were telling a story before about how you walk 0:09:28.640 --> 0:09:29.440 cloth nabbes. 0:09:31.480 --> 0:09:34.360 How old? I don't know, are you okay? I don't 0:09:34.400 --> 0:09:35.360 know clients? 0:09:35.520 --> 0:09:40.240 Yea. Anyway, what's the other store that like Liviza Leviza? 0:09:40.720 --> 0:09:50.839 It's Clarin's Levitza Loviza or Louisa Millie? Fuck it's another one. God, 0:09:50.920 --> 0:09:53.319 where would you be without Millie? I know, Mum, we'd 0:09:53.320 --> 0:09:58.440 be fucked without her Levizaza. So we had the wrong 0:09:58.480 --> 0:10:03.240 and fastest on the wrong selar you and I always say, 0:10:03.240 --> 0:10:04.880 with your half a brain and my half a brain, 0:10:04.880 --> 0:10:06.600 we've got a full brain. We've got the same brain, 0:10:07.320 --> 0:10:10.160 half brain, small together, we can do it. 0:10:10.120 --> 0:10:12.920 Any full brain, like a massive brain, like an aural brain. 0:10:13.240 --> 0:10:16.040 Yes. But like the other day, went to the supermarket 0:10:16.120 --> 0:10:18.200 because I ran out of everything. The tea is the coffee, 0:10:18.320 --> 0:10:20.720 the milk's like, we've got people coming over, lots of things. 0:10:21.200 --> 0:10:24.840 And I bought a box of tea and I opened 0:10:24.840 --> 0:10:29.920 it and this this is how I opened the teak. 0:10:31.000 --> 0:10:34.440 So Burjo goes to the pantry and he's like, you 0:10:34.600 --> 0:10:40.200 are such a smart person. How could you could not 0:10:40.640 --> 0:10:43.000 it's like a bear has rummaged it. 0:10:43.320 --> 0:10:44.920 It's got honey on it, and he's trying to rip 0:10:44.920 --> 0:10:45.839 it open with his teeth. 0:10:45.880 --> 0:10:49.880 Like it's basically you just swipe that bit across, open 0:10:49.920 --> 0:10:51.800 it up like a box, and you've got a fresh box. 0:10:51.800 --> 0:10:54.960 But that's how I left the tea. And then I 0:10:55.040 --> 0:10:58.760 thought of my mate piercing, because you will literally go 0:10:58.800 --> 0:11:00.720 into a loaf of bread and rather than doing the 0:11:00.760 --> 0:11:03.800 tie at the top, you rip open the whole loaf 0:11:03.840 --> 0:11:04.280 of bread. 0:11:05.000 --> 0:11:07.439 I do it with cereal cheese, with cheese. 0:11:07.240 --> 0:11:10.120 Cheese where it's like resealable at the top, I'll cut 0:11:10.160 --> 0:11:14.200 below that and I get into so much so see 0:11:14.200 --> 0:11:17.000 that bit that seals it like seals the cheese, and 0:11:17.040 --> 0:11:19.079 you've cut below the seal and now it's going to 0:11:19.160 --> 0:11:22.160 go off. My huh, I don't know what that is 0:11:22.200 --> 0:11:24.280 that there is there a word for people who just 0:11:24.320 --> 0:11:24.679 have to do that? 0:11:24.800 --> 0:11:25.880 Or is that an ady ahd thing? 0:11:26.320 --> 0:11:28.600 Well, this is what I wanted to ask you. Why 0:11:28.640 --> 0:11:31.920 do we do this? Because my whole pantry is I 0:11:31.960 --> 0:11:34.199 get stressed. It's like I get hot and flustered when 0:11:34.200 --> 0:11:36.840 I just but even though I wasn't having a tea 0:11:36.840 --> 0:11:37.280 at that time. 0:11:37.360 --> 0:11:40.200 Okay, So what's funny is I was away with my 0:11:40.280 --> 0:11:43.000 friend Alice. You know my friend Alice, and who the 0:11:43.080 --> 0:11:43.920 fuck is Alice? 0:11:44.000 --> 0:11:45.000 Who the fuck is Alice? 0:11:45.120 --> 0:11:47.080 We went shopping and we came home. We had all 0:11:47.120 --> 0:11:50.439 those paper bags from the shopping. I think, right, every 0:11:50.440 --> 0:11:52.640 time we have a paper bag, it never occurs to 0:11:52.679 --> 0:11:55.839 me ever to keep the bat to fold them, because 0:11:55.840 --> 0:11:59.280 they come neat and tiny. I literally go put them in, 0:12:00.440 --> 0:12:03.640 takes up so much space. And I watched her fold 0:12:03.840 --> 0:12:06.480 everyone so neatly, and they all sat inside each other 0:12:06.520 --> 0:12:07.440 and took up no space. 0:12:07.480 --> 0:12:10.120 And I'm like, oh, how do you do that? 0:12:10.320 --> 0:12:12.079 Do you know the other thing I've noticed with you? 0:12:12.320 --> 0:12:14.080 Every time you come here, you ask me where my 0:12:14.120 --> 0:12:14.559 cups are? 0:12:15.240 --> 0:12:17.280 I don't remember things like that, your apology. 0:12:17.000 --> 0:12:18.760 Come to my house like twice away, It doesn't stick. 0:12:18.760 --> 0:12:20.880 It's like Chinese, but like the cups don't move. 0:12:20.920 --> 0:12:22.520 I still don't know where they are. You can't tell 0:12:23.000 --> 0:12:24.199 somebody where your cups are. 0:12:24.240 --> 0:12:27.040 Every time wearing cups, I'm like, the same please last week? 0:12:29.360 --> 0:12:32.160 But like, is that because our brains are so full 0:12:32.200 --> 0:12:34.840 of all this other stuff that we can't remember. I 0:12:34.840 --> 0:12:37.120 don't know what it is does Jimmy get annoyed at 0:12:37.120 --> 0:12:38.120 you sometimes. 0:12:37.920 --> 0:12:40.520 Of course I'm not get annoyed at him. 0:12:40.760 --> 0:12:42.200 Yeah, we can get because I don't care. 0:12:42.840 --> 0:12:44.520 I don't care. I don't care. 0:12:44.720 --> 0:12:47.960 I don't care about this stuff because we're perfect in 0:12:48.000 --> 0:12:52.480 other ways, but also superficial stuff like I don't care 0:12:52.559 --> 0:12:54.600 about who cares. 0:12:54.720 --> 0:12:56.000 I just that is so good. 0:12:56.080 --> 0:12:57.520 Can we please put a photo of that on our 0:12:57.520 --> 0:13:00.360 social because like, the way you've opened that is better 0:13:00.360 --> 0:13:02.200 than you've ever opened anything in your life. Thank you. 0:13:02.320 --> 0:13:03.360 That's how I think should be open. 0:13:03.400 --> 0:13:05.040 Do you know what's annoying? I reckon Sophia would have 0:13:05.080 --> 0:13:09.160 done a better job to this point. Why were you 0:13:09.280 --> 0:13:11.000 so desperate for a tea at that point? I didn't 0:13:11.000 --> 0:13:12.200 even have a tea. I just wanted to get it 0:13:12.200 --> 0:13:13.479 open to go on my pantry. 0:13:14.760 --> 0:13:16.000 I didn't even drink the tea. 0:13:17.080 --> 0:13:19.360 I just knew that, like in like two hours, when 0:13:19.400 --> 0:13:23.000 I wanted a tea, I wouldn't open. I was getting stressed. 0:13:23.800 --> 0:13:25.800 Okay, we're gonna we're gonna do some more research on this. 0:13:25.880 --> 0:13:27.360 I have put it out there actually to try and 0:13:27.400 --> 0:13:29.480 get someone to talk to us about ADHD, because we 0:13:29.520 --> 0:13:30.439 have said on this show. 0:13:30.280 --> 0:13:32.439 That we are undiagnosed. And I'm pretty sure you've. 0:13:32.080 --> 0:13:34.400 Got sidetracks and you forgot about it, so you haven't 0:13:34.400 --> 0:13:39.000 got This is gonna be the best episode ever. Do 0:13:39.080 --> 0:13:41.480 we talk and that I don't care anymore. I hate 0:13:41.480 --> 0:13:44.440 that it leaves my body. You and Burgio are the 0:13:44.480 --> 0:13:45.080 same like that. 0:13:45.320 --> 0:13:46.120 Oh I know. 0:13:47.840 --> 0:13:51.920 I'm not as up and he's very driven by dope. 0:13:51.920 --> 0:13:53.440 You know what. I actually had to have a god 0:13:53.520 --> 0:13:56.680 him yesterday because he is so helpful around the house 0:13:56.760 --> 0:14:00.319 and doing everything, but with his ADHD brain. He started 0:14:00.360 --> 0:14:03.600 unpacking the dishwasher. All the drawers were open, and then 0:14:03.840 --> 0:14:05.920 he did one level and then went and had a shower. 0:14:05.960 --> 0:14:08.080 So then I went into the kitchen almost tripped over 0:14:08.120 --> 0:14:11.520 the dishwasher. I would never you don't leave the dishwasher 0:14:11.640 --> 0:14:14.000 open with the things now because you forget because something 0:14:14.000 --> 0:14:16.200 else important company. He just went he like took the 0:14:16.200 --> 0:14:18.120 glass that and went, I'm going to go have a shower. 0:14:21.520 --> 0:14:24.680 I love this all the time. I get because it's 0:14:24.680 --> 0:14:25.360 the tripping hazard. 0:14:26.040 --> 0:14:28.080 Anyway, I'm just holding Florence going to make a bottle 0:14:28.080 --> 0:14:30.320 tripping over a dishwasher anyway. 0:14:31.720 --> 0:14:35.000 All right, stay with us in a second, I'm going 0:14:35.040 --> 0:14:38.480 to talk to you about a word that is triggering 0:14:38.520 --> 0:14:40.640 for me and my family, and I heard it come 0:14:40.720 --> 0:14:42.760 up in a conversation with my eleven year old, and 0:14:42.800 --> 0:14:43.720 I want to tell you about that. 0:14:43.840 --> 0:14:46.000 You say, all right, you know the old saying that. 0:14:45.960 --> 0:14:47.840 My parents used to say to us, Sticks and stones 0:14:47.880 --> 0:14:49.760 will break our bones, but words willever hurt you. 0:14:49.880 --> 0:14:54.560 Yeah, it's bullshit, because words hurt bs, words sting like 0:14:54.720 --> 0:14:56.400 nothing else, and then you can hold onto them for 0:14:56.400 --> 0:14:57.040 fifty years. 0:14:57.120 --> 0:14:57.360 Yeah. 0:14:57.440 --> 0:14:59.240 Yeah, sometimes it's worse than the punch. 0:15:00.080 --> 0:15:02.840 It's always worse because the punch goes, bruises, fade. 0:15:02.600 --> 0:15:04.920 But words will stay with you forever. Tell your kids 0:15:04.960 --> 0:15:06.200 that one. 0:15:07.280 --> 0:15:09.000 I want to bring this up because there's a word 0:15:09.040 --> 0:15:13.040 for me in my house that is triggering and I 0:15:13.120 --> 0:15:15.960 overheard it on a FaceTime. 0:15:15.400 --> 0:15:16.960 With my eleven year old and his mates. 0:15:19.920 --> 0:15:22.600 I'm not I don't want to punish kids for saying this, 0:15:22.760 --> 0:15:24.720 but I want. I think it's a learning experience and 0:15:24.760 --> 0:15:26.840 the word should be used in a better context. 0:15:26.960 --> 0:15:27.760 That word is gay. 0:15:28.240 --> 0:15:31.400 So I was at home in the lounge room, hurt 0:15:31.400 --> 0:15:33.520 our fie on the phone, all all these mates there, 0:15:33.560 --> 0:15:35.320 I'll just make up a name that one of them 0:15:35.400 --> 0:15:39.520 was calling Tommy gay. They're like, oh, Tommy is so gay, 0:15:39.720 --> 0:15:41.840 Tommy's go But it was all in jest. It was 0:15:41.880 --> 0:15:44.240 all it was all fun, but everyone was laughing, but 0:15:44.320 --> 0:15:49.360 it was in negative connotation. It wasn't like, you're so gay, 0:15:49.480 --> 0:15:51.880 that's so cool. It was you're gay? 0:15:52.080 --> 0:15:52.680 Are you gay? 0:15:52.760 --> 0:15:56.040 Or you're your pathetic kind of thing right. And as 0:15:56.080 --> 0:15:58.840 this was happening, Alfie, with his big green eyes, looked 0:15:58.920 --> 0:16:02.120 up at me and froze. And I looked straight into 0:16:02.160 --> 0:16:04.000 his eyes and he knew what I was thinking, because 0:16:04.040 --> 0:16:06.000 it's not how I brought him up and he shut 0:16:06.040 --> 0:16:09.000 his laptop and I said, he goes, I'm sorry, mum, 0:16:09.040 --> 0:16:09.840 they just say it. 0:16:09.960 --> 0:16:11.040 I'm like, I'm proud. 0:16:10.760 --> 0:16:12.840 Of you for not joining in and not saying it. 0:16:13.400 --> 0:16:15.240 And I'm not going to punish you. I'm not going 0:16:15.320 --> 0:16:15.800 to sense of. 0:16:15.800 --> 0:16:21.280 The word, but I want you to know how impactful 0:16:21.280 --> 0:16:25.000 that word can be it when used negatively. And I 0:16:25.080 --> 0:16:29.240 say this because my background growing up. My brother was 0:16:29.240 --> 0:16:32.200 five years older than me. He's not here anymore, he 0:16:32.200 --> 0:16:35.000 passed away fourteen years ago from addiction. 0:16:34.920 --> 0:16:35.840 But he was gay. 0:16:36.280 --> 0:16:41.480 And I have these really deep seated memories of when 0:16:41.520 --> 0:16:44.080 I would leave primary school and i'd walk home and 0:16:44.120 --> 0:16:46.440 I had all these kids in his year he would 0:16:46.480 --> 0:16:47.960 have been in his seven, so he wasn't out. He 0:16:48.000 --> 0:16:49.160 didn't come out to his sixteen. 0:16:50.000 --> 0:16:53.760 Coming up to me, going, your brother's are insert most 0:16:53.800 --> 0:16:56.360 revolting word ever said that rhymes with maggot. 0:16:57.120 --> 0:17:00.960 I'll say maggot instead of that word. Brother, your brother's 0:17:01.000 --> 0:17:02.920 a maggot. You're so gay? Oh my god, have you 0:17:02.960 --> 0:17:04.000 seen your brother? He said gay? 0:17:04.000 --> 0:17:06.080 And I was just standing at the lights, going, I 0:17:06.080 --> 0:17:07.960 don't even know what that means. Why are you saying that? 0:17:08.000 --> 0:17:09.520 Why are you being mean to my brother? Why is 0:17:09.560 --> 0:17:10.280 that a bad word? 0:17:10.280 --> 0:17:15.280 I didn't know right, and then these words started. I 0:17:15.280 --> 0:17:20.480 guess a series of events for my brother where he 0:17:20.880 --> 0:17:23.600