1 00:00:09,080 --> 00:00:12,479 Speaker 1: Hi everyone, Carly Taylor here for this week's My Joe Monday. 2 00:00:13,119 --> 00:00:16,040 Speaker 1: So I'll be really honest with you. The last few 3 00:00:16,040 --> 00:00:20,279 Speaker 1: weeks have been pretty tough. Some of you aware that 4 00:00:20,320 --> 00:00:24,080 Speaker 1: Paul had open heart surgery and it's been quite a journey. It's, 5 00:00:24,160 --> 00:00:27,240 Speaker 1: of course it's been quite a journey for him, but 6 00:00:27,440 --> 00:00:31,320 Speaker 1: also for me and the kids. He's doing really, really 7 00:00:31,440 --> 00:00:36,040 Speaker 1: well now, which is amazing. And so it was a 8 00:00:36,120 --> 00:00:40,080 Speaker 1: challenging time in a very short space of time. And 9 00:00:40,200 --> 00:00:44,200 Speaker 1: I came across this poem by pure chance. I had 10 00:00:44,240 --> 00:00:46,840 Speaker 1: never heard it before. Some of you may have heard 11 00:00:46,920 --> 00:00:50,559 Speaker 1: of the poet, but it really stopped me in my tracks, 12 00:00:50,600 --> 00:00:56,080 Speaker 1: and its impact actually created this space for me to pivot, 13 00:00:56,360 --> 00:00:59,120 Speaker 1: which is what I really needed to do. It's by 14 00:00:59,240 --> 00:01:03,560 Speaker 1: Roomy Remy is a Persian poet Sufi mystic from the 15 00:01:03,600 --> 00:01:08,640 Speaker 1: thirteenth century, which is just so amazing. And somehow this 16 00:01:09,120 --> 00:01:13,280 Speaker 1: amazing human across centuries wrote down these words that really 17 00:01:14,000 --> 00:01:19,040 Speaker 1: hit exactly where they needed to hit. So I'm going 18 00:01:19,080 --> 00:01:22,000 Speaker 1: to read you the poem. It's called the guest House. 19 00:01:23,440 --> 00:01:27,160 Speaker 1: This being human is a guest house every morning, and 20 00:01:27,240 --> 00:01:33,280 Speaker 1: your arrival a joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary 21 00:01:33,319 --> 00:01:38,880 Speaker 1: awareness comes as an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all. 22 00:01:39,400 --> 00:01:42,320 Speaker 1: Even if there are a crowd of sorrows who violently 23 00:01:42,440 --> 00:01:47,000 Speaker 1: sweep your house empty of its furniture, still treat each 24 00:01:47,080 --> 00:01:50,680 Speaker 1: guest honorably. He may be clearing you out for some 25 00:01:50,880 --> 00:01:56,960 Speaker 1: new delight, the dark thought, the shame, the malice. Meet 26 00:01:57,040 --> 00:02:00,200 Speaker 1: them at the door, laughing, and invite them in. Be 27 00:02:00,320 --> 00:02:03,960 Speaker 1: grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as 28 00:02:04,000 --> 00:02:09,600 Speaker 1: a guide from beyond. I sat with these words, and 29 00:02:10,160 --> 00:02:13,280 Speaker 1: they made me realize something that while I was going 30 00:02:13,320 --> 00:02:16,080 Speaker 1: through this sort of challenging time, that I'd really been 31 00:02:16,680 --> 00:02:21,919 Speaker 1: resisting how I was feeling. And when life throws that 32 00:02:21,960 --> 00:02:26,720 Speaker 1: sort of discomfort our way, which it inevitably will, whether 33 00:02:26,760 --> 00:02:30,320 Speaker 1: it's stress or sadness or self doubt, our instinct is 34 00:02:30,360 --> 00:02:35,320 Speaker 1: to fight it, to push it away, to distract ourselves, 35 00:02:36,280 --> 00:02:41,639 Speaker 1: numb it, over analyze it, anything but not to feel it. 36 00:02:42,600 --> 00:02:46,320 Speaker 1: And the more we resist, the heavier it can get. 37 00:02:47,160 --> 00:02:50,640 Speaker 1: But what Rumy is saying is quite radical, and this 38 00:02:50,680 --> 00:02:53,920 Speaker 1: is what amazes me. That is a thirteenth century poet, 39 00:02:54,040 --> 00:02:58,200 Speaker 1: and it just shows that humans in the thirteenth century 40 00:02:58,440 --> 00:03:01,680 Speaker 1: had the same struggles. Their thoughts and emotions as we 41 00:03:01,720 --> 00:03:06,160 Speaker 1: do today. So Rumy is saying welcome it. Not because 42 00:03:06,200 --> 00:03:09,880 Speaker 1: pain is fun and not because you want it, but 43 00:03:10,040 --> 00:03:12,720 Speaker 1: because it's part of the deal. It's part of the 44 00:03:12,800 --> 00:03:17,480 Speaker 1: deal of being human. And this being human is like 45 00:03:17,520 --> 00:03:22,040 Speaker 1: a guest house. So some days joy knocks on the door, 46 00:03:22,080 --> 00:03:24,919 Speaker 1: and other days it's grief barges in and flips you 47 00:03:25,000 --> 00:03:31,480 Speaker 1: weled upside down. But every emotion, even the ugly ones, 48 00:03:31,520 --> 00:03:34,440 Speaker 1: if you want to call them that, or the difficult ones, 49 00:03:34,480 --> 00:03:38,280 Speaker 1: the uncomfortable ones, they come with something to teach us. 50 00:03:38,960 --> 00:03:43,480 Speaker 1: And if we can stop resisting, when we allow these 51 00:03:43,520 --> 00:03:47,480 Speaker 1: emotions to come and go, we stop being victims of them. 52 00:03:47,720 --> 00:03:51,760 Speaker 1: They don't control us anymore. And that's what this poem 53 00:03:51,880 --> 00:03:56,400 Speaker 1: gave me these past few weeks. It reminded me to 54 00:03:56,440 --> 00:04:02,240 Speaker 1: stop fighting, stop resisting, stop over thinking, and just allow 55 00:04:03,120 --> 00:04:07,360 Speaker 1: to feel it, to move through the emotions and trust that, 56 00:04:07,640 --> 00:04:13,720 Speaker 1: just like every other emotion, it will pass. So this week, 57 00:04:13,880 --> 00:04:18,279 Speaker 1: if you find yourself feeling overwhelmed, take a step back 58 00:04:18,320 --> 00:04:21,640 Speaker 1: and pause, take a deep breath, and instead of resisting, 59 00:04:22,480 --> 00:04:27,200 Speaker 1: notice that urge to resist, Notice the emotion and allow 60 00:04:27,279 --> 00:04:31,719 Speaker 1: them to come, let them go, and trust that each 61 00:04:31,800 --> 00:04:34,240 Speaker 1: one is shaping you in ways that you might not 62 00:04:34,520 --> 00:04:38,839 Speaker 1: see yet. Because when we stop resisting life, we can 63 00:04:38,880 --> 00:04:43,040 Speaker 1: start truly living it. So I hope those insights have 64 00:04:43,120 --> 00:04:45,960 Speaker 1: been valuable for you. I hope you have a great week, 65 00:04:46,120 --> 00:04:56,880 Speaker 1: and I will catch you next week. See ya.