1 00:00:09,480 --> 00:00:12,680 Speaker 1: Hi everyone, Carly Talor here for this week's Mojo Monday. 2 00:00:13,400 --> 00:00:16,160 Speaker 1: So something that comes up a lot with my clients 3 00:00:16,560 --> 00:00:21,159 Speaker 1: is that they set goals. They start off with a 4 00:00:21,200 --> 00:00:25,000 Speaker 1: lot of enthusiasm, they've got a lot of motivation, dive 5 00:00:25,079 --> 00:00:29,040 Speaker 1: headfirst into action mode and things are going really, really well. 6 00:00:29,640 --> 00:00:33,720 Speaker 1: But then inevitably life gets in the way, something happens 7 00:00:34,280 --> 00:00:37,200 Speaker 1: and they fall off the wagon and throw their hands 8 00:00:37,240 --> 00:00:40,159 Speaker 1: up in the air and give up. Now, this pattern 9 00:00:40,440 --> 00:00:44,559 Speaker 1: is often tied to perfectionistic traits, and I'm sure so 10 00:00:44,760 --> 00:00:47,200 Speaker 1: many of you listening are going to relate to this. 11 00:00:47,920 --> 00:00:51,480 Speaker 1: So it's this all or nothing approach. It's either perfect 12 00:00:52,200 --> 00:00:56,480 Speaker 1: or it's not at all. But let's be honest, and 13 00:00:56,520 --> 00:00:58,920 Speaker 1: I know you're going to know this rationally, it's not 14 00:00:59,000 --> 00:01:04,920 Speaker 1: a realistic approach to anything because life is messy, it's unpredictable, 15 00:01:05,080 --> 00:01:09,000 Speaker 1: and it's full of these curve balls. You know, injuries 16 00:01:09,120 --> 00:01:13,160 Speaker 1: or poor sleep, or social events come up, kids getting sick. 17 00:01:13,319 --> 00:01:18,440 Speaker 1: The list is endless that can derail you from this 18 00:01:18,760 --> 00:01:23,800 Speaker 1: perfect plan that you've set for yourself. So a shift 19 00:01:23,880 --> 00:01:28,480 Speaker 1: in perspective is going to really help. So instead of 20 00:01:28,560 --> 00:01:31,640 Speaker 1: focusing solely on what you're going to do, on a 21 00:01:31,680 --> 00:01:34,039 Speaker 1: good day, because that's what we tend to do. We 22 00:01:34,160 --> 00:01:36,200 Speaker 1: tend to set the goals and we go, right, I'm 23 00:01:36,200 --> 00:01:38,560 Speaker 1: going to do this, I'm going to do this, and 24 00:01:38,600 --> 00:01:41,360 Speaker 1: at this time, I'm going to do this and everything. 25 00:01:41,400 --> 00:01:46,000 Speaker 1: When everything goes to plan, everything's great. But also plan 26 00:01:46,760 --> 00:01:49,480 Speaker 1: for what you're going to do on a challenging day. 27 00:01:50,040 --> 00:01:54,280 Speaker 1: So this is about expecting the challenges. So when something 28 00:01:54,360 --> 00:01:58,000 Speaker 1: happens that prevents you from doing the full workout or 29 00:01:58,080 --> 00:02:02,840 Speaker 1: attending the class or diving into that deep work, ask yourself, 30 00:02:03,040 --> 00:02:07,360 Speaker 1: what can I still do? Because you can always do something. 31 00:02:08,080 --> 00:02:13,520 Speaker 1: And there's a stoic practice of pre meditatio malorum, which 32 00:02:14,000 --> 00:02:18,760 Speaker 1: in Latin means the pre meditation of evils, and this 33 00:02:18,800 --> 00:02:23,400 Speaker 1: is about visualizing what could go wrong in advance to 34 00:02:23,560 --> 00:02:27,800 Speaker 1: prepare yourself for the worst case scenarios so they don't 35 00:02:27,840 --> 00:02:32,760 Speaker 1: catch you by surprise. Because something is always better than nothing. 36 00:02:33,160 --> 00:02:36,760 Speaker 1: Something keeps you moving forward, and that's a good thing 37 00:02:36,960 --> 00:02:41,320 Speaker 1: because progress, not perfection, is what matters. And if you 38 00:02:41,400 --> 00:02:45,720 Speaker 1: expect every day to go perfectly, you're setting yourself up 39 00:02:45,720 --> 00:02:50,560 Speaker 1: for disappointment. So notice that perfectionistic voice in your head 40 00:02:50,760 --> 00:02:54,480 Speaker 1: and kindly tell it to step aside while you get 41 00:02:54,520 --> 00:02:58,160 Speaker 1: on with what you need to do. So often we 42 00:02:58,360 --> 00:03:03,240 Speaker 1: think ourselves out of taking action. You know, we think, oh, well, 43 00:03:03,520 --> 00:03:05,720 Speaker 1: I couldn't go to the class, or I couldn't do 44 00:03:05,840 --> 00:03:08,280 Speaker 1: what I promised myself that I was going to do, 45 00:03:08,360 --> 00:03:10,760 Speaker 1: so I'm going to do nothing. This is all just thinking. 46 00:03:11,200 --> 00:03:14,840 Speaker 1: There is always a choice. Whatever that self talk is, 47 00:03:15,040 --> 00:03:18,560 Speaker 1: there's always a choice, and you get to choose whether 48 00:03:18,680 --> 00:03:23,240 Speaker 1: you stay on that wagon or not. So let's say 49 00:03:23,400 --> 00:03:27,200 Speaker 1: you plan to go to a sixty minute class, but 50 00:03:27,400 --> 00:03:29,800 Speaker 1: your day spiraled out of control and you ended up 51 00:03:29,840 --> 00:03:33,880 Speaker 1: working late. So instead of skipping it entirely, what you 52 00:03:33,919 --> 00:03:37,200 Speaker 1: would do is go home, put your gear on and 53 00:03:37,240 --> 00:03:40,440 Speaker 1: do something. So whether that's a ten minute stretch session 54 00:03:40,560 --> 00:03:42,960 Speaker 1: or a power walk around the block or whatever it is, 55 00:03:43,520 --> 00:03:47,440 Speaker 1: it's still progress. Or maybe you had an hour of 56 00:03:47,520 --> 00:03:51,640 Speaker 1: deep work scheduled, or you had some project that you're 57 00:03:51,680 --> 00:03:53,400 Speaker 1: working on in the phone rang and your kids are 58 00:03:53,400 --> 00:03:55,240 Speaker 1: sick and they're telling you to go and pick them up. 59 00:03:55,720 --> 00:04:00,480 Speaker 1: Even doing a fifteen minute focused session of deep work 60 00:04:00,560 --> 00:04:04,320 Speaker 1: can make a difference. So what we are developing by 61 00:04:04,360 --> 00:04:08,560 Speaker 1: doing this is being flexible in our thinking, adapting to 62 00:04:08,840 --> 00:04:13,240 Speaker 1: the situation and keep showing up even if it's not perfect. 63 00:04:13,880 --> 00:04:20,320 Speaker 1: Consistency always beats perfection every time. So this week, think 64 00:04:20,360 --> 00:04:23,960 Speaker 1: about your goals and your plans for not just the 65 00:04:24,000 --> 00:04:27,880 Speaker 1: good days, but for the tough ones too. Even at 66 00:04:27,920 --> 00:04:29,960 Speaker 1: the beginning of the week, have a look at your 67 00:04:30,000 --> 00:04:35,240 Speaker 1: calendar and see what's going on, and anticipate any obstacles, 68 00:04:35,279 --> 00:04:38,640 Speaker 1: anything that's going to stop you from doing what you 69 00:04:38,680 --> 00:04:41,719 Speaker 1: would like to do, but then anticipating, okay, well what 70 00:04:42,080 --> 00:04:45,719 Speaker 1: can I do? What's my plan be for when life 71 00:04:45,760 --> 00:04:51,000 Speaker 1: throws a curveball? So remember it's always progress over perfection, 72 00:04:51,520 --> 00:04:54,200 Speaker 1: and it doesn't mean that perfectionistic voice is not going 73 00:04:54,240 --> 00:04:57,400 Speaker 1: to come up. But just make sure you don't think 74 00:04:57,480 --> 00:05:02,159 Speaker 1: yourself out of action. I have never met a perfect person, 75 00:05:02,800 --> 00:05:05,680 Speaker 1: and I think we all need to accept our own 76 00:05:05,720 --> 00:05:10,520 Speaker 1: imperfections and the imperfection of life as well. So have 77 00:05:10,560 --> 00:05:13,760 Speaker 1: a great week everyone, and I will catch you next week.