WEBVTT - THE POPPING OF THE CHERRY 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:02.640 I want the fairy tale. I want the prince charming. 0:00:03.080 --> 0:00:06.000 She how do I put this? Isn't a fan of 0:00:06.040 --> 0:00:07.360 my kissing style. 0:00:07.720 --> 0:00:10.879 With the boyfriend and girlfriend for about twelve hours. He's 0:00:10.920 --> 0:00:13.760 in a trash bin. He's non recyclable catching number. 0:00:15.200 --> 0:00:18.680 I love being love, I love love. On today's episode 0:00:18.720 --> 0:00:20.720 of Where's Your Head At, we are discussing when we 0:00:20.760 --> 0:00:22.799 both lost our virginity and at what ages. 0:00:23.000 --> 0:00:25.640 We will also be sharing some of our top tips 0:00:25.720 --> 0:00:26.800 for your first time. 0:00:27.080 --> 0:00:29.760 Stay tuned to hear about our first time and whether 0:00:29.800 --> 0:00:36.800 we wish we had waited or it was the perfect timing. 0:00:37.000 --> 0:00:39.400 Where's Your Head At is a podcast that talks all 0:00:39.479 --> 0:00:44.800 things relationships, breakups, reality TV, trending shows, and everything in between. 0:00:45.080 --> 0:00:47.800 This is your new go to destination for laughs, gossip, 0:00:47.960 --> 0:00:53.920 intimate details, advice, and much more. 0:00:55.000 --> 0:00:55.920 Hey Matt, how are you? 0:00:56.160 --> 0:00:58.320 I'm crud? How are you anna? What's been going on. 0:00:58.320 --> 0:01:02.360 At the moment? I'm upset with Love Island UK. I 0:01:02.400 --> 0:01:04.640 know you haven't watched it, but I've been telling you 0:01:04.680 --> 0:01:06.600 to watch it because it's so good. 0:01:06.840 --> 0:01:08.920 What makes it good? Then? How is it any different 0:01:08.920 --> 0:01:09.520 from ours? 0:01:09.560 --> 0:01:09.640 Like? 0:01:09.680 --> 0:01:11.560 I know everyone says the UK is way better than 0:01:11.600 --> 0:01:13.720 the Australian one. What do they do that's different to us? 0:01:13.760 --> 0:01:17.319 The UK is way better. There's just so much more drama. 0:01:17.840 --> 0:01:21.360 They just capture attention the whole time. I think sometimes 0:01:21.360 --> 0:01:23.919 the Australian one can be a little boring. 0:01:24.120 --> 0:01:26.440 I think that where what I find is everyone's too 0:01:26.520 --> 0:01:29.080 conscious of what people think in the outside world, and 0:01:29.120 --> 0:01:31.679 they're not ready to be themselves or willing to be themselves. 0:01:31.800 --> 0:01:32.559 Yeah, for sure. 0:01:32.680 --> 0:01:35.399 Do you not get PTSD though? When that text message 0:01:35.440 --> 0:01:40.080 whence goes off? I got it came on the It 0:01:40.120 --> 0:01:42.120 came on the radio the other day and I was 0:01:42.240 --> 0:01:45.440 driving and I literally felt the coldest fucking shiver down 0:01:45.440 --> 0:01:48.440 in the back of my spine, and I was like, Oh, 0:01:48.640 --> 0:01:51.200 they like doing an ad for it. 0:01:51.200 --> 0:01:52.880 It's really good, Matt. I think you should watch it. 0:01:52.920 --> 0:01:56.560 But how are you going? Jen is away at the moment. 0:01:57.880 --> 0:02:01.840 Yeah, so Jen's having her little girl's trip with her 0:02:01.880 --> 0:02:03.640 best friend in Tasmania. 0:02:03.920 --> 0:02:04.320 Yeah. 0:02:04.440 --> 0:02:06.480 No, you look to be honest. The first night I 0:02:06.520 --> 0:02:09.040 was fine. Like first night, I was fine. I've been 0:02:09.440 --> 0:02:11.919 hanging to watch Stranger Things. She doesn't watch Stranger Things, 0:02:11.960 --> 0:02:15.160 so I flicked that on. Ye got into Stranger Things 0:02:15.600 --> 0:02:19.640 self care. Yeah, but In the meantime, I cooked a steak. 0:02:20.320 --> 0:02:21.960 I've had sam and I've just had a lot of 0:02:22.000 --> 0:02:25.120 meat while she's been away as well. But yeah, so 0:02:25.200 --> 0:02:27.919 I mean treating myself like that. But I think it's 0:02:28.040 --> 0:02:30.720 more like the last two nights, I was like sort 0:02:30.720 --> 0:02:32.880 of like falling asleep. I don't know, you get so 0:02:33.000 --> 0:02:34.920 used to having them there to cuddle, and then when 0:02:34.919 --> 0:02:37.560 they're not there, I was sort of like, Oh, this 0:02:37.560 --> 0:02:38.200 this sucks. 0:02:38.280 --> 0:02:40.640 I saw a stat recently and it said that you 0:02:40.680 --> 0:02:44.080 sleep thirty percent better when you have a partner sleeping 0:02:44.120 --> 0:02:47.160 beside you, and I totally agree with that. Like I 0:02:47.200 --> 0:02:50.320 sleep way better with Michael sleeping beside me. 0:02:50.560 --> 0:02:53.119 Well, i'd had some rough nights sleep up to when 0:02:53.160 --> 0:02:56.079 she left, so I was like, oh, she's gone, I'll 0:02:56.080 --> 0:02:57.639 have a week off. Maybe we'll see how it goes. 0:02:57.680 --> 0:02:59.480 It was no different, So I think I was sleeping 0:02:59.480 --> 0:03:00.480 better when she was there. 0:03:00.600 --> 0:03:02.320 Oh so you're sleeping rough at the moment. 0:03:02.480 --> 0:03:04.680 Yeah, I don't know what's happening. I don't know, like 0:03:04.960 --> 0:03:06.239 just a thousand things on my mind. 0:03:06.280 --> 0:03:07.400 I don't know, just anxiety. 0:03:07.560 --> 0:03:09.120 Yeah, I can't switch it off at the moment. 0:03:09.320 --> 0:03:12.720 Yeah, well, you know what I have actually been hearing 0:03:12.760 --> 0:03:15.520 from Matt a lot recently, Like my phone has been 0:03:15.520 --> 0:03:18.320 blowing up way more, and I did expect it, Like 0:03:18.400 --> 0:03:20.280 we have spoken about this, I was kind of like 0:03:20.360 --> 0:03:21.480 preparing myself. 0:03:21.680 --> 0:03:23.560 Well, I spoke to gen and I was like, Hey, 0:03:23.560 --> 0:03:25.959 we've hardly spoke because obviously she's busy away I'm busy, 0:03:26.000 --> 0:03:29.560 and we've actually spoke less than when we're like together. 0:03:29.760 --> 0:03:31.960 But I think it's good. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, 0:03:32.040 --> 0:03:33.520 So I can't wait to give her a cuddle when 0:03:33.560 --> 0:03:36.480 she comes back. Tell you what I'm really excited for though, 0:03:36.520 --> 0:03:37.400 when she comes back. 0:03:37.480 --> 0:03:39.440 Yeah, this is. 0:03:39.360 --> 0:03:41.640 Probably the longest I've been without having sex. 0:03:43.360 --> 0:03:44.600 I knew you were going to bring it. 0:03:46.720 --> 0:03:48.960 So when she comes back, I'm going to be like 0:03:48.960 --> 0:03:50.920 a kid on Christmas morning. I reckon, it's going to 0:03:50.960 --> 0:03:53.320 be like I'm losing my opportunity for the first time again. 0:03:53.960 --> 0:03:55.320 I'm going to be so excited. 0:03:55.640 --> 0:03:59.640 Well, look, that's a great segue into today's episode. We 0:03:59.760 --> 0:04:01.600 talked all things losing your virginity. 0:04:01.680 --> 0:04:08.360 Let's jump in, So we're talking about losing a virginity today. Anna, 0:04:08.680 --> 0:04:11.520 do you remember when you first had the Birds and 0:04:11.520 --> 0:04:14.720 the Bees chat? Who gave you that chat? 0:04:15.400 --> 0:04:18.320 When I got my first ever birds in the bee's chat, 0:04:18.920 --> 0:04:21.560 I had no idea about any of this, Like I 0:04:21.600 --> 0:04:23.720 didn't know what sex was. I think I must have 0:04:23.800 --> 0:04:27.320 been like nine. I think I was too young in hindsight, 0:04:27.600 --> 0:04:29.440 And I remember it must have been late at night, 0:04:29.520 --> 0:04:32.400 so it was dark. My mum was driving in the 0:04:32.440 --> 0:04:34.839 car and she just like brought up the subject of 0:04:34.880 --> 0:04:37.520 the birds and the bees and started like telling me 0:04:37.560 --> 0:04:40.880 about sex and like all of this stuff and how 0:04:40.880 --> 0:04:44.200 everything works. And I just remember saying, why are you 0:04:44.320 --> 0:04:44.800 saying this? 0:04:45.240 --> 0:04:46.320 It was your brother, There was no. 0:04:46.520 --> 0:04:48.640 It was just the two of us, and I was 0:04:48.680 --> 0:04:51.359 just so confused, and it was like I think I 0:04:51.400 --> 0:04:54.240 went into like shock and denial, like I was like, 0:04:54.320 --> 0:04:56.760 this can't be happening, This can't be real, Like you 0:04:56.760 --> 0:04:59.080 know when you get really cringed out. I don't think 0:04:59.120 --> 0:05:01.919 I had experienced feeling cringed out to that level. And 0:05:01.960 --> 0:05:05.280 I was just like, Mum, please stop, like stop talking, 0:05:05.440 --> 0:05:07.520 like this is so awkward. Why are you saying that? 0:05:07.680 --> 0:05:09.440 Well? How did you know that it was awkward? Though? 0:05:09.560 --> 0:05:10.880 Like I don't know what. 0:05:10.839 --> 0:05:15.120 It was uncomfortable, Like intuitively, at nine years old, I 0:05:15.160 --> 0:05:17.880 was like this feels wrong, Like stop talking. 0:05:18.080 --> 0:05:20.320 I don't remember the bees and the birch chat, but 0:05:20.600 --> 0:05:22.440 we were chatting about this before. And I remember the 0:05:22.440 --> 0:05:25.640 first time though, I started having those sexual feelings. My 0:05:25.720 --> 0:05:27.719 mum touched on it when she was in here. She 0:05:27.839 --> 0:05:31.479 said that I took out of the mail box bras 0:05:31.520 --> 0:05:33.600 and things catalog and I hit it in the garage 0:05:34.120 --> 0:05:36.719 and I remember like flicking through it. Obviously I was 0:05:36.800 --> 0:05:40.839 too young to know exactly what I was feeling, but 0:05:40.960 --> 0:05:45.640 I knew I was feeling. But now I know what 0:05:45.680 --> 0:05:49.200 to do with that feeling. But a bit of a yeah, yeah, 0:05:49.240 --> 0:05:52.680 a bit of yeah, blood was flowing in different directions. 0:05:52.720 --> 0:05:57.640 But and so that was the first time I remember 0:05:57.680 --> 0:06:00.839 actually having some sort of sexual thought. But I don't 0:06:00.880 --> 0:06:03.279 remember my mom or dad having the birds and the 0:06:03.279 --> 0:06:03.960 beest chat with me. 0:06:04.120 --> 0:06:06.560 No, do you know what you're saying? That story has 0:06:06.640 --> 0:06:10.839 kind of reminded me. I think. A couple of years 0:06:10.920 --> 0:06:13.240 after my mum had the awkward birds and the bees 0:06:13.400 --> 0:06:17.080 talk with me, I was doing a school project and 0:06:17.120 --> 0:06:19.320 everyone got to choose an animal, and I chose the 0:06:19.320 --> 0:06:21.599 fox because I was, like, you know, I lived in 0:06:21.600 --> 0:06:23.719 the UK at the time. We used to see them 0:06:23.760 --> 0:06:25.400 sometimes on the country roads. 0:06:25.520 --> 0:06:26.919 Felt foxy anyway. 0:06:27.040 --> 0:06:29.560 I was like the Internet was very new at the time. 0:06:29.680 --> 0:06:35.839 I was doing some research type tin www dot foxes, 0:06:35.920 --> 0:06:39.680 dot co dot uk, and like a porn site came up, 0:06:39.880 --> 0:06:43.960 and like like I was like an innocent child trying 0:06:44.000 --> 0:06:47.599 to do some research, thinking like the native fox was 0:06:47.680 --> 0:06:51.559 gonna come up, and I got some like older women 0:06:51.960 --> 0:06:55.560 naked and the sexy like bondage lingerie and I will 0:06:55.600 --> 0:06:58.080 never forget it. And I was like delete search is 0:06:58.120 --> 0:06:59.159 to delete dolt. 0:07:00.360 --> 0:07:03.400 I remember with a mate, very young as well, actually 0:07:03.520 --> 0:07:06.200 going on there because obviously back in those days of the 0:07:06.200 --> 0:07:07.719 house had one computer and it was in like the 0:07:07.760 --> 0:07:10.440 study and I remember going on there and typing in 0:07:10.480 --> 0:07:16.320 like porn just pawn or sex or yeah books, yeah, 0:07:16.960 --> 0:07:19.160 and like looking at what came up. And then I 0:07:19.240 --> 0:07:22.320 obviously were too young to realize what clear history was. 0:07:23.000 --> 0:07:25.160 And I remember doing it like maybe a week or 0:07:25.160 --> 0:07:27.520 so later, and Dad had the it man round and 0:07:27.560 --> 0:07:29.800 it was all blocked and we were like two little 0:07:29.840 --> 0:07:31.560 kids about to get our co muffins off and we 0:07:31.560 --> 0:07:32.960 were like, oh and it was all blocked. 0:07:33.400 --> 0:07:36.480 Well, so he saw the search history saw them yeah, 0:07:36.520 --> 0:07:37.360 and blocked well. 0:07:37.560 --> 0:07:39.559 I never brought up it was ever brought to my attention. 0:07:39.640 --> 0:07:40.920 But yeah, it's all blocked, and we were just like, 0:07:41.000 --> 0:07:41.840 damn it, if. 0:07:41.760 --> 0:07:43.920 Your dad's listening, that's good parenting right there. 0:07:45.080 --> 0:07:48.320 Yeah, stopping your twelve or thirteen year old son from 0:07:48.400 --> 0:07:50.640 looking at naked women. 0:07:50.920 --> 0:07:54.800 Your internet porn was blocked. But when did you actually 0:07:55.040 --> 0:07:56.400 do the deed and have sex? 0:07:57.320 --> 0:08:00.920 Okay, So when I first lost my virginity, I was 0:08:01.600 --> 0:08:05.880 fourteen ish. Maybe I know I was young. My girlfriend 0:08:05.960 --> 0:08:09.400 at the time was two years older than me, I think, 0:08:09.440 --> 0:08:11.880 so like she was older, she was sixteen, she was 0:08:11.920 --> 0:08:12.600 around sixteen. 0:08:12.680 --> 0:08:15.560 She was an older woman. Well, you know me, he 0:08:15.640 --> 0:08:18.560 does love as old. That's quite young. I know we've 0:08:18.560 --> 0:08:20.920 spoken about this. Yeah, I find that quite young. 0:08:21.000 --> 0:08:22.600 Oh fucking I had no idea what I was doing. 0:08:23.200 --> 0:08:24.720 I guess you just did the school yard. Was you 0:08:24.760 --> 0:08:26.760 had a girlfriend like you have X? 0:08:27.600 --> 0:08:30.080 Really at fourteen, I was like, we can hold hands 0:08:30.160 --> 0:08:31.400 and like that's a big deal. 0:08:32.240 --> 0:08:34.560 Yeah, maybe I was in a different crowd, but yeah, 0:08:34.600 --> 0:08:36.520 that was sort of like what the thing was. 0:08:36.600 --> 0:08:38.760 So tell us about the time. 0:08:39.160 --> 0:08:42.040 We obviously were like experimenting, doing all the other bases, 0:08:42.120 --> 0:08:45.040 all the other stuff that come with it, and then 0:08:45.320 --> 0:08:48.600 we were actually at her house. We were in her study. 0:08:48.720 --> 0:08:51.280 I remember her old man was on night duty, so 0:08:51.320 --> 0:08:54.280 he was asleep upstairs. We're just on the study floor 0:08:54.320 --> 0:08:56.160 and sort of one thing led to another and then. 0:08:56.360 --> 0:08:59.200 Yeah, your first time was on the floor, like, not 0:08:59.240 --> 0:09:03.280 on a bed, yeah, like no pillows, No, you just 0:09:03.320 --> 0:09:05.640 like both naked on a study And. 0:09:05.600 --> 0:09:07.360 I honestly had no idea what we were doing. I 0:09:07.400 --> 0:09:08.840 didn't even know what sex was. 0:09:08.920 --> 0:09:10.040 And calf it them. 0:09:10.760 --> 0:09:12.320 I don't even think there was thrust anything. 0:09:12.880 --> 0:09:15.080 I love it. How I go to like health and safety. 0:09:16.679 --> 0:09:19.760 No, we just had Yeah, just did the deed for 0:09:19.800 --> 0:09:21.800 what we thought was the deed, and then I didn't 0:09:21.840 --> 0:09:23.839 have sex again after that for maybe two years till 0:09:23.840 --> 0:09:25.480 I was like sixteen. It was just because you had 0:09:25.480 --> 0:09:28.040 a girlfriend. That was sort of the deal, the dumb thing. Yeah, 0:09:28.080 --> 0:09:30.480 like you've just been dating what for six months? Isn't 0:09:30.480 --> 0:09:31.000 that what happens? 0:09:31.120 --> 0:09:33.280 So you guys were dating for six months? What were 0:09:33.280 --> 0:09:35.800 you like thirteen when you started going out? That's young? 0:09:36.000 --> 0:09:39.240 Yeah, pretty young, Yeah, like you're eight something like that. Eh, 0:09:39.760 --> 0:09:41.400 How old were you then when you lost your virginity? 0:09:41.400 --> 0:09:44.280 I don't know, So I was seventeen. I had a 0:09:44.320 --> 0:09:48.600 boyfriend for about three months and it was actually the 0:09:48.800 --> 0:09:53.160 day before I turned eighteen, because in my like warped 0:09:53.640 --> 0:09:55.480 brain at the time, I was like, I don't want 0:09:55.520 --> 0:09:57.960 to be an eighteen year old virgin, which you know, 0:09:58.040 --> 0:10:00.160 I've said it before. There's nothing wrong with me a 0:10:00.240 --> 0:10:03.520 virgin and at eighteen, whatever age you are, but yeah, 0:10:03.600 --> 0:10:06.280 I was just like seventeen. I had a boyfriend. We 0:10:06.360 --> 0:10:09.120 had gone to a party. He was older, so he 0:10:09.160 --> 0:10:11.520 had a car, so we were kind of like having 0:10:11.559 --> 0:10:14.040 some fun in the car. I kind of knew that 0:10:14.160 --> 0:10:15.719 night that I was going to lose it, like I'd 0:10:15.800 --> 0:10:19.040 mentally been like tonight tonight, and so we were in 0:10:19.040 --> 0:10:22.319 his car and then things went a bit too far 0:10:22.360 --> 0:10:24.040 and I was like stop, I don't want to lose 0:10:24.080 --> 0:10:25.800 my virginity in a car, even like I kind of 0:10:25.800 --> 0:10:28.880 technically did. And I was like, let's go upstairs. And 0:10:28.920 --> 0:10:31.200 he wasn't allowed to sleep in my bedroom. He always 0:10:31.200 --> 0:10:34.000 had to sleep downstairs, but I snuck him up. 0:10:34.440 --> 0:10:37.640 We did the deed, that was it downstairs. 0:10:38.000 --> 0:10:41.960 I think he might have stayed with me until like 0:10:42.400 --> 0:10:44.520 five am, put a five am alarm on, and then 0:10:44.600 --> 0:10:45.520 snuck back down. 0:10:46.720 --> 0:10:47.640 Anything like that, Like. 0:10:48.480 --> 0:10:50.200 It kind of makes it fun, though, when you're young, 0:10:50.280 --> 0:10:53.240 like it's kind of fun sneaking around, it's Annoying's annoying 0:10:53.240 --> 0:10:54.840 when you have to wake up at five am. 0:10:54.960 --> 0:10:58.040 But well, my mum always said that, like, it's going 0:10:58.120 --> 0:10:59.880 to happen. You guys are going to do that stuff 0:11:00.000 --> 0:11:03.440 in a car park, bench, wherever you can find, a house, party, 0:11:03.480 --> 0:11:05.080 wherever you can find somewhere to do it. So she 0:11:05.120 --> 0:11:07.480 was always real comfortable with us doing like having people 0:11:07.640 --> 0:11:09.800 sleepover in the same bed as us. She's thought it 0:11:09.840 --> 0:11:13.360 would be better they're under her roof in a comfortable position. 0:11:13.920 --> 0:11:14.880 Got to study floor. 0:11:15.920 --> 0:11:18.520 So what do you think is the average age that 0:11:18.600 --> 0:11:23.199 Australians lose their virginity map sixteen clothes you don't have 0:11:23.240 --> 0:11:27.280 another guess seventeen. Yeah, yeah, seventeen. So the average Australian 0:11:27.440 --> 0:11:31.520 loses their virginity at seventeen. Also, New Zealand dos lose 0:11:31.559 --> 0:11:36.319 their virginity on average at seventeen. Some other countries, interestingly, 0:11:36.840 --> 0:11:40.480 the UK, lose their virginity on average at eighteen, The 0:11:40.720 --> 0:11:46.280 US lose their virginity on average at eighteen, and one 0:11:46.280 --> 0:11:50.080 of the more higher ones was Malaysia at twenty three 0:11:50.240 --> 0:11:50.959 on average. 0:11:51.200 --> 0:11:54.560 That's interesting. That's a twenty three, that must be waiting 0:11:54.600 --> 0:11:55.720 for the right opportunity. 0:11:56.120 --> 0:11:59.640 Well yeah, and like you know, sometimes culturally there are 0:11:59.679 --> 0:12:02.040 different things that stop people from having sex. 0:12:02.120 --> 0:12:03.840 When you're saying before you want to be a virgin 0:12:04.200 --> 0:12:06.800 at eighteen, yeah, yeah, that is a warped way thinking 0:12:06.800 --> 0:12:09.200 about it, Like there's no pressure, and what's what pressures 0:12:09.440 --> 0:12:11.000 come with it? Like what made you think that? 0:12:11.240 --> 0:12:13.840 Well, I mean I think there definitely is societal pressures 0:12:13.880 --> 0:12:16.800 that make you feel like around that age is the 0:12:16.880 --> 0:12:19.520 right time. Like everyone's kind of doing it. It's kind 0:12:19.559 --> 0:12:21.640 of like a life stage in a way, like people 0:12:21.679 --> 0:12:23.800 get their period and then it's like Okay, we've ticked 0:12:23.800 --> 0:12:26.240 that box. Now it's the next life stage, Like yeah, 0:12:26.400 --> 0:12:29.120 lease your virginity, go to UNI or go do this 0:12:29.280 --> 0:12:31.760 or whatever it is in your plan. But yeah, like 0:12:31.760 --> 0:12:34.760 a lot of my friends had lost their virginity, and 0:12:34.800 --> 0:12:38.120 like I was always so interested to like hear what 0:12:38.160 --> 0:12:39.720 they had to say. Like I would always do like 0:12:39.760 --> 0:12:41.720 tell me about it, like what happened, give me all 0:12:41.760 --> 0:12:45.199 the details, like was it big? Like what was it? Like? 0:12:45.200 --> 0:12:48.040 Like I don't know like all of the questions, Yeah, 0:12:48.080 --> 0:12:52.040 did it hurt? Like it's just a topic, I guess 0:12:52.240 --> 0:12:55.480 that you start talking about at that age and at 0:12:55.480 --> 0:12:56.319 that time. 0:12:56.400 --> 0:12:59.160 Or you're curious, yeah, serious at what it's like. 0:12:59.280 --> 0:13:03.120 And I think, like I started getting really interested at boys, 0:13:03.440 --> 0:13:08.200 probably at about seventeen, And I think once I had sex, 0:13:08.640 --> 0:13:10.840 I kind of you know, what do they call it, 0:13:10.920 --> 0:13:13.640 dixand you get the Dixand's brain where you just like 0:13:14.679 --> 0:13:18.079 what where you start thinking about like boys all the time, 0:13:18.160 --> 0:13:19.640 and it's like you get really excited. 0:13:19.679 --> 0:13:22.640 I've never heard that expression before in my life, Dick Sand, 0:13:22.679 --> 0:13:24.280 Do you mean just thirsty? 0:13:25.280 --> 0:13:30.040 No? No, Like you know, hormones start going very crazy 0:13:30.400 --> 0:13:32.679 at that age, and I think once you've had sex, 0:13:32.720 --> 0:13:34.880 it really like kicks that up a notch and kicks 0:13:34.880 --> 0:13:36.960 them into gear. And then it's just like, you know, 0:13:37.440 --> 0:13:40.360 I was less interested in school and way more interested 0:13:40.400 --> 0:13:42.040 in boys all of a sudden, which I think a 0:13:42.040 --> 0:13:43.160 lot of people can relate to. 0:13:43.440 --> 0:13:45.600 Imagine if you had waited then just a little longer, 0:13:45.880 --> 0:13:50.199 maybe you're graduating school into school a little hard, a 0:13:50.200 --> 0:13:52.280 little bit high, you wouldn't have Dick sand or whatever 0:13:52.280 --> 0:13:52.600 that is. 0:13:54.559 --> 0:13:58.240 I have a question, do you regret losing your virginity 0:13:58.720 --> 0:13:59.360 at fourteen? 0:13:59.840 --> 0:14:01.880 I don't live with regrets, but. 0:14:03.320 --> 0:14:04.079 If you could do it again. 0:14:04.160 --> 0:14:05.599 Yeah, I probably would have done it properly when I 0:14:05.640 --> 0:14:07.720 was a little bit older, Yeah, and had a little 0:14:07.760 --> 0:14:10.880 bit more like know what I was doing, I mean experience, yeah, 0:14:10.920 --> 0:14:13.840 life experience. I mean it was awfully young. Yeah, so 0:14:13.920 --> 0:14:16.400 I don't regret it, but I would do it again, 0:14:16.480 --> 0:14:19.440 yeah probably, yeah, hundred percent. Yeah, a hundred percent would 0:14:19.440 --> 0:14:19.880 do it again. 0:14:20.040 --> 0:14:20.320 Yeah. 0:14:20.520 --> 0:14:20.920 Yeah. 0:14:20.960 --> 0:14:23.800 It's interesting because studies revealed that thirty one percent of 0:14:23.920 --> 0:14:28.000 people regret how they lost their virginity, and that same 0:14:28.080 --> 0:14:31.440 study revealed that women are far more likely than men 0:14:31.680 --> 0:14:35.000 to regret their first sexual experience. I mean, I think 0:14:35.080 --> 0:14:38.200 the reason for that is because, I mean I can 0:14:38.240 --> 0:14:40.200 only talk for me and my friendship group, but it 0:14:40.240 --> 0:14:42.120 was a pretty big deal for us to lose our virginity. 0:14:42.120 --> 0:14:45.200 And I know not everyone's like that, but I was, like, 0:14:45.400 --> 0:14:47.760 I want to have sex with the right guy. I 0:14:47.760 --> 0:14:49.640 want to wait until I have a boyfriend. Like I 0:14:49.680 --> 0:14:52.920 had all of these kind of checklists that I had 0:14:52.960 --> 0:14:55.800 made up for myself, essentially to make sure that I 0:14:55.840 --> 0:14:58.160 wasn't going to regret it, And like, do I regret 0:14:58.280 --> 0:15:01.240 losing my virginity, No, but like I don't think I 0:15:01.320 --> 0:15:04.360 necessarily needed the whole checklist. But that's what made me 0:15:04.400 --> 0:15:07.200 feel comfortable at the time. That was my boundaries to 0:15:07.360 --> 0:15:10.360 like jump over to that next kind of life phase 0:15:10.560 --> 0:15:12.920 because you know what, I think you do really change 0:15:12.960 --> 0:15:14.360 as a person once you have sex. 0:15:14.760 --> 0:15:17.680 Well, for our listeners listening, would you say, if they 0:15:17.680 --> 0:15:20.000 have a checklist and they want to go by it, 0:15:20.440 --> 0:15:22.960 they should keep it there, but realize that it's never 0:15:23.040 --> 0:15:25.200 actually going to go down as perfectly as they think 0:15:25.240 --> 0:15:26.760 when they have sex. Yeah, for the. 0:15:26.680 --> 0:15:28.880 First time for sure, And I want to jump into 0:15:28.920 --> 0:15:34.640 that next Matt, So let's see that. Okay, So we 0:15:34.760 --> 0:15:37.760 have some insider tips for losing your v cards. If 0:15:37.760 --> 0:15:40.400 you've already lost your virginity, you know how important these 0:15:40.400 --> 0:15:43.320 steps are. So the first one is to prepare. So 0:15:44.200 --> 0:15:47.480 birth control is so important. We need to protect ourself 0:15:47.560 --> 0:15:50.840 not only from having kids, but also from seds. They're 0:15:50.880 --> 0:15:53.400 so prevalent and there's so many that you can catch, 0:15:53.440 --> 0:15:55.480 so it's always important to be safe. 0:15:55.600 --> 0:15:57.880 Do you remember being well, you were obviously did, But 0:15:57.920 --> 0:16:01.160 I remember being like a young boy going into the 0:16:01.240 --> 0:16:04.640 cat roastuff with like condoms and like a couple of 0:16:04.640 --> 0:16:06.760 other things just to distract away from the couple of 0:16:06.840 --> 0:16:11.560 red bulls try to distract the fact that this condoms 0:16:11.560 --> 0:16:12.000 there like this. 0:16:13.640 --> 0:16:17.720 I remember, so I had sex with my first boyfriend 0:16:17.720 --> 0:16:20.800 and we obviously used a condom. My ex boyfriend had 0:16:20.840 --> 0:16:23.800 obviously put the condom in the toilet bin, and my 0:16:23.920 --> 0:16:27.160 mum was so snoopy that she'd like gone through the bin, oh, 0:16:27.440 --> 0:16:31.040 found the condom, and then was like, came to me 0:16:31.080 --> 0:16:32.400 and was like, do you want to take a seat, 0:16:32.400 --> 0:16:36.120 And I was like, sure, did she have it? No, No, 0:16:36.400 --> 0:16:38.680 she wasn't holding it. She obviously saw it and was 0:16:38.760 --> 0:16:42.000 just like whatever. And then she was like, Okay, So 0:16:42.440 --> 0:16:46.440 I'm disappointed that you're having sex. I was seventeen. My 0:16:46.480 --> 0:16:49.400 parents were very strict keeping in mind. And then she's like, 0:16:49.440 --> 0:16:51.640 but I'm also very proud of you freezing protection. 0:16:53.360 --> 0:16:56.120 Well that's it, and that's what we say. Everyone used protection. 0:16:56.360 --> 0:16:58.520 Yeah, and you know, we were young. And so then 0:16:58.640 --> 0:17:01.000 I guess my mum was like, and now that I know, 0:17:01.280 --> 0:17:03.440 now that I've snooped through the bin and found the condom, 0:17:03.520 --> 0:17:06.600 the youth condom, I think you should go on birth control. 0:17:06.680 --> 0:17:09.760 So I actually didn't go on birth control pre having 0:17:09.760 --> 0:17:12.399 sex for the first time, but yeah, we would highly 0:17:12.440 --> 0:17:13.479 encourage birth control. 0:17:13.680 --> 0:17:17.200 Talk to your friends and family beforehand. Ask them for advice. 0:17:17.240 --> 0:17:19.720 Maybe you might have an older sibling, Yeah, maybe if 0:17:19.720 --> 0:17:23.480 you've got close relationship with your parents, ask them, a cousin, anyone, 0:17:23.600 --> 0:17:25.920 just to get some tips as well from someone that 0:17:25.960 --> 0:17:27.040 you feel comfortable around. 0:17:27.200 --> 0:17:29.040 Yeah, and like, it's never nice to go into any 0:17:29.080 --> 0:17:33.120 situation blind, whether it be like an interview or whatever, 0:17:33.440 --> 0:17:36.399 your first time sex. But yeah, talk to your friends, 0:17:36.440 --> 0:17:39.920 talk to people who have had sex, ask them about it, 0:17:39.960 --> 0:17:43.800 do your research. I think it's always important. Knowledge is power, right, Yes, 0:17:44.320 --> 0:17:48.320 this one is a huge one. Understand consent. If at 0:17:48.359 --> 0:17:51.680 any time you're having sex and you want to stop, 0:17:51.880 --> 0:17:54.560 you can. I think it's really important for people to 0:17:54.640 --> 0:17:57.400 know that if your partner wants to stop, you also 0:17:57.560 --> 0:18:01.320 need to really take this very seriously and immediately stop 0:18:01.880 --> 0:18:04.720 and just know that you have full control over your body. 0:18:05.080 --> 0:18:08.239 And if you feel uncomfortable at any point, even if 0:18:08.280 --> 0:18:10.240 you just want to stop for like a minute or 0:18:10.280 --> 0:18:12.919 five minutes and then get back to it, just know 0:18:12.960 --> 0:18:13.800 that you can stop. 0:18:14.040 --> 0:18:16.840 And also when you have your first time. This doesn't 0:18:16.840 --> 0:18:19.480 go to everyone, but this compstens to people that are 0:18:19.640 --> 0:18:21.640 a bit This is one of probably on their checklist. 0:18:21.680 --> 0:18:24.840 Of things. Have sex for the first time someone you trust, Yeah, 0:18:24.840 --> 0:18:27.480