Speaker 1: I want the fairy tale. I want the prince charming.
Speaker 2: She how do I put this? Isn't a fan of
Speaker 2: my kissing style.
Speaker 1: With the boyfriend and girlfriend for about twelve hours. He's
Speaker 1: in a trash bin. He's non recyclable catching number.
Speaker 2: I love being love, I love love. On today's episode
Speaker 2: of Where's Your Head At, we are discussing when we
Speaker 2: both lost our virginity and at what ages.
Speaker 1: We will also be sharing some of our top tips
Speaker 1: for your first time.
Speaker 2: Stay tuned to hear about our first time and whether
Speaker 2: we wish we had waited or it was the perfect timing.
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Speaker 1: Hey Matt, how are you?
Speaker 2: I'm crud? How are you anna? What's been going on.
Speaker 1: At the moment? I'm upset with Love Island UK. I
Speaker 1: know you haven't watched it, but I've been telling you
Speaker 1: to watch it because it's so good.
Speaker 2: What makes it good? Then? How is it any different
Speaker 2: from ours?
Speaker 1: Like?
Speaker 2: I know everyone says the UK is way better than
Speaker 2: the Australian one. What do they do that's different to us?
Speaker 1: The UK is way better. There's just so much more drama.
Speaker 1: They just capture attention the whole time. I think sometimes
Speaker 1: the Australian one can be a little boring.
Speaker 2: I think that where what I find is everyone's too
Speaker 2: conscious of what people think in the outside world, and
Speaker 2: they're not ready to be themselves or willing to be themselves.
Speaker 1: Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 2: Do you not get PTSD though? When that text message
Speaker 2: whence goes off? I got it came on the It
Speaker 2: came on the radio the other day and I was
Speaker 2: driving and I literally felt the coldest fucking shiver down
Speaker 2: in the back of my spine, and I was like, Oh,
Speaker 2: they like doing an ad for it.
Speaker 1: It's really good, Matt. I think you should watch it.
Speaker 1: But how are you going? Jen is away at the moment.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so Jen's having her little girl's trip with her
Speaker 2: best friend in Tasmania.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: No, you look to be honest. The first night I
Speaker 2: was fine. Like first night, I was fine. I've been
Speaker 2: hanging to watch Stranger Things. She doesn't watch Stranger Things,
Speaker 2: so I flicked that on. Ye got into Stranger Things
Speaker 2: self care. Yeah, but In the meantime, I cooked a steak.
Speaker 2: I've had sam and I've just had a lot of
Speaker 2: meat while she's been away as well. But yeah, so
Speaker 2: I mean treating myself like that. But I think it's
Speaker 2: more like the last two nights, I was like sort
Speaker 2: of like falling asleep. I don't know, you get so
Speaker 2: used to having them there to cuddle, and then when
Speaker 2: they're not there, I was sort of like, Oh, this
Speaker 2: this sucks.
Speaker 1: I saw a stat recently and it said that you
Speaker 1: sleep thirty percent better when you have a partner sleeping
Speaker 1: beside you, and I totally agree with that. Like I
Speaker 1: sleep way better with Michael sleeping beside me.
Speaker 2: Well, i'd had some rough nights sleep up to when
Speaker 2: she left, so I was like, oh, she's gone, I'll
Speaker 2: have a week off. Maybe we'll see how it goes.
Speaker 2: It was no different, So I think I was sleeping
Speaker 2: better when she was there.
Speaker 1: Oh so you're sleeping rough at the moment.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know what's happening. I don't know, like
Speaker 2: just a thousand things on my mind.
Speaker 1: I don't know, just anxiety.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I can't switch it off at the moment.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, you know what I have actually been hearing
Speaker 1: from Matt a lot recently, Like my phone has been
Speaker 1: blowing up way more, and I did expect it, Like
Speaker 1: we have spoken about this, I was kind of like
Speaker 1: preparing myself.
Speaker 2: Well, I spoke to gen and I was like, Hey,
Speaker 2: we've hardly spoke because obviously she's busy away I'm busy,
Speaker 2: and we've actually spoke less than when we're like together.
Speaker 2: But I think it's good. Absence makes the heart grow fonder,
Speaker 2: So I can't wait to give her a cuddle when
Speaker 2: she comes back. Tell you what I'm really excited for though,
Speaker 2: when she comes back.
Speaker 1: Yeah, this is.
Speaker 2: Probably the longest I've been without having sex.
Speaker 1: I knew you were going to bring it.
Speaker 2: So when she comes back, I'm going to be like
Speaker 2: a kid on Christmas morning. I reckon, it's going to
Speaker 2: be like I'm losing my opportunity for the first time again.
Speaker 2: I'm going to be so excited.
Speaker 1: Well, look, that's a great segue into today's episode. We
Speaker 1: talked all things losing your virginity.
Speaker 2: Let's jump in, So we're talking about losing a virginity today. Anna,
Speaker 2: do you remember when you first had the Birds and
Speaker 2: the Bees chat? Who gave you that chat?
Speaker 1: When I got my first ever birds in the bee's chat,
Speaker 1: I had no idea about any of this, Like I
Speaker 1: didn't know what sex was. I think I must have
Speaker 1: been like nine. I think I was too young in hindsight,
Speaker 1: And I remember it must have been late at night,
Speaker 1: so it was dark. My mum was driving in the
Speaker 1: car and she just like brought up the subject of
Speaker 1: the birds and the bees and started like telling me
Speaker 1: about sex and like all of this stuff and how
Speaker 1: everything works. And I just remember saying, why are you
Speaker 1: saying this?
Speaker 2: It was your brother, There was no.
Speaker 1: It was just the two of us, and I was
Speaker 1: just so confused, and it was like I think I
Speaker 1: went into like shock and denial, like I was like,
Speaker 1: this can't be happening, This can't be real, Like you
Speaker 1: know when you get really cringed out. I don't think
Speaker 1: I had experienced feeling cringed out to that level. And
Speaker 1: I was just like, Mum, please stop, like stop talking,
Speaker 1: like this is so awkward. Why are you saying that?
Speaker 2: Well? How did you know that it was awkward? Though?
Speaker 2: Like I don't know what.
Speaker 1: It was uncomfortable, Like intuitively, at nine years old, I
Speaker 1: was like this feels wrong, Like stop talking.
Speaker 2: I don't remember the bees and the birch chat, but
Speaker 2: we were chatting about this before. And I remember the
Speaker 2: first time though, I started having those sexual feelings. My
Speaker 2: mum touched on it when she was in here. She
Speaker 2: said that I took out of the mail box bras
Speaker 2: and things catalog and I hit it in the garage
Speaker 2: and I remember like flicking through it. Obviously I was
Speaker 2: too young to know exactly what I was feeling, but
Speaker 2: I knew I was feeling. But now I know what
Speaker 2: to do with that feeling. But a bit of a yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: a bit of yeah, blood was flowing in different directions.
Speaker 2: But and so that was the first time I remember
Speaker 2: actually having some sort of sexual thought. But I don't
Speaker 2: remember my mom or dad having the birds and the
Speaker 2: beest chat with me.
Speaker 1: No, do you know what you're saying? That story has
Speaker 1: kind of reminded me. I think. A couple of years
Speaker 1: after my mum had the awkward birds and the bees
Speaker 1: talk with me, I was doing a school project and
Speaker 1: everyone got to choose an animal, and I chose the
Speaker 1: fox because I was, like, you know, I lived in
Speaker 1: the UK at the time. We used to see them
Speaker 1: sometimes on the country roads.
Speaker 2: Felt foxy anyway.
Speaker 1: I was like the Internet was very new at the time.
Speaker 1: I was doing some research type tin www dot foxes,
Speaker 1: dot co dot uk, and like a porn site came up,
Speaker 1: and like like I was like an innocent child trying
Speaker 1: to do some research, thinking like the native fox was
Speaker 1: gonna come up, and I got some like older women
Speaker 1: naked and the sexy like bondage lingerie and I will
Speaker 1: never forget it. And I was like delete search is
Speaker 1: to delete dolt.
Speaker 2: I remember with a mate, very young as well, actually
Speaker 2: going on there because obviously back in those days of the
Speaker 2: house had one computer and it was in like the
Speaker 2: study and I remember going on there and typing in
Speaker 2: like porn just pawn or sex or yeah books, yeah,
Speaker 2: and like looking at what came up. And then I
Speaker 2: obviously were too young to realize what clear history was.
Speaker 2: And I remember doing it like maybe a week or
Speaker 2: so later, and Dad had the it man round and
Speaker 2: it was all blocked and we were like two little
Speaker 2: kids about to get our co muffins off and we
Speaker 2: were like, oh and it was all blocked.
Speaker 1: Well, so he saw the search history saw them yeah,
Speaker 1: and blocked well.
Speaker 2: I never brought up it was ever brought to my attention.
Speaker 2: But yeah, it's all blocked, and we were just like,
Speaker 2: damn it, if.
Speaker 1: Your dad's listening, that's good parenting right there.
Speaker 2: Yeah, stopping your twelve or thirteen year old son from
Speaker 2: looking at naked women.
Speaker 1: Your internet porn was blocked. But when did you actually
Speaker 1: do the deed and have sex?
Speaker 2: Okay, So when I first lost my virginity, I was
Speaker 2: fourteen ish. Maybe I know I was young. My girlfriend
Speaker 2: at the time was two years older than me, I think,
Speaker 2: so like she was older, she was sixteen, she was
Speaker 2: around sixteen.
Speaker 1: She was an older woman. Well, you know me, he
Speaker 1: does love as old. That's quite young. I know we've
Speaker 1: spoken about this. Yeah, I find that quite young.
Speaker 2: Oh fucking I had no idea what I was doing.
Speaker 2: I guess you just did the school yard. Was you
Speaker 2: had a girlfriend like you have X?
Speaker 1: Really at fourteen, I was like, we can hold hands
Speaker 1: and like that's a big deal.
Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe I was in a different crowd, but yeah,
Speaker 2: that was sort of like what the thing was.
Speaker 1: So tell us about the time.
Speaker 2: We obviously were like experimenting, doing all the other bases,
Speaker 2: all the other stuff that come with it, and then
Speaker 2: we were actually at her house. We were in her study.
Speaker 2: I remember her old man was on night duty, so
Speaker 2: he was asleep upstairs. We're just on the study floor
Speaker 2: and sort of one thing led to another and then.
Speaker 1: Yeah, your first time was on the floor, like, not
Speaker 1: on a bed, yeah, like no pillows, No, you just
Speaker 1: like both naked on a study And.
Speaker 2: I honestly had no idea what we were doing. I
Speaker 2: didn't even know what sex was.
Speaker 1: And calf it them.
Speaker 2: I don't even think there was thrust anything.
Speaker 1: I love it. How I go to like health and safety.
Speaker 2: No, we just had Yeah, just did the deed for
Speaker 2: what we thought was the deed, and then I didn't
Speaker 2: have sex again after that for maybe two years till
Speaker 2: I was like sixteen. It was just because you had
Speaker 2: a girlfriend. That was sort of the deal, the dumb thing. Yeah,
Speaker 2: like you've just been dating what for six months? Isn't
Speaker 2: that what happens?
Speaker 1: So you guys were dating for six months? What were
Speaker 1: you like thirteen when you started going out? That's young?
Speaker 2: Yeah, pretty young, Yeah, like you're eight something like that. Eh,
Speaker 2: How old were you then when you lost your virginity?
Speaker 1: I don't know, So I was seventeen. I had a
Speaker 1: boyfriend for about three months and it was actually the
Speaker 1: day before I turned eighteen, because in my like warped
Speaker 1: brain at the time, I was like, I don't want
Speaker 1: to be an eighteen year old virgin, which you know,
Speaker 1: I've said it before. There's nothing wrong with me a
Speaker 1: virgin and at eighteen, whatever age you are, but yeah,
Speaker 1: I was just like seventeen. I had a boyfriend. We
Speaker 1: had gone to a party. He was older, so he
Speaker 1: had a car, so we were kind of like having
Speaker 1: some fun in the car. I kind of knew that
Speaker 1: night that I was going to lose it, like I'd
Speaker 1: mentally been like tonight tonight, and so we were in
Speaker 1: his car and then things went a bit too far
Speaker 1: and I was like stop, I don't want to lose
Speaker 1: my virginity in a car, even like I kind of
Speaker 1: technically did. And I was like, let's go upstairs. And
Speaker 1: he wasn't allowed to sleep in my bedroom. He always
Speaker 1: had to sleep downstairs, but I snuck him up.
Speaker 2: We did the deed, that was it downstairs.
Speaker 1: I think he might have stayed with me until like
Speaker 1: five am, put a five am alarm on, and then
Speaker 1: snuck back down.
Speaker 2: Anything like that, Like.
Speaker 1: It kind of makes it fun, though, when you're young,
Speaker 1: like it's kind of fun sneaking around, it's Annoying's annoying
Speaker 1: when you have to wake up at five am.
Speaker 2: But well, my mum always said that, like, it's going
Speaker 2: to happen. You guys are going to do that stuff
Speaker 2: in a car park, bench, wherever you can find, a house, party,
Speaker 2: wherever you can find somewhere to do it. So she
Speaker 2: was always real comfortable with us doing like having people
Speaker 2: sleepover in the same bed as us. She's thought it
Speaker 2: would be better they're under her roof in a comfortable position.
Speaker 2: Got to study floor.
Speaker 1: So what do you think is the average age that
Speaker 1: Australians lose their virginity map sixteen clothes you don't have
Speaker 1: another guess seventeen. Yeah, yeah, seventeen. So the average Australian
Speaker 1: loses their virginity at seventeen. Also, New Zealand dos lose
Speaker 1: their virginity on average at seventeen. Some other countries, interestingly,
Speaker 1: the UK, lose their virginity on average at eighteen, The
Speaker 1: US lose their virginity on average at eighteen, and one
Speaker 1: of the more higher ones was Malaysia at twenty three
Speaker 1: on average.
Speaker 2: That's interesting. That's a twenty three, that must be waiting
Speaker 2: for the right opportunity.
Speaker 1: Well yeah, and like you know, sometimes culturally there are
Speaker 1: different things that stop people from having sex.
Speaker 2: When you're saying before you want to be a virgin
Speaker 2: at eighteen, yeah, yeah, that is a warped way thinking
Speaker 2: about it, Like there's no pressure, and what's what pressures
Speaker 2: come with it? Like what made you think that?
Speaker 1: Well, I mean I think there definitely is societal pressures
Speaker 1: that make you feel like around that age is the
Speaker 1: right time. Like everyone's kind of doing it. It's kind
Speaker 1: of like a life stage in a way, like people
Speaker 1: get their period and then it's like Okay, we've ticked
Speaker 1: that box. Now it's the next life stage, Like yeah,
Speaker 1: lease your virginity, go to UNI or go do this
Speaker 1: or whatever it is in your plan. But yeah, like
Speaker 1: a lot of my friends had lost their virginity, and
Speaker 1: like I was always so interested to like hear what
Speaker 1: they had to say. Like I would always do like
Speaker 1: tell me about it, like what happened, give me all
Speaker 1: the details, like was it big? Like what was it? Like?
Speaker 1: Like I don't know like all of the questions, Yeah,
Speaker 1: did it hurt? Like it's just a topic, I guess
Speaker 1: that you start talking about at that age and at
Speaker 1: that time.
Speaker 2: Or you're curious, yeah, serious at what it's like.
Speaker 1: And I think, like I started getting really interested at boys,
Speaker 1: probably at about seventeen, And I think once I had sex,
Speaker 1: I kind of you know, what do they call it,
Speaker 1: dixand you get the Dixand's brain where you just like
Speaker 1: what where you start thinking about like boys all the time,
Speaker 1: and it's like you get really excited.
Speaker 2: I've never heard that expression before in my life, Dick Sand,
Speaker 2: Do you mean just thirsty?
Speaker 1: No? No, Like you know, hormones start going very crazy
Speaker 1: at that age, and I think once you've had sex,
Speaker 1: it really like kicks that up a notch and kicks
Speaker 1: them into gear. And then it's just like, you know,
Speaker 1: I was less interested in school and way more interested
Speaker 1: in boys all of a sudden, which I think a
Speaker 1: lot of people can relate to.
Speaker 2: Imagine if you had waited then just a little longer,
Speaker 2: maybe you're graduating school into school a little hard, a
Speaker 2: little bit high, you wouldn't have Dick sand or whatever
Speaker 2: that is.
Speaker 1: I have a question, do you regret losing your virginity
Speaker 1: at fourteen?
Speaker 2: I don't live with regrets, but.
Speaker 1: If you could do it again.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I probably would have done it properly when I
Speaker 2: was a little bit older, Yeah, and had a little
Speaker 2: bit more like know what I was doing, I mean experience, yeah,
Speaker 2: life experience. I mean it was awfully young. Yeah, so
Speaker 2: I don't regret it, but I would do it again,
Speaker 2: yeah probably, yeah, hundred percent. Yeah, a hundred percent would
Speaker 2: do it again.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: It's interesting because studies revealed that thirty one percent of
Speaker 1: people regret how they lost their virginity, and that same
Speaker 1: study revealed that women are far more likely than men
Speaker 1: to regret their first sexual experience. I mean, I think
Speaker 1: the reason for that is because, I mean I can
Speaker 1: only talk for me and my friendship group, but it
Speaker 1: was a pretty big deal for us to lose our virginity.
Speaker 1: And I know not everyone's like that, but I was, like,
Speaker 1: I want to have sex with the right guy. I
Speaker 1: want to wait until I have a boyfriend. Like I
Speaker 1: had all of these kind of checklists that I had
Speaker 1: made up for myself, essentially to make sure that I
Speaker 1: wasn't going to regret it, And like, do I regret
Speaker 1: losing my virginity, No, but like I don't think I
Speaker 1: necessarily needed the whole checklist. But that's what made me
Speaker 1: feel comfortable at the time. That was my boundaries to
Speaker 1: like jump over to that next kind of life phase
Speaker 1: because you know what, I think you do really change
Speaker 1: as a person once you have sex.
Speaker 2: Well, for our listeners listening, would you say, if they
Speaker 2: have a checklist and they want to go by it,
Speaker 2: they should keep it there, but realize that it's never
Speaker 2: actually going to go down as perfectly as they think
Speaker 2: when they have sex. Yeah, for the.
Speaker 1: First time for sure, And I want to jump into
Speaker 1: that next Matt, So let's see that. Okay, So we
Speaker 1: have some insider tips for losing your v cards. If
Speaker 1: you've already lost your virginity, you know how important these
Speaker 1: steps are. So the first one is to prepare. So
Speaker 1: birth control is so important. We need to protect ourself
Speaker 1: not only from having kids, but also from seds. They're
Speaker 1: so prevalent and there's so many that you can catch,
Speaker 1: so it's always important to be safe.
Speaker 2: Do you remember being well, you were obviously did, But
Speaker 2: I remember being like a young boy going into the
Speaker 2: cat roastuff with like condoms and like a couple of
Speaker 2: other things just to distract away from the couple of
Speaker 2: red bulls try to distract the fact that this condoms
Speaker 2: there like this.
Speaker 1: I remember, so I had sex with my first boyfriend
Speaker 1: and we obviously used a condom. My ex boyfriend had
Speaker 1: obviously put the condom in the toilet bin, and my
Speaker 1: mum was so snoopy that she'd like gone through the bin, oh,
Speaker 1: found the condom, and then was like, came to me
Speaker 1: and was like, do you want to take a seat,
Speaker 1: And I was like, sure, did she have it? No, No,
Speaker 1: she wasn't holding it. She obviously saw it and was
Speaker 1: just like whatever. And then she was like, Okay, So
Speaker 1: I'm disappointed that you're having sex. I was seventeen. My
Speaker 1: parents were very strict keeping in mind. And then she's like,
Speaker 1: but I'm also very proud of you freezing protection.
Speaker 2: Well that's it, and that's what we say. Everyone used protection.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and you know, we were young. And so then
Speaker 1: I guess my mum was like, and now that I know,
Speaker 1: now that I've snooped through the bin and found the condom,
Speaker 1: the youth condom, I think you should go on birth control.
Speaker 1: So I actually didn't go on birth control pre having
Speaker 1: sex for the first time, but yeah, we would highly
Speaker 1: encourage birth control.
Speaker 2: Talk to your friends and family beforehand. Ask them for advice.
Speaker 2: Maybe you might have an older sibling, Yeah, maybe if
Speaker 2: you've got close relationship with your parents, ask them, a cousin, anyone,
Speaker 2: just to get some tips as well from someone that
Speaker 2: you feel comfortable around.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and like, it's never nice to go into any
Speaker 1: situation blind, whether it be like an interview or whatever,
Speaker 1: your first time sex. But yeah, talk to your friends,
Speaker 1: talk to people who have had sex, ask them about it,
Speaker 1: do your research. I think it's always important. Knowledge is power, right, Yes,
Speaker 1: this one is a huge one. Understand consent. If at
Speaker 1: any time you're having sex and you want to stop,
Speaker 1: you can. I think it's really important for people to
Speaker 1: know that if your partner wants to stop, you also
Speaker 1: need to really take this very seriously and immediately stop
Speaker 1: and just know that you have full control over your body.
Speaker 1: And if you feel uncomfortable at any point, even if
Speaker 1: you just want to stop for like a minute or
Speaker 1: five minutes and then get back to it, just know
Speaker 1: that you can stop.
Speaker 2: And also when you have your first time. This doesn't
Speaker 2: go to everyone, but this compstens to people that are
Speaker 2: a bit This is one of probably on their checklist.
Speaker 2: Of things. Have sex for the first time someone you trust, Yeah,
Speaker 2: like a boyfriend or a friend, someone that makes you
Speaker 2: feel comfortable and you feel comfortable in the situation. I
Speaker 2: know a lot of girl slash friends that would prefer
Speaker 2: to have had it and did have it with someone random,
Speaker 2: so it wasn't as like intimate, do you know what
Speaker 2: I mean? And they could just have it to them
Speaker 2: when they.
Speaker 1: Did, so they just check their box.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and then when they so they had well, how
Speaker 2: did I put this experience or they were like sort
Speaker 2: of training for when they did have like a partner
Speaker 2: or someone they loved, they did it, So yeah, it
Speaker 2: goes either way, but it's what they prefer.
Speaker 1: Well, like the first time is a learning experience, like
Speaker 1: you can't say it's not like you're definitely kind of
Speaker 1: navigating your way through like your body someone else's body,
Speaker 1: kind of figuring out how it works. I know for
Speaker 1: a girl for the first time, or at least from
Speaker 1: my experience, like there was no like I wasn't peaking,
Speaker 1: like I didn't come. It was just kind of like, okay,
Speaker 1: we did the deed and like that was it cool?
Speaker 1: Like they did.
Speaker 2: I didn't imagine now.
Speaker 1: I'd be filthy. I'd be like, get to work.
Speaker 2: And on that. There are a lot of extra body fluids,
Speaker 2: so don't stress. This is normal.
Speaker 1: Yeah, obviously there's a hymen that can potentially break if
Speaker 1: you have sex, but a lot of the time girls
Speaker 1: don't bled like you can break it. I don't know.
Speaker 1: Horse riding, I don't know.
Speaker 2: That's like such a class.
Speaker 1: There's such a typical first thing that came to my
Speaker 1: or gymnastics. But you know what I mean, Like you
Speaker 1: can literally like jump in the air and it could break.
Speaker 1: So like I don't know, Like I don't fucking I'm
Speaker 1: not like an excerpt on the hymen breaking. But for me,
Speaker 1: when I had sex for the first time, like there
Speaker 1: was no blood, but like at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: like it is normal, and like if there is a
Speaker 1: little bit of blood like to be expected, and if
Speaker 1: there's not, like it doesn't mean that you weren't a virgin.
Speaker 1: It's just like who knows when it broke.
Speaker 2: Everyone's different.
Speaker 1: Everyone is different.
Speaker 2: Massive one an I'll let you take the floor on
Speaker 2: this point. And I always say this. I always say
Speaker 2: this to girls.
Speaker 1: Okay, so this one is and this one is something
Speaker 1: that I did not know and I wish I knew
Speaker 1: is peeing after sex. It's a huge one. It reduces
Speaker 1: your chances of getting a urinary tracked infection. I honestly
Speaker 1: go through stages where I become the UTI queen. I
Speaker 1: cannot get rid of them. They're so annoying.
Speaker 2: I just love a cuddle afterwards.
Speaker 1: I frock the cutofs not getting up. I'm taking my time,
Speaker 1: and then later I'm like, fuck that cuddle. I should
Speaker 1: have just got up and paid. But yeah, definitely like
Speaker 1: weing after sex also, just like showering also helps me.
Speaker 1: Or putting some water on the area is just like
Speaker 1: good to you're out some of the bacteria because we
Speaker 1: fucking hate euti is the most annoying thing. If you've
Speaker 1: ever had one, you know, they're literally the bane of
Speaker 1: my existence. Have you had one before, Matt.
Speaker 2: No, I don't think so. It's just like I've got
Speaker 2: urinal stashed away in the top drawer.
Speaker 1: Ural. Yeah, mural is like heaven if you've had a euti,
Speaker 1: you know, But it's just like imagine like going to
Speaker 1: the bathroom and then like ten seconds later you just
Speaker 1: have this burning urge to pee. Yeah, oh, so you
Speaker 1: have had one?
Speaker 2: I've had one.
Speaker 1: Yeah, UTAs are the worst, and protect yourself against them
Speaker 1: at allcarf all right.
Speaker 2: Also, don't forget four play.
Speaker 1: Yeah, four play is important. I think it takes a
Speaker 1: woman thirty five minutes to really warm up. Yeah, so
Speaker 1: imagine like if you'll like start making out in ten
Speaker 1: minutes later, you're all done. Like that woman's not even
Speaker 1: a third of the way to being properly turned off.
Speaker 2: I tell Jen get ready because he's four plays getting
Speaker 2: square rooted, you're getting sixteen played?
Speaker 1: You talking about. I don't even know what you're saying.
Speaker 2: Sixteen is a square root? Isn't it a four? So
Speaker 2: four play play on words not the only thing getting
Speaker 2: rooted tonight?
Speaker 1: Four place, get bits slater the market.
Speaker 2: All right, have sex in a comfortable place. Don't be
Speaker 2: me having in a comfortable place obviously if you're not
Speaker 2: accessible to a bed, obviously a car will supply us
Speaker 2: like Anna or anywhere else. Use lubricants and try different positions.
Speaker 2: If the album one isn't working, missionary or whatever you're in,
Speaker 2: try something else. You might feel better in that way.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And sometimes, like when you have sex, it can
Speaker 1: feel uncomfortable or hurt. If it does just like get
Speaker 1: into a new position, try something else, switch it up,
Speaker 1: and like.
Speaker 2: We said before, it's your first time, you're literally it's training,
Speaker 2: it's practice. You know what you like it.
Speaker 1: Okay, Matt, did you know that more and more young
Speaker 1: people are actually abstaining from sex?
Speaker 2: Oh? Really?
Speaker 1: So? There was a study done and no less than
Speaker 1: twenty seven percent of fifteen to twenty four year old
Speaker 1: men have never actually had any form of sexual contact. Meanwhile,
Speaker 1: twenty nine percent of females in that age bracket have
Speaker 1: never had sex. But the survey did find that almost
Speaker 1: everyone between the ages of twenty five to forty four
Speaker 1: has had sex. So that's about ninety eight percent of
Speaker 1: females and ninety seven percent of males in that range.
Speaker 2: So if you're in between those ages and you haven't
Speaker 2: had sex yet, don't feel like an outcast or anything
Speaker 2: before your friends are. It's very common these days for sure.
Speaker 1: And if you are a virgin, valid at your own
Speaker 1: personal choices. It is your choice. You make that decision
Speaker 1: when you feel comfortable. Just understand that there really is
Speaker 1: no rush. It's everyone does things in their own time,
Speaker 1: for sure.
Speaker 2: Anna, And just also make sure you understand your worth
Speaker 2: there's no shame around not having sex at a certain age.
Speaker 2: Just when you're ready. You are ready, like you said,
Speaker 2: for sure.
Speaker 1: We have actually asked our Where's your Head at fam
Speaker 1: Matt about their first time experiences and their stories, so
Speaker 1: we've picked a few. Some of these are hilarious. I've
Speaker 1: had to read through, Matt has it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you've been telling me how funny they are on
Speaker 2: the drive in, So let's see how they go.
Speaker 1: Okay, So one girl has written in and said, my
Speaker 1: first time was next to a railway track next to
Speaker 1: a dead bird. Not ideal. That's actually so gross, Like
Speaker 1: wouldn't the dead bird smell? And would you be like,
Speaker 1: is this like a bad like dick smell?
Speaker 2: Yeah? Did she notice before and was like fuck it,
Speaker 2: let's just do it? Or did she notice halfway through?
Speaker 2: Because I'm not sure. If I noticed the dead bird
Speaker 2: halfway through, that would definitely throw me off.
Speaker 1: Would you lose the will to keep going?
Speaker 2: Yeah, that definitely throw me off? Who am I kidding?
Speaker 2: You'd be like?
Speaker 1: Okay. Another listener has written in and said I bought
Speaker 1: condoms that were actually menthol ones. It was fine, but
Speaker 1: when he finished, he suddenly screamed as the menthol reacted
Speaker 1: badly with his semen and he whipped the condom off,
Speaker 1: but as he did it, the condom hit me in
Speaker 1: the face, so I got covered in it. I couldn't
Speaker 1: decide whether to laugh or cry. That was my first time.
Speaker 1: Check the condoms kids.
Speaker 2: Nice little, nice little recommendation there from.
Speaker 1: Just getting a face full of it on your first time.
Speaker 1: It's just like it's too much.
Speaker 2: That has happened to people.
Speaker 1: Much too much. I feel terrible with this girl. Yeah,
Speaker 1: this is my personal favorite, and this is the final one.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: My boyfriend walked me past his parents, who smiled at me,
Speaker 1: straight into his room, which was candlelit and his bed
Speaker 1: was covered in rose petals. All I could think about
Speaker 1: was his parents smiling at me.
Speaker 2: What would you do if your boyfriend walked you past
Speaker 2: and you're in that situation, I.
Speaker 1: Would fucking die because the parents clearly know what's about
Speaker 1: to happen.
Speaker 2: Well on that my mum always used to joke and
Speaker 2: say she knew and I was having company because I
Speaker 2: would light my mood candles, which were some salted caramelf.
Speaker 2: So I was downstairs on the other side of the house,
Speaker 2: but it would run through the air vents and then
Speaker 2: they could smell it in the rest of the house
Speaker 2: because I'd have two salted Kara wolves on both bedside tables.
Speaker 2: So she'd be like, well, I know you had company
Speaker 2: last night, and that's so funny. So maybe that's what
Speaker 2: the parents. They knew they could smell the scent, and
Speaker 2: they knew what was going to happen.
Speaker 1: Okay, guys, it's that time of the show where you
Speaker 1: guys find out where our heads are at.
Speaker 2: Let's get into it. Okay. So our first question from
Speaker 2: our listener comes in and it says, it will be
Speaker 2: my first time having sex, and I am scared to
Speaker 2: tell the boy I'm seeing because I worry he would
Speaker 2: judge me for not having sex earlier. Should I tell
Speaker 2: him or just fake it and hope he doesn't know.
Speaker 1: I definitely think honesty is the best policy. You know,
Speaker 1: if it's your first time, you kind of want someone
Speaker 1: to be aware so that they can maybe be a
Speaker 1: bit more gentle and like, you know, it is important
Speaker 1: losing your virginity, so you want them to know so
Speaker 1: that they treat it as such.
Speaker 2: So or a male perspective on that being the guy. Honestly,
Speaker 2: I don't think it will change his thoughts on you
Speaker 2: at all. No, honestly that he wants to have sex,
Speaker 2: so he doesn't care if it's your first time. He actually,
Speaker 2: you know what, he might even be a bit more.
Speaker 2: Some guys do find that a bit more attractive if
Speaker 2: it's a girls first time, so he might actually be
Speaker 2: a bit more turned on by that.
Speaker 1: Do you think as a guy, if you know it's
Speaker 1: a girl's first time, that you'd be a bit more
Speaker 1: like careful with them?
Speaker 2: Men, I would be, yeah, one hundred percent, so they're okay, Yeah,
Speaker 2: I'd be a lot more understanding that it's a big
Speaker 2: milestone in their life and try walk them through it.
Speaker 1: Have you taken anyone's virginity?
Speaker 2: Yeah? I've taken quite a few, have you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I've never taken anyone's virginity. Really, it was actually
Speaker 1: on the bucket list and it's now dead and gone
Speaker 1: in the water. But I remember growing up being like,
Speaker 1: I wonder if I'll take anyone's virginity, because like, obviously
Speaker 1: it was such a big moment for me.
Speaker 2: But yeah, if they would tell you though, if it
Speaker 2: was their virginity, as a guy, I don't think I would.
Speaker 1: I just always went for older guys and they were
Speaker 1: always very experienced, so like it just it was never
Speaker 1: going to happen.
Speaker 2: I'm never saying never. They might be.
Speaker 1: Okay. The next listener has said, I really regret my
Speaker 1: first time I had it with a jerk that I
Speaker 1: went to school with and was pressured into doing it
Speaker 1: because my best friend had at the time. Is there
Speaker 1: anything I can do to eliminate the guilt or disappointment
Speaker 1: I have for losing it in the wrong way to
Speaker 1: the wrong person.
Speaker 2: No, I don't think there is. I think that you've
Speaker 2: had sex, like you've just got to accept that, and
Speaker 2: I guess look at the positive side of what happened
Speaker 2: with it. You got to have sex, like if there
Speaker 2: was any good bits of.
Speaker 1: It, like yeah, like, look, it's not ideal if he
Speaker 1: was a jerk. It's a learning curve, it's a learning experience.
Speaker 1: Take it from what it was, and I think, like,
Speaker 1: you know, embrace that time that you first have sex
Speaker 1: with someone where it was amazing, like that first time
Speaker 1: where you know your mind was blown and you were like, fuck,
Speaker 1: that was great sex.
Speaker 2: I hate that people feel pressured into doing it as well.
Speaker 2: I just hate that sort of culture and that's what
Speaker 2: a mentality let me to.
Speaker 1: And also one other thing I would say to that
Speaker 1: girl as well, is thirty percent of people, as we
Speaker 1: mentioned before, actually do regret their first time. So you
Speaker 1: know know that you're not alone. A lot of people
Speaker 1: do regret it. And you know what, we're young, we
Speaker 1: make bad decisions. And as long as you learn from
Speaker 1: those decisions.
Speaker 2: Exactly and see the red flags that made him a
Speaker 2: jerk and for future guys that come along, and then
Speaker 2: maybe you can say no, it's not going to happen
Speaker 2: with you, buddy, buddy, not today.
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