Speaker 1: Seven coffee, Settle into your seats. Jody and Hazy Madealee's
Speaker 1: favorite way to wake.
Speaker 2: Up Good morning, Monday Morning.
Speaker 3: Jody and Hazy fresh off Cyril live in the Red
Speaker 3: Room on Friday Night, and didn't it live up to
Speaker 3: all the expectations that we had of our boys?
Speaker 4: Cyril certainly kid, I mean, he really really sets the
Speaker 4: standard high, doesn't he. Yes, you live it on Friday night.
Speaker 4: So everybody who went along, well done. Good start getting
Speaker 4: youself some exclusive invites. Joe's what about crows and books?
Speaker 5: For us?
Speaker 4: This is what you'd like to see it on Monday morning?
Speaker 4: Just charging here off the back of two really big wins.
Speaker 2: Big wins.
Speaker 3: Haven't we seen some big victories in the AFL in
Speaker 3: the first couple of round.
Speaker 4: Now spends the blowouts, isn't it.
Speaker 3: It's really hard not to get super excited about the
Speaker 3: crows because they look the goods in the first two weeks.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, Is it a case of we are very
Speaker 3: good or the position has been subpaths?
Speaker 6: No?
Speaker 4: I think the crows are really good. Yeah, right like
Speaker 4: I think they're Yeah, they're right up there. So I
Speaker 4: think the big question mark is ess and then that
Speaker 4: bad and if so, then poor addat supporters licking your
Speaker 4: lips for Thursday Night.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, absolutely rock into Thursday Night footy. Don't you
Speaker 3: love Thursday night footage? Just the weekend comes early, guys, makes.
Speaker 4: The weekend come nice and early. A big show coming
Speaker 4: up up for grabs before seven quick looking forward to
Speaker 4: this nervous Red Room Global tour all powered by Speed. Yeah,
Speaker 4: imagine the ultimate international music tour. You could be on there,
Speaker 4: just on us via Ricky leads Him and Joel. That'd
Speaker 4: be pretty sweet, wouldn't it.
Speaker 3: The lineup for this thing is absolutely ludicrous, isn't it.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you got past Malone, Jelly Roll, Gracie Abrams, Dean
Speaker 4: Lewis or internationally just ridiculous. The Monday Morning Joke Off
Speaker 4: is just around the corner. That's how we'd like to
Speaker 4: kick things off on a Monday, if you don't mind.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Producer Molly very very ordinary in this space. So let's
Speaker 3: say if you can lift her game, do.
Speaker 4: You think is this? Would this be the four often
Speaker 4: storm it from Juice Moring you keeping dames.
Speaker 2: For maybe fish, Yeah, something like that.
Speaker 4: Let's say you've had four cracks, He's zero from four.
Speaker 2: Month are you kidding you first, you last?
Speaker 4: Yeah, well we were trying to see your first one.
Speaker 6: I encourage you, so you reckon. Today's is sort of
Speaker 6: do or die.
Speaker 4: It could be make or break.
Speaker 3: Yeah, ready, are you saying that we could be culling
Speaker 3: producer Molly from the joke?
Speaker 4: I know I was saying, but I was thinking that.
Speaker 2: At least you're saying it to my face.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's true, that's very true. All right, that's coming
Speaker 4: up up seven o'clock. But let's just reflect on what
Speaker 4: was a really, really fun Friday night thanks to Seal
Speaker 4: of a Nervous Red Room. What a guy, what a crowd?
Speaker 2: Any fun?
Speaker 4: He's a big old Seal remix for you on a
Speaker 4: Monday morning. Good morning on Friday night by Nervous Red Room,
Speaker 4: and gluttony went off its absolute face.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was unreal.
Speaker 3: And if you're wondering what it's like backstage with Cyril,
Speaker 3: it's just a caravan, just a little caravan. But he
Speaker 3: did have a rider, a few different things on his writer,
Speaker 3: primarily two big bottles of gray Goose and what was
Speaker 3: that shot thing that he was pouring.
Speaker 4: Oh and it was some sort of fancy tequila, as
Speaker 4: well as sort.
Speaker 2: Of nineteen fifty two tequila or something.
Speaker 4: Ten protein bu ten.
Speaker 3: Protein guys just sick out direct with tequila. But he
Speaker 3: put up an interesting post on the weekend. He said, today,
Speaker 3: I'm finally taking everything that's happened this year in it's
Speaker 3: been incredible. From six years ago with a drug addiction,
Speaker 3: kicked out of my rental, not being able to afford
Speaker 3: a one dollar Hamburger, to having a family, traveling the world,
Speaker 3: buying my dream mute and making music for a living.
Speaker 3: I really love working hard and doing what I do,
Speaker 3: and I wouldn't be able to do it if I
Speaker 3: didn't have your support, So thank you so much.
Speaker 2: In his to twenty twenty five.
Speaker 4: Yes, sire, the really nice to say as well that
Speaker 4: when you meet someone like that and they just he
Speaker 4: was the lovely guy, a genuine lovely guy, as was
Speaker 4: his entorege. If you made some managers and stuff, there
Speaker 4: just a really really good cruisy sea boxs like that
Speaker 4: guying Well, he's absolutely killing it, and it's someone who
Speaker 4: really really appreciates it's each and every opportunity that he gets.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and if you're worried if Cyril was staying at
Speaker 3: the Best Western near the airport.
Speaker 2: Don't worry about that.
Speaker 4: Don't worry about it all.
Speaker 3: Because when he finished his set on Friday night, he
Speaker 3: was retiring to the penthouse at.
Speaker 4: Where he's staying. He's like, oh, it's placed in the city.
Speaker 4: It's like I am like, yeah, that's the one.
Speaker 3: Like, oh my god, your little eyes were lighting up,
Speaker 3: just waiting for an invitation to go back and party
Speaker 3: with Cyril at his penthouse.
Speaker 4: You what are you going to do back at your hotel?
Speaker 4: I probably go to sleep, Okay, cool, cool, have a
Speaker 4: good night, have a good one. Congratulations and thank you
Speaker 4: for everyone he turned out as well. It was such
Speaker 4: a good crow.
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, and amazing ground. Thank you everyone who supported
Speaker 3: the Red Room. Let's do it all again. I want
Speaker 3: to do it all again.
Speaker 4: Yes this week. That's too sure, that's too short. We'll
Speaker 4: cook something else happening in the back of the in
Speaker 4: the scenes morning the following segment audiences.
Speaker 1: And graphic language and nudity, not that you'll see it
Speaker 1: is easily offended.
Speaker 2: Well, you're about to find out just how easily.
Speaker 8: Your father he's only money, nothing, not.
Speaker 4: This is a chance for us to get maybe just
Speaker 4: a little bit blue, maybe just a little bit ris
Speaker 4: gay things really sort of wholesome up after seven.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and what has landed on my desk is something
Speaker 3: that I think is a great, big battle conspiracy from
Speaker 3: you below to make us women think that we need
Speaker 3: to have more sex.
Speaker 4: What do you go?
Speaker 3: So, Apparently, according to a survey, if you want to
Speaker 3: live a happy and healthy life, expert say.
Speaker 2: You need to have sex more often than you think.
Speaker 3: Amen, sister, It's apparently good both mentally and physically. Experts
Speaker 3: are advising people to have regular sex if they want
Speaker 3: to be happy. Refraining from sex for too long can
Speaker 3: actually cause depression and anxiety.
Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, okay, So what is this? Did you did
Speaker 4: you compile the study or you get this from some
Speaker 4: sort of journal?
Speaker 3: I certainly did not. This was in some sort of
Speaker 3: fancy journal. This is actually the Journal of Sexual Medicine.
Speaker 4: Oh, very good.
Speaker 2: Did you know that existed?
Speaker 4: It's quite the journal. She said, the Christmas party. Crazy,
Speaker 4: those guys, these guys party, I'll give you.
Speaker 2: I just want to turn up to the Adelaide Convention Center.
Speaker 3: It's got Christmas party for the Journal of Sexual Medicine naked.
Speaker 4: You're like, what's going on here? Oh, it's a sex
Speaker 4: journal guys.
Speaker 2: Closing. Okay, so this is the alarming part.
Speaker 3: It found that women aged between twenty and fifty nine
Speaker 3: who were getting frisky less than once a week had
Speaker 3: a much higher risk of early death.
Speaker 4: See that's that's what we're talking about.
Speaker 2: It is the kind of bullsh that my husband's trying
Speaker 2: to sell to me.
Speaker 8: If you don't have sex with.
Speaker 2: Me, you're going to die.
Speaker 4: Couldn't say, ladies, save yourself, do yourself a fucker.
Speaker 6: A job.
Speaker 4: That is a good job.
Speaker 1: Monday morning joke off.
Speaker 4: Way to start it were just a little injection of humor.
Speaker 4: It's joddy, very funny, by the way, produce extremely funny.
Speaker 4: Not not so much, not so much. It's a work
Speaker 4: on producer.
Speaker 3: It's a fun time of the week. Unless your name
Speaker 3: is Molly Rose. It always ends in tears. Okay, who
Speaker 3: wants to go to this, Molly, Let's get you out
Speaker 3: of the way.
Speaker 4: Joke got started, all right.
Speaker 6: What's the difference between the Carlton Football Club and Mosquitos.
Speaker 6: Mosquitoes eventually stop sucking.
Speaker 4: And you can say that because you're in car and order,
Speaker 4: So that makes sense. I'll go next, Joe. Is that okay?
Speaker 8: Okay?
Speaker 4: Sure, all right, here we go. The teacher asks the
Speaker 4: class to use the word harassment in a sentence. After
Speaker 4: thinking for a long time, Little Johnny. And we all
Speaker 4: know about Little Johnny.
Speaker 2: Everyone is very familiar with his work.
Speaker 4: What a character, and we're on edge when Little Johnny
Speaker 4: puts his hand up. He put his hand up and
Speaker 4: he said, well, I'm still sad that my girlfriend left me.
Speaker 4: Harassment A lot to me?
Speaker 2: Harass is that her name?
Speaker 6: Is that?
Speaker 2: The girlfriend's name?
Speaker 4: The harassment a lot to me? Harassmant a lot to me.
Speaker 4: Let me get this, ladies. It has.
Speaker 2: John His girlfriend's name is harassed.
Speaker 4: It is a different accent there as well. Okay, the
Speaker 4: key is listening, folks. You really got to keep your
Speaker 4: ears out.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 3: A man comes home after a hard day's work and
Speaker 3: opens the refrigerator to get a soft drink. Inside, he
Speaker 3: sees a wombat taking a nap.
Speaker 2: What are you doing in my fridge?
Speaker 3: The man asked, and the wombat opens one sleepy eye
Speaker 3: and says, isn't this a Westing House?
Speaker 2: Yes, the man replies, well.
Speaker 3: Then the wombat says, shutting his eyes again, I'm going
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Speaker 4: What let's go to issues with hiss and art classic.
Speaker 2: Then that said her name was Hilras.
Speaker 4: Gout the weally really good jokes.
Speaker 1: There sealed section with Tiff one from Jan's first Yes.
Speaker 4: We do this seation every week as well Joe's. And
Speaker 4: this is the sealed section featuring the lovely Tiff war.
Speaker 2: Little ray of Sunshine has just entered the building. Good morning,
Speaker 2: she is Hi everyone. Hi, You've got your envelope. You're
Speaker 2: ready to open it?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 8: Actually, hazy, would you help me out?
Speaker 4: Okay, I'm very good at the loves opening an envelope.
Speaker 9: Cool owing youself every week every.
Speaker 4: Week, these scars on these hands, what.
Speaker 1: Do you go?
Speaker 8: This week?
Speaker 9: We're talking brides and grooms and this immense pressure for
Speaker 9: the groom to sort of shut a tear.
Speaker 8: I recently intended my sister's wedding.
Speaker 4: Yes, you would be such a distraction at.
Speaker 9: I tell you what I did. Look beautiful, That's what I'm.
Speaker 4: Sure you did. But I say more so the stuff
Speaker 4: of the background. Yeah, I was singing along with.
Speaker 3: There was ever a there was ever a bridesmaid that
Speaker 3: wanted to outshine the bride.
Speaker 9: Hello, It's not that I wanted to, It just happens.
Speaker 9: My sister looked gorgeous. I looked gorgeous, and then her husband,
Speaker 9: my brother in law, Sean at the top, and that
Speaker 9: this is what happens. The bride comes out, then everyone
Speaker 9: goes enough of you, Sam, We want to see what
Speaker 9: Sean's doing.
Speaker 8: Is he crying?
Speaker 9: And thankfully he did. Because these in this day and age,
Speaker 9: I feel there's a rhetoric that if your groom doesn't cry,
Speaker 9: he hates you really, he thinks you look ugly.
Speaker 4: So that's a lot of pressure. I know that's a
Speaker 4: lot of pressure. So for blokes, I mean so many
Speaker 4: different situations when you have to perform these expectations, that's
Speaker 4: when you don't perform. Indeed, it's got to be organic.
Speaker 8: It's another example.
Speaker 4: I can't think of enough top of my head right now.
Speaker 4: It has to be organic, deaf, you must.
Speaker 3: This is where I would love to hear from brides
Speaker 3: and grooms here on thirteen twenty four ten. Is there
Speaker 3: an expectation that if the groom doesn't cry, then he
Speaker 3: doesn't love you enough? That seems to be the chitter
Speaker 3: chatter amongst the other women in the at the wedding.
Speaker 8: I think it's a generational thing.
Speaker 9: I don't think back in the day, because we surveyed
Speaker 9: all the older fellas in the ten years first we did,
Speaker 9: and all of them said, no, I didn't cry.
Speaker 8: Cry, I'm happy. Why would I cry?
Speaker 3: Yeah, they were almost like berating these younger blokes who
Speaker 3: do cry.
Speaker 2: They were like, what do they cry for?
Speaker 9: But then is it a social media trend because now
Speaker 9: a lot of weddings get filmed and it's just become
Speaker 9: this thing where the groom cries? But Jones, did Gregy cry?
Speaker 3: When you come up with which Gregory you're gonna have
Speaker 3: Gregy the second greg who's to say?
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 3: He was so hot and sweaty because we got married
Speaker 3: in Berlin. He was wearing a suit, so I don't
Speaker 3: know if they were tears or if it was just
Speaker 3: sweat pouring down his cheeks.
Speaker 8: I'd be sweating and was marrying.
Speaker 4: That's the big question. And what we're crying about was
Speaker 4: the fact that you guys wearing thongs and you knew
Speaker 4: that you regret that.
Speaker 2: Used to become you look on the songs We're on
Speaker 2: a beach.
Speaker 8: Did you really wear thongs on your wedding day? I
Speaker 8: didn't wear cry that.
Speaker 4: Brings a tear to your I bored like a baby.
Speaker 4: And it is the moment when you first see your
Speaker 4: bride walking down there, and it's a song that you
Speaker 4: both connect with as well. It's a really, really emotional.
Speaker 3: If I was to put you on the spot and
Speaker 3: tell you to name the song that your bride walked
Speaker 3: down the arm.
Speaker 8: It was rock at them.
Speaker 4: The paper Kites, I can't come remember it's a beautiful song,
Speaker 4: paper Kites Bloom, It's Bloom sing it really nice. I
Speaker 4: don't put the pressure on that now.
Speaker 2: Four ten get involved in the conversation. Are you a bride?
Speaker 2: Do you expect your new husband to cry? Or are
Speaker 2: you a groom? And do you feel the pressure to cry?
Speaker 4: Just a really really precious situation.
Speaker 10: Yeah.
Speaker 2: And also we've got teddy swimstickers to give away to.
Speaker 4: Best call this morning. Score yourself some teddy swims tickets
Speaker 4: will take your cars next thirteen twenty four ten Please
Speaker 4: get involved.
Speaker 1: Has sealed section with Ti from.
Speaker 4: Janie's first Yeah she is, and she's brought something very
Speaker 4: very close to her heart this morning, so close, so it.
Speaker 8: Is go for it.
Speaker 3: You just what your sister get married and my sister, Yeah,
Speaker 3: she got married. She tied the knot yep.
Speaker 8: Oh nice, Oh here it is.
Speaker 9: Oh it wasn't to this song, but can you imagine
Speaker 9: if it was.
Speaker 4: Has anyone actually got married to this song?
Speaker 5: No?
Speaker 4: Ever, No, she's too generic. I like it.
Speaker 9: It's nice, loyal, But everyone turns when the bride comes
Speaker 9: up there, it's like, oh, well, bride, But then everyone's
Speaker 9: head back to the groom.
Speaker 8: Whiplash. Everyone's gone to look to see if he's crying.
Speaker 4: Yeap. You think it used to be all eyes on
Speaker 4: the bride.
Speaker 8: It did.
Speaker 4: Now the groom gets some attention because he's supposed to
Speaker 4: put it on the water wall.
Speaker 9: Yeah, and everyone's staring intohim, being like, you better cry,
Speaker 9: and thankfully Sean did.
Speaker 10: Yeah.
Speaker 3: And so we're asking the question on thirteen twenty four
Speaker 3: ten or your bride you expect your man to cry?
Speaker 2: You were groomed? Do you feel pressure to cry?
Speaker 3: We spoke a little bit before about what song that
Speaker 3: your beautiful white walked down the aisle two as you
Speaker 3: were sobbing like a baby and you found it there.
Speaker 4: It's in the system of the paper. Quite's blown acoustic version
Speaker 4: of this. Can I see? Does make me feel it? Feeling?
Speaker 4: I feel very nice? Shows you walk down to.
Speaker 8: This sad muss there she goes.
Speaker 2: Actually cry right now?
Speaker 8: Do you know really making cry jokes?
Speaker 9: Your husband, Greggy texted me, oh no, after we discussed
Speaker 9: it whether he cried and he said, cried when I
Speaker 9: realized what I'd done.
Speaker 7: Money.
Speaker 4: All right, we're taking callse certeen twenty four ten. Now
Speaker 4: let's go to Shane in all longa downs. Shane, take
Speaker 4: us through it. Did you cry? Do you feel did
Speaker 4: you feel pressure to cry?
Speaker 11: The pressure maye then when you're in the moment, mate,
Speaker 11: until you just play on your emotions, mate, and just
Speaker 11: let it go.
Speaker 4: Mate, gone on the days of.
Speaker 11: Being big strong men. Mate, We can express our emotions
Speaker 11: as well.
Speaker 7: That's fine.
Speaker 3: Did you use the word mate in your speech to
Speaker 3: the reception on Tippy did?
Speaker 4: Yeah? I did?
Speaker 5: Mate.
Speaker 4: My wife said my bladder is too close to my
Speaker 4: eyble just wengh out my face all been there?
Speaker 2: Oh dear.
Speaker 3: Okay, let's go to Haila in Highbury. Did I say
Speaker 3: that right?
Speaker 12: So? Halo?
Speaker 4: Yeah, thank you?
Speaker 2: Okay. So do grooms have to cry?
Speaker 10: What's the go I feel that they do.
Speaker 7: I would hate.
Speaker 10: If my boyfriend didn't cry when I walk. Doesn't love me?
Speaker 2: Does he know this hailor have you?
Speaker 12: Does he know I have.
Speaker 10: Had the conversation with him. I said to him, I
Speaker 10: really hope that you're going to cry when I walk
Speaker 10: down the aisle. So we've had the conversation before.
Speaker 2: It's a lot of pressure to put on it, isn't it.
Speaker 4: That is tough, isn't it?
Speaker 11: Yeah?
Speaker 4: Oh, let's take more calls thirteen and twenty four. Ten ladies,
Speaker 4: are you a bride and do you expect him to cry?
Speaker 7: Or?
Speaker 4: Grooms? So, do you feel the pressure to shed a
Speaker 4: tear or two? It's a beautiful, beautiful moment, But when
Speaker 4: there's pressure to do something like that, sometimes it's the
Speaker 4: last thing that your body wants to do.
Speaker 1: Daisies sealed section with Tiffan from ten News First.
Speaker 4: Ah, there she is tiof one from ten Years First
Speaker 4: who recently attended to her sister's wedding.
Speaker 2: That's me, yeah, and tell us what happened?
Speaker 8: Well everyone, Yes, it's about you, Sam Sis. Mind you.
Speaker 9: Everyone wants to see if the groom is crying. Yeah,
Speaker 9: it's a thing in this day and age. Everyone wants
Speaker 9: to know is the groom shedding a tear?
Speaker 4: It comes off the back of viral social media video,
Speaker 4: sure where that's just on the and the particular moment
Speaker 4: where the groom there's one famous one where he turns
Speaker 4: around and just absolutely almost falls over. Yeah, you know
Speaker 4: the one.
Speaker 6: I do know the one.
Speaker 4: It seems like it's almost fake.
Speaker 9: But now everyone wants that or expects it. Yeah, and
Speaker 9: if they don't, it means your groom hates you.
Speaker 3: And then and then if it doesn't happen, then then
Speaker 3: all the women at the reception are all bitually going, oh,
Speaker 3: well he didn't try in this example, do I really
Speaker 3: love her enough? All right, let's go to Erin from Enfield.
Speaker 3: Good morning, Erin.
Speaker 10: Good morning, guys, how are you good?
Speaker 2: Good?
Speaker 4: Okay?
Speaker 2: What happened with your groom?
Speaker 4: Well?
Speaker 10: Mine didn't cry and now were divorced.
Speaker 4: So in the moment, I'm guessing that wasn't the reason.
Speaker 4: But in the moment you're like, well I should have
Speaker 4: seen this coming.
Speaker 10: Flag absolutely absolutely.
Speaker 7: I know it's good.
Speaker 4: We're best friends now, that's.
Speaker 10: Yeah, so it didn't work romantic.
Speaker 3: But Erin, can I can I ask you a question
Speaker 3: about that? Have you spoken about it since? And did
Speaker 3: he did he know at the time that maybe it
Speaker 3: wasn't quite right?
Speaker 2: No, we haven't.
Speaker 10: Actually, I think we kind of skirted her out and
Speaker 10: all of that sort of stuff.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so probably best.
Speaker 3: It's all.
Speaker 10: It's all good where you know we're co parent, where you.
Speaker 4: Know, we get along like a house on fire.
Speaker 10: It's just, you know, it wasn't our it wasn't our thing.
Speaker 4: That's fine.
Speaker 3: Madison from angel Vale, Good morning, Madison, Hello, hell are
Speaker 3: ya good?
Speaker 11: Good?
Speaker 2: What are your thoughts on this?
Speaker 7: So I'm getting married this year.
Speaker 10: And if he doesn't cry, I'll have to walk back
Speaker 10: down the aisle and start it all over again.
Speaker 4: Check for a dampness test on his face again.
Speaker 3: That's it, that's it, good time, sound thanks Madison.
Speaker 2: Good luck with your wedding. Joe from Season Good morning.
Speaker 5: Joe, good morning. How are you good?
Speaker 7: Good?
Speaker 2: You sound like a groom? Did you cry?
Speaker 5: I'm a groom. I was a green thirty two years ago. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 5: and that was it was a very emotional day, and
Speaker 5: not I think talking about being emotional all right with
Speaker 5: your partner on the day that sounds a bit you know,
Speaker 5: I don't know, rehearsed. It should be. It should be
Speaker 5: just based on the moment and everything. Man, of course
Speaker 5: I shed a tear I've made better love of my life.
Speaker 4: Do you know what Joe like? And that was what
Speaker 4: thirty two years ago? It was definitely. But so anyway,
Speaker 4: we just lost Joe there for a second.
Speaker 2: Did have to lose jokes? Joe said something, Joe said
Speaker 2: something he.
Speaker 4: Definitely sometimes sometimes like on your wedding days, were you're
Speaker 4: sort up at the moment emotions.
Speaker 3: And this will certainly be a real test of the
Speaker 3: temporary technology we have in the boardroom.
Speaker 4: Some dodgy sort of that's fine. Teddy swims tickets up
Speaker 4: for grabs. He's performed out of laid entertainment center. It's
Speaker 4: a really really beautiful moment of your life. Yeah, and
Speaker 4: I didn't plan on crime, but I thought that I might.
Speaker 4: But everything's there, your friends there, I think when you
Speaker 4: see your families as well, and then when you see
Speaker 4: your wife's family and your family and they're proud as
Speaker 4: punch shu.
Speaker 8: Try just thinking about.
Speaker 4: It an emotion overload take Could we take one more call? Yes,
Speaker 4: thirty twenty fourteen, give us a call.
Speaker 1: Hazes sealed section with tiff On from ten years first.
Speaker 4: There she is you always lovely Tip four ten news First.
Speaker 4: Tiff recently went to a sister's wedding, and we're talking
Speaker 4: about this morning on thirteen and twenty four ten. The
Speaker 4: pressure that comes with the groom having to cry, I
Speaker 4: think it comes from social media and viral clips.
Speaker 9: Everything's getting filmed these days as a videographer and the like. Yeah,
Speaker 9: and everyone wants to see the groom shittttered tear because
Speaker 9: it makes for a nice video.
Speaker 3: And then if they don't shutter tear all the Karens
Speaker 3: in the reception, it clearly doesn't love her.
Speaker 4: He doesn't care at all. Look it him, stry face.
Speaker 4: Mige over there.
Speaker 3: Yeah, wow, we are taking your calls. Nadia from Highbury,
Speaker 3: good morning. Your thoughts should a groom cry?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 7: I don't well, I don't think there should be any
Speaker 7: pressure on a groom to cry. I think what Shane
Speaker 7: said earlier was absolutely beautiful. In the moment. If a
Speaker 7: male cries, let them cry. I think I got married
Speaker 7: thirty years ago and it was one of those things
Speaker 7: that I guess wasn't done where the grooms, you know,
Speaker 7: have to hold back. My groom didn't cry. I cried,
Speaker 7: and my dad cried later got divorced, so maybe that
Speaker 7: was a time. But I think that. Yeah, there definitely
Speaker 7: shouldn't be pressure on a male to cry. I think
Speaker 7: it's about the feeling the vows, the way that the
Speaker 7: male treats the bride, not only on the day, but
Speaker 7: absolutely after as well. So Karen, those Karens should really
Speaker 7: look at them their own laves. I guess yeah, I
Speaker 7: don't think there's any pressure on a guy to cry.
Speaker 7: It's beautiful if they do, but I think it needs
Speaker 7: to be natural, not.
Speaker 3: For very Also, really good call to make Karen's self
Speaker 3: reflect some.
Speaker 4: Great calls coming through this morning. Somebody's gonna win these
Speaker 4: Teddy Swims tickets at the Adelaid Entertainment Center.
Speaker 2: Let's put it back on tip.
Speaker 9: It's going to be drum roll please, no, no, oh,
Speaker 9: you've got a real one.
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Speaker 13: It is Aaron from and this groom didn't cry, and
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Speaker 12: I need to know.
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Speaker 4: I need to know what to moves today.
Speaker 2: Just what you need to know, what you need to.
Speaker 1: Know with Jody and Baby.
Speaker 4: Sometimes stories pop up in your feet. That really really
Speaker 4: tickle your soul, and particularly when it's close to home,
Speaker 4: and that is through a South Australia a bad doing
Speaker 4: extremely well, and that's Joe Ingles. So if you're an
Speaker 4: NBA fan and you were checking the stats, you might
Speaker 4: have looked at Minnesota Timwolves in their recent game and thought, well,
Speaker 4: Joe's starting. He has done that for a long time.
Speaker 4: In fact, he hasn't started a game for three years. Yeah.
Speaker 3: No, absolutely, So it was revealed that shortly before the
Speaker 3: game that Timberwolves coach Chris Finch.
Speaker 2: Was going to give Joe Ingles a start. And do
Speaker 2: you know why. The reasons are just so very wholesome.
Speaker 3: So, Joe's oldest son, Jacob, struggles with autism. He has
Speaker 3: sensory overload, and so I think the story goes that
Speaker 3: he has been living with his mum, but I don't
Speaker 3: think they've been living near Dad.
Speaker 4: So they haven't because they were living in Orlando. So
Speaker 4: it was a team that Joe was playing for recently
Speaker 4: before Minnesota. Yeah, they've stayed in Orlando and he's now
Speaker 4: obviously residing and traveling with the Minnesota Timbwolves. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And so they decided to give him a start,
Speaker 3: just so that Jacob could see his dad take the court.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 4: And the big thing as well is it's a big
Speaker 4: it's a big deal in terms of announcing the starters. Yes,
Speaker 4: particularly at a home game. Yeah, so that's going to
Speaker 4: be so cool Jacob to see and Joe. Yes, he's
Speaker 4: running through a bit of a tunnel and all the
Speaker 4: lasts and everything happened really really cool.
Speaker 3: And then look on his little face too. It was
Speaker 3: just something to behold. Had people in tears all over America.
Speaker 4: Jeez, it had everyone in tears who saw it on
Speaker 4: social media. This was Joe Ingles post game.
Speaker 12: There's been so many times with my wife that was
Speaker 12: laying on the floor in public and you can fill
Speaker 12: people serenot you. You know they're judging, they know they're
Speaker 12: making comments about it, but they have no idea what
Speaker 12: he's gone through that day, or the night before, or
Speaker 12: the situation ever since he got diagnosed. It's been what
Speaker 12: was trying to do with the awareness of play is real,
Speaker 12: Like it's no matter who you are or your lifestyle,
Speaker 12: your money, like whatever.
Speaker 4: Like, so one a really important message from Joe. Yeah,
Speaker 4: and to just a really really nice wholesome moment for
Speaker 4: Ingles and everybody else in that same situation who was
Speaker 4: taking care of kids with autism. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Absolutely, what a beautiful message for them, something gorgeous and
Speaker 3: wholesome to something completely and utterly the opposite and a
Speaker 3: complete embarrassment for the NBA fraternity was they had the
Speaker 3: final game basically of the playoff series yesterday join the
Speaker 3: Ila Hawks and Melbourne United. So it was in Illawarra.
Speaker 3: The I war crowd was so disrespectful. I think, to
Speaker 3: Melbourne United, who's not everyone's favorite team, They're.
Speaker 2: Not everyone's cup of tea. There's a couple of real characters.
Speaker 3: But during the game there was a chant that went
Speaker 3: up around the stadium calling Chris Golding something that rhyme's
Speaker 3: Chris Golding's a banker, let's say.
Speaker 2: Banker, a banker. Yeah, I know, you know what I mean.
Speaker 4: Can I just say.
Speaker 2: I do I do? I actually really do. I don't
Speaker 2: like Chris Golding.
Speaker 4: I don't like him as a player, but we always
Speaker 4: joke that's because it's so bloody good.
Speaker 2: He is bloody good.
Speaker 3: But I just think ill Warra won the game, they
Speaker 3: win the championship, and then when they awarded the MVP
Speaker 3: it went to Matthew Delavdova, who for the losing team
Speaker 3: plays for Melbourne United. Absolute gun of a player has
Speaker 3: played in the NBA and this was how Matthew Delivandover
Speaker 3: was met by the crowd.
Speaker 2: So he subsequently and.
Speaker 3: You will hear it here, got off stage took his
Speaker 3: MVP award and then handed that trophy to Will Hickey,
Speaker 3: who's the Hawks player who everyone thought should have won
Speaker 3: it because he played it well in the finals.
Speaker 4: Have a listen, hold on, hold on, this really belongs
Speaker 4: to you. You had a hell of a serious this
Speaker 4: is yours. Seriously, what a classy act from Matthew Delivadover.
Speaker 3: He's standing on stage getting booed, and he decided to
Speaker 3: hand over that award. The NBA have since come outa
Speaker 3: NBA have since come out and said, nah, sorry, Matthew Delivandover.
Speaker 2: He won the award.
Speaker 8: You have to keep it.
Speaker 2: This is not your decision to hand it to Will Hickey.
Speaker 3: So but the reaction has been pretty overwhelming online, people
Speaker 3: saying that was an embarrassment from the NBOL to firstly
Speaker 3: put him in that position where they awarded it to him,
Speaker 3: and secondly, the crowd also an absolute disgrace.
Speaker 4: Yes, there they go. Have lots to take out from that, Jodes,
Speaker 4: let's really really straight enough for a second and talk
Speaker 4: about something which is really really gripping the nation, and
Speaker 4: that's anxiety.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 4: It's reading a lot more about anxiety in the news
Speaker 4: today than ever before, and I feel like people are
Speaker 4: more and more aware of what it is, and more
Speaker 4: and more people now, more than ever, are affected by anxiety.
Speaker 3: Yeah. Hats off to the TiSER at the moment, actually,
Speaker 3: who are doing an awful lot in this space because
Speaker 3: they're very aware that this is a bit of an
Speaker 3: epidemic at the moment, especially amongst young people and especially
Speaker 3: post COVID, because people are feeling stressed and isolated.
Speaker 4: See that's outrageous, isn't it. And what we're seeing as
Speaker 4: well as some of the statistics, gen Z is more
Speaker 4: anxious than all of the other generations. They're lonelier and
Speaker 4: poorer than the other generations. Like you mentioned, the COVID
Speaker 4: nineteen pandemic absolutely through everyone's minds into disarray. Pressure to
Speaker 4: perform and compare garrisons to friends and celebrities on social
Speaker 4: media is causing anxiety to ridiculous levels.
Speaker 3: This is terrifying because we're raising a generation of kids
Speaker 3: who are addicted to their phones. Most kids have a
Speaker 3: phone in their hands, and we're not going to see
Speaker 3: the impact of that until these young kids become adults.
Speaker 3: And I'm actually terrified for these kids and the impact
Speaker 3: that social media and this mobile phone addiction is going
Speaker 3: to have on them later in life.
Speaker 4: So I'm very intrigued by the relationship that our brains
Speaker 4: have when it comes to siphening through things that are
Speaker 4: positive and negative. But it's just it's mind blowing. I've
Speaker 4: got a couple of stats here for you, and this
Speaker 4: is all obviously related to what we call mental health,
Speaker 4: depression and anxiety. Here's my foy that probably will blame
Speaker 4: mine is seven times more likely to notice something negative
Speaker 4: than you are one thing positive. And we've spoken about
Speaker 4: this before, whether it's a coon, a negative comment, or something.
Speaker 4: You siphen through the good stuffyea yah ya, yeah, yea
Speaker 4: ye yeah, and then you find the negative stuff and
Speaker 4: you harp on that. That is also explained it takes
Speaker 4: five to seven positive interactions to counteract just one negative interaction.
Speaker 4: That's from a blow called John Gotman. Who's a famous psychologist,
Speaker 4: So you need so much good to get rid of
Speaker 4: just the one bad. Wow, why are brains like this?
Speaker 3: It's fight or flight. I think it goes back to Caveman.
Speaker 3: So we're wired to hold onto the negative stuff. So
Speaker 3: if you see a tiger right, your brain will go
Speaker 3: You've seen a tiger and that has to stick because
Speaker 3: it's a survival mechanism. So I think it's a hangover
Speaker 3: from the Caveman times. Thanks guys, Thanks Caveman.
Speaker 4: Yeah, any guys appreciate that. We want to get you
Speaker 4: involved this morning thirteen twenty four to ten, can we
Speaker 4: openly talk about anxiety and the way that it affects us.
Speaker 4: I want to share with you my relationship with anxiety,
Speaker 4: and it's not I wouldn't call it healthy, no, but
Speaker 4: I've come to a point in my life right now
Speaker 4: where I understand a bit more and I also understand
Speaker 4: the dangers of it. But yeah, it's certainly been an
Speaker 4: interesting battle across the journey, probably learning more and more
Speaker 4: what it is.
Speaker 2: Well knowing you quite well.
Speaker 3: You are one of these people that will go down
Speaker 3: the rabbit hole if you hear something negative, and that
Speaker 3: can tend to make you spiral. So I'm really curious
Speaker 3: to find out what's going on in that beautiful big
Speaker 3: brain of yours.
Speaker 2: Andrew Hayes, what do you word?
Speaker 4: You say that? Have you heard something? We'll w'll share
Speaker 4: with you next And like I said thirteen and twenty fourteen,
Speaker 4: we'd love to get you involved this morning because I
Speaker 4: think it's something that we should be talking about more
Speaker 4: and more. We're opening up this space to talk about
Speaker 4: something which is affecting unbelievably one and six Australians and
Speaker 4: that is anxiety. And it's something that I have. I've
Speaker 4: dealt with it for a long long time, particularly in
Speaker 4: my working professional life, and I reckon at the start,
Speaker 4: I just didn't really know what it was, yeap. So
Speaker 4: the more and more you learn, you more that you
Speaker 4: learn that it's it's something that's very very common. It's
Speaker 4: something you can deal with. But I still have you.
Speaker 4: She's with it right now.
Speaker 2: Okay, So what does it look like for you? And anxiety?
Speaker 4: So my big one is worrying about things you can't control.
Speaker 4: So which is it's easy said than done, and that
Speaker 4: is to say, look, don't worry about it because you
Speaker 4: can't control. But it's impossible for me. So I'm that
Speaker 4: bloke who sits there late at night thinking about cooking
Speaker 4: up theories, cooking up things that could go wrong in
Speaker 4: my life. And here's another stat for you as well,
Speaker 4: by the way, which I think this came out last
Speaker 4: year was absolutely mind blowing. It took the world by storm,
Speaker 4: and that is eighty five percent of things that we
Speaker 4: worry about don't actually happen. Yeah, so when I heard
Speaker 4: that statue ites, I thought, well, fifteen percent chance it does. Though, well,
Speaker 4: I don't know if I like those odds for me.
Speaker 4: Do you know what? It's ruined this sort of stuff.
Speaker 4: It's ruined a lot of good things that I've happened
Speaker 4: in my life, because all of the good things that
Speaker 4: I've done throughout the whole time. While I was it
Speaker 4: was happening, I was thinking what could go wrong, and
Speaker 4: I was thinking about absolutely the negative thing that could
Speaker 4: come from that. And then you look back at it
Speaker 4: and go, oh gosh, I wish I just sat there
Speaker 4: and enjoyed the moment. Because kids growing up, they are
Speaker 4: only going to be this age, Onyn't It's such a
Speaker 4: beautiful age that Toddler's into during your primus called et cetera.
Speaker 4: And I'm worried about work. I'm worried about all these
Speaker 4: things that I can can't control, and I know that
Speaker 4: I will look back and go, God, I wish I
Speaker 4: just lived in the moment. Yeah, but it's easy said
Speaker 4: than done because I can't turn it off.
Speaker 2: So can I ask?
Speaker 3: When did you realize that this just wasn't like general worry,
Speaker 3: that this anxiety was an actual problem.
Speaker 4: I think I understood more when I was given some
Speaker 4: information that it's not normal. It's not normal to so
Speaker 4: many nights a week sit there throughout the night worrying
Speaker 4: about stuff, particularly that you can't control. The other thing
Speaker 4: as well is the physical symptoms, which you probably don't
Speaker 4: notice until you get older in life, and they can
Speaker 4: potentially affect you. But one for me is I get
Speaker 4: spots of alopecia. Yeah, so I get so when I'm
Speaker 4: really really stressed. The worst I've had, I have like
Speaker 4: three sort of spots and the sort of twenty cent pieces,
Speaker 4: that's how big they get. I've got one right now,
Speaker 4: so it's on the side of my head. And that
Speaker 4: is purely like I've seen a specialist about that, and
Speaker 4: that is purely stress related. Yeah, right, and it's delayed
Speaker 4: as well. So if I'm stressed really badly for a
Speaker 4: good cut the weeks, that'll come out and maybe in
Speaker 4: a month or so. So yeah, sometimes I can convince
Speaker 4: myself that everything's good and everything's fine, I'm not stressed,
Speaker 4: but then sudden I've got these patches in my head
Speaker 4: and You're like, well, the physical signs are there.
Speaker 3: So I mean, have you spoken to anyone have you
Speaker 3: tried to get to the root cause of the issue.
Speaker 4: Not professionally, but I think that's definitely something worth exploring
Speaker 4: because it could be what we get on discovering is
Speaker 4: there's sometimes a deep root problem.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: We all have childhood trauma.
Speaker 4: Yeah, so whether it's childhood trauma it's a way that
Speaker 4: you build, or it's trauma yeah, or adult trauma. So
Speaker 4: I'd be absolutely open to seeing a specialist because I
Speaker 4: can mention it's not a good way to live. Yeah,
Speaker 4: you're stressing about what can go wrong instead of enjoying
Speaker 4: the good things. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Can I tell you, I've never met anyone who's gone
Speaker 3: to a counselor or a psychologist and regretted it.
Speaker 4: Produced My The.
Speaker 6: Scariest thing sometimes is actually realizing that you might need
Speaker 6: to talk to someone or hey, I might need some help.
Speaker 6: So I think for anyone listening more for you, hazy,
Speaker 6: just having this conversation right now and going, hey, this
Speaker 6: isn't quite right. The scary part's already done now, Like
Speaker 6: that's the most vulnerable you can be is realizing within yourself, hey,
Speaker 6: something's going to change here and be all right now,
Speaker 6: how do I go about that?
Speaker 2: From here? It only gets so much easier. So just
Speaker 2: thank you so much for sharing that with us.
Speaker 4: Well, I think the best thing about twenty twenty five
Speaker 4: right now is that, particularly for blokes, it does feel
Speaker 4: like it's a safer space. Now. There's less judgment. There's
Speaker 4: no like the whole man up thing, oh gross and
Speaker 4: balls kind of thing that I don't think that really
Speaker 4: exists anymore, which is actually really really good. A lot
Speaker 4: boks can be vulnerable, now, do you feel that? Like,
Speaker 4: and particularly and my wife wants me to talk more
Speaker 4: and more because what happens is I'll say nothing, I'll
Speaker 4: say nothing, I'll say nothing, and then all of a
Speaker 4: sudden it's unload for an hour and a half.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And also what you're doing for young kids now,
Speaker 3: because you mentioned, you know, the version of being a man.
Speaker 3: What's being sold online about what it is to be
Speaker 3: a man at the moment is so toxic and anyone
Speaker 3: who's watching adolescents at the minute will understand that this
Speaker 3: is a real issue for young boys as well.
Speaker 2: So thank you for speaking up. I think it's really important.
Speaker 4: Thirteen twenty four ten, we'd love to hear from you one.
Speaker 4: Do you suffer from anxiety? How do you deal with it?
Speaker 4: And can we just openly talk about this in this
Speaker 4: space anxiety.
Speaker 3: We're having the discussion online dating, overuse of social media,
Speaker 3: working from home, cost to living, pressures, it can all
Speaker 3: contribute to you feeling anxious, and we would love to
Speaker 3: hear from you this morning. On thirteen twenty four Tenzy,
Speaker 3: it's a.
Speaker 7: Favorite only on.
Speaker 4: Top a twenty nine degrees across Adelade. Today it is
Speaker 4: Jodie Hazy and we've pivoted in a bit more of
Speaker 4: a serious direction, Joe's. We are talking about anxiety, and
Speaker 4: in particular, I've shared with you my relationship with anxiety,
Speaker 4: which is, like to put it bluntly, it's unhealthy.
Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, I'll give you an example of your anxiety
Speaker 3: at the moment. We're doing this breakfas show that we
Speaker 3: love you and I love working together, we love talking
Speaker 3: to the people of Adelaide.
Speaker 2: It is what you have worked the better part of
Speaker 2: a decade for.
Speaker 4: So just to jump on that. It was literally my
Speaker 4: drain to work, not just breakfast rate of it and
Speaker 4: over I started it and over and then you sort
Speaker 4: of readjust yourselves because and you go to different markets
Speaker 4: and you think, oh, which is made with the dreams
Speaker 4: just through Breakfast Rader. But as it turned out, it's heres.
Speaker 2: So you should be enjoying You should be enjoying it.
Speaker 3: And the amount of times I've had to say to you,
Speaker 3: can you adjus relax and be in the moment, because
Speaker 3: in your mind you'll go down the rabbit hole and think, oh,
Speaker 3: it's all going to end tomorrow. Yeah, it will all
Speaker 3: end tomorrow. It's not going to it's going really well
Speaker 3: to choose.
Speaker 2: That, by the way, yeah, it would be weird.
Speaker 4: Let us see out of the week. Please, that's quite seriously,
Speaker 4: That's how my brain's built. And it's an issue with
Speaker 4: me because all the good things I've done in my life,
Speaker 4: I haven't been able to enjoy no, because I've been
Speaker 4: sitting up and cooking up situations where what's the most
Speaker 4: negative think could happen. It hasn't happened. And that's the statistic.
Speaker 4: Eighty five percent of the things we worry about don't happen.
Speaker 4: But anxiety is cheer to trick you. One is so powerful.
Speaker 3: We sit here, you idiot, for three hours every morning,
Speaker 3: and we laugh at each other.
Speaker 2: We genuinely make each other laugh, like just enjoy it.
Speaker 2: Can you please?
Speaker 3: We are talking anxiety this morning on thirteen, twenty four ten.
Speaker 3: Thank you so much for all the calls that we've
Speaker 3: been inundated with. Let's get a wade from allenby Gardens.
Speaker 3: Good morning, Wade, Good morning, How are you good?
Speaker 2: Good? Did that hit a nerve?
Speaker 12: So?
Speaker 14: Yeah, so it certainly did. I've stuffered anxieties that are
Speaker 14: for the best part of my life. I only realized
Speaker 14: only I guess I had it to the diagnosed about
Speaker 14: two and a half years ago. My last that came
Speaker 14: to a head. I had a breakup and then my
Speaker 14: mom passed away shortly after, and everything sort of spiraled
Speaker 14: and it exacerbated what I was dealing with. But when
Speaker 14: I went and saw a psychologist for a while and
Speaker 14: What came out of that was that I'd actually been
Speaker 14: suffering since I was probably about seven or eight years old. Yeah,
Speaker 14: put into situations where I was expected to talk to
Speaker 14: these people that were inverted Commas family, but I didn't
Speaker 14: know them because I've grown up in a different state.
Speaker 14: And yeah, now even now, I still do suffer a
Speaker 14: little bit, but I'm managed it a lot better. I
Speaker 14: sometimes have anxiety attacks at work, and I find myself
Speaker 14: controlling things that I can control, like I clean up
Speaker 14: my till I turn all the notes around the same way,
Speaker 14: and it just diverts my brain away from the things that,
Speaker 14: like as Hazey was saying, the things that I can't control.
Speaker 14: But yeah, it's very weird. The weirdest part about it
Speaker 14: was that when I when I was in the depths
Speaker 14: of suffering from it, I would find that I would
Speaker 14: make fans with people, and then last minute I'd just cancer.
Speaker 14: I just couldn't I couldn't deal. Yeah, But then once
Speaker 14: I sort of started kind of getting a better handle
Speaker 14: on it with the psychologist, and I saw this wonderful woman.
Speaker 14: I don't know if I can say her name at all,
Speaker 14: definitely Susan Lister. She's a she's a holistic counselor and
Speaker 14: I've seen her. I saw her for quite a time
Speaker 14: after the psychologist, and once I sort of started getting
Speaker 14: a handle on it, I found that being out with
Speaker 14: people that you know, friends and stuff actually helped. Even
Speaker 14: though I couldn't get myself to that point at one stage,
Speaker 14: once I could, I found that was actually helpful, because
Speaker 14: so there's that sort of interaction in that connection with people.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's well said, first of all, Wait, but you
Speaker 4: know it's funny because what I took from that as
Speaker 4: well is that if you've been suffering this from such
Speaker 4: a young age you said sort of seven or eight,
Speaker 4: I sort of feel like we grew up and we
Speaker 4: were told and we are that we're in the lucky country.
Speaker 4: So no one has the right to be worried about
Speaker 4: anything because we grew up in Australia. And I'm not
Speaker 4: saying that, you know, we should be upset, because that
Speaker 4: is true to a degree, but also like you can't
Speaker 4: sort of pick and choose some of these things, particularly
Speaker 4: when it comes to mental health. So just dismissing it
Speaker 4: and saying, well, you don't have the right to be
Speaker 4: upset about anything, it's not going to fix anything.
Speaker 3: No, absolutely, and what does fix things is going to
Speaker 3: speak to someone about it, as Wage just.
Speaker 4: Said, then one hundred percent and others services available Lifeline,
Speaker 4: beyond Blue Headspace, they're all excellent organizations. Can we take
Speaker 4: some more calls? This is really particularly for someone like Way.
Speaker 4: Congratulations to him for talking up as a bloke. Blokes
Speaker 4: do not speak well and enough as women do. It's
Speaker 4: as simple as that. If you want to get involved
Speaker 4: with this, please give us call. Thirteen twenty fourteen, we're
Speaker 4: talking about anxiety and how it affects you, and we
Speaker 4: are taking a bit of a a more serious for it.
Speaker 4: This morning. We're talking about anxiety Joe's because it's something
Speaker 4: which is I mean, it's everywhere across this country. More
Speaker 4: and more we're seeing some alarming statistics, particularly involving gen Zettas.
Speaker 4: But it's something as well that we feel like we're
Speaker 4: heading in the right direction with when it comes to
Speaker 4: communication and things like that, particularly with blokes. We've spoken
Speaker 4: about it for about twenty five minutes and if you
Speaker 4: have been listening and it strikes a cord for you
Speaker 4: in any sort of space, there's services available. We're talking
Speaker 4: Lifeline beyond blue headspace, but more importantly just for to
Speaker 4: spark a conversation, because that's the first step, particularly as
Speaker 4: a bloke. We don't communicate as well as women. Very
Speaker 4: very simple stuff to start a conversation for blokes, that's
Speaker 4: really really important. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Absolutely, and we are taking your calls this morning on
Speaker 3: thirteen twenty four ten. Let's go to Amber from Huntfield Heights.
Speaker 4: Ammer.
Speaker 2: You're a little anxious bunny, are you.
Speaker 1: Not me?
Speaker 10: Necessarily, my husband suffered from pretty badly a few years ago,
Speaker 10: which was quite scary. I've suffered from depression, so I
Speaker 10: knew that it wasn't the end of the world in
Speaker 10: the sense that it would pass. And yeah, we've got
Speaker 10: some help and he's doing much better now. Yeah, but
Speaker 10: I've gone on a bit of an interesting journey myself.
Speaker 10: I'm currently studying to be an EFT practitioner. I don't
Speaker 10: know if you've heard of AFT I have, Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 10: And that is brilliant for anxiety because it brings you
Speaker 10: out of the fight and flight and puts you straight
Speaker 10: into like you regulate your nervous system just by simply
Speaker 10: tapping on the ex pressure points on your body. You
Speaker 10: can say you can say things as you do it,
Speaker 10: like actual negative things, which seems that counterintuitive, but it works.
Speaker 10: Or you can just tap on if you're really stressed,
Speaker 10: just tap on the certain points and we will just
Speaker 10: bring you back to regulation. And I've done some taps
Speaker 10: on people and brought them back from some pretty crazy
Speaker 10: anxiety stresses in their life, and they just see the
Speaker 10: other side of it, like the good in it. Like
Speaker 10: you'll be about your job hazy, you know, you'll be
Speaker 10: like all these things, it could go wrong, and then
Speaker 10: you're like, but hey, actually it's good, Like there is
Speaker 10: good in it.
Speaker 4: That's the dream to look at situations and find the
Speaker 4: positive instead of our brain's naturally trying to scan things
Speaker 4: so negative and concentrate on that.
Speaker 10: Yeah, it can be done very fast, within an hour.
Speaker 10: You could be positive about your job permanently.
Speaker 2: And could you spend some time with my good friend,
Speaker 2: I certainly could.
Speaker 10: I am training. I need fifty free clients.
Speaker 4: So fantastic call from Amber so ef T as well.
Speaker 4: It stands for emotional freedom techniques. Yeah, so something that's
Speaker 4: foreign to mate. Well, certainly learning in the space do
Speaker 4: something's very very useful.
Speaker 3: Do you get that panicky sort of fight or flight response.
Speaker 3: Do you get that ever?
Speaker 4: Yes, it's okay, mate, I'm.
Speaker 2: Just asking good to acknowledge. All right, let's go to
Speaker 2: Colin from Happy Valley. Good morning Colin, Good morning Andrews.
Speaker 11: Jodi, here you go, th me.
Speaker 3: Very well, thank you. What's been your experience with anxiety
Speaker 3: and depression?
Speaker 12: Yeah?
Speaker 11: Well, I had both of those, and it was essentially
Speaker 11: from abusive childhood emotionally and physically. But I also suffer
Speaker 11: from delayed intelligence. So only on reflection can I say
Speaker 11: that physical involvement in martial arts really quilled both depression
Speaker 11: and anxiety for a good term and got me through
Speaker 11: it in quite a constructive way. And when I could
Speaker 11: no longer be highly physical physically involved, I went on
Speaker 11: to personal development and embarked on acquiring six diplomas. So
Speaker 11: while my mind was busy in the study and that
Speaker 11: again it put the anxiety and depression to the background.
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Speaker 1: With Jody and Hazy pitch.
Speaker 2: Invaders, Why why what I get?
Speaker 4: I get it's worth it anymore.
Speaker 3: I care that people go and have a skin fall
Speaker 3: and think it's a good idea for whatever reason. But
Speaker 3: for goodness sake, it's trust not you're going to get
Speaker 3: yourself banned for three years, which is what this bloke
Speaker 3: did when he ran across Adelaide Oval.
Speaker 2: Not once but twice.
Speaker 3: So he only captured the attention of security on his
Speaker 3: second run too, So he was he went at halftime
Speaker 3: during the Yours kick kids, and then he went again
Speaker 3: and got hip and shouldered pretty fiercely.
Speaker 4: You have to say, yeah he did. He really He
Speaker 4: sort of fell into the security guard. So that was
Speaker 4: just a beautiful collision. But that's what you kind of expect,
Speaker 4: and that's what's happening now. When you see a pitching bat,
Speaker 4: you're like, oh, someone nail him. Yeah, that's feeling.
Speaker 2: Well, that's what I feel like. That's how it should
Speaker 2: end for.
Speaker 4: These play yea was the last remember keys? He got
Speaker 4: that guy?
Speaker 3: Oh Ben Keys And my favorite one of all time
Speaker 3: was Andrew Simons when that guy ran onto it was
Speaker 3: at the Gabba.
Speaker 4: Yeah, he set the time. So the great Andrew Simon
Speaker 4: set the tone back in the day. There will never
Speaker 4: be another on field hip and shoulder moment between an
Speaker 4: athlete and a spectator like that.
Speaker 3: Ever again it was, And I wonder what they what
Speaker 3: do they tell the players hazy, like, if there's a
Speaker 3: pitch invader?
Speaker 2: Did they tell of players to leave this, stay out
Speaker 2: of it?
Speaker 3: Because I guess if you feel like your teammates under threat,
Speaker 3: you're going to go them.
Speaker 4: Look, I'm saying, you know, I might get the words
Speaker 4: wrong here, so I've probably just some research after got
Speaker 4: to air never good idea. Was it Bruce Reid or
Speaker 4: someone back in the day, someone one of the international
Speaker 4: creakers I'm sure was Bruce Reid tried to tackle a
Speaker 4: pitch invader and dissiccated his shoulder. Maybe, So that is
Speaker 4: the worst possible scenario.
Speaker 3: I mean, you're telling this potentially non factual story. So
Speaker 3: I'm just going to let you tell it.
Speaker 4: How good's fact checking? After you've been on hair so good?
Speaker 4: That works, isn't it? Pitch bats, It's not going to
Speaker 4: work anymore? Just stop doing it. And also during an
Speaker 4: OZ kick.
Speaker 3: Games, Hey, what's the fine produced Molly?
Speaker 2: Do you know the fine for running onto adelaide?
Speaker 8: I think it's hefty.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's going to be a couple of grand it's
Speaker 4: thousands and thousands of dollars. Yeah, you do it again though,
Speaker 4: See I would. I'd be more than comfortable if you've
Speaker 4: got a life bound straight away. Yeah, three man's pretty leaning.
Speaker 3: Oh three DS is so leanient I reckon, you've never
Speaker 3: come back to the football again.
Speaker 4: Sorry, there you go. And Picture Vader is listening this morning.
Speaker 4: Sorry to burst your bove all. That's what you're waking if.
Speaker 2: You're thinking about it. It's not a good idea. It
Speaker 2: is simply not a good idea.
Speaker 4: Spider