WEBVTT - Yes, you can finish your year strong 

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<v Speaker 1>Good a. Thanks for joining us on the body and

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<v Speaker 1>soul podcast called healthy Ish. I am your host, a

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<v Speaker 1>Felicity Harley. Do you want to finish twenty twenty four strong? Yes?

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<v Speaker 1>Hell yes, I'm talking strength of mindset of how you're

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<v Speaker 1>feeling emotionally well. I'm joined today by business advisor and strategist,

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<v Speaker 1>or as many call her, wingwoman, Michelle Broadbent, and she's

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<v Speaker 1>going to share her well. Firstly, her genius approach to

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<v Speaker 1>protecting your valuable time, admits the chaos of Christmas, and

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<v Speaker 1>also finishing twenty twenty four in the best headspace possible.

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<v Speaker 1>Make sure you listening to our chat on extra Healthyish

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<v Speaker 1>as well, where she discusses how to set yourself up

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<v Speaker 1>for your best year ahead and inspiring chat and well

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<v Speaker 1>worth a listen. You can grab that one wherever you

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<v Speaker 1>get your podcasts. Michelle, welcome to healthy Ish.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you so much for having me.

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<v Speaker 1>So nice too. Well have you well you were my

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<v Speaker 1>last interview for twenty twenty four.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm very on it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, well let's make it a good one. Hey, but

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like so many of us are just limping

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<v Speaker 1>to the end. I mean I am are you yes?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, one of your messages, which is really empowering, is

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<v Speaker 1>about finishing the year strong. What's this all about.

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<v Speaker 2>So, as we've just acknowledged, many people limp to the

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<v Speaker 2>end of the year, and I think that it is

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<v Speaker 2>because we tend to really over commit at this time

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<v Speaker 2>of the year, more so than any time of the year.

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<v Speaker 2>Our diaries are jam packed with all the commitments that

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<v Speaker 2>our past selves thought were a really good idea to

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<v Speaker 2>lock in for December, and all those people that have

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<v Speaker 2>come out of the woodwork that want to catch up

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<v Speaker 2>before Christmas, and you know, two months ago when they suggested,

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<v Speaker 2>oh my gosh, I.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't I know you're busy, but let's catch.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, I know it's but I haven't seen you since

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<v Speaker 2>last Christmas. Let's make sure we do it again before

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<v Speaker 2>the end of the year. And as a result of

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<v Speaker 2>that kind of you know, the pileon, plus all of

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<v Speaker 2>the other stuff that we deal with as women, as parents,

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<v Speaker 2>as partners, as cares, as all the other roles that

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<v Speaker 2>we fill in our lives, we end up with this

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<v Speaker 2>ridiculously jam pack schedule, and because we're not protecting our

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<v Speaker 2>own time and energy, we end up like skidding into

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<v Speaker 2>the Christmas period, an absolutely strung out mess.

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<v Speaker 1>You talk about the importance of finding white space. What's

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<v Speaker 1>this all about and how can we get in our calendars?

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<v Speaker 2>So this is this is like the contingency. Okay, so

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<v Speaker 2>we've all seen that meme where why is it that

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<v Speaker 2>when you're running late you always like catch your sleeve

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<v Speaker 2>on the door on the way out. And the fact

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<v Speaker 2>that this is such a busy, over scheduled time of year,

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<v Speaker 2>like without jinxing it for everyone. But this is the

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<v Speaker 2>way that it rolls usually is that this is when

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<v Speaker 2>things go wrong. This is when you've got a day

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<v Speaker 2>of back to back recordings and your child gets sick

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<v Speaker 2>and there's no one else to look after them, or

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<v Speaker 2>the uber is running twenty minutes late for the party

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<v Speaker 2>and you have.

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<v Speaker 1>Too many drinks one night and you've got to struggle

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<v Speaker 1>together there the next day.

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<v Speaker 2>Or you've got to go and pick up the car

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<v Speaker 2>right like because you thought that you would drive and

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<v Speaker 2>be sensible and then you leave the car behind. So

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<v Speaker 2>this is why, particularly at this time of year, but

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<v Speaker 2>really all through the year, it is so important to

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<v Speaker 2>have white space in our calendar so that if something

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<v Speaker 2>does go wrong, you have room to move things around

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<v Speaker 2>in your calendar, and it happened to me a couple

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<v Speaker 2>of weeks ago. I got really wiped out sick, and

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<v Speaker 2>I this is my busiest time of year, and I

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<v Speaker 2>had to move a whole heap of things around. But

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<v Speaker 2>because I already had white space in the calendar, it

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<v Speaker 2>was easy to do that. It's when you're trying to

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<v Speaker 2>reschedule things when there's no space to do it, that's

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<v Speaker 2>when you're just adding to the snowball.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like you're telling us to be a bit

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<v Speaker 1>more ruthless about saying yes to things and no to things.

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<v Speaker 1>I am how do we do that?

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<v Speaker 2>Look? I think it's first of all, you need to

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<v Speaker 2>start by identifying what is actually important to you, What

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<v Speaker 2>is important to you, Who is important to you? So

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<v Speaker 2>I talk about the VIPs and the vampires. So we've

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<v Speaker 2>got the VIPs in our lives. Who are those people

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<v Speaker 2>that you know they're really important to us? And for

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<v Speaker 2>me that's my children, my family, my super important clients.

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<v Speaker 2>But then there's the vampires, and it's those people often

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<v Speaker 2>like the ones who will say, let's catch up before Christmas.

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<v Speaker 2>Haven't seen you in a year, and it's like, there's

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<v Speaker 2>a reason that I haven't seen you for a year,

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<v Speaker 2>and those people that tend to suck the joy out

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<v Speaker 2>of us, and identifying who those people are and making

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<v Speaker 2>sure that we save the space, reserve our time and

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<v Speaker 2>energy for those VIPs and get more comfortable saying no

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<v Speaker 2>to the vampires. And that's not easy for everyone to

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<v Speaker 2>say no. And something that I use is just having

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<v Speaker 2>that sort of deflection response, having those canned response, so

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<v Speaker 2>for emails and text messages, even having something pre written

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<v Speaker 2>and saved in your phone so that when they come through,

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<v Speaker 2>it's just copy and paste. It's like someone else's being

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<v Speaker 2>the baddie, it's not you. I've got a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>my clients have got assistants and people that actually manage

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<v Speaker 2>their calendar for them, so they will say, oh, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't manage my calendar. You need to speak to

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<v Speaker 2>my assistant Rebecca and Michelle.

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<v Speaker 1>How do you personally approach the end of the year

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<v Speaker 1>professionally and well personally, I suppose yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>So look, I wrap up my year doing a beautiful

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<v Speaker 2>reflection exercise, and that's where I reflect on the year

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<v Speaker 2>that was personally and professionally. So I've got some questions

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<v Speaker 2>that I ask myself every year, just around the things

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<v Speaker 2>that I loved are the things that I didn't love,

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<v Speaker 2>the things that didn't go so great, the stuff I

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<v Speaker 2>need to let go of, and the learnings that I

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<v Speaker 2>got from the year. And this is something that I

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<v Speaker 2>usually do in that break in between Christmas and New Year.

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<v Speaker 2>So this time of year, as I said earlier, is

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<v Speaker 2>pretty phrenetic, and so sort of taking that energy into

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<v Speaker 2>doing like goal setting and planning and all that sort

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<v Speaker 2>of stuff. It's very like sort of frenzied. So what

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<v Speaker 2>I am doing is just taking that time to do

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<v Speaker 2>that beautiful reflection exercise to wrap up the year.

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<v Speaker 1>I have heard that is actually called a neck de list,

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<v Speaker 1>when you make a list of all your achievements this ye,

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<v Speaker 1>have you got a highlight? Is there something from twenty

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<v Speaker 1>twenty for that you're very proud of?

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<v Speaker 2>Look think me personally, like, there's been massive growth in

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<v Speaker 2>my business this year. I've got to work with some

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<v Speaker 2>really incredible women. I sort of spontaneously put on an

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<v Speaker 2>International Women's Day event this year that like sold out

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<v Speaker 2>without even publicizing it, So that was a really big thing.

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<v Speaker 2>It was kind of like one of those things it's like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>let's see how many people we can get and then

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<v Speaker 2>before you knew it, have.

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<v Speaker 1>You got one for twenty twenty five?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, yes, okay, happening. It's going to be bigger. There

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<v Speaker 2>will be like you know, more people will know about

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<v Speaker 2>it next year, so.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, we'll watch your social media.

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<v Speaker 2>For professional a big professional achievement. And then on the

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<v Speaker 2>personal front, my eldest daughter finished high school, so we

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<v Speaker 2>got through the HC and when I say we, it

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<v Speaker 2>was there was a household supporting her through that.

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<v Speaker 1>We're well done you and have a wonderful twenty twenty five.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you for coming on healthy Ish.

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<v Speaker 2>Thanks so much you too, Felicity.

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<v Speaker 1>White space people, we need more white space in our lives.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for tuning into this chat with Michelle. Make sure

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<v Speaker 1>you listen to Extra Healthy Ish, where she well shares

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<v Speaker 1>her very inspiring plan and ideas on how well not

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<v Speaker 1>only she's going to achieve her goals in twenty twenty five,

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<v Speaker 1>but how you can as well. I really enjoyed interviewing her. Actually,

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