1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:02,240 Speaker 1: Good a. Thanks for joining us on the body and 2 00:00:02,320 --> 00:00:04,480 Speaker 1: soul podcast called healthy Ish. I am your host, a 3 00:00:04,559 --> 00:00:09,160 Speaker 1: Felicity Harley. Do you want to finish twenty twenty four strong? Yes? 4 00:00:09,520 --> 00:00:13,119 Speaker 1: Hell yes, I'm talking strength of mindset of how you're 5 00:00:13,119 --> 00:00:17,480 Speaker 1: feeling emotionally well. I'm joined today by business advisor and strategist, 6 00:00:17,640 --> 00:00:21,079 Speaker 1: or as many call her, wingwoman, Michelle Broadbent, and she's 7 00:00:21,120 --> 00:00:24,319 Speaker 1: going to share her well. Firstly, her genius approach to 8 00:00:24,440 --> 00:00:28,640 Speaker 1: protecting your valuable time, admits the chaos of Christmas, and 9 00:00:28,720 --> 00:00:32,519 Speaker 1: also finishing twenty twenty four in the best headspace possible. 10 00:00:33,040 --> 00:00:35,400 Speaker 1: Make sure you listening to our chat on extra Healthyish 11 00:00:35,440 --> 00:00:38,159 Speaker 1: as well, where she discusses how to set yourself up 12 00:00:38,240 --> 00:00:41,800 Speaker 1: for your best year ahead and inspiring chat and well 13 00:00:41,800 --> 00:00:44,080 Speaker 1: worth a listen. You can grab that one wherever you 14 00:00:44,080 --> 00:00:59,560 Speaker 1: get your podcasts. Michelle, welcome to healthy Ish. 15 00:01:00,040 --> 00:01:01,360 Speaker 2: Thank you so much for having me. 16 00:01:01,400 --> 00:01:04,800 Speaker 1: So nice too. Well have you well you were my 17 00:01:04,880 --> 00:01:07,280 Speaker 1: last interview for twenty twenty four. 18 00:01:07,600 --> 00:01:08,399 Speaker 2: I'm very on it. 19 00:01:08,760 --> 00:01:11,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, well let's make it a good one. Hey, but 20 00:01:11,080 --> 00:01:13,120 Speaker 1: I feel like so many of us are just limping 21 00:01:13,160 --> 00:01:17,040 Speaker 1: to the end. I mean I am are you yes? 22 00:01:17,160 --> 00:01:17,360 Speaker 2: Yes? 23 00:01:17,720 --> 00:01:20,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, one of your messages, which is really empowering, is 24 00:01:20,480 --> 00:01:24,120 Speaker 1: about finishing the year strong. What's this all about. 25 00:01:24,560 --> 00:01:28,440 Speaker 2: So, as we've just acknowledged, many people limp to the 26 00:01:28,520 --> 00:01:30,520 Speaker 2: end of the year, and I think that it is 27 00:01:30,640 --> 00:01:35,320 Speaker 2: because we tend to really over commit at this time 28 00:01:35,319 --> 00:01:38,199 Speaker 2: of the year, more so than any time of the year. 29 00:01:38,880 --> 00:01:43,160 Speaker 2: Our diaries are jam packed with all the commitments that 30 00:01:43,480 --> 00:01:47,280 Speaker 2: our past selves thought were a really good idea to 31 00:01:47,600 --> 00:01:50,400 Speaker 2: lock in for December, and all those people that have 32 00:01:50,440 --> 00:01:52,280 Speaker 2: come out of the woodwork that want to catch up 33 00:01:52,280 --> 00:01:55,880 Speaker 2: before Christmas, and you know, two months ago when they suggested, 34 00:01:56,040 --> 00:01:57,160 Speaker 2: oh my gosh, I. 35 00:01:57,240 --> 00:01:59,360 Speaker 1: Don't I know you're busy, but let's catch. 36 00:01:59,160 --> 00:02:01,840 Speaker 2: Yes, I know it's but I haven't seen you since 37 00:02:01,920 --> 00:02:05,040 Speaker 2: last Christmas. Let's make sure we do it again before 38 00:02:05,040 --> 00:02:08,160 Speaker 2: the end of the year. And as a result of 39 00:02:08,200 --> 00:02:10,920 Speaker 2: that kind of you know, the pileon, plus all of 40 00:02:10,960 --> 00:02:15,560 Speaker 2: the other stuff that we deal with as women, as parents, 41 00:02:15,560 --> 00:02:18,240 Speaker 2: as partners, as cares, as all the other roles that 42 00:02:18,240 --> 00:02:21,200 Speaker 2: we fill in our lives, we end up with this 43 00:02:22,080 --> 00:02:26,959 Speaker 2: ridiculously jam pack schedule, and because we're not protecting our 44 00:02:27,040 --> 00:02:32,320 Speaker 2: own time and energy, we end up like skidding into 45 00:02:32,720 --> 00:02:36,120 Speaker 2: the Christmas period, an absolutely strung out mess. 46 00:02:36,600 --> 00:02:41,120 Speaker 1: You talk about the importance of finding white space. What's 47 00:02:41,200 --> 00:02:44,880 Speaker 1: this all about and how can we get in our calendars? 48 00:02:45,120 --> 00:02:49,040 Speaker 2: So this is this is like the contingency. Okay, so 49 00:02:49,240 --> 00:02:52,800 Speaker 2: we've all seen that meme where why is it that 50 00:02:52,880 --> 00:02:55,600 Speaker 2: when you're running late you always like catch your sleeve 51 00:02:55,720 --> 00:02:58,840 Speaker 2: on the door on the way out. And the fact 52 00:02:58,840 --> 00:03:02,320 Speaker 2: that this is such a busy, over scheduled time of year, 53 00:03:03,680 --> 00:03:06,440 Speaker 2: like without jinxing it for everyone. But this is the 54 00:03:06,480 --> 00:03:09,120 Speaker 2: way that it rolls usually is that this is when 55 00:03:09,440 --> 00:03:12,760 Speaker 2: things go wrong. This is when you've got a day 56 00:03:12,800 --> 00:03:15,880 Speaker 2: of back to back recordings and your child gets sick 57 00:03:15,919 --> 00:03:18,200 Speaker 2: and there's no one else to look after them, or 58 00:03:18,760 --> 00:03:22,600 Speaker 2: the uber is running twenty minutes late for the party 59 00:03:22,800 --> 00:03:23,760 Speaker 2: and you have. 60 00:03:23,760 --> 00:03:25,799 Speaker 1: Too many drinks one night and you've got to struggle 61 00:03:25,840 --> 00:03:26,799 Speaker 1: together there the next day. 62 00:03:26,919 --> 00:03:28,400 Speaker 2: Or you've got to go and pick up the car 63 00:03:28,680 --> 00:03:31,000 Speaker 2: right like because you thought that you would drive and 64 00:03:31,040 --> 00:03:33,880 Speaker 2: be sensible and then you leave the car behind. So 65 00:03:34,120 --> 00:03:36,880 Speaker 2: this is why, particularly at this time of year, but 66 00:03:36,960 --> 00:03:39,320 Speaker 2: really all through the year, it is so important to 67 00:03:39,400 --> 00:03:43,720 Speaker 2: have white space in our calendar so that if something 68 00:03:43,800 --> 00:03:47,880 Speaker 2: does go wrong, you have room to move things around 69 00:03:48,040 --> 00:03:50,760 Speaker 2: in your calendar, and it happened to me a couple 70 00:03:50,760 --> 00:03:54,600 Speaker 2: of weeks ago. I got really wiped out sick, and 71 00:03:54,760 --> 00:03:58,560 Speaker 2: I this is my busiest time of year, and I 72 00:03:58,600 --> 00:04:01,040 Speaker 2: had to move a whole heap of things around. But 73 00:04:01,120 --> 00:04:03,880 Speaker 2: because I already had white space in the calendar, it 74 00:04:04,040 --> 00:04:06,600 Speaker 2: was easy to do that. It's when you're trying to 75 00:04:07,160 --> 00:04:11,840 Speaker 2: reschedule things when there's no space to do it, that's 76 00:04:11,920 --> 00:04:13,960 Speaker 2: when you're just adding to the snowball. 77 00:04:14,080 --> 00:04:15,720 Speaker 1: I feel like you're telling us to be a bit 78 00:04:15,720 --> 00:04:20,080 Speaker 1: more ruthless about saying yes to things and no to things. 79 00:04:20,440 --> 00:04:21,839 Speaker 1: I am how do we do that? 80 00:04:22,720 --> 00:04:24,680 Speaker 2: Look? I think it's first of all, you need to 81 00:04:24,720 --> 00:04:29,080 Speaker 2: start by identifying what is actually important to you, What 82 00:04:29,240 --> 00:04:31,720 Speaker 2: is important to you, Who is important to you? So 83 00:04:31,760 --> 00:04:34,840 Speaker 2: I talk about the VIPs and the vampires. So we've 84 00:04:34,880 --> 00:04:37,360 Speaker 2: got the VIPs in our lives. Who are those people 85 00:04:37,440 --> 00:04:40,560 Speaker 2: that you know they're really important to us? And for 86 00:04:40,680 --> 00:04:45,240 Speaker 2: me that's my children, my family, my super important clients. 87 00:04:45,560 --> 00:04:48,839 Speaker 2: But then there's the vampires, and it's those people often 88 00:04:49,120 --> 00:04:51,560 Speaker 2: like the ones who will say, let's catch up before Christmas. 89 00:04:51,600 --> 00:04:53,000 Speaker 2: Haven't seen you in a year, and it's like, there's 90 00:04:53,000 --> 00:04:54,680 Speaker 2: a reason that I haven't seen you for a year, 91 00:04:55,160 --> 00:04:58,799 Speaker 2: and those people that tend to suck the joy out 92 00:04:58,839 --> 00:05:03,160 Speaker 2: of us, and identifying who those people are and making 93 00:05:03,160 --> 00:05:06,880 Speaker 2: sure that we save the space, reserve our time and 94 00:05:07,000 --> 00:05:11,760 Speaker 2: energy for those VIPs and get more comfortable saying no 95 00:05:12,640 --> 00:05:15,400 Speaker 2: to the vampires. And that's not easy for everyone to 96 00:05:15,480 --> 00:05:20,599 Speaker 2: say no. And something that I use is just having 97 00:05:20,680 --> 00:05:25,719 Speaker 2: that sort of deflection response, having those canned response, so 98 00:05:25,800 --> 00:05:29,960 Speaker 2: for emails and text messages, even having something pre written 99 00:05:30,000 --> 00:05:33,599 Speaker 2: and saved in your phone so that when they come through, 100 00:05:34,080 --> 00:05:36,640 Speaker 2: it's just copy and paste. It's like someone else's being 101 00:05:36,680 --> 00:05:39,600 Speaker 2: the baddie, it's not you. I've got a lot of 102 00:05:39,600 --> 00:05:44,040 Speaker 2: my clients have got assistants and people that actually manage 103 00:05:44,040 --> 00:05:47,680 Speaker 2: their calendar for them, so they will say, oh, you know, 104 00:05:47,800 --> 00:05:50,560 Speaker 2: I don't manage my calendar. You need to speak to 105 00:05:50,720 --> 00:05:52,920 Speaker 2: my assistant Rebecca and Michelle. 106 00:05:52,920 --> 00:05:55,400 Speaker 1: How do you personally approach the end of the year 107 00:05:56,440 --> 00:06:00,800 Speaker 1: professionally and well personally, I suppose yeah. 108 00:06:01,000 --> 00:06:05,880 Speaker 2: So look, I wrap up my year doing a beautiful 109 00:06:05,920 --> 00:06:10,440 Speaker 2: reflection exercise, and that's where I reflect on the year 110 00:06:10,440 --> 00:06:15,040 Speaker 2: that was personally and professionally. So I've got some questions 111 00:06:15,080 --> 00:06:20,159 Speaker 2: that I ask myself every year, just around the things 112 00:06:20,160 --> 00:06:23,640 Speaker 2: that I loved are the things that I didn't love, 113 00:06:23,680 --> 00:06:25,400 Speaker 2: the things that didn't go so great, the stuff I 114 00:06:25,440 --> 00:06:28,440 Speaker 2: need to let go of, and the learnings that I 115 00:06:29,040 --> 00:06:31,880 Speaker 2: got from the year. And this is something that I 116 00:06:32,000 --> 00:06:35,360 Speaker 2: usually do in that break in between Christmas and New Year. 117 00:06:35,480 --> 00:06:38,080 Speaker 2: So this time of year, as I said earlier, is 118 00:06:38,240 --> 00:06:43,040 Speaker 2: pretty phrenetic, and so sort of taking that energy into 119 00:06:44,440 --> 00:06:46,240 Speaker 2: doing like goal setting and planning and all that sort 120 00:06:46,240 --> 00:06:49,760 Speaker 2: of stuff. It's very like sort of frenzied. So what 121 00:06:49,839 --> 00:06:53,040 Speaker 2: I am doing is just taking that time to do 122 00:06:53,120 --> 00:06:55,960 Speaker 2: that beautiful reflection exercise to wrap up the year. 123 00:06:56,600 --> 00:06:59,000 Speaker 1: I have heard that is actually called a neck de list, 124 00:06:59,160 --> 00:07:02,960 Speaker 1: when you make a list of all your achievements this ye, 125 00:07:03,000 --> 00:07:05,520 Speaker 1: have you got a highlight? Is there something from twenty 126 00:07:05,560 --> 00:07:08,000 Speaker 1: twenty for that you're very proud of? 127 00:07:08,600 --> 00:07:12,760 Speaker 2: Look think me personally, like, there's been massive growth in 128 00:07:12,840 --> 00:07:15,400 Speaker 2: my business this year. I've got to work with some 129 00:07:15,560 --> 00:07:20,280 Speaker 2: really incredible women. I sort of spontaneously put on an 130 00:07:20,320 --> 00:07:24,000 Speaker 2: International Women's Day event this year that like sold out 131 00:07:24,000 --> 00:07:29,400 Speaker 2: without even publicizing it, So that was a really big thing. 132 00:07:29,400 --> 00:07:30,840 Speaker 2: It was kind of like one of those things it's like, oh, 133 00:07:30,920 --> 00:07:32,680 Speaker 2: let's see how many people we can get and then 134 00:07:32,720 --> 00:07:34,560 Speaker 2: before you knew it, have. 135 00:07:34,520 --> 00:07:35,760 Speaker 1: You got one for twenty twenty five? 136 00:07:36,320 --> 00:07:39,560 Speaker 2: Yes, yes, okay, happening. It's going to be bigger. There 137 00:07:39,600 --> 00:07:42,080 Speaker 2: will be like you know, more people will know about 138 00:07:42,120 --> 00:07:43,120 Speaker 2: it next year, so. 139 00:07:43,200 --> 00:07:45,560 Speaker 1: Okay, we'll watch your social media. 140 00:07:45,440 --> 00:07:49,760 Speaker 2: For professional a big professional achievement. And then on the 141 00:07:49,760 --> 00:07:53,000 Speaker 2: personal front, my eldest daughter finished high school, so we 142 00:07:53,080 --> 00:07:56,520 Speaker 2: got through the HC and when I say we, it 143 00:07:56,600 --> 00:08:00,480 Speaker 2: was there was a household supporting her through that. 144 00:08:01,440 --> 00:08:04,600 Speaker 1: We're well done you and have a wonderful twenty twenty five. 145 00:08:04,680 --> 00:08:06,200 Speaker 1: Thank you for coming on healthy Ish. 146 00:08:06,240 --> 00:08:08,560 Speaker 2: Thanks so much you too, Felicity. 147 00:08:09,560 --> 00:08:12,920 Speaker 1: White space people, we need more white space in our lives. 148 00:08:13,160 --> 00:08:16,400 Speaker 1: Thanks for tuning into this chat with Michelle. Make sure 149 00:08:16,400 --> 00:08:19,960 Speaker 1: you listen to Extra Healthy Ish, where she well shares 150 00:08:20,000 --> 00:08:24,920 Speaker 1: her very inspiring plan and ideas on how well not 151 00:08:25,000 --> 00:08:28,000 Speaker 1: only she's going to achieve her goals in twenty twenty five, 152 00:08:28,040 --> 00:08:31,720 Speaker 1: but how you can as well. I really enjoyed interviewing her. Actually, 153 00:08:32,360 --> 00:08:33,920 Speaker 1: if you do want any more info, head to body 154 00:08:33,920 --> 00:08:36,120 Speaker 1: andsoul dot com dot you follow us on socials. You 155 00:08:36,160 --> 00:08:39,880 Speaker 1: can follow me or catch me at Felicity Harley. Grab 156 00:08:39,880 --> 00:08:41,920 Speaker 1: our print edition which is out this Sunday in your 157 00:08:42,000 --> 00:08:45,800 Speaker 1: local Sunday paper of course, or tune into the other 158 00:08:45,840 --> 00:08:48,400 Speaker 1: episodes of Healthy Ish that you haven't listened to. There 159 00:08:48,400 --> 00:08:51,600 Speaker 1: are many out there anyway. Thanks again for listening to 160 00:08:51,640 --> 00:08:58,800 Speaker 1: this one, and stay healthy ish.