WEBVTT - Draper you're delivering this baby! 0:00:05.921 --> 0:00:07.281 Apod Shape Production. 0:00:10.161 --> 0:00:12.881 Welcome to Behind the Drapes. I'm your host, Brent Draper 0:00:13.001 --> 0:00:14.521 aka Drakes, and I'm. 0:00:14.401 --> 0:00:17.361 Shanlee Draper, and we're here to talk about stuff according 0:00:17.361 --> 0:00:17.961 to us. 0:00:18.481 --> 0:00:20.041 Hey guys, it's Draper here. 0:00:20.281 --> 0:00:22.521 And I was naked on the Golkos Highway. 0:00:23.441 --> 0:00:27.921 Yah, buddy, there's made to give birth. You are a 0:00:28.121 --> 0:00:35.120 strong woman, ye little Ripper. We're in season two. We 0:00:35.201 --> 0:00:37.241 have a little addition now to the family. 0:00:37.480 --> 0:00:38.041 We had a baby. 0:00:38.321 --> 0:00:38.881 Had a baby. 0:00:39.200 --> 0:00:41.281 He actually has a name too. His name is Bowie. 0:00:41.321 --> 0:00:44.081 His name is Bowie. We've obviously told the story of 0:00:44.281 --> 0:00:49.481 Alfie's birth in season one, how I nearly delivered it. Well, 0:00:49.521 --> 0:00:50.401 it nearly happened again. 0:00:50.760 --> 0:00:52.761 And just to be clear, we're not a birthing podcast, 0:00:52.801 --> 0:00:54.721 even though we've nexpect about birth a couple of times. 0:00:54.761 --> 0:00:58.681 We had a lot of people messaging about Alfie's birthing story. 0:00:58.761 --> 0:01:01.361 Last time we had people messaging as saying they were 0:01:01.481 --> 0:01:04.841 pissing themselves laughing driving to work looking like a bit 0:01:04.881 --> 0:01:07.081 of a maniac because they were laughing so hard in 0:01:07.081 --> 0:01:08.481 the car on their own listening to the episode. So 0:01:08.521 --> 0:01:10.401 we thought, well, that was a good episode, and that 0:01:10.441 --> 0:01:12.280 was a good story, and this one's gonna be even better. 0:01:12.401 --> 0:01:15.000 So I think this tops that do Yeah, yeah, I 0:01:15.041 --> 0:01:15.360 think so. 0:01:16.280 --> 0:01:18.161 I think better than being maked on the highway. 0:01:18.881 --> 0:01:21.761 Ah, this one, I don't know. It's a bit different. 0:01:21.840 --> 0:01:25.561 Once again, we left it too late and little Bowie 0:01:25.640 --> 0:01:27.800 was a bit Let's talk. 0:01:27.640 --> 0:01:29.921 About the homebirthy home birth. So the story with why 0:01:29.961 --> 0:01:31.961 we decided to have Bowie at home was because I 0:01:32.000 --> 0:01:34.321 was a part of a midwife program in Tweed and 0:01:34.360 --> 0:01:36.761 it was amazing. The midwife were beautiful, everything was going 0:01:36.761 --> 0:01:39.961 really well. But I had always had this feeling that 0:01:40.041 --> 0:01:41.721 I really want to have baby at home, just because 0:01:41.721 --> 0:01:44.201 I don't like hospitals. And it's not like a crazy phobia, 0:01:44.321 --> 0:01:46.601 but it's certainly like if I can avoid it, like 0:01:46.640 --> 0:01:48.561 I'm not going to see someone hospitals had a baby, 0:01:48.561 --> 0:01:49.921 like I'll wait till you get home kind of thing. 0:01:50.161 --> 0:01:53.641 I'm not into hospital at all. So I had thought 0:01:53.681 --> 0:01:58.081 about homebirth a lot, but hadn't really considered actually doing it. 0:01:58.161 --> 0:02:00.960 I remember when we moved to Potty having our friends 0:02:00.961 --> 0:02:03.641 over and our friend Josh, who's probably listening, he was like, oh, 0:02:03.641 --> 0:02:04.801 you know where you gonna have the baby? And I 0:02:04.801 --> 0:02:06.520 was like, tweet, I'd love to have a home birth, 0:02:06.561 --> 0:02:08.641 and he was like, what, no way, Like you could 0:02:08.681 --> 0:02:10.601 not do that. And I remember saying, you know, I'm 0:02:10.641 --> 0:02:12.401 not going to, but like I would like to. So 0:02:12.401 --> 0:02:15.681 that was my intuition, sort of talking then saying I 0:02:15.761 --> 0:02:18.881 might like to explore this, but I kind of parked 0:02:18.960 --> 0:02:19.401 that idea. 0:02:19.520 --> 0:02:19.720 Now. 0:02:19.721 --> 0:02:23.081 We went to the hospital for the first hospital visit 0:02:23.121 --> 0:02:25.361 that we had. I've been seeing the midwivest for a while. 0:02:25.401 --> 0:02:27.601 I was twenty something weeks think maybe twenty five weeks 0:02:27.680 --> 0:02:30.201 or something, went for a check up, all is well, 0:02:30.281 --> 0:02:32.921 and we just so happened to have a midwife who 0:02:33.281 --> 0:02:36.641 talked to us about the fact that she also was 0:02:36.721 --> 0:02:39.601 a home birthing midwife or had been maybe in the past, 0:02:39.601 --> 0:02:42.321 and I think she maybe even had her own bedby. Yeah, 0:02:42.401 --> 0:02:44.921 so that just came up naturally in conversation. My little 0:02:44.960 --> 0:02:47.201 ears pricked up, and I remember just sitting there going like, 0:02:47.240 --> 0:02:48.881 that's what I want to do. I don't really want 0:02:48.921 --> 0:02:51.241 to have a baby in this hospital. Nothing wrong between hospital, 0:02:51.520 --> 0:02:53.520 but I was just like, this just does not feel 0:02:53.561 --> 0:02:54.601 like it's for me. The whole thing. 0:02:54.680 --> 0:02:58.201 You were like, oh, we have to walk upstairs. How 0:02:58.201 --> 0:03:00.601 am I going to walk upstairs? When I'm babies coming 0:03:00.641 --> 0:03:04.680 out and you already ripping the idea? Do I believe? Internally, 0:03:04.761 --> 0:03:05.201 I think. 0:03:05.161 --> 0:03:09.161 You're I already had a planned no, But it was like, okay, 0:03:09.321 --> 0:03:11.761 Tweet hospital, it's an absolute shit fight to park at 0:03:11.841 --> 0:03:15.761 number one. It's a really old hospital. Just hospitals and me. 0:03:15.841 --> 0:03:17.881 We just don't go well together. It's just not my jam. 0:03:17.921 --> 0:03:20.880 So I remember thinking and like long hallways and yeah, 0:03:20.881 --> 0:03:23.561 you're right, like you know, stairs and no elevator, and like, 0:03:23.601 --> 0:03:25.521 what if I'm really really far along, like I was 0:03:25.520 --> 0:03:26.641 at the Alphie last time, and I have to come 0:03:26.680 --> 0:03:27.961 to the hospital and I don't know where to go. 0:03:28.001 --> 0:03:29.321 And I just felt like the whole thing was quite 0:03:29.321 --> 0:03:31.641 stressful and not streamlined. It probably would have been on 0:03:31.641 --> 0:03:33.161 the day, but for me, you didn't feel like that. 0:03:33.721 --> 0:03:35.761 And what I know about birth and hypno birthing is 0:03:35.801 --> 0:03:38.601 that you know, the calmer you are, the better things 0:03:38.761 --> 0:03:40.601 can turn out. And I had that in the back 0:03:40.641 --> 0:03:42.801 of my head. So when online I did all the research, 0:03:42.841 --> 0:03:44.721 I understood that you need to have an endorse midwife. 0:03:44.721 --> 0:03:46.281 I hadn't told you at this point, but I was 0:03:46.321 --> 0:03:48.681 just thinking about it. It came maybe a week later 0:03:48.721 --> 0:03:51.081 and I said to you, HEYDL. I kind of am 0:03:51.081 --> 0:03:53.761 thinking about having a home birth, and you literally were like, 0:03:53.841 --> 0:03:56.401 fucking here we go. And I was like, I think 0:03:56.441 --> 0:03:57.761 this is what I want to do, and you're like, right, 0:03:57.801 --> 0:03:59.521 it's your body, you decide what you want to do. 0:03:59.721 --> 0:04:01.961 And you were really really supportive, which you know doesn't 0:04:02.001 --> 0:04:04.001 surprise me. What did you think when I said that 0:04:04.041 --> 0:04:04.241 to you? 0:04:04.561 --> 0:04:07.601 You want to have went out on a bloody field 0:04:07.721 --> 0:04:10.281 of daisies, then you have it on field days because 0:04:10.281 --> 0:04:13.201 you're the one who's pushing the baby out. I'll be 0:04:13.361 --> 0:04:16.161 supporting you from the sidelines wherever you want to do that. 0:04:16.361 --> 0:04:18.481 So if you want to have it at home, and 0:04:18.521 --> 0:04:20.201 I understand why you want to have it at home, 0:04:20.441 --> 0:04:22.561 you know, in the calm birth. I didn't know really 0:04:22.641 --> 0:04:25.320 much about home births, but I was like, hey, you 0:04:25.361 --> 0:04:26.441 want to have it there, let's go. 0:04:26.721 --> 0:04:28.601 Let's give a crack. So that's what we did. So 0:04:28.801 --> 0:04:30.561 I got to work. I did some research. I found 0:04:30.601 --> 0:04:33.561 an amazing midwife who worked out of Lennox Heads and 0:04:33.601 --> 0:04:35.520 she said to me. I called her and she was like, listen, 0:04:35.561 --> 0:04:38.201 I'm not really taking any clients on for that particular 0:04:38.241 --> 0:04:40.281 timeframe at the moment because I'm going away to a 0:04:40.320 --> 0:04:42.601 conference around then, and I was like, oh, I'm joining 0:04:42.601 --> 0:04:44.281 the eleventh of November and she said, yeah, I'm going 0:04:44.281 --> 0:04:45.921 on the sixteenth. And I was like, don't worry, love, 0:04:46.001 --> 0:04:47.321 I would have had my baby by there. 0:04:47.361 --> 0:04:50.241 Oh, we are having this baby a thirty. 0:04:50.041 --> 0:04:52.361 Eight weeks absolutely, thirty eight five weeks. It's coming. 0:04:52.561 --> 0:04:56.161 I've got things planned that I actually miss out on it, 0:04:56.241 --> 0:04:59.801 which I will bring up very soon. But yeah. We 0:04:59.801 --> 0:05:01.241 were like, that's fine, the baby. 0:05:01.081 --> 0:05:01.440 Will be here. 0:05:01.481 --> 0:05:02.200 The baby will be here. 0:05:02.320 --> 0:05:03.801 And she said the same thing. She's like, you'll have 0:05:03.801 --> 0:05:05.681 your baby before I go off through it. And she 0:05:06.201 --> 0:05:09.281 accepted the job, which was amazing. Then we had a 0:05:09.320 --> 0:05:11.440 series of midwife appointments where the midwives come to your 0:05:11.481 --> 0:05:14.681 home and legally you have to have two endorse midwives 0:05:14.681 --> 0:05:17.521 at your birth, so you know, it's all you know, legally, 0:05:17.521 --> 0:05:20.121 you sign the paperwork. Obviously you pay a private fee 0:05:20.161 --> 0:05:22.280 to have a baby at home. You know. It's certainly 0:05:22.320 --> 0:05:25.641 not a cheap exercise, however, for us, worth every cent, 0:05:25.721 --> 0:05:27.361 and I think that these midwives don't get paid enough 0:05:27.361 --> 0:05:29.361 for what they do, Like they're phenomenal. The care that 0:05:29.401 --> 0:05:31.960 we've had through this whole experience has just been next level. 0:05:32.201 --> 0:05:34.320 We haven't had to leave our house. We literally have 0:05:34.561 --> 0:05:36.241 not had to leave the house in terms of any 0:05:36.241 --> 0:05:38.481 of the appointments anything with bullies check. 0:05:38.361 --> 0:05:41.001 Ups, the appointments are you know, we're both sitting on 0:05:41.001 --> 0:05:43.561 We're all sitting on the lounge and everyone's relaxed and 0:05:43.641 --> 0:05:46.001 having a coffee and talking about what's going to happen 0:05:46.041 --> 0:05:48.200 all this or it's well worth. 0:05:48.201 --> 0:05:51.121 It's amazing and also very educational, Like these women know 0:05:51.201 --> 0:05:53.320 their staff, They're very, very good at what they do. 0:05:53.681 --> 0:05:56.041 The whole way through the pregnancy, I was very excited 0:05:56.081 --> 0:05:59.080 to have my baby at home. I didn't really tell anyone, 0:05:59.440 --> 0:06:02.521 like I kind of kept it to myself. Not because 0:06:02.521 --> 0:06:04.841 I thought people would judge me, because I don't really 0:06:04.841 --> 0:06:06.601 care too much about that, but I just didn't want 0:06:06.601 --> 0:06:08.321 people to give me their opinions. I think that was 0:06:08.361 --> 0:06:08.640 more it. 0:06:09.241 --> 0:06:12.481 You were covering. You were going like blinkers on because 0:06:12.481 --> 0:06:15.280 you knew that outside noise you might start a second 0:06:15.281 --> 0:06:18.441 guess yourself or question why are you actually doing this? 0:06:18.721 --> 0:06:21.601 Cut to the chase and the story of how the 0:06:21.601 --> 0:06:22.440 birth unfolded. 0:06:22.561 --> 0:06:25.161 Well, hang on, whoa woah, were you jumped? You've jumped 0:06:25.161 --> 0:06:28.201 a bigger fucking occasion, haven't you. I still haven't gotten 0:06:28.201 --> 0:06:28.681 over yet. 0:06:28.721 --> 0:06:30.241 Sorry, it's all about you. 0:06:30.440 --> 0:06:33.361 Yeah, it is thirty eight weeks this baby was supposed 0:06:33.361 --> 0:06:35.081 to come. That's what we've done. And I've you know, 0:06:35.201 --> 0:06:37.961 I've had things coming up, you know, just one Master 0:06:38.081 --> 0:06:41.760 Sheef bloody four or three months ago. But I also 0:06:41.841 --> 0:06:45.241 had locked and loaded dinner with Jamie Oliver And it 0:06:45.281 --> 0:06:49.161 doesn't come around very often. This occasion, like this opportunity 0:06:49.801 --> 0:06:51.880 to have dinner with the person you've looked up to 0:06:52.081 --> 0:06:54.841 and and what date was it that was actually on 0:06:54.880 --> 0:06:55.481 the due date? 0:06:55.961 --> 0:06:58.201 Eleventh in November is when you were supposed to be 0:06:58.241 --> 0:06:59.760 having dinner with Jail. Then we were like, there's no 0:06:59.801 --> 0:07:01.401 way he can go. We're gonna have the baby by then. 0:07:01.681 --> 0:07:04.601 Yeah. So like it's the morning of and s John's 0:07:04.641 --> 0:07:07.561 even looking at plane flights down there, quick one down, 0:07:07.641 --> 0:07:08.241 quick one back. 0:07:08.281 --> 0:07:10.601 Yeah, because I'm thinking, well, baby, it's definitely not coming now. 0:07:10.681 --> 0:07:12.481 I don't feel like I'm in labor, you know, Oh 0:07:12.521 --> 0:07:14.521 I'm going to be in labor anytime soon. So we 0:07:14.521 --> 0:07:17.641 were driving out to Grit Ceramics for you to buy 0:07:17.721 --> 0:07:19.881 some stuff from her sale, and I was like, you 0:07:19.961 --> 0:07:21.281 might be able to just go down to do a 0:07:21.321 --> 0:07:23.801 cheeky flight home dull because I think everything's going to 0:07:23.841 --> 0:07:24.241 be fine. 0:07:24.401 --> 0:07:27.201 I actually cracked a beer and I was talking to Harry, 0:07:27.241 --> 0:07:30.641 who's a Master Chef contestant as well, and next in 0:07:30.721 --> 0:07:32.281 it you come out and you looked a little bit off, 0:07:32.321 --> 0:07:35.201 and I was like, what's going on? And I hate 0:07:35.201 --> 0:07:37.761 this word, well these two words. It's kind of freaking 0:07:37.841 --> 0:07:40.081 out a little bit. But you're like, babe, I just 0:07:40.121 --> 0:07:46.481 lost my mucus plug. And I was like, oh, mucus plug, Okay, 0:07:46.481 --> 0:07:47.121 what does that mean? 0:07:47.921 --> 0:07:51.201 And it was sweltering hot. You were trying to buy 0:07:51.241 --> 0:07:53.361 all these plates. You were waiting for some plates to 0:07:53.561 --> 0:07:54.881 come there. 0:07:54.881 --> 0:07:57.041 They're still just grinding them for me and whatnot. 0:07:57.201 --> 0:07:59.801 Alfie's in the car because it's so hot, watching an iPad. 0:07:59.881 --> 0:08:01.561 I'm like sort of sitting there going like I feel 0:08:01.601 --> 0:08:03.481 a little bit like weird. I don't know something's happening. 0:08:03.521 --> 0:08:05.441 And I felt like a bit of tightening in my belly. 0:08:05.481 --> 0:08:08.521 And I went to the toilet and yes, there was 0:08:08.681 --> 0:08:12.481 the plug. And I was like, oh, right, okay, we 0:08:12.521 --> 0:08:14.361 come up with something better than that. It's pretty gross. 0:08:14.561 --> 0:08:16.361 Can we come with like the bath plug or something 0:08:16.401 --> 0:08:17.961 on that bath plug something. 0:08:18.001 --> 0:08:20.561 It is what it is, it's come on, and I 0:08:20.561 --> 0:08:22.801 remember going like I didn't lose mom with the Elfie said, 0:08:22.841 --> 0:08:24.841 this is what it is. Okay, something's happening. This is 0:08:24.881 --> 0:08:27.561 really good. Oh it's the eleventh of November. Also, my 0:08:27.561 --> 0:08:29.681 baby's going to come on its due date. That's like 0:08:29.881 --> 0:08:32.121 one in you know, a million chants. That actually happening. 0:08:32.161 --> 0:08:35.361 How cool. Oh and also luckily Draper didn't book those 0:08:35.361 --> 0:08:37.281 flats to see Jamie Oliver because I'm gonna have a 0:08:37.281 --> 0:08:38.921 baby today. So that's where I was at on the 0:08:38.961 --> 0:08:42.481 eleventh of November. So we went and did quick mac 0:08:42.561 --> 0:08:44.921 Is run. On the way home, I felt some movements. 0:08:44.921 --> 0:08:47.561 I felt like things were kind of gonna happen. Definitely 0:08:47.561 --> 0:08:49.281 felt a little bit. I just felt different my body. 0:08:49.281 --> 0:08:51.401 I was like, this is really good, Draper. Everybody saying 0:08:51.441 --> 0:08:53.721 to me had my fillet of ficial like cool last meal, 0:08:53.801 --> 0:08:56.321 you know, before you have your baby. And then and 0:08:56.361 --> 0:08:59.841 then everything stopped. We go home and everything stopped, and 0:08:59.881 --> 0:09:02.921 I was like, nothing's happening, and You're like, what do 0:09:02.961 --> 0:09:05.721 you mean? So nothing happened after you didn't book a 0:09:05.761 --> 0:09:07.961 flight and unfortunately, I'm so sorry you didn't go exhame 0:09:07.961 --> 0:09:08.601 Mi allover his dinner. 0:09:08.681 --> 0:09:10.561 Yeah, and the dinner was in Sydney. 0:09:11.081 --> 0:09:12.281 I still a little bit sad about it. 0:09:12.921 --> 0:09:17.521 Yeah, still hurt. Anyway, I know that this baby was 0:09:17.561 --> 0:09:18.441 teaching me patients. 0:09:18.521 --> 0:09:22.321 It was so fast forward. We went another week and 0:09:22.361 --> 0:09:24.921 a bit. At this point, I'm now forty one and one, 0:09:25.081 --> 0:09:26.961 and it was one of those things like mentally where 0:09:26.961 --> 0:09:28.841 I feel like I couldn't quite let go, which is 0:09:28.881 --> 0:09:32.481 funny because I knew that I had to, you know, 0:09:32.481 --> 0:09:33.561 I had to be calm. I had to get my 0:09:33.561 --> 0:09:36.161 body in like a relaxed state. But we had Alphie 0:09:36.321 --> 0:09:38.601 right and I kept thinking he's going to be in 0:09:38.641 --> 0:09:40.561 the house and I'd already prepped him for the fact 0:09:40.601 --> 0:09:42.361 that he might hear some sounds in the middle of 0:09:42.401 --> 0:09:43.961 the night if I go into labor, and like, I'd 0:09:44.001 --> 0:09:46.001 explain this sounds and he was like, so, mum, what 0:09:46.081 --> 0:09:47.801 kind of sounds? And I was like, you know, like 0:09:48.161 --> 0:09:50.961 a low grumbling side of sound. He was like, what 0:09:51.001 --> 0:09:53.841 do you mean. I was like like a or like 0:09:53.881 --> 0:09:56.481 a like a low girl. And he was like, oh, 0:09:56.601 --> 0:09:57.961 I think that had scared me. And I was like, 0:09:57.961 --> 0:09:59.961 oh shit, now I'm like scaring you. I'm like, no, no, 0:10:00.041 --> 0:10:02.321 you won't be scared. It's fine, everything's okay. I'm not 0:10:02.361 --> 0:10:04.761 in pain. But it might just sound a bit funny. 0:10:05.081 --> 0:10:06.801 So I'd prepped him thinking that was the right thing 0:10:06.841 --> 0:10:08.441 to do. Well, it wasn't the right thing to do 0:10:08.801 --> 0:10:10.841 because I'd said to him, do you want to be 0:10:10.881 --> 0:10:12.761 there when we had the baby, you know, in the bedroom? 0:10:12.841 --> 0:10:14.641 Do you want to be there with mum? Or do 0:10:14.721 --> 0:10:16.121 you want to go to non on Pappy's house? And 0:10:16.161 --> 0:10:17.801 he was like, absolutely not, I want to go to 0:10:17.801 --> 0:10:19.921 non in Pappy's house. I don't want to hear those sounds. 0:10:20.201 --> 0:10:22.561 And also I don't want to see the baby because 0:10:22.561 --> 0:10:25.001 the baby will be very chummy, which he means chubby. 0:10:25.081 --> 0:10:27.681 The baby will be very chummy and very bloody because 0:10:27.681 --> 0:10:30.241 he's seen his own birth. But we had him home. 0:10:30.321 --> 0:10:31.801 I just felt like that was holding me back a 0:10:31.841 --> 0:10:33.881 little bit mentally because I was worried about him. 0:10:34.081 --> 0:10:37.681 Funny enough, he went to not On Puppies and then 0:10:37.761 --> 0:10:40.961 the next morning you started to feel very similar to 0:10:41.001 --> 0:10:42.281 when you lost the mucus plug. 0:10:42.441 --> 0:10:44.961 Yes, the mucus plug. I'd said to you, Drapes, I 0:10:44.961 --> 0:10:47.201 think Alfie needs to go, and when he goes, I 0:10:47.241 --> 0:10:48.721 think I'll go into labor and you're like, yeah, that's 0:10:48.721 --> 0:10:50.561 what you said last week. I was like, nah, I 0:10:50.601 --> 0:10:52.441 reckon that this is going to happen. He just needs 0:10:52.481 --> 0:10:54.721 to just be looked after and so I don't have 0:10:54.721 --> 0:10:56.601 to stress, and then I think I'll go into labor, 0:10:56.681 --> 0:10:57.081 and I did. 0:10:57.721 --> 0:10:57.801 So. 0:10:57.841 --> 0:11:00.401 I woke up the morning of it was Sunday, and 0:11:00.681 --> 0:11:02.481 we didn't have Alfie in the house. It was really quiet. 0:11:02.521 --> 0:11:04.641 I definitely woke up feeling a bit like disappointed because 0:11:04.681 --> 0:11:06.721 I was like, he's a crisis baby, like forty one 0:11:06.721 --> 0:11:09.241 and one, like I'm done now. But I remember saying 0:11:09.241 --> 0:11:11.121 to you, I feel like I got some crampies going on. 0:11:11.161 --> 0:11:13.001 And I'd said to you for like a week that 0:11:13.041 --> 0:11:14.841 I had cramps a little bit, and so you were 0:11:14.881 --> 0:11:16.561 sick of hearing at this point and at this point. 0:11:16.401 --> 0:11:20.081 Time I got some cramps going I'm like, yeah, you were, so, 0:11:20.361 --> 0:11:22.721 baby's never going to come out ever, I fell. 0:11:22.721 --> 0:11:24.561 We're feeling we were we were feeling like this. 0:11:24.841 --> 0:11:26.561 I'm like, I can't wait for Christmas. You're gonna be 0:11:26.601 --> 0:11:29.721 pregnant still fifty seven weeks, just. 0:11:29.601 --> 0:11:32.001 Like the world record for the longest pregnancy. I actually 0:11:32.001 --> 0:11:34.321 google that river. Anyway, we were really over it by 0:11:34.361 --> 0:11:36.681 this point and just wanted the baby to be here 0:11:36.801 --> 0:11:38.961 so desperately. I did not feel like that was alfie. 0:11:39.001 --> 0:11:40.801 I felt like he popped up and I was like, 0:11:40.921 --> 0:11:42.801 oh cool, I just finished work, you know, Whereas we 0:11:42.921 --> 0:11:44.601 turned down a lot of work in November to have 0:11:44.681 --> 0:11:48.161 this baby. Nineteen days into the month, we're still waiting, 0:11:48.281 --> 0:11:53.841 so it felt really hard. So you're surfing, and I 0:11:53.881 --> 0:11:56.641 remember looking out to you and thinking like, if I 0:11:56.721 --> 0:11:59.081 start to feel things coming on really quickly, I'll have 0:11:59.121 --> 0:12:01.361 to like wave to him. I could see you out there, 0:12:01.401 --> 0:12:03.121 and I'm going, okay, cool, I'm feeling stuff, but I 0:12:03.121 --> 0:12:04.561 don't want to get too excited. So I just sort 0:12:04.561 --> 0:12:06.441 of stood and rocked for a while on the beach, 0:12:06.521 --> 0:12:08.401 and then you came out, like maybe less than an 0:12:08.401 --> 0:12:09.961 hour later, and I said to you, I think we 0:12:10.001 --> 0:12:12.201 need to go home, like I think something might be happening, 0:12:12.241 --> 0:12:14.561 and you were like, right, oak, cool, awesome, let's do it. 0:12:14.641 --> 0:12:16.361 So we get home. And what did you de start 0:12:16.401 --> 0:12:17.201 to do when we get home. 0:12:17.601 --> 0:12:19.361 Well, I thought that it was going to take ages, 0:12:20.201 --> 0:12:21.681 a lot of thinking going on, a lot of thinking 0:12:21.721 --> 0:12:25.041 and a lot of logic. When you start, it's normally 0:12:25.161 --> 0:12:28.041 like twelve hours or sixteen hours or something. 0:12:28.161 --> 0:12:30.601 You an OBSTTRICI where are you getting miss stats on these? 0:12:30.801 --> 0:12:32.641 Well, I'm just listening to all the stories from all 0:12:32.681 --> 0:12:35.721 your friends, and they're all about that, So I'm just 0:12:35.721 --> 0:12:39.281 just going off that, right. So I built a ramp 0:12:39.921 --> 0:12:42.761 because our stairs is such a stuff around. Our stairs 0:12:42.841 --> 0:12:44.601 sort of go down like normal stairs, and then they 0:12:44.641 --> 0:12:47.081 sort of come back up again to the driveway, and 0:12:47.521 --> 0:12:49.121 you know, we've got a pran that we've got to 0:12:49.121 --> 0:12:51.161 push out, and so I thought I'd build this beautiful, 0:12:51.281 --> 0:12:54.641 nice little ramp. And so you were inside rolling around 0:12:54.641 --> 0:12:57.641 on your ball, and I was outside just fixing this 0:12:57.721 --> 0:12:58.881 ramp up, getting it ready. 0:12:58.721 --> 0:13:01.081 Because you won't fixing it, you're building it from scratch. 0:13:01.561 --> 0:13:04.401 Yeah. And then so then you know baby's born and 0:13:04.441 --> 0:13:05.521 you can out. 0:13:05.601 --> 0:13:07.481 Yeah, So you're thinking, like the baby's gonna come that night, 0:13:07.481 --> 0:13:09.721 if I'm going to labor. I'm inside and I'm on 0:13:09.761 --> 0:13:11.401 the ball, and I'm moving around doing all the things 0:13:11.401 --> 0:13:13.121 that I know I'm supposed to do. When you start 0:13:13.121 --> 0:13:13.681 to feel. 0:13:13.481 --> 0:13:16.081 Some cran Honestly, I don't know why, but I didn't 0:13:16.121 --> 0:13:18.681 think babies were born in the day. I just thought, 0:13:18.721 --> 0:13:20.241 for some reason they were always born at. 0:13:20.201 --> 0:13:24.161 Night at eight thirty in the morning, you mean going 0:13:24.161 --> 0:13:26.201 to labor. Yeah, I thought that, I didn't think. 0:13:26.041 --> 0:13:28.801 So think again. Another midwife has put in that, like, 0:13:28.801 --> 0:13:30.681 because you relax at night and you start. 0:13:30.481 --> 0:13:34.801 To go into all these things you thoughtacked opposite what exactly? 0:13:34.921 --> 0:13:37.161 So then I'm like, it won't hap until tonight. So 0:13:37.201 --> 0:13:38.841 I've got heats of time to build this ramp. 0:13:38.921 --> 0:13:41.561 So you're outside building the ramp. I'm inside. I'm you know, 0:13:41.681 --> 0:13:44.321 on the ball, doing my thing. Nothing was really happening 0:13:44.321 --> 0:13:47.001 at this point. This is about let's say about eleven thirty, 0:13:47.001 --> 0:13:47.321 would you. 0:13:47.321 --> 0:13:51.001 Say, I would say about eleven thirty because eleven thirty 0:13:51.041 --> 0:13:54.761 I actually wrung the midwife and said, I think it's 0:13:54.761 --> 0:13:57.641 going to be tonight or today or tonight whatever, because 0:13:57.961 --> 0:14:00.801 they're a lot more serious than what they've been the cramps, 0:14:00.801 --> 0:14:03.321 and that they've gone the next next level. 0:14:03.401 --> 0:14:05.641 Yeah, like it's obvious now that I feel and feel something. 0:14:05.641 --> 0:14:07.801 But also when you have a home birth, you've got 0:14:07.801 --> 0:14:09.601 to give you midwives the heads up. It's not like 0:14:09.601 --> 0:14:11.561 the hospital week and just rock up whenever. You've got 0:14:11.601 --> 0:14:14.201 to tell them, hey, you need to know what's going on, 0:14:14.201 --> 0:14:15.441 because I need you to come to me at some 0:14:15.441 --> 0:14:17.401 point today. And these midwives don't just have me as 0:14:17.401 --> 0:14:19.521 a client. They've got other people, other mummers to deal 0:14:19.561 --> 0:14:20.041 with as well. 0:14:20.081 --> 0:14:23.161 And it's like that's a big responsibility put on my shoulders. 0:14:23.441 --> 0:14:26.721 What was the timing, Like, I think I had to 0:14:26.881 --> 0:14:28.161 make sure midwife was. 0:14:28.121 --> 0:14:29.961 Known, finished building the ramp. 0:14:30.081 --> 0:14:33.401 No, the ram was done. I had to pump the pooler. True, 0:14:33.401 --> 0:14:35.961 you just feel the pool. You wanted it film, So 0:14:36.001 --> 0:14:37.361 I to make sure that it was all in the 0:14:37.401 --> 0:14:41.681 world and time that the water is still body temperature 0:14:42.121 --> 0:14:44.161 when you're getting in, and so if I put it 0:14:44.201 --> 0:14:46.641 into early, you'll go cold. And then how do I 0:14:46.721 --> 0:14:48.721 dump the water around and get more warm water in? 0:14:48.961 --> 0:14:50.441 Yeah, you did have a few jobs, and then. 0:14:50.521 --> 0:14:52.881 The midwife's not here yet, Like I could filled the 0:14:52.881 --> 0:14:55.001 pool up and you're not gonna have the baby for 0:14:55.041 --> 0:14:56.601 another four hours? Yeah, and then what do I do 0:14:56.721 --> 0:14:57.601 for that cold water? You know? 0:14:57.681 --> 0:15:00.361 It's the timing is Yeah, there's a lot a lot 0:15:00.401 --> 0:15:01.921 to do with timing. And you have a home birth, 0:15:01.961 --> 0:15:04.641 I think because it's not a traditional hospital setting where 0:15:04.681 --> 0:15:07.401 you just and everything happens and there's ten staff helping 0:15:07.441 --> 0:15:10.481 you or ten midwife. Sorry, you're just on your own 0:15:10.601 --> 0:15:12.881 until pretty much the eleventh hour when you're told to 0:15:12.881 --> 0:15:14.881 give them a call. So you're right, you did have 0:15:14.881 --> 0:15:17.361 a few jobs to do. And also what other job. 0:15:17.241 --> 0:15:17.521 Did you have? 0:15:17.601 --> 0:15:20.121 Oh, you also had to make the bed. You had 0:15:20.121 --> 0:15:22.921 to sandwich the bed. So because you're at home, you 0:15:22.961 --> 0:15:26.721 don't have all the kind of like disposable sheep bedding 0:15:26.841 --> 0:15:28.681 or shit. Yeah, you've got like your own stuff. So 0:15:28.721 --> 0:15:31.161 I had like beautiful linen, which my midwife said to me, hey, 0:15:31.281 --> 0:15:32.681 this linen on your bed, Like with one of the 0:15:32.761 --> 0:15:34.801 visits they'd gone, this linen on your bed. You actually 0:15:34.841 --> 0:15:35.921 might not be able to have that on the day 0:15:35.961 --> 0:15:37.601 because you don't want to get a damage. I'm like, no, no, 0:15:37.641 --> 0:15:39.321 it's all fine, we'll sort it out. We'll get you know, 0:15:39.401 --> 0:15:41.561 cheap stuff or whatever. So you had a job of 0:15:41.881 --> 0:15:43.521