Speaker 1: You're guys. You're guys. Thanks to joining us today. Yes see,
Speaker 1: yes see, let's go pleay. Every time you say the
Speaker 1: word guys. Yeah. Do you know what it reminds me of? What?
Speaker 1: This is? Such an old random thing. You posted a
Speaker 1: video on Show and Tell's instagram. I reckon Arlo would
Speaker 1: have been four or five, right, he's nine now, no ten.
Speaker 1: He was doing a drawing and you said, what are
Speaker 1: you doing? And he goes, I'm drawing dicks on these guys. Oh,
Speaker 1: and you remembered into my brain drawing dicks on these guys.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, because it's so aggressive hearing a young kid
Speaker 2: say dix are Odie, Oh my god, it's Mela Monte.
Speaker 1: Everyone.
Speaker 2: Bye, everyone, Hi everyone, Odie, who's three? The other day
Speaker 2: he's because you know, when they go to sleep and
Speaker 2: they wake up sometimes they got little stiffies. Yes, So
Speaker 2: the other day he woke up and he had a
Speaker 2: stiffy and I laid him down with Sam, and Sam's like, oh,
Speaker 2: he got stiffy. Anyway, we cannot say a single thing
Speaker 2: around this kid now, because he picks it up and
Speaker 2: he takes it to his family daycare. Every day I
Speaker 2: pick him up. He's the beautiful Annett who looks after
Speaker 2: him like, oh, we're talking about bull sacks today or
Speaker 2: bum holes today or Dix. And every time he says Dick,
Speaker 2: I'm like, dicky, Dicky, Dick sounds so aggressive. Anyway, this
Speaker 2: morning he starts hitting his penis and going tiffy, tiffy, tiffy, tiffy, tiffy. Yeah,
Speaker 2: And I'm like, thank God, there's not an s there.
Speaker 2: But I know what you're saying. It's like, fuck, you're
Speaker 2: going to take that to childcare today?
Speaker 1: I know, what are you going to do? God, it's
Speaker 1: like I've sworn in front of my kids since they
Speaker 1: were born, and I know that's very frowned upon, but yeah,
Speaker 1: oh who cares? I mean, who cares? Yeah, exactly. Fuck.
Speaker 2: But also he Alo encourages him and he knows anytime
Speaker 2: any because we'll pick him Alo up and off, and
Speaker 2: anytime one of the friends gets in the car, he
Speaker 2: will because he gets a reaction and.
Speaker 1: Just needs the laugh. He's going to go for the laugh,
Speaker 1: goes for the laugh.
Speaker 2: And it's always bumhole. Sometimes you be like mom, mom, Mom, mum, mom, mom.
Speaker 2: Bull sack Like you just yell out to me to
Speaker 2: get my attention and then say.
Speaker 1: That because it's is funny. What else is funny to them?
Speaker 1: They're not going to get observational humor now, like they
Speaker 1: just think that stuff's funny.
Speaker 2: Yeah, the other day, I had my top off and
Speaker 2: my boo's ready to go, oh.
Speaker 1: Boobies, boobies, they're little. Did you say it's actually breast breast.
Speaker 2: Their mother's breasts. And then and he goes here little.
Speaker 2: I was like, okay, they're always very honest kids. But
Speaker 2: then he loves taking the wrappers off my tampons, which
Speaker 2: is also very annoying. It's so wasteful. And the other
Speaker 2: days like what did these?
Speaker 1: What are these?
Speaker 2: And I said they're for mummy's vagina. So now anytime
Speaker 2: he grabs them like china, China.
Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, he's going to be ahead of the
Speaker 1: game from all his other friends because you're being honest
Speaker 1: with him about it.
Speaker 2: He's learning about the body parts. And he came in
Speaker 2: the other day this is way tm I, but I
Speaker 2: was changing my tampon.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I didn't want him to see that because I thought
Speaker 2: the blood would freak him out. Oh yeah, jem, I
Speaker 2: think you were hurt and I thought I think three
Speaker 2: is too young to try and explain.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 2: You just need a bit of privacy sometimes, I agree.
Speaker 2: So they've put a instead of a speed camera, a
Speaker 2: phone camera on the main road here, and so it's
Speaker 2: like this high camera and it takes photos in your
Speaker 2: windscreen to catch you on your mobile phone. Oh shit,
Speaker 2: And so you can't deny that you were on it
Speaker 2: because it literally catches you. So I got busted, which
Speaker 2: is terrible, I know, driving along and it was on
Speaker 2: a demerits day as well. Ten demerit points over four
Speaker 2: hundred dollars.
Speaker 1: Which I get.
Speaker 2: I fucking hate when I see people on their phone.
Speaker 2: I get so annoyed at them. Yet I do do it,
Speaker 2: and I'm like, I've got what's going to stop me
Speaker 2: from doing this? What's going to stop me from? Am
Speaker 2: I going to have to kill someone before I actually
Speaker 2: get off my phone? Because everyone thinks, oh no, but
Speaker 2: I know what I'm doing. Yeah, Like I know, I'm fine,
Speaker 2: I know I keep looking up or whatever, but it's
Speaker 2: you know, oh my god, it's it is so dangerous.
Speaker 2: I get it anyway, So I was pissed so because
Speaker 2: I'm like double demerit points, like ten points to my license, Like, okay,
Speaker 2: there's no public transport around here, I can't get my
Speaker 2: kids anywhere. Like so I was really angry at myself,
Speaker 2: and then the amount of money. Anyway, Sam the other
Speaker 2: day drives past it looks up at the camera because
Speaker 2: it takes a photo of everyone, yeah, and flips.
Speaker 1: At the bird.
Speaker 2: I'm like, are you seven years old?
Speaker 1: Literally?
Speaker 2: So then whoever looks at the photos is going to
Speaker 2: have a mad grown man flipping the bird at them.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because he's probably like, who am I gonna who
Speaker 1: am I gonna give my anger to today? Yeah, the
Speaker 1: camera's one to give it to because you're not hurting
Speaker 1: anyone's feelings. And also just you probably get a fine
Speaker 1: for being offensive to the camera. Three demerit points six
Speaker 1: hundred bucks. Imagine you did. I wouldn't be surprised.
Speaker 2: But also what drives me at this is just like
Speaker 2: a silly griper, Like it's not going to stop people
Speaker 2: being on their phones, like I just I mean, maybe
Speaker 2: it will, but I'm like, I feel like it's such
Speaker 2: a money making scheme just going there's a four hundred
Speaker 2: dollar fine.
Speaker 1: It's like, have the cops out there, but I don't know.
Speaker 2: I don't know why it annoys me so much. It's
Speaker 2: like because in that moment, I'm not gonna get off
Speaker 2: my phone because I don't realize I've been snapped.
Speaker 1: Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2: Where if you're pulled over by a cop, you know
Speaker 2: you've been You're not going to get on your phone
Speaker 2: for at least that next bit that you're traveling.
Speaker 1: But you're mindful now the thing I think the thing
Speaker 1: is you're mindful now. Fuck that was you know, four
Speaker 1: hundred bucks. I've lost ten demerit points if I get
Speaker 1: busted again. Yeah, I'm gonna lose my license. That's enough incentive. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you're I know, but I know.
Speaker 2: It's an I want to be pulled over by a
Speaker 2: cop to scare me a bit more than just get
Speaker 2: in the mail like two weeks later.
Speaker 1: How embarrassing. I've never been pulled over by a cop.
Speaker 1: I die of embarrassment. Yeah, he's one of those things.
Speaker 1: And everyone for reading yes what did she do?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 2: And they yes, always always remember police used to like
Speaker 2: let kids go for a ride in the back of
Speaker 2: the DIVV van.
Speaker 1: Like god, they never do that now, No, they wouldn't.
Speaker 1: I think cops probably did quite a bit of questionable
Speaker 1: shit when we were younger. Oh yeah, you can't get
Speaker 1: away with anything now, but they would have. Sure. I
Speaker 1: had a friend that was you know they. I think
Speaker 1: it used to be like an urban myth, but it
Speaker 1: actually did happen that they used to bash them with
Speaker 1: phone books or something like, Yeah, wouldn't it come up?
Speaker 2: I just my sisters a cop and she's so straight though, like,
Speaker 2: there's no way. I feel like, yeah, the stories used
Speaker 2: to be hideous. Yeah, but I feel like, I don't know,
Speaker 2: I don't go there.
Speaker 1: Hopefully they've weeded it out. I'd say majority of cops
Speaker 1: are good. They're getting into the job for the right reasons.
Speaker 1: But I think there was a generation back there where
Speaker 1: there was a lot of power misuse of power. Oh,
Speaker 1: they would have been for sure. How's this.
Speaker 2: I've got a story to tell you. I was walking
Speaker 2: with one of my best mates the other day and
Speaker 2: she was talking about her sister, right, yeah, So her
Speaker 2: sister's called Kelli, and I was like, does call you.
Speaker 1: Ever see her?
Speaker 2: So her dad has taken on Kelly as her his own.
Speaker 2: So she's older than my friend. So she's in her
Speaker 2: late forties and she's grown up with my friend's dad
Speaker 2: as her dad and they've got the same mum.
Speaker 1: So does that make step siblings? No? Half sorry, half
Speaker 1: like you and your brother and sister and sister.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: So anyway, so they've grown, it's always been, she's always
Speaker 2: lived with them, and the dad came into their life
Speaker 2: when she was like two, so he's just their dad.
Speaker 1: Anyway.
Speaker 2: I said, does Kelli ever see or have anything to
Speaker 2: do with her biological father? And She's like, nah, he
Speaker 2: just kind of completely left and had nothing to do
Speaker 2: with her, got remarried, had another kid called the kid Kelly,
Speaker 2: What yes is it? I'm like, that is the most
Speaker 2: fucked up thing I've ever heard. And she's like, my
Speaker 2: sister literally was replaced name and everything by that next kid.
Speaker 1: I know. I was shocked to so many questions about this. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's wild. Number one, how can you just walk away
Speaker 1: from your kid? How can you do it? And just
Speaker 1: that's it. But the renaming, does the one I wonder
Speaker 1: knows he's even gone. Does she know there's another kid
Speaker 1: out there? Does she know there's an original Keli?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Well, I mean for the thing for them to know
Speaker 2: that there's another kid with the same name, surely there'd
Speaker 2: be some connections somehow, like she would or imagine she
Speaker 2: didn't find out she didn't know and then found out
Speaker 2: after the.
Speaker 1: Kid was called That.
Speaker 2: Isn't that hectic, But imagine as Kelli original going my
Speaker 2: dad doesn't want anything to do with me, but he's
Speaker 2: had another kid and called it the same name as me,
Speaker 2: and just going on being the dad to that kid.
Speaker 1: Oh my hatred, My hatred might be so high for
Speaker 1: that dad. If I was that kid, if I was
Speaker 1: the original Keli, I could not it couldn't not mess
Speaker 1: with you so badly. That is the That is almost
Speaker 1: the stranger story.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I was completely gobsmacked. I honestly couldn't believe it. It
Speaker 2: was wild.
Speaker 1: You don't need him original Kelli. Without him, you're better
Speaker 1: without it.
Speaker 2: This is a good segue into rejection therapy. You're like,
Speaker 2: have you heard of rejection therapy?
Speaker 1: What is this? This says my worst nightmare, right, this
Speaker 1: is my worst nightmare. Okay, So there's this theory. I mean,
Speaker 1: it's not a new thing, but I read a recent
Speaker 1: article about it about how like we're not used to
Speaker 1: being rejected anymore and that can make us anxious to
Speaker 1: step out of comfort zones and stuff, because it's like
Speaker 1: we can't deal with rejection anymore. So according to this psychotherapist,
Speaker 1: she says, it's just a nuanced version of exposure therapy
Speaker 1: that is evidence backed. Right. The purpose of exposure therapy
Speaker 1: is to help individuals confront and gradually overcome their fears
Speaker 1: by exposing them to the feared stimulus in a safe environment. Right.
Speaker 1: So the thought is, if you put yourself in these
Speaker 1: situations where you're you know you going to get rejected,
Speaker 1: then you'll become more sort of courageous to go for
Speaker 1: things you want, right, okay, because you'll see it's not
Speaker 1: that bad. I mean, rejection is bad? Is it that bad?
Speaker 1: Listen to this? Okay, So again, put yourself in a
Speaker 1: situation where you know you're going to get rejected. So
Speaker 1: examples are things like imagine going into somewhere like Tiffany
Speaker 1: Autionelle and asking for a discount.
Speaker 3: Oh okay, so right, that makes you have to even
Speaker 3: even right, visiting a store like Coal's, Woolies whatever.
Speaker 1: And asking if you can make an announcement of a
Speaker 1: you know, thinking about those things makes me sweat, like
Speaker 1: I can't even imagine, is it? It's backed up, it's
Speaker 1: backed up, and I get it. I get it. It's
Speaker 1: like you keep it's almost like you'd become a bit
Speaker 1: immune to it. It's the embarrassment of it, because I
Speaker 1: think the core of it, when you think about it,
Speaker 1: is like that first one, Like that thought of going
Speaker 1: into Chanel or something.
Speaker 2: Discount anywhere makes me feel sick. I'm like so on
Speaker 2: Facebook Marketplace at the moment, and I still that I
Speaker 2: can't even ask for a discount.
Speaker 1: Well that's a whole other conversation park that month. But
Speaker 1: I think when I really think about it, it's like,
Speaker 1: at the core of it, I think it's our concern
Speaker 1: over what other people perceive us as if I went
Speaker 1: into Chanel and asked for a discount, Hi, I really
Speaker 1: like that bracelet? Do you reckon? You could take fifty
Speaker 1: bucks off if I paid cash. They're looking at you
Speaker 1: in a certain way. Oh okay, tide ass or she
Speaker 1: shouldn't be shopping here, or whatever. It's that it sets
Speaker 1: you at, which is why I couldn't never do it.
Speaker 2: I just am at the age though, where I'm like,
Speaker 2: what do I need to do that stuff for?
Speaker 1: Like, yeah, I know, do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2: Like I get it if you're younger and you were like,
Speaker 2: I really want to go for this in my career,
Speaker 2: or I don't have much confidence when it comes to guys.
Speaker 2: I need to get rejected, so I'm okay when I do.
Speaker 2: But now, like you know, when people like get out
Speaker 2: of your comfort zone and this and that, I'm like,
Speaker 2: I don't want to anymore. Like I just want to
Speaker 2: stay in my lane of comfort. I'll minimize the things
Speaker 2: that are going to get that I'm going to get
Speaker 2: rejected from. So do you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: I do? I do, But it's also sad you're still young.
Speaker 1: I'm still young, and the idea of being able to
Speaker 1: do that would open could open so many doors for
Speaker 1: you because you wouldn't be so like this is such
Speaker 1: a trivial, stupid example, right, but imagine you go you're
Speaker 1: single and there's like the hottest guy in the bar, yeah,
Speaker 1: and you're like, you know what, I'm gonna go up
Speaker 1: to him and ask do you want to hook up
Speaker 1: for the night whatever. Imagine he said yes and it
Speaker 1: ended up being like the best bonk of your life
Speaker 1: and what you know, like you never know, or going
Speaker 1: and asking for a job somewhere you know you're not qualified, yes,
Speaker 1: or you know, but what if you put yourself out
Speaker 1: there and opened up a door.
Speaker 2: The thing is, everything is based in confidence, do you
Speaker 2: know what I mean? Like, if you back yourself in,
Speaker 2: you're going to get so much further in life. So
Speaker 2: I agree with that. I just don't know if I
Speaker 2: just couldn't be bothered building up my rejection capacity by
Speaker 2: going in and asking for a discount at Chanel.
Speaker 1: I just never do it. I could never do it.
Speaker 1: But it's like I think it's I mean, that's an
Speaker 1: extreme thing, but just implementing it in small ways where
Speaker 1: you know what, because I think we stop ourselves a lot,
Speaker 1: Like I'm not even going to apply for that because
Speaker 1: I know I won't get it. We write it off
Speaker 1: straight away totally. Yeah, but maybe little things like that,
Speaker 1: I'm not qualified for that job, but maybe maybe I'll apply.
Speaker 2: You know, if you you know, you meet a new
Speaker 2: mom at school and you take that leap of going
Speaker 2: do you want to have a coffee to we go
Speaker 2: out and have a coffee like thing like that.
Speaker 1: I know, and then you wait for that blank face. Sorry,
Speaker 1: now I'm really busy. Oh, don't worry about it. No,
Speaker 1: it's fine. It's fine. I'm busy too, see by.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that overwhelm. I'd prefer to ask for a discount, Chanelle,
Speaker 2: then go and ask a new new person for a coffee.
Speaker 1: Oh my god. That's it's making friends, And you know
Speaker 1: how how much do we push our kids to do it?
Speaker 1: Will you go and say hello to that person and
Speaker 1: make friends with them? Wouldn't you fucking go and say
Speaker 1: hello to that person and make friends with them. We
Speaker 1: don't do that. It's hard to do that. I don't
Speaker 1: expect your kids to do it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, totally, but there because again, we're in the comfort
Speaker 2: zone of the friends we've got. I know you, I
Speaker 2: know you don't put yourself out there to make new
Speaker 2: ones because it's just too hard.
Speaker 1: And when you do, it's like you've got a new boyfriend.
Speaker 1: You're talking about the woman. Oh my god, Katie, it
Speaker 1: was so funny today, she said, the funniest thing. Your
Speaker 1: partner's like, Okay, well, remember.
Speaker 2: When you were a kid, though, you'd get fast friends.
Speaker 2: Remember that where it's like fast you'd connect with somebody
Speaker 2: instantly and then just hang out all the time and
Speaker 2: the friendship would last like a month.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know you weren't right for each other.
Speaker 2: Yes, sleep at each other's houses all the time. And
Speaker 2: then usually that person who you became fast friends with,
Speaker 2: you could see the pattern that they had and they'd
Speaker 2: fast friends each of other people, and you're like, oh,
Speaker 2: that's your new favor of the month.
Speaker 1: You know, I don't want a fast friend. Although fast
Speaker 1: friend for a night, you have a great night, you
Speaker 1: both had a few drinks, your mass, and then you
Speaker 1: wake up in the morning it's like a hangover. Oh no,
Speaker 1: she's not. I would not really want to be. She
Speaker 1: met her in the toilets. Yeah, in the toilet. Oh
Speaker 1: my god, that reminds me of something. Yeah, Mark and
Speaker 1: I state, I think we're at Crown or something. This
Speaker 1: was a few years ago and we went up to
Speaker 1: like I don't know, there was a bar somewhere whatever,
Speaker 1: and we met this couple and they were both shit faced,
Speaker 1: but we'd had a few drinks too, and it was
Speaker 1: just one of those Oh like it was just fast friends,
Speaker 1: exactly fast friends. It was funny, banter whatever. Ha. Anyway,
Speaker 1: then it was like all right, seeing around bye bye.
Speaker 1: The next day I saw them in the lift and
Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, Hey, let's say Denise, Hi, Denise,
Speaker 1: how are you? She looked at me like she didn't
Speaker 1: know who I was. No, I can't tell you I was.
Speaker 1: I was dying. And then I had to explain, oh, yeah, no,
Speaker 1: we met you last night at the bar or whatever,
Speaker 1: and she's like that's and she was just looking at
Speaker 1: me like, oh, okay, ah, I have a good day.
Speaker 3: See.
Speaker 1: I said to Mark, I am so fucking embarrassed right now.
Speaker 1: I want to die. And also, how shit faced were they? Yeah?
Speaker 2: No, that's on, Denise. I hate when people are completely
Speaker 2: different people when they drink the same so and there's
Speaker 2: nothing worse than a sloppy drunk I hate. And we've
Speaker 2: all got friends who become sloppy and it's like fuck.
Speaker 2: As soon as they tick over, you're like, I'm done
Speaker 2: with you. I can't have you literally flopping and being
Speaker 2: sloppy around me and just to completely change who they
Speaker 2: are when they're drunk.
Speaker 1: It's that's you shouldn't be drinking. I don't think you
Speaker 1: should be drinking like that.
Speaker 2: I don't know how you wouldn't know if you were
Speaker 2: that person too, Like I'm conscious, like when I drink,
Speaker 2: I'm a funner version of myself.
Speaker 1: I know I am.
Speaker 2: You're an enhanced version. I'm an enhanced version and same
Speaker 2: as Sam. Like Sam when he drinks is like life
Speaker 2: of the party. But yes, he's still him, like if
Speaker 2: he turned in like you, how some people turned aggressive,
Speaker 2: cry all the time or just slop around. It's so
Speaker 2: weird to me. I'm just like, don't do it.
Speaker 1: If you think guy, overthinking, person, drunk stoned. Everything's like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, Like I'm having epiphanies left right sooner.
Speaker 1: I'm very love. I become you love. I love you.
Speaker 1: Actually I say it. I know, yeah, I love you,
Speaker 1: but I really do love you.
Speaker 2: Yeah right, see, but I bet you back in the
Speaker 2: day though you told the girl in the bathroom that
Speaker 2: you loved her.
Speaker 1: Probably yeah, probably yeah? All right, tell you who we
Speaker 1: do love?
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