WEBVTT - I have ruined it for the Toothfairy

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<v Speaker 1>Apogae Production.

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<v Speaker 2>Welcome back to another episode of Am I A Bad

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<v Speaker 2>Mum Podcast? How many weeks a week got left of school?

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<v Speaker 2>It's the only school holidays again.

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<v Speaker 1>Two weeks. We've got two weeks.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know what we're going to do in this

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<v Speaker 2>school holidays because we need to work. Like a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of parents, and I don't know about you, but kids

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<v Speaker 2>expect us to take all the time off that they've

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<v Speaker 2>got off, and I'm like, that doesn't happen in the

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<v Speaker 2>real world. No, people that work actually have that amount

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<v Speaker 2>of holidays per year. And I feel like you try

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<v Speaker 2>and take some time off at Christmas because that's such

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<v Speaker 2>a massive long holidays. And we went on holiday in

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<v Speaker 2>the June July school holidays. So this September October one quiet,

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<v Speaker 2>it's like, we have to actually work.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm hoping for your sake they have a job.

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<v Speaker 3>They have a job, because it would just be perfect

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<v Speaker 3>timing for them to just get two weeks of work

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<v Speaker 3>in the bank. Yeap. When that first paycheck comes in,

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<v Speaker 3>when you've got that first job, there's nothing beat.

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<v Speaker 1>That feeling because you're like, oh my god.

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<v Speaker 3>My mum never questioned the money that was coming in

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<v Speaker 3>or what I was doing with it makes sense.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, So I have said to the girls because they

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<v Speaker 2>were like, oh, well, you're just gonna take it off

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<v Speaker 2>as anyway, and I was like, no, I'm not going

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<v Speaker 2>to take it off you. I said, I think it

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<v Speaker 2>would be a sensible idea to save half spend half.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, they're also coming into Katie wanting a car, So

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<v Speaker 1>that's what I mean.

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<v Speaker 3>That's why all I'm saying is safe, safe safe, Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Because otherwise you're going to be on an electric scooter.

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<v Speaker 1>You want to be on a scooter?

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<v Speaker 2>You can't even afford that yet?

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<v Speaker 1>Am I a bad mom for blowing the cover?

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<v Speaker 3>I a few weeks ago went away to Sydney for work.

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<v Speaker 3>With the particular work that we do, it's like twelve

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<v Speaker 3>hour days and you don't get that break because we

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<v Speaker 3>start really early in the morning and we finished kind

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<v Speaker 3>of like eight thirty at night, and then by the

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<v Speaker 3>time we're doing that, you know, the kids are on

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<v Speaker 3>their way to bed. So I'm just it's that overlap

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<v Speaker 3>of not being able to chat.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, this is just to explain to people, this is

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<v Speaker 2>like a fitness brand and you go to things like

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<v Speaker 2>all the marathon charity runs marathons and stuff like that.

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<v Speaker 3>So by the time I've done a day sort of

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<v Speaker 3>at the ex bot, I just don't get to FaceTime

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<v Speaker 3>them or like chat because I don't have my phone

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<v Speaker 3>for the whole day.

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<v Speaker 1>Like it's crazy town.

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<v Speaker 3>So anyway, long story short is I got a text saying,

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<v Speaker 3>oh my gosh.

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<v Speaker 1>Mom, You'll never believe.

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<v Speaker 3>And then there was the photo and it's Elsie with

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<v Speaker 3>no tooth and she's lost another tooth because we'd stalled.

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<v Speaker 1>The teeth had stalled yea a.

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<v Speaker 3>While we had an orthodon appointment and I sort of

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<v Speaker 3>looked at him and was like, why are they stalling?

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<v Speaker 1>She hasn't lost one in so long she's done.

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<v Speaker 2>It took Colley six months to lose her last baby teeth.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, And so I just got the text and it

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<v Speaker 3>was later over and it was like, yeah, she was

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<v Speaker 3>so excited, so excited she lost the tooth.

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<v Speaker 1>Finally and Mom, yay, I.

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<v Speaker 3>Get to put it out for the toothbairy tonight and

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<v Speaker 3>it's so exciting.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to get some money.

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<v Speaker 3>But you were away when I was away, So Nanadee

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<v Speaker 3>had the girls. That was all good, and then say

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<v Speaker 3>ten thirty comes along and I was just in bed

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<v Speaker 3>and I was about to shut down completely. And I

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<v Speaker 3>don't even know why, but I had that moment because

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<v Speaker 3>it's usually when I sort of forget at home if

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<v Speaker 3>I'm the one meant to be doing it. And I

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<v Speaker 3>sort of sent my mother a text and said, Hi, Mom.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't forget the truth.

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<v Speaker 3>Don't forget the two dollars and the tooth, so well please,

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<v Speaker 3>I know, I said, hopefully I'm not waking you up,

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<v Speaker 3>but I just thought of it, so I thought I'm

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<v Speaker 3>going to text you to remind you.

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<v Speaker 1>She said, actually, just going to do it now. Thanks

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<v Speaker 1>the reminder. I was like, perfect, good night, going to sleep.

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<v Speaker 1>All went well in your head? You're like, that was

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<v Speaker 1>just so easy.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, all good.

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<v Speaker 1>I should work away more often. I'd got to cover it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, all fine. Else's gonna be happy. In the morning.

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<v Speaker 1>Elsie was pumped in the morning, absolutely pumped.

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<v Speaker 3>Spoke to her, My gosh, got this, Oh great, you

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<v Speaker 3>know this is all before seven am.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, that's so cool. YadA, YadA YadA.

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<v Speaker 3>At the same time, she was bugging me about a

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<v Speaker 3>sleepover on that coming weekend for some reason, and I

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<v Speaker 3>hadn't answered her yet, and there was a reasoning why,

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<v Speaker 3>she went over to NaN's phone just before going to

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<v Speaker 3>school and picked it up and opened her messages.

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<v Speaker 1>This is what she tells me.

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<v Speaker 3>Anyway, she opened up the phone, she opened up the messages,

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<v Speaker 3>read the message that I'd sent Nan in the night

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<v Speaker 3>before about the toothso and then she did the old

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<v Speaker 3>voice to text, Hi, Mam, this is Elsie. I've just

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<v Speaker 3>read the message. Oh no, I just read the message

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<v Speaker 3>you sent Nan last night. I can't believe the tooth.

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<v Speaker 3>I can't believe you keep telling me the tooth fairy

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<v Speaker 3>is real?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh something. She's just absolutely waiting for me, and I,

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<v Speaker 1>as a parent, had no response.

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<v Speaker 2>Does Gracie still believe?

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<v Speaker 3>No? But none, I think because she's nine and I

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<v Speaker 3>was sort of wanting to her, And it's the same

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<v Speaker 3>with both of the girls. I just wanted them to

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<v Speaker 3>get to that point themselves, and then when we have

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<v Speaker 3>that conversation, I would tell them. But I wasn't going

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<v Speaker 3>to tell them when they're young young, because that takes

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<v Speaker 3>the fun.

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<v Speaker 1>Out of it.

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<v Speaker 3>Gracie and I had a agreement that if you believe,

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<v Speaker 3>you receive, and if you don't believe, you won't receive.

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<v Speaker 3>It's simple as that don't ruin it for others.

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<v Speaker 1>And it was just simple.

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<v Speaker 3>And now I'm then getting abusive text messages from my

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<v Speaker 3>other daughter saying, I can't believe you've been telling me

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<v Speaker 3>that the tooth Fairy is real. I just read your

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<v Speaker 3>message to nine last night.

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<v Speaker 1>Why didn't you tell me?

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<v Speaker 3>And I was like, oh my gosh, this has left

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<v Speaker 3>me in such a pickle because I was like, what

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<v Speaker 3>is the right or wrong thing to do?

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<v Speaker 1>Katie?

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<v Speaker 2>First of all, I'd say, don't do your own head in,

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<v Speaker 2>because every kid's got a story of when they realize

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<v Speaker 2>this stuff, and that just happens to be the one.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean.

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<v Speaker 2>Secondly, I'd probably divert some of the blame and say, Nanade,

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<v Speaker 2>what are you leaving your phone lying around for? And secondly,

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<v Speaker 2>you need a password on it that the kids don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>This was Katie, This was me one hundred percent.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like what And then I like quickly like

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<v Speaker 3>finished up what I was doing and walked away, and

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<v Speaker 3>I like then I rang and was like hi. I

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<v Speaker 3>was like, what is that a message about? You know,

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<v Speaker 3>YadA YadA, and Mum goes, look, I'm sorry. She picked

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<v Speaker 3>up my phone and just opened the messages.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was like, Elsie Valentina, you do not open

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<v Speaker 1>other people's phone. That is rude.

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<v Speaker 3>And number two, that is her personal phone. You don't

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<v Speaker 3>read people's messages. And that is your own fault.

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<v Speaker 2>Now it's your fault.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, yeah, under connect didn't handle it as well as

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<v Speaker 3>one would hope.

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<v Speaker 2>But on the plus side, have a think about how

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<v Speaker 2>you feel every December getting that annoying elf out, to

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<v Speaker 2>put it in all the different and having to remember

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<v Speaker 2>to put it in a different position and be creative

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<v Speaker 2>with it every single day. Maybe that was your last year.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, this is the thing, Katie.

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<v Speaker 3>So it came up about the tooth very only I

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<v Speaker 3>did not elaborate, okay, and we you and I had

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<v Speaker 3>talked about how this year was going to be else

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<v Speaker 3>last year, and then I was going to use I

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<v Speaker 3>think it was your bra who was it, remember cousin

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<v Speaker 3>or something, and how they wrapped up the elf living

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<v Speaker 3>at their house.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you know what you could do. This ticks all

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<v Speaker 2>the boxes. You could say that the elf is now

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<v Speaker 2>moving on to you know, like you blame cost of living, right,

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<v Speaker 2>so you could cost of living has made things really

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<v Speaker 2>expensive and there are households around the world that can't

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<v Speaker 2>afford to get their kids Christmas presents anymore. Oh, you

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<v Speaker 2>got to explain the whole stand to think but cost

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<v Speaker 2>Oh no, okay, this is better, this is better. Scrap

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<v Speaker 2>that cost of living means that Santa's not able to

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<v Speaker 2>give everybody what he would normally want to give them

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<v Speaker 2>at Christmas time. So some households and some kids are

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<v Speaker 2>suffering a little bit because they're not getting what they

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<v Speaker 2>used to get. So Elf on the Shelf is stepped

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<v Speaker 2>in to save the day, and he is now visiting

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<v Speaker 2>the homes. Oh yeah, where they don't have a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of money and they don't have many presents at Christmas time,

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<v Speaker 2>something along the lines of that. It's work in progress.

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<v Speaker 1>We'll come back on that. We've got a few weeks.

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<v Speaker 2>But there's definitely then, you know, a whole He's doing

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<v Speaker 2>a good thing. He's doing a good deed. Isn't it great?

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<v Speaker 2>He's going to those houses where those kids don't have anything.

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<v Speaker 1>I was just gonna go with like I lost it

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<v Speaker 1>or something.

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<v Speaker 3>He moved out, he got a girlfriend grown, they've got

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<v Speaker 3>to have a baby, they've got to find their own

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<v Speaker 3>place to live.

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<v Speaker 1>Now.

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<v Speaker 2>It doesn't have time to play in the flower anymore

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<v Speaker 2>making snow.

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<v Speaker 3>Ain's not being Yeah, it's not terrorizing our house. If

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<v Speaker 3>you have any stories of how you wrapped up Elf

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<v Speaker 3>on the shelf living at your house with your kids,

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<v Speaker 3>please share.

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<v Speaker 1>Them with us.

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<v Speaker 3>Please share them because we can then share them on

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<v Speaker 3>here with other people. If you're going through that same

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<v Speaker 3>stress of having Elf on the shelf, return back on

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<v Speaker 3>the first of December into your household.

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<v Speaker 2>We never did del you know before.

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<v Speaker 1>Actually, don't mind it, you know. I say that now

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<v Speaker 1>because where or are we in like September. That's why

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying it. Ask me again in December.