1 00:00:05,921 --> 00:00:07,281 Speaker 1: Apogae Production. 2 00:00:23,161 --> 00:00:25,681 Speaker 2: Welcome back to another episode of Am I A Bad 3 00:00:25,841 --> 00:00:28,921 Speaker 2: Mum Podcast? How many weeks a week got left of school? 4 00:00:29,041 --> 00:00:31,001 Speaker 2: It's the only school holidays again. 5 00:00:31,401 --> 00:00:33,001 Speaker 1: Two weeks. We've got two weeks. 6 00:00:33,281 --> 00:00:34,801 Speaker 2: I don't know what we're going to do in this 7 00:00:34,841 --> 00:00:38,761 Speaker 2: school holidays because we need to work. Like a lot 8 00:00:38,801 --> 00:00:42,161 Speaker 2: of parents, and I don't know about you, but kids 9 00:00:42,801 --> 00:00:46,080 Speaker 2: expect us to take all the time off that they've 10 00:00:46,081 --> 00:00:48,241 Speaker 2: got off, and I'm like, that doesn't happen in the 11 00:00:48,241 --> 00:00:51,800 Speaker 2: real world. No, people that work actually have that amount 12 00:00:51,840 --> 00:00:54,361 Speaker 2: of holidays per year. And I feel like you try 13 00:00:54,401 --> 00:00:56,441 Speaker 2: and take some time off at Christmas because that's such 14 00:00:56,481 --> 00:01:01,601 Speaker 2: a massive long holidays. And we went on holiday in 15 00:01:01,601 --> 00:01:05,481 Speaker 2: the June July school holidays. So this September October one quiet, 16 00:01:05,721 --> 00:01:07,920 Speaker 2: it's like, we have to actually work. 17 00:01:08,241 --> 00:01:11,601 Speaker 1: I'm hoping for your sake they have a job. 18 00:01:11,640 --> 00:01:14,321 Speaker 3: They have a job, because it would just be perfect 19 00:01:14,401 --> 00:01:17,360 Speaker 3: timing for them to just get two weeks of work 20 00:01:17,481 --> 00:01:21,161 Speaker 3: in the bank. Yeap. When that first paycheck comes in, 21 00:01:21,360 --> 00:01:25,001 Speaker 3: when you've got that first job, there's nothing beat. 22 00:01:24,840 --> 00:01:27,001 Speaker 1: That feeling because you're like, oh my god. 23 00:01:27,041 --> 00:01:29,801 Speaker 3: My mum never questioned the money that was coming in 24 00:01:30,000 --> 00:01:31,681 Speaker 3: or what I was doing with it makes sense. 25 00:01:31,761 --> 00:01:34,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, So I have said to the girls because they 26 00:01:34,200 --> 00:01:35,961 Speaker 2: were like, oh, well, you're just gonna take it off 27 00:01:36,000 --> 00:01:37,521 Speaker 2: as anyway, and I was like, no, I'm not going 28 00:01:37,601 --> 00:01:40,201 Speaker 2: to take it off you. I said, I think it 29 00:01:40,241 --> 00:01:44,001 Speaker 2: would be a sensible idea to save half spend half. 30 00:01:44,200 --> 00:01:47,481 Speaker 1: Yeah, they're also coming into Katie wanting a car, So 31 00:01:47,761 --> 00:01:48,401 Speaker 1: that's what I mean. 32 00:01:48,441 --> 00:01:51,841 Speaker 3: That's why all I'm saying is safe, safe safe, Yeah. 33 00:01:51,641 --> 00:01:53,520 Speaker 2: Because otherwise you're going to be on an electric scooter. 34 00:01:53,561 --> 00:01:54,601 Speaker 1: You want to be on a scooter? 35 00:01:54,801 --> 00:01:56,001 Speaker 2: You can't even afford that yet? 36 00:02:06,161 --> 00:02:08,721 Speaker 1: Am I a bad mom for blowing the cover? 37 00:02:09,361 --> 00:02:13,881 Speaker 3: I a few weeks ago went away to Sydney for work. 38 00:02:14,321 --> 00:02:18,161 Speaker 3: With the particular work that we do, it's like twelve 39 00:02:18,161 --> 00:02:20,561 Speaker 3: hour days and you don't get that break because we 40 00:02:20,601 --> 00:02:22,561 Speaker 3: start really early in the morning and we finished kind 41 00:02:22,601 --> 00:02:25,441 Speaker 3: of like eight thirty at night, and then by the 42 00:02:25,481 --> 00:02:27,041 Speaker 3: time we're doing that, you know, the kids are on 43 00:02:27,041 --> 00:02:29,240 Speaker 3: their way to bed. So I'm just it's that overlap 44 00:02:29,281 --> 00:02:30,441 Speaker 3: of not being able to chat. 45 00:02:30,601 --> 00:02:33,441 Speaker 2: Yeah, this is just to explain to people, this is 46 00:02:33,520 --> 00:02:37,561 Speaker 2: like a fitness brand and you go to things like 47 00:02:37,960 --> 00:02:41,400 Speaker 2: all the marathon charity runs marathons and stuff like that. 48 00:02:41,481 --> 00:02:44,081 Speaker 3: So by the time I've done a day sort of 49 00:02:44,121 --> 00:02:46,361 Speaker 3: at the ex bot, I just don't get to FaceTime 50 00:02:46,441 --> 00:02:48,321 Speaker 3: them or like chat because I don't have my phone 51 00:02:48,361 --> 00:02:48,960 Speaker 3: for the whole day. 52 00:02:49,081 --> 00:02:50,081 Speaker 1: Like it's crazy town. 53 00:02:50,641 --> 00:02:54,161 Speaker 3: So anyway, long story short is I got a text saying, 54 00:02:54,161 --> 00:02:55,081 Speaker 3: oh my gosh. 55 00:02:54,761 --> 00:02:56,321 Speaker 1: Mom, You'll never believe. 56 00:02:56,441 --> 00:02:58,481 Speaker 3: And then there was the photo and it's Elsie with 57 00:02:58,520 --> 00:03:01,481 Speaker 3: no tooth and she's lost another tooth because we'd stalled. 58 00:03:01,800 --> 00:03:03,520 Speaker 1: The teeth had stalled yea a. 59 00:03:03,441 --> 00:03:06,321 Speaker 3: While we had an orthodon appointment and I sort of 60 00:03:06,680 --> 00:03:08,321 Speaker 3: looked at him and was like, why are they stalling? 61 00:03:08,361 --> 00:03:10,361 Speaker 1: She hasn't lost one in so long she's done. 62 00:03:11,321 --> 00:03:16,000 Speaker 2: It took Colley six months to lose her last baby teeth. 63 00:03:16,281 --> 00:03:18,401 Speaker 3: Yeah, And so I just got the text and it 64 00:03:18,441 --> 00:03:20,001 Speaker 3: was later over and it was like, yeah, she was 65 00:03:20,041 --> 00:03:22,921 Speaker 3: so excited, so excited she lost the tooth. 66 00:03:22,761 --> 00:03:25,601 Speaker 1: Finally and Mom, yay, I. 67 00:03:25,481 --> 00:03:28,561 Speaker 3: Get to put it out for the toothbairy tonight and 68 00:03:28,881 --> 00:03:29,961 Speaker 3: it's so exciting. 69 00:03:30,081 --> 00:03:31,361 Speaker 1: I'm going to get some money. 70 00:03:32,121 --> 00:03:34,761 Speaker 3: But you were away when I was away, So Nanadee 71 00:03:34,841 --> 00:03:37,401 Speaker 3: had the girls. That was all good, and then say 72 00:03:37,481 --> 00:03:39,961 Speaker 3: ten thirty comes along and I was just in bed 73 00:03:40,001 --> 00:03:42,081 Speaker 3: and I was about to shut down completely. And I 74 00:03:42,121 --> 00:03:44,721 Speaker 3: don't even know why, but I had that moment because 75 00:03:44,801 --> 00:03:47,761 Speaker 3: it's usually when I sort of forget at home if 76 00:03:47,801 --> 00:03:50,281 Speaker 3: I'm the one meant to be doing it. And I 77 00:03:50,321 --> 00:03:54,241 Speaker 3: sort of sent my mother a text and said, Hi, Mom. 78 00:03:54,041 --> 00:03:54,881 Speaker 1: Don't forget the truth. 79 00:03:55,001 --> 00:03:57,521 Speaker 3: Don't forget the two dollars and the tooth, so well please, 80 00:03:57,921 --> 00:03:59,761 Speaker 3: I know, I said, hopefully I'm not waking you up, 81 00:03:59,801 --> 00:04:01,241 Speaker 3: but I just thought of it, so I thought I'm 82 00:04:01,281 --> 00:04:02,321 Speaker 3: going to text you to remind you. 83 00:04:02,401 --> 00:04:04,921 Speaker 1: She said, actually, just going to do it now. Thanks 84 00:04:05,121 --> 00:04:08,641 Speaker 1: the reminder. I was like, perfect, good night, going to sleep. 85 00:04:08,721 --> 00:04:10,881 Speaker 1: All went well in your head? You're like, that was 86 00:04:11,001 --> 00:04:11,881 Speaker 1: just so easy. 87 00:04:12,201 --> 00:04:12,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, all good. 88 00:04:13,041 --> 00:04:15,721 Speaker 1: I should work away more often. I'd got to cover it. 89 00:04:16,201 --> 00:04:18,321 Speaker 2: Yeah, all fine. Else's gonna be happy. In the morning. 90 00:04:18,601 --> 00:04:21,241 Speaker 1: Elsie was pumped in the morning, absolutely pumped. 91 00:04:21,801 --> 00:04:25,001 Speaker 3: Spoke to her, My gosh, got this, Oh great, you 92 00:04:25,041 --> 00:04:26,401 Speaker 3: know this is all before seven am. 93 00:04:26,521 --> 00:04:28,880 Speaker 1: I'm like, that's so cool. YadA, YadA YadA. 94 00:04:29,361 --> 00:04:31,281 Speaker 3: At the same time, she was bugging me about a 95 00:04:31,361 --> 00:04:35,041 Speaker 3: sleepover on that coming weekend for some reason, and I 96 00:04:35,161 --> 00:04:37,881 Speaker 3: hadn't answered her yet, and there was a reasoning why, 97 00:04:38,001 --> 00:04:40,361 Speaker 3: she went over to NaN's phone just before going to 98 00:04:40,440 --> 00:04:44,001 Speaker 3: school and picked it up and opened her messages. 99 00:04:44,281 --> 00:04:45,161 Speaker 1: This is what she tells me. 100 00:04:45,201 --> 00:04:47,721 Speaker 3: Anyway, she opened up the phone, she opened up the messages, 101 00:04:47,961 --> 00:04:50,521 Speaker 3: read the message that I'd sent Nan in the night 102 00:04:50,601 --> 00:04:54,441 Speaker 3: before about the toothso and then she did the old 103 00:04:54,561 --> 00:04:57,921 Speaker 3: voice to text, Hi, Mam, this is Elsie. I've just 104 00:04:58,001 --> 00:05:02,241 Speaker 3: read the message. Oh no, I just read the message 105 00:05:02,281 --> 00:05:04,880 Speaker 3: you sent Nan last night. I can't believe the tooth. 106 00:05:06,880 --> 00:05:09,121 Speaker 3: I can't believe you keep telling me the tooth fairy 107 00:05:09,241 --> 00:05:09,760 Speaker 3: is real? 108 00:05:11,041 --> 00:05:14,321 Speaker 1: Oh something. She's just absolutely waiting for me, and I, 109 00:05:15,001 --> 00:05:17,001 Speaker 1: as a parent, had no response. 110 00:05:17,320 --> 00:05:18,921 Speaker 2: Does Gracie still believe? 111 00:05:19,201 --> 00:05:25,761 Speaker 3: No? But none, I think because she's nine and I 112 00:05:25,961 --> 00:05:28,401 Speaker 3: was sort of wanting to her, And it's the same 113 00:05:28,481 --> 00:05:30,281 Speaker 3: with both of the girls. I just wanted them to 114 00:05:30,361 --> 00:05:33,281 Speaker 3: get to that point themselves, and then when we have 115 00:05:33,440 --> 00:05:36,520 Speaker 3: that conversation, I would tell them. But I wasn't going 116 00:05:36,601 --> 00:05:39,281 Speaker 3: to tell them when they're young young, because that takes 117 00:05:39,361 --> 00:05:39,801 Speaker 3: the fun. 118 00:05:39,721 --> 00:05:40,081 Speaker 1: Out of it. 119 00:05:40,521 --> 00:05:44,880 Speaker 3: Gracie and I had a agreement that if you believe, 120 00:05:45,041 --> 00:05:47,840 Speaker 3: you receive, and if you don't believe, you won't receive. 121 00:05:48,001 --> 00:05:49,960 Speaker 3: It's simple as that don't ruin it for others. 122 00:05:50,041 --> 00:05:50,921 Speaker 1: And it was just simple. 123 00:05:51,361 --> 00:05:56,081 Speaker 3: And now I'm then getting abusive text messages from my 124 00:05:56,241 --> 00:05:58,321 Speaker 3: other daughter saying, I can't believe you've been telling me 125 00:05:58,440 --> 00:06:00,281 Speaker 3: that the tooth Fairy is real. I just read your 126 00:06:00,361 --> 00:06:01,881 Speaker 3: message to nine last night. 127 00:06:02,001 --> 00:06:02,921 Speaker 1: Why didn't you tell me? 128 00:06:03,081 --> 00:06:05,681 Speaker 3: And I was like, oh my gosh, this has left 129 00:06:05,761 --> 00:06:08,281 Speaker 3: me in such a pickle because I was like, what 130 00:06:08,401 --> 00:06:09,401 Speaker 3: is the right or wrong thing to do? 131 00:06:09,561 --> 00:06:09,880 Speaker 1: Katie? 132 00:06:10,440 --> 00:06:12,281 Speaker 2: First of all, I'd say, don't do your own head in, 133 00:06:12,401 --> 00:06:17,320 Speaker 2: because every kid's got a story of when they realize 134 00:06:17,361 --> 00:06:19,481 Speaker 2: this stuff, and that just happens to be the one. 135 00:06:19,561 --> 00:06:19,801 Speaker 3: I mean. 136 00:06:19,961 --> 00:06:22,841 Speaker 2: Secondly, I'd probably divert some of the blame and say, Nanade, 137 00:06:22,921 --> 00:06:25,681 Speaker 2: what are you leaving your phone lying around for? And secondly, 138 00:06:26,320 --> 00:06:28,801 Speaker 2: you need a password on it that the kids don't know. 139 00:06:29,081 --> 00:06:32,041 Speaker 1: This was Katie, This was me one hundred percent. 140 00:06:32,561 --> 00:06:35,321 Speaker 3: I was like what And then I like quickly like 141 00:06:35,521 --> 00:06:37,361 Speaker 3: finished up what I was doing and walked away, and 142 00:06:37,481 --> 00:06:41,201 Speaker 3: I like then I rang and was like hi. I 143 00:06:41,320 --> 00:06:43,561 Speaker 3: was like, what is that a message about? You know, 144 00:06:43,641 --> 00:06:46,881 Speaker 3: YadA YadA, and Mum goes, look, I'm sorry. She picked 145 00:06:46,921 --> 00:06:48,960 Speaker 3: up my phone and just opened the messages. 146 00:06:48,521 --> 00:06:51,601 Speaker 1: And I was like, Elsie Valentina, you do not open 147 00:06:51,681 --> 00:06:54,121 Speaker 1: other people's phone. That is rude. 148 00:06:54,440 --> 00:06:56,921 Speaker 3: And number two, that is her personal phone. You don't 149 00:06:57,081 --> 00:06:59,801 Speaker 3: read people's messages. And that is your own fault. 150 00:07:00,481 --> 00:07:01,481 Speaker 2: Now it's your fault. 151 00:07:01,841 --> 00:07:07,281 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, under connect didn't handle it as well as 152 00:07:07,320 --> 00:07:08,001 Speaker 3: one would hope. 153 00:07:08,121 --> 00:07:12,241 Speaker 2: But on the plus side, have a think about how 154 00:07:12,441 --> 00:07:16,961 Speaker 2: you feel every December getting that annoying elf out, to 155 00:07:17,041 --> 00:07:19,241 Speaker 2: put it in all the different and having to remember 156 00:07:19,641 --> 00:07:21,921 Speaker 2: to put it in a different position and be creative 157 00:07:22,001 --> 00:07:26,201 Speaker 2: with it every single day. Maybe that was your last year. 158 00:07:26,481 --> 00:07:27,840 Speaker 1: Well, this is the thing, Katie. 159 00:07:27,921 --> 00:07:30,241 Speaker 3: So it came up about the tooth very only I 160 00:07:30,401 --> 00:07:34,081 Speaker 3: did not elaborate, okay, and we you and I had 161 00:07:34,161 --> 00:07:37,521 Speaker 3: talked about how this year was going to be else 162 00:07:37,641 --> 00:07:39,761 Speaker 3: last year, and then I was going to use I 163 00:07:39,801 --> 00:07:43,761 Speaker 3: think it was your bra who was it, remember cousin 164 00:07:44,041 --> 00:07:46,841 Speaker 3: or something, and how they wrapped up the elf living 165 00:07:46,881 --> 00:07:47,481 Speaker 3: at their house. 166 00:07:47,841 --> 00:07:50,761 Speaker 2: Yeah, you know what you could do. This ticks all 167 00:07:50,801 --> 00:07:55,481 Speaker 2: the boxes. You could say that the elf is now 168 00:07:55,641 --> 00:07:59,641 Speaker 2: moving on to you know, like you blame cost of living, right, 169 00:07:59,761 --> 00:08:02,441 Speaker 2: so you could cost of living has made things really 170 00:08:02,521 --> 00:08:05,681 Speaker 2: expensive and there are households around the world that can't 171 00:08:05,681 --> 00:08:08,681 Speaker 2: afford to get their kids Christmas presents anymore. Oh, you 172 00:08:08,801 --> 00:08:11,561 Speaker 2: got to explain the whole stand to think but cost 173 00:08:11,721 --> 00:08:14,001 Speaker 2: Oh no, okay, this is better, this is better. Scrap 174 00:08:14,081 --> 00:08:17,561 Speaker 2: that cost of living means that Santa's not able to 175 00:08:17,681 --> 00:08:21,121 Speaker 2: give everybody what he would normally want to give them 176 00:08:21,121 --> 00:08:24,481 Speaker 2: at Christmas time. So some households and some kids are 177 00:08:24,481 --> 00:08:26,481 Speaker 2: suffering a little bit because they're not getting what they 178 00:08:26,641 --> 00:08:29,801 Speaker 2: used to get. So Elf on the Shelf is stepped 179 00:08:29,841 --> 00:08:34,521 Speaker 2: in to save the day, and he is now visiting 180 00:08:34,681 --> 00:08:37,521 Speaker 2: the homes. Oh yeah, where they don't have a lot 181 00:08:37,561 --> 00:08:40,121 Speaker 2: of money and they don't have many presents at Christmas time, 182 00:08:40,441 --> 00:08:42,921 Speaker 2: something along the lines of that. It's work in progress. 183 00:08:43,281 --> 00:08:45,081 Speaker 1: We'll come back on that. We've got a few weeks. 184 00:08:45,121 --> 00:08:48,761 Speaker 2: But there's definitely then, you know, a whole He's doing 185 00:08:48,801 --> 00:08:51,441 Speaker 2: a good thing. He's doing a good deed. Isn't it great? 186 00:08:51,521 --> 00:08:54,001 Speaker 2: He's going to those houses where those kids don't have anything. 187 00:08:54,521 --> 00:08:56,321 Speaker 1: I was just gonna go with like I lost it 188 00:08:56,601 --> 00:08:57,041 Speaker 1: or something. 189 00:09:00,801 --> 00:09:06,121 Speaker 3: He moved out, he got a girlfriend, they've got to 190 00:09:06,161 --> 00:09:07,801 Speaker 3: have a baby, they've got to find their own place 191 00:09:07,841 --> 00:09:08,121 Speaker 3: to live. 192 00:09:08,201 --> 00:09:08,321 Speaker 1: Now. 193 00:09:08,521 --> 00:09:11,241 Speaker 2: It doesn't have time to play in the flower anymore 194 00:09:12,121 --> 00:09:12,681 Speaker 2: making snow. 195 00:09:12,721 --> 00:09:15,841 Speaker 3: Ain's not being Yeah, it's not terrorizing our house. If 196 00:09:15,881 --> 00:09:18,881 Speaker 3: you have any stories of how you wrapped up Elf 197 00:09:18,961 --> 00:09:21,201 Speaker 3: on the shelf living at your house with your kids, 198 00:09:21,281 --> 00:09:22,681 Speaker 3: please share them with us. 199 00:09:23,001 --> 00:09:25,561 Speaker 1: Please share them because we can then share them on 200 00:09:25,641 --> 00:09:28,841 Speaker 1: here with other people. If you're going through that same. 201 00:09:29,401 --> 00:09:32,961 Speaker 3: Stress of having Elf on the shelf, return back on 202 00:09:33,041 --> 00:09:34,841 Speaker 3: the first of December into your household. 203 00:09:35,001 --> 00:09:37,121 Speaker 2: We never did del you know before. 204 00:09:37,401 --> 00:09:39,561 Speaker 1: Actually, don't mind it, you know. I say that now 205 00:09:39,721 --> 00:09:43,321 Speaker 1: because where or are we in like September. That's why 206 00:09:43,361 --> 00:09:45,721 Speaker 1: I'm saying it. Ask me again in December.