Speaker 1: You should turn off the TV, probably at the same
Speaker 1: time for a closer and emotional physical connection.
Speaker 2: Look normally we would. I'm pregnant, so I'm going to
Speaker 2: give myself some grace. Where's your Head At? Is a
Speaker 2: podcast that talks full things right, Hold on a sec,
Speaker 2: Let's give this a refresh. Hi.
Speaker 1: I'm Anna and I'm Matt, and we are now too
Speaker 1: newlywed not to each other. Just a female and male
Speaker 1: best friend here for the good, the bad, and the ugly.
Speaker 2: Times and exploring adulthood, family relationships, dilemmas.
Speaker 1: And whatever else we have the mental capacity to deal with.
Speaker 2: Come get the lowdown.
Speaker 1: This is your male and female perspective.
Speaker 2: So Matt, where's your head at? Hello? And welcome to
Speaker 2: another maternity lead episode.
Speaker 1: Where's your head? Out of Anna?
Speaker 2: My head is? I'm happy, I'm sore. I'm still pregnant.
Speaker 2: In this current moment, this is the last day of
Speaker 2: wearing my rings because my fingers are so swollen.
Speaker 1: Look at that, geez are what's the little Frankfurt fingers?
Speaker 2: I actually have like naturally quite like long and skinny fingers,
Speaker 2: but I feel like I actually think they just like
Speaker 2: look like normal hands.
Speaker 1: They're not that swollen. I wouldn't say the ring does, but.
Speaker 2: The ring is like, look at that. It's actually a
Speaker 2: bit scary, to be honest. So the last day of
Speaker 2: wearing rings, I'm gonna use some soap, good old handy
Speaker 2: dandy soapy.
Speaker 1: Give it a clean while you're there.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Talking about hands, I think I have really nice hands. No,
Speaker 1: like man hands. I don't know who. They look like
Speaker 1: a man's hands. Like I had a mate and we
Speaker 1: were like twenty five twenty six and I looked at
Speaker 1: his hands and I'm like, you still have kids hands.
Speaker 2: Has someone complimented your hands?
Speaker 1: I have had an X in the past say she
Speaker 1: loved how manly my hands here? Look at no, seriously look.
Speaker 2: At them like, yeah, they're hands.
Speaker 1: Would you look at Michael's hands and go their manly hands?
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like I think about everything about Michael as manly.
Speaker 1: You think they're smooth and like soft, too feminine soft.
Speaker 2: They don't look like they've done a lot of hard labor,
Speaker 2: that's for sure.
Speaker 1: Not for a couple of years. No, and a lot
Speaker 1: of moisturizing cream on my face as well.
Speaker 2: He's a self care man.
Speaker 1: I just think they look manly. Yeah, like them, I
Speaker 1: wouldn't say their model hands, but they're just pretty man hands.
Speaker 2: Do you know what it reminds me of? Like you
Speaker 2: even just talking about this is like when we first
Speaker 2: joined our modeling agency, actually not the one, not Chadwick
Speaker 2: where we were, but the one I was at before,
Speaker 2: and like literally they rated like every single part of
Speaker 2: your body. They were like hands, like seven as, like
Speaker 2: like eyes this out of ten, yeah.
Speaker 1: Like every single or do you remember what they rated you?
Speaker 2: I can't remember. I remember my feet didn't get a
Speaker 2: high rate because my second to is longer. I'm like,
Speaker 2: wait to give people complexes.
Speaker 1: Though that was the industry.
Speaker 2: I mean, that was the industry back in the day.
Speaker 1: But we've moved on, moved on our insecurities, and we're
Speaker 1: better people for it.
Speaker 2: Funnily enough, I have a funny story to tell you.
Speaker 2: I was at the post office the other day and like,
Speaker 2: I think, the way my body has grown in a
Speaker 2: pregnant way when I'm turned around, I don't look pregnant.
Speaker 2: If you look at me, I'll show you one second,
Speaker 2: look at me like that, like, don't look in the reflection.
Speaker 1: I guess, yeah, you don't look How are you specially pregnant?
Speaker 1: From them behind.
Speaker 2: I don't know, because like I think, I don't know
Speaker 2: depending on like the baby and like what weight it's growing.
Speaker 2: Like you can sometimes look more round from the side,
Speaker 2: whereas I feel like when you look at me from behind,
Speaker 2: I don't look pregnant. Anyway, I was in the post office.
Speaker 2: I was in the line. I did my business with
Speaker 2: the post office person, turned around and there was this
Speaker 2: guy behind me, and he like smiled at me, like
Speaker 2: he was like kind of flirting. Then he looked down
Speaker 2: at my stomach and looked like he saw the fear
Speaker 2: of death.
Speaker 1: You have said this before, you've engaged him.
Speaker 2: Before that this was like he was so obvious, like
Speaker 2: he fully was like flirting at my face and then
Speaker 2: looked deeply terrified seeing my stomach.
Speaker 1: So not a wedding band engagement ring didn't scare him off.
Speaker 2: He maybe didn't see. I mean I literally turned around
Speaker 2: for like this.
Speaker 3: It was.
Speaker 2: This all happened within like four seconds max. Maybe three.
Speaker 2: It was like one minute of like a flirty smile,
Speaker 2: two seconds of complete terror.
Speaker 1: And then looked away and never looked back at you again.
Speaker 2: Good I'm married. I don't want him to look but
Speaker 2: it's just so it's just funny to me, you know,
Speaker 2: like that's funny, that.
Speaker 1: Is funny, that's i've I mean, you've said you've got
Speaker 1: that a fair bit.
Speaker 2: Not too like not really like not too much. I
Speaker 2: would say that I can definitely like men who have
Speaker 2: had children before really stand out from men who haven't,
Speaker 2: because like if a guy who's had like a kid before,
Speaker 2: who I'm like, you know, I don't know, I don't
Speaker 2: even know like where, like if I've gone to like
Speaker 2: I don't know, the bakery or something, and there's a
Speaker 2: guy who's had a kid before, He'll be like, oh, hey,
Speaker 2: how's it going, How's like how far along are you?
Speaker 2: Like excited things like that, like just normal general chit chat.
Speaker 1: And then there's me who's like, oh.
Speaker 2: No, I feel like you're pretty good. But like a
Speaker 2: guy who's like, hasn't really seen a pregnant woman before,
Speaker 2: or you know, maybe he's he doesn't have kids or whatever,
Speaker 2: they just get really awkward seeing me with a pregnant belly.
Speaker 2: I've noticed. I don't know if that's just me personally
Speaker 2: or if pregnant women around me.
Speaker 1: Let's ask the audience, Yeah, if you've.
Speaker 2: Been pregnant, yeah, I just feel like people like men,
Speaker 2: especially like young men, get quite awkward around a pregnant woman.
Speaker 2: That's what I've noticed. I don't care, but you know,
Speaker 2: just an observation.
Speaker 1: I stumbled onto this article, Anna, Yeah, it reads. A
Speaker 1: study from Ohio State University found that couples who sleep
Speaker 1: at the same time feel closer emotionally and physically. I
Speaker 1: thought it might say who fall asleep at the same time,
Speaker 1: but it doesn't. A study found the couples who go
Speaker 1: to bed at the same time are happier. Interesting, So
Speaker 1: that's the way I said. They've continued reading. Matching your
Speaker 1: sleep schedule can strengthen your relationship by giving you more
Speaker 1: quality time together and deepening your emotional bond. It also
Speaker 1: helps build healthy sleep habits and lower stress. So before
Speaker 1: you stay up late, consider how nice it would be
Speaker 1: to relax and unwine together. Going to bed at the
Speaker 1: same time just be the key to a happier relationship.
Speaker 2: I definitely like going to bed at the same time.
Speaker 2: I will say, what about you, Yeah.
Speaker 1: I feel that sometimes when you're in a house, there's
Speaker 1: a lot of people in there, there's a lot going on.
Speaker 1: Me and my partner will put on a movie or
Speaker 1: a TV show, whatever we're watching at the time, she'll
Speaker 1: fall asleep first. Yeah, I won't be so ready for sleep,
Speaker 1: and I'll probably with the next hour or half an hour,
Speaker 1: I'll watch something of my own.
Speaker 2: But would you like go into the bedroom together at
Speaker 2: the same time, like head to bed it together at
Speaker 2: the same time.
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, Sometimes watching a movie in another room, she'll
Speaker 1: fall asleep and I'll leave her there to then come back.
Speaker 1: She doesn't like to be woken up. Yeah, so I'll
Speaker 1: leave her asleep from the couch and then she'll come up.
Speaker 1: But no, when we do turn off the lights at
Speaker 1: the same time. Okay, I've got one. Actually, I was
Speaker 1: gonna bring up with the podcast Perfect Time too, do
Speaker 1: you fall asleep with the TV on? Bring? She thinks
Speaker 1: that falling asleep with the TV on is normal and
Speaker 1: I so she actually asked me to bring it up
Speaker 1: on the podcast to ask people because I don't feel
Speaker 1: like it is. I like to turn it off and
Speaker 1: have quiet, pitch black rooms. So when I want to
Speaker 1: fall sleep first, she'll leave the TV on, and then
Speaker 1: I'll wake up in the middle of the night and
Speaker 1: I'll still be running. And it frustrates the hell out
Speaker 1: of me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I get like quite anxious when I leave the
Speaker 2: TV on, even like if I fall asleep, I'll wake
Speaker 2: up like maybe fifteen minutes later and I'll hear it
Speaker 2: and turn it off because I need like dead silence. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I say that, and I'm about to go into motherhood
Speaker 2: and I'm gonna have no dead silence, or at least
Speaker 2: I think there'll be babies have like sleep noise things
Speaker 2: and meditation things. I don't like waves, and you know
Speaker 2: how a lot of people actually go to sleep with
Speaker 2: white noise. White noise is the word I was looking.
Speaker 1: We used to have it when I used to live
Speaker 1: with another partner. We have Google Home and we'd say
Speaker 1: good night Google, and I say what time would you
Speaker 1: like to set the alarm? Or would tell it and
Speaker 1: then it would play like just white noise, meditation, meditation music.
Speaker 1: I were pretty accustomed to that, and then when I
Speaker 1: moved we broke up. I put it on for a bit,
Speaker 1: but I've got over that pretty quickly.
Speaker 2: You prefer the silence. I think I prefer the silence too,
Speaker 2: But yeah, no, I can't sleep. I don't like sleeping
Speaker 2: with the TV on. But I guess, like you said,
Speaker 2: it's a personal preference, especially if you've grown up doing
Speaker 2: stuff like that. No, that's more comfortable to you, whereas
Speaker 2: for me, I would go to sleep in silence.
Speaker 1: I said this, I said, the moment my eyes get heavy,
Speaker 1: I go okay, and I turned the TV off. Give
Speaker 1: me too, moment my eyes get heavy, I don't go
Speaker 1: and accept that and leave it running with a noise going.
Speaker 1: I can't. Yeah, yeah, just to me, that doesn't make sense.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like that. I feel like when my
Speaker 2: eyes start getting heavy, I'm like, okay, let's wrap it up.
Speaker 1: Let's wrap it up. Well, how do you have that
Speaker 1: conversation with Michael? What happens to peomans to stay awake?
Speaker 2: Sometimes he does stay awake, like recently, especially because I'm
Speaker 2: quite heavily pregnant. I just literally it gets to like
Speaker 2: eight o'clock and I'm like really getting exhausted. So We've
Speaker 2: been going into the bedroom at around eight, will get
Speaker 2: into bed, maybe watch a show, read a book, whatever,
Speaker 2: And I'm normally the first one falling asleep, usually at
Speaker 2: about nine on the top so early.
Speaker 1: I'm such a n nine o'clock. I'm going at eleven
Speaker 1: thirty these days.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm like nine on the dart, really staying up.
Speaker 1: But I'm watching movies and I'm like in my own like,
Speaker 1: you know, just getting into it.
Speaker 2: I'm pregnant. I'm getting energy probably around.
Speaker 1: Six yeah right, I'm around sixty ish as well. I'm
Speaker 1: probably unhealthy amount of Yeah, I'm probably on a healthy
Speaker 1: amount of sleep six hours. I'd love to get a
Speaker 1: sleep expert on the podcast.
Speaker 2: I love eight hours of sleep. I love eight shows.
Speaker 1: That's amazing. That's awesome. Eight hours of sleep.
Speaker 2: What you could also choose have eight hours of sleep.
Speaker 1: Dude, No, I'd rather stay up and get my time
Speaker 1: to watch what I want to watch. Sacrifices will be made'
Speaker 1: You'll learn about sacrifices soon, you'll learn about it.
Speaker 2: What I was gonna say is I'll fall asleep early
Speaker 2: and then Michael will turn on like the Footy or yeah,
Speaker 2: something that he wants to watch, and I just honestly
Speaker 2: don't hear it because I'm so zong.
Speaker 1: Well, according to this study, that does not You should
Speaker 1: turn off the TV probably at the same time for
Speaker 1: a closer and emotional physical connection.
Speaker 2: Look, normally we would. I'm pregnant, so I'm gonna give
Speaker 2: myself some Grace. Okay, Mat, we have an anonymous voicemail.
Speaker 2: Let's give it a listen now.
Speaker 3: Hi, Matt and Emma. Longtime listener and fan of the podcast,
Speaker 3: but first time calling in. So I've been having a
Speaker 3: little bit of a dilemma lately. I have been dating
Speaker 3: my boyfriend for about a year now, and honestly, I
Speaker 3: have the time of my life with him. There's so
Speaker 3: many green flags and like, we get along perfectly, but
Speaker 3: there's just this one thing that I can't seem to
Speaker 3: look over, and it's that he has the worst style
Speaker 3: in fashion. Now, I know what you're thinking. It's probably
Speaker 3: not the biggest issue to have out of all the
Speaker 3: ones you could have in a relationship.
Speaker 4: However, it's getting to the point where I don't even
Speaker 4: want to bring him around my friends because I just
Speaker 4: know that my people are kind of laughing at him,
Speaker 4: and I get a bit nervous if you know, we're
Speaker 4: going out on a date, because some of the outfits
Speaker 4: that he wears are hideous, and I'm just a bit
Speaker 4: stuck on what to do. I've tried to take him shopping,
Speaker 4: I've tried to style him myself, and he'll always revert
Speaker 4: back to the most. I hate to say it, but
Speaker 4: diabolical outfits, and it's just it's a little bit awkward.
Speaker 4: I want to I don't know how to address it.
Speaker 4: I don't want to hurt his feelings.
Speaker 3: I obviously love the man, but how did I go
Speaker 3: about it in a nice way? Any advice would be appreciated.
Speaker 2: So she took the words right out of my mouth.
Speaker 2: I was going to say, take him shopping, get him
Speaker 2: a whole new wardrobe.
Speaker 1: And he's not accepting that.
Speaker 2: He's like, no, well no, I think he is accepting it.
Speaker 2: But then like he'll just wear his outfits. Maybe it's
Speaker 2: time to bring out the garbage pack all the recycling
Speaker 2: to charity.
Speaker 1: Do you have you dated someone that has had poor
Speaker 1: fashion and you've gone mind?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Actually yes, I was going to say we literally I
Speaker 1: remember where I was standing when you told me this.
Speaker 1: You tell a story.
Speaker 2: I don't know if we could hear the same thing.
Speaker 1: You rocked up to a restaurant and I was standing
Speaker 1: in the in the vitamin I like holts you're telling
Speaker 1: me on the phone. I was looking at free workout.
Speaker 2: So I actually have a first date story. Okay, And
Speaker 2: obviously we know my you know the type. It's like
Speaker 2: kind of like long hair vibes. Whatever. This guy came
Speaker 2: on our first date. He was wearing a hat, he
Speaker 2: was wearing a shirt, he was wearing like boots, he
Speaker 2: was wearing like a is it a cravat?
Speaker 1: Matt Preston from Master Chef Cravat? Like he was like
Speaker 1: Maddie Preston on a date with Master anyway, would you
Speaker 1: go to a restaurant? I wouldn't get him to cook
Speaker 1: it for you?
Speaker 2: Cook what for me?
Speaker 1: Continue?
Speaker 2: So yeah, we went to a restaurant. We were just
Speaker 2: having a few drinks and some like tappers. Anyway, when
Speaker 2: I first saw his outfit, I was like, he's gone,
Speaker 2: Like really, it's gone all out.
Speaker 1: He's gone.
Speaker 2: It's a lot like I'm like not that judgmental of outfits,
Speaker 2: but like if you're wearing cravat, that's like pretty out
Speaker 2: there and a wide brimmed hat, and like, I don't
Speaker 2: want to give too much away. I'm pretty sure he
Speaker 2: would not listen to this podcast. In fact, I'm like
Speaker 2: almost ninety nine percent sure. I think he was like
Speaker 2: this is so embarrassing. I don't know if we keep
Speaker 2: this or not, but we might cut here, and if
Speaker 2: we do then we can't be heard. But he was
Speaker 2: like I think I was like recently off of Love Island,
Speaker 2: and he was like, oh, like I wanted to dress
Speaker 2: up because you're famous.
Speaker 1: No, I keep that in that's funny.
Speaker 2: I can't go. I was like, get me out of here.
Speaker 1: You get a second date.
Speaker 2: He actually did, but like he kind of did.
Speaker 1: Did he wear a cravat and to the next one?
Speaker 2: No, he didn't, but like he was really into bandanas.
Speaker 2: I know, I'm giving myself seriously, but express it was
Speaker 2: actually he was a really nice guy. I will say
Speaker 2: that was like a bit of foot mouth disease for
Speaker 2: that comment because I was like, oh, that's like he
Speaker 2: but he was a nice guy. We had a kiss
Speaker 2: at the end of the day, and surprisingly he was
Speaker 2: actually pretty good kisser. So I was like, you know,
Speaker 2: I gave him another another couple of rounds and then.
Speaker 1: We oh you went on multiple dates to them?
Speaker 2: We wear on a few and then we cut it off.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Right, but back to our anonymous call.
Speaker 2: Sorry, this is not about me, but I'm just putting
Speaker 2: myself into like the thing where the mindset of feeling
Speaker 2: like very you know, like what's going on here?
Speaker 1: I've had I've had girls, I've never had a girl dress,
Speaker 1: and I think like their fashion. I thought, I never
Speaker 1: really think.
Speaker 2: I don't think like in general. Obviously this is a generalization,
Speaker 2: but I don't think in general, guys normally care unless
Speaker 2: it's like very like revealing or something.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's obviously different, that's a different conversation. That's a
Speaker 1: whole nother kettle of fish that one. But I would say, naturally,
Speaker 1: when you're with a partner, your fashion does change and
Speaker 1: does evolve, like you listen to your partner. I know
Speaker 1: with me, We've done an episode on this ages ago
Speaker 1: about like we've done one about the boyfriend the girlfriend effect,
Speaker 1: also about how you change your fashion, how much influenced
Speaker 1: your partner would have on you. I think that naturally happens.
Speaker 2: Like I think some people care more than others as well.
Speaker 1: I'm wearing a car Heart top right now. Right, I
Speaker 1: didn't even I didn't even think about this brand before
Speaker 1: Tammy she mentioned it to me, And now I have
Speaker 1: some car Heart shirts.
Speaker 2: Right, I've never heard of the brand.
Speaker 1: You've never heard of it? Well, that's sort of something
Speaker 1: that like that just naturally evolves when you're with your partner.
Speaker 2: That's true.
Speaker 1: So, like you know, with an X, she likes what
Speaker 1: was it, colors grounds andy, so that my wardrobe naturally
Speaker 1: went that more hippie. It was more. What she did
Speaker 1: was a neutral word for it. She had a word
Speaker 1: I can't remembering. It was not neutrals. It was like gardening.
Speaker 1: I don't know, but I went that route. So I
Speaker 1: think naturally, over time, your partner should evolve, and hopefully
Speaker 1: he doesn't. He can, he can, and he stops throwing
Speaker 1: skinny jeans and tights medium t shirts with a ya.
Speaker 4: Look.
Speaker 2: My advice to her is if there's certain specific items like,
Speaker 2: for instance, like Matt just said, a skinny jean, we
Speaker 2: need to just say, look, I don't I don't want
Speaker 2: you to wear that, like that's that's a note for me.
Speaker 2: But here's the present.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's okay, sandwich it yeah, compliments sound you look
Speaker 1: so hot, but I think you would look nicer.
Speaker 2: No, no, that's not so hot. And skinny jeans that's
Speaker 2: absolutely no, no.
Speaker 1: No, you know how beautiful I think you are.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's nice.
Speaker 1: I do not like your skinny jeans though.
Speaker 2: Can we place them with into the recycling bin?
Speaker 1: And can you have these you will look so good
Speaker 1: in these. That's a compliment, sandwich.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we love a compliment, sandwich. I think, look, honesty
Speaker 2: is the best policy. If you guys are together, I
Speaker 2: think you can have a conversation. But I do understand
Speaker 2: not wanting to offend someone. And obviously she's tried to
Speaker 2: the obvious things like trying to buy new clothes and things.
Speaker 2: But I think, yeah, if there's specific items that you
Speaker 2: don't like, try to get rid of them.
Speaker 1: Maybe just sneak into his wardrobe and take throw them
Speaker 1: in a garbage bag down to the old arm, you know,
Speaker 1: stump and maybe.
Speaker 2: Just like if you're going out with friends, like be
Speaker 2: at his house or like if you guys don't live to.
Speaker 1: And if your friends are laughing at him, they're not
Speaker 1: good friends.
Speaker 3: No.
Speaker 2: But what I'm saying is if she's embarrassed, she needs
Speaker 2: to like potentially like come to his house before and
Speaker 2: maybe have some input. And you know, if he has
Speaker 2: if there's an outfit that you like on him, say
Speaker 2: love it when you wear this outfit, Like you know
Speaker 2: you could wear this, but just switch out the top
Speaker 2: and it's a different outfit. You know.
Speaker 1: I do like that, just a little bit of work.
Speaker 1: We work together'st the problem. Yeah?
Speaker 2: Love that okay, and that's all we have time for.
Speaker 2: As I said, I'm still on maternity leave. I hope
Speaker 2: you guys are all doing well.
Speaker 1: I look forward to hearing from you in a couple
Speaker 1: of weeks, and we hear from the baby here about
Speaker 1: all about your pregnancy. You know what I mean. We
Speaker 1: can get it on, say some words, hear all about
Speaker 1: your pregnancy. I'm sure you will tell last and we
Speaker 1: look forward
Speaker 2: To it if it sounds good, Okay, guys, until next time,
Speaker 2: Bye bye,