WEBVTT - "HELP, I HATE MY PARTNERS FASHION!": WYHA HOTLINE 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:01.840 You should turn off the TV, probably at the same 0:00:01.880 --> 0:00:03.920 time for a closer and emotional physical connection. 0:00:04.440 --> 0:00:07.360 Look normally we would. I'm pregnant, so I'm going to 0:00:07.440 --> 0:00:16.119 give myself some grace. Where's your Head At? Is a 0:00:16.160 --> 0:00:21.079 podcast that talks full things right, Hold on a sec, 0:00:21.320 --> 0:00:25.279 Let's give this a refresh. Hi. 0:00:25.680 --> 0:00:28.320 I'm Anna and I'm Matt, and we are now too 0:00:28.360 --> 0:00:31.280 newlywed not to each other. Just a female and male 0:00:31.360 --> 0:00:34.040 best friend here for the good, the bad, and the ugly. 0:00:33.880 --> 0:00:39.000 Times and exploring adulthood, family relationships, dilemmas. 0:00:38.640 --> 0:00:41.199 And whatever else we have the mental capacity to deal with. 0:00:41.560 --> 0:00:42.519 Come get the lowdown. 0:00:42.760 --> 0:00:44.480 This is your male and female perspective. 0:00:44.920 --> 0:00:51.280 So Matt, where's your head at? Hello? And welcome to 0:00:51.360 --> 0:00:53.600 another maternity lead episode. 0:00:54.600 --> 0:00:56.680 Where's your head? Out of Anna? 0:00:56.720 --> 0:01:02.960 My head is? I'm happy, I'm sore. I'm still pregnant. 0:01:03.000 --> 0:01:05.760 In this current moment, this is the last day of 0:01:05.800 --> 0:01:08.639 wearing my rings because my fingers are so swollen. 0:01:08.720 --> 0:01:13.720 Look at that, geez are what's the little Frankfurt fingers? 0:01:15.040 --> 0:01:18.280 I actually have like naturally quite like long and skinny fingers, 0:01:18.319 --> 0:01:20.440 but I feel like I actually think they just like 0:01:20.480 --> 0:01:21.600 look like normal hands. 0:01:21.600 --> 0:01:23.920 They're not that swollen. I wouldn't say the ring does, but. 0:01:24.200 --> 0:01:28.360 The ring is like, look at that. It's actually a 0:01:28.400 --> 0:01:30.320 bit scary, to be honest. So the last day of 0:01:30.400 --> 0:01:33.839 wearing rings, I'm gonna use some soap, good old handy 0:01:33.920 --> 0:01:34.760 dandy soapy. 0:01:34.920 --> 0:01:36.040 Give it a clean while you're there. 0:01:36.360 --> 0:01:36.600 Yeah. 0:01:37.400 --> 0:01:44.440 Talking about hands, I think I have really nice hands. No, 0:01:44.720 --> 0:01:47.360 like man hands. I don't know who. They look like 0:01:47.480 --> 0:01:50.200 a man's hands. Like I had a mate and we 0:01:50.240 --> 0:01:52.200 were like twenty five twenty six and I looked at 0:01:52.200 --> 0:01:54.200 his hands and I'm like, you still have kids hands. 0:01:54.960 --> 0:01:57.160 Has someone complimented your hands? 0:01:57.400 --> 0:01:59.000 I have had an X in the past say she 0:01:59.080 --> 0:02:03.320 loved how manly my hands here? Look at no, seriously look. 0:02:03.240 --> 0:02:05.320 At them like, yeah, they're hands. 0:02:06.480 --> 0:02:08.840 Would you look at Michael's hands and go their manly hands? 0:02:09.080 --> 0:02:11.520 Yeah, Like I think about everything about Michael as manly. 0:02:11.600 --> 0:02:14.480 You think they're smooth and like soft, too feminine soft. 0:02:15.200 --> 0:02:17.120 They don't look like they've done a lot of hard labor, 0:02:17.280 --> 0:02:18.239 that's for sure. 0:02:18.240 --> 0:02:20.600 Not for a couple of years. No, and a lot 0:02:20.639 --> 0:02:22.519 of moisturizing cream on my face as well. 0:02:24.280 --> 0:02:25.320 He's a self care man. 0:02:26.200 --> 0:02:28.919 I just think they look manly. Yeah, like them, I 0:02:28.919 --> 0:02:33.040 wouldn't say their model hands, but they're just pretty man hands. 0:02:33.080 --> 0:02:34.600 Do you know what it reminds me of? Like you 0:02:34.680 --> 0:02:37.840 even just talking about this is like when we first 0:02:37.919 --> 0:02:41.240 joined our modeling agency, actually not the one, not Chadwick 0:02:41.360 --> 0:02:43.359 where we were, but the one I was at before, 0:02:44.160 --> 0:02:46.720 and like literally they rated like every single part of 0:02:46.760 --> 0:02:51.600 your body. They were like hands, like seven as, like 0:02:52.160 --> 0:02:55.079 like eyes this out of ten, yeah. 0:02:54.880 --> 0:02:57.520 Like every single or do you remember what they rated you? 0:02:57.720 --> 0:02:59.639 I can't remember. I remember my feet didn't get a 0:02:59.680 --> 0:03:04.240 high rate because my second to is longer. I'm like, 0:03:04.360 --> 0:03:06.600 wait to give people complexes. 0:03:06.000 --> 0:03:07.399 Though that was the industry. 0:03:07.680 --> 0:03:09.480 I mean, that was the industry back in the day. 0:03:09.520 --> 0:03:14.079 But we've moved on, moved on our insecurities, and we're 0:03:14.200 --> 0:03:15.160 better people for it. 0:03:15.720 --> 0:03:19.120 Funnily enough, I have a funny story to tell you. 0:03:19.680 --> 0:03:22.920 I was at the post office the other day and like, 0:03:23.040 --> 0:03:27.160 I think, the way my body has grown in a 0:03:27.200 --> 0:03:31.639 pregnant way when I'm turned around, I don't look pregnant. 0:03:31.960 --> 0:03:34.680 If you look at me, I'll show you one second, 0:03:35.640 --> 0:03:38.120 look at me like that, like, don't look in the reflection. 0:03:40.560 --> 0:03:44.360 I guess, yeah, you don't look How are you specially pregnant? 0:03:44.360 --> 0:03:44.960 From them behind. 0:03:45.080 --> 0:03:47.520 I don't know, because like I think, I don't know 0:03:47.640 --> 0:03:50.880 depending on like the baby and like what weight it's growing. 0:03:51.000 --> 0:03:54.080 Like you can sometimes look more round from the side, 0:03:54.560 --> 0:03:57.280 whereas I feel like when you look at me from behind, 0:03:57.440 --> 0:04:00.200 I don't look pregnant. Anyway, I was in the post office. 0:04:00.520 --> 0:04:05.600 I was in the line. I did my business with 0:04:05.720 --> 0:04:09.560 the post office person, turned around and there was this 0:04:09.640 --> 0:04:13.080 guy behind me, and he like smiled at me, like 0:04:13.160 --> 0:04:18.920 he was like kind of flirting. Then he looked down 0:04:18.960 --> 0:04:21.960 at my stomach and looked like he saw the fear 0:04:22.000 --> 0:04:22.680 of death. 0:04:23.440 --> 0:04:25.120 You have said this before, you've engaged him. 0:04:25.800 --> 0:04:28.880 Before that this was like he was so obvious, like 0:04:29.200 --> 0:04:32.840 he fully was like flirting at my face and then 0:04:32.880 --> 0:04:36.080 looked deeply terrified seeing my stomach. 0:04:36.160 --> 0:04:39.400 So not a wedding band engagement ring didn't scare him off. 0:04:39.760 --> 0:04:42.320 He maybe didn't see. I mean I literally turned around 0:04:42.320 --> 0:04:42.600 for like this. 0:04:42.760 --> 0:04:43.000 It was. 0:04:43.320 --> 0:04:47.880 This all happened within like four seconds max. Maybe three. 0:04:48.680 --> 0:04:50.800 It was like one minute of like a flirty smile, 0:04:51.520 --> 0:04:53.520 two seconds of complete terror. 0:04:53.560 --> 0:04:55.640 And then looked away and never looked back at you again. 0:04:59.000 --> 0:05:01.320 Good I'm married. I don't want him to look but 0:05:01.400 --> 0:05:04.479 it's just so it's just funny to me, you know, 0:05:04.720 --> 0:05:05.800 like that's funny, that. 0:05:05.880 --> 0:05:08.520 Is funny, that's i've I mean, you've said you've got 0:05:08.520 --> 0:05:09.480 that a fair bit. 0:05:10.440 --> 0:05:13.240 Not too like not really like not too much. I 0:05:13.279 --> 0:05:17.479 would say that I can definitely like men who have 0:05:17.560 --> 0:05:21.680 had children before really stand out from men who haven't, 0:05:21.720 --> 0:05:24.880 because like if a guy who's had like a kid before, 0:05:26.279 --> 0:05:28.600 who I'm like, you know, I don't know, I don't 0:05:28.600 --> 0:05:31.880 even know like where, like if I've gone to like 0:05:31.960 --> 0:05:34.560 I don't know, the bakery or something, and there's a 0:05:34.560 --> 0:05:36.520 guy who's had a kid before, He'll be like, oh, hey, 0:05:36.560 --> 0:05:39.159 how's it going, How's like how far along are you? 0:05:39.200 --> 0:05:42.640 Like excited things like that, like just normal general chit chat. 0:05:42.960 --> 0:05:45.000 And then there's me who's like, oh. 0:05:44.839 --> 0:05:47.359 No, I feel like you're pretty good. But like a 0:05:47.400 --> 0:05:50.880 guy who's like, hasn't really seen a pregnant woman before, 0:05:51.640 --> 0:05:54.920 or you know, maybe he's he doesn't have kids or whatever, 0:05:55.400 --> 0:05:58.480 they just get really awkward seeing me with a pregnant belly. 0:05:58.920 --> 0:06:01.560 I've noticed. I don't know if that's just me personally 0:06:01.640 --> 0:06:03.680 or if pregnant women around me. 0:06:03.760 --> 0:06:06.640 Let's ask the audience, Yeah, if you've. 0:06:06.480 --> 0:06:09.240 Been pregnant, yeah, I just feel like people like men, 0:06:09.440 --> 0:06:12.719 especially like young men, get quite awkward around a pregnant woman. 0:06:13.080 --> 0:06:15.680 That's what I've noticed. I don't care, but you know, 0:06:17.200 --> 0:06:18.120 just an observation. 0:06:19.880 --> 0:06:24.560 I stumbled onto this article, Anna, Yeah, it reads. A 0:06:24.640 --> 0:06:28.239 study from Ohio State University found that couples who sleep 0:06:28.320 --> 0:06:31.320 at the same time feel closer emotionally and physically. I 0:06:31.640 --> 0:06:33.560 thought it might say who fall asleep at the same time, 0:06:33.600 --> 0:06:36.039 but it doesn't. A study found the couples who go 0:06:36.080 --> 0:06:38.920 to bed at the same time are happier. Interesting, So 0:06:38.920 --> 0:06:41.800 that's the way I said. They've continued reading. Matching your 0:06:41.880 --> 0:06:45.400 sleep schedule can strengthen your relationship by giving you more 0:06:45.480 --> 0:06:49.200 quality time together and deepening your emotional bond. It also 0:06:49.240 --> 0:06:53.719 helps build healthy sleep habits and lower stress. So before 0:06:53.760 --> 0:06:56.640 you stay up late, consider how nice it would be 0:06:56.680 --> 0:06:59.000 to relax and unwine together. Going to bed at the 0:06:59.000 --> 0:07:01.960 same time just be the key to a happier relationship. 0:07:02.279 --> 0:07:04.839 I definitely like going to bed at the same time. 0:07:04.960 --> 0:07:08.680 I will say, what about you, Yeah. 0:07:08.480 --> 0:07:12.200 I feel that sometimes when you're in a house, there's 0:07:12.200 --> 0:07:14.600 a lot of people in there, there's a lot going on. 0:07:15.440 --> 0:07:18.400 Me and my partner will put on a movie or 0:07:18.440 --> 0:07:21.360 a TV show, whatever we're watching at the time, she'll 0:07:21.360 --> 0:07:24.960 fall asleep first. Yeah, I won't be so ready for sleep, 0:07:25.000 --> 0:07:28.000 and I'll probably with the next hour or half an hour, 0:07:28.040 --> 0:07:29.280 I'll watch something of my own. 0:07:29.280 --> 0:07:31.800 But would you like go into the bedroom together at 0:07:31.800 --> 0:07:33.680 the same time, like head to bed it together at 0:07:33.680 --> 0:07:34.240 the same time. 0:07:34.840 --> 0:07:38.280 Yes, yes, Sometimes watching a movie in another room, she'll 0:07:38.280 --> 0:07:40.360 fall asleep and I'll leave her there to then come back. 0:07:40.440 --> 0:07:42.240 She doesn't like to be woken up. Yeah, so I'll 0:07:42.280 --> 0:07:43.840 leave her asleep from the couch and then she'll come up. 0:07:44.200 --> 0:07:46.320 But no, when we do turn off the lights at 0:07:46.320 --> 0:07:48.440 the same time. Okay, I've got one. Actually, I was 0:07:48.440 --> 0:07:51.080 gonna bring up with the podcast Perfect Time too, do 0:07:51.200 --> 0:07:56.800 you fall asleep with the TV on? Bring? She thinks 0:07:56.840 --> 0:07:59.720 that falling asleep with the TV on is normal and 0:07:59.800 --> 0:08:01.360 I so she actually asked me to bring it up 0:08:01.360 --> 0:08:03.720 on the podcast to ask people because I don't feel 0:08:03.720 --> 0:08:06.200 like it is. I like to turn it off and 0:08:06.280 --> 0:08:08.960 have quiet, pitch black rooms. So when I want to 0:08:08.960 --> 0:08:11.760 fall sleep first, she'll leave the TV on, and then 0:08:11.760 --> 0:08:12.920 I'll wake up in the middle of the night and 0:08:12.960 --> 0:08:15.400 I'll still be running. And it frustrates the hell out 0:08:15.440 --> 0:08:15.600 of me. 0:08:15.800 --> 0:08:18.160 Yeah, I get like quite anxious when I leave the 0:08:18.200 --> 0:08:21.320 TV on, even like if I fall asleep, I'll wake 0:08:21.440 --> 0:08:23.560 up like maybe fifteen minutes later and I'll hear it 0:08:23.600 --> 0:08:26.920 and turn it off because I need like dead silence. Yeah, 0:08:27.040 --> 0:08:30.400 I say that, and I'm about to go into motherhood 0:08:30.440 --> 0:08:32.360 and I'm gonna have no dead silence, or at least 0:08:32.400 --> 0:08:38.959 I think there'll be babies have like sleep noise things 0:08:39.000 --> 0:08:41.880 and meditation things. I don't like waves, and you know 0:08:41.880 --> 0:08:44.280 how a lot of people actually go to sleep with 0:08:44.720 --> 0:08:46.600 white noise. White noise is the word I was looking. 0:08:46.679 --> 0:08:48.480 We used to have it when I used to live 0:08:48.520 --> 0:08:50.559 with another partner. We have Google Home and we'd say 0:08:50.600 --> 0:08:52.959 good night Google, and I say what time would you 0:08:53.000 --> 0:08:54.440 like to set the alarm? Or would tell it and 0:08:54.480 --> 0:08:59.280 then it would play like just white noise, meditation, meditation music. 0:08:59.520 --> 0:09:01.200 I were pretty accustomed to that, and then when I 0:09:01.240 --> 0:09:03.760 moved we broke up. I put it on for a bit, 0:09:04.600 --> 0:09:06.360 but I've got over that pretty quickly. 0:09:06.360 --> 0:09:08.800 You prefer the silence. I think I prefer the silence too, 0:09:09.400 --> 0:09:12.120 But yeah, no, I can't sleep. I don't like sleeping 0:09:12.160 --> 0:09:14.400 with the TV on. But I guess, like you said, 0:09:14.400 --> 0:09:16.720 it's a personal preference, especially if you've grown up doing 0:09:16.760 --> 0:09:20.360 stuff like that. No, that's more comfortable to you, whereas 0:09:20.400 --> 0:09:23.760 for me, I would go to sleep in silence. 0:09:23.880 --> 0:09:26.640 I said this, I said, the moment my eyes get heavy, 0:09:27.320 --> 0:09:29.559 I go okay, and I turned the TV off. Give 0:09:29.640 --> 0:09:31.640 me too, moment my eyes get heavy, I don't go 0:09:31.840 --> 0:09:34.200 and accept that and leave it running with a noise going. 0:09:34.240 --> 0:09:37.240 I can't. Yeah, yeah, just to me, that doesn't make sense. 0:09:37.559 --> 0:09:39.040 Yeah, I feel like that. I feel like when my 0:09:39.080 --> 0:09:41.320 eyes start getting heavy, I'm like, okay, let's wrap it up. 0:09:41.520 --> 0:09:42.920 Let's wrap it up. Well, how do you have that 0:09:42.920 --> 0:09:44.959 conversation with Michael? What happens to peomans to stay awake? 0:09:45.760 --> 0:09:49.880 Sometimes he does stay awake, like recently, especially because I'm 0:09:50.120 --> 0:09:53.800 quite heavily pregnant. I just literally it gets to like 0:09:53.840 --> 0:09:57.000 eight o'clock and I'm like really getting exhausted. So We've 0:09:57.000 --> 0:10:00.480 been going into the bedroom at around eight, will get 0:10:00.520 --> 0:10:02.920 into bed, maybe watch a show, read a book, whatever, 0:10:03.559 --> 0:10:07.319 And I'm normally the first one falling asleep, usually at 0:10:07.360 --> 0:10:10.240 about nine on the top so early. 0:10:10.280 --> 0:10:12.560 I'm such a n nine o'clock. I'm going at eleven 0:10:12.640 --> 0:10:13.480 thirty these days. 0:10:13.559 --> 0:10:16.080 Yeah, I'm like nine on the dart, really staying up. 0:10:16.080 --> 0:10:18.360 But I'm watching movies and I'm like in my own like, 0:10:18.440 --> 0:10:19.440 you know, just getting into it. 0:10:19.760 --> 0:10:24.520 I'm pregnant. I'm getting energy probably around. 0:10:24.200 --> 0:10:27.959 Six yeah right, I'm around sixty ish as well. I'm 0:10:27.960 --> 0:10:30.439 probably unhealthy amount of Yeah, I'm probably on a healthy 0:10:30.440 --> 0:10:33.120 amount of sleep six hours. I'd love to get a 0:10:33.160 --> 0:10:35.280 sleep expert on the podcast. 0:10:35.400 --> 0:10:38.520 I love eight hours of sleep. I love eight shows. 0:10:38.520 --> 0:10:41.240 That's amazing. That's awesome. Eight hours of sleep. 0:10:42.000 --> 0:10:44.360 What you could also choose have eight hours of sleep. 0:10:44.200 --> 0:10:47.520 Dude, No, I'd rather stay up and get my time 0:10:47.559 --> 0:10:50.680 to watch what I want to watch. Sacrifices will be made' 0:10:51.120 --> 0:10:54.360 You'll learn about sacrifices soon, you'll learn about it. 0:10:55.000 --> 0:10:57.640 What I was gonna say is I'll fall asleep early 0:10:57.720 --> 0:10:59.840 and then Michael will turn on like the Footy or yeah, 0:11:00.040 --> 0:11:01.959 something that he wants to watch, and I just honestly 0:11:01.960 --> 0:11:03.320 don't hear it because I'm so zong. 0:11:03.559 --> 0:11:07.240 Well, according to this study, that does not You should 0:11:07.320 --> 0:11:09.040 turn off the TV probably at the same time for 0:11:09.080 --> 0:11:10.760 a closer and emotional physical connection. 0:11:11.280 --> 0:11:14.400 Look, normally we would. I'm pregnant, so I'm gonna give 0:11:14.440 --> 0:11:23.480 myself some Grace. Okay, Mat, we have an anonymous voicemail. 0:11:23.760 --> 0:11:25.679 Let's give it a listen now. 0:11:26.720 --> 0:11:29.720 Hi, Matt and Emma. Longtime listener and fan of the podcast, 0:11:29.760 --> 0:11:33.000 but first time calling in. So I've been having a 0:11:33.040 --> 0:11:36.040 little bit of a dilemma lately. I have been dating 0:11:36.080 --> 0:11:40.280 my boyfriend for about a year now, and honestly, I 0:11:40.280 --> 0:11:42.240 have the time of my life with him. There's so 0:11:42.320 --> 0:11:48.160 many green flags and like, we get along perfectly, but 0:11:48.200 --> 0:11:50.560 there's just this one thing that I can't seem to 0:11:50.600 --> 0:11:53.800 look over, and it's that he has the worst style 0:11:53.880 --> 0:11:57.000 in fashion. Now, I know what you're thinking. It's probably 0:11:57.160 --> 0:11:59.600 not the biggest issue to have out of all the 0:11:59.640 --> 0:12:01.439 ones you could have in a relationship. 0:12:02.000 --> 0:12:04.400 However, it's getting to the point where I don't even 0:12:04.440 --> 0:12:06.400 want to bring him around my friends because I just 0:12:06.520 --> 0:12:10.079 know that my people are kind of laughing at him, 0:12:10.400 --> 0:12:12.320 and I get a bit nervous if you know, we're 0:12:12.360 --> 0:12:15.000 going out on a date, because some of the outfits 0:12:15.040 --> 0:12:19.280 that he wears are hideous, and I'm just a bit 0:12:19.320 --> 0:12:21.760 stuck on what to do. I've tried to take him shopping, 0:12:21.840 --> 0:12:24.680 I've tried to style him myself, and he'll always revert 0:12:24.760 --> 0:12:27.640 back to the most. I hate to say it, but 0:12:27.760 --> 0:12:32.800 diabolical outfits, and it's just it's a little bit awkward. 0:12:32.920 --> 0:12:34.880 I want to I don't know how to address it. 0:12:34.880 --> 0:12:36.240 I don't want to hurt his feelings. 0:12:36.280 --> 0:12:39.840 I obviously love the man, but how did I go 0:12:39.960 --> 0:12:43.439 about it in a nice way? Any advice would be appreciated. 0:12:44.040 --> 0:12:45.840 So she took the words right out of my mouth. 0:12:45.840 --> 0:12:47.880 I was going to say, take him shopping, get him 0:12:47.880 --> 0:12:49.559 a whole new wardrobe. 0:12:49.760 --> 0:12:51.559 And he's not accepting that. 0:12:51.679 --> 0:12:54.280 He's like, no, well no, I think he is accepting it. 0:12:54.320 --> 0:12:57.880 But then like he'll just wear his outfits. Maybe it's 0:12:57.880 --> 0:13:02.160 time to bring out the garbage pack all the recycling 0:13:03.160 --> 0:13:03.760 to charity. 0:13:04.040 --> 0:13:06.360 Do you have you dated someone that has had poor 0:13:06.400 --> 0:13:11.439 fashion and you've gone mind? 0:13:12.120 --> 0:13:12.320 Yeah? 0:13:12.360 --> 0:13:16.040 Actually yes, I was going to say we literally I 0:13:16.080 --> 0:13:17.840 remember where I was standing when you told me this. 0:13:19.120 --> 0:13:19.960 You tell a story. 0:13:20.520 --> 0:13:22.000 I don't know if we could hear the same thing. 0:13:22.160 --> 0:13:25.440 You rocked up to a restaurant and I was standing 0:13:25.440 --> 0:13:27.560 in the in the vitamin I like holts you're telling 0:13:27.600 --> 0:13:30.760 me on the phone. I was looking at free workout. 0:13:30.840 --> 0:13:34.840 So I actually have a first date story. Okay, And 0:13:35.200 --> 0:13:38.600 obviously we know my you know the type. It's like 0:13:38.640 --> 0:13:42.080 kind of like long hair vibes. Whatever. This guy came 0:13:43.000 --> 0:13:45.440 on our first date. He was wearing a hat, he 0:13:45.520 --> 0:13:48.880 was wearing a shirt, he was wearing like boots, he 0:13:48.960 --> 0:13:50.720 was wearing like a is it a cravat? 0:13:51.840 --> 0:13:56.800 Matt Preston from Master Chef Cravat? Like he was like 0:13:57.200 --> 0:14:03.599 Maddie Preston on a date with Master anyway, would you 0:14:03.640 --> 0:14:05.360 go to a restaurant? I wouldn't get him to cook 0:14:05.360 --> 0:14:06.160 it for you? 0:14:06.200 --> 0:14:06.960 Cook what for me? 0:14:08.559 --> 0:14:09.040 Continue? 0:14:09.200 --> 0:14:10.880 So yeah, we went to a restaurant. We were just 0:14:10.880 --> 0:14:13.880 having a few drinks and some like tappers. Anyway, when 0:14:13.920 --> 0:14:16.320 I first saw his outfit, I was like, he's gone, 0:14:16.360 --> 0:14:17.760 Like really, it's gone all out. 0:14:17.840 --> 0:14:18.240 He's gone. 0:14:18.960 --> 0:14:22.440 It's a lot like I'm like not that judgmental of outfits, 0:14:22.600 --> 0:14:25.000 but like if you're wearing cravat, that's like pretty out 0:14:25.000 --> 0:14:28.760 there and a wide brimmed hat, and like, I don't 0:14:28.760 --> 0:14:30.560 want to give too much away. I'm pretty sure he 0:14:30.600 --> 0:14:32.440 would not listen to this podcast. In fact, I'm like 0:14:32.520 --> 0:14:34.960 almost ninety nine percent sure. I think he was like 0:14:35.560 --> 0:14:38.760 this is so embarrassing. I don't know if we keep 0:14:38.840 --> 0:14:40.920 this or not, but we might cut here, and if 0:14:40.920 --> 0:14:43.800 we do then we can't be heard. But he was 0:14:43.840 --> 0:14:47.120 like I think I was like recently off of Love Island, 0:14:47.120 --> 0:14:48.800 and he was like, oh, like I wanted to dress 0:14:48.880 --> 0:14:51.840 up because you're famous. 0:14:54.440 --> 0:14:56.880 No, I keep that in that's funny. 0:14:57.000 --> 0:15:00.160 I can't go. I was like, get me out of here. 0:15:00.400 --> 0:15:01.400 You get a second date. 0:15:02.160 --> 0:15:04.400 He actually did, but like he kind of did. 0:15:04.480 --> 0:15:07.520 Did he wear a cravat and to the next one? 0:15:07.640 --> 0:15:10.680 No, he didn't, but like he was really into bandanas. 0:15:14.560 --> 0:15:19.520 I know, I'm giving myself seriously, but express it was 0:15:19.560 --> 0:15:22.600 actually he was a really nice guy. I will say 0:15:23.000 --> 0:15:24.720 that was like a bit of foot mouth disease for 0:15:24.760 --> 0:15:26.920 that comment because I was like, oh, that's like he 0:15:27.600 --> 0:15:29.600 but he was a nice guy. We had a kiss 0:15:29.640 --> 0:15:31.400 at the end of the day, and surprisingly he was 0:15:31.400 --> 0:15:33.200 actually pretty good kisser. So I was like, you know, 0:15:33.640 --> 0:15:36.680 I gave him another another couple of rounds and then. 0:15:36.600 --> 0:15:38.280 We oh you went on multiple dates to them? 0:15:38.560 --> 0:15:42.160 We wear on a few and then we cut it off. 0:15:42.280 --> 0:15:45.120 Yeah. Right, but back to our anonymous call. 0:15:45.400 --> 0:15:48.720 Sorry, this is not about me, but I'm just putting 0:15:48.720 --> 0:15:52.120 myself into like the thing where the mindset of feeling 0:15:52.200 --> 0:15:55.000 like very you know, like what's going on here? 0:15:55.160 --> 0:15:59.600 I've had I've had girls, I've never had a girl dress, 0:15:59.600 --> 0:16:02.520 and I think like their fashion. I thought, I never 0:16:02.560 --> 0:16:02.880 really think. 0:16:02.960 --> 0:16:06.680 I don't think like in general. Obviously this is a generalization, 0:16:06.720 --> 0:16:09.840 but I don't think in general, guys normally care unless 0:16:09.880 --> 0:16:11.760 it's like very like revealing or something. 0:16:12.320 --> 0:16:14.720 Yeah, that's obviously different, that's a different conversation. That's a 0:16:14.720 --> 0:16:19.400 whole nother kettle of fish that one. But I would say, naturally, 0:16:19.440 --> 0:16:22.120 when you're with a partner, your fashion does change and 0:16:22.160 --> 0:16:24.160 does evolve, like you listen to your partner. I know 0:16:24.200 --> 0:16:27.600 with me, We've done an episode on this ages ago 0:16:27.760 --> 0:16:30.760 about like we've done one about the boyfriend the girlfriend effect, 0:16:30.800 --> 0:16:34.640 also about how you change your fashion, how much influenced 0:16:34.680 --> 0:16:37.080 your partner would have on you. I think that naturally happens. 0:16:37.360 --> 0:16:39.520 Like I think some people care more than others as well. 0:16:39.560 --> 0:16:42.080 I'm wearing a car Heart top right now. Right, I 0:16:42.120 --> 0:16:44.120 didn't even I didn't even think about this brand before 0:16:44.440 --> 0:16:46.520 Tammy she mentioned it to me, And now I have 0:16:46.600 --> 0:16:47.480 some car Heart shirts. 0:16:47.560 --> 0:16:48.800 Right, I've never heard of the brand. 0:16:48.920 --> 0:16:50.720 You've never heard of it? Well, that's sort of something 0:16:50.720 --> 0:16:52.960 that like that just naturally evolves when you're with your partner. 0:16:53.000 --> 0:16:53.520 That's true. 0:16:53.640 --> 0:16:56.440 So, like you know, with an X, she likes what 0:16:56.520 --> 0:17:03.800 was it, colors grounds andy, so that my wardrobe naturally 0:17:03.840 --> 0:17:07.399 went that more hippie. It was more. What she did 0:17:07.600 --> 0:17:09.160 was a neutral word for it. She had a word 0:17:09.160 --> 0:17:12.680 I can't remembering. It was not neutrals. It was like gardening. 0:17:12.720 --> 0:17:14.600 I don't know, but I went that route. So I 0:17:14.600 --> 0:17:19.119 think naturally, over time, your partner should evolve, and hopefully 0:17:19.119 --> 0:17:21.040 he doesn't. He can, he can, and he stops throwing 0:17:21.040 --> 0:17:24.239 skinny jeans and tights medium t shirts with a ya. 0:17:24.600 --> 0:17:24.800 Look. 0:17:24.880 --> 0:17:28.280 My advice to her is if there's certain specific items like, 0:17:28.320 --> 0:17:32.439 for instance, like Matt just said, a skinny jean, we 0:17:32.480 --> 0:17:34.840 need to just say, look, I don't I don't want 0:17:34.840 --> 0:17:36.800 you to wear that, like that's that's a note for me. 0:17:37.080 --> 0:17:38.440 But here's the present. 0:17:39.000 --> 0:17:43.160 Yeah, that's okay, sandwich it yeah, compliments sound you look 0:17:43.280 --> 0:17:45.479 so hot, but I think you would look nicer. 0:17:45.800 --> 0:17:48.360 No, no, that's not so hot. And skinny jeans that's 0:17:48.359 --> 0:17:49.960 absolutely no, no. 0:17:49.600 --> 0:17:51.960 No, you know how beautiful I think you are. 0:17:52.680 --> 0:17:53.960 Yeah, that's nice. 0:17:53.960 --> 0:17:55.760 I do not like your skinny jeans though. 0:17:56.320 --> 0:17:59.240 Can we place them with into the recycling bin? 0:17:59.560 --> 0:18:01.760 And can you have these you will look so good 0:18:01.760 --> 0:18:03.160 in these. That's a compliment, sandwich. 0:18:03.240 --> 0:18:06.080 Yeah, we love a compliment, sandwich. I think, look, honesty 0:18:06.200 --> 0:18:08.200 is the best policy. If you guys are together, I 0:18:08.240 --> 0:18:10.280 think you can have a conversation. But I do understand 0:18:10.320 --> 0:18:13.320 not wanting to offend someone. And obviously she's tried to 0:18:13.320 --> 0:18:16.639 the obvious things like trying to buy new clothes and things. 0:18:16.640 --> 0:18:19.479 But I think, yeah, if there's specific items that you 0:18:19.520 --> 0:18:22.640 don't like, try to get rid of them. 0:18:22.760 --> 0:18:25.159 Maybe just sneak into his wardrobe and take throw them 0:18:25.160 --> 0:18:27.720 in a garbage bag down to the old arm, you know, 0:18:28.800 --> 0:18:30.080 stump and maybe. 0:18:29.880 --> 0:18:31.879 Just like if you're going out with friends, like be 0:18:32.040 --> 0:18:34.000 at his house or like if you guys don't live to. 0:18:34.080 --> 0:18:35.440 And if your friends are laughing at him, they're not 0:18:35.520 --> 0:18:35.960 good friends. 0:18:36.040 --> 0:18:36.119 No. 0:18:36.200 --> 0:18:38.720 But what I'm saying is if she's embarrassed, she needs 0:18:38.760 --> 0:18:42.119 to like potentially like come to his house before and 0:18:42.280 --> 0:18:44.760 maybe have some input. And you know, if he has 0:18:44.800 --> 0:18:46.520 if there's an outfit that you like on him, say 0:18:46.600 --> 0:18:48.679 love it when you wear this outfit, Like you know 0:18:49.240 --> 0:18:51.560 you could wear this, but just switch out the top 0:18:51.680 --> 0:18:53.480 and it's a different outfit. You know. 0:18:53.760 --> 0:18:55.720 I do like that, just a little bit of work. 0:18:55.720 --> 0:18:58.680 We work together'st the problem. Yeah? 0:18:58.840 --> 0:19:01.359 Love that okay, and that's all we have time for. 0:19:01.560 --> 0:19:04.160 As I said, I'm still on maternity leave. I hope 0:19:04.240 --> 0:19:05.480 you guys are all doing well. 0:19:05.480 --> 0:19:07.200 I look forward to hearing from you in a couple 0:19:07.240 --> 0:19:10.359 of weeks, and we hear from the baby here about 0:19:10.359 --> 0:19:12.760 all about your pregnancy. You know what I mean. We 0:19:12.800 --> 0:19:15.640