1 00:00:00,560 --> 00:00:02,360 Speaker 1: Like people can always give good advice, they just come 2 00:00:02,440 --> 00:00:03,400 Speaker 1: follow it totally. 3 00:00:03,760 --> 00:00:04,160 Speaker 2: That's me. 4 00:00:04,480 --> 00:00:06,080 Speaker 3: So what I tell you I probably wouldn't do. 5 00:00:10,360 --> 00:00:16,799 Speaker 1: Hey, girlies, welcome back. This is hear me out with 6 00:00:17,160 --> 00:00:18,600 Speaker 1: easy homage and. 7 00:00:18,680 --> 00:00:21,080 Speaker 2: Like mans Blake, Manace, thank you. 8 00:00:21,239 --> 00:00:21,880 Speaker 3: Oh my god. 9 00:00:21,960 --> 00:00:23,279 Speaker 2: No, everyone gets it wrong. 10 00:00:24,360 --> 00:00:25,880 Speaker 3: How fucking dare I know? 11 00:00:26,200 --> 00:00:28,640 Speaker 2: It's like, no, everyone gets it wrong. It's so fun 12 00:00:28,800 --> 00:00:31,520 Speaker 2: the cow I don't want you to know my last name. 13 00:00:31,520 --> 00:00:32,120 Speaker 2: I don't like it. 14 00:00:34,479 --> 00:00:35,880 Speaker 3: Do you take your boyfriends last name? 15 00:00:37,320 --> 00:00:40,000 Speaker 2: I don't Hackenburger. 16 00:00:42,600 --> 00:00:43,600 Speaker 3: Manus is way better. 17 00:00:43,800 --> 00:00:46,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, we have not noticed. Respect. I'm still talking through 18 00:00:46,240 --> 00:00:48,120 Speaker 2: this lifetime, honey, Like I'm not. 19 00:00:48,240 --> 00:00:49,680 Speaker 1: You don't want to keep yours, but you don't want 20 00:00:49,680 --> 00:00:52,400 Speaker 1: to take you guys can just go and get a 21 00:00:52,400 --> 00:00:52,760 Speaker 1: new one. 22 00:00:53,040 --> 00:00:54,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, literally, can we like mold them? 23 00:00:54,880 --> 00:00:56,480 Speaker 1: You can just make a new one. You can literally 24 00:00:56,480 --> 00:00:59,240 Speaker 1: go now. People can just legally change the name. Yeah. 25 00:00:59,400 --> 00:01:01,960 Speaker 2: I feel like the serious answer to that is I'm 26 00:01:01,960 --> 00:01:04,960 Speaker 2: not that fast, Like I do have a big menace 27 00:01:05,080 --> 00:01:08,560 Speaker 2: families that name will live on, ye sis Blake and 28 00:01:08,600 --> 00:01:12,120 Speaker 2: Berger in the same time. That's like, yeah, I'm going 29 00:01:12,200 --> 00:01:14,920 Speaker 2: to get bullied. You're all for what bagging a man? 30 00:01:15,240 --> 00:01:19,920 Speaker 1: Yeah? Yeah, I'm not sure I think what I take. 31 00:01:20,240 --> 00:01:23,520 Speaker 1: I would take my husband's last name if I preferred 32 00:01:23,520 --> 00:01:25,559 Speaker 1: it to mine, but if it was worse than mine, 33 00:01:25,800 --> 00:01:28,240 Speaker 1: like if I didn't like it, I would just keep mine. 34 00:01:28,520 --> 00:01:30,319 Speaker 2: Yeah, and we don't talk about many like. 35 00:01:30,360 --> 00:01:32,360 Speaker 1: But I would like to take my husbands last name 36 00:01:32,440 --> 00:01:33,680 Speaker 1: ideally if it's nice. 37 00:01:33,800 --> 00:01:36,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, this is like an influencer question. We don't really 38 00:01:36,880 --> 00:01:40,160 Speaker 2: get into influence of stuff on here, but obviously you're 39 00:01:40,160 --> 00:01:41,000 Speaker 2: a bit of a brand. 40 00:01:41,600 --> 00:01:42,160 Speaker 3: A brand. 41 00:01:43,160 --> 00:01:45,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, what would happen when you get married? Like I 42 00:01:45,560 --> 00:01:46,559 Speaker 2: know a few people, Well. 43 00:01:46,640 --> 00:01:48,520 Speaker 3: Steph kles Smith is still Steph Leo Smith, but I 44 00:01:48,600 --> 00:01:52,440 Speaker 3: think she's legally not. Yeah, I think she's got I 45 00:01:52,440 --> 00:01:55,240 Speaker 3: don't know Smith Miller. 46 00:01:55,640 --> 00:01:57,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think she's Seph Miller, but she also will 47 00:01:57,640 --> 00:01:58,960 Speaker 1: like her Instagram name is still. 48 00:01:58,760 --> 00:02:01,240 Speaker 3: Steph le Smith. Yeah, so I understand that. 49 00:02:01,440 --> 00:02:04,080 Speaker 1: I think Steph kosm it's a totally different ballgame to me, 50 00:02:05,000 --> 00:02:07,680 Speaker 1: like embarrassed. 51 00:02:07,360 --> 00:02:08,480 Speaker 3: Don't compare myself. 52 00:02:08,840 --> 00:02:12,000 Speaker 1: But yeah, but maybe by the time my get married, 53 00:02:12,000 --> 00:02:14,480 Speaker 1: it'll be different, but it will be manifest. 54 00:02:14,919 --> 00:02:15,119 Speaker 3: Yeah. 55 00:02:15,240 --> 00:02:17,480 Speaker 1: I think I would probably still have at least my 56 00:02:17,760 --> 00:02:19,360 Speaker 1: easy armitage in my bio or something. 57 00:02:19,400 --> 00:02:21,360 Speaker 3: But I probably would legally change it, just keep the 58 00:02:21,400 --> 00:02:25,320 Speaker 3: handle yea, literally. 59 00:02:25,000 --> 00:02:30,240 Speaker 1: You know, Oh my god, some fucking cow. I remember, sorry. 60 00:02:29,840 --> 00:02:30,239 Speaker 3: Very in mind. 61 00:02:30,240 --> 00:02:31,760 Speaker 1: I'm recording this in the same day as I did 62 00:02:31,760 --> 00:02:33,560 Speaker 1: my last episode, and I'm still in a bit of. 63 00:02:33,840 --> 00:02:34,600 Speaker 3: A grumpy mood. 64 00:02:35,000 --> 00:02:42,480 Speaker 1: I remember I changed my username to something else very briefly. 65 00:02:42,680 --> 00:02:45,640 Speaker 1: I don't know why, and I I honestly don't know 66 00:02:45,680 --> 00:02:49,440 Speaker 1: why I did it. But then within the hour someone 67 00:02:49,440 --> 00:02:53,520 Speaker 1: had take created an account using my user name easy Armitage. 68 00:02:53,919 --> 00:02:56,160 Speaker 3: I couldn't have it back, not heavily. 69 00:02:56,280 --> 00:02:57,880 Speaker 1: I think that was when I was with my like 70 00:02:57,960 --> 00:03:00,200 Speaker 1: not enough, but I don't know, and that's I think 71 00:03:00,200 --> 00:03:02,799 Speaker 1: it was someone I knew fucking with me and they 72 00:03:03,000 --> 00:03:05,680 Speaker 1: made an easy Amantage account. So I was easy armataed 73 00:03:05,760 --> 00:03:09,079 Speaker 1: one for like a while because I had to keep 74 00:03:09,120 --> 00:03:12,880 Speaker 1: reporting this fucking account. And then one day, randomly I 75 00:03:12,880 --> 00:03:15,200 Speaker 1: don't know how, my dad noticed. He goes the your 76 00:03:15,240 --> 00:03:17,120 Speaker 1: cart's gone, can you use the name back? And I 77 00:03:17,160 --> 00:03:19,399 Speaker 1: fucking snapped it back up. I'm like, who does that? 78 00:03:19,800 --> 00:03:21,480 Speaker 2: I love that your dad's across. 79 00:03:21,200 --> 00:03:24,200 Speaker 1: He's across everything. I don't understand that he knows everything 80 00:03:24,240 --> 00:03:26,880 Speaker 1: going on. Yeah, he always sends me articles. I'm like 81 00:03:26,919 --> 00:03:27,919 Speaker 1: I don't want to see it. 82 00:03:28,400 --> 00:03:28,960 Speaker 3: Leave me alone. 83 00:03:29,040 --> 00:03:30,120 Speaker 2: My brain can't do this. 84 00:03:30,280 --> 00:03:32,959 Speaker 3: I really don't deal with this AnyWho. 85 00:03:33,080 --> 00:03:36,360 Speaker 1: But we have a listener. Hear me out for you guys. 86 00:03:36,600 --> 00:03:37,280 Speaker 1: Take it away, Blake. 87 00:03:37,400 --> 00:03:40,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, let's start there. Well we'll get into ours. I 88 00:03:40,040 --> 00:03:42,840 Speaker 2: really like this one, and I don't know where I stand. Okay, 89 00:03:43,480 --> 00:03:46,560 Speaker 2: hear me out. Chad from High School Musical is hotter 90 00:03:46,720 --> 00:03:47,600 Speaker 2: than Troy Bolton. 91 00:03:47,760 --> 00:03:54,680 Speaker 1: No, male disagree? Prime Zach everyone was like prime male species. 92 00:03:54,800 --> 00:03:57,640 Speaker 2: Yeah. I think that's he was like in his prime. 93 00:03:57,920 --> 00:04:00,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, like when I when we were the age we 94 00:04:00,400 --> 00:04:02,480 Speaker 1: were when High School Musical came out, Like Zacha from 95 00:04:02,600 --> 00:04:03,360 Speaker 1: was a fucking god. 96 00:04:04,040 --> 00:04:05,600 Speaker 3: Yeah, seventeen again. 97 00:04:05,560 --> 00:04:07,520 Speaker 2: God, I really like Chad though. 98 00:04:07,960 --> 00:04:10,720 Speaker 1: Chad's great, He's gorgeous, man, I just he's not Zach Efron. 99 00:04:11,040 --> 00:04:14,240 Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, so case closed. 100 00:04:14,480 --> 00:04:17,280 Speaker 3: I like Joe Bolton. But I'm sure there are a 101 00:04:17,279 --> 00:04:18,440 Speaker 3: lot of Chad lovers out there. 102 00:04:19,080 --> 00:04:20,880 Speaker 2: Second, hear me out, I feel like this is a 103 00:04:20,880 --> 00:04:24,359 Speaker 2: bit more current, Sonny. Angels and La booboos are not it. 104 00:04:25,000 --> 00:04:29,000 Speaker 1: No, I think they're pointless, pointlessly expensive, Like you can't 105 00:04:29,040 --> 00:04:31,200 Speaker 1: even hug the like if it was a bigger and 106 00:04:31,240 --> 00:04:32,600 Speaker 1: it was a soft toy that I could. 107 00:04:32,360 --> 00:04:33,679 Speaker 3: Like sleep with. I get it. 108 00:04:33,680 --> 00:04:36,160 Speaker 1: It's got hard feet and a hard fucking face, and 109 00:04:36,200 --> 00:04:38,400 Speaker 1: it's just like where am I going to put that? 110 00:04:38,960 --> 00:04:43,440 Speaker 2: So I'm a Sonny angel kind of. They're just so cute. 111 00:04:43,560 --> 00:04:45,520 Speaker 3: I don't have I quite frankly do not have her 112 00:04:45,520 --> 00:04:46,559 Speaker 3: own for them in my house. 113 00:04:47,760 --> 00:04:49,840 Speaker 2: I don't, but I make her like. 114 00:04:49,800 --> 00:04:51,440 Speaker 3: I just I don't. 115 00:04:51,560 --> 00:04:53,919 Speaker 1: I don't get it, and I think maybe it's not 116 00:04:54,040 --> 00:04:56,760 Speaker 1: really on my feet or on anything. So maybe I'm 117 00:04:56,800 --> 00:04:59,920 Speaker 1: just like not really understanding it. But personally I think 118 00:05:00,040 --> 00:05:01,960 Speaker 1: it's a waste of fucking time and money. And I 119 00:05:02,040 --> 00:05:05,400 Speaker 1: really don't understand labooboos sonny angels. Maybe they're a little 120 00:05:05,400 --> 00:05:07,080 Speaker 1: bit smaller. I like when people like stick them on 121 00:05:07,120 --> 00:05:09,400 Speaker 1: the back of they're like laptops or like like those. 122 00:05:09,440 --> 00:05:10,400 Speaker 3: I get they're kind of cute. 123 00:05:10,440 --> 00:05:12,680 Speaker 2: I have a sloth in my car, and. 124 00:05:12,640 --> 00:05:14,520 Speaker 1: I like people have them on their dashwater stup. I 125 00:05:14,520 --> 00:05:17,440 Speaker 1: get that they're like little knickknacks. Yeah, fucking la booboos 126 00:05:17,520 --> 00:05:19,240 Speaker 1: are stupid. It's like I can't put it on my 127 00:05:19,279 --> 00:05:21,880 Speaker 1: keys because my keys can't fit in my bag. Yeah, 128 00:05:21,960 --> 00:05:25,760 Speaker 1: I can't sleep with her because it's hard and they 129 00:05:25,839 --> 00:05:27,080 Speaker 1: don't even fucking stand up. 130 00:05:27,000 --> 00:05:29,839 Speaker 2: Right, do they La boo boos? 131 00:05:29,920 --> 00:05:30,160 Speaker 3: Yeah? 132 00:05:30,240 --> 00:05:33,640 Speaker 1: No, Yeah, what's the point put it in a glass? 133 00:05:33,800 --> 00:05:35,800 Speaker 1: I can't get a customer glass case to like stick 134 00:05:35,800 --> 00:05:38,080 Speaker 1: them on my wall, Like I don't need them. 135 00:05:37,800 --> 00:05:41,080 Speaker 2: And you're spending okay money on it already. 136 00:05:41,080 --> 00:05:41,920 Speaker 3: How much do they costs? 137 00:05:42,200 --> 00:05:44,279 Speaker 2: I think they're thirty five in Australia, which is. 138 00:05:44,600 --> 00:05:46,960 Speaker 1: For some reason, I thought that they're just hard to get, 139 00:05:47,040 --> 00:05:48,320 Speaker 1: like what's the big deal? 140 00:05:48,520 --> 00:05:52,599 Speaker 2: So people will buy them for more and obviously you 141 00:05:52,640 --> 00:05:54,800 Speaker 2: don't know which one you're going to get some people. 142 00:05:54,880 --> 00:05:57,800 Speaker 2: Sometimes people want to pay for preference to know what 143 00:05:57,839 --> 00:05:58,320 Speaker 2: they're getting. 144 00:05:58,320 --> 00:06:02,000 Speaker 1: So I think maybe it's fun to open them, But 145 00:06:02,040 --> 00:06:05,280 Speaker 1: I'm like, get a lot of the fake ones, get 146 00:06:05,279 --> 00:06:07,080 Speaker 1: a la food for and open it and then it's exciting. 147 00:06:07,120 --> 00:06:08,960 Speaker 3: It's just as exciting and you can just throw it out. 148 00:06:09,200 --> 00:06:11,560 Speaker 2: Yeah. See My thing is I'll meet in the middle. 149 00:06:12,440 --> 00:06:15,280 Speaker 2: When La boob so, I yes, collected a few son 150 00:06:15,279 --> 00:06:19,279 Speaker 2: the angels. When La Booboos came out, I was like, no, 151 00:06:19,480 --> 00:06:22,320 Speaker 2: that's ugly. Then I hit a point. 152 00:06:22,320 --> 00:06:24,160 Speaker 3: I was like, oh no, they're kind of they're actually 153 00:06:24,160 --> 00:06:25,080 Speaker 3: not cute. 154 00:06:24,800 --> 00:06:27,120 Speaker 2: But I thought that was becoming cut I got one 155 00:06:27,120 --> 00:06:28,320 Speaker 2: when I was at the fits Room. 156 00:06:28,200 --> 00:06:30,279 Speaker 3: Market, like, I have one and I don't even know. 157 00:06:30,480 --> 00:06:31,480 Speaker 2: I was going to call you out. I was like, 158 00:06:31,520 --> 00:06:32,520 Speaker 2: I feel like I've seen one. 159 00:06:32,640 --> 00:06:36,120 Speaker 1: Annabel gave me one because she had it and was 160 00:06:36,120 --> 00:06:37,760 Speaker 1: like I don't want this. I was like, oh, la 161 00:06:37,800 --> 00:06:39,120 Speaker 1: boobo and I'm like, I don't even know. 162 00:06:39,120 --> 00:06:39,560 Speaker 3: Where it is. 163 00:06:39,720 --> 00:06:40,920 Speaker 2: Your cats are probably like. 164 00:06:40,880 --> 00:06:42,720 Speaker 3: My cats have ripped it. 165 00:06:43,400 --> 00:06:46,000 Speaker 2: But I got one and I'm like, yeah, okay, it's 166 00:06:46,080 --> 00:06:47,160 Speaker 2: just a dust collector. 167 00:06:49,440 --> 00:06:49,919 Speaker 3: Look at me. 168 00:06:50,040 --> 00:06:51,840 Speaker 1: And I'm like, so we actually got a la food 169 00:06:51,839 --> 00:06:54,920 Speaker 1: for when we were in Bali, just I didn't get one. 170 00:06:54,960 --> 00:06:57,440 Speaker 1: I wasn't present for the purchase, but the girls brought 171 00:06:57,480 --> 00:07:01,000 Speaker 1: it and we opened it and then everything started going wrong. 172 00:07:01,800 --> 00:07:02,920 Speaker 3: So we got rid of it. 173 00:07:03,120 --> 00:07:05,200 Speaker 1: We were like, it's a demon. That's there's something. It's 174 00:07:05,240 --> 00:07:08,960 Speaker 1: bad luck. No, they are laufu fucked with us. 175 00:07:08,960 --> 00:07:09,479 Speaker 3: For that day. 176 00:07:09,640 --> 00:07:12,200 Speaker 1: Nothing went right and we actually threw it out because 177 00:07:12,200 --> 00:07:13,960 Speaker 1: we're like, but then we didn't throw it out in 178 00:07:13,960 --> 00:07:15,920 Speaker 1: our own villa. We put it in one of the 179 00:07:15,960 --> 00:07:18,160 Speaker 1: bins on like the street or something, or in a cafe. 180 00:07:18,280 --> 00:07:19,800 Speaker 1: I don't remember where the girls put it. We're like, 181 00:07:19,840 --> 00:07:20,720 Speaker 1: we need to get rid. 182 00:07:20,560 --> 00:07:22,480 Speaker 2: Of this thing, not in your living situation. 183 00:07:22,640 --> 00:07:24,680 Speaker 1: I sound like a serious pessimist, Like there are a 184 00:07:24,720 --> 00:07:27,000 Speaker 1: lot I sleep with a fucking blanky, Like I am 185 00:07:27,040 --> 00:07:30,600 Speaker 1: not opposed to like cute, little fucking sentimental knickknacks. But 186 00:07:30,960 --> 00:07:32,360 Speaker 1: I don't get the point. 187 00:07:32,600 --> 00:07:35,520 Speaker 2: I think my problem is like collecting of them and 188 00:07:35,560 --> 00:07:38,000 Speaker 2: how you open up TikTok and people have bought a 189 00:07:38,040 --> 00:07:41,400 Speaker 2: box because they want one specific one, Like that's insane. 190 00:07:41,160 --> 00:07:43,040 Speaker 3: It is insane, and where are you putting them? You're 191 00:07:43,080 --> 00:07:43,840 Speaker 3: throwing them out. 192 00:07:43,760 --> 00:07:46,640 Speaker 2: And it's so much money, and there's like and. 193 00:07:46,640 --> 00:07:49,480 Speaker 1: Everyone has them, like I like my blanking because it's 194 00:07:49,560 --> 00:07:50,160 Speaker 1: my blanking. 195 00:07:50,680 --> 00:07:52,840 Speaker 2: I know if there was like rare, rare, rare additions, 196 00:07:52,840 --> 00:07:55,520 Speaker 2: which I will probably two billion dollars if that was 197 00:07:55,560 --> 00:07:56,000 Speaker 2: the case. 198 00:07:56,280 --> 00:07:58,080 Speaker 1: And I think the thing is, no one's gonna like 199 00:07:58,120 --> 00:08:00,080 Speaker 1: them in six months, No, and then everyone's just and 200 00:08:00,120 --> 00:08:00,760 Speaker 1: I have hundreds of. 201 00:08:00,720 --> 00:08:03,640 Speaker 2: Them so hard like our generations. 202 00:08:03,680 --> 00:08:06,360 Speaker 1: My generation loves them, I know, like I have a 203 00:08:06,400 --> 00:08:08,559 Speaker 1: lot of like girl like I know Molly like loves 204 00:08:08,600 --> 00:08:10,960 Speaker 1: loves Sonny angels, and like they collect it's actually opened 205 00:08:11,000 --> 00:08:11,960 Speaker 1: the really cute one the other. 206 00:08:11,840 --> 00:08:12,840 Speaker 3: Day, sunny angels. 207 00:08:12,880 --> 00:08:14,840 Speaker 1: I get to a different in a sense because when 208 00:08:14,920 --> 00:08:17,760 Speaker 1: you can stick them on things and people have them 209 00:08:17,800 --> 00:08:18,720 Speaker 1: hanging over the back of their. 210 00:08:18,600 --> 00:08:22,520 Speaker 3: Phone and I look at that, it's different, la booboos. 211 00:08:22,560 --> 00:08:23,160 Speaker 3: I don't get. 212 00:08:23,800 --> 00:08:27,040 Speaker 1: As this episode comes out, I'm going to be shredding 213 00:08:27,240 --> 00:08:29,040 Speaker 1: on the slopes of Queenstown. 214 00:08:29,440 --> 00:08:30,840 Speaker 2: I was like, where are you getting at? 215 00:08:31,080 --> 00:08:35,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, I have not skied since I was probably fifteen. 216 00:08:36,720 --> 00:08:39,840 Speaker 1: I'd say we used to probably used to ski, like 217 00:08:40,200 --> 00:08:42,319 Speaker 1: most years we were lucky enough to be able to 218 00:08:42,360 --> 00:08:44,760 Speaker 1: go on family holidays to Whistler and Tahoe and stuff 219 00:08:44,760 --> 00:08:46,880 Speaker 1: and ski, And I would say I was all right, 220 00:08:46,920 --> 00:08:49,559 Speaker 1: But like now I feel I'm really hoping. It's like 221 00:08:49,640 --> 00:08:52,760 Speaker 1: riding a bike and if you are listening and you 222 00:08:52,800 --> 00:08:57,240 Speaker 1: happen to see me, don't take photos, don't take videos. 223 00:08:57,480 --> 00:09:00,000 Speaker 3: I am excited. It's fun. There's something exhilarating about it. 224 00:09:00,200 --> 00:09:02,240 Speaker 1: But I went through a real period of like becoming 225 00:09:02,280 --> 00:09:04,720 Speaker 1: really scared of everything, and I think like it still 226 00:09:04,760 --> 00:09:06,360 Speaker 1: carries into like scared of planes. 227 00:09:06,800 --> 00:09:09,920 Speaker 3: Like, but I was always really worried about how. 228 00:09:09,720 --> 00:09:11,880 Speaker 1: Injured you can get skiing, like because your skis can 229 00:09:11,960 --> 00:09:14,600 Speaker 1: kind of cross over and like snap your fucking kneecaps out. 230 00:09:14,880 --> 00:09:16,960 Speaker 2: See this is why. I'm just like, I don't need to. 231 00:09:17,400 --> 00:09:19,640 Speaker 1: I wanted to be a snowboarder then, because I was like, 232 00:09:19,840 --> 00:09:21,400 Speaker 1: then if all I can do is break my arm, 233 00:09:21,440 --> 00:09:23,040 Speaker 1: if my forward or back, you know what I mean. 234 00:09:23,040 --> 00:09:24,800 Speaker 1: But then my parents were like, you can snowboard all 235 00:09:24,840 --> 00:09:26,559 Speaker 1: you fucking like, but we're not going to wait for you. 236 00:09:27,280 --> 00:09:28,720 Speaker 3: And if you know me, I don't even. 237 00:09:28,559 --> 00:09:31,120 Speaker 1: Like going to the bathroom, lind I'm like, I am 238 00:09:31,160 --> 00:09:33,120 Speaker 1: not going to be on the slopes in a different country, 239 00:09:33,840 --> 00:09:37,040 Speaker 1: fucking two kilometers behind my fucking family on the slope. 240 00:09:37,080 --> 00:09:41,199 Speaker 1: So I therefore defaulted back to skiing, and this will 241 00:09:41,240 --> 00:09:42,760 Speaker 1: be my first time in ten years. 242 00:09:43,360 --> 00:09:46,559 Speaker 2: Please be careful, I will be. I'm an anxious soul 243 00:09:47,920 --> 00:09:50,640 Speaker 2: with these things. If I am scared of I'm just. 244 00:09:50,559 --> 00:09:52,200 Speaker 3: Went, oh, I need to show you. 245 00:09:52,880 --> 00:09:54,480 Speaker 2: Literally, I'm so excited about. 246 00:09:54,200 --> 00:09:55,400 Speaker 3: That video of Tessa falling. 247 00:09:55,720 --> 00:09:59,560 Speaker 1: No, but yeah, I'm actually ever so slightly nervous because 248 00:10:00,200 --> 00:10:03,080 Speaker 1: is drinking like this. First of all, I think goes 249 00:10:03,080 --> 00:10:06,280 Speaker 1: on from Tuesday to Saturday, damn, which is like. 250 00:10:06,320 --> 00:10:07,160 Speaker 3: That's five days. 251 00:10:07,200 --> 00:10:07,840 Speaker 2: That's a stint. 252 00:10:08,040 --> 00:10:10,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, we're not skiing on the Tuesday because when we 253 00:10:10,320 --> 00:10:12,320 Speaker 1: get there, we're just with there's an event with the brand, 254 00:10:12,920 --> 00:10:15,720 Speaker 1: and we won't really have enough time, but we'll be skiing. 255 00:10:16,200 --> 00:10:17,640 Speaker 1: I think we have a three day lift past, so 256 00:10:17,640 --> 00:10:21,160 Speaker 1: we're going to do Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, and then Saturday. 257 00:10:21,480 --> 00:10:25,520 Speaker 1: It's just Wednesday, Thursday, Tuesday, Thursday, Friday events after parties. 258 00:10:26,360 --> 00:10:27,760 Speaker 2: Where is skiing in between? Here? 259 00:10:27,840 --> 00:10:30,520 Speaker 3: Girl, Well, we will wake up more ski in the morning. 260 00:10:30,600 --> 00:10:32,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, like you're skiing the kind of of the afternoon, 261 00:10:32,720 --> 00:10:34,400 Speaker 1: and then the events are like at seven and ship. 262 00:10:34,559 --> 00:10:34,760 Speaker 2: Yeah. 263 00:10:35,080 --> 00:10:35,640 Speaker 3: I like it. 264 00:10:35,840 --> 00:10:38,400 Speaker 2: If anything does get hurt, you can at least like drink. 265 00:10:38,200 --> 00:10:41,720 Speaker 1: It, drink the pa. And I'm only skieing for three days. 266 00:10:41,960 --> 00:10:44,080 Speaker 1: I'm being Riley believes. 267 00:10:43,559 --> 00:10:45,520 Speaker 3: That one run and it'll be like riding a bike. 268 00:10:45,559 --> 00:10:47,600 Speaker 2: Can help be back to it fingers crossed, but just 269 00:10:47,679 --> 00:10:48,720 Speaker 2: don't try and keep up. 270 00:10:48,840 --> 00:10:51,000 Speaker 1: I think it is like riding a bike. Well, there's 271 00:10:51,000 --> 00:10:55,400 Speaker 1: all keeping up, Tessa can't ski. If I suck, I'll 272 00:10:55,400 --> 00:10:56,040 Speaker 1: have test with it. 273 00:10:56,160 --> 00:10:57,880 Speaker 2: And you're in the middle at least at least in. 274 00:10:57,880 --> 00:10:59,640 Speaker 3: The middle of Riley will be trying to show off. 275 00:10:59,679 --> 00:11:01,960 Speaker 1: But to be honest, the funny thing is you always 276 00:11:01,960 --> 00:11:03,680 Speaker 1: feel like you're going so fast, and then if someone 277 00:11:03,720 --> 00:11:06,120 Speaker 1: actually videos it and shows you, You're like, wait, what 278 00:11:06,160 --> 00:11:08,920 Speaker 1: the fuck I actually remember to talk about so again, 279 00:11:09,080 --> 00:11:11,440 Speaker 1: she posted probably one of the funniest videos I've seen 280 00:11:11,440 --> 00:11:13,240 Speaker 1: in a long time when she was on a set 281 00:11:13,240 --> 00:11:16,120 Speaker 1: of phil Brian Trip, and it was her saying, I 282 00:11:16,120 --> 00:11:19,000 Speaker 1: felt like I was flying in this video and she's 283 00:11:19,280 --> 00:11:24,040 Speaker 1: literally going so slow and probably moves like five meters, 284 00:11:24,280 --> 00:11:26,960 Speaker 1: and she obviously realized that it was such funny video. 285 00:11:27,040 --> 00:11:29,600 Speaker 2: That would be me if I'm even standing, like, got 286 00:11:29,640 --> 00:11:32,400 Speaker 2: on you for standing, Yeah, getting up on that. You 287 00:11:32,400 --> 00:11:35,360 Speaker 2: probably think I'm sounding like an absolute freak at the moment. 288 00:11:35,200 --> 00:11:39,720 Speaker 3: But yeah, I know, yeah, yeah. 289 00:11:39,760 --> 00:11:42,760 Speaker 1: So I'll be halfway through that trip and hopefully loving it, 290 00:11:43,160 --> 00:11:45,200 Speaker 1: and then you will be. Yeah, and then I go 291 00:11:45,280 --> 00:11:48,320 Speaker 1: to Bali the week after, not the week after, but 292 00:11:48,360 --> 00:11:50,600 Speaker 1: the week after to hang out with someone that could 293 00:11:50,679 --> 00:11:51,360 Speaker 1: be exciting. 294 00:11:51,800 --> 00:11:57,040 Speaker 3: We'll see. I loved it yet. But until then, my 295 00:11:57,040 --> 00:11:58,360 Speaker 3: friend Adam I was gonna be there with me. 296 00:11:58,400 --> 00:12:02,800 Speaker 1: By the way, and she's not someone except they think, oh, oh, 297 00:12:02,960 --> 00:12:06,240 Speaker 1: someone going on there. No, it's an well anyway, all right, 298 00:12:06,480 --> 00:12:08,040 Speaker 1: this week we are going to be doing a part 299 00:12:08,080 --> 00:12:10,520 Speaker 1: two of Your Help Me Out, and I just think 300 00:12:10,559 --> 00:12:11,440 Speaker 1: let's start writing. 301 00:12:11,559 --> 00:12:13,960 Speaker 3: We have so many and me being. 302 00:12:13,840 --> 00:12:18,959 Speaker 1: Always said, the mass start up for advice jalks someone 303 00:12:18,960 --> 00:12:20,800 Speaker 1: that can't take her own advice to save her life. 304 00:12:20,880 --> 00:12:22,640 Speaker 3: Let's see what we can do for you, ladies. 305 00:12:23,320 --> 00:12:25,960 Speaker 1: I wish boys would send in their dilemmas. Can some 306 00:12:26,000 --> 00:12:29,920 Speaker 1: boys finally fucking man up and send me your fucking problem? 307 00:12:30,640 --> 00:12:32,560 Speaker 2: You've got one man on Instagram? 308 00:12:32,920 --> 00:12:33,160 Speaker 3: What? 309 00:12:33,400 --> 00:12:34,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, he's really sweet. 310 00:12:34,640 --> 00:12:37,280 Speaker 1: Oh, I know we do have some male listeners, and 311 00:12:37,320 --> 00:12:39,840 Speaker 1: I think these question marks are open for you guys too, 312 00:12:39,880 --> 00:12:41,880 Speaker 1: And I think sometimes you don't want to do that, 313 00:12:41,960 --> 00:12:43,000 Speaker 1: but know that. 314 00:12:43,320 --> 00:12:44,040 Speaker 3: I will love it. 315 00:12:44,200 --> 00:12:45,120 Speaker 2: And it's anonymous. 316 00:12:45,200 --> 00:12:45,880 Speaker 3: It's anonymous. 317 00:12:45,880 --> 00:12:46,560 Speaker 2: What's to lose? 318 00:12:46,960 --> 00:12:49,160 Speaker 1: So hey, mayle listening here great? It makes me feel 319 00:12:49,200 --> 00:12:52,120 Speaker 1: so good. That sounds like I'm really validated by men. 320 00:12:52,160 --> 00:12:52,880 Speaker 3: I do not mean that. 321 00:12:53,000 --> 00:12:55,640 Speaker 1: I just mean like I think when I had a 322 00:12:55,640 --> 00:12:57,680 Speaker 1: podcast called just for Girls, there's that sigma and like 323 00:12:57,720 --> 00:13:00,480 Speaker 1: boys listening to something called just for girls, But we 324 00:13:00,520 --> 00:13:02,360 Speaker 1: did have like guys that would be out and say it, 325 00:13:02,360 --> 00:13:03,240 Speaker 1: and it's so sweet. 326 00:13:03,280 --> 00:13:04,800 Speaker 3: It's just like it's a nice. 327 00:13:04,559 --> 00:13:07,280 Speaker 1: Feeling to know that you're reaching like that audience as well, 328 00:13:07,320 --> 00:13:09,640 Speaker 1: Like this is a girl centrip podcast. I totally get that, 329 00:13:09,720 --> 00:13:13,960 Speaker 1: but ah would be nice. 330 00:13:14,360 --> 00:13:15,280 Speaker 3: Okay, help me out. 331 00:13:15,520 --> 00:13:17,480 Speaker 1: Am I the arshole for cutting ties with a close 332 00:13:17,520 --> 00:13:20,600 Speaker 1: friend after she reconnected and became friends with a girl 333 00:13:20,600 --> 00:13:23,600 Speaker 1: who had hurt and disrespected both of us behind my back. 334 00:13:24,320 --> 00:13:25,040 Speaker 3: Not to mention the. 335 00:13:25,000 --> 00:13:28,080 Speaker 1: Girl that disrespected us both gives mean girl vibes, has 336 00:13:28,120 --> 00:13:30,480 Speaker 1: no other friends, is a liar and probably an arcissist. 337 00:13:31,200 --> 00:13:33,360 Speaker 3: Oh I this stuff. 338 00:13:33,720 --> 00:13:37,720 Speaker 1: There's something about friendships that's always friendships are fucking challenging. 339 00:13:37,800 --> 00:13:38,040 Speaker 3: Girl. 340 00:13:38,440 --> 00:13:40,320 Speaker 1: Keep in mind, when we cut this girl off, I 341 00:13:40,360 --> 00:13:42,160 Speaker 1: was the one who stood up for my close friends 342 00:13:42,200 --> 00:13:44,000 Speaker 1: since she isn't a confrontational person. 343 00:13:44,360 --> 00:13:46,160 Speaker 3: Okay, So I know. 344 00:13:46,360 --> 00:13:48,480 Speaker 1: It's hard in a situation like that because you're now 345 00:13:48,520 --> 00:13:51,600 Speaker 1: almost the mean middleman who's defended both of you. So 346 00:13:51,720 --> 00:13:53,520 Speaker 1: for your friend to go kind of behind your back 347 00:13:53,559 --> 00:13:55,680 Speaker 1: and reconnect with this girl, you're like, well, now I 348 00:13:55,760 --> 00:13:59,440 Speaker 1: kind of look like an idiot for standing up for 349 00:13:59,600 --> 00:14:00,800 Speaker 1: us because you're. 350 00:14:00,600 --> 00:14:02,320 Speaker 3: Just friends with there again. So yeah, I get you. 351 00:14:03,040 --> 00:14:05,280 Speaker 1: A year goes by and I hear through the grapevine 352 00:14:05,320 --> 00:14:07,120 Speaker 1: that the girl is still holds so much hate towards 353 00:14:07,200 --> 00:14:08,760 Speaker 1: me for standing up to her and being the one 354 00:14:08,800 --> 00:14:12,280 Speaker 1: person who hold her accountable for her behavior. My friend 355 00:14:12,280 --> 00:14:14,040 Speaker 1: mentioned she might speak with her in the future, and 356 00:14:14,080 --> 00:14:16,120 Speaker 1: I thought that would be healing for her, since they never. 357 00:14:15,960 --> 00:14:16,800 Speaker 3: Got to clear the air. 358 00:14:17,280 --> 00:14:19,400 Speaker 1: A few weeks later, she told me, a few days 359 00:14:19,440 --> 00:14:21,600 Speaker 1: after it had already happened, that she's met this girl 360 00:14:21,600 --> 00:14:24,640 Speaker 1: for coffee. The coffee date was rescheduled twice, which didn't 361 00:14:24,640 --> 00:14:26,200 Speaker 1: seem like a big deal at the time, but now 362 00:14:26,200 --> 00:14:28,520 Speaker 1: I realized She's had plenty of opportunities to tell me 363 00:14:28,560 --> 00:14:30,720 Speaker 1: beforehand that she was going to do this, and she 364 00:14:30,840 --> 00:14:33,640 Speaker 1: chose not to. Fast forward a few weeks, I hear nothing. 365 00:14:34,000 --> 00:14:36,200 Speaker 1: Then I find out that she waited until their friendship 366 00:14:36,240 --> 00:14:39,760 Speaker 1: had been rekindled to finally tell me. While I was clueless, 367 00:14:39,760 --> 00:14:42,240 Speaker 1: thinking she'd never actually do that. Behind my back, they're 368 00:14:42,240 --> 00:14:45,720 Speaker 1: having sleepovers, going out to dinners, and posting Bessie tiktoks 369 00:14:45,760 --> 00:14:48,760 Speaker 1: and pictures together, all while she told me it was 370 00:14:48,800 --> 00:14:50,960 Speaker 1: just a simple conversation over coffee and she wanted to 371 00:14:51,000 --> 00:14:53,280 Speaker 1: leave it at that. My friend is all about having 372 00:14:53,320 --> 00:14:55,640 Speaker 1: no bad blood with anyone, which I can understand, But 373 00:14:55,680 --> 00:14:58,560 Speaker 1: she rekindled with this girl at the expense of our friendship. 374 00:14:58,960 --> 00:15:00,680 Speaker 1: I found out that not only they were hanging out 375 00:15:00,680 --> 00:15:02,520 Speaker 1: like nothing had happened, but that the girl was also 376 00:15:02,640 --> 00:15:04,640 Speaker 1: lying about me and talking badly about me to my 377 00:15:04,680 --> 00:15:07,520 Speaker 1: close friend, who wouldn't defend me instead just sweeps it 378 00:15:07,600 --> 00:15:10,480 Speaker 1: under the rug every time. There's so much more hurt 379 00:15:10,520 --> 00:15:12,920 Speaker 1: behind this, But that's the gist I cut her off 380 00:15:12,920 --> 00:15:15,040 Speaker 1: for it. Would you have done the same in my position, 381 00:15:15,280 --> 00:15:18,360 Speaker 1: you know what? Yeah, in a sense like if I 382 00:15:18,360 --> 00:15:21,400 Speaker 1: think there's levels to it. But if you were both 383 00:15:21,560 --> 00:15:25,240 Speaker 1: mutually screwed over by this girl and your friends just 384 00:15:25,320 --> 00:15:28,040 Speaker 1: acted like like you stood up for it, Yeah, put 385 00:15:28,040 --> 00:15:30,880 Speaker 1: yourself in the firing line. The girls still obviously hold 386 00:15:30,920 --> 00:15:33,160 Speaker 1: a lot of resentment towards you for doing that, and 387 00:15:33,200 --> 00:15:35,280 Speaker 1: your friend's kind of just skirted around the issue. I 388 00:15:35,320 --> 00:15:38,080 Speaker 1: feel like there's always a weird competitiveness with friends in 389 00:15:38,080 --> 00:15:41,920 Speaker 1: that sense. I think you're allowed to have boundaries. I 390 00:15:41,920 --> 00:15:44,760 Speaker 1: don't think I don't honestly see that friendship lasting long, 391 00:15:44,960 --> 00:15:48,080 Speaker 1: like because the mean girl obviously seems like she is 392 00:15:48,120 --> 00:15:52,160 Speaker 1: not you know, someone that would be like a stable, healthy, happy. 393 00:15:51,760 --> 00:15:54,000 Speaker 3: Friend and someone to rely on. 394 00:15:54,120 --> 00:15:57,040 Speaker 1: So I understand why you've done it completely, Like there's 395 00:15:57,080 --> 00:15:58,920 Speaker 1: so many levels to it, and like friendships can be 396 00:15:59,000 --> 00:16:01,640 Speaker 1: so painful, and I turn understand that, especially feeling like 397 00:16:01,680 --> 00:16:04,320 Speaker 1: You've been portrayed for someone that like genuinely isn't a 398 00:16:04,360 --> 00:16:07,320 Speaker 1: good person, And I just think you need to respect 399 00:16:07,360 --> 00:16:09,320 Speaker 1: your boundaries. If being around that isn't going to make 400 00:16:09,360 --> 00:16:12,240 Speaker 1: you feel good, then absolutely do whatever it does. Like, 401 00:16:13,080 --> 00:16:14,440 Speaker 1: you never know how things are going to play on 402 00:16:14,440 --> 00:16:16,760 Speaker 1: the long term. Maybe you'll reconnect, maybe she'll apologize, But 403 00:16:16,800 --> 00:16:18,560 Speaker 1: I think for now, if that's the boundary that you 404 00:16:18,600 --> 00:16:21,320 Speaker 1: need to set to keep yourself happy, then absolutely all right. 405 00:16:21,760 --> 00:16:24,080 Speaker 3: Number two help me out. Oh my god, Izzy love 406 00:16:24,120 --> 00:16:24,520 Speaker 3: the pod. 407 00:16:24,760 --> 00:16:28,480 Speaker 1: Basically, I have found myself in a love triangle which 408 00:16:28,520 --> 00:16:29,880 Speaker 1: has never happened to me before. 409 00:16:30,360 --> 00:16:32,080 Speaker 3: That has never happened. Does that happened to you? 410 00:16:33,400 --> 00:16:33,760 Speaker 2: Yes? 411 00:16:35,240 --> 00:16:37,960 Speaker 3: Have? Will you the point of the triangle? Like the 412 00:16:37,960 --> 00:16:39,000 Speaker 3: two guys wanted. 413 00:16:38,760 --> 00:16:47,080 Speaker 2: You, well, I hate that you asked me that I don't. 414 00:16:46,920 --> 00:16:48,600 Speaker 3: I've never found myself in the love triangle. 415 00:16:49,040 --> 00:16:52,680 Speaker 2: It was like obviously we all weren't dating. It was 416 00:16:52,720 --> 00:16:54,680 Speaker 2: just like a bit of a common theme. I pretty 417 00:16:54,720 --> 00:16:58,160 Speaker 2: much early tapped out, yeah, the idea of At the start, 418 00:16:58,200 --> 00:16:59,600 Speaker 2: I was like, oh, I'm on Sex and the City, 419 00:16:59,640 --> 00:17:01,760 Speaker 2: like let's go. But like as an eventually I was 420 00:17:01,800 --> 00:17:03,400 Speaker 2: like I just can't. Mentally, I think. 421 00:17:03,280 --> 00:17:05,240 Speaker 1: When I was younger, I had like a thing where 422 00:17:06,440 --> 00:17:08,320 Speaker 1: I was dating my boyfriend at the time and there 423 00:17:08,359 --> 00:17:10,200 Speaker 1: was someone that I'd been friends with for a really 424 00:17:10,200 --> 00:17:11,840 Speaker 1: long time that kind of told me that they had 425 00:17:11,880 --> 00:17:15,080 Speaker 1: feelings for me, But it wasn't really a love triangle 426 00:17:15,119 --> 00:17:16,240 Speaker 1: because like I had a boyfriend. 427 00:17:16,280 --> 00:17:18,400 Speaker 2: Okay, I'm so sorry. I sound like a pick me now, 428 00:17:18,440 --> 00:17:20,200 Speaker 2: but I've actually been at the point of one. Now 429 00:17:20,200 --> 00:17:23,359 Speaker 2: I think, Okay, oh my god, how can I forget 430 00:17:23,400 --> 00:17:25,760 Speaker 2: about that? I'm going to write that down. 431 00:17:25,800 --> 00:17:30,000 Speaker 1: Literally, all right, I'm beyond shocked. If one guy wants me, 432 00:17:30,080 --> 00:17:33,320 Speaker 1: don't say that you're a catch, let alone too. I'll 433 00:17:33,400 --> 00:17:36,439 Speaker 1: use fake names Sam and Josh. I'm in third year 434 00:17:36,560 --> 00:17:38,919 Speaker 1: UNI and I met Sam through some mutual friends. We 435 00:17:39,040 --> 00:17:41,120 Speaker 1: ended up forming a friend group with an active group 436 00:17:41,200 --> 00:17:44,120 Speaker 1: chat and weekly hangouts. Sam and I often find ourselves 437 00:17:44,200 --> 00:17:47,080 Speaker 1: having our own conversations. At these hangouts. We usually step 438 00:17:47,119 --> 00:17:50,120 Speaker 1: outside for a dart. But I haven't heard that word 439 00:17:50,160 --> 00:17:51,639 Speaker 1: in so long. I was so nostalgic for me. 440 00:17:52,160 --> 00:17:55,280 Speaker 2: So this is toxic. But I'm now just like making 441 00:17:55,320 --> 00:17:58,080 Speaker 2: these people characters on the summer. I'm like, Sam, such 442 00:17:58,080 --> 00:17:58,720 Speaker 2: a conrade. 443 00:17:58,880 --> 00:17:59,920 Speaker 3: Sam's a conrade. 444 00:18:00,480 --> 00:18:06,800 Speaker 1: We'll see we'll see girl. You're giving belly. One time, No, no, 445 00:18:06,840 --> 00:18:09,680 Speaker 1: we hate bally. I take that back. You're amazing. One 446 00:18:09,720 --> 00:18:11,520 Speaker 1: time we lost track of time and we're gone for 447 00:18:11,560 --> 00:18:13,800 Speaker 1: two hours and we thought I had only been twenty minutes. 448 00:18:14,000 --> 00:18:18,080 Speaker 1: That's when you know someone's so you lose time. Wait, 449 00:18:18,119 --> 00:18:20,480 Speaker 1: you lose track of time and having fun. He once 450 00:18:20,520 --> 00:18:22,240 Speaker 1: put his hand on my thigh and kept it there 451 00:18:22,240 --> 00:18:24,880 Speaker 1: for ages. He only moved it to check his phone, 452 00:18:24,920 --> 00:18:28,280 Speaker 1: then put it back. We message often, and what I 453 00:18:28,359 --> 00:18:29,639 Speaker 1: like is that he responds quickly. 454 00:18:30,400 --> 00:18:30,879 Speaker 3: I love it. 455 00:18:31,119 --> 00:18:33,800 Speaker 1: I love when a man isn't afraid to show interest 456 00:18:33,840 --> 00:18:35,760 Speaker 1: by responding quickly, Like I don't need to play the 457 00:18:35,800 --> 00:18:38,040 Speaker 1: game of There are people, friends, I know girls, I 458 00:18:38,080 --> 00:18:40,040 Speaker 1: know that. Go oh he didn't respond for thirty minutes, 459 00:18:40,040 --> 00:18:42,400 Speaker 1: so I now have to wait an hour. I'm like, bro, 460 00:18:42,960 --> 00:18:44,720 Speaker 1: he might not have been on his phone for thirty minutes. 461 00:18:44,720 --> 00:18:46,320 Speaker 1: If I'm on my phone and you text me, I'm 462 00:18:46,320 --> 00:18:46,840 Speaker 1: gonna reply. 463 00:18:47,000 --> 00:18:49,560 Speaker 2: I've had people set time, so like, oh, I can't 464 00:18:49,600 --> 00:18:51,240 Speaker 2: go back to him like four or fifty. 465 00:18:51,280 --> 00:18:51,480 Speaker 3: No. 466 00:18:52,440 --> 00:18:55,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's fucking I think that's childish and stupid, and 467 00:18:55,119 --> 00:18:57,320 Speaker 1: it's only going to end badly when you play stupid 468 00:18:57,320 --> 00:18:57,920 Speaker 1: games like that. 469 00:18:58,119 --> 00:18:59,320 Speaker 2: It's just it's just. 470 00:18:59,280 --> 00:19:01,320 Speaker 1: Like if you're playing games at such a light level. Look, 471 00:19:01,359 --> 00:19:05,480 Speaker 1: it's only any it works anyway. The issue I don't 472 00:19:05,520 --> 00:19:10,320 Speaker 1: think I actually like him, Belly, this is Jeremiah, now, 473 00:19:10,560 --> 00:19:13,040 Speaker 1: Sam is Jeremiah. I can admit he's attractive, but he's 474 00:19:13,080 --> 00:19:15,480 Speaker 1: not my usual type. The main thing throwing me off 475 00:19:15,560 --> 00:19:20,000 Speaker 1: is he seven feet tall and I'm five six. To me, 476 00:19:20,119 --> 00:19:22,280 Speaker 1: it just doesn't look right. All my friends say IM 477 00:19:22,320 --> 00:19:24,159 Speaker 1: crazy and that most girls would love that, but it 478 00:19:24,200 --> 00:19:26,800 Speaker 1: really bothers me. I'm going to try and put that 479 00:19:26,840 --> 00:19:27,800 Speaker 1: into my perspective. 480 00:19:27,920 --> 00:19:29,800 Speaker 3: You're four inches taller than me. 481 00:19:29,920 --> 00:19:31,640 Speaker 1: If I was five to two, that means the guy 482 00:19:31,680 --> 00:19:36,600 Speaker 1: would be six six six seven. 483 00:19:37,119 --> 00:19:37,960 Speaker 2: I drop maths. 484 00:19:38,280 --> 00:19:40,199 Speaker 1: I would well, I don't know how many interests are 485 00:19:40,200 --> 00:19:43,960 Speaker 1: in the feet. I think it's eleven six seven something. 486 00:19:44,040 --> 00:19:48,240 Speaker 1: I don't don't quote me. I would love that. I 487 00:19:48,280 --> 00:19:50,280 Speaker 1: would absolutely date a six to seven man. 488 00:19:50,840 --> 00:19:53,399 Speaker 2: Full transparency, I didn't read this in full before putting 489 00:19:53,400 --> 00:19:54,680 Speaker 2: it in, but seven. 490 00:19:54,480 --> 00:19:56,080 Speaker 3: Foot seven foot's very tall. 491 00:19:56,160 --> 00:19:58,440 Speaker 2: I think I'm six three and I've been a seven 492 00:19:58,440 --> 00:20:02,119 Speaker 2: foot gay guy and we'll both single it. I literally like, 493 00:20:02,200 --> 00:20:04,159 Speaker 2: this sounds terrible, but I was like, this is a 494 00:20:04,200 --> 00:20:07,360 Speaker 2: bit tall. Like he was like literally yeading to get 495 00:20:07,359 --> 00:20:08,200 Speaker 2: through door frames. 496 00:20:08,320 --> 00:20:13,120 Speaker 1: Okay, seven is really tall. I think seven yeah, seven 497 00:20:13,119 --> 00:20:15,439 Speaker 1: foots tall. If we're talking about the height difference, I 498 00:20:15,520 --> 00:20:16,440 Speaker 1: don't think it's that bad. 499 00:20:16,440 --> 00:20:18,520 Speaker 3: But it's like he just is a really fucking talker. 500 00:20:18,640 --> 00:20:23,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, so I think I understand. Then there's Josh new 501 00:20:23,119 --> 00:20:25,520 Speaker 1: character introduced. I met him on a night out his 502 00:20:25,600 --> 00:20:28,120 Speaker 1: best mates is one of my friends. I immediately thought 503 00:20:28,160 --> 00:20:30,760 Speaker 1: he was gorgeous. We added each other on social media 504 00:20:30,800 --> 00:20:32,600 Speaker 1: and now took on the phone every day and he's 505 00:20:32,600 --> 00:20:34,919 Speaker 1: genuinely one of the sweetest people I've ever spoken to, 506 00:20:35,160 --> 00:20:38,119 Speaker 1: and I find him very attractive. Only issue is that 507 00:20:38,160 --> 00:20:41,000 Speaker 1: he's a terrible responder. We mostly use Snapchat. I know 508 00:20:41,040 --> 00:20:42,240 Speaker 1: you hate it, but I'm nineteen. 509 00:20:42,320 --> 00:20:43,040 Speaker 3: Let me enjoy it. 510 00:20:44,160 --> 00:20:46,960 Speaker 1: You can have Snapchat until you're twenty two. That's what 511 00:20:47,000 --> 00:20:48,879 Speaker 1: I'll say. So girl, you're well in the clear. You 512 00:20:48,960 --> 00:20:49,400 Speaker 1: enjoy it. 513 00:20:49,520 --> 00:20:52,359 Speaker 3: I would never judge you unless you're older than twenty. 514 00:20:53,840 --> 00:20:57,040 Speaker 3: I love how she knows that I've been saying this 515 00:20:57,080 --> 00:20:57,880 Speaker 3: for a long time. 516 00:20:59,040 --> 00:21:01,200 Speaker 1: I can see his location and sometimes he's active but 517 00:21:01,280 --> 00:21:04,399 Speaker 1: hasn't opened my messages from an hour ago I was 518 00:21:04,440 --> 00:21:08,920 Speaker 1: gonna I was going to say, being a bad responder 519 00:21:08,960 --> 00:21:10,920 Speaker 1: isn't the end of the world. You know, sometimes people 520 00:21:10,920 --> 00:21:14,760 Speaker 1: are busy, genuinely busy. I think the way I used 521 00:21:14,800 --> 00:21:16,760 Speaker 1: to get really hung up on stuff like that is 522 00:21:16,760 --> 00:21:18,880 Speaker 1: because I could, say, see their location on Snapchat when 523 00:21:18,880 --> 00:21:20,440 Speaker 1: I was younger, and I would see that they've been active, 524 00:21:20,480 --> 00:21:22,000 Speaker 1: and then it makes you feel like they're ignoring you. 525 00:21:22,480 --> 00:21:26,480 Speaker 1: I really really urge you to stop checking when he's 526 00:21:26,480 --> 00:21:30,399 Speaker 1: been active. I think it only makes you stressed and 527 00:21:30,560 --> 00:21:31,760 Speaker 1: worried about why. 528 00:21:31,600 --> 00:21:32,760 Speaker 3: He's not opening your messages. 529 00:21:32,800 --> 00:21:35,760 Speaker 1: But on something like text, you don't know whether they're 530 00:21:35,800 --> 00:21:39,280 Speaker 1: out doing things, whether they're you know, busy, and it's 531 00:21:39,320 --> 00:21:40,760 Speaker 1: just that it takes it a little bit of that 532 00:21:40,880 --> 00:21:42,960 Speaker 1: stress out of it as to like, oh, they're active 533 00:21:43,000 --> 00:21:44,040 Speaker 1: and they didn't open it. 534 00:21:44,320 --> 00:21:47,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, And when it comes to like reuniting, it's really 535 00:21:47,920 --> 00:21:50,920 Speaker 2: disproportionate because you're living in this universe we like, you've 536 00:21:51,280 --> 00:21:53,320 Speaker 2: cheated on me, you were out here, you ignored me 537 00:21:53,440 --> 00:21:54,880 Speaker 2: for this, And he's actually. 538 00:21:54,560 --> 00:21:57,399 Speaker 1: Like, like, I only dropped over my phone for like 539 00:21:57,480 --> 00:21:59,679 Speaker 1: one second to like search something up for work, and 540 00:21:59,720 --> 00:22:01,040 Speaker 1: it's like, Okay, do you know what I mean, I 541 00:22:01,119 --> 00:22:03,600 Speaker 1: just think I really urge you for your own mental health. 542 00:22:03,680 --> 00:22:05,560 Speaker 1: Did not check that as much as you do. I 543 00:22:05,600 --> 00:22:08,440 Speaker 1: know you probably will continue because I sure did, but 544 00:22:08,880 --> 00:22:12,160 Speaker 1: try not to. Okay, He's admitted he's bad at replying 545 00:22:12,240 --> 00:22:14,760 Speaker 1: and only messages a couple of people regularly, and I'm 546 00:22:14,760 --> 00:22:16,919 Speaker 1: one of them. Our mutual friend even told me not 547 00:22:16,920 --> 00:22:19,440 Speaker 1: to take it personally. Josh barely responds to his own mates. 548 00:22:19,880 --> 00:22:23,840 Speaker 1: I can be like that, So I understand. We're currently 549 00:22:23,920 --> 00:22:25,640 Speaker 1: planning to hang out, and like I said, we talk 550 00:22:25,720 --> 00:22:27,879 Speaker 1: for hours most nights, but it bothers me that he 551 00:22:27,880 --> 00:22:29,280 Speaker 1: doesn't reply much throughout the day. 552 00:22:29,640 --> 00:22:31,119 Speaker 3: Hey, that actually is good. 553 00:22:31,640 --> 00:22:34,080 Speaker 1: When he's at home doing no work or anything, he's 554 00:22:34,080 --> 00:22:35,880 Speaker 1: on his phone and he's responding to you. But when 555 00:22:35,920 --> 00:22:38,879 Speaker 1: he's during the day, he's probably working, probably studying, probably 556 00:22:38,880 --> 00:22:41,360 Speaker 1: doing UNI. I tend to not go on my phone 557 00:22:41,440 --> 00:22:43,680 Speaker 1: much until I'm in bed at night, and Alicia of 558 00:22:43,760 --> 00:22:47,119 Speaker 1: a theme. Yeah, like that shows he's consistent. You know, 559 00:22:47,200 --> 00:22:50,159 Speaker 1: we love consistent King. It makes me question whether he 560 00:22:50,160 --> 00:22:51,919 Speaker 1: really likes me, even though I know it's just how 561 00:22:51,960 --> 00:22:54,199 Speaker 1: he is. I'm definitely leaning more towards Josh because I'm 562 00:22:54,240 --> 00:22:55,879 Speaker 1: more attracted to him. But he's not giving me the 563 00:22:55,920 --> 00:22:58,720 Speaker 1: attention I want. Maybe it's not right. Should I stick 564 00:22:58,720 --> 00:23:00,320 Speaker 1: with the guy I'm more attracted to the one that 565 00:23:00,359 --> 00:23:04,160 Speaker 1: shows me more interest? Okay, definitely go for Josh. Give 566 00:23:04,200 --> 00:23:06,159 Speaker 1: it a go, Like what have you got to lose? 567 00:23:06,440 --> 00:23:10,720 Speaker 1: I know, like broken hearts whatever. You don't like the 568 00:23:10,760 --> 00:23:12,679 Speaker 1: other guys anything more than a friend, it seems, and 569 00:23:12,800 --> 00:23:14,880 Speaker 1: you can like, oh, you got caught up for two 570 00:23:14,880 --> 00:23:16,840 Speaker 1: hours talking. I'd get caught up with my best friends 571 00:23:16,880 --> 00:23:18,600 Speaker 1: for two hours talking. That could just mean like, this 572 00:23:18,640 --> 00:23:20,320 Speaker 1: guy is a really good friend and like will be 573 00:23:20,320 --> 00:23:21,760 Speaker 1: a really great friend to you in the future. 574 00:23:21,840 --> 00:23:22,720 Speaker 3: You know, just. 575 00:23:22,680 --> 00:23:25,520 Speaker 1: Because you get along with him does not mean he 576 00:23:25,560 --> 00:23:26,960 Speaker 1: has to be a guy that you date. 577 00:23:27,560 --> 00:23:29,200 Speaker 3: Yeah, he can be a new friend. 578 00:23:28,960 --> 00:23:33,040 Speaker 2: And obviously attraction first, Like while I'm reading this and 579 00:23:33,080 --> 00:23:36,640 Speaker 2: this is paper to us, like Sam probably does sound 580 00:23:36,720 --> 00:23:37,800 Speaker 2: good on paper, ever. 581 00:23:37,800 --> 00:23:39,800 Speaker 1: Sounds great, But he can be a really good friend. 582 00:23:39,840 --> 00:23:41,800 Speaker 1: He doesn't have to be your guy because you don't 583 00:23:41,840 --> 00:23:42,880 Speaker 1: view him like that. 584 00:23:43,280 --> 00:23:47,960 Speaker 2: And like your problem slash speed bumps with Josh, they're fixable. 585 00:23:48,240 --> 00:23:51,719 Speaker 1: It's so fixible and that's so new to be honest, Like, 586 00:23:52,359 --> 00:23:54,200 Speaker 1: wait till you catch up with him in person? Maybe 587 00:23:54,280 --> 00:23:56,439 Speaker 1: once he meets you, he'll form more of an interest 588 00:23:56,440 --> 00:23:58,199 Speaker 1: in you, and then he therefore will be better at 589 00:23:58,240 --> 00:24:00,199 Speaker 1: responding because he's like, hey, I could really like this girl, 590 00:24:00,280 --> 00:24:02,080 Speaker 1: but for now, maybe he doesn't feel like giving up 591 00:24:02,119 --> 00:24:03,520 Speaker 1: all of his time in the day to respond to 592 00:24:03,520 --> 00:24:06,400 Speaker 1: someone that he doesn't yet know. If you know it's 593 00:24:06,400 --> 00:24:07,920 Speaker 1: going to be something, I think you just need to 594 00:24:07,960 --> 00:24:09,280 Speaker 1: take its low and see how you go with the 595 00:24:09,280 --> 00:24:10,320 Speaker 1: guy that you're interested in. 596 00:24:10,600 --> 00:24:13,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, And I think we all want this like constant 597 00:24:13,400 --> 00:24:17,240 Speaker 2: communication thing happening really and. 598 00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:19,000 Speaker 3: Get that unless it's a partner. 599 00:24:19,560 --> 00:24:23,280 Speaker 2: But like this doesn't sound really genuine, but you also 600 00:24:23,359 --> 00:24:25,399 Speaker 2: run out of material to talk to them about, like 601 00:24:25,440 --> 00:24:27,480 Speaker 2: you kind of do want a drip feed yeah. 602 00:24:28,119 --> 00:24:30,360 Speaker 1: Thing reply really quickly, and I'm like, I'm not ready 603 00:24:30,400 --> 00:24:32,199 Speaker 1: to respond to you because I actually don't know what 604 00:24:32,320 --> 00:24:34,439 Speaker 1: to say. And the more we talk, the more we 605 00:24:34,480 --> 00:24:36,560 Speaker 1: talk about, the less we have to talk about, like 606 00:24:36,880 --> 00:24:38,000 Speaker 1: less stuff we have left. 607 00:24:38,160 --> 00:24:40,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, And dare I say there will come a day 608 00:24:40,560 --> 00:24:44,480 Speaker 2: where you're probably going to not want to be communicating 609 00:24:44,520 --> 00:24:46,320 Speaker 2: all the time on the phone either. Like I think 610 00:24:46,359 --> 00:24:48,560 Speaker 2: we all go through different stages, Like I very much 611 00:24:48,640 --> 00:24:50,880 Speaker 2: used to be like that. Now people in my life. 612 00:24:50,920 --> 00:24:52,600 Speaker 2: I just want people that can catch up with every 613 00:24:52,600 --> 00:24:53,880 Speaker 2: two weeks and nothing change. 614 00:24:53,920 --> 00:24:56,280 Speaker 1: I think the fact he's responding so much at night 615 00:24:56,400 --> 00:25:00,560 Speaker 1: is great. Yeah, because he's interested. People don't respond regularly 616 00:25:00,600 --> 00:25:02,840 Speaker 1: at all if they're not. Like if I'm not interested 617 00:25:02,840 --> 00:25:04,920 Speaker 1: in someone, I will like text them once a day 618 00:25:05,000 --> 00:25:07,320 Speaker 1: and slow goos them until they stopped texting me. 619 00:25:08,240 --> 00:25:10,159 Speaker 3: I'm never actually someone that can straight up be like 620 00:25:10,200 --> 00:25:11,800 Speaker 3: I'm no, I don't like you, and I. 621 00:25:11,720 --> 00:25:15,560 Speaker 1: Tend not to ignore people either until I've done a nice, solid. 622 00:25:15,240 --> 00:25:17,520 Speaker 3: Week long slogos. Then I'll ignore. 623 00:25:17,640 --> 00:25:19,760 Speaker 1: I think he seems interested, Just catch up with him, 624 00:25:19,800 --> 00:25:24,000 Speaker 1: see how it goes. Once he's actually like developed feelings 625 00:25:24,040 --> 00:25:26,159 Speaker 1: or interest, I think it will be different. But you 626 00:25:26,200 --> 00:25:29,200 Speaker 1: can't expect too much out of someone this early on. 627 00:25:29,359 --> 00:25:32,480 Speaker 1: I think what he's giving you right now is proportionate 628 00:25:32,520 --> 00:25:33,120 Speaker 1: to the situation. 629 00:25:33,640 --> 00:25:34,280 Speaker 3: Do you know what I mean? 630 00:25:34,560 --> 00:25:36,120 Speaker 2: Totally? But keep us posted. 631 00:25:36,280 --> 00:25:37,719 Speaker 3: He posted. I want to know how it goes, and 632 00:25:38,160 --> 00:25:39,159 Speaker 3: you're not going to end know with's. 633 00:25:39,000 --> 00:25:41,119 Speaker 2: Am Yeah, and please film this because it's the summer 634 00:25:41,119 --> 00:25:44,920 Speaker 2: I turn pretty's ending. Else we need a new triangle. 635 00:25:47,520 --> 00:25:48,200 Speaker 3: Help me out. 636 00:25:48,680 --> 00:25:50,480 Speaker 1: Hey, I'm in a bit of a tricky situation that 637 00:25:50,520 --> 00:25:53,399 Speaker 1: could really use an outside perspective. My friend Lucy and 638 00:25:53,400 --> 00:25:55,280 Speaker 1: I have been planning a six month trip to UK 639 00:25:55,359 --> 00:25:58,960 Speaker 1: next year to work and travel so fun. From the start, 640 00:25:59,080 --> 00:26:00,600 Speaker 1: my plan was that it would just be the two 641 00:26:00,640 --> 00:26:03,959 Speaker 1: of us, a fun, independent, single girls adventure. We were 642 00:26:03,960 --> 00:26:06,119 Speaker 1: both in relationships at the time, but we agreed it 643 00:26:06,119 --> 00:26:08,200 Speaker 1: would be a girl's only trip and if our boyfriends 644 00:26:08,240 --> 00:26:10,240 Speaker 1: wanted to visit in the middle, that would be fine, 645 00:26:10,480 --> 00:26:11,840 Speaker 1: but the core of it was always meant to be 646 00:26:11,880 --> 00:26:15,200 Speaker 1: the two of us. Having that experience together sounds great. 647 00:26:15,600 --> 00:26:17,080 Speaker 1: I feel like it's not going to end up like 648 00:26:17,119 --> 00:26:20,600 Speaker 1: that now things have changed. I recently went through a breakup, 649 00:26:20,640 --> 00:26:22,640 Speaker 1: so I'm single and Lucy has told me she wants 650 00:26:22,640 --> 00:26:25,760 Speaker 1: her boyfriend to come for the whole trip. No, Lucy, 651 00:26:26,560 --> 00:26:28,960 Speaker 1: I don't agree with that, especially now that you're single. 652 00:26:29,000 --> 00:26:30,400 Speaker 3: It's a totally different ballgame. 653 00:26:31,000 --> 00:26:34,920 Speaker 1: Absolutely, her boyfriend can still visit, but no, no, that 654 00:26:35,080 --> 00:26:37,280 Speaker 1: is just not then who are you going to go 655 00:26:37,320 --> 00:26:38,879 Speaker 1: out with and have drinks with. You're going to be 656 00:26:38,920 --> 00:26:41,880 Speaker 1: literally on your own. Basically, you might as well not go. 657 00:26:42,040 --> 00:26:43,560 Speaker 1: I know, we'll silly, but. 658 00:26:44,080 --> 00:26:46,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, but it now becomes their experience as a couple. 659 00:26:46,880 --> 00:26:48,520 Speaker 1: And something, and they're going to want to have date 660 00:26:48,600 --> 00:26:50,879 Speaker 1: nights and like, you know, it's just it's a totally 661 00:26:50,880 --> 00:26:55,080 Speaker 1: different experience because she's now going to have two people there. 662 00:26:57,560 --> 00:26:58,600 Speaker 3: I'm honestly thrown. 663 00:26:58,800 --> 00:27:01,199 Speaker 1: This completely changes the DNA of two girls leaving a 664 00:27:01,200 --> 00:27:03,679 Speaker 1: broad adventure to me third Willie and a couple for 665 00:27:03,720 --> 00:27:04,200 Speaker 1: six months. 666 00:27:04,200 --> 00:27:05,480 Speaker 3: That is not what I signed up for. 667 00:27:06,200 --> 00:27:07,840 Speaker 1: I brought it up to her and a response was 668 00:27:07,880 --> 00:27:09,760 Speaker 1: just a brief I'm sorry, but he wants to come. 669 00:27:10,160 --> 00:27:12,120 Speaker 1: I feel kind of portrayed, like we had a clear 670 00:27:12,160 --> 00:27:14,800 Speaker 1: plan and now it's being rewritten without much consideration for 671 00:27:14,840 --> 00:27:15,560 Speaker 1: how it affects me. 672 00:27:15,680 --> 00:27:17,320 Speaker 3: What should I do? Girl? 673 00:27:19,160 --> 00:27:21,720 Speaker 1: I either think, I know, you want to be with 674 00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:25,280 Speaker 1: your friend, but like, at this rate, it's either looking 675 00:27:25,320 --> 00:27:27,200 Speaker 1: like you may as well do a solo travel abroad 676 00:27:27,240 --> 00:27:28,920 Speaker 1: or not do it at all, because like. 677 00:27:29,720 --> 00:27:30,360 Speaker 3: Put it this way. 678 00:27:31,280 --> 00:27:33,080 Speaker 1: I went on a holiday to New York for a 679 00:27:33,119 --> 00:27:36,199 Speaker 1: month with Hannah. There was just us two initially we 680 00:27:36,240 --> 00:27:38,919 Speaker 1: were both single. She then gets a boyfriend. Yeah, fine, 681 00:27:39,080 --> 00:27:42,280 Speaker 1: absolutely happy for her, but she was still was like, 682 00:27:42,440 --> 00:27:45,080 Speaker 1: let's just go together, you know, And it was fine 683 00:27:45,080 --> 00:27:46,840 Speaker 1: and it was great. And it's like because her boyfriend 684 00:27:46,920 --> 00:27:49,240 Speaker 1: wasn't there. It meant the attention was still on me, 685 00:27:49,400 --> 00:27:51,000 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. We're going out together, we're 686 00:27:51,000 --> 00:27:53,960 Speaker 1: doing early things. Her boyfriend ended up surprising us and 687 00:27:54,000 --> 00:27:56,239 Speaker 1: coming over. I love her boyfriend and I've known him 688 00:27:56,280 --> 00:27:58,960 Speaker 1: for like fifteen years, so it was fine. But then 689 00:27:59,000 --> 00:28:00,880 Speaker 1: even in that little way, it kind of it does 690 00:28:00,960 --> 00:28:02,640 Speaker 1: end up you being a little bit of a third will, 691 00:28:02,800 --> 00:28:04,520 Speaker 1: you know. When they did their utmost never to make 692 00:28:04,560 --> 00:28:06,400 Speaker 1: me feel like that, But bottom line is it ends 693 00:28:06,480 --> 00:28:06,840 Speaker 1: up like that. 694 00:28:06,920 --> 00:28:08,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, and they're excited to see each other. 695 00:28:08,720 --> 00:28:12,159 Speaker 1: And that was a week. Yeah, and by the end 696 00:28:12,200 --> 00:28:14,040 Speaker 1: of the week it was like that. Kind I ended 697 00:28:14,119 --> 00:28:16,080 Speaker 1: up feeling more and more like a third will. No 698 00:28:16,160 --> 00:28:18,520 Speaker 1: hate to Hannah or her partner. Adore them both, and 699 00:28:18,640 --> 00:28:20,199 Speaker 1: it's but it's just the way that things go. And 700 00:28:20,240 --> 00:28:22,080 Speaker 1: I know that they were actively trying to make it 701 00:28:22,119 --> 00:28:25,000 Speaker 1: not like that, but that's reality. This is a six 702 00:28:25,040 --> 00:28:27,240 Speaker 1: month holiday. I can promise to you that by week three, 703 00:28:27,400 --> 00:28:31,320 Speaker 1: you're pretty much they're gonna stop caring that you feel 704 00:28:31,359 --> 00:28:32,680 Speaker 1: like a third will, because they're. 705 00:28:32,520 --> 00:28:34,040 Speaker 3: Like, we're enjoying this holiday together. 706 00:28:34,560 --> 00:28:37,119 Speaker 1: I also, I don't like that there wasn't a conversation 707 00:28:37,280 --> 00:28:39,520 Speaker 1: or a consideration, and that she doesn't seem to understand 708 00:28:39,560 --> 00:28:42,800 Speaker 1: where you're coming from or have any like empathy towards 709 00:28:42,840 --> 00:28:45,120 Speaker 1: how you would be feeling, especially since you have just 710 00:28:45,120 --> 00:28:48,800 Speaker 1: gone through a breakup. But like I'm honestly telling you 711 00:28:48,960 --> 00:28:50,480 Speaker 1: that is not going to be an enjoyable trip for 712 00:28:50,560 --> 00:28:53,000 Speaker 1: you and really sorry to say that. And the fact 713 00:28:53,000 --> 00:28:56,400 Speaker 1: there's no flax, like okay, maybe he joins this halfway 714 00:28:56,480 --> 00:28:59,720 Speaker 1: through or like comes for two months in the middle. 715 00:29:00,040 --> 00:29:02,720 Speaker 2: In the first month we travel around while he stays 716 00:29:02,720 --> 00:29:02,959 Speaker 2: at bed. 717 00:29:03,280 --> 00:29:06,600 Speaker 1: Honestly, what's even the fucking point of going abroad with 718 00:29:06,640 --> 00:29:07,000 Speaker 1: a partner? 719 00:29:07,120 --> 00:29:07,840 Speaker 3: Six? Do you know what I mean? 720 00:29:07,840 --> 00:29:10,120 Speaker 1: It's like you guys wanted to be like kind of 721 00:29:10,200 --> 00:29:13,600 Speaker 1: almost finding yourself sort of sitch totally, which isn't going 722 00:29:13,680 --> 00:29:14,960 Speaker 1: to happen in the setting you're in. 723 00:29:15,600 --> 00:29:18,600 Speaker 2: No, And like I don't like to speak in totals 724 00:29:18,800 --> 00:29:21,480 Speaker 2: or like when someone writes in say dump them or 725 00:29:21,680 --> 00:29:24,840 Speaker 2: don't do this, yeah, do this, But like I think 726 00:29:24,840 --> 00:29:27,960 Speaker 2: this trip's a really big investment, and like I've always 727 00:29:27,960 --> 00:29:29,240 Speaker 2: wanted to go to Europe. I want to go on 728 00:29:29,240 --> 00:29:31,760 Speaker 2: a holiday there next year. It has to be everything 729 00:29:31,800 --> 00:29:34,400 Speaker 2: you wanted to be, Otherwise you were throwing money away. 730 00:29:34,440 --> 00:29:37,960 Speaker 2: You were going to have so much resentment towards your friends. 731 00:29:37,840 --> 00:29:40,200 Speaker 1: It's gonna end up sucking the friendship. Yeah, yeah, I 732 00:29:40,320 --> 00:29:45,480 Speaker 1: honestly think potentially trying to maybe find someone else that 733 00:29:45,480 --> 00:29:47,560 Speaker 1: would want to come with you, that you can say 734 00:29:47,640 --> 00:29:49,440 Speaker 1: like another friend and you can stay with them. And 735 00:29:49,480 --> 00:29:51,360 Speaker 1: if that girl and her partners are still going to 736 00:29:51,400 --> 00:29:53,720 Speaker 1: go great, you can meet up with them, you can 737 00:29:53,760 --> 00:29:56,080 Speaker 1: get dinners with them, go out with them. But you 738 00:29:56,280 --> 00:29:58,240 Speaker 1: have another girl with you that is going to be 739 00:29:58,280 --> 00:30:01,080 Speaker 1: living that fun single adventure with She doesn't even need 740 00:30:01,120 --> 00:30:04,080 Speaker 1: to be single, but like just her partner not there 741 00:30:04,680 --> 00:30:08,200 Speaker 1: living that adventure with you. I think, yeah, you either 742 00:30:08,200 --> 00:30:11,080 Speaker 1: need to add someone else or potentially reconsider the trip 743 00:30:11,120 --> 00:30:15,240 Speaker 1: because I do think if Lucy's not willing to at 744 00:30:15,320 --> 00:30:17,400 Speaker 1: least not be with her partner the whole time, You're 745 00:30:17,440 --> 00:30:19,960 Speaker 1: going to end up probably not enjoying yourself as much. 746 00:30:19,800 --> 00:30:20,320 Speaker 3: As you would. 747 00:30:20,520 --> 00:30:22,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's not the idea. 748 00:30:22,960 --> 00:30:24,760 Speaker 3: Can absolutely grow from oh my. 749 00:30:24,720 --> 00:30:27,520 Speaker 2: God, totally and it's like not the result you wanted. 750 00:30:27,600 --> 00:30:30,360 Speaker 2: But I think actually to give yourself the trip that 751 00:30:30,400 --> 00:30:33,320 Speaker 2: you want and like. 752 00:30:32,320 --> 00:30:35,640 Speaker 1: Either add another girl and stay separately, or see if 753 00:30:35,680 --> 00:30:38,520 Speaker 1: you can get Lucy to flex a little bit on 754 00:30:38,800 --> 00:30:40,800 Speaker 1: her boyfriend being there the whole time. So at least 755 00:30:40,840 --> 00:30:42,800 Speaker 1: you have a couple of months maybe where you can 756 00:30:42,920 --> 00:30:44,240 Speaker 1: enjoy that experience with her. 757 00:30:44,840 --> 00:30:45,280 Speaker 3: I don't know. 758 00:30:45,480 --> 00:30:48,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, keep his posted, all right. 759 00:30:48,600 --> 00:30:51,080 Speaker 1: Help me out, hey, babe. I absolutely love the party. 760 00:30:51,120 --> 00:30:53,880 Speaker 1: I need some relationship advice. I feel very blessed that 761 00:30:53,880 --> 00:30:55,960 Speaker 1: you guys trust me with your relationship advice when I'm 762 00:30:55,960 --> 00:30:57,360 Speaker 1: so fucking seriously single. 763 00:30:58,320 --> 00:30:59,480 Speaker 3: Like people can always give good. 764 00:30:59,360 --> 00:31:01,800 Speaker 2: Advice, they just follow it totally. That's me. 765 00:31:02,120 --> 00:31:03,680 Speaker 3: So what I tell you I probably wouldn't do. 766 00:31:04,720 --> 00:31:07,080 Speaker 1: I've been with my current boyfriend for three years and 767 00:31:07,160 --> 00:31:09,360 Speaker 1: I think he might be the one. He's so loving 768 00:31:09,400 --> 00:31:12,880 Speaker 1: and always supportive. The only issue is his dad absolutely 769 00:31:12,920 --> 00:31:13,320 Speaker 1: hates me. 770 00:31:16,200 --> 00:31:17,120 Speaker 3: No matter what I do. 771 00:31:17,280 --> 00:31:19,800 Speaker 1: He always finds something to criticize, and he even tries 772 00:31:19,840 --> 00:31:22,360 Speaker 1: to talk badly about me to my partner. My partner 773 00:31:22,360 --> 00:31:24,520 Speaker 1: defends me, but I struggle with the thought of having 774 00:31:24,560 --> 00:31:26,000 Speaker 1: to deal with this for the rest of my life. 775 00:31:26,040 --> 00:31:26,600 Speaker 2: What do I do? 776 00:31:28,600 --> 00:31:31,560 Speaker 1: The sad reality is you don't marry the man, you 777 00:31:31,600 --> 00:31:35,480 Speaker 1: marry the family. A lot of the time, I have 778 00:31:35,640 --> 00:31:40,920 Speaker 1: had an ex's parent not particularly like me, and it 779 00:31:41,120 --> 00:31:44,239 Speaker 1: was brutal, and I think the thing that helped me 780 00:31:44,400 --> 00:31:48,320 Speaker 1: was that, Yeah, my partner did defend me have my back, 781 00:31:48,360 --> 00:31:50,440 Speaker 1: and I think that's great. But you always do worry 782 00:31:50,480 --> 00:31:52,560 Speaker 1: that there might come a time where they stop doing that, 783 00:31:52,760 --> 00:31:53,520 Speaker 1: or where. 784 00:31:53,800 --> 00:31:55,040 Speaker 3: Something gets into their head. 785 00:31:55,160 --> 00:32:00,160 Speaker 1: I really wish I had an answer for you, but 786 00:32:01,480 --> 00:32:03,640 Speaker 1: I think as long as you communicate with your partner 787 00:32:03,640 --> 00:32:05,800 Speaker 1: and you know that they're still defending you and helping you, 788 00:32:05,880 --> 00:32:08,560 Speaker 1: like I don't think you should make any hectic decisions 789 00:32:08,560 --> 00:32:11,440 Speaker 1: based off a parent if he is the person that 790 00:32:11,480 --> 00:32:13,200 Speaker 1: you love and the person that you want to be with, 791 00:32:13,320 --> 00:32:17,360 Speaker 1: like I wouldn't. I almost would wonder if it's worth 792 00:32:17,400 --> 00:32:21,360 Speaker 1: like having a fucking sit down and kind of getting 793 00:32:21,360 --> 00:32:23,480 Speaker 1: to the bottom of it and maybe being open and 794 00:32:23,560 --> 00:32:25,960 Speaker 1: honest if it is someone that you want to be 795 00:32:26,080 --> 00:32:29,120 Speaker 1: with forever, like down the line, you know, try and 796 00:32:29,160 --> 00:32:30,840 Speaker 1: maybe get rid of some of that animal city or 797 00:32:30,880 --> 00:32:32,840 Speaker 1: at least understand where it's coming from and why he 798 00:32:32,920 --> 00:32:33,640 Speaker 1: feels that way. 799 00:32:33,680 --> 00:32:36,520 Speaker 2: But yeah, and three years is a long time, like 800 00:32:36,640 --> 00:32:39,640 Speaker 2: yeas not like it's a third month and they you know, 801 00:32:39,920 --> 00:32:41,720 Speaker 2: it can develop into something more. 802 00:32:41,920 --> 00:32:44,920 Speaker 1: And I'm sure your partner's probably having conversations privately with 803 00:32:45,520 --> 00:32:49,080 Speaker 1: his dad talking about like can you stop, do you 804 00:32:49,120 --> 00:32:52,040 Speaker 1: know what I mean? Especially like if you say proposes 805 00:32:52,080 --> 00:32:54,600 Speaker 1: one day or you know, the dad's look, the Dad's 806 00:32:54,600 --> 00:32:56,640 Speaker 1: gonna have to fucking get on board. But I'd say 807 00:32:56,640 --> 00:32:59,360 Speaker 1: having somewhat of a conversation about it, which I know 808 00:32:59,560 --> 00:33:03,680 Speaker 1: seems wanting and like unrealistic, but I honestly don't really know. 809 00:33:04,000 --> 00:33:06,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, And I don't think there's a perfect answer. But 810 00:33:06,760 --> 00:33:09,080 Speaker 2: what I would say is I feel like, if it 811 00:33:09,200 --> 00:33:11,880 Speaker 2: wasn't a bad relationship with the dad, it's probably gonna 812 00:33:11,880 --> 00:33:14,320 Speaker 2: be a best friend that you absolutely hate or a 813 00:33:14,360 --> 00:33:18,320 Speaker 2: sister of his that has a crutch all the time. 814 00:33:18,160 --> 00:33:20,240 Speaker 1: And it's not him, and he seems to be doing 815 00:33:20,240 --> 00:33:20,920 Speaker 1: everything right. 816 00:33:21,120 --> 00:33:24,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, And like with the sitting down and chatting to 817 00:33:24,760 --> 00:33:27,520 Speaker 2: the father, I think I actually might disagree with it. 818 00:33:28,480 --> 00:33:31,840 Speaker 2: I'm a feeling she's not the problem. It's probably something it. 819 00:33:31,840 --> 00:33:33,720 Speaker 1: Probably is, But I feel like there's almost a way 820 00:33:33,760 --> 00:33:35,880 Speaker 1: of if you confront the behavior, they kind of realize 821 00:33:35,920 --> 00:33:37,640 Speaker 1: they're doing it and tend to not do it, do 822 00:33:37,680 --> 00:33:39,840 Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Like people when they feel 823 00:33:39,840 --> 00:33:41,880 Speaker 1: like they're getting away with things, they continue. 824 00:33:42,160 --> 00:33:46,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, And Dad's like they can be stubborn. 825 00:33:45,560 --> 00:33:48,600 Speaker 1: Though we all know the older generation, the boomers of 826 00:33:48,640 --> 00:33:53,200 Speaker 1: the world, are very stuck in their fucking ways. So 827 00:33:53,280 --> 00:33:55,320 Speaker 1: I almost think it needs to be brought to his 828 00:33:55,480 --> 00:33:58,520 Speaker 1: attention in a way that makes him realize that people 829 00:33:58,520 --> 00:33:59,720 Speaker 1: are aware of it and that kind of needs. 830 00:34:00,440 --> 00:34:02,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, and maybe in a safe way for you, like. 831 00:34:03,040 --> 00:34:06,560 Speaker 3: Your partner, Yeah, with his mum and dad hamball that one. Yeah, 832 00:34:07,000 --> 00:34:10,719 Speaker 3: it give it to them. Well, I'm I don't know. 833 00:34:12,120 --> 00:34:16,000 Speaker 1: Sticking that, like, give it a go, stay there, don't 834 00:34:16,360 --> 00:34:18,080 Speaker 1: If your partner's amazing, stay with your partner. 835 00:34:18,280 --> 00:34:19,839 Speaker 3: Just I'm sure you know. 836 00:34:19,920 --> 00:34:22,560 Speaker 1: Some people end up not fucking having any relationships with 837 00:34:22,600 --> 00:34:23,399 Speaker 1: their parents and they're older. 838 00:34:23,760 --> 00:34:26,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, well that's the thing I almost said, Like, I 839 00:34:26,040 --> 00:34:30,640 Speaker 2: have a close relationship with my family, but my parents 840 00:34:30,760 --> 00:34:33,400 Speaker 2: split and I lived away from both of them at 841 00:34:33,400 --> 00:34:36,520 Speaker 2: different times of my childhood. So I'm actually okay not 842 00:34:36,640 --> 00:34:39,840 Speaker 2: being right next to my family or very close. 843 00:34:39,960 --> 00:34:42,120 Speaker 1: I feel like for some people as you get older, 844 00:34:42,360 --> 00:34:44,520 Speaker 1: the parents aren't just tend to not be around as much. 845 00:34:44,560 --> 00:34:45,960 Speaker 3: Therefore matter as much. 846 00:34:46,040 --> 00:34:48,120 Speaker 1: This is your life that you're building with this person, 847 00:34:48,719 --> 00:34:50,680 Speaker 1: and if the parents aren't supportive, I'm sure down the 848 00:34:50,719 --> 00:34:53,440 Speaker 1: line they probably won't be as much a part of 849 00:34:53,480 --> 00:34:55,400 Speaker 1: things as they were now, you know. 850 00:34:55,480 --> 00:34:57,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, and then it just becomes something you have to 851 00:34:57,719 --> 00:34:59,160 Speaker 2: swallow every Christmas. 852 00:34:59,200 --> 00:35:01,239 Speaker 1: Like I can tell you fucking now, my parents hate 853 00:35:01,239 --> 00:35:06,440 Speaker 1: each other's parents. They hate them, so it happens, and 854 00:35:07,080 --> 00:35:15,200 Speaker 1: yes they article that's not your Sorry all right, girlies 855 00:35:15,280 --> 00:35:19,520 Speaker 1: and guys and gays. That was part two of you'll 856 00:35:19,560 --> 00:35:24,080 Speaker 1: help me out. Thank you for interesting me with your dilemmas. 857 00:35:24,800 --> 00:35:27,480 Speaker 1: Next week it will be a fun one. I'm getting 858 00:35:27,680 --> 00:35:31,000 Speaker 1: Riley and Tessa her girlfriend on. We will have all 859 00:35:31,040 --> 00:35:32,920 Speaker 1: just been in New Zealand together, so we're gonna do 860 00:35:32,960 --> 00:35:37,760 Speaker 1: a little post trip story time update, tell you everything 861 00:35:37,800 --> 00:35:40,399 Speaker 1: that happened, and it will be really I'm really good. 862 00:35:42,239 --> 00:35:43,440 Speaker 3: I'm really excited. 863 00:35:43,760 --> 00:35:46,480 Speaker 1: So guys, you will have three guests on next week 864 00:35:46,520 --> 00:35:47,840 Speaker 1: and we will all be chatting to you and I 865 00:35:47,880 --> 00:35:52,520 Speaker 1: can't wait. Bye, enjoy the Summertime'm pretty