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Speaker 1: This is the Fitting in with with Kate Richie podcast.

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Speaker 2: Let's talk about this story, guys, because owning your own

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Speaker 2: home is a dream everybody has. You know, as a

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Speaker 2: young kid, you grow up and you play a couple

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Speaker 2: of games around house. You always dream of being Batman

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Speaker 2: or something, and then you become an adult and all

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Speaker 2: you want to do is own your own home. City girl,

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Speaker 2: you want to be a princess right in your dream

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Speaker 2: of that day you get to be a bride and

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Speaker 2: then a man takes your hand. You know what about

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Speaker 2: the world?

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Speaker 3: You do actually think that I had it all mapped out?

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Speaker 3: Look how well that way?

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Speaker 4: Take me back to with a singing Joey.

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Speaker 2: Exactly because it's dribble anyway. These guys they've been together

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Speaker 2: for ten years and they've been renting two guys. No,

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Speaker 2: these guys, sorry, going a girl. I don't see gender

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Speaker 2: in twenty twenty four. By the way, it might be

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Speaker 2: important in the story, it's not okay. They have been

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Speaker 2: in a house for me, sorry, for ten years together

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Speaker 2: and they've always dreamed of owning their own house. Do

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Speaker 2: they have children, No, they don't at this stage, but

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Speaker 2: that was kind of the plan. Cake, Why don't we

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Speaker 2: save up. We're renting now. Rent money is dead money.

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Speaker 2: Let's get some cash together and finally buy our own house.

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Speaker 2: And when we do, let's make a family so we

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Speaker 2: can celebrate the Australian dream. Ryan the bloody picket fence.

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Speaker 2: And then when we got the picket fence, we're going

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Speaker 2: to get a dog to a lucky country, you know

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Speaker 2: what I mean. Anyway, they bought a house, as he

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Speaker 2: reads on, they bought a house. Well, he bought a

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Speaker 2: house without telling her, which is now an investment property

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Speaker 2: for him.

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Speaker 4: Why did you do That's the there's a major problems

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Speaker 4: in the relationship if you're doing that. You don't want

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Speaker 4: to be with a person.

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Speaker 2: You just decided and this is the thing. She's gone

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Speaker 2: online and said this is this weird behavior. And everybody said,

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Speaker 2: you run, girl, You get out of their sister. That's

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Speaker 2: no good, that's no good. Adult get out now. A

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Speaker 2: lot of people said, this happened to me, and he

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Speaker 2: ended up breaking up with me and moving into the

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Speaker 2: house that he'd bought quietly on the side because.

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Speaker 3: It was in his name.

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Speaker 4: That's so obvious that they don't want a future without

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Speaker 4: the other person.

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Speaker 3: Why would he do that? What were his excuses?

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Speaker 2: Give me three. Okay, I'll give you the first one.

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Speaker 2: He didn't want to stress her with the buying process. Okay,

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Speaker 2: girls do get stressed easily.

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Speaker 3: I know we can't handle it. Lucky, we have you

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Speaker 3: doing everything.

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Speaker 2: Wanted her just to remain focused on her work so

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Speaker 2: that the income for the house was an interrupted.

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Speaker 3: Number two, I'm well, she should be thankful that she

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Speaker 3: was allowed to go out and work.

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Speaker 2: She was probably cooking. I don't know that. One's not

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Speaker 2: written down.

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Speaker 3: So his oh, she was busy getting dinner ready and okay, yeah,

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Speaker 3: I get it, of course.

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Speaker 2: So here's the situation, and how do you feel if

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Speaker 2: your partner? Did you know? The other one you hear

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Speaker 2: of is when a partner you might get married and

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Speaker 2: then the husband goes, hey, I bought us a house.

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Speaker 2: What do you think I.

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Speaker 3: Would hate that?

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Speaker 2: Why?

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Speaker 3: Well, because it's not for you to choose the house.

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Speaker 3: It's for us to.

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Speaker 4: Choose the house and joint decision.

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Speaker 3: Isn't I know people where this has happened, and goodlet

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Speaker 3: you know what. People are probably listening thinking, gee, I'd

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Speaker 3: just be happy to have a house in my name,

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Speaker 3: and you should be thankful. But I do know some

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Speaker 3: people where this has happened, and one person has thought

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Speaker 3: that it's a very big grand gesture to have chosen

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Speaker 3: the home and look what I've found us, honey.

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Speaker 2: And she didn't like it, Oh no, she was she was.

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Speaker 3: Fine with it, kind of well she had to be.

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Speaker 3: How hungry you know, you appear a little bit ungrateful.

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Speaker 3: But I think there's I'm not sure I would like.

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Speaker 2: There's a guy I know, and he's an Australian celebrity,

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Speaker 2: so I won't say his name, Larryda No guy Sebastian

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Speaker 2: and he.

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Speaker 4: Is danger doctor Andrew Rosh.

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Speaker 3: He's in business.

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Speaker 2: And he proposed to his now wife on the lawn

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Speaker 2: out the front of this place and said, will will

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Speaker 2: you marry me? She said yes?

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Speaker 3: Why are we here?

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Speaker 2: And she said white, no, not Roch and then said,

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Speaker 2: well why don't we walk inside and have a look

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Speaker 2: at this house because I also bought this for us.

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Speaker 3: HAMI shouldn't do.

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Speaker 4: That, Homi shouldn't do that. Zoe wouldn't.

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Speaker 3: He did do and didn't.

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Speaker 2: Isn't that a nice thing? Well?

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Speaker 3: I think yes, it's a nice thing. But I do

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Speaker 3: think it might indicate the way things might move forward.

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Speaker 3: Within the relationship, which would be somebody controlling everything and

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Speaker 3: you not controlling anything, and then you know what they

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Speaker 3: say to you, Oh, I bought us this beautiful house,

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Speaker 3: and we're going to get married, and you're going to

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Speaker 3: have all the babies. By the way, because you weren't

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Speaker 3: there on the day. I just put my name on

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Speaker 3: the paperwork for the house, so it's it's in my name.

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Speaker 2: We'll fix it up later. It's a little bit like

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Speaker 2: when the mom goes, you know what, I'm pushing the

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Speaker 2: kid out, I'll name the baby. It's exactly the same.

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Speaker 4: Is it the mentality of the engagement ring as well?

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Speaker 4: Where a fellow thinks that they know you're invest for

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Speaker 4: their future watering.

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Speaker 2: And then they get it changed. How annoying is that?

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Speaker 2: Nicole and Rockdale? Have you been stitched up?

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Speaker 3: Have you?

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Speaker 2: Nick?

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Speaker 3: Hi?

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Speaker 4: So?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So my ex ousin and I just recently divorced

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Speaker 1: and we had bought an investment property and we had

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Speaker 1: to put in my name, according to him, because of

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Speaker 1: tax purposes. Anyway, we were going to sell because of

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Speaker 1: the divorce. Anyway, we had made a little gain on it,

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Speaker 1: and I had no idea because I'm not really that

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Speaker 1: might when it comes to properties that he was going

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Speaker 1: to leave me to pay the tax on all of the.

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Speaker 3: Capitals because it's in your name, Nick, yep, in my name.

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Speaker 4: Do you know what though, if you want to counteract,

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Speaker 4: you wouldn't because it will coast you too much that

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Speaker 4: the house is in your name, Nicole. You could probably say, well,

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Speaker 4: it's my house.

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Speaker 1: Well, I mean, look it was. It was in Perth.

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Speaker 1: I wasn't living in it, so we had to you know, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I had to pay it off and had to sell it.

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Speaker 1: Was I was a single mom now, But yes, I

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Speaker 1: was lucky that I had gone to see a good

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Speaker 1: lawyer and she had said, Darling, it's in your name.

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Speaker 1: You're going to be paying couple of gains on that,

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Speaker 1: so you will.

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Speaker 4: The thing is that the money will go to you though, Nicole.

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Speaker 4: So you could say to him, no, no, no, no, we'll

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Speaker 4: take the tax out from the capital gains before you

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Speaker 4: get your money.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Unfortunately he was in finance, so we were. He

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Speaker 1: was trying to get this squared away for the actual settlement.

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Speaker 3: So yeah, such a pleasurable experience.

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Speaker 2: And what have you done with your ring? Nick?

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Speaker 1: Like if you got rid of that, yeah, I'll sell them. Eventually,

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Speaker 1: I got to get them evaluated.

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Speaker 2: I think you'd have to pay the capital gains on that.

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Speaker 1: I wish Nick.

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