WEBVTT - Mid Year Reset: Questions, Goal Setting & Your 3 Day Reset Itinerary & Workbook 0:00:00.600 --> 0:00:03.440 I'd like to begin by acknowledging the traditional custodians of 0:00:03.480 --> 0:00:06.920 country throughout Australia and their connections to land, sea and community. 0:00:07.360 --> 0:00:10.479 We pay our respect to their elders, past, present and emerging, 0:00:10.520 --> 0:00:13.240 and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait 0:00:13.280 --> 0:00:18.919 Islander peoples today. Welcome to Stepping Up the podcast where 0:00:18.920 --> 0:00:23.320 we explore all things organization, mental health, routines, personal. 0:00:22.960 --> 0:00:24.680 Development, motherhood and health. 0:00:25.000 --> 0:00:27.600 I'm your host, Steph Pace, and I'm the woman behind 0:00:27.800 --> 0:00:30.560 Just Another Mummy blog and also the founder of Steph 0:00:30.600 --> 0:00:33.239 Pace Planners. But I can assure you this is not 0:00:33.320 --> 0:00:37.080 just another podcast online. I'm known for my organization tips 0:00:37.080 --> 0:00:40.080 and tricks and the occasional banter, but it definitely wasn't 0:00:40.080 --> 0:00:42.760 always this way. I used to be a hot mess 0:00:43.000 --> 0:00:46.080 and occasionally still am. And I'm here as your honest 0:00:46.120 --> 0:00:48.360 and real friend each week to show you how I 0:00:48.400 --> 0:00:50.480 turn my life of chaos into clarity. 0:00:50.920 --> 0:00:52.880 Between the house, health, kids. 0:00:52.680 --> 0:00:55.120 Work, and wanting to be the best version of yourself, 0:00:55.120 --> 0:00:57.240 it can be overwhelming, and I'm here to give you 0:00:57.280 --> 0:00:59.240 the tools and tips to stop you feeling like a 0:00:59.280 --> 0:01:02.760 slave to your daily tasks, home life, and especially the 0:01:02.840 --> 0:01:04.480 expectations you have on yourself. 0:01:05.120 --> 0:01:06.039 Join me as I share my. 0:01:06.080 --> 0:01:08.280 Journey and insights into the art of balancing at all 0:01:08.400 --> 0:01:10.360 and speak to guests who can help us all live 0:01:10.400 --> 0:01:13.720 a better life. Whether you're looking to streamline your daily routines, 0:01:13.800 --> 0:01:17.440 fish your wellbeing, achieve your fitness goals, dive into personal development, 0:01:17.560 --> 0:01:20.200 or find inspiration to step up into the best version 0:01:20.200 --> 0:01:21.640 of yourself, We've got you. 0:01:22.319 --> 0:01:24.840 So are you ready to step up your game? Let's go. 0:01:26.520 --> 0:01:29.680 Hello, guys, and welcome back to Stepping Up. Firstly, I 0:01:29.720 --> 0:01:32.440 just want to apologize for my voice. I am actually 0:01:32.440 --> 0:01:35.760 recording this intro a week after I recorded the rest 0:01:35.800 --> 0:01:37.800 of the episode, so I promise you won't be listening 0:01:37.840 --> 0:01:40.320 to this person that sounds like Kermit the Frog. Anyway, 0:01:40.560 --> 0:01:43.320 We've had a very unwonted visitor in our house and 0:01:43.400 --> 0:01:46.600 that is influenza A and I caught it pretty much 0:01:46.680 --> 0:01:49.120 last night this morning, and I've gone downhill from there 0:01:49.840 --> 0:01:52.360 and it's been a time. I don't think we've ever 0:01:52.360 --> 0:01:54.000 had it in our house, not that I know of, 0:01:54.120 --> 0:01:56.840 but I can tell you she's not mucking around and 0:01:56.880 --> 0:01:59.440 it's not a good time. So I do apologize for 0:01:59.640 --> 0:02:01.680 the void in this intro, but I do promise the 0:02:01.720 --> 0:02:05.200 rest of the video is not going to sound like this. Today, 0:02:05.280 --> 0:02:07.240 I'm going to be taking you guys through a step 0:02:07.280 --> 0:02:10.000 by step mid year reset. And now I do know 0:02:10.040 --> 0:02:12.400 we're over halfway through the year, but I want you 0:02:12.480 --> 0:02:13.520 to remember it's never. 0:02:13.360 --> 0:02:14.840 Too late to do a little reset. 0:02:15.080 --> 0:02:18.800 And this is one of those media resets that isn't 0:02:18.800 --> 0:02:21.160 going to make you feel overwhelmed, because I'm literally going 0:02:21.200 --> 0:02:23.000 to be spoon feeding you what you need to do 0:02:23.080 --> 0:02:26.120 and also give you this three day reset itinery of 0:02:26.160 --> 0:02:28.839 what you need to do to help you reset all 0:02:28.919 --> 0:02:31.200 areas of your life. And I know you know at 0:02:31.200 --> 0:02:33.160 the start of the year, we set out to achieve 0:02:33.240 --> 0:02:36.359 these goals and intentions and then life happens, and it's 0:02:36.400 --> 0:02:40.320 always good to do these revisits and have a life audit, 0:02:40.400 --> 0:02:42.880 a time audit, a habit review, and all these things 0:02:42.919 --> 0:02:44.600 I'm going to take you through so you can just 0:02:44.600 --> 0:02:47.200 like step back for a minute and then realign yourself 0:02:47.240 --> 0:02:49.720 to where maybe you're lacking or maybe where you want 0:02:49.840 --> 0:02:51.920 more of So maybe you want more fun and less 0:02:52.000 --> 0:02:53.120 work and things like that. 0:02:53.560 --> 0:02:54.919 Now, not only a you're going to want to. 0:02:54.840 --> 0:02:56.840 Listen to this episode because I'm going to help reset 0:02:56.880 --> 0:03:00.320 your entire life in the next twenty minutes, but it's 0:03:00.320 --> 0:03:02.680 going to give you a lot of insight into how 0:03:02.760 --> 0:03:05.120 far you've come, because even I know for myself you 0:03:05.320 --> 0:03:08.680 change so fast in a couple of months. And doing 0:03:08.760 --> 0:03:11.239 things like this Life and Time Audit, something I've never 0:03:11.280 --> 0:03:14.000 taken you guys through, is really going to open your 0:03:14.000 --> 0:03:16.760 eyes to see what needs to change and just wake 0:03:16.840 --> 0:03:19.600 us up to maybe self sabotage or things we're doing 0:03:19.600 --> 0:03:22.080 that isn't serving us. Now, I'm not going to let 0:03:22.080 --> 0:03:24.680 you listen to this voice any longer. Please as always, 0:03:24.840 --> 0:03:27.240 tag me on socials where you're listening from. I love 0:03:27.320 --> 0:03:29.520 to see it, and please leave me a review. I 0:03:29.560 --> 0:03:32.840 will be reading a review every second week, so I 0:03:32.880 --> 0:03:34.560 will be reading out your name and I would just 0:03:34.639 --> 0:03:36.800 love love to hear what you think of the pod 0:03:36.840 --> 0:03:39.480 and what you'd like to see next. Anyways, let's get. 0:03:39.320 --> 0:03:42.080 Into the episode now. 0:03:42.200 --> 0:03:45.920 Like with anything, reflection is the key to taking any 0:03:45.920 --> 0:03:47.920 step forward, getting clear on what you want and what 0:03:47.960 --> 0:03:50.240 you don't want, and that is because we learn. 0:03:50.240 --> 0:03:51.320 From our past. 0:03:51.560 --> 0:03:54.320 It doesn't always feel great, especially when you know there 0:03:54.400 --> 0:03:57.720 might be regrets or mistakes, but the thing is especially 0:03:57.760 --> 0:04:01.560 for me the years that I've had, I don't regret 0:04:01.560 --> 0:04:04.000 anything I've done because I wouldn't know what I know 0:04:04.080 --> 0:04:05.960 now as much as if bloody kills. 0:04:06.880 --> 0:04:10.640 Reflection is just so so important. So I did this 0:04:10.720 --> 0:04:14.240 in my journal. This is a journal that I started 0:04:14.240 --> 0:04:14.840 at starting year. 0:04:14.840 --> 0:04:16.800 It's literally pretty much full now. I think I've got 0:04:16.800 --> 0:04:19.520 like no pages left. So I put all my stuff 0:04:19.520 --> 0:04:21.360 in here, and now when I read back on the 0:04:21.400 --> 0:04:23.000 reflection from the start of the year, I feel like 0:04:23.000 --> 0:04:25.360 I'm a completely different person, which is insane. So when 0:04:25.400 --> 0:04:26.919 I've been doing the same thing, I would love you 0:04:27.000 --> 0:04:29.640 to grab a journal and write these down. If not, 0:04:29.800 --> 0:04:31.880 just even think about it. If you're time poor and 0:04:31.920 --> 0:04:33.839 you can't be bothered to think about it. So reviewing 0:04:33.920 --> 0:04:36.400 this last six months that you've just had, what are 0:04:36.400 --> 0:04:38.120 the three lessons that you've learned. 0:04:38.520 --> 0:04:39.200 These can be. 0:04:39.200 --> 0:04:42.760 Tough lessons, usually they are, they're the best ones. Next 0:04:42.839 --> 0:04:45.880 up is what were your top three wins? This is 0:04:45.880 --> 0:04:48.360 something that we never really like, just stop and just 0:04:48.680 --> 0:04:49.640 think about and be. 0:04:49.640 --> 0:04:50.760 Like, I did a really good job. 0:04:50.839 --> 0:04:53.520 So for me personally, one of my goals for this 0:04:53.640 --> 0:04:57.880 quarter was setting up my SVP team, so my business 0:04:58.600 --> 0:05:02.160 and hiring staff, and I've managed to do that, and 0:05:02.200 --> 0:05:04.640 I don't always achieve my goals, but I did so 0:05:04.720 --> 0:05:07.960 for me, that was a massive win, huge win. Another 0:05:08.000 --> 0:05:10.440 win for me is more linked to a lesson. So 0:05:10.640 --> 0:05:14.240 I've been burning out for years and I've finally come 0:05:14.279 --> 0:05:18.120 to the realization that i can't be everything to everyone 0:05:18.160 --> 0:05:20.920 all the time, and that is included. 0:05:20.520 --> 0:05:22.880 In family life, as a mum and at work. 0:05:23.240 --> 0:05:26.679 So my win has been I've been a lot better 0:05:26.760 --> 0:05:29.400 at being realistic with myself. Instead of telling myself I'm 0:05:29.400 --> 0:05:31.080 going to do X, Y zed, I'm going to be 0:05:31.160 --> 0:05:33.200 like I'm gonna do X and Y. So that's a 0:05:33.240 --> 0:05:35.040 win for me. So it can literally be anything big 0:05:35.200 --> 0:05:37.320 or small, and they can be linked to your lessons 0:05:37.360 --> 0:05:39.360 as well. What have you enjoyed the. 0:05:39.240 --> 0:05:42.839 Most over the last six months? Was there highlights? Was 0:05:42.839 --> 0:05:44.800 there just like parts of your days that you just 0:05:44.880 --> 0:05:45.599 really really love. 0:05:45.680 --> 0:05:48.400 Maybe it's a walk, maybe it's hanging without the kids 0:05:48.400 --> 0:05:49.919 after dinner, could be anything. 0:05:50.240 --> 0:05:52.000 How well did I take care of myself? 0:05:52.440 --> 0:05:54.800 That is a hard one because I know a lot 0:05:54.839 --> 0:05:56.480 of us they're going to be like shit, maybe not 0:05:56.560 --> 0:05:59.600 the best for me. It's actually been interesting this question 0:05:59.640 --> 0:06:03.960 because you usually I don't really set goals to go 0:06:04.000 --> 0:06:05.840 to the gym this many days a week because I've 0:06:05.880 --> 0:06:07.840 been going to the gym for over a decade now. 0:06:07.880 --> 0:06:10.000 It's just something that is a harburt for me, so 0:06:10.080 --> 0:06:12.920 I don't set those goals. But then this last couple 0:06:13.000 --> 0:06:16.640 of months, I've let the gym slip, and that's because 0:06:16.680 --> 0:06:19.320 I've been really focusing on hiring people and work. So 0:06:19.400 --> 0:06:21.919 see how like it's a good point for you just 0:06:21.960 --> 0:06:23.960 to like step back and be like, oh, I did this, 0:06:24.080 --> 0:06:24.839 but this slipped. 0:06:24.960 --> 0:06:26.800 You know what I mean. And it's not about being perfect. 0:06:26.839 --> 0:06:30.320 It's just about what brings you fulfillment and joy in 0:06:30.360 --> 0:06:33.480 what areas of your life and how you can change things. 0:06:33.880 --> 0:06:36.760 So you are missing out on looking after yourself. 0:06:36.800 --> 0:06:38.400 Now. I want to run a few more questions, but 0:06:38.440 --> 0:06:40.520 there is a lot here, soone just going to take 0:06:40.520 --> 0:06:43.160 you through a couple more. Did I set any boundaries? 0:06:43.720 --> 0:06:46.960 And that includes with others and yourself as well? For me, 0:06:47.279 --> 0:06:50.520 my boundaries are actually knowing when to stop working and 0:06:50.600 --> 0:06:53.880 to just like take a bloody minute. So my boundaries 0:06:53.920 --> 0:06:56.720 are that when I plan for my workday to end, 0:06:57.480 --> 0:06:57.960 it ends. 0:06:58.040 --> 0:06:59.320 Have I been doing that? No? 0:07:00.120 --> 0:07:03.360 My boundaries is up shit creek right now? What areas 0:07:03.400 --> 0:07:05.880 of my life are feeling neglected right now? So this 0:07:05.960 --> 0:07:09.280 could be mental health, it could be friendships, it could 0:07:09.320 --> 0:07:11.840 be hobbies, things like that, and we are going to 0:07:11.840 --> 0:07:14.640 get into these categories more. Next next is which areas 0:07:14.640 --> 0:07:16.679 are my life? Am I feeling the best right now? 0:07:16.760 --> 0:07:19.480 And this doesn't have to mean you feel amazing, but 0:07:19.720 --> 0:07:22.680 you were feeling even content or maybe you feel like 0:07:22.680 --> 0:07:26.520 you're progressing. Remember there's not always. 0:07:26.160 --> 0:07:28.880 Like an endpoint with these things, like we don't want 0:07:28.880 --> 0:07:31.560 there to be and go. It's even with health and fitness. 0:07:31.600 --> 0:07:34.440 You don't just get fit and then that's it because 0:07:34.680 --> 0:07:37.040 for you to upkeep that fitness, you've got to continue. 0:07:37.200 --> 0:07:42.160 So just think that any progress is positive. Ask yourself, 0:07:42.360 --> 0:07:45.920 how am I feeling? How are you actually feeling right now? 0:07:46.000 --> 0:07:49.040 Your mental health be feeling burnt out, you're feeling lost, 0:07:49.320 --> 0:07:52.960 you're feeling flat, maybe you're feeling motivated, maybe you're feeling 0:07:53.200 --> 0:07:54.560 like you've had a massive shift. 0:07:55.000 --> 0:07:57.520 And remember with this you can feel. 0:07:57.280 --> 0:08:00.440 Many things at once. There's so much duality in life. 0:08:00.480 --> 0:08:03.640 And for me, I feel grief from losing my dad 0:08:03.680 --> 0:08:05.960 and Nan in the last couple of years. I feel 0:08:05.960 --> 0:08:09.200 burnt out, but I also feel motivated because. 0:08:09.000 --> 0:08:10.600 I've seen progress within myself. 0:08:11.040 --> 0:08:13.280 I want you to ask yourself, how much fun did 0:08:13.280 --> 0:08:17.200 you have as an adult? We only do tasks and 0:08:17.400 --> 0:08:20.600 things that give us a certain outcome, like make more money, 0:08:20.840 --> 0:08:23.400 make the house cleaner, things like that, get fitter, but 0:08:23.440 --> 0:08:25.400 you don't really do things just for fun anymore. And 0:08:25.440 --> 0:08:26.920 this is so important, and I am going to be 0:08:26.960 --> 0:08:29.960 talking about this in your life, audit, because when you 0:08:30.000 --> 0:08:32.760 stop having fun, that's when life will start to feel 0:08:32.760 --> 0:08:34.679 pretty flat. It's like, you know, when you book in 0:08:34.679 --> 0:08:36.839 a holiday, you've booked in fun, so that's why you 0:08:36.880 --> 0:08:39.040 look forward to it. You get that, like, even if 0:08:39.040 --> 0:08:40.440 you're going through a really shit time, if you book 0:08:40.440 --> 0:08:41.959 in a holiday and you just get a bit more 0:08:42.000 --> 0:08:44.200 of like energy because you know you've got something good 0:08:44.200 --> 0:08:46.440 coming up. So how much energy you're going to feel 0:08:46.480 --> 0:08:48.360 every single day and every single week if you do that. 0:08:48.600 --> 0:08:51.280 The next questions are about habits, so habits that you 0:08:51.360 --> 0:08:54.040 started and habits that you stopped. So, for example, a 0:08:54.200 --> 0:08:57.640 habit I've started is not really a physical habit. It's 0:08:57.640 --> 0:08:59.760 more of like a mental habit, which is still a habit. 0:09:00.400 --> 0:09:03.880 And that is being really honest with myself. About my 0:09:04.440 --> 0:09:07.760 expectations on myself. So I'll start the day normally, I'll 0:09:07.760 --> 0:09:09.400 fill up, you know, my to do list and yes, 0:09:09.440 --> 0:09:12.640 our sell planners. I worked on learning about productivity for 0:09:12.679 --> 0:09:14.240 so long now that is why I do what I do. 0:09:14.320 --> 0:09:16.920 But I also have ADHD and I'm also perfectionist, and 0:09:16.920 --> 0:09:18.600 I also I'm a people pleaser, so it means I 0:09:18.600 --> 0:09:21.120 always try to fill all the parts of my day 0:09:21.280 --> 0:09:25.560 with productivity. I've always based my worth on my productivity levels, 0:09:25.559 --> 0:09:26.280 which is not good. 0:09:26.360 --> 0:09:28.280 That sucks that such spores. We don't want to do 0:09:28.320 --> 0:09:30.640 that anymore. So I have it I've started in the last. 0:09:30.480 --> 0:09:33.920 Six months is being super critical of what is actually 0:09:34.000 --> 0:09:36.800 important and what can wait. And that is something that 0:09:36.880 --> 0:09:40.680 I do teach you guys, But I think when you're 0:09:40.679 --> 0:09:43.160 in it yourself, and especially if you're a people pleaser, 0:09:43.200 --> 0:09:45.520 I'm always taking tasks off other people. 0:09:45.720 --> 0:09:47.160 I'll just do it. I'll just do it, and I 0:09:47.200 --> 0:09:49.120 still do it, but I'm a lot more critical of 0:09:49.160 --> 0:09:52.960 it now. I have it that I've stopped. As I mentioned, 0:09:53.440 --> 0:09:55.640 I wouldn't say I've completely stopped. 0:09:55.640 --> 0:09:57.640 I did go to the gym this morning, but would 0:09:57.679 --> 0:10:00.800 be me doing my regular gym session. So That's something 0:10:00.840 --> 0:10:03.720 that I'm aware of, and I have noticed that I'm 0:10:03.760 --> 0:10:07.720 not reading as much at night because I love my fiction. 0:10:07.920 --> 0:10:10.320 I love my sexy fairies, So that is something else 0:10:10.320 --> 0:10:11.280 I've noticed as well. 0:10:11.440 --> 0:10:12.959 I want you to ask yourself. 0:10:12.600 --> 0:10:15.200 How much downtime did you get, How have you been resting, 0:10:15.240 --> 0:10:18.120 how have you been relaxing, or are you someone that 0:10:18.400 --> 0:10:21.280 feels every hour of the day that you get spare 0:10:21.520 --> 0:10:23.640 with more shit to do? That could be a goal 0:10:23.720 --> 0:10:25.960 for you to stop doing that, because I am the 0:10:25.960 --> 0:10:28.800 prime example. Soon as we get spare time, we think 0:10:28.840 --> 0:10:31.240 it's oh great, I can do this task, I can 0:10:31.280 --> 0:10:32.440 do tomorrow's tasks. 0:10:32.520 --> 0:10:33.040 I can do this. 0:10:33.240 --> 0:10:35.400 What about what you sit ourses down and don't do it? 0:10:35.600 --> 0:10:37.400 And I know I'm just to be a channel about 0:10:37.400 --> 0:10:41.080 productivity and all that stuff, but I'm also about being 0:10:41.120 --> 0:10:43.400 a human and we do not want to be leading 0:10:43.400 --> 0:10:44.480 ourselves into burnout. 0:10:44.679 --> 0:10:45.760 By all means, If. 0:10:45.600 --> 0:10:47.800 You're still within work hours or your kids are still 0:10:47.840 --> 0:10:50.599 at school and you feel like you aren't needing a 0:10:50.760 --> 0:10:53.559 rest hundred percent, if you've got that time, chuck it 0:10:53.600 --> 0:10:53.920 in there. 0:10:54.200 --> 0:10:57.280 It's great, but it's not sit down now. The last 0:10:57.320 --> 0:10:59.000 couple questions are, what are you. 0:10:58.960 --> 0:11:01.400 Grateful for right now in your life. 0:11:01.520 --> 0:11:02.800 So for me, it's. 0:11:02.600 --> 0:11:05.800 Definitely my new team and my team, just like my 0:11:05.840 --> 0:11:07.680 team in general. I'm just so grateful for them and 0:11:07.800 --> 0:11:10.720 hiring these new people. I'm also grateful for the work 0:11:10.720 --> 0:11:12.680 I've put in the back end to get there. I'm 0:11:12.679 --> 0:11:16.079 grateful for my children who are palthy because we had 0:11:16.080 --> 0:11:19.480 a bit of run of sickness lately. Like it can 0:11:19.679 --> 0:11:20.960 be as big or as. 0:11:20.840 --> 0:11:21.760 Small as you want. 0:11:22.120 --> 0:11:24.640 I'm grateful that I live in an area where I 0:11:24.679 --> 0:11:26.520 can go for walks and it's not a busy city. 0:11:26.559 --> 0:11:29.280 And now overall just picturing this or you can do 0:11:29.320 --> 0:11:30.680 dot points, because I know it can be a little 0:11:30.679 --> 0:11:33.000 bit overwhelming. What do you want the next six months 0:11:33.040 --> 0:11:35.520 to look like for you? And that can be in 0:11:35.559 --> 0:11:37.280 certain areas of your life which will go into a 0:11:37.320 --> 0:11:40.679 bit more later, or just how you feel within yourself 0:11:40.720 --> 0:11:42.480 as a person. Pa do you want that to look 0:11:42.559 --> 0:11:44.320 like for me? I want to be more forgiving. I 0:11:44.360 --> 0:11:47.959 want to be slower. I want to be a human being, 0:11:48.040 --> 0:11:50.880 not a human doing That's what I want to look like. 0:11:50.920 --> 0:11:52.600 I want more family time, I want more fun. I 0:11:52.640 --> 0:11:55.600 want to do my hobbies again. When my dad passed away, 0:11:55.679 --> 0:11:58.200 I took up painting. I did paint by numbers and 0:11:58.240 --> 0:12:00.520 it was amazing. I did like cross stick and it 0:12:00.600 --> 0:12:02.960 was just so good. And I've stopped, so I want 0:12:02.960 --> 0:12:05.880 to do more fun shoot again. All right, now, Step two, 0:12:06.120 --> 0:12:08.360 we're going to start doing your life. Word it now 0:12:08.360 --> 0:12:10.720 if you've never done one of these. Traditionally, it's like 0:12:10.840 --> 0:12:13.760 this wheel of life that you see online and it's 0:12:13.760 --> 0:12:19.120 broken up into different categories usually like personal growth, finance, career, relationships, etc. 0:12:19.480 --> 0:12:21.720 And then there's lines and new color it into your 0:12:21.800 --> 0:12:24.400 level of satisfaction. Now I'm trying to do this guide 0:12:24.400 --> 0:12:25.960 so it's really easy for you. So we're not going 0:12:26.040 --> 0:12:28.439 to do that, but I want you to choose six categories. 0:12:28.679 --> 0:12:30.520 I'm going to give you a couple of ideas now 0:12:30.640 --> 0:12:32.360 that most relate to you in your life. 0:12:32.520 --> 0:12:35.480 Now, there is some categories that you have to put 0:12:35.520 --> 0:12:37.880 in there because you are a human being and you 0:12:37.960 --> 0:12:38.520 need to do it. 0:12:39.160 --> 0:12:41.200 And then there's a couple that you can change. 0:12:41.280 --> 0:12:46.440 Now, these categories look like family, career, finance, hobbies, personal growth, 0:12:46.559 --> 0:12:50.360 mental health, physical health, friends, it could be study that 0:12:50.480 --> 0:12:51.840 kind of thing. So I want you to really think 0:12:51.880 --> 0:12:56.319 about what your categories are now, your non negotiable categories 0:12:56.360 --> 0:13:00.760 are personal growth, which means the time you spend on yourself, 0:13:00.800 --> 0:13:03.440 Like working on yourself. Can't stand when you see people 0:13:03.440 --> 0:13:04.920 who are just constantly just trying to be. 0:13:04.800 --> 0:13:06.679 Better and better and better. I want you to be happier. 0:13:06.880 --> 0:13:10.280 So working on yourself can look like yes, obviously doing 0:13:10.400 --> 0:13:13.400 goal setting because that is healthy as long as it's realistic. 0:13:13.559 --> 0:13:16.920 It can be learning new things, like learning is so 0:13:16.960 --> 0:13:19.760 good for us and it actually will make you happier. 0:13:19.960 --> 0:13:21.960 And it doesn't have to be something to do with work, 0:13:22.080 --> 0:13:24.120 like I'd rather you not have it do with work. 0:13:24.160 --> 0:13:25.640 If that lights you up, then do it. 0:13:25.760 --> 0:13:28.800 The next non negotiable is mental and physical health, So 0:13:28.840 --> 0:13:32.240 there are two categories, mental health and physical health obvious reasons. 0:13:32.640 --> 0:13:37.160 Another category you must have is fun slash hobbies because 0:13:37.200 --> 0:13:38.679 as I said, we do not have. 0:13:38.720 --> 0:13:40.200 Enough fun as adults. 0:13:40.440 --> 0:13:43.120 I also want you to have relationships in there, whether 0:13:43.160 --> 0:13:46.600 you want to pop in family or friends or both. 0:13:46.720 --> 0:13:49.079 I usually just pop in relationships, and then I focus 0:13:49.160 --> 0:13:51.720 on family, like so my husband and my kids, and 0:13:51.760 --> 0:13:53.480 then I focus on like friendships and. 0:13:53.440 --> 0:13:54.040 Things like that. 0:13:54.440 --> 0:13:56.599 Now, the other one that will chop and change for 0:13:56.720 --> 0:14:01.720 people would be career study be home life, which is 0:14:01.720 --> 0:14:03.720 a big one, and that is another one that I 0:14:03.760 --> 0:14:06.520 would recommend having as a category if you're a stay 0:14:06.520 --> 0:14:09.280 at home mum, having home life and family are two 0:14:09.320 --> 0:14:12.360 really important categories, so they're the category. So I want 0:14:12.360 --> 0:14:14.600 you to write them down, the ones that best work 0:14:14.679 --> 0:14:16.199 for you. Now, I'm not going to be making you 0:14:16.320 --> 0:14:19.000 color in a wheel like I said, but instead, what 0:14:19.040 --> 0:14:21.880 we are going to be doing is rating these areas 0:14:21.880 --> 0:14:25.360 of our lives from one to five. So one is 0:14:25.600 --> 0:14:28.680 you were not satisfied feeling content in this area of 0:14:28.720 --> 0:14:29.480 your life, eg. 0:14:29.800 --> 0:14:30.400 Physical health. 0:14:30.560 --> 0:14:33.720 Maybe you are literally not moving at all, You're sitting 0:14:33.720 --> 0:14:36.400 on the couch all day, You're eating French fries for breakfast, lunch, 0:14:36.440 --> 0:14:39.800 and dinner. Your health is actually suffering and that's why 0:14:39.800 --> 0:14:41.560 it's or one. You get what I mean. And then 0:14:41.680 --> 0:14:44.040 five is you're feeling really good in this area. You 0:14:44.080 --> 0:14:45.800 feel like you know you're progressing again. 0:14:45.840 --> 0:14:46.640 You can't always be. 0:14:46.600 --> 0:14:48.800 At the end goal because there isn't an end goal really, 0:14:49.200 --> 0:14:51.600 but you're feeling good about that area of your life. 0:14:51.600 --> 0:14:52.200 So that's a five. 0:14:52.440 --> 0:14:54.120 So now on your piece of paper, I want you 0:14:54.160 --> 0:14:56.480 to write your category heading and then next to it, 0:14:56.520 --> 0:14:59.120 I want you to put your rating of one to five, 0:14:59.240 --> 0:15:02.920 whatever it is. Now underneath this is the next step 0:15:03.200 --> 0:15:07.160 of our audit. Now, this next part I have been 0:15:07.200 --> 0:15:10.200 doing for a while and I'm actually reflecting it into 0:15:10.240 --> 0:15:12.520 my planets for next year, which I'm really excited. 0:15:12.560 --> 0:15:14.240 I'm not supposed to tell you that, but. 0:15:14.280 --> 0:15:17.160 It's been working for me amazingly for a while now, 0:15:17.200 --> 0:15:19.480 and I finally decided to change it in the planners. Anyway, 0:15:20.120 --> 0:15:24.120 for each category, we're going to be doing something called start, stop, 0:15:24.360 --> 0:15:27.800 step and stick with. So basically, what you want to 0:15:27.840 --> 0:15:30.600 do is write down things in that air of your 0:15:30.640 --> 0:15:33.240 life you want to stop. For mental health, I want 0:15:33.320 --> 0:15:36.840 to stop filling up my spare time with work and 0:15:36.920 --> 0:15:39.960 instead I want to start using that time as down 0:15:40.040 --> 0:15:43.080 time to do reading or painting things like that. So 0:15:43.120 --> 0:15:45.280 we've got our stop and we've got our start. Now 0:15:45.320 --> 0:15:47.920 the next thing is step. Now, this is the step 0:15:48.040 --> 0:15:50.000 you need to take or the action you need to 0:15:50.040 --> 0:15:52.520 take to start the habit that you just put down. 0:15:52.840 --> 0:15:55.160 So the step I need to take is I need 0:15:55.160 --> 0:15:58.520 to go and order some books online, or I need 0:15:58.560 --> 0:16:01.600 to buy some painting stuff, or I need a scheduling too. 0:16:01.600 --> 0:16:05.200 My planner that I get self rest here and here. 0:16:05.600 --> 0:16:07.160 Do you see what I mean? So the actual step 0:16:07.160 --> 0:16:09.240 you need to take to start the thing. Now the 0:16:09.320 --> 0:16:12.040 last step is stick with Now, these are the things 0:16:12.080 --> 0:16:13.720 that you're doing in that area of your life that 0:16:14.120 --> 0:16:15.040 are feeling good and. 0:16:15.000 --> 0:16:15.800 You want to stick with it. 0:16:15.880 --> 0:16:18.440 So personal growth. For me, something I want to stick 0:16:18.480 --> 0:16:21.440 with is my journaling. I've been journaling for years. I 0:16:21.520 --> 0:16:23.800 do it morning and night, sometimes more than that because 0:16:23.920 --> 0:16:25.960 my brain's crazy, and that's something I'm going to stick 0:16:25.960 --> 0:16:27.160 with because it makes me feel good. 0:16:27.320 --> 0:16:28.440 So that is the principle. 0:16:28.520 --> 0:16:30.560 So you've got your stop so habits you want to 0:16:30.560 --> 0:16:33.600 stop in this area, Start things you want to start 0:16:33.680 --> 0:16:36.720 in this area, step the action or step you need 0:16:36.760 --> 0:16:39.520 to take in order to start that new habit, and 0:16:39.560 --> 0:16:41.440 then stick with so the things that you want to 0:16:41.480 --> 0:16:43.240 stick with. So you are going to list these out 0:16:43.440 --> 0:16:45.840 for every category. I want to give you another example 0:16:45.880 --> 0:16:48.000 just to help you out, SORR. An example for physical 0:16:48.000 --> 0:16:51.040 health will be stop sitting at my desk all day. 0:16:51.440 --> 0:16:54.600 Start hitting eight K steps to day, and the step 0:16:54.720 --> 0:16:58.080 for that is scheduling in mini breaks throughout my day 0:16:58.160 --> 0:17:00.840 in my planner, setting reminders of my phone, maybe an 0:17:00.840 --> 0:17:02.360 alarm to say get up and go for a quick 0:17:02.360 --> 0:17:05.720 walk or buying a walking path and getting like a 0:17:05.760 --> 0:17:08.360 standing desk, So that is a step for that. Now 0:17:08.440 --> 0:17:11.639 for family or relationships, it could be stop laying in 0:17:11.680 --> 0:17:13.440 bed next to each other scrolling on your phone the 0:17:13.440 --> 0:17:16.760