Speaker 1: I'd like to begin by acknowledging the traditional custodians of
Speaker 1: country throughout Australia and their connections to land, sea and community.
Speaker 1: We pay our respect to their elders, past, present and emerging,
Speaker 1: and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait
Speaker 1: Islander peoples today. Welcome to Stepping Up the podcast where
Speaker 1: we explore all things organization, mental health, routines, personal.
Speaker 2: Development, motherhood and health.
Speaker 1: I'm your host, Steph Pace, and I'm the woman behind
Speaker 1: Just Another Mummy blog and also the founder of Steph
Speaker 1: Pace Planners. But I can assure you this is not
Speaker 1: just another podcast online. I'm known for my organization tips
Speaker 1: and tricks and the occasional banter, but it definitely wasn't
Speaker 1: always this way. I used to be a hot mess
Speaker 1: and occasionally still am. And I'm here as your honest
Speaker 1: and real friend each week to show you how I
Speaker 1: turn my life of chaos into clarity.
Speaker 2: Between the house, health, kids.
Speaker 1: Work, and wanting to be the best version of yourself,
Speaker 1: it can be overwhelming, and I'm here to give you
Speaker 1: the tools and tips to stop you feeling like a
Speaker 1: slave to your daily tasks, home life, and especially the
Speaker 1: expectations you have on yourself.
Speaker 2: Join me as I share my.
Speaker 1: Journey and insights into the art of balancing at all
Speaker 1: and speak to guests who can help us all live
Speaker 1: a better life. Whether you're looking to streamline your daily routines,
Speaker 1: fish your wellbeing, achieve your fitness goals, dive into personal development,
Speaker 1: or find inspiration to step up into the best version
Speaker 1: of yourself, We've got you.
Speaker 2: So are you ready to step up your game? Let's go.
Speaker 1: Hello, guys, and welcome back to Stepping Up. Firstly, I
Speaker 1: just want to apologize for my voice. I am actually
Speaker 1: recording this intro a week after I recorded the rest
Speaker 1: of the episode, so I promise you won't be listening
Speaker 1: to this person that sounds like Kermit the Frog. Anyway,
Speaker 1: We've had a very unwonted visitor in our house and
Speaker 1: that is influenza A and I caught it pretty much
Speaker 1: last night this morning, and I've gone downhill from there
Speaker 1: and it's been a time. I don't think we've ever
Speaker 1: had it in our house, not that I know of,
Speaker 1: but I can tell you she's not mucking around and
Speaker 1: it's not a good time. So I do apologize for
Speaker 1: the void in this intro, but I do promise the
Speaker 1: rest of the video is not going to sound like this. Today,
Speaker 1: I'm going to be taking you guys through a step
Speaker 1: by step mid year reset. And now I do know
Speaker 1: we're over halfway through the year, but I want you
Speaker 1: to remember it's never.
Speaker 2: Too late to do a little reset.
Speaker 1: And this is one of those media resets that isn't
Speaker 1: going to make you feel overwhelmed, because I'm literally going
Speaker 1: to be spoon feeding you what you need to do
Speaker 1: and also give you this three day reset itinery of
Speaker 1: what you need to do to help you reset all
Speaker 1: areas of your life. And I know you know at
Speaker 1: the start of the year, we set out to achieve
Speaker 1: these goals and intentions and then life happens, and it's
Speaker 1: always good to do these revisits and have a life audit,
Speaker 1: a time audit, a habit review, and all these things
Speaker 1: I'm going to take you through so you can just
Speaker 1: like step back for a minute and then realign yourself
Speaker 1: to where maybe you're lacking or maybe where you want
Speaker 1: more of So maybe you want more fun and less
Speaker 1: work and things like that.
Speaker 2: Now, not only a you're going to want to.
Speaker 1: Listen to this episode because I'm going to help reset
Speaker 1: your entire life in the next twenty minutes, but it's
Speaker 1: going to give you a lot of insight into how
Speaker 1: far you've come, because even I know for myself you
Speaker 1: change so fast in a couple of months. And doing
Speaker 1: things like this Life and Time Audit, something I've never
Speaker 1: taken you guys through, is really going to open your
Speaker 1: eyes to see what needs to change and just wake
Speaker 1: us up to maybe self sabotage or things we're doing
Speaker 1: that isn't serving us. Now, I'm not going to let
Speaker 1: you listen to this voice any longer. Please as always,
Speaker 1: tag me on socials where you're listening from. I love
Speaker 1: to see it, and please leave me a review. I
Speaker 1: will be reading a review every second week, so I
Speaker 1: will be reading out your name and I would just
Speaker 1: love love to hear what you think of the pod
Speaker 1: and what you'd like to see next. Anyways, let's get.
Speaker 2: Into the episode now.
Speaker 1: Like with anything, reflection is the key to taking any
Speaker 1: step forward, getting clear on what you want and what
Speaker 1: you don't want, and that is because we learn.
Speaker 2: From our past.
Speaker 1: It doesn't always feel great, especially when you know there
Speaker 1: might be regrets or mistakes, but the thing is especially
Speaker 1: for me the years that I've had, I don't regret
Speaker 1: anything I've done because I wouldn't know what I know
Speaker 1: now as much as if bloody kills.
Speaker 2: Reflection is just so so important. So I did this
Speaker 2: in my journal. This is a journal that I started
Speaker 2: at starting year.
Speaker 1: It's literally pretty much full now. I think I've got
Speaker 1: like no pages left. So I put all my stuff
Speaker 1: in here, and now when I read back on the
Speaker 1: reflection from the start of the year, I feel like
Speaker 1: I'm a completely different person, which is insane. So when
Speaker 1: I've been doing the same thing, I would love you
Speaker 1: to grab a journal and write these down. If not,
Speaker 1: just even think about it. If you're time poor and
Speaker 1: you can't be bothered to think about it. So reviewing
Speaker 1: this last six months that you've just had, what are
Speaker 1: the three lessons that you've learned.
Speaker 2: These can be.
Speaker 1: Tough lessons, usually they are, they're the best ones. Next
Speaker 1: up is what were your top three wins? This is
Speaker 1: something that we never really like, just stop and just
Speaker 1: think about and be.
Speaker 2: Like, I did a really good job.
Speaker 1: So for me personally, one of my goals for this
Speaker 1: quarter was setting up my SVP team, so my business
Speaker 1: and hiring staff, and I've managed to do that, and
Speaker 1: I don't always achieve my goals, but I did so
Speaker 1: for me, that was a massive win, huge win. Another
Speaker 1: win for me is more linked to a lesson. So
Speaker 1: I've been burning out for years and I've finally come
Speaker 1: to the realization that i can't be everything to everyone
Speaker 1: all the time, and that is included.
Speaker 2: In family life, as a mum and at work.
Speaker 1: So my win has been I've been a lot better
Speaker 1: at being realistic with myself. Instead of telling myself I'm
Speaker 1: going to do X, Y zed, I'm going to be
Speaker 1: like I'm gonna do X and Y. So that's a
Speaker 1: win for me. So it can literally be anything big
Speaker 1: or small, and they can be linked to your lessons
Speaker 1: as well. What have you enjoyed the.
Speaker 2: Most over the last six months? Was there highlights? Was
Speaker 2: there just like parts of your days that you just
Speaker 2: really really love.
Speaker 1: Maybe it's a walk, maybe it's hanging without the kids
Speaker 1: after dinner, could be anything.
Speaker 2: How well did I take care of myself?
Speaker 1: That is a hard one because I know a lot
Speaker 1: of us they're going to be like shit, maybe not
Speaker 1: the best for me. It's actually been interesting this question
Speaker 1: because you usually I don't really set goals to go
Speaker 1: to the gym this many days a week because I've
Speaker 1: been going to the gym for over a decade now.
Speaker 1: It's just something that is a harburt for me, so
Speaker 1: I don't set those goals. But then this last couple
Speaker 1: of months, I've let the gym slip, and that's because
Speaker 1: I've been really focusing on hiring people and work. So
Speaker 1: see how like it's a good point for you just
Speaker 1: to like step back and be like, oh, I did this,
Speaker 1: but this slipped.
Speaker 2: You know what I mean. And it's not about being perfect.
Speaker 1: It's just about what brings you fulfillment and joy in
Speaker 1: what areas of your life and how you can change things.
Speaker 2: So you are missing out on looking after yourself.
Speaker 1: Now. I want to run a few more questions, but
Speaker 1: there is a lot here, soone just going to take
Speaker 1: you through a couple more. Did I set any boundaries?
Speaker 1: And that includes with others and yourself as well? For me,
Speaker 1: my boundaries are actually knowing when to stop working and
Speaker 1: to just like take a bloody minute. So my boundaries
Speaker 1: are that when I plan for my workday to end,
Speaker 1: it ends.
Speaker 2: Have I been doing that? No?
Speaker 1: My boundaries is up shit creek right now? What areas
Speaker 1: of my life are feeling neglected right now? So this
Speaker 1: could be mental health, it could be friendships, it could
Speaker 1: be hobbies, things like that, and we are going to
Speaker 1: get into these categories more. Next next is which areas
Speaker 1: are my life? Am I feeling the best right now?
Speaker 1: And this doesn't have to mean you feel amazing, but
Speaker 1: you were feeling even content or maybe you feel like
Speaker 1: you're progressing. Remember there's not always.
Speaker 2: Like an endpoint with these things, like we don't want
Speaker 2: there to be and go. It's even with health and fitness.
Speaker 1: You don't just get fit and then that's it because
Speaker 1: for you to upkeep that fitness, you've got to continue.
Speaker 1: So just think that any progress is positive. Ask yourself,
Speaker 1: how am I feeling? How are you actually feeling right now?
Speaker 1: Your mental health be feeling burnt out, you're feeling lost,
Speaker 1: you're feeling flat, maybe you're feeling motivated, maybe you're feeling
Speaker 1: like you've had a massive shift.
Speaker 2: And remember with this you can feel.
Speaker 1: Many things at once. There's so much duality in life.
Speaker 1: And for me, I feel grief from losing my dad
Speaker 1: and Nan in the last couple of years. I feel
Speaker 1: burnt out, but I also feel motivated because.
Speaker 2: I've seen progress within myself.
Speaker 1: I want you to ask yourself, how much fun did
Speaker 1: you have as an adult? We only do tasks and
Speaker 1: things that give us a certain outcome, like make more money,
Speaker 1: make the house cleaner, things like that, get fitter, but
Speaker 1: you don't really do things just for fun anymore. And
Speaker 1: this is so important, and I am going to be
Speaker 1: talking about this in your life, audit, because when you
Speaker 1: stop having fun, that's when life will start to feel
Speaker 1: pretty flat. It's like, you know, when you book in
Speaker 1: a holiday, you've booked in fun, so that's why you
Speaker 1: look forward to it. You get that, like, even if
Speaker 1: you're going through a really shit time, if you book
Speaker 1: in a holiday and you just get a bit more
Speaker 1: of like energy because you know you've got something good
Speaker 1: coming up. So how much energy you're going to feel
Speaker 1: every single day and every single week if you do that.
Speaker 1: The next questions are about habits, so habits that you
Speaker 1: started and habits that you stopped. So, for example, a
Speaker 1: habit I've started is not really a physical habit. It's
Speaker 1: more of like a mental habit, which is still a habit.
Speaker 1: And that is being really honest with myself. About my
Speaker 1: expectations on myself. So I'll start the day normally, I'll
Speaker 1: fill up, you know, my to do list and yes,
Speaker 1: our sell planners. I worked on learning about productivity for
Speaker 1: so long now that is why I do what I do.
Speaker 1: But I also have ADHD and I'm also perfectionist, and
Speaker 1: I also I'm a people pleaser, so it means I
Speaker 1: always try to fill all the parts of my day
Speaker 1: with productivity. I've always based my worth on my productivity levels,
Speaker 1: which is not good.
Speaker 2: That sucks that such spores. We don't want to do
Speaker 2: that anymore. So I have it I've started in the last.
Speaker 1: Six months is being super critical of what is actually
Speaker 1: important and what can wait. And that is something that
Speaker 1: I do teach you guys, But I think when you're
Speaker 1: in it yourself, and especially if you're a people pleaser,
Speaker 1: I'm always taking tasks off other people.
Speaker 2: I'll just do it. I'll just do it, and I
Speaker 2: still do it, but I'm a lot more critical of
Speaker 2: it now. I have it that I've stopped. As I mentioned,
Speaker 2: I wouldn't say I've completely stopped.
Speaker 1: I did go to the gym this morning, but would
Speaker 1: be me doing my regular gym session. So That's something
Speaker 1: that I'm aware of, and I have noticed that I'm
Speaker 1: not reading as much at night because I love my fiction.
Speaker 1: I love my sexy fairies, So that is something else
Speaker 1: I've noticed as well.
Speaker 2: I want you to ask yourself.
Speaker 1: How much downtime did you get, How have you been resting,
Speaker 1: how have you been relaxing, or are you someone that
Speaker 1: feels every hour of the day that you get spare
Speaker 1: with more shit to do? That could be a goal
Speaker 1: for you to stop doing that, because I am the
Speaker 1: prime example. Soon as we get spare time, we think
Speaker 1: it's oh great, I can do this task, I can
Speaker 1: do tomorrow's tasks.
Speaker 2: I can do this.
Speaker 1: What about what you sit ourses down and don't do it?
Speaker 1: And I know I'm just to be a channel about
Speaker 1: productivity and all that stuff, but I'm also about being
Speaker 1: a human and we do not want to be leading
Speaker 1: ourselves into burnout.
Speaker 2: By all means, If.
Speaker 1: You're still within work hours or your kids are still
Speaker 1: at school and you feel like you aren't needing a
Speaker 1: rest hundred percent, if you've got that time, chuck it
Speaker 1: in there.
Speaker 2: It's great, but it's not sit down now. The last
Speaker 2: couple questions are, what are you.
Speaker 1: Grateful for right now in your life.
Speaker 2: So for me, it's.
Speaker 1: Definitely my new team and my team, just like my
Speaker 1: team in general. I'm just so grateful for them and
Speaker 1: hiring these new people. I'm also grateful for the work
Speaker 1: I've put in the back end to get there. I'm
Speaker 1: grateful for my children who are palthy because we had
Speaker 1: a bit of run of sickness lately. Like it can
Speaker 1: be as big or as.
Speaker 2: Small as you want.
Speaker 1: I'm grateful that I live in an area where I
Speaker 1: can go for walks and it's not a busy city.
Speaker 1: And now overall just picturing this or you can do
Speaker 1: dot points, because I know it can be a little
Speaker 1: bit overwhelming. What do you want the next six months
Speaker 1: to look like for you? And that can be in
Speaker 1: certain areas of your life which will go into a
Speaker 1: bit more later, or just how you feel within yourself
Speaker 1: as a person. Pa do you want that to look
Speaker 1: like for me? I want to be more forgiving. I
Speaker 1: want to be slower. I want to be a human being,
Speaker 1: not a human doing That's what I want to look like.
Speaker 1: I want more family time, I want more fun. I
Speaker 1: want to do my hobbies again. When my dad passed away,
Speaker 1: I took up painting. I did paint by numbers and
Speaker 1: it was amazing. I did like cross stick and it
Speaker 1: was just so good. And I've stopped, so I want
Speaker 1: to do more fun shoot again. All right, now, Step two,
Speaker 1: we're going to start doing your life. Word it now
Speaker 1: if you've never done one of these. Traditionally, it's like
Speaker 1: this wheel of life that you see online and it's
Speaker 1: broken up into different categories usually like personal growth, finance, career, relationships, etc.
Speaker 1: And then there's lines and new color it into your
Speaker 1: level of satisfaction. Now I'm trying to do this guide
Speaker 1: so it's really easy for you. So we're not going
Speaker 1: to do that, but I want you to choose six categories.
Speaker 2: I'm going to give you a couple of ideas now
Speaker 2: that most relate to you in your life.
Speaker 1: Now, there is some categories that you have to put
Speaker 1: in there because you are a human being and you
Speaker 1: need to do it.
Speaker 2: And then there's a couple that you can change.
Speaker 1: Now, these categories look like family, career, finance, hobbies, personal growth,
Speaker 1: mental health, physical health, friends, it could be study that
Speaker 1: kind of thing. So I want you to really think
Speaker 1: about what your categories are now, your non negotiable categories
Speaker 1: are personal growth, which means the time you spend on yourself,
Speaker 1: Like working on yourself. Can't stand when you see people
Speaker 1: who are just constantly just trying to be.
Speaker 2: Better and better and better. I want you to be happier.
Speaker 1: So working on yourself can look like yes, obviously doing
Speaker 1: goal setting because that is healthy as long as it's realistic.
Speaker 1: It can be learning new things, like learning is so
Speaker 1: good for us and it actually will make you happier.
Speaker 1: And it doesn't have to be something to do with work,
Speaker 1: like I'd rather you not have it do with work.
Speaker 2: If that lights you up, then do it.
Speaker 1: The next non negotiable is mental and physical health, So
Speaker 1: there are two categories, mental health and physical health obvious reasons.
Speaker 1: Another category you must have is fun slash hobbies because
Speaker 1: as I said, we do not have.
Speaker 2: Enough fun as adults.
Speaker 1: I also want you to have relationships in there, whether
Speaker 1: you want to pop in family or friends or both.
Speaker 1: I usually just pop in relationships, and then I focus
Speaker 1: on family, like so my husband and my kids, and
Speaker 1: then I focus on like friendships and.
Speaker 2: Things like that.
Speaker 1: Now, the other one that will chop and change for
Speaker 1: people would be career study be home life, which is
Speaker 1: a big one, and that is another one that I
Speaker 1: would recommend having as a category if you're a stay
Speaker 1: at home mum, having home life and family are two
Speaker 1: really important categories, so they're the category. So I want
Speaker 1: you to write them down, the ones that best work
Speaker 1: for you. Now, I'm not going to be making you
Speaker 1: color in a wheel like I said, but instead, what
Speaker 1: we are going to be doing is rating these areas
Speaker 1: of our lives from one to five. So one is
Speaker 1: you were not satisfied feeling content in this area of
Speaker 1: your life, eg.
Speaker 2: Physical health.
Speaker 1: Maybe you are literally not moving at all, You're sitting
Speaker 1: on the couch all day, You're eating French fries for breakfast, lunch,
Speaker 1: and dinner. Your health is actually suffering and that's why
Speaker 1: it's or one. You get what I mean. And then
Speaker 1: five is you're feeling really good in this area. You
Speaker 1: feel like you know you're progressing again.
Speaker 2: You can't always be.
Speaker 1: At the end goal because there isn't an end goal really,
Speaker 1: but you're feeling good about that area of your life.
Speaker 2: So that's a five.
Speaker 1: So now on your piece of paper, I want you
Speaker 1: to write your category heading and then next to it,
Speaker 1: I want you to put your rating of one to five,
Speaker 1: whatever it is. Now underneath this is the next step
Speaker 1: of our audit. Now, this next part I have been
Speaker 1: doing for a while and I'm actually reflecting it into
Speaker 1: my planets for next year, which I'm really excited.
Speaker 2: I'm not supposed to tell you that, but.
Speaker 1: It's been working for me amazingly for a while now,
Speaker 1: and I finally decided to change it in the planners. Anyway,
Speaker 1: for each category, we're going to be doing something called start, stop,
Speaker 1: step and stick with. So basically, what you want to
Speaker 1: do is write down things in that air of your
Speaker 1: life you want to stop. For mental health, I want
Speaker 1: to stop filling up my spare time with work and
Speaker 1: instead I want to start using that time as down
Speaker 1: time to do reading or painting things like that. So
Speaker 1: we've got our stop and we've got our start. Now
Speaker 1: the next thing is step. Now, this is the step
Speaker 1: you need to take or the action you need to
Speaker 1: take to start the habit that you just put down.
Speaker 1: So the step I need to take is I need
Speaker 1: to go and order some books online, or I need
Speaker 1: to buy some painting stuff, or I need a scheduling too.
Speaker 2: My planner that I get self rest here and here.
Speaker 1: Do you see what I mean? So the actual step
Speaker 1: you need to take to start the thing. Now the
Speaker 1: last step is stick with Now, these are the things
Speaker 1: that you're doing in that area of your life that
Speaker 1: are feeling good and.
Speaker 2: You want to stick with it.
Speaker 1: So personal growth. For me, something I want to stick
Speaker 1: with is my journaling. I've been journaling for years. I
Speaker 1: do it morning and night, sometimes more than that because
Speaker 1: my brain's crazy, and that's something I'm going to stick
Speaker 1: with because it makes me feel good.
Speaker 2: So that is the principle.
Speaker 1: So you've got your stop so habits you want to
Speaker 1: stop in this area, Start things you want to start
Speaker 1: in this area, step the action or step you need
Speaker 1: to take in order to start that new habit, and
Speaker 1: then stick with so the things that you want to
Speaker 1: stick with. So you are going to list these out
Speaker 1: for every category. I want to give you another example
Speaker 1: just to help you out, SORR. An example for physical
Speaker 1: health will be stop sitting at my desk all day.
Speaker 1: Start hitting eight K steps to day, and the step
Speaker 1: for that is scheduling in mini breaks throughout my day
Speaker 1: in my planner, setting reminders of my phone, maybe an
Speaker 1: alarm to say get up and go for a quick
Speaker 1: walk or buying a walking path and getting like a
Speaker 1: standing desk, So that is a step for that. Now
Speaker 1: for family or relationships, it could be stop laying in
Speaker 1: bed next to each other scrolling on your phone the
Speaker 1: whole time because they like your connections not happening, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. Could be start having allocated screen
Speaker 1: or scrolling time and then having quality time together. And
Speaker 1: the step to do that would be setting an alarm
Speaker 1: to saying get off your phone, or setting up your
Speaker 1: down time settings in your phone because that is literally
Speaker 1: life changing and it literally cut.
Speaker 2: My screen time in half.
Speaker 1: And then for a family stick with would be maybe
Speaker 1: you guys go for a walk on Sunday or maybe
Speaker 1: you go out for a cute lunch, like that's something
Speaker 1: you want to stick with.
Speaker 2: So that's another example.
Speaker 1: I think the one that you guys probably struggle with
Speaker 1: the most for this is home. So an example for
Speaker 1: home would be stop leaving clutter around at night or.
Speaker 2: Not putting things away.
Speaker 1: So to solve that, we want to start doing a
Speaker 1: non negotiables afternoon route, and the step to do that
Speaker 1: would be to actually write out the list like your
Speaker 1: checklist for your new PM routine. Pop it on your stepface,
Speaker 1: fridge magnet on the fridge, the whole family can see.
Speaker 1: And then you can actually start doing it and then
Speaker 1: stick with you know, doing your changing your sheets once
Speaker 1: a week or whatever you do. That's like hydren at
Speaker 1: home that you want to stick.
Speaker 2: With, you know what I mean? Like back, you mean whatever.
Speaker 1: Now this takes us to steps three. You've gone through
Speaker 1: all the categories of your life. See if you're satisfied
Speaker 1: or not the things you're going to stop start and
Speaker 1: stick with, and the steps and all the things. Now
Speaker 1: we're up to checking in with the goals that you
Speaker 1: have set for the month or the year ahead. Now
Speaker 1: I talk about all about this in the Reset Roadmap again,
Speaker 1: I'll pop it below because goal setting is so extremely
Speaker 1: important and that is either going to set you up
Speaker 1: for success or failure or disappointment. That's the first thing
Speaker 1: I'm want to say now here. I want you to
Speaker 1: revisit the goals that you had set for the last
Speaker 1: six months and ask yourself, have I made any progress
Speaker 1: on them? What's been holding you back? And be really
Speaker 1: specific would be time. Okay, so what part of my
Speaker 1: weeks am I not able to dedicate.
Speaker 2: Towards this goal?
Speaker 1: Or slot in the habits to get to this goal.
Speaker 1: For example, ak steps, where can you schedule in time
Speaker 1: to go for a walk? Now, if any of those
Speaker 1: goals you want to continue with and you feel like
Speaker 1: the season of your life here and right now, it
Speaker 1: is very much still relevant and it will serve you,
Speaker 1: keep it and you're going to schedule that in for
Speaker 1: the next quarter. Only you need to not think of
Speaker 1: the whole staircase, only the first step. And that is
Speaker 1: the same with goals. Another question I want you to
Speaker 1: ask when you're looking at each of the goals that
Speaker 1: they've set, is there any self sabotaging behaviors that you've
Speaker 1: been doing that have prevented you from getting to your goals? Now,
Speaker 1: self sabotage is a whole other topic, but doing things
Speaker 1: like procrastination, ben infectionist, wait until you.
Speaker 2: Have all the answers before you start things.
Speaker 1: Those are actually self sabotaged because our brain doesn't like change.
Speaker 1: Our brain wants us, unfortunately, to stay the same because
Speaker 1: it means that we're safe. Even when safe is shit
Speaker 1: for us aka filling lethargic, not being healthy, being stuck
Speaker 1: in relationships that just aren't good for you because your
Speaker 1: brain knows are familiar, so that's why trying to keep
Speaker 1: you there.
Speaker 2: So just remember that.
Speaker 1: Now I want you to set your goals for the
Speaker 1: next quarter, so again really looking at what your life
Speaker 1: looks like right now. Now, I know we are all
Speaker 1: chasing this thing called balance, but balance isn't always really
Speaker 1: the right word because when you're in certain seasons of
Speaker 1: your life, your focus needs to be on certain areas.
Speaker 2: And of course you're always juggling.
Speaker 1: We're juggling all the time, but there is times in
Speaker 1: your life where you are really really heavily focused in
Speaker 1: you know, obviously family when your kids are babies, or
Speaker 1: it could be work, or it could be study, like
Speaker 1: it just depends where you're at. It could be home
Speaker 1: like right now we're building and we're going to be
Speaker 1: moving soon, like, there's always things going on.
Speaker 2: So just being really aware of that.
Speaker 1: Now, I want you to write down your goal and
Speaker 1: then again break it down. We're going to reverse engineer
Speaker 1: that goal into habits, and then you need to make
Speaker 1: sure that these habits you are actually scheduling in into
Speaker 1: your planner, your SPP planner and making time for because
Speaker 1: if you don't plan it, it's not gonna happen.
Speaker 2: Let's be honest now, Step four.
Speaker 1: These are the three days that you need to schedule
Speaker 1: into your month this month to help you finish off
Speaker 1: your midiar reset and day three will probably surprise you.
Speaker 1: All right, So Day one is I want you to
Speaker 1: have a mini reset day. This day, I want you
Speaker 1: to be doing a de clutter and a reset of
Speaker 1: your personal space, your physical space and also it can
Speaker 1: be your digital space. But this is going to time
Speaker 1: to day two a little bit. But just you'll know
Speaker 1: when I tell you. So when I say a mini
Speaker 1: recet day, I don't want you to flog yourself so
Speaker 1: hard to literally clean the whole house on heptatope they
Speaker 1: clutter the whole place and then do all the other
Speaker 1: things I'm about to.
Speaker 2: Ask with you. No, no, no, I want you to focus.
Speaker 1: On the areas i've just been like, you know, those
Speaker 1: areas that you know, like I really need to get
Speaker 1: to that one cupboard, or I need to just like
Speaker 1: clear out my off first for my bedroom, like areas
Speaker 1: that really defect you and your mental health the most.
Speaker 1: That is your physical space. So de clutter spaces that.
Speaker 2: You've been putting off.
Speaker 1: I want you to also did cluttering the high traffic
Speaker 1: areas of your home.
Speaker 2: So for us, that's like the hallway where all the
Speaker 2: shoes and craper.
Speaker 1: There's always like we have a shoe basket, there's always
Speaker 1: a million stocks in there.
Speaker 2: So things like that.
Speaker 1: The kids room, I like to quickly go through some
Speaker 1: of their toys. Just do a bit of a like
Speaker 1: will donate or we'll do like toy rotation, which I should.
Speaker 2: I want a video about that too, ol and that below.
Speaker 2: Reset your car, So did clutter your car?
Speaker 1: Clean out your car and get rid of the twenty
Speaker 1: drink bottles that you've been driving around with for the
Speaker 1: last six months.
Speaker 2: Clean out your work space or wherever you spend most
Speaker 2: of your.
Speaker 1: Time, even like this, like the lounge room, like just
Speaker 1: making it feel fresh, vacuum clean some surfaces down, but
Speaker 1: do not do not absolutely flog yourself. The next category
Speaker 1: of this section is personal.
Speaker 2: So for me, I like to.
Speaker 1: Clean out my handbag, which I would recommend also doing
Speaker 1: the kids' school bags as well. So I like to
Speaker 1: go through my handbag, even if you can wash it.
Speaker 2: I'll chocolate in the wash.
Speaker 1: My gin bag, I chuck in the wash and get
Speaker 1: rid of any old receipts and things like that, and
Speaker 1: you're going to be saving that for the next day.
Speaker 2: So any receipts and things that you need to keep
Speaker 2: and you just need to be doing admin. That's for
Speaker 2: day two.
Speaker 1: I'm going to clean out the fridge and the freezer
Speaker 1: because we all know you've got steak that's two years
Speaker 1: old in them.
Speaker 2: Well I hope not, but you probably may have.
Speaker 1: So you're going to clean those places out. Go through
Speaker 1: your pantry. I'm not saying you have to fully organize it,
Speaker 1: but just go through it and at least get rid
Speaker 1: of expired items or things that just need to be
Speaker 1: used so then you can save money. And of course
Speaker 1: change your sheets and towels, just because it's going to
Speaker 1: make you feel fresh. Now I'm moving on to the
Speaker 1: personal reset. So this is stuff that I actually do
Speaker 1: every month most months. I'm not going to stund perfect
Speaker 1: all the time, but these are the things I want
Speaker 1: you to do. I want you to clean your makeup brushes.
Speaker 1: I used to be a makeup artist and I cannot
Speaker 1: talk minor horrific. The next thing is restock on your
Speaker 1: vitamins or supplements that you need to be taking, and
Speaker 1: actually even get a pill organizer. I have a really
Speaker 1: cute little pink one. Then I'll link it blow my
Speaker 1: Amazon store.
Speaker 2: FIM. I think that I used to organize my vitamins,
Speaker 2: and that's really important as well.
Speaker 1: I want you to book in any health appointments that
Speaker 1: you need, perhaps mes shit like that, book them in
Speaker 1: and have an everything shower, which I know is a
Speaker 1: job within itself, but have one of those showers, you know,
Speaker 1: put on a face mask, find like an old hair
Speaker 1: mask you've got in the cupboard. Just just give yourself
Speaker 1: a bit of pampering. You know, that's what your personal reset.
Speaker 1: And you can do that at the very end of
Speaker 1: this day, because you mon't be a bit tired now
Speaker 1: that you've reset your physical and personal space. Now we're
Speaker 1: going to be leading into the digital space. But this
Speaker 1: is also going to as I said, this is also
Speaker 1: going to cross over a little bit with Day two,
Speaker 1: which is a life at mid day.
Speaker 2: We all need a life at mid day to do
Speaker 2: all the.
Speaker 1: Annoying things that we've been putting off, like booking that
Speaker 1: doctor's appointment that you've been stressing over for like three
Speaker 1: weeks now, and you lost sleepover but you.
Speaker 2: Just can't pick up the phone to call the doctor.
Speaker 1: Speaking from experience, So this part you can decide if
Speaker 1: you want to cull your tech stuff on this day,
Speaker 1: so things like clean up your computer files, going through
Speaker 1: photos in your phone, which I actually recommend.
Speaker 2: Doing slowly if you're like me and have a million photos.
Speaker 1: I actually do it at the end of every month
Speaker 1: and I look at the previous months, like the month
Speaker 1: that has just passed.
Speaker 2: I look at those photos and.
Speaker 1: Things and delete ones I want to get rid off.
Speaker 1: So you can do that gradually. So let's talk about
Speaker 1: the next day that you're going to schedule in, which
Speaker 1: is your life at midday. As I said, this is
Speaker 1: a day you're going to do the things that you
Speaker 1: just have been putting off. You're going to go to
Speaker 1: the post office. You're going to finally return that products
Speaker 1: you bought that is broken. You're going to book in
Speaker 1: the dog for the bat. You're going to book the
Speaker 1: family and.
Speaker 2: For the doctors. You're going to report that.
Speaker 1: Plan outside that's been sitting there for five months. You're
Speaker 1: going to finally take the vacuum cleaning to get fixed
Speaker 1: that's been sitting in the boot of your car for
Speaker 1: a year. Speaking from experience, You're going to get your
Speaker 1: inbox to zero, and I'm going to give you all
Speaker 1: the hack here, and it's for going to scare some
Speaker 1: of you. But anything that is older than six months,
Speaker 1: just archive it in your inbox, even three months, because
Speaker 1: at least if it's archived, you can find it again.
Speaker 1: So just archive it and start clean, make some labels,
Speaker 1: and get it organized.
Speaker 2: So just do that.
Speaker 1: But honestly, archiving a massive chunk of emails that you
Speaker 1: haven't been looking at, just do it. Unsubscribing from annoying
Speaker 1: newsletters that you've been getting that's not staff based planners
Speaker 1: doing stuff like that.
Speaker 2: And he says also where.
Speaker 1: I want you to do a bit of a financial review,
Speaker 1: so you don't have to go over like a whole
Speaker 1: year or the last six months bank statement, but even
Speaker 1: the last month. Just see where you can really, like,
Speaker 1: stop unnecessary spending.
Speaker 2: I want you to be going into your.
Speaker 1: Subscriptions and your apps and delete anything that you don't
Speaker 1: need or use and you've been paying for. And day three,
Speaker 1: I want you to have.
Speaker 2: A potato day. Yes, a potato day. No, it's not
Speaker 2: a day we eat.
Speaker 1: Well, you can sit down in the potatoes if you like,
Speaker 1: chip to the delicious. This is a day you're going
Speaker 1: to be doing absolutely fuck. You're literally going to sit
Speaker 1: your ars down or this doesn't have to mean you
Speaker 1: have to literally be lazy or day. But I just
Speaker 1: want you to just do whatever you want to do.
Speaker 1: Maybe your potato day is going for a walk and
Speaker 1: then watching your favorite Netflix show. But I want you
Speaker 1: to have a full day. Obviously we do have obligations
Speaker 1: and things, but when you'vedropped the kids off at school,
Speaker 1: or once you've done the things you have to do
Speaker 1: every day, I want you to do nothing. I want
Speaker 1: you to just do what you want to do. You're
Speaker 1: gonna have your potato day, all right. Just relax, just
Speaker 1: chillax for one day. And the last step of this
Speaker 1: media reset is just looking at your current routine. I
Speaker 1: want you to write down or think about your current routine.
Speaker 1: What days of the week the most stressful for you?
Speaker 1: And why what parts of the day are most stressful
Speaker 1: for you? And why is it the mornings? Because off,
Speaker 1: I haven't made the kids lunches, I impacked my bag,
Speaker 1: I've woken up to the kids screaming in my face
Speaker 1: because they want to eat chocolate for breakfast. There's peanut
Speaker 1: butter on the dog, like why is it stressful? And
Speaker 1: pinpoint it in my reset Roadmark, I actually go through
Speaker 1: a really good strategy for creating your perfect routine. So
Speaker 1: it's going through listening out your non negotiables, so the
Speaker 1: things that you have to do day to day, and
Speaker 1: then sting out the habits and things that will make
Speaker 1: you happier and get you closer to your.
Speaker 2: Goals, and then scheduling them in to your routine. And
Speaker 2: with this, I.
Speaker 1: Want you to really higne in on your AM and
Speaker 1: PM routine because these parts of the days will make
Speaker 1: or break the whole middle part of your day. So
Speaker 1: if you're AM and PM a shit, this part is
Speaker 1: going to be pretty difficult. But if these too a nailed,
Speaker 1: the middle part will go a lot more smooth. Anyways, guys,
Speaker 1: let me know below how you go with your media
Speaker 1: reset again, focusing on your non negotiables, how you want
Speaker 1: it to look, what's not working. All of that is
Speaker 1: in there as well, you know, as I love you
Speaker 1: guys so much, enjoy your media reset, be kind to yourself,
Speaker 1: don't be an asshole to yourself, and I'll see you guys
Speaker 1: one day.
Speaker 2: Bye.
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