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Speaker 1: Apodjay Production. Welcome to the She Rises Podcast. I'm Ashi

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Speaker 1: and I'm Tiana. This podcast is about female empowerment and

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Speaker 1: encouraging you to be your biggest, boldest, and most authentic

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Speaker 1: version of yourself. We'd help you. Shehad the shame grow

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Speaker 1: to a new level.

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Speaker 2: We're gonna laugh, cry, and talk about the topics everyone

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Speaker 2: else is too afraid to talk about.

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Speaker 1: Get ready for your next level of self. Welcome back

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Speaker 1: to another episode of She Rises. We've got Ashi here,

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Speaker 1: We've got Tiana and also a very special guest, Lewis Huckstep.

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Speaker 1: If you haven't listened, we had an episode back with

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Speaker 1: Lewis a couple of weeks ago and a couple months

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Speaker 1: ago actually, and it was an incredible session. If you

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Speaker 1: haven't listened to it, you will learn so much. But

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Speaker 1: we have a very vulnerable episode coming for you today.

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Speaker 1: Thanks you so much for coming.

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Speaker 2: Like last time, we kind of you asked us a

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Speaker 2: couple of questions and we were like, oh, but we

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Speaker 2: left it being like, oh my god, we need more

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Speaker 2: of that. We want to explore more of that, so

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Speaker 2: we thought would bring him on. It's almost like a

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Speaker 2: live coaching session. You guys are gonna you ask being

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Speaker 2: super vulnerable and we have no idea how this process works.

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Speaker 2: So this is what you take your clients through.

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Speaker 3: Right, Yeah, and this is like my signature process. I've

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Speaker 3: got all my balancing process and we're going to do

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Speaker 3: a mini version of it today just for time. I'll

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Speaker 3: use about four or five different techniques along the way.

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Speaker 3: My intention is to just guide you guys through a

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Speaker 3: really beautiful rebalancing of your mind and closing off in

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Speaker 3: emotional loops. They're like the two big components. Trauma for

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Speaker 3: me is a moment of overwhelm. My underwhelm where you

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Speaker 3: split and fragment your awareness. So we're going to re

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Speaker 3: unfragment that and bring that back into balance. And there's

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Speaker 3: probably going to be emotions as well. That's why I've

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Speaker 3: got tissues on stand. But yeah, the goal is wherever

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Speaker 3: you have mental or emotional resistance underneath there there's something

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Speaker 3: to work on.

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Speaker 1: If you could tell anyone who's listening, what is it

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Speaker 1: that you do and what is it that you specialize in.

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Speaker 3: I help people find their lives purpose, do the inner work.

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Speaker 3: So trauma, which is the center of what we're doing today,

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Speaker 3: limiting believes emotional blocks and create a life that's meaningful

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Speaker 3: and fulfilling to them, so it's known your purpose, your

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Speaker 3: value is what's your vision for your life, giving them

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Speaker 3: the skills and structure to actually practically create it, but

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Speaker 3: then address the mental and emotional block so it would

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Speaker 3: stop you from getting there, which is and what we're

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Speaker 3: doing today. Success is eighty percent psychology, twenty percent skills.

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Speaker 3: Skills are easier, you, guys are in the fitness world.

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Speaker 3: A lot of people know how to be healthy, but

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Speaker 3: they don't do it because there's something going on in here.

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Speaker 1: Something's blocking them and preventing them from doing that makes

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Speaker 1: sense that you know, honestly, if you haven't listened to

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Speaker 1: that last episode, go back, change your life.

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Speaker 3: Any final words, ladies.

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Speaker 2: Oh wesh, just look, I know I've literally had like

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Speaker 2: an hour sleep last night.

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Speaker 1: Something I like, I'm to be extra emotional animal my heario.

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Speaker 1: But I'm ready. I'm always ready for this work. I'm

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Speaker 1: excited for it. Quickly before we get stuck into it, guys,

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Speaker 1: if you want to do this process with us, sit down,

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Speaker 1: grab a piece of paper or notepad and a pen,

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Speaker 1: and as Lewis is asking us these questions, listen and

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Speaker 1: do the questions yourself as well, So take yourself through

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Speaker 1: the process. If you get a little bit confused, don't stress.

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Speaker 1: But he explains it and will explain it really, really simply,

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Speaker 1: and come along on the journey with us, and definitely

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Speaker 1: do it because his coaching is not cheap.

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Speaker 2: So for us all to be able to experience a

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Speaker 2: taste of what he does, it's incredible, like life changing.

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Speaker 2: If you can heal one part of what we're about

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Speaker 2: to do. Wow, if you're ready, let's go deep.

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Speaker 1: So let's do it.

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Speaker 3: Closing down your eyes with me, place one hand on

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Speaker 3: your heart and taking a big, deep breath into your heart,

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Speaker 3: heart knows the answers today, removing any judgment. There'll be

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Speaker 3: taking a massive breath in without judgment. Which parent do

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Speaker 3: So whatever comes up, So you can't have judgment without content,

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Speaker 1: For do I go my father? I don't know my

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Speaker 3: You can do either this process we're doing today. You

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Speaker 3: I'll probably go the one that you know the most.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, I'm also sorry in advanced mom.

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Speaker 3: Doesn't mean you don't love these people. I love my

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Speaker 3: mom and dad. I've done many processes on my mom

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Speaker 3: trauma's on a mode of overwhelm or underwhelm. And as

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Speaker 3: Zero, So you're going to have micro wounds or bigger

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Speaker 3: wounds with parents, So you can always get some juice

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Speaker 3: out of parents and partners as well. Yeah, that's why

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Speaker 3: most processes I do with clients is parents, partners, or yourself.

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Speaker 3: We can do it on yourself and not doing that today.

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Speaker 3: Trauma is a moment of overwhelm or underwhelm. And when

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Speaker 3: it comes to human relationship trauma, it's going to be

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Speaker 3: No judgment of your answer in a one word answer,

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Speaker 2: I can't think of a word for it, But just

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Speaker 2: like feeling like I didn't matter, so close your.

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Speaker 3: to go to a moment of when, where, and what happened.

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Speaker 3: with you first, Ashes, I'll get your trade as well.

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Speaker 3: Tell me what happened? Where were you?

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Speaker 1: It made me feel like I was crazy awesome.

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Speaker 3: So what's the most painful moment is when he lied?

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Speaker 3: Triggers revealed the wound, that's the mirror. So when your

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, I'm already having a pivotal moment. Where

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Speaker 1: like twelve years after that. But the initial moment that

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Speaker 3: specific moments of judgment. So it's a moment just you

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Speaker 3: Remember triggers reveal wounds underneath the surface, and it's normally

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Speaker 3: from childhood. How old are you guys, Actually at this moment,

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Speaker 3: you were fifteen. I was about twelve. Awesome. So now

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Speaker 3: Beautiful? So this is how you try to be seen

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Speaker 1: Yeah, attention and pride that literally, pride before the fall.

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Speaker 3: I try to pride myself and being honest, and I

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Speaker 3: I'm unavailable or ignore others. Yeah, good strategy. So that's teaching.

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Speaker 3: That's like the prep work that we do. So now

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Speaker 3: the first exercise, the full process is twelve steps. We're

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Speaker 3: doing four of them today. First one is you were

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Speaker 3: Just give me one outloud and you don't need the

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Speaker 3: Last week writer, you're going to aim for ten Go

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Speaker 3: oh yeah, I agree when you fucking didn't you just

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Speaker 1: So what would that look like for me? In terms

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Speaker 3: So someone gave you a belief and you just ignored it.

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Speaker 3: You need to go worship God and you're like, I

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Speaker 3: Someone projected their spiritual beliefs onto you, and you completely

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Speaker 3: or he's the man, or he's evil. It's like, depending

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Speaker 3: on your beliefs, you'll ignore that, like Ahna, fair enough,

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Speaker 3: Where have you done this trait? Who's seen you do

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Speaker 3: your partner's and ex partners will come up many times, Georgia,

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Speaker 3: when I do it, my wife, so he comes up

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Speaker 3: so right down, where were you when? Was it just

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Speaker 3: massurreming you've lied to your kids before? Oh yeah, berth

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Perfect? So write down when where who will deflect? Oh

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Speaker 3: they're white lives. You're sell fucking line when if you

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Speaker 3: because they're like, holy fuck, I do this. I'm just

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Speaker 3: like my dad. I'm just like my mum. I've had

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Speaker 3: people crying this same step. It's only in the trade

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Speaker 3: when a baby is born. What parts of a baby

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Speaker 1: All of them?

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Speaker 3: So this part of you is lovable, but you don't

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Speaker 3: love this part of you. And every time you find one,

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Speaker 3: oh fuck, lock that one out.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, almost feel guilty. I feel like guilt or shame

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Speaker 3: Jane Perfect. We shame ourselves for this part because.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, I've actually been seeing where I do

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Speaker 1: this more often, But then I haven't been like, oh no,

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Speaker 1: it's fine. I jot you that because I always make

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Speaker 3: You did you a good lesson because you're like this

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Speaker 3: whenever you hear absolute language, always never, ever, no, one,

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Speaker 3: make time. Bullshit when if you're not made time for someone? Yeah,

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Speaker 3: Often whenever I hear absolute language, I know it's.

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Speaker 1: Bullshit's so funny. I didn't even hear myself say that.

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Speaker 3: But I'm a mirror for you. Keep up, keep looking,

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Speaker 3: take your birth in. If you get stuck, we're going

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Speaker 3: to aim for ten. Find a moment where you lied.

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Speaker 3: You would have lied in school. You're a teenager, right, Yeah,

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Speaker 3: Snuck out at home, go drink some alcohol, so like

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Speaker 3: with Lloyd and tell mom and dad about it. Sometimes

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Speaker 3: So sometimes I put like a little reference next to it,

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Speaker 3: so like Georgia at home in the kitchen. So I

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Speaker 3: just to give me an effort, because you just need

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Speaker 3: to read those. And you're like, yeah, this is learning

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Speaker 3: to love this part of who you are. So you

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Speaker 3: your own needs.

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Speaker 1: Always not always.

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Speaker 3: We can look that language, and there's times actually where

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Speaker 3: you don't actually speak your truth, so you bite your tongue.

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Speaker 3: All emotions and all parts of you are loved with me.

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Speaker 3: It's all welcomed with me. There's no judgment here. I've

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Speaker 3: Just take to be breath into your heart, let your intuition.

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Speaker 3: Look where else have you done this trait so physically

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Speaker 3: with your body? Like health wise obviously guys are in

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Speaker 3: essentially where if you like sexually your partner wanted to

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Speaker 3: it anyways because you feel like it be a shit.

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Speaker 3: You ignored your own needs. Sexually, you wanted to do

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Speaker 3: something or someone said something, you don't want to do it,

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Speaker 3: but you did it anyways, ignored your boundaries. Oh yeah,

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Speaker 3: the goal is just have infinite time to just keep going.

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Speaker 3: Because there's some clarifying questions I'm going to ask you soon,

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Speaker 3: and if you couldn't answer them, I'd tell you to

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Speaker 3: go back and keep answering until you can. But I

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Speaker 1: I think sexually and relationally for me is a big one.

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Speaker 1: But like there'd be a lot there do I just.

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Speaker 3: Do more, get thirty if you can just keep blian.

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Speaker 3: Remember your heart has intelligence. You have a heart beat

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Speaker 3: before you have a brain, so your heart hasn't inelligence,

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Speaker 3: heart to answer it. Where have you lied? And who's

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Speaker 3: seen you light?

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Speaker 1: Before?

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Speaker 3: You kept a secret, you try to hide it, lie

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Speaker 3: and find where you've lied. Have you ever had a

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Speaker 3: Have you ever beaten yourself up and told yourself really

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Speaker 3: negative things? Oh? Yeah, all the time, and any of

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Speaker 3: those lies. I'm not enough, I'm stupid, I'm perfect. Find

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Speaker 3: one of those bats. So just the time, we will

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Speaker 3: move on. But I would get you to keep going

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Speaker 3: until you can answer these following questions. I'm going to

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Speaker 3: but in a full process, i'd say come back and

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Speaker 3: keep going. So I want you to just read over

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Speaker 3: And I want you to feel what it feels like

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Speaker 3: for these people to see you doing this trait to them.

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Speaker 3: But it's a part of who you are. Feel whatever

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Speaker 3: emotions come up for you as it comes up when

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Speaker 3: to it. Feel what it feels like. I feel guilty,

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Speaker 3: That's okay, you normally do on the step one, step four,

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Speaker 3: you'll be sweet. Feel what it feels like for these

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Speaker 3: people see you. You're being seen doing this trait. It's

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Speaker 3: a part of you that they see. Closing down your

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Speaker 3: eyes ash as well, taking a big breath in. Can

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Speaker 3: you see that you do this trait to the same

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Speaker 3: degree as your dad ashing and for you to your mum,

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Speaker 3: you do this trait to the same degree as that

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Speaker 3: person in different forms in different ways. Yes or no?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, beautiful. Actually I want to say no because I'm

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Speaker 3: That's okay, that's a different trait. We're doing line folks online.

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Speaker 1: Even though it's from a different place.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I say different forms. Can you see that you

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Speaker 1: Yes?

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Speaker 3: Or no?

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Speaker 1: In different forms?

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Speaker 3: Yes, beautiful, So you lie to the same degree as

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Speaker 3: your dad in different forms? Yes or no? Can you

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Speaker 1: I feel like it's so different.

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Speaker 3: It's different forms. You justify it, and you deflect it

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Speaker 3: Can you see that you lie to the same degree

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Speaker 3: as your dad in different forms?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Beautiful. Breathe into that and just recognize that. Now, I

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Speaker 3: lied to you, and you're at home and you recognize

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Speaker 3: your mom's ignoring you. Step into the exact moment. You're

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Speaker 3: where you were, think about when it was, and think

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Speaker 3: about exactly what happened when you called this person this

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Speaker 3: trait aside with your team, in that exact moment when

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Speaker 3: you perceived your mum ignoring you, What did you do

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Speaker 3: instantaneously in that moment the.

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Speaker 1: First thing that comes up is like, got angry.

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Speaker 3: Beautiful, keep wicking. So the rule is whatever you judge

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Speaker 3: someone for externally, you do it internally. So when you

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Speaker 3: ignored her back? Perfect? Can you see that you did

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Speaker 3: the exact fucking thing?

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, because I got angry and then I was like,

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Speaker 1: well fuck you.

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Speaker 3: So you did the same thing you judged your mom for.

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Speaker 3: Breathe in to it. You actually healton. So get into

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Speaker 3: that exact moment when your dad lied and you judged

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Speaker 3: and see where you did the same trait in that

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Speaker 3: moment when he lied to you, when you perceived him

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Speaker 3: as lying, What did you do?

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Speaker 1: I cried and angry? Cool?

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Speaker 3: What did you do internally? Mentally, emotionally? What did you do?

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Speaker 1: Shut down? Because I was scared of what he was

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Speaker 1: going to do?

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Speaker 3: Keep looking. So he lied to you? What did you

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Speaker 3: tell yourself in your own head?

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Speaker 1: I don't matter, what I feel doesn't matter.

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Speaker 3: Is that an absolute trick? No? So you lied in

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Speaker 3: that moment. So you did the same thing you judged

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Speaker 3: you dad for in that same moment, breath then and

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Speaker 3: judge someone for you do it instantaneously. You might want

437
00:17:48,120 --> 00:17:49,960
Speaker 3: to do another one on malicious. I think malicious is

438
00:17:49,961 --> 00:17:50,360
Speaker 3: one for you.

439
00:17:50,481 --> 00:17:54,201
Speaker 2: Yeah, because I'm something maliciously someone else, affiliate someone else.

440
00:17:54,281 --> 00:17:56,041
Speaker 2: You know, I was accumulated in front of my mum.

441
00:17:56,400 --> 00:17:58,080
Speaker 2: But to me to lie to myself, it's almost like

442
00:17:58,120 --> 00:17:59,001
Speaker 2: a protective mechanism.

443
00:17:59,281 --> 00:18:01,081
Speaker 3: It's okay. So that's a different trait. So we're doing

444
00:18:01,080 --> 00:18:03,041
Speaker 3: one trade today. I would do another process on that.

445
00:18:03,080 --> 00:18:06,360
Speaker 3: I recommend doing seven to ten balancing process. This is asap. Wow,

446
00:18:06,721 --> 00:18:08,600
Speaker 3: So you'd probably want to do one on anger. And

447
00:18:08,681 --> 00:18:10,400
Speaker 3: you said the word aggression before, and you said the

448
00:18:10,441 --> 00:18:13,521
Speaker 3: word malicious malicious, So do you get triggered when people

449
00:18:13,561 --> 00:18:14,321
Speaker 3: are malicious?

450
00:18:14,400 --> 00:18:14,961
Speaker 1: So much?

451
00:18:15,001 --> 00:18:16,841
Speaker 3: So do that next time. We've obviously started, so we're

452
00:18:16,840 --> 00:18:20,001
Speaker 3: going to continue, but focus on lying. That's the trait.

453
00:18:20,080 --> 00:18:22,041
Speaker 3: Don't blend traits here. So can you guys see that

454
00:18:22,080 --> 00:18:23,440
Speaker 3: you do this trait to the same degree as this

455
00:18:23,481 --> 00:18:24,961
Speaker 3: person and you did it in the same fucking moment

456
00:18:25,001 --> 00:18:27,001
Speaker 3: they did it back to you? Can you see that

457
00:18:27,041 --> 00:18:29,041
Speaker 3: you do this in all areas of your life? Can

458
00:18:29,080 --> 00:18:32,001
Speaker 3: you see that you've been seen doing these traits. People

459
00:18:32,120 --> 00:18:34,200
Speaker 3: have seen you do this. Take a big breath in.

460
00:18:35,761 --> 00:18:37,601
Speaker 3: How are you feeling? Actually, I don't know why.

461
00:18:37,640 --> 00:18:40,080
Speaker 1: The word milicious just triggered me so much. Take a

462
00:18:40,120 --> 00:18:42,400
Speaker 1: breath then, and because I feel like it's raw at

463
00:18:42,400 --> 00:18:44,640
Speaker 1: the moment with a group of girls, I feel like

464
00:18:44,681 --> 00:18:45,960
Speaker 1: it's just like word milicious.

465
00:18:46,041 --> 00:18:48,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, I just don't cope with very Well, that's perfect.

466
00:18:48,761 --> 00:18:52,041
Speaker 3: Thank You've been courageous and being modernalle So i'd probably

467
00:18:52,041 --> 00:18:53,960
Speaker 3: do a process on that another time. Take a big

468
00:18:54,001 --> 00:18:56,440
Speaker 3: breath in and just feel what that feels like, because

469
00:18:56,481 --> 00:18:59,360
Speaker 3: you probably in your psyche, you probably think lying is

470
00:18:59,400 --> 00:19:02,840
Speaker 3: being malicious. So the next question is what did this

471
00:19:02,880 --> 00:19:05,600
Speaker 3: person go through in their life for them to display

472
00:19:05,681 --> 00:19:08,240
Speaker 3: the trait the way that they did. Now you're going

473
00:19:08,241 --> 00:19:10,481
Speaker 3: to write that down and you can do sentences, paragraphs,

474
00:19:10,561 --> 00:19:13,080
Speaker 3: or points. What did this person go through in their

475
00:19:13,120 --> 00:19:14,840
Speaker 3: life for them to display the traite the way that

476
00:19:14,880 --> 00:19:17,240
Speaker 3: they did. Did they ever heal their trauma? Did they

477
00:19:17,241 --> 00:19:19,521
Speaker 3: ever get taught how to communicate openly? What were their

478
00:19:19,521 --> 00:19:21,520
Speaker 3: parents like, what was their childhood like, what was their

479
00:19:21,561 --> 00:19:24,120
Speaker 3: relationship like? What was going on in his life in

480
00:19:24,160 --> 00:19:26,001
Speaker 3: that moment when he lied? What was going on in

481
00:19:26,041 --> 00:19:28,041
Speaker 3: his life around that time? What was going on for

482
00:19:28,080 --> 00:19:30,961
Speaker 3: your mum at that time? Write down everything their upbringing.

483
00:19:31,041 --> 00:19:32,641
Speaker 3: Did they get taught how to regulate? Did they get

484
00:19:32,640 --> 00:19:34,321
Speaker 3: taught how to communicate? Did they get taught how to

485
00:19:34,360 --> 00:19:37,120
Speaker 3: heal their shit? Were they carrying around decades of trauma

486
00:19:37,120 --> 00:19:39,400
Speaker 3: that they never addressed? Write down everything that you know.

487
00:19:39,640 --> 00:19:42,361
Speaker 3: There's why parents and partners are generally easier for this process.

488
00:19:42,481 --> 00:19:44,280
Speaker 3: Now you technically don't have to do this question, but

489
00:19:44,561 --> 00:19:46,200
Speaker 3: we're going to get the most done as we can.

490
00:19:46,281 --> 00:19:46,600
Speaker 1: I don't know.

491
00:19:46,681 --> 00:19:48,600
Speaker 2: I feel like I heard more about his siblings saying

492
00:19:48,600 --> 00:19:49,840
Speaker 2: they had a beautiful childhood.

493
00:19:49,921 --> 00:19:50,360
Speaker 3: I don't know.

494
00:19:50,561 --> 00:19:53,041
Speaker 1: So what about your dad? He never really told us

495
00:19:53,160 --> 00:19:55,001
Speaker 1: so was he very shut down? Yeah?

496
00:19:56,001 --> 00:19:58,401
Speaker 3: He was a very shut down person. Did he ever

497
00:19:58,441 --> 00:20:01,041
Speaker 3: do any inner healing? No, So he's carrying around a

498
00:20:01,080 --> 00:20:04,041
Speaker 3: lot of trauma then, yeah. Was he financially stressed at

499
00:20:04,041 --> 00:20:04,321
Speaker 3: the time?

500
00:20:04,561 --> 00:20:05,001
Speaker 1: Yeah?

501
00:20:05,521 --> 00:20:08,641
Speaker 3: And financial stress? By him lying, what was he protecting

502
00:20:08,640 --> 00:20:09,960
Speaker 3: you from or what was he getting from that.

503
00:20:10,281 --> 00:20:11,960
Speaker 1: Too large to try and create a wedge with me

504
00:20:12,001 --> 00:20:12,480
Speaker 1: and mum?

505
00:20:12,561 --> 00:20:15,521
Speaker 3: Potentially he's trying to keep the relationship with you, So

506
00:20:15,561 --> 00:20:18,120
Speaker 3: you're not going towards mummy, you're coming towards him. If

507
00:20:18,120 --> 00:20:19,921
Speaker 3: you step into someone's shoes, from the moment they're born

508
00:20:19,961 --> 00:20:22,000
Speaker 3: to the moment of this moment, you understand why they

509
00:20:22,001 --> 00:20:24,321
Speaker 3: did it? This is doing that? What do they come

510
00:20:24,400 --> 00:20:26,720
Speaker 3: up with? What pain did they experience? What was their

511
00:20:26,761 --> 00:20:29,360
Speaker 3: relationships like? What was his relationship like with you? Mum

512
00:20:29,360 --> 00:20:29,840
Speaker 3: at that time?

513
00:20:30,001 --> 00:20:31,080
Speaker 1: Who's cheating? I love?

514
00:20:31,160 --> 00:20:31,200
Speaker 2: You?

515
00:20:31,241 --> 00:20:32,441
Speaker 3: Write down? Why would someone cheat?

516
00:20:32,521 --> 00:20:33,881
Speaker 1: Because he's unhappy? Beautiful?

517
00:20:34,041 --> 00:20:37,321
Speaker 3: Unhappy? You write it down directly, add some shame around that.

518
00:20:38,921 --> 00:20:42,321
Speaker 1: How are you going to unsafe environment? Decades of trauma,

519
00:20:42,640 --> 00:20:45,921
Speaker 1: no healing, needed to protect yourself. Always everything was always

520
00:20:45,961 --> 00:20:47,841
Speaker 1: a threat to her? Makes me feel guilty.

521
00:20:48,001 --> 00:20:50,201
Speaker 3: That's okay. This one's only a shorter question. Read over

522
00:20:50,241 --> 00:20:51,160
Speaker 3: what you've just written out.

523
00:20:51,481 --> 00:20:51,641
Speaker 1: Now.

524
00:20:51,681 --> 00:20:53,961
Speaker 3: It doesn't mean you agree with them and you condone

525
00:20:54,041 --> 00:20:56,561
Speaker 3: what they did. Can you understand why they did that

526
00:20:56,561 --> 00:20:57,960
Speaker 3: trait the way that they did. From what you just

527
00:20:58,001 --> 00:20:59,961
Speaker 3: wrote down, you can start writing down the next question.

528
00:21:00,241 --> 00:21:03,640
Speaker 3: What negative emotions did mum experience? Going through what you

529
00:21:03,681 --> 00:21:07,321
Speaker 3: just wrote down? Up eight for ten, Guilt, shame over all,

530
00:21:07,441 --> 00:21:09,681
Speaker 3: the yeah, you know what's coming? How are you going?

531
00:21:10,360 --> 00:21:10,841
Speaker 1: I think he.

532
00:21:10,840 --> 00:21:13,400
Speaker 2: Wanted to make me look like a liars who was

533
00:21:13,441 --> 00:21:15,801
Speaker 2: like projecting his own stuff onto me because he couldn't.

534
00:21:15,481 --> 00:21:15,801
Speaker 1: Sit with that.

535
00:21:16,241 --> 00:21:19,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, shame, maybe guilt and shame. Yeah, it's a shame strategy.

536
00:21:19,600 --> 00:21:21,801
Speaker 3: Can you see why he likes? Can you understand it

537
00:21:21,801 --> 00:21:22,760
Speaker 3: doesn't mean you agree with it.

538
00:21:22,761 --> 00:21:24,761
Speaker 1: It's uncomfortable to sit with shame projected.

539
00:21:25,481 --> 00:21:28,001
Speaker 3: Can you see that? Beautiful? You can now do the

540
00:21:28,001 --> 00:21:30,761
Speaker 3: next question? Write down what negative emotions would he have

541
00:21:30,801 --> 00:21:40,080
Speaker 3: felt going through everything you just wrote down? Common ones guilt, shame, overwhelmed, fear, anxiety, guilt, fear, loneliness, overwhelm.

542
00:21:40,360 --> 00:21:41,880
Speaker 1: I think he's a narcissist, so I don't think he

543
00:21:41,961 --> 00:21:45,521
Speaker 1: felt much. Sorry, my difficult client, I.

544
00:21:46,201 --> 00:21:48,801
Speaker 3: Keep looking what negative emotions would he have felt going

545
00:21:48,840 --> 00:21:51,201
Speaker 3: through those emotions? Was your dad a child at one point?

546
00:21:51,961 --> 00:21:52,921
Speaker 3: So he's felt emotions?

547
00:21:52,961 --> 00:21:56,080
Speaker 1: Right? Yeah? When ten, I want to give her a

548
00:21:56,080 --> 00:21:56,561
Speaker 1: big hug.

549
00:21:56,921 --> 00:21:58,360
Speaker 3: That's good. You do only want to out the end

550
00:21:58,360 --> 00:21:59,880
Speaker 3: of the process. You want to say thank You're not

551
00:21:59,921 --> 00:22:04,240
Speaker 3: fucking to ask four? That's right? What do you got?

552
00:22:04,561 --> 00:22:06,801
Speaker 1: Shame? You, guilt, significance, what else?

553
00:22:06,921 --> 00:22:09,801
Speaker 3: Negative emotions? Go back to the exact moment they did

554
00:22:09,840 --> 00:22:11,521
Speaker 3: this trait and breathe them to it. If you're feeling

555
00:22:11,521 --> 00:22:12,960
Speaker 3: it too, you can feel it in your It's perfect.

556
00:22:13,241 --> 00:22:15,880
Speaker 3: In that exact moment when this person did the trait,

557
00:22:16,281 --> 00:22:19,120
Speaker 3: What negative emotions did they feel in that moment to

558
00:22:19,160 --> 00:22:22,001
Speaker 3: do the trait? Let your heart answer it, not your

559
00:22:22,001 --> 00:22:28,521
Speaker 3: fucking head. What did they feel negatively to do this trait? Guilt, shame, disconnecting?

560
00:22:29,080 --> 00:22:30,881
Speaker 3: Feel though, I know that's a belief for yours. Get present.

561
00:22:30,961 --> 00:22:32,321
Speaker 3: Let your heart answer it. That's a head answer.

562
00:22:32,400 --> 00:22:35,161
Speaker 1: Close your eyes, he truly is, That's all right, that's

563
00:22:35,160 --> 00:22:35,801
Speaker 1: a belief.

564
00:22:36,441 --> 00:22:38,840
Speaker 3: Breathe Get present. Put your hand on your heart. In

565
00:22:38,880 --> 00:22:41,761
Speaker 3: that moment when he lied, Get present. Think about where

566
00:22:41,801 --> 00:22:44,840
Speaker 3: you were when it was and the fifteen year old yourself,

567
00:22:44,880 --> 00:22:48,281
Speaker 3: I think you said, in that exact moment when he lied,

568
00:22:48,600 --> 00:22:51,440
Speaker 3: what negative emotions did he experience in that moment to

569
00:22:51,521 --> 00:22:55,561
Speaker 3: lie to you? Feel your heart answer it, not your head.

570
00:22:56,041 --> 00:22:57,521
Speaker 3: What came up for you? What answer came up for you?

571
00:22:57,600 --> 00:23:00,400
Speaker 1: Abandonment? Be abandoned, my mom.

572
00:23:00,481 --> 00:23:02,001
Speaker 3: Get one more answer, and then we'll move on to

573
00:23:02,041 --> 00:23:02,521
Speaker 3: the next one.

574
00:23:02,721 --> 00:23:03,600
Speaker 1: Is shit an emotion?

575
00:23:04,080 --> 00:23:06,360
Speaker 3: Whatever? If I If I ask you to feel that

576
00:23:06,441 --> 00:23:08,801
Speaker 3: and you can feel it, you can write down both

577
00:23:08,801 --> 00:23:11,441
Speaker 3: you guys. Closing your eyes one at a time. You're

578
00:23:11,441 --> 00:23:13,240
Speaker 3: going to look at the first emotion. You're then going

579
00:23:13,281 --> 00:23:14,840
Speaker 3: to close your eyes and you're going to feel that

580
00:23:14,880 --> 00:23:19,201
Speaker 3: emotion now, and you're going to breathe into it, breathing

581
00:23:19,241 --> 00:23:21,840
Speaker 3: what this feels like. If it helps to bring up

582
00:23:21,880 --> 00:23:25,321
Speaker 3: moments where you've actually felt this before, do that. Step

583
00:23:25,360 --> 00:23:27,801
Speaker 3: into it, Breathe into it, dial up the emotion as

584
00:23:27,880 --> 00:23:30,640
Speaker 3: much as you can. Don't avoid it. Ladies. This is

585
00:23:30,681 --> 00:23:32,440
Speaker 3: what real courage looks like. And I'm so proud of

586
00:23:32,481 --> 00:23:36,200
Speaker 3: you for leaning into this. Feel it through you now.

587
00:23:37,400 --> 00:23:42,960
Speaker 3: Breathe into this. Now, open your heart to this. Now,

588
00:23:43,721 --> 00:23:46,600
Speaker 3: feel what this feels like through your body, through your

589
00:23:46,600 --> 00:23:51,840
Speaker 3: nervous system, through your heart. Breathe this into you now.

590
00:23:54,761 --> 00:23:56,840
Speaker 3: Once you felt that emotion, move on to the next one.

591
00:23:57,080 --> 00:24:01,041
Speaker 3: All of your emotions are worthy and welcomed. Feel it

592
00:24:01,080 --> 00:24:05,960
Speaker 3: through you, open up to it, and again, once you

593
00:24:06,001 --> 00:24:07,681
Speaker 3: feel like you felt that emotion as much, you can

594
00:24:07,801 --> 00:24:09,681
Speaker 3: just move on to the next one. You'll find certain

595
00:24:09,721 --> 00:24:12,561
Speaker 3: emotions bring up more for you. Focus on those ones.

596
00:24:12,961 --> 00:24:15,041
Speaker 3: It would be some emotion that really hit your heart

597
00:24:16,481 --> 00:24:22,041
Speaker 3: and feel them, your beautiful souls with beautiful hearts, breathing

598
00:24:22,120 --> 00:24:26,080
Speaker 3: into it, feeling as much as you can feel it

599
00:24:26,120 --> 00:24:28,761
Speaker 3: through you. If you move, if you shake, if you yawn,

600
00:24:28,801 --> 00:24:32,400
Speaker 3: if you cry, all of it is welcomed. If you

601
00:24:32,400 --> 00:24:39,481
Speaker 3: make any noises, that is perfect. Breathe and feel, feel

602
00:24:39,721 --> 00:24:43,640
Speaker 3: and breathe this into you. Feel what it feels like

603
00:24:44,201 --> 00:24:46,520
Speaker 3: to feel this emotion. Step into it.

604
00:24:46,880 --> 00:24:47,880
Speaker 1: Cry all my makeup.

605
00:24:48,160 --> 00:24:51,640
Speaker 3: That's okay, it's all. Welcome to your mother. This is

606
00:24:51,681 --> 00:24:56,041
Speaker 3: what this person was experiencing and had experienced in that

607
00:24:56,160 --> 00:25:01,840
Speaker 3: moment and through their life. Breathe into it. Ten seconds,

608
00:25:02,321 --> 00:25:05,400
Speaker 3: Open that heart just a little bit more. Three, two

609
00:25:06,481 --> 00:25:12,000
Speaker 3: and one. Are you ladies feeling Are you feeling tender?

610
00:25:12,880 --> 00:25:15,721
Speaker 3: What's them for you? Actually, I'm not sure I can

611
00:25:15,721 --> 00:25:16,801
Speaker 3: feel the resistance with you.

612
00:25:17,120 --> 00:25:19,841
Speaker 2: I think it's hard to connect with like him feeling

613
00:25:19,880 --> 00:25:23,201
Speaker 2: these because there's just no sign of him feeling any

614
00:25:23,241 --> 00:25:26,241
Speaker 2: of that. Ever, it was like he laughed at it

615
00:25:26,281 --> 00:25:27,120
Speaker 2: and got a kick out of it.

616
00:25:27,561 --> 00:25:30,321
Speaker 3: That will be your perception of him. So there's traits

617
00:25:30,360 --> 00:25:33,801
Speaker 3: that were painful, and when you label someone, you don't

618
00:25:33,801 --> 00:25:35,961
Speaker 3: see them, You see the label. So you see him

619
00:25:36,001 --> 00:25:38,160
Speaker 3: as a lying, abusive, manipulative.

620
00:25:38,321 --> 00:25:39,561
Speaker 1: Is just some of the words the evidence.

621
00:25:39,961 --> 00:25:43,840
Speaker 3: That's your worldview. That's right, that's your ego. You don't

622
00:25:43,840 --> 00:25:45,200
Speaker 3: see things the way they are. You see things the

623
00:25:45,201 --> 00:25:46,801
Speaker 3: way you are. That's how you see your dad. You

624
00:25:46,840 --> 00:25:49,880
Speaker 3: don't see the fullness of your dad right now, and

625
00:25:49,880 --> 00:25:52,120
Speaker 3: then you attract people who mirror him and trigger you.

626
00:25:52,400 --> 00:25:55,080
Speaker 2: I feel like I did the opposite say in him.

627
00:25:55,160 --> 00:25:57,240
Speaker 2: I was like, oh, everything I don't want in a

628
00:25:57,321 --> 00:25:59,960
Speaker 2: father for my children and a husband to me, So

629
00:26:00,120 --> 00:26:03,281
Speaker 2: check the opposite. Then the big teddy bear that doesn't

630
00:26:03,360 --> 00:26:06,001
Speaker 2: yell and doesn't abuse and does hit and throw things

631
00:26:06,001 --> 00:26:06,801
Speaker 2: at me as your.

632
00:26:06,721 --> 00:26:07,481
Speaker 3: Partner lied to you.

633
00:26:08,481 --> 00:26:09,201
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's lied.

634
00:26:09,600 --> 00:26:12,241
Speaker 3: So you've attracted these parts of your dad. Yeah, it's

635
00:26:12,360 --> 00:26:14,401
Speaker 3: until you learn to love this part of your dad,

636
00:26:14,801 --> 00:26:15,521
Speaker 3: which is a part of you.

637
00:26:16,120 --> 00:26:16,360
Speaker 1: Yeah.

638
00:26:16,521 --> 00:26:18,400
Speaker 3: Self growth, it is learning to love all parts of

639
00:26:18,441 --> 00:26:20,921
Speaker 3: who you are. And again we're focus online, but you've

640
00:26:20,961 --> 00:26:22,561
Speaker 3: just got some of these other resistant ones that are

641
00:26:22,561 --> 00:26:24,600
Speaker 3: coming into it. Yeah, you're like, I can't feel this

642
00:26:24,640 --> 00:26:27,001
Speaker 3: because he was a dickhead, he was ashle Yeah.

643
00:26:26,961 --> 00:26:29,240
Speaker 2: I feel the lying part, and I can own that

644
00:26:29,321 --> 00:26:31,121
Speaker 2: in me because there's so much evidence of me lying.

645
00:26:31,201 --> 00:26:32,760
Speaker 3: So I'll just do the same thing for all these

646
00:26:32,761 --> 00:26:34,601
Speaker 3: traits that you're saying. Yeah, there's probably like a three

647
00:26:34,640 --> 00:26:35,921
Speaker 3: or four that you want to do for Dad. Yeah,

648
00:26:35,921 --> 00:26:37,400
Speaker 3: I think the first one for Dad was a radic

649
00:26:37,441 --> 00:26:41,041
Speaker 3: that was the first trait I did, and then lazy, victim, lying, controlling.

650
00:26:41,921 --> 00:26:43,121
Speaker 3: They just want to figure out. That's why I say

651
00:26:43,120 --> 00:26:45,201
Speaker 3: seven to ten is like a good yeah, spot tape.

652
00:26:46,921 --> 00:26:48,041
Speaker 1: And later we do it.

653
00:26:48,120 --> 00:26:49,640
Speaker 3: Later, let's do the next one. So this will be

654
00:26:49,640 --> 00:26:51,521
Speaker 3: the last question we'll do for tape. So this is

655
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Speaker 3: the actual rebalance of the trait itself. There's no such

656
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Speaker 3: thing as a bad trait that trees most people.

657
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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm like really, yea.

658
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Speaker 3: This is a demo quote. He says all events are

659
00:27:01,041 --> 00:27:05,561
Speaker 3: neutral until a human filters it into polarization. Life is

660
00:27:05,561 --> 00:27:07,440
Speaker 3: not good nor bad. Thinking your senses so right, I

661
00:27:07,521 --> 00:27:11,561
Speaker 3: believe that. So close down your eyes using one word answers,

662
00:27:11,761 --> 00:27:14,201
Speaker 3: let your intuition answer it. That's why the more present

663
00:27:14,201 --> 00:27:16,400
Speaker 3: you are with the moment, the easier this question is. Okay,

664
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Speaker 3: So breathe into the moment. Get into the moment that

665
00:27:19,321 --> 00:27:21,801
Speaker 3: we selected at the start. Think about where were you,

666
00:27:22,160 --> 00:27:24,400
Speaker 3: when was it, what this person did when you labeled

667
00:27:24,441 --> 00:27:27,281
Speaker 3: them the label. Breathe into it. Trust in your heart

668
00:27:28,321 --> 00:27:31,681
Speaker 3: it'll be traits, behaviors, or gifts. You can use whatever

669
00:27:31,721 --> 00:27:34,720
Speaker 3: you want. It comes up. Trust your heart. Breathe in

670
00:27:34,761 --> 00:27:38,360
Speaker 3: that exact moment instantaneously when they did this trait, what

671
00:27:38,400 --> 00:27:40,840
Speaker 3: did you summon within yourself to get through that moment?

672
00:27:41,600 --> 00:27:44,441
Speaker 3: Breathe once it pops up, write it down. What did

673
00:27:44,481 --> 00:27:47,600
Speaker 3: you summon in that exact moment to get through that moment?

674
00:27:47,681 --> 00:27:50,960
Speaker 3: Gifts benefits to you? What came up for you?

675
00:27:51,001 --> 00:27:53,000
Speaker 1: Strength? Self protection.

676
00:27:53,080 --> 00:27:55,481
Speaker 3: We're going to aim for fifteen to twenty, okap, what else?

677
00:27:55,561 --> 00:28:01,360
Speaker 1: Resilience, perfect else, courage, compassion, strengths, resilience, self reliance, courage, compassion,

678
00:28:01,400 --> 00:28:02,641
Speaker 1: love myself.

679
00:28:02,241 --> 00:28:04,281
Speaker 3: Keep going? What else? You also say? What did it

680
00:28:04,321 --> 00:28:05,481
Speaker 3: force you to learn about yourself?

681
00:28:05,561 --> 00:28:06,481
Speaker 1: Love? Patience?

682
00:28:06,521 --> 00:28:07,120
Speaker 3: Well done?

683
00:28:07,681 --> 00:28:12,481
Speaker 1: Unlovable, well done, and I'm deserving a people's time very well. Values?

684
00:28:12,640 --> 00:28:15,961
Speaker 3: Well done? Kicking morals well done. You could also say,

685
00:28:15,961 --> 00:28:17,801
Speaker 3: from that moment until today, how has it served you?

686
00:28:18,481 --> 00:28:20,480
Speaker 3: What have you gained from that moment since today? You

687
00:28:20,521 --> 00:28:23,041
Speaker 3: can use archetypes if you want to, like the nurturer,

688
00:28:23,441 --> 00:28:27,160
Speaker 3: the mother, yeah, print, the priestess, queen. You might have

689
00:28:27,160 --> 00:28:28,921
Speaker 3: some white bulbs as you start writing down your answers.

690
00:28:29,001 --> 00:28:30,600
Speaker 3: The best way to find more answers go back to

691
00:28:30,600 --> 00:28:32,961
Speaker 3: the moment. You're intuition will tell you it's straight away. People,

692
00:28:33,160 --> 00:28:36,400
Speaker 3: we can't find anymore. Get present, breathe in that moment?

693
00:28:36,921 --> 00:28:39,041
Speaker 3: What did you get? What gift did you gain? What

694
00:28:39,081 --> 00:28:41,281
Speaker 3: did you learn? How did it serve you in that moment?

695
00:28:41,841 --> 00:28:43,641
Speaker 3: What did you summon it within yourself to get through

696
00:28:43,641 --> 00:28:46,041
Speaker 3: the moment? And it would just go and you'll just

697
00:28:46,081 --> 00:28:48,480
Speaker 3: find more and more and more and more. The present

698
00:28:48,481 --> 00:28:52,161
Speaker 3: moment is where all the gifts are eka totally the now.

699
00:28:52,561 --> 00:28:55,720
Speaker 3: Get into the now. How has it served you from

700
00:28:55,721 --> 00:28:58,081
Speaker 3: that moment until today? What gifts has it given you?

701
00:28:58,601 --> 00:29:00,081
Speaker 3: What lessons has it served you with?

702
00:29:00,641 --> 00:29:05,521
Speaker 1: To lead myself? To parent myself, leadership, parenting, love it, nature, others, beautiful,

703
00:29:05,721 --> 00:29:11,841
Speaker 1: self protection, are, resilience, courage, compassion, love, patience, lovable, deserving

704
00:29:11,841 --> 00:29:15,881
Speaker 1: of other's time and tension, taking care of myself, nurturing others,

705
00:29:16,041 --> 00:29:20,721
Speaker 1: caretaking for others, coaching myself, leading myself, parenting myself, self trust,

706
00:29:20,801 --> 00:29:25,081
Speaker 1: self reliance, caring, empathetic strength, power, grit.

707
00:29:25,721 --> 00:29:27,321
Speaker 3: Would you give up these parts of who you are?

708
00:29:27,441 --> 00:29:28,601
Speaker 1: Absolutely not perfect?

709
00:29:28,721 --> 00:29:35,481
Speaker 2: Indrid yours, strength, resilience, self reliance, courage, compassion, love for myself, values, morals,

710
00:29:35,681 --> 00:29:41,601
Speaker 2: parenting skills, the nurturer, the rescuer, independence, drive, motivation. The

711
00:29:41,681 --> 00:29:45,641
Speaker 2: biggest life lessons my kindness, my work ethic taught me

712
00:29:45,681 --> 00:29:47,641
Speaker 2: to be loving, to be honest, to be respectful, to

713
00:29:47,641 --> 00:29:50,201
Speaker 2: be conscious, to be better, and to be powerful.

714
00:29:50,321 --> 00:29:51,761
Speaker 3: Would you give up these parts of yousef Never?

715
00:29:51,841 --> 00:29:54,121
Speaker 2: That's why I love my dad for it. I said

716
00:29:54,121 --> 00:29:55,720
Speaker 2: that fore years I wouldn't be who I am without it,

717
00:29:55,721 --> 00:29:57,481
Speaker 2: And now you're stepping into it deeper. So that's like

718
00:29:57,521 --> 00:30:00,161
Speaker 2: a high level, intellectualized answer. The emotional part we've been

719
00:30:00,161 --> 00:30:02,361
Speaker 2: doing today gets you to actually get that more. What

720
00:30:02,441 --> 00:30:04,361
Speaker 2: you just said is very intellectualized. I'm so grateful for

721
00:30:04,361 --> 00:30:06,881
Speaker 2: everything that though, like you saw have resistance, say though,

722
00:30:06,921 --> 00:30:08,721
Speaker 2: so you so long as resolve the resistance, and you'll

723
00:30:08,721 --> 00:30:10,440
Speaker 2: have it through your heart and you'll have nothing but

724
00:30:10,521 --> 00:30:12,480
Speaker 2: love for him. You'll look at your eyes say fucking

725
00:30:12,561 --> 00:30:12,960
Speaker 2: thank you.

726
00:30:13,281 --> 00:30:13,841
Speaker 1: Yeah.

727
00:30:13,961 --> 00:30:16,201
Speaker 3: There'll be someone in your life who needed these gifts

728
00:30:16,241 --> 00:30:16,641
Speaker 3: from you.

729
00:30:16,761 --> 00:30:20,161
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, tell me who it is?

730
00:30:20,161 --> 00:30:23,041
Speaker 3: Is that the real answer? It can be? What of Yeah,

731
00:30:23,241 --> 00:30:26,081
Speaker 3: someone's meaningfully specifically needed all of these from you?

732
00:30:26,481 --> 00:30:26,841
Speaker 1: My mom?

733
00:30:26,921 --> 00:30:27,121
Speaker 3: Yeah?

734
00:30:27,281 --> 00:30:27,681
Speaker 1: Perfect?

735
00:30:27,881 --> 00:30:29,361
Speaker 3: Who needed these gifts from you?

736
00:30:29,521 --> 00:30:30,081
Speaker 1: Ex partner?

737
00:30:30,161 --> 00:30:33,281
Speaker 3: Perfect? Close your eyes? Why did that person need all

738
00:30:33,281 --> 00:30:35,201
Speaker 3: these gifts from you specifically.

739
00:30:34,721 --> 00:30:36,321
Speaker 1: Because they never got them from anyone else.

740
00:30:36,761 --> 00:30:39,280
Speaker 3: How does that feel? Give me the emotional answer, how

741
00:30:39,281 --> 00:30:41,481
Speaker 3: does that feel to be able to give those gifts

742
00:30:41,521 --> 00:30:42,081
Speaker 3: to that person?

743
00:30:43,281 --> 00:30:44,001
Speaker 1: So fulfilling?

744
00:30:44,281 --> 00:30:47,721
Speaker 3: Breathe in to that. That's a head answer. Feel what

745
00:30:47,801 --> 00:30:49,921
Speaker 3: it feels like to be able to give that beautiful

746
00:30:49,961 --> 00:30:52,481
Speaker 3: human all of these gifts because they never fucking got

747
00:30:52,481 --> 00:30:53,401
Speaker 3: them from anyone else.

748
00:30:54,161 --> 00:30:55,321
Speaker 1: There isn't a word for that.

749
00:30:55,361 --> 00:31:00,041
Speaker 3: Feeling perfect, That's what I'm wanting to feel it to you?

750
00:31:00,761 --> 00:31:01,960
Speaker 3: What does it feel like to be able to give

751
00:31:01,961 --> 00:31:04,121
Speaker 3: your ex partner all of these things he never got

752
00:31:04,241 --> 00:31:06,001
Speaker 3: and you were the beautiful soul to be able to

753
00:31:06,001 --> 00:31:08,161
Speaker 3: give these to him? How does that feel in your heart?

754
00:31:08,521 --> 00:31:10,321
Speaker 1: Like? Nurturing? Beautiful?

755
00:31:10,841 --> 00:31:13,681
Speaker 3: One last short question will wrap it up. If someone

756
00:31:13,801 --> 00:31:17,121
Speaker 3: was to give you a gift, a present, and inside

757
00:31:17,121 --> 00:31:18,681
Speaker 3: of that gift was all of those words you just

758
00:31:18,681 --> 00:31:21,721
Speaker 3: wrote down, all of those benefits. What positive emotions would

759
00:31:21,721 --> 00:31:22,921
Speaker 3: you feel to receive them?

760
00:31:23,201 --> 00:31:29,001
Speaker 4: Lit up, joy, feel them as you say them, grateful, beautiful, peace, beautiful,

761
00:31:29,001 --> 00:31:32,281
Speaker 4: Now before you feel them, missus stab Gifts require two things,

762
00:31:32,721 --> 00:31:35,521
Speaker 4: the giving of a gift and the opening of a gift.

763
00:31:36,361 --> 00:31:38,681
Speaker 3: You guys are opening up your gifts right now. Who

764
00:31:38,721 --> 00:31:42,481
Speaker 3: gave you this gift to open? That person for you? Dad, yeah,

765
00:31:42,521 --> 00:31:46,201
Speaker 3: stepdad Yeah, feel these emotions towards the person who gave

766
00:31:46,241 --> 00:31:51,081
Speaker 3: you the gift to open. So so you've still got

767
00:31:51,081 --> 00:31:55,761
Speaker 3: resistance to it. That's what I was saying. That's why

768
00:31:55,841 --> 00:31:59,361
Speaker 3: I said, you've still intellectually said you're grateful for him, because.

769
00:31:59,121 --> 00:31:59,881
Speaker 1: They I am.

770
00:31:59,961 --> 00:32:01,881
Speaker 2: There's both, they both are there, they both like co

771
00:32:02,081 --> 00:32:02,881
Speaker 2: existing together.

772
00:32:03,081 --> 00:32:05,001
Speaker 3: So you've still got some resistance to it. So close

773
00:32:05,121 --> 00:32:08,921
Speaker 3: in your eyes and breathe and feel these emotions towards

774
00:32:08,961 --> 00:32:12,361
Speaker 3: the person who gave you the gift to open. Because

775
00:32:12,401 --> 00:32:15,841
Speaker 3: you only receive gifts you're worthy of opening. When you

776
00:32:15,881 --> 00:32:18,841
Speaker 3: ask for strength, you don't get given strength. You get

777
00:32:18,841 --> 00:32:21,681
Speaker 3: given pain and challenges that make you fucking strong. When

778
00:32:21,681 --> 00:32:23,841
Speaker 3: you wish for that whole list of gifts, feel it ashly,

779
00:32:23,961 --> 00:32:24,561
Speaker 3: well done.

780
00:32:24,841 --> 00:32:26,281
Speaker 1: I don't want to get it from him.

781
00:32:26,241 --> 00:32:29,881
Speaker 3: That's okay, Feel it and breathe it. When you wish

782
00:32:30,081 --> 00:32:32,881
Speaker 3: for all of those fucking gifts, you don't get given them.

783
00:32:32,961 --> 00:32:36,641
Speaker 3: You get given the fucking opposite to teach you how

784
00:32:36,681 --> 00:32:40,641
Speaker 3: to summon it within yourself. Breathe them to the Ashy,

785
00:32:40,641 --> 00:32:43,361
Speaker 3: thank you for opening the heart and keep feeling that.

786
00:32:43,441 --> 00:32:46,521
Speaker 3: You get to be the woman, the mother, the inspiration

787
00:32:46,601 --> 00:32:49,681
Speaker 3: you are to millions of people. For your dad given

788
00:32:49,721 --> 00:32:52,081
Speaker 3: you a gift many years ago. You've still got your

789
00:32:52,081 --> 00:32:55,241
Speaker 3: fuck used to him. We'll address that later. For this moment,

790
00:32:55,321 --> 00:32:58,401
Speaker 3: right now, feel it like you are right now. Thank you.

791
00:32:58,441 --> 00:33:01,200
Speaker 3: Breathe them to your heart, open your heart. That's it

792
00:33:01,241 --> 00:33:06,161
Speaker 3: as keep feeling it too, Tea. You get to be

793
00:33:06,201 --> 00:33:08,720
Speaker 3: the woman, an inspiration you are to so many people

794
00:33:09,321 --> 00:33:11,321
Speaker 3: because of your mum ignoring you so many years ago.

795
00:33:11,681 --> 00:33:13,881
Speaker 3: Breathe into your heart and open your heart to it.

796
00:33:14,081 --> 00:33:18,361
Speaker 3: Last question for today, this person. We're comparing the current

797
00:33:18,441 --> 00:33:20,960
Speaker 3: version of you sit in front of me today compared

798
00:33:20,961 --> 00:33:23,440
Speaker 3: to the old version of this person from that moment

799
00:33:23,441 --> 00:33:26,881
Speaker 3: you selected old again, So we're comparing the current version

800
00:33:26,921 --> 00:33:29,480
Speaker 3: of yourself right now in front of me today versus

801
00:33:29,521 --> 00:33:33,081
Speaker 3: the old version of the person from that moment. For

802
00:33:33,161 --> 00:33:36,161
Speaker 3: your dad, actually for you T Mum, from that moment

803
00:33:36,161 --> 00:33:41,240
Speaker 3: that you selected, did this person your mum T and

804
00:33:41,281 --> 00:33:44,161
Speaker 3: your dad ashly have all of these gifts and traits

805
00:33:44,161 --> 00:33:46,960
Speaker 3: that you wrote down, have them to the degree you

806
00:33:47,001 --> 00:33:49,881
Speaker 3: have them today? Did they have them back? Then in

807
00:33:49,921 --> 00:33:51,721
Speaker 3: that moment, to the degree you have them today, Breathe

808
00:33:51,761 --> 00:33:55,121
Speaker 3: into it. This is the last hypnotic part for today.

809
00:33:55,761 --> 00:33:58,281
Speaker 3: We are given things in two ways. We are given

810
00:33:58,361 --> 00:34:00,601
Speaker 3: what someone has, or we are given what they don't have.

811
00:34:01,841 --> 00:34:05,281
Speaker 3: You were given all these beautiful gifts because this and

812
00:34:05,321 --> 00:34:08,641
Speaker 3: didn't have them. They gave them to you the only

813
00:34:08,761 --> 00:34:11,761
Speaker 3: fucking way they knew how by giving you the opposite.

814
00:34:13,361 --> 00:34:16,721
Speaker 3: They wanted them so badly. That's why they gave them

815
00:34:16,721 --> 00:34:22,961
Speaker 3: to you, because you were worthy of receiving them from them.

816
00:34:23,001 --> 00:34:26,761
Speaker 3: Breathe and see that and that you are the gifts

817
00:34:26,841 --> 00:34:30,561
Speaker 3: you are today because they gave you everything they didn't have.

818
00:34:31,561 --> 00:34:37,281
Speaker 3: Thank you, thank you, thank you for giving me a gift.

819
00:34:38,641 --> 00:34:40,681
Speaker 3: Let those tears floats from your eyes that they are

820
00:34:41,961 --> 00:34:43,961
Speaker 3: for you, opening up the gift of who you are today.

821
00:34:45,681 --> 00:34:48,601
Speaker 3: You both are fucking gifts. I see it, and millions

822
00:34:48,601 --> 00:34:51,361
Speaker 3: of people see it. And this person helped you become

823
00:34:51,401 --> 00:34:54,361
Speaker 3: the gift you are today. You wouldn't be the gift

824
00:34:54,561 --> 00:34:57,201
Speaker 3: to the degree you are today if it wasn't for

825
00:34:57,281 --> 00:35:00,201
Speaker 3: them doing what they did for you. Because life's always

826
00:35:00,201 --> 00:35:03,361
Speaker 3: happening for you, not to you. Right, Yeah, yeah, you've

827
00:35:03,361 --> 00:35:05,961
Speaker 3: heard it before and right now, you're feeling it and

828
00:35:06,041 --> 00:35:11,441
Speaker 3: recognizing it at your core. It breathe into it. How

829
00:35:11,441 --> 00:35:12,801
Speaker 3: do you guys feeling grateful?

830
00:35:13,081 --> 00:35:16,440
Speaker 1: God? That got me. It was really holding back those tears. Yeah,

831
00:35:16,441 --> 00:35:19,480
Speaker 1: I feel good, but I feel like a lot of compassion. Yeap.

832
00:35:19,641 --> 00:35:22,681
Speaker 3: You know, anything outside of loving gratitude is a lot

833
00:35:22,721 --> 00:35:27,201
Speaker 3: side of perception. That's de Montini. So until you generally

834
00:35:27,241 --> 00:35:30,241
Speaker 3: feel it in your heart, feel I did a podcast

835
00:35:30,241 --> 00:35:32,721
Speaker 3: for a guy yongs ago. It's like, I'm so grateful

836
00:35:32,721 --> 00:35:36,001
Speaker 3: for everything really, So tell me about your dad. Oh yeah,

837
00:35:36,041 --> 00:35:37,761
Speaker 3: I've worked on that. I'm like, what's the thing you

838
00:35:37,761 --> 00:35:39,480
Speaker 3: hate the most about your dad? Absent was the word

839
00:35:39,521 --> 00:35:41,601
Speaker 3: go back to the moment, just so crying. He's like, brother,

840
00:35:41,681 --> 00:35:44,201
Speaker 3: now felders for well, because you can intellectually because you

841
00:35:44,281 --> 00:35:46,081
Speaker 3: were down a bit of that, yeah, right before my

842
00:35:46,121 --> 00:35:49,161
Speaker 3: dad and then I said feel it you like, but

843
00:35:49,281 --> 00:35:50,721
Speaker 3: then you started to at the end of that, you

844
00:35:50,721 --> 00:35:52,241
Speaker 3: started to, which is beautiful.

845
00:35:52,361 --> 00:35:54,001
Speaker 1: Yeah. I did, like a smile on my face.

846
00:35:54,121 --> 00:35:56,201
Speaker 3: Now close eyes and just do a check in. How

847
00:35:56,201 --> 00:36:00,161
Speaker 3: do you feel in terms of emotional resistance towards this

848
00:36:00,321 --> 00:36:02,641
Speaker 3: trait right now compared to where we started?

849
00:36:03,041 --> 00:36:03,881
Speaker 1: Feel really neutral?

850
00:36:03,961 --> 00:36:07,401
Speaker 3: Perfect? Yeah, Now you will be less triggered by it.

851
00:36:07,841 --> 00:36:12,201
Speaker 3: Excellent notice it self. Growth is when things that used

852
00:36:12,201 --> 00:36:14,401
Speaker 3: to trigger you don't trigger you anymore. And what's the

853
00:36:14,441 --> 00:36:16,721
Speaker 3: next one? We work on whatever triggering is next. You

854
00:36:16,761 --> 00:36:19,681
Speaker 3: will attract people in circumstances to reveal where you haven't here?

855
00:36:19,801 --> 00:36:21,161
Speaker 3: Is that why I'd be attracting people that have not

856
00:36:21,481 --> 00:36:22,921
Speaker 3: because you're not. You're trying to run away from it,

857
00:36:22,921 --> 00:36:24,681
Speaker 3: but you run straight into it. But I say, don't

858
00:36:24,721 --> 00:36:26,881
Speaker 3: look for yellow bus. What do you think of the bus?

859
00:36:27,081 --> 00:36:30,841
Speaker 1: Wow? That shows up maliciousness.

860
00:36:30,841 --> 00:36:33,681
Speaker 3: That's what that's And that was I snuck in the

861
00:36:33,721 --> 00:36:36,561
Speaker 3: last two steps. So that was six steps. There's twelve

862
00:36:36,561 --> 00:36:38,601
Speaker 3: in total. The very last question to make sure you've

863
00:36:38,601 --> 00:36:41,361
Speaker 3: done the whole process properly is would you change any

864
00:36:41,401 --> 00:36:43,161
Speaker 3: of this? And once you get there you'll say no,

865
00:36:43,481 --> 00:36:45,161
Speaker 3: and then you say great. Then you write a gratitude

866
00:36:45,241 --> 00:36:48,321
Speaker 3: letter to this person for them doing the traits, not everything,

867
00:36:48,361 --> 00:36:50,161
Speaker 3: because you generally have your other fuck use to them

868
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Speaker 3: for other things. We do that later, but it's a

869
00:36:52,801 --> 00:36:55,961
Speaker 3: gratitude letter. Dear mum. Write it from your heart and

870
00:36:56,001 --> 00:36:58,480
Speaker 3: write it for them doing the traite, not everything about

871
00:36:58,481 --> 00:37:00,081
Speaker 3: them because you have your other fuck used to them

872
00:37:00,121 --> 00:37:01,201
Speaker 3: that you'll work on later.

873
00:37:02,321 --> 00:37:03,841
Speaker 1: Are we writing to things for the gifts?

874
00:37:03,881 --> 00:37:06,041
Speaker 3: Yeah, however you want to say ignoring me, how you

875
00:37:06,081 --> 00:37:08,361
Speaker 3: for ignoring me? Because that helped me become who I

876
00:37:08,361 --> 00:37:11,161
Speaker 3: am today, to be the woman, the mother, the nurturer,

877
00:37:11,961 --> 00:37:14,641
Speaker 3: person making so much impact on so many people because

878
00:37:14,681 --> 00:37:16,521
Speaker 3: you ignore me the exact way you were meant to.

879
00:37:17,241 --> 00:37:19,321
Speaker 3: She played the role you were meant to play. Wow,

880
00:37:19,401 --> 00:37:21,121
Speaker 3: and I can't thank you enough for it and the

881
00:37:21,201 --> 00:37:22,481
Speaker 3: cherry on top as you read it to them. But

882
00:37:22,521 --> 00:37:23,761
Speaker 3: that's not always practical for people.

883
00:37:24,681 --> 00:37:27,281
Speaker 1: I can imagine that would be super healing if somebody

884
00:37:27,321 --> 00:37:28,481
Speaker 1: had the capacity to hold that.

885
00:37:28,681 --> 00:37:30,121
Speaker 3: Yeah, and for the person receiving it.

886
00:37:30,041 --> 00:37:32,161
Speaker 1: Too, that's what I mean. Yeah.

887
00:37:32,161 --> 00:37:32,441
Speaker 3: I did it.

888
00:37:32,881 --> 00:37:34,721
Speaker 1: To remove the guilt and shame that they would feel

889
00:37:34,721 --> 00:37:38,001
Speaker 1: and carry about those moments. Yeah, that's super interesting.

890
00:37:38,921 --> 00:37:41,401
Speaker 3: That's the cherry on top of the process. And what

891
00:37:41,441 --> 00:37:43,361
Speaker 3: I do at my three day event is we do

892
00:37:43,721 --> 00:37:46,241
Speaker 3: this process the full version on day two, and on

893
00:37:46,361 --> 00:37:48,161
Speaker 3: day three I get them to go up to the

894
00:37:48,161 --> 00:37:49,841
Speaker 3: front of the room and share their takeaways and almost

895
00:37:49,881 --> 00:37:54,001
Speaker 3: everyone cries. Yeah, you're externalizing it. Yeah, so it's really cool.

896
00:37:54,121 --> 00:37:55,081
Speaker 3: I'm just like crying the whole time.

897
00:37:55,081 --> 00:37:57,961
Speaker 1: One I could imagine this is such an emotional day.

898
00:37:58,921 --> 00:38:02,041
Speaker 3: And also you will allow yourself to be seen as

899
00:38:02,081 --> 00:38:04,801
Speaker 3: this trait more now, so you'll be okay ignoring people,

900
00:38:04,801 --> 00:38:06,841
Speaker 3: and you'll be okay line to people. I've been seen

901
00:38:06,841 --> 00:38:08,721
Speaker 3: as someone who lies. But if you're doing it out

902
00:38:08,721 --> 00:38:10,801
Speaker 3: of a coping mechanism, that's the problem. I don't ignore

903
00:38:10,801 --> 00:38:13,561
Speaker 3: people because ignorant is bad. That's the problem versus I

904
00:38:13,681 --> 00:38:16,041
Speaker 3: choose to ignore you because I feel like I want to,

905
00:38:16,561 --> 00:38:18,480
Speaker 3: or I can't ignore you because that's bad. That's where

906
00:38:18,481 --> 00:38:19,961
Speaker 3: we have resistance. We want to assume it on it.

907
00:38:20,001 --> 00:38:22,281
Speaker 3: Can you give an example for the lying line? Could

908
00:38:22,361 --> 00:38:25,401
Speaker 3: be probably someone like, hey, do I look at in this?

909
00:38:25,721 --> 00:38:27,921
Speaker 3: And they're like, yeah, you look great. I'd be okay

910
00:38:27,961 --> 00:38:31,401
Speaker 3: with lying, So you'll be okay lying to people. Yeah, hey, Ash,

911
00:38:31,401 --> 00:38:32,681
Speaker 3: do you want to catch it for a coffee? And

912
00:38:32,681 --> 00:38:34,681
Speaker 3: you don't want to, but you've got the time to

913
00:38:35,001 --> 00:38:37,641
Speaker 3: and you'd be like, You're like yeah, So find those

914
00:38:37,641 --> 00:38:39,761
Speaker 3: moments when.

915
00:38:39,601 --> 00:38:41,721
Speaker 1: Other people lie. It won't be as triggering because.

916
00:38:41,521 --> 00:38:42,961
Speaker 3: I'll be like, oh, it's not a good or a

917
00:38:42,961 --> 00:38:45,441
Speaker 3: bad trait, It's just a trait. Yeah, that has equal

918
00:38:45,481 --> 00:38:45,921
Speaker 3: parts to it.

919
00:38:46,001 --> 00:38:48,521
Speaker 1: Then it has no emotional charge around it. Yeah cool.

920
00:38:48,921 --> 00:38:52,561
Speaker 1: So then you're also in more control over how you're responding.

921
00:38:52,081 --> 00:38:53,201
Speaker 3: To become more authentic to it.

922
00:38:53,321 --> 00:38:53,561
Speaker 1: Yeah.

923
00:38:53,641 --> 00:38:55,281
Speaker 3: It's learned to love all parts of who you are,

924
00:38:55,321 --> 00:38:56,961
Speaker 3: so you're able to show and express that part of you.

925
00:38:57,321 --> 00:38:58,761
Speaker 1: This so cool.

926
00:38:58,881 --> 00:39:01,281
Speaker 3: So it's mainly Dee Martinez like the foundation of the work.

927
00:39:01,321 --> 00:39:03,041
Speaker 3: But then it's like emotional release techniques. So I'm going

928
00:39:03,121 --> 00:39:04,361
Speaker 3: to you to feel it, feel it, feel it, but

929
00:39:04,401 --> 00:39:07,000
Speaker 3: a timeline therapy in there as well, hypnotherapy. That last

930
00:39:07,041 --> 00:39:08,641
Speaker 3: line that got you, that's like hypnotherapy.

931
00:39:08,721 --> 00:39:11,361
Speaker 1: Oh man, I was like swallowing the tears. Thank you

932
00:39:11,401 --> 00:39:15,081
Speaker 1: so much for today's That was incredible. It was challengeable

933
00:39:15,121 --> 00:39:17,881
Speaker 1: and like uncomfortable and also such a beautiful process. And

934
00:39:17,881 --> 00:39:19,841
Speaker 1: I can see, oh cool. I really want to do

935
00:39:19,881 --> 00:39:21,601
Speaker 1: that on other traits as well, because there are so

936
00:39:21,641 --> 00:39:24,001
Speaker 1: many things that I would feel so much. Yes, it's

937
00:39:24,041 --> 00:39:25,721
Speaker 1: like that malicious one for me.

938
00:39:25,801 --> 00:39:27,241
Speaker 3: I was like, well do it right now. I think

939
00:39:27,241 --> 00:39:29,161
Speaker 3: of someone you don't like, don't use mumble dad, someone

940
00:39:29,201 --> 00:39:30,881
Speaker 3: else just comes to mind. You wouldn't want to hang

941
00:39:30,921 --> 00:39:32,641
Speaker 3: out with them. In a one word answer, what's the

942
00:39:32,681 --> 00:39:35,801
Speaker 3: one thing you disclike. Much about the malicious selfish comes

943
00:39:35,841 --> 00:39:38,521
Speaker 3: up to me to process about you get triggered in

944
00:39:38,521 --> 00:39:41,001
Speaker 3: people are selfish from people malicious with so you try

945
00:39:41,001 --> 00:39:43,361
Speaker 3: to self abandoned. I try to be seen as selfless.

946
00:39:43,481 --> 00:39:44,401
Speaker 1: Yes, I do.

947
00:39:44,561 --> 00:39:46,721
Speaker 3: Triggers and projections show the parts of you that you

948
00:39:46,761 --> 00:39:49,281
Speaker 3: haven't worked on or healed yet. Then you just find trait,

949
00:39:49,401 --> 00:39:51,681
Speaker 3: insert it into process, due process done. You know when

950
00:39:51,721 --> 00:39:53,681
Speaker 3: I needed to do victim victim. Yeah, I did one

951
00:39:53,681 --> 00:39:54,321
Speaker 3: on victim recently.

952
00:39:54,561 --> 00:39:56,561
Speaker 1: Say those triggers me, Oh my.

953
00:39:56,481 --> 00:39:59,401
Speaker 2: God, so cool, Thank you so much. So if anyone

954
00:39:59,441 --> 00:40:01,321
Speaker 2: wants to do this work with you, where did they

955
00:40:01,321 --> 00:40:01,681
Speaker 2: find you?

956
00:40:01,721 --> 00:40:03,521
Speaker 3: I've got to Instagrams for the best place. I've got

957
00:40:03,561 --> 00:40:05,480
Speaker 3: a school community and you get like a guy version.

958
00:40:05,521 --> 00:40:06,961
Speaker 3: It's like guided therapy. It's the best I can say.

959
00:40:07,081 --> 00:40:08,681
Speaker 3: So it's a video where I'll tell you I guide

960
00:40:08,681 --> 00:40:10,281
Speaker 3: you through it. I say pause the video, answer the question,

961
00:40:10,361 --> 00:40:12,041
Speaker 3: and you do that. I do an in person event

962
00:40:12,081 --> 00:40:12,441
Speaker 3: version of it.

963
00:40:12,521 --> 00:40:15,041
Speaker 1: You've also got a book, because yes, it's.

964
00:40:14,881 --> 00:40:16,681
Speaker 3: Pretty much a book version of my work. So accord

965
00:40:16,721 --> 00:40:18,841
Speaker 3: it to Inspired Life method. So how to find your

966
00:40:18,841 --> 00:40:20,960
Speaker 3: true self, your values, your purpose, your mission, your vision,

967
00:40:21,201 --> 00:40:22,841
Speaker 3: how to do it in a work so limited beliefs.

968
00:40:22,841 --> 00:40:24,441
Speaker 3: We have done belief to day, but dumb perceptions. So

969
00:40:24,481 --> 00:40:27,041
Speaker 3: I do limited belie perceptions and emotional blocks, which is

970
00:40:27,041 --> 00:40:29,161
Speaker 3: like Jodas Benzo, like how you change your emotional home,

971
00:40:29,601 --> 00:40:32,361
Speaker 3: and then the strategies of how you bring it to well. Say,

972
00:40:32,401 --> 00:40:34,480
Speaker 3: there's like spiritual humans who levitate all day and they're broken,

973
00:40:34,641 --> 00:40:36,520
Speaker 3: and they've got people that work all day and hustle

974
00:40:36,521 --> 00:40:38,201
Speaker 3: what they're u fulfilled. I want to put those together.

975
00:40:38,241 --> 00:40:42,041
Speaker 3: You can't pay you, landlord with gratitude. So I'm into

976
00:40:42,081 --> 00:40:44,561
Speaker 3: the spiritual world. But I'm also a very practical human. Yeah,

977
00:40:44,681 --> 00:40:48,401
Speaker 3: it's I think I'm like eighty twenty practical to spiritual

978
00:40:48,441 --> 00:40:50,641
Speaker 3: because I've got friends who are full spiritual and they're

979
00:40:50,641 --> 00:40:53,121
Speaker 3: like levitating all day and they're like, bro, how are

980
00:40:53,121 --> 00:40:54,801
Speaker 3: you doing so well at business? I'm like, because you

981
00:40:54,841 --> 00:40:58,161
Speaker 3: don't do anything, you do anything. I actually work, I

982
00:40:58,361 --> 00:41:00,681
Speaker 3: take action. But yeah, it's blending those two worlds together.

983
00:41:02,041 --> 00:41:04,440
Speaker 1: Thank you so much, so much. We'll see it's next time.

984
00:41:05,081 --> 00:41:05,281
Speaker 1: Eight