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Speaker 2: For some reason, I can't get over the fact that
Speaker 2: my husband has had previous partners. To put it into perspective,
Speaker 2: we've been together for fifteen years and we have children together,
Speaker 2: but I still feel so insecure that he's had partners
Speaker 2: before me, has had sex with others, in etc. To
Speaker 2: make it make even less sense, I've also had previous partners.
Speaker 3: Oh honey, so feels I feel like anyone that thinks
Speaker 3: about their partner fucking someone else.
Speaker 1: It's not a vibe, it's not Oh.
Speaker 3: When I first met Steve, I was so jealous, literally
Speaker 3: had a physical sick reaction.
Speaker 1: I just couldn't bear the thought of it. I even
Speaker 1: remember tell Us, tell Us the gus.
Speaker 3: I used to be so upset that girls had been
Speaker 3: on the sheets that I was sleeping on. So Steve
Speaker 3: the sweetheart when I bought new sheets and chucked out
Speaker 3: all of this old sheets. Even the thought of it,
Speaker 3: I used to picture another girl laying where I used
Speaker 3: to lay.
Speaker 1: I hated it.
Speaker 3: What a good man he knew well, he understood too,
Speaker 3: because he was quite jealousy.
Speaker 1: We both had that understanding of it just drove us crazy.
Speaker 1: That's my person.
Speaker 2: Don't literally when you're territorial about a partner.
Speaker 1: I can get that.
Speaker 2: Tatiana, she's a jealous bitch. She's a jealous bitch. She's like,
Speaker 2: don't touch my man. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Literally, I feel different now, though I still am jealous
Speaker 3: of the past, but it kind of turns me on
Speaker 3: the retroactive jealousy. Yeah, I just I don't know why
Speaker 3: it makes me harny. I just like, give you my
Speaker 3: man and you're mine now.
Speaker 1: Healthy jellos. Yeah, I don't know, it's different. It feels different.
Speaker 1: It used to do from a really insecure place and
Speaker 1: they're better than me. I'm not good enough. He's thinking
Speaker 1: about them, Whereas now I'm like, let me show you
Speaker 1: what I got.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know it kind of yeah, I feel
Speaker 3: like it's an exciting fun jealousy. Now I never get
Speaker 3: that other type of jealous what would you call that,
Speaker 3: like a negative jealousy but doesn't impact me, comes from insecurity.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I still get that. I don't know. I
Speaker 1: just have like I wouldn't.
Speaker 2: Say that it's jealousy in the sense of where it
Speaker 2: completely throws out my day and I'm like, oh my god.
Speaker 1: Don't get me wrong.
Speaker 2: There's been times where I've done that, but now it's
Speaker 2: more territorial. It's a very territorial energy of like, oh,
Speaker 2: that's my human.
Speaker 3: I also think because when you're new in a relationship,
Speaker 3: you're actually still navigating. You don't know how they respond
Speaker 3: when a female talks to them. You don't know if
Speaker 3: they're flirty, you don't know if they invite that behavior in.
Speaker 3: You don't have to have more flot like you're getting
Speaker 3: to know actually how they deal with that was I've
Speaker 3: been with Steve for seventeen years. He's given me endless evidence. Yeah,
Speaker 3: he's loyalty and at the start he was a pet. Yeah,
Speaker 3: training all these girls and messaging all the time, sending
Speaker 3: photos in the bikinis.
Speaker 1: My progress. Whuch, my ass has grown.
Speaker 3: I'm like, oh my god, Okay, stop stop sending photos
Speaker 3: to my partner.
Speaker 1: That's different. But I feel for this girl because it's
Speaker 1: what you explained to me.
Speaker 3: Is that retroactive jealousy, which is when you were just
Speaker 3: jealous of your partner's past.
Speaker 1: Right, It's a real thing. It's from the past.
Speaker 2: So anything that's before you, it's like you can't deal
Speaker 2: with them having past partners, having had previous sexual encounters,
Speaker 2: having slept with anyone before you. It's anything that doesn't
Speaker 2: involve you from the past. It's almost like this trigger,
Speaker 2: psychological trigger. It irks you almost. It gives you like
Speaker 2: an ick that you're just like, oh, the fact that
Speaker 2: they've been with somebody else makes me so uncomfortable.
Speaker 1: Such intrusive thoughts. I don't know about the listener here.
Speaker 3: I wonder because for me, I would literally picture another
Speaker 3: female doing it with Steve and it just used to
Speaker 3: make me sick. So I wonder what's going on for her? Yeah,
Speaker 3: is she thinking they're better than me. I'm not as
Speaker 3: good as fuck. I don't know what I'm doing. Like
Speaker 3: were they more kinky? Were they more sexy? Did they
Speaker 3: wear a better lingerie?
Speaker 2: Like?
Speaker 1: I have more context of where she's at, so I
Speaker 1: could give more advice.
Speaker 2: I think it's really easy as well, when you see
Speaker 2: your partner's ex partners and then you don't mean to
Speaker 2: be you kind of go to comparison, and you go,
Speaker 2: I'm not like them?
Speaker 1: Is that what they like? You know?
Speaker 3: And with social media it's easy to compare, like a
Speaker 3: wonderful a couple of exes were more sporty or more sexy,
Speaker 3: or they post a little bit more provocatively, yeah, which
Speaker 3: then make you be like, oh, well, I'm not like that.
Speaker 1: Of course you would have liked that. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Interesting start to have all those insecurities come up. We'd
Speaker 2: love to hear more from you, a little bit more
Speaker 2: context around this, like how does it show up for you?
Speaker 2: Does it make you act funny towards him? Does it
Speaker 2: come out in your behavior?
Speaker 1: Do you fall back? Yeah?
Speaker 2: What kind of specific things really bother? You'd love to know,
Speaker 2: and anyone else who's listening, we'd love to hear if
Speaker 2: this comes up for you, whether it's been in past relationships,
Speaker 2: current relationships, or maybe you just notice that you still
Speaker 2: happening for you now, you'd love to hear it.
Speaker 3: I also think back to my younger self and then
Speaker 3: when I had kids postpartum, I just was like, oh
Speaker 3: my gosh, I've lost that sexual fun, play full, cheeky
Speaker 3: like slut in the bedroom dive vibe, which you know,
Speaker 3: what's that song. It's like a lady on the street
Speaker 3: freaking the bed, yes, freaking the sheet, freaking the sheet.
Speaker 3: So yeah, I love that. But I felt like after
Speaker 3: I became a mom, I kind of lost that and
Speaker 3: I wasn't as confident in my body. Things were stretched,
Speaker 3: my hips had grown, I obviously had postpartum extra body
Speaker 3: weight and fluid, and I just didn't feel sexy. And
Speaker 3: I remember comparing myself not only to other women, but
Speaker 3: to my past version, be like, oh, Steve had this
Speaker 3: like hot, lean toned, whoo like real sexual being and
Speaker 3: now I'm just like, oh, a bit more insecure and
Speaker 3: I want to take things slow. And I wasn't as
Speaker 3: toy and it must be an adjustment for everyone, you know.
Speaker 3: I just remember the comparison of my old self and
Speaker 3: it's nice tall as obviously nearly three, so I'm well
Speaker 3: out of that stage now and it's nice to have
Speaker 3: that sexual energy back. So I wonder where that at,
Speaker 3: how old their kids are and stuff, because that could
Speaker 3: be playing a role as well.
Speaker 1: Yeah, to give.
Speaker 3: Yourself some time and also put the effort into make
Speaker 3: yourself feel better. Like I wore this cute little sexy
Speaker 3: lingerie dress the other night, was really sexy. Now I'm
Speaker 3: thinking about it would be good for someone that is
Speaker 3: a bit more insecure about, say they're tummy after having
Speaker 3: a baby, because it fully covered my tummy, but it
Speaker 3: was short, it was lazy, sexy, it was booby. I
Speaker 3: felt really sexy in it, but it wasn't just showing
Speaker 3: all my tummyes.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't have liked to shown on my tummy after
Speaker 1: just having a baby.
Speaker 2: And you know what, with those it's really beautiful as well,
Speaker 2: Like even though they're still see through and like you've
Speaker 2: got lingerie on, it still leaves more to the imagination
Speaker 2: because it's like it has so many different benefits. You
Speaker 2: can cover yourself a little bit more without fully needing
Speaker 2: to go hey look at me, like I'm just naked.
Speaker 1: It doesn't have to be that way.
Speaker 2: Make it fine, make it playful, bring that playfulness back
Speaker 2: into the labor.
Speaker 1: Play, isn't it. I think that if I was a guy,
Speaker 1: I would love my woman to dress in landres. Oh
Speaker 1: my god, the best. You're like, oh my god, she's
Speaker 1: so good to me, love her so much.
Speaker 3: But yeah, bring anything in here. Freak your Friday so much. Fine,
Speaker 3: you get to let your hair down, there's no judder.
Speaker 3: And bring your stories in. Also, it doesn't have to
Speaker 3: be sexual. We love the sexual ones, but it could
Speaker 3: be a ghost story, stalk a story, the creepy that's happened, anything.
Speaker 1: Bring it in. We love it, We love to hear
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