1 00:00:05,921 --> 00:00:07,281 Speaker 1: Apogee Production. 2 00:00:10,641 --> 00:00:16,641 Speaker 2: Welcome to She Rises, Freeky Friday, Go Secrets, Horror, Scandal, 3 00:00:16,881 --> 00:00:21,441 Speaker 2: Hysterios Wild. Welcome back to another episode of Freaky Friday 4 00:00:21,641 --> 00:00:25,921 Speaker 2: and She Rises with your favorite hosts, Tatiana and Stephanie. 5 00:00:26,241 --> 00:00:28,521 Speaker 2: If you guys haven't heard before, you're new here. These 6 00:00:28,561 --> 00:00:30,761 Speaker 2: are our alter egos and we run the show here 7 00:00:30,801 --> 00:00:33,760 Speaker 2: on Freaky Friday episodes. It's a complete different episode than 8 00:00:33,801 --> 00:00:36,641 Speaker 2: what our normal episodes are. It's a very different vibe. 9 00:00:36,641 --> 00:00:39,640 Speaker 2: It's very saucy, very real, very raunchy, and that's why 10 00:00:39,641 --> 00:00:40,840 Speaker 2: we love to bring the stories so. 11 00:00:40,801 --> 00:00:43,561 Speaker 1: It's just so fun. Here's our submission for today. Let's 12 00:00:43,601 --> 00:00:43,920 Speaker 1: do it. 13 00:00:44,400 --> 00:00:46,081 Speaker 2: For some reason, I can't get over the fact that 14 00:00:46,120 --> 00:00:49,281 Speaker 2: my husband has had previous partners. To put it into perspective, 15 00:00:49,521 --> 00:00:52,201 Speaker 2: we've been together for fifteen years and we have children together, 16 00:00:52,281 --> 00:00:54,961 Speaker 2: but I still feel so insecure that he's had partners 17 00:00:54,961 --> 00:00:58,001 Speaker 2: before me, has had sex with others, in etc. To 18 00:00:58,041 --> 00:01:00,681 Speaker 2: make it make even less sense, I've also had previous partners. 19 00:01:01,081 --> 00:01:04,281 Speaker 3: Oh honey, so feels I feel like anyone that thinks 20 00:01:04,321 --> 00:01:06,640 Speaker 3: about their partner fucking someone else. 21 00:01:07,081 --> 00:01:08,681 Speaker 1: It's not a vibe, it's not Oh. 22 00:01:08,801 --> 00:01:12,361 Speaker 3: When I first met Steve, I was so jealous, literally 23 00:01:12,401 --> 00:01:14,080 Speaker 3: had a physical sick reaction. 24 00:01:14,560 --> 00:01:16,200 Speaker 1: I just couldn't bear the thought of it. I even 25 00:01:17,161 --> 00:01:19,280 Speaker 1: remember tell Us, tell Us the gus. 26 00:01:20,441 --> 00:01:22,840 Speaker 3: I used to be so upset that girls had been 27 00:01:22,881 --> 00:01:25,681 Speaker 3: on the sheets that I was sleeping on. So Steve 28 00:01:25,761 --> 00:01:27,881 Speaker 3: the sweetheart when I bought new sheets and chucked out 29 00:01:27,881 --> 00:01:29,440 Speaker 3: all of this old sheets. Even the thought of it, 30 00:01:29,481 --> 00:01:32,520 Speaker 3: I used to picture another girl laying where I used 31 00:01:32,560 --> 00:01:32,881 Speaker 3: to lay. 32 00:01:32,920 --> 00:01:33,521 Speaker 1: I hated it. 33 00:01:33,521 --> 00:01:37,560 Speaker 3: What a good man he knew well, he understood too, 34 00:01:37,560 --> 00:01:38,681 Speaker 3: because he was quite jealousy. 35 00:01:38,920 --> 00:01:42,321 Speaker 1: We both had that understanding of it just drove us crazy. 36 00:01:42,521 --> 00:01:43,041 Speaker 1: That's my person. 37 00:01:43,081 --> 00:01:46,200 Speaker 2: Don't literally when you're territorial about a partner. 38 00:01:46,601 --> 00:01:47,481 Speaker 1: I can get that. 39 00:01:47,601 --> 00:01:51,401 Speaker 2: Tatiana, she's a jealous bitch. She's a jealous bitch. She's like, 40 00:01:51,401 --> 00:01:52,521 Speaker 2: don't touch my man. Yeah. 41 00:01:52,601 --> 00:01:55,681 Speaker 3: Literally, I feel different now, though I still am jealous 42 00:01:55,681 --> 00:01:57,241 Speaker 3: of the past, but it kind of turns me on 43 00:01:58,361 --> 00:02:01,201 Speaker 3: the retroactive jealousy. Yeah, I just I don't know why 44 00:02:01,441 --> 00:02:03,121 Speaker 3: it makes me harny. I just like, give you my 45 00:02:03,161 --> 00:02:04,201 Speaker 3: man and you're mine now. 46 00:02:04,561 --> 00:02:07,841 Speaker 1: Healthy jellos. Yeah, I don't know, it's different. It feels different. 47 00:02:07,881 --> 00:02:10,201 Speaker 1: It used to do from a really insecure place and 48 00:02:10,881 --> 00:02:13,441 Speaker 1: they're better than me. I'm not good enough. He's thinking 49 00:02:13,481 --> 00:02:15,720 Speaker 1: about them, Whereas now I'm like, let me show you 50 00:02:15,721 --> 00:02:16,160 Speaker 1: what I got. 51 00:02:16,281 --> 00:02:19,841 Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know it kind of yeah, I feel 52 00:02:19,841 --> 00:02:22,001 Speaker 3: like it's an exciting fun jealousy. Now I never get 53 00:02:22,041 --> 00:02:23,601 Speaker 3: that other type of jealous what would you call that, 54 00:02:24,161 --> 00:02:28,361 Speaker 3: like a negative jealousy but doesn't impact me, comes from insecurity. 55 00:02:28,561 --> 00:02:32,481 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I still get that. I don't know. I 56 00:02:32,561 --> 00:02:34,201 Speaker 1: just have like I wouldn't. 57 00:02:33,761 --> 00:02:36,001 Speaker 2: Say that it's jealousy in the sense of where it 58 00:02:36,041 --> 00:02:38,521 Speaker 2: completely throws out my day and I'm like, oh my god. 59 00:02:38,561 --> 00:02:39,161 Speaker 1: Don't get me wrong. 60 00:02:39,201 --> 00:02:41,321 Speaker 2: There's been times where I've done that, but now it's 61 00:02:41,401 --> 00:02:44,601 Speaker 2: more territorial. It's a very territorial energy of like, oh, 62 00:02:44,641 --> 00:02:45,561 Speaker 2: that's my human. 63 00:02:45,601 --> 00:02:48,280 Speaker 3: I also think because when you're new in a relationship, 64 00:02:48,281 --> 00:02:50,601 Speaker 3: you're actually still navigating. You don't know how they respond 65 00:02:50,601 --> 00:02:52,081 Speaker 3: when a female talks to them. You don't know if 66 00:02:52,121 --> 00:02:55,241 Speaker 3: they're flirty, you don't know if they invite that behavior in. 67 00:02:55,321 --> 00:02:57,001 Speaker 3: You don't have to have more flot like you're getting 68 00:02:57,041 --> 00:02:59,121 Speaker 3: to know actually how they deal with that was I've 69 00:02:59,161 --> 00:03:01,840 Speaker 3: been with Steve for seventeen years. He's given me endless evidence. Yeah, 70 00:03:01,921 --> 00:03:05,001 Speaker 3: he's loyalty and at the start he was a pet. Yeah, 71 00:03:05,121 --> 00:03:07,401 Speaker 3: training all these girls and messaging all the time, sending 72 00:03:07,401 --> 00:03:08,921 Speaker 3: photos in the bikinis. 73 00:03:08,641 --> 00:03:10,681 Speaker 1: My progress. Whuch, my ass has grown. 74 00:03:10,721 --> 00:03:14,001 Speaker 3: I'm like, oh my god, Okay, stop stop sending photos 75 00:03:14,041 --> 00:03:14,601 Speaker 3: to my partner. 76 00:03:15,161 --> 00:03:17,361 Speaker 1: That's different. But I feel for this girl because it's 77 00:03:17,361 --> 00:03:18,401 Speaker 1: what you explained to me. 78 00:03:18,520 --> 00:03:21,521 Speaker 3: Is that retroactive jealousy, which is when you were just 79 00:03:21,601 --> 00:03:23,721 Speaker 3: jealous of your partner's past. 80 00:03:23,841 --> 00:03:25,561 Speaker 1: Right, It's a real thing. It's from the past. 81 00:03:25,601 --> 00:03:28,081 Speaker 2: So anything that's before you, it's like you can't deal 82 00:03:28,121 --> 00:03:32,201 Speaker 2: with them having past partners, having had previous sexual encounters, 83 00:03:32,321 --> 00:03:35,081 Speaker 2: having slept with anyone before you. It's anything that doesn't 84 00:03:35,081 --> 00:03:38,121 Speaker 2: involve you from the past. It's almost like this trigger, 85 00:03:38,161 --> 00:03:41,161 Speaker 2: psychological trigger. It irks you almost. It gives you like 86 00:03:41,201 --> 00:03:43,121 Speaker 2: an ick that you're just like, oh, the fact that 87 00:03:43,121 --> 00:03:46,201 Speaker 2: they've been with somebody else makes me so uncomfortable. 88 00:03:45,721 --> 00:03:48,241 Speaker 1: Such intrusive thoughts. I don't know about the listener here. 89 00:03:48,401 --> 00:03:51,241 Speaker 3: I wonder because for me, I would literally picture another 90 00:03:51,281 --> 00:03:52,881 Speaker 3: female doing it with Steve and it just used to 91 00:03:52,881 --> 00:03:55,761 Speaker 3: make me sick. So I wonder what's going on for her? Yeah, 92 00:03:55,841 --> 00:03:58,201 Speaker 3: is she thinking they're better than me. I'm not as 93 00:03:58,241 --> 00:04:01,561 Speaker 3: good as fuck. I don't know what I'm doing. Like 94 00:04:01,641 --> 00:04:03,681 Speaker 3: were they more kinky? Were they more sexy? Did they 95 00:04:03,681 --> 00:04:04,561 Speaker 3: wear a better lingerie? 96 00:04:04,641 --> 00:04:04,721 Speaker 2: Like? 97 00:04:05,041 --> 00:04:06,481 Speaker 1: I have more context of where she's at, so I 98 00:04:06,521 --> 00:04:07,401 Speaker 1: could give more advice. 99 00:04:07,521 --> 00:04:10,041 Speaker 2: I think it's really easy as well, when you see 100 00:04:10,041 --> 00:04:12,641 Speaker 2: your partner's ex partners and then you don't mean to 101 00:04:12,681 --> 00:04:14,641 Speaker 2: be you kind of go to comparison, and you go, 102 00:04:15,081 --> 00:04:16,121 Speaker 2: I'm not like them? 103 00:04:16,401 --> 00:04:18,201 Speaker 1: Is that what they like? You know? 104 00:04:18,401 --> 00:04:20,521 Speaker 3: And with social media it's easy to compare, like a 105 00:04:20,641 --> 00:04:24,281 Speaker 3: wonderful a couple of exes were more sporty or more sexy, 106 00:04:24,361 --> 00:04:27,761 Speaker 3: or they post a little bit more provocatively, yeah, which 107 00:04:27,801 --> 00:04:29,121 Speaker 3: then make you be like, oh, well, I'm not like that. 108 00:04:29,201 --> 00:04:30,641 Speaker 1: Of course you would have liked that. Yeah. 109 00:04:30,681 --> 00:04:33,361 Speaker 2: Interesting start to have all those insecurities come up. We'd 110 00:04:33,361 --> 00:04:34,801 Speaker 2: love to hear more from you, a little bit more 111 00:04:34,801 --> 00:04:37,001 Speaker 2: context around this, like how does it show up for you? 112 00:04:37,361 --> 00:04:40,281 Speaker 2: Does it make you act funny towards him? Does it 113 00:04:40,320 --> 00:04:41,361 Speaker 2: come out in your behavior? 114 00:04:41,401 --> 00:04:43,041 Speaker 1: Do you fall back? Yeah? 115 00:04:43,081 --> 00:04:45,441 Speaker 2: What kind of specific things really bother? You'd love to know, 116 00:04:45,561 --> 00:04:48,081 Speaker 2: and anyone else who's listening, we'd love to hear if 117 00:04:48,081 --> 00:04:50,961 Speaker 2: this comes up for you, whether it's been in past relationships, 118 00:04:51,001 --> 00:04:53,881 Speaker 2: current relationships, or maybe you just notice that you still 119 00:04:53,921 --> 00:04:55,601 Speaker 2: happening for you now, you'd love to hear it. 120 00:04:55,721 --> 00:04:59,001 Speaker 3: I also think back to my younger self and then 121 00:04:59,001 --> 00:05:02,081 Speaker 3: when I had kids postpartum, I just was like, oh 122 00:05:02,081 --> 00:05:05,840 Speaker 3: my gosh, I've lost that sexual fun, play full, cheeky 123 00:05:06,521 --> 00:05:08,921 Speaker 3: like slut in the bedroom dive vibe, which you know, 124 00:05:09,081 --> 00:05:11,481 Speaker 3: what's that song. It's like a lady on the street 125 00:05:11,521 --> 00:05:14,361 Speaker 3: freaking the bed, yes, freaking the sheet, freaking the sheet. 126 00:05:14,401 --> 00:05:16,281 Speaker 3: So yeah, I love that. But I felt like after 127 00:05:16,320 --> 00:05:18,520 Speaker 3: I became a mom, I kind of lost that and 128 00:05:18,561 --> 00:05:21,041 Speaker 3: I wasn't as confident in my body. Things were stretched, 129 00:05:21,161 --> 00:05:24,160 Speaker 3: my hips had grown, I obviously had postpartum extra body 130 00:05:24,161 --> 00:05:26,761 Speaker 3: weight and fluid, and I just didn't feel sexy. And 131 00:05:26,801 --> 00:05:30,041 Speaker 3: I remember comparing myself not only to other women, but 132 00:05:30,121 --> 00:05:32,521 Speaker 3: to my past version, be like, oh, Steve had this 133 00:05:32,721 --> 00:05:36,681 Speaker 3: like hot, lean toned, whoo like real sexual being and 134 00:05:36,721 --> 00:05:38,921 Speaker 3: now I'm just like, oh, a bit more insecure and 135 00:05:39,281 --> 00:05:41,201 Speaker 3: I want to take things slow. And I wasn't as 136 00:05:41,281 --> 00:05:44,121 Speaker 3: toy and it must be an adjustment for everyone, you know. 137 00:05:44,241 --> 00:05:46,880 Speaker 3: I just remember the comparison of my old self and 138 00:05:46,921 --> 00:05:49,521 Speaker 3: it's nice tall as obviously nearly three, so I'm well 139 00:05:49,521 --> 00:05:51,241 Speaker 3: out of that stage now and it's nice to have 140 00:05:51,320 --> 00:05:54,520 Speaker 3: that sexual energy back. So I wonder where that at, 141 00:05:54,681 --> 00:05:56,440 Speaker 3: how old their kids are and stuff, because that could 142 00:05:56,440 --> 00:05:57,440 Speaker 3: be playing a role as well. 143 00:05:57,521 --> 00:05:58,561 Speaker 1: Yeah, to give. 144 00:05:58,401 --> 00:06:00,721 Speaker 3: Yourself some time and also put the effort into make 145 00:06:00,721 --> 00:06:03,241 Speaker 3: yourself feel better. Like I wore this cute little sexy 146 00:06:03,281 --> 00:06:06,881 Speaker 3: lingerie dress the other night, was really sexy. Now I'm 147 00:06:06,921 --> 00:06:08,400 Speaker 3: thinking about it would be good for someone that is 148 00:06:08,401 --> 00:06:10,721 Speaker 3: a bit more insecure about, say they're tummy after having 149 00:06:10,761 --> 00:06:12,881 Speaker 3: a baby, because it fully covered my tummy, but it 150 00:06:12,921 --> 00:06:16,041 Speaker 3: was short, it was lazy, sexy, it was booby. I 151 00:06:16,081 --> 00:06:18,200 Speaker 3: felt really sexy in it, but it wasn't just showing 152 00:06:18,201 --> 00:06:19,001 Speaker 3: all my tummyes. 153 00:06:19,041 --> 00:06:21,481 Speaker 1: I wouldn't have liked to shown on my tummy after 154 00:06:21,521 --> 00:06:22,321 Speaker 1: just having a baby. 155 00:06:22,481 --> 00:06:24,361 Speaker 2: And you know what, with those it's really beautiful as well, 156 00:06:24,401 --> 00:06:26,361 Speaker 2: Like even though they're still see through and like you've 157 00:06:26,361 --> 00:06:29,361 Speaker 2: got lingerie on, it still leaves more to the imagination 158 00:06:29,401 --> 00:06:32,601 Speaker 2: because it's like it has so many different benefits. You 159 00:06:32,641 --> 00:06:35,081 Speaker 2: can cover yourself a little bit more without fully needing 160 00:06:35,121 --> 00:06:37,201 Speaker 2: to go hey look at me, like I'm just naked. 161 00:06:37,241 --> 00:06:38,281 Speaker 1: It doesn't have to be that way. 162 00:06:38,561 --> 00:06:41,361 Speaker 2: Make it fine, make it playful, bring that playfulness back 163 00:06:41,361 --> 00:06:41,881 Speaker 2: into the labor. 164 00:06:41,961 --> 00:06:44,080 Speaker 1: Play, isn't it. I think that if I was a guy, 165 00:06:44,161 --> 00:06:46,241 Speaker 1: I would love my woman to dress in landres. Oh 166 00:06:46,281 --> 00:06:49,041 Speaker 1: my god, the best. You're like, oh my god, she's 167 00:06:49,081 --> 00:06:52,841 Speaker 1: so good to me, love her so much. 168 00:06:53,761 --> 00:06:56,520 Speaker 3: But yeah, bring anything in here. Freak your Friday so much. Fine, 169 00:06:56,521 --> 00:06:58,121 Speaker 3: you get to let your hair down, there's no judder. 170 00:06:58,201 --> 00:07:00,241 Speaker 3: And bring your stories in. Also, it doesn't have to 171 00:07:00,281 --> 00:07:02,161 Speaker 3: be sexual. We love the sexual ones, but it could 172 00:07:02,161 --> 00:07:07,561 Speaker 3: be a ghost story, stalk a story, the creepy that's happened, anything. 173 00:07:07,241 --> 00:07:08,881 Speaker 1: Bring it in. We love it, We love to hear 174 00:07:08,921 --> 00:07:10,921 Speaker 1: it all. Thanks for joining us. We'll see you on Monday. 175 00:07:11,001 --> 00:07:13,361 Speaker 1: Bye bye