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Speaker 1: It fits you and with her with Kate Ritchie podcast, I.

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Speaker 2: Want to talk about the one night stand.

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Speaker 3: There's a group of girls that have gone on to

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Speaker 3: TikTok now and it's called the one night relationship theory.

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Speaker 3: They've been talking about it and they talk about the

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Speaker 3: effort that men go to to get it over the line,

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Speaker 3: and then when it happens, how they can go completely

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Speaker 3: cold the next time. Okay, so this is a theory.

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Speaker 3: This is a TikToker buy the name of Christina and

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Speaker 3: she explains it.

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Speaker 4: To everyone, the one night relationship theory. One of my

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Speaker 4: best girlfriends and I were having lunch and she was

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Speaker 4: complaining to me about how this guy that she had

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Speaker 4: hooked up with was super open and vulnerable with her

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Speaker 4: when they were hooking up, but then she saw him

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Speaker 4: at a party and he didn't even acknowledge her presence.

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Speaker 4: During the day, they'll cuddle you, they'll trauma damp, they'll

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Speaker 4: hold your hand, they'll tell you all their deepest, darkest secrets,

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Speaker 4: and then the next day they might not even say

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Speaker 4: hello to you. And although it's men do this a lot,

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Speaker 4: so unfortunately, ladies, if they're being intimate and vulnerable with you,

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Speaker 4: one night. That doesn't mean that they want a relationship

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Speaker 4: with you for.

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Speaker 5: I mean, is this groundbreaking news. I thought that was

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Speaker 5: kind of a given, hopeless that stuff has been happening

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Speaker 5: since they died.

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Speaker 2: I don't think you should look.

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Speaker 3: At it like that, though, because there are guys out

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Speaker 3: there that you know that I think if they find

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Speaker 3: someone that they really like, they'll pursue it.

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Speaker 2: More guys like that never hear.

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Speaker 1: I don't think it's a new concept, but I do

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Speaker 1: think that.

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Speaker 6: I mean, with formats like TikTok, we're hearing more about

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Speaker 6: it and using words like trauma dump and you know,

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Speaker 6: so if you on the first date, they're telling you

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Speaker 6: about how they have a you know, a bad relationship

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Speaker 6: with their mother or their heart was broken and I've just.

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Speaker 1: Too much information too early.

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Speaker 3: I've really connected with you, you know. I feel like

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Speaker 3: you're on the same level as me. I really like you,

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Speaker 3: you know what. I feel like I'm falling in love

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Speaker 3: with you.

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Speaker 5: And then you get into bed and then you say, God,

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Speaker 5: I don't really do this. No, we shouldn't, we shouldn't.

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Speaker 1: Why this is not me?

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, this is not.

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Speaker 6: I must love you so so much because I've never.

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Speaker 5: Done that never feels right, doesn't feel right, it feels right.

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Speaker 3: What I'm looking for calls though, because I would love

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Speaker 3: to hear from people, what's the biggest burn that you've

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Speaker 3: got after you have hooked up with someone? Because this

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Speaker 3: Sometimes you can have a connection with someone and go,

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Speaker 3: oh my gosh, this is an unbelievable feeling. And like

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Speaker 3: that girl said, you might go to a party the

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Speaker 3: next week and that person can completely blank you.

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Speaker 6: It could also be with people who and I'm not

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Speaker 6: sticking up for people that do this, because there are

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Speaker 6: people who go out and treat it like a game.

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Speaker 6: But there might be you know, the love addicts of

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Speaker 6: the world who when they're in that moment, they actually

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Speaker 6: believe it. Yes, like they may not be one hundred

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Speaker 6: percent trying to manipulate you, but then they also have

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Speaker 6: that yo yo, like, oh my god, I'm in love.

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Speaker 6: They're getting this euphoria from being someone they're really they

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Speaker 6: are really into it, and then but they just can't

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Speaker 6: follow through. They just pull back completely because maybe they

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Speaker 6: said too much. I mean, if you're crying on the

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Speaker 6: billow on the first night, people may not recover.

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Speaker 5: You've got to remember too, that girls do this as well.

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Speaker 5: Girls quite often can use a man and I won't

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Speaker 5: be treated like a piece of meat.

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Speaker 3: Well, I've got a great story for you because actually

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Speaker 3: this girl, she's well known. She actually got a rested

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Speaker 3: over in Bali once and spent some time in jail.

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Speaker 1: Yeah she was.

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Speaker 3: She worked at the door of a nightclub in Adelaide

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Speaker 3: called The Planet, which was the biggest thing going at

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Speaker 3: the time, right, and there used to be huge lineups.

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Speaker 3: Kate and a maid of mine saw at the door

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Speaker 3: their eyes locked. At the end of the night, when

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Speaker 3: she finished her shift, they went back had a coffee together.

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Speaker 3: Things one little thing led to another. The week after Kate,

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Speaker 3: he rocks up to the Planet with a group of

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Speaker 3: friends and he goes, hey, fellas, leave this up to me.

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Speaker 3: As they stroll past the line that goes for five

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Speaker 3: maders gets to the front door. She looks at him

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Speaker 3: and just completely blanks him. Says, I don't know who

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Speaker 3: you are and you are not getting in. You have

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Speaker 3: to go to the back of the line. Was that

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Speaker 3: real or she didn't remember it. She was just like

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Speaker 3: that was a one night It's nothing, and I don't

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Speaker 3: know who you are. A couple of times you're not

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Speaker 3: getting in. You've got to line up with everybody else.

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Speaker 2: That's not fair. That's that's a horrible feeling, isn't it.

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Speaker 1: What's having that done to you, having to line up

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Speaker 1: or ignore.

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Speaker 2: And not being a member of the club. That's so disgusting.

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Speaker 3: What was the biggest burn that you got after hooking

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Speaker 3: up with someone? Did they completely blank you, ghost you,

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Speaker 3: didn't want to know you? And the usually it is

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Speaker 3: someone who is in a relationship as well, so they

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Speaker 3: look up with you and then they go, can't I

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Speaker 3: can't look at you anymore because I'm with.

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Speaker 2: Lasha and Cronala. Good morning, Leash, good.

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Speaker 7: Morning go What happened?

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Speaker 1: Ah?

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Speaker 7: So my friend has my friends had a like a

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Speaker 7: weekend party and on the Friday night, there was just

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Speaker 7: a few of us there. We were in the bar

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Speaker 7: and I met this guy, dreamy, so hot, super single.

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Speaker 7: We hooked up, and then the next day at the

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Speaker 7: same house, he rocked up with his girlfriend.

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Speaker 2: Oh you're kidding me?

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Speaker 1: Single to the girlfriend arhyving Alicia.

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Speaker 3: Were there moments where you look into each other's eyes

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Speaker 3: and he was opening up about his life and you thought,

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Speaker 3: this is a real connection here.

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Speaker 7: I really did I thought it was.

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Speaker 6: I thought it was so especially you know, I don't

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Speaker 6: I think you should have a blanket rule, and certainly

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Speaker 6: not criticizing you, Alicia at all, but from here on

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Speaker 6: in girlfriend, I do think that if you meet someone

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Speaker 6: in a jacuzzi, they are not the one for He's a.

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Speaker 7: Big red flag. I get it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, did the girlfriend look anything like you?

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Speaker 7: Or we were polar opposite? We had like face at maker,

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Speaker 7: we're in the spars. She actually said she couldn't get

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Speaker 7: water in her eyes because she was allergic to right.

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Speaker 2: So you were better looking than her, Alicia, Was there

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Speaker 2: a moment?

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Speaker 3: Did he Did he say anything to you at any

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Speaker 3: stage the next day when the girlfriend rocked up?

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Speaker 1: Or was it just one word?

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Speaker 7: Never met me?

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Speaker 1: But how frightening that he just the.

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Speaker 6: I wouldn't say another word, but the courage had another

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Speaker 6: word in my head. Yeah, the audacity to turn up

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Speaker 6: with the girlfriend and just assume that no one else

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Speaker 6: at the party might quite mention it. You know, that's

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Speaker 6: what upsets me about these kind of things is it

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Speaker 6: feels like everyone in the room knows apart from the

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Speaker 6: poor person who's been cheated.

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Speaker 2: On, everybody signed off on it.

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Speaker 3: Did you was there an element were you were your

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Speaker 3: friends going, you've got to tell her, Elisha, did you

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Speaker 3: think about telling her?

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Speaker 7: Or no, no, no, no, no, it's not worse, no way.

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Speaker 2: That's the thing.

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Speaker 5: That's why Lisa and I waited until we were married

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Speaker 5: before we intimate. I think that's important to do.

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Speaker 1: No one asked you that question.

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Speaker 2: I think she was discovered by you to be honest

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Speaker 2: with that. Is that why it didn't happen.

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