Speaker 1: Hello, and welcome to separate bathrooms. We would like to
Speaker 1: acknowledge the Gadigle people of the or nation, the traditional
Speaker 1: custodians of this land, and pay our respects to the elders,
Speaker 1: both past and present and on this final few days
Speaker 1: of twenty twenty four, I'm Ali Dando.
Speaker 2: Are you going to be someone else?
Speaker 1: Next year? It's all changes, mate?
Speaker 2: Do I know? Mate?
Speaker 1: You made it?
Speaker 2: Please?
Speaker 1: You will not recognize me next year. Everything's happening.
Speaker 2: Are you going to tell me I color.
Speaker 1: Change, change of name, plastic surgery, it's all going on.
Speaker 2: Really, No, okay, I's going to say you're turning into
Speaker 2: a salamander.
Speaker 1: No, not this, not twenty twenty five.
Speaker 2: Well, I'm cam Dado and it's what a year it's been.
Speaker 1: Yes, it's been a really big, big year.
Speaker 2: Yeah. We wanted to talk today briefly about some of
Speaker 2: our some several good lessons that we learned for the year. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and because it has been an amazing year. Do you
Speaker 2: want to start? Oh? Okay, Well, first of all, was
Speaker 2: Christmas good? Is it everything you wanted it to?
Speaker 1: Absolutely? I did, Miss rev and Locke, I did, of course,
Speaker 1: but it was still really lovely.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, are feeling relaxed?
Speaker 1: Yes, I am good. I am that space between Christmas
Speaker 1: and Year's Eve, that little it's a little patch, isn't
Speaker 1: it where I feel like everyone relaxes.
Speaker 2: You don't know what day it is, still leftovers yea, Yeah,
Speaker 2: all you know is that the Cricket's going to be
Speaker 2: on at some point nighttime day with.
Speaker 1: All the new toys the best.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I do love it. Hey, So what's one
Speaker 2: lesson that you learned?
Speaker 1: Okay, this was a big one for me, and I'm
Speaker 1: still I don't have this downpat though. It is to
Speaker 1: trust my intuition and that it's not my imagination. It's
Speaker 1: been my intuition all along, but I have not trusted
Speaker 1: And the more I trust my intuition, the more I
Speaker 1: know that it grows.
Speaker 2: All right? And is this is this? Is this a
Speaker 2: physical feeling as well as words that are like going
Speaker 2: across a movie screen your brain?
Speaker 1: Well that's still physical too, isn't it? If it was
Speaker 1: words in my brain, were you're.
Speaker 2: Seeing in my spose if it's like use the Instagram
Speaker 2: posts and someone's done a thing where the words are
Speaker 2: popping up as well.
Speaker 1: While don't see it like that, No, but it is.
Speaker 1: But yes, it's a it's a physical kind of all
Speaker 1: knowing experience of just going. And sometimes it's like, Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm getting this feeling. I'm just going to choose to
Speaker 1: do that then and just go. I'm getting this feeling.
Speaker 1: It can be like the simplest of things, you know,
Speaker 1: when you go take the extra plastic bag, Why would
Speaker 1: I need to take it? All right, I'm going to
Speaker 1: take it? And sure enough, right you filing out you
Speaker 1: needed the extra plastic bag. Like it's not life changing events.
Speaker 1: But just the more I act on that rather than
Speaker 1: dismiss it as why would I need an extra plastic bag?
Speaker 1: Just forget about it. The more I act on that,
Speaker 1: the more that voices is becoming clearer and trusting.
Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, isn't that cool? All right, here's one of mine.
Speaker 2: Stop telling the story of woe. Oh whoa, the old
Speaker 2: stories of let down and suffering. When I keep speaking
Speaker 2: about them, when I keep thinking about it, writing about it,
Speaker 2: I'm going to say the thing I learned this year's
Speaker 2: words are like spells, and in telling these old stories
Speaker 2: of woe, it keeps manifesting them correct. So take the wisdom,
Speaker 2: let the rest go that's what I've put here, Start telling,
Speaker 2: telling the story of the thriving me, that me being
Speaker 2: you know, having the what I want and accept and
Speaker 2: create the small challenges that I've got and it's too many,
Speaker 2: let's just let let let's just cut it at that.
Speaker 2: So uh, let the wisdom, take the wisdom and let
Speaker 2: the rest go.
Speaker 1: Great. I love it. I love it. I also learned
Speaker 1: that I am capable of more than I ever thought.
Speaker 2: Yes, you are.
Speaker 1: This has been a big year for me, Like this
Speaker 1: is starting co founding a business Aviana Aviana dot com
Speaker 1: dot au two eyes, two eyes, two eyes are going
Speaker 1: key vading yes, being in front of large crowds publicly speaking,
Speaker 1: I mean just that I have put myself in the
Speaker 1: most uncomfortable situations and it's been a huge year and
Speaker 1: a huge learning experience. And I'm still like so on
Speaker 1: the trajectory of learning because I'm just there's so much
Speaker 1: to learn about running a business that I had no
Speaker 1: clue about, which I don't judge myself for because I've
Speaker 1: never done it before. So yes, So that's I'm capable
Speaker 1: of more than I ever thought.
Speaker 2: And I've known that about you. And you can't tell
Speaker 2: someone that or you can. But it's like the accession.
Speaker 1: Yeah, they've got ex You have to.
Speaker 2: Come to that, don't you. So you've done more if
Speaker 2: for someone who is has shied away from public speaking
Speaker 2: as much as you have, You've done more keynotes than
Speaker 2: I have. You're more experienced in that world than I am,
Speaker 2: and I think it's fantastic.
Speaker 1: Well, you're a lot more experienced in public speaking, though
Speaker 1: it's just a keynote. Is something a little different.
Speaker 2: That's standing up and speaking. You've done forty five minute keynotes.
Speaker 2: I've not done that. I've got up there in MCED
Speaker 2: and introduced it.
Speaker 1: It's coming for you, It's coming, it is.
Speaker 2: I'm looking forward to that in twenty twenty five. Yeah, good, Yeah,
Speaker 2: all right, here we go. Next one for me. Tiny
Speaker 2: little things repeated over time produces big change. Yep, persist,
Speaker 2: you never know what's around the corner. Please stay with it.
Speaker 2: Run through the finish line, Run past the finish line.
Speaker 2: I was thinking I wrote down. Remember Hugh Grant, he
Speaker 2: came out with four weddings in a funeral. People are saying,
Speaker 2: look at this guy's an overnight sensation. Twenty years he'd
Speaker 2: been working before he did that. Just little things. George Clooney,
Speaker 2: how many pilots did.
Speaker 1: George cleeen Man before he did a.
Speaker 2: Yeah, So it's those little things repeated over time produces
Speaker 2: big change, sometimes as boring as hell. But keep doing it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, because it has to. I feel like it
Speaker 1: has to click eventually.
Speaker 2: And that's the determination. And it takes discipline to keep
Speaker 2: doing those little things. Does it does?
Speaker 1: Because it can be hard when you keep on doing
Speaker 1: it over and over without the result that you want.
Speaker 1: But that's right, keep going.
Speaker 2: Trust that it's just discipline and you'll get there and
Speaker 2: you'll become way more confident.
Speaker 1: Well. I also learned, based off of what I mentioned
Speaker 1: before about work and everything, that learning and new skill
Speaker 1: is really tough but really exciting, and that I love
Speaker 1: to learn and I always knew I love to learn,
Speaker 1: but just allowing it to be tough and exciting at
Speaker 1: the same time.
Speaker 2: Do you think that that keeps you I'm going to
Speaker 2: say use the word but younger, I can.
Speaker 1: My brain operating in a really good way. It's not
Speaker 1: just gone out to pasture.
Speaker 2: Thank goodness, where's your brain? It's happened the top padic,
Speaker 2: it's Fernando there.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it keeps it keeps the neurons firing. Sometimes it
Speaker 1: doesn't fire as much as I would like it too,
Speaker 1: where I'm going, huh, I don't understand, But then you
Speaker 1: know that's okay too. It's like, explic just explain it again.
Speaker 1: And I'm not I'm not embarrassed to ask, could you
Speaker 1: just explain that because I'm not understanding that at all?
Speaker 1: And you know you say it that way. And I've
Speaker 1: never had anyone go, oh god, you're an idiot. People go, yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: I get it here, let me explain it this way.
Speaker 1: Then I get it.
Speaker 2: Yeah. So I've got I've got one more big lesson
Speaker 2: of twenty twenty four for me.
Speaker 1: Yep.
Speaker 2: I mean, I've got a lot of good ones, but
Speaker 2: the big one really is is to not dwell on.
Speaker 2: And that's the overthinking. I have mentioned it so and
Speaker 2: that's overthinking, and that's the that's the idea of when
Speaker 2: I start something out, I'm looking at what I want
Speaker 2: to achieve. I'm looking at the end game. I'm looking
Speaker 2: at the podium and the bag of gold, and it
Speaker 2: feels insurmountable. How am I going to get that? Like
Speaker 2: writing my book? How am I going to finish with
Speaker 2: a book. But as I've said, just take one step,
Speaker 2: take the action. It's the hardest thing to do sometimes
Speaker 2: is to take that first step. But you know, as
Speaker 2: I mentioned in Alarm, and tiny little steps, but each
Speaker 2: thing that we do, each action that we takee gets
Speaker 2: as closer. But put the idea of you know, like
Speaker 2: for me, I was saying this the other day when
Speaker 2: my mates, I want to be a single handicapper in golf,
Speaker 2: and it's like, oh my god, it's a bridge too far.
Speaker 2: It's so hard to get to. Well, forget about that.
Speaker 2: Know that that's what that's what I want to be.
Speaker 2: But just just keep chipping away. Pardon the pun, but
Speaker 2: keep chipping away. Right, good, that's my last one I
Speaker 2: have are Well, that's good. I just wanted three. I
Speaker 2: just wanted three.
Speaker 1: Okay, Well, our producers said five. So I did the
Speaker 1: right thing.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you just you just I know you and Xander
Speaker 2: gore this thing.
Speaker 1: I'm a good girl.
Speaker 2: You are a good girl. I know, I know. He
Speaker 2: said five. And I'm a bad boy. That's what he likes,
Speaker 2: is he or a goog? He likes you being a
Speaker 2: good girl who likes me.
Speaker 1: Being I haven't asked him that Okay, let me let
Speaker 1: me give you this one though, because this is let
Speaker 1: me give you this one.
Speaker 2: I'm sure this is a good one.
Speaker 1: Well they're all good, Well, they're all good, yop, No,
Speaker 1: just well this Actually there's two more I can give, well,
Speaker 1: there's three, but I can give you okay. So this
Speaker 1: one was that I pushed myself. It's interesting off the
Speaker 1: back of like all the learnings and all you study
Speaker 1: your business and data day and at the same time,
Speaker 1: my other learning was that I pushed myself too far
Speaker 1: in the last few months and I had a major
Speaker 1: meltdown and that I balance.
Speaker 2: Is what isn't that the phone call moment? The other
Speaker 2: the phone call.
Speaker 1: I was hysterical. I wasn't hysterial. You didn't sound I
Speaker 1: had already had my hysterical crying and then I called you.
Speaker 2: Did you had a hysterical crying?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: I have not? Did you were you're in the car? Wow?
Speaker 1: It was really was I'm not going to say bad,
Speaker 1: but it was it was like, whoa, Alli, you've gone.
Speaker 1: You've gone. This is how you are. You didn't know
Speaker 1: how close to the edge you actually were, And so
Speaker 1: it's kind of good. It's like I've I went over
Speaker 1: the edge a bit and went, Okay, now you know
Speaker 1: where your edge is. You need to put yourself back
Speaker 1: and find your balance again. So because that's not a
Speaker 1: place that was really enjoyable to be and.
Speaker 2: In that moment, uncomfortable, isn't it?
Speaker 1: Yeah? And it was just over a small thing, but
Speaker 1: like that it talked about like it could not have
Speaker 1: been the straw of the broke the camel's back anymore
Speaker 1: than what happened just in that one moment, which could
Speaker 1: have just been really simply dealt with.
Speaker 2: Okay, so what's the lesson?
Speaker 1: Balance? Balance? Don't let myself get to that place again
Speaker 1: where I'm And I knew it. I could feel it,
Speaker 1: I could feel the build up of it. I knew
Speaker 1: how tired I was and how many juggling acts was happening.
Speaker 1: But I kept going and kept going, and I didn't.
Speaker 1: I needed to just go hold up, stop you you've yeah,
Speaker 1: you're you're on the on the precipice.
Speaker 2: And I was Can I ask you a selfish question? Yeah,
Speaker 2: selfish question? Did I handle that phone call? Well?
Speaker 1: Yes you did? Yeah?
Speaker 2: Yeah was helpful.
Speaker 1: Yep, it was very helpful. Scape you stayed really calm,
Speaker 1: you didn't ask too many questions about it. You just like,
Speaker 1: we'll deal with it. It's okay, I got it, it's fine.
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, So absolutely, yeah.
Speaker 2: Because probably was a time when I would have panicked and.
Speaker 1: Tried to fix it, or maybe even said, well, what
Speaker 1: do you want me to do? I can't, I can't
Speaker 1: help you.
Speaker 2: I did that once. That was awful.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Oh honey, I hang on, which time you're talking about.
Speaker 1: I'm talking about the time that Lula and I were
Speaker 1: lost Coakland at midnight. Yeah, yeah, in the most dangerous
Speaker 1: part of San Francisco. Yeah yeah, let's not dwell. Let's
Speaker 1: not dwell.
Speaker 2: Team that no one was hurt during the filming of
Speaker 2: that scene.
Speaker 1: Thank god. Yeah, it's in the story vault. And I
Speaker 1: think one thing that I'm going to include you in
Speaker 1: because I feel like we are learning this together, which
Speaker 1: has been a big one for twenty twenty four, is
Speaker 1: two of our children are fully grown adults, and that
Speaker 1: has need some adjusting from a parent's point of view.
Speaker 1: And I really feel now it's been a wonderful adjustment.
Speaker 1: You know, it's I'm still adjusting, but I actually really
Speaker 1: like the adjustment. I like relating to them as adults now, like,
Speaker 1: I find that it's really a whole new part of parenting.
Speaker 1: It's still parenting, but like that adjustment now that I'm
Speaker 1: through it on the other side. It was sticky for
Speaker 1: a bit where I was challenged by it. But now
Speaker 1: I'm on the other side of it, I'm like, I really.
Speaker 2: Like it and it's good and it has been an adjustment. Yeah.
Speaker 2: And I like the relationship that we have as a collective.
Speaker 2: I like my relationship with the kids, but I the
Speaker 2: relationship that we as parents have without two bigs in
Speaker 2: that way, and it's growing that way with birds too.
Speaker 1: Yeah. She'll get there, yeah soon, she's still teen.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Hey, is there any Is there anything that you
Speaker 2: do an action that you take to wind up the
Speaker 2: year that puts a button on the year setting up
Speaker 2: twenty the next the following year.
Speaker 1: No, and I don't like to do it, Okay, I
Speaker 1: never like that. Do you make make resolutions? Nope?
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, I have to.
Speaker 1: Sorry. I do have like a goal, like I have
Speaker 1: like a theme that I might have for twenty twenty five,
Speaker 1: but that's it.
Speaker 2: Okay. I don't have you decided on that yet. I
Speaker 2: have Oh yeah, And that's to become a chameleon.
Speaker 1: It's it's my strip of life begins tomorrow. Yeah, I'll
Speaker 1: put No, it's it's friendships. It's to concentrate on growing
Speaker 1: my friendship. That's it for twenty twenty five. I don't
Speaker 1: have nothing else. Okay, whatever else comes comes. But yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't make resolutions, and I know you do. You're
Speaker 1: big on that. You write your or your gratitude stuff.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I do one hundred and eight gratitude things to
Speaker 2: be grateful for at the end of every year. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I don't know. It's kind of a magic number and
Speaker 2: all the things that it helps me actually just sort
Speaker 2: of go back through the year and I think about
Speaker 2: people and experiences that I've had that I might have
Speaker 2: kind of just forgotten about, and it just comes back
Speaker 2: to mind. Write down a piece of paper, thanks so much,
Speaker 2: grateful for that, and onwards. Yeah, let's do a whole
Speaker 2: start with a whole clean slate. Yeah.
Speaker 1: No, I think it's great.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's good. Yeah, alrighty, be safe whatever you're doing
Speaker 2: in the next couple of days through the new year,
Speaker 2: absolutely and set yourself up well. I wish for you
Speaker 2: and your family to set yourself up with the best
Speaker 2: situation to have the greatest amount of success and joy
Speaker 2: in the in the coming year. And thanks for being
Speaker 2: with us as well Separatethom.
Speaker 1: Happy Happy New Year. We are very excited about some
Speaker 1: guests that we already have lined up for the new year.
Speaker 1: So join us back in the bathroom.
Speaker 2: Take care why