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Speaker 1: I get are you bloody Champions, It's Jumbo, It's Craig

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Speaker 1: Anthy Harper, It's the You Project. It's Rena Ingles, It's me,

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Speaker 1: it's you, It's us, wherever you are, whatever you do

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Speaker 1: and happy, bloody, terrific. Renee Ingles, Welcome to the You Project.

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Speaker 2: Oh it is so good to be here. Greg, super excited.

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Speaker 2: I want to be here.

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Speaker 1: I'm very excited to have you. I'm like, it's funny

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Speaker 1: when I interview or chat with interviews the wrong word.

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Speaker 1: But when I chat with my friends that I've known

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Speaker 1: for a very long time, it's different. It's a different energy.

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Speaker 1: I interviewed a lady last night who was amazing, an

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Speaker 1: author and a creative and the name's Samantha Wills, and

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Speaker 1: she's a big deal and she's got all these followers

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Speaker 1: and it was great and she was lovely. But it's

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Speaker 1: a completely different preparation and different mindset and different energy

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Speaker 1: to talking. Like, I feel like I don't need to

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Speaker 1: get myself in a different state. But because I know

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Speaker 1: I know you, I kind of know the vibe and

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Speaker 1: the energy and the emotion, so I don't have to

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Speaker 1: be on guard. You know, when you're talking to a stranger.

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Speaker 1: You're always thinking, I wonder how this will go. I

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Speaker 1: wonder what they're like, and I wonder how they'll be

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Speaker 1: around me because I'm a lot So I've been excited.

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Speaker 2: Oh honestly, so have I.

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Speaker 3: And I would say even coming on as a guest,

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Speaker 3: I would say exactly the same thing. Like, my preparation

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Speaker 3: for your podcast is very different to another podcast of

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Speaker 3: where I maybe don't know the host as well as

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Speaker 3: I know you, And my preparation for you was nothing.

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Speaker 3: I was like, I'm going to show up today and

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Speaker 3: I'm going to be me and I'm going to have

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Speaker 3: a great chat to Crago, and I've been really excited

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Speaker 3: about it.

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Speaker 1: One hundred per And for those of you who are thinking,

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Speaker 1: what's Craigo? You probably heard me interview Bianca the other day.

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Speaker 1: Who calls me Craigo. Charrell, who's been on the show,

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Speaker 1: calls me Crago, And so people who over the journey

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Speaker 1: quite intertwined in our journeys. Did you hear me. You

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Speaker 1: probably didn't, but did you? Did you know? I chatted

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Speaker 3: I was about to say, I can't believe I haven't

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Speaker 3: listened to that one. Is that one out yet? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: I didn't realize that one of my most favorite people

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she's such a bloody she's so smart too, bi Ancha.

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Speaker 1: It's like, clearly a very good athlete Bianca Chatfield we're

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Speaker 1: You'll find her obviously a great athlete and all of that,

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Speaker 3: She Definitely, and very quiet about it. If you don't

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Speaker 2: I like that about it intrigues me a little bit.

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Speaker 1: and well, your bio is significant as well. I learned

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Speaker 1: she hosts The Nettie on Fox. She hosted the afl

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Speaker 1: When I started. When I started working with the Phoenix,

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Speaker 3: as a person away from the court. Because I didn't

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Speaker 3: give enough time to that. I just put everything whilst

434
00:23:45,200 --> 00:23:47,840
Speaker 3: I was still studying and working out what life was

435
00:23:47,880 --> 00:23:51,560
Speaker 3: going to look like and navigating those relationships that so

436
00:23:51,720 --> 00:23:54,719
Speaker 3: much of my identity was tied to the athlete and

437
00:23:54,760 --> 00:23:55,399
Speaker 3: who she was.

438
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Speaker 1: I know there's a million answers to this, but in

439
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Speaker 1: general terms, so now you're the thirty eight year old

440
00:24:02,400 --> 00:24:06,440
Speaker 1: mum of three elect an ex elite athlete, wife to

441
00:24:06,560 --> 00:24:10,240
Speaker 1: a current elite athlete. You're in and around high performance

442
00:24:10,480 --> 00:24:13,480
Speaker 1: and have been most of your life, and now you've

443
00:24:13,520 --> 00:24:15,879
Speaker 1: got more experience, more miles on the clock. You've got

444
00:24:15,920 --> 00:24:19,640
Speaker 1: a different perspective, you've got more understanding and self awareness

445
00:24:19,720 --> 00:24:25,200
Speaker 1: and other awareness, and mentally, emotionally and socially, you've evolved

446
00:24:25,240 --> 00:24:28,000
Speaker 1: a lot. So now we plunk you in front of

447
00:24:28,000 --> 00:24:30,520
Speaker 1: a group of people who are basically a version of

448
00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:33,520
Speaker 1: you twenty years ago. What are the things that you

449
00:24:33,560 --> 00:24:36,159
Speaker 1: want to share with them? How do you want to

450
00:24:36,520 --> 00:24:37,840
Speaker 1: connect with them?

451
00:24:39,000 --> 00:24:44,159
Speaker 3: For me, I think it's about them understanding themselves. So

452
00:24:44,160 --> 00:24:46,639
Speaker 3: I'm not asking them about their sport. I'm not asking

453
00:24:46,680 --> 00:24:48,919
Speaker 3: about what teams they have or haven't made. I'm not

454
00:24:49,000 --> 00:24:51,240
Speaker 3: asking about what their goals are in that realm. I

455
00:24:51,280 --> 00:24:54,359
Speaker 3: want to know what they're passionate about, what fills their cup?

456
00:24:55,160 --> 00:25:00,000
Speaker 3: What do other people? What do they bring to other people?

457
00:25:00,600 --> 00:25:05,160
Speaker 3: What do they love? Who are the relationships?

458
00:25:05,520 --> 00:25:07,440
Speaker 2: Who's holding them up? I think?

459
00:25:09,560 --> 00:25:12,360
Speaker 3: I think what I've learned is that connection can really

460
00:25:12,400 --> 00:25:16,159
Speaker 3: affect your quality of life, and connection really affects your performance.

461
00:25:17,200 --> 00:25:20,080
Speaker 2: So what do those connection pieces think?

462
00:25:20,160 --> 00:25:24,320
Speaker 3: Because I have always thought and any girl that sits

463
00:25:24,359 --> 00:25:26,640
Speaker 3: in front of me, and even my daughter is eight

464
00:25:26,720 --> 00:25:29,040
Speaker 3: and I'm trying to have these conversations with her now

465
00:25:29,560 --> 00:25:32,840
Speaker 3: that my badge of honor was how independent I was.

466
00:25:32,960 --> 00:25:39,280
Speaker 3: I'm this independence wrong, kick ass, superhuman, right, But there's

467
00:25:39,280 --> 00:25:41,560
Speaker 3: only so much I can achieve on my own, and

468
00:25:41,840 --> 00:25:45,320
Speaker 3: that interdependency is what actually, that connection piece is what's

469
00:25:45,359 --> 00:25:49,399
Speaker 3: actually going to make us thrive, not just survive. Because

470
00:25:49,400 --> 00:25:51,439
Speaker 3: for a long time I was just driving, so I

471
00:25:51,480 --> 00:25:56,600
Speaker 3: would who's in your corner? How are they helping you?

472
00:25:56,640 --> 00:25:58,879
Speaker 3: And how are you helping them? And what is it

473
00:25:58,960 --> 00:26:03,280
Speaker 3: you actually love? M I think so much of us

474
00:26:03,800 --> 00:26:05,960
Speaker 3: I would or like if people back then had said

475
00:26:06,000 --> 00:26:07,600
Speaker 3: to me, hi, who are you? I would say, Hi,

476
00:26:07,640 --> 00:26:08,680
Speaker 3: I'm I'm an buller.

477
00:26:09,560 --> 00:26:16,000
Speaker 1: Yes, so interesting. It's like independences, like that defiant independence.

478
00:26:16,040 --> 00:26:19,160
Speaker 1: It's like a two edged sword because on the one hand,

479
00:26:19,680 --> 00:26:24,040
Speaker 1: it's like, fuck people, I don't need people. I'm fuck

480
00:26:24,359 --> 00:26:28,800
Speaker 1: I can do this. And on the other side, you're like, well,

481
00:26:28,840 --> 00:26:33,720
Speaker 1: if I need people, that's a dependency and that's weak, right, yeah,

482
00:26:33,720 --> 00:26:35,560
Speaker 1: And that's I used to be a little bit like

483
00:26:35,640 --> 00:26:38,639
Speaker 1: that too, because in a different realm, but trying to me,

484
00:26:38,800 --> 00:26:41,159
Speaker 1: trying to succeed build something that would work, not as

485
00:26:41,160 --> 00:26:46,280
Speaker 1: an athlete, but as a whatever, as a business person, entrepreneur, creator, scientist, whatever,

486
00:26:46,359 --> 00:26:49,480
Speaker 1: trying to figure it out, and it's it's the same.

487
00:26:50,000 --> 00:26:53,800
Speaker 1: And you know, the other I guess curveball in the

488
00:26:53,880 --> 00:26:56,960
Speaker 1: middle of this is as an elite athlete, when you're

489
00:26:56,960 --> 00:27:01,840
Speaker 1: in demand, like you you work for a very long

490
00:27:01,880 --> 00:27:04,240
Speaker 1: time and still are to a level I'm sure, but

491
00:27:05,240 --> 00:27:07,639
Speaker 1: there are a bunch of people who want something from you.

492
00:27:08,160 --> 00:27:12,159
Speaker 1: So I think sometimes it's like I get you probably

493
00:27:12,160 --> 00:27:15,000
Speaker 1: get as many I get, I don't know, ten times

494
00:27:15,040 --> 00:27:18,840
Speaker 1: a week someone who has an opportunity for me, And

495
00:27:18,880 --> 00:27:21,240
Speaker 1: then I look in I go, the only person that's

496
00:27:21,240 --> 00:27:24,480
Speaker 1: an opportunity for is them, you know, because they want

497
00:27:24,560 --> 00:27:27,919
Speaker 1: something from me, and it's just it's a sales pitch

498
00:27:28,320 --> 00:27:32,639
Speaker 1: dressed up as a fucking opportunity. And so you know,

499
00:27:32,840 --> 00:27:35,480
Speaker 1: not that you want to be overly cynical, but you

500
00:27:35,600 --> 00:27:39,479
Speaker 1: still have to be careful about for whom you open

501
00:27:39,560 --> 00:27:42,200
Speaker 1: the door to your heart and your head, right, And

502
00:27:42,240 --> 00:27:46,320
Speaker 1: so there's not everybody is not everybody that's here to

503
00:27:46,359 --> 00:27:48,320
Speaker 1: help is here to help. No.

504
00:27:48,359 --> 00:27:52,119
Speaker 3: I agree, it's such a hard thing to navigate. And

505
00:27:52,160 --> 00:27:55,199
Speaker 3: I think what I'm learning now and a lot of

506
00:27:55,200 --> 00:27:58,200
Speaker 3: this especially, and you know, it's a bit of a buzzword,

507
00:27:58,280 --> 00:28:02,360
Speaker 3: but like vulnerability, is that you've just got to take

508
00:28:02,359 --> 00:28:04,600
Speaker 3: the risk, like with other people.

509
00:28:04,640 --> 00:28:05,200
Speaker 2: I think.

510
00:28:07,160 --> 00:28:09,600
Speaker 3: I was never the one to get vulnerable first or

511
00:28:09,600 --> 00:28:11,320
Speaker 3: put myself out there because I was scared of what

512
00:28:11,400 --> 00:28:11,920
Speaker 3: was going to happen.

513
00:28:12,000 --> 00:28:13,040
Speaker 2: But it almost takes that.

514
00:28:15,680 --> 00:28:17,800
Speaker 1: I don't know. I just think I would love to

515
00:28:17,880 --> 00:28:21,040
Speaker 1: I would love to play this. I'd love to play

516
00:28:21,080 --> 00:28:23,520
Speaker 1: this chapter seventeen year old you, you would have gone,

517
00:28:23,560 --> 00:28:24,439
Speaker 1: who the fuck is that?

518
00:28:25,320 --> 00:28:28,040
Speaker 2: I literally would? Yes, Yes, I know.

519
00:28:29,400 --> 00:28:33,400
Speaker 1: Tell me about so knowing what you know, having been

520
00:28:33,440 --> 00:28:35,800
Speaker 1: where you've been, and kind of you and Joe have had,

521
00:28:37,480 --> 00:28:42,200
Speaker 1: you know, like similar journeys from a sport and development

522
00:28:42,320 --> 00:28:45,400
Speaker 1: and getting to the pointy end of where you could

523
00:28:45,440 --> 00:28:48,560
Speaker 1: get to in your chosen field. And now I know

524
00:28:48,600 --> 00:28:50,960
Speaker 1: you're much more than this, But part of your role,

525
00:28:51,000 --> 00:28:54,280
Speaker 1: I guess is support crew for him. You know, of

526
00:28:54,320 --> 00:28:56,240
Speaker 1: course you're a lot more than that, but that's you know,

527
00:28:56,360 --> 00:28:59,720
Speaker 1: to support your husband. And what does that look like?

528
00:29:00,320 --> 00:29:03,680
Speaker 1: How do you how do you know how much to say,

529
00:29:03,800 --> 00:29:06,040
Speaker 1: when to say, when to shut the fuck up, when

530
00:29:06,080 --> 00:29:08,800
Speaker 1: to step in, when to step away? Because I feel

531
00:29:08,840 --> 00:29:11,720
Speaker 1: like that's a skill set.

532
00:29:13,080 --> 00:29:15,240
Speaker 3: One thing that I would say, and Joe and I

533
00:29:15,240 --> 00:29:18,920
Speaker 3: have been together now about fifteen years, never ever have

534
00:29:19,040 --> 00:29:22,080
Speaker 3: I ever given him any sort of feedback on a

535
00:29:22,120 --> 00:29:26,920
Speaker 3: basketball skill ever, nor because he'd laugh in my face

536
00:29:27,120 --> 00:29:28,520
Speaker 3: and say, what are you talking about?

537
00:29:29,120 --> 00:29:29,800
Speaker 2: But when it.

538
00:29:29,720 --> 00:29:37,200
Speaker 3: Comes to body language, how is moving his facial expressions,

539
00:29:37,680 --> 00:29:42,560
Speaker 3: how his energy looks, how he was contributing to the

540
00:29:42,600 --> 00:29:46,000
Speaker 3: group or not contributing to the group, what he is

541
00:29:46,000 --> 00:29:48,680
Speaker 3: doing in the lead up. Is this beneficial for you

542
00:29:48,720 --> 00:29:51,200
Speaker 3: and your performance? All of those stuff around who he

543
00:29:51,360 --> 00:29:54,400
Speaker 3: is an athlete? Absolutely, I say it, and we have

544
00:29:54,520 --> 00:29:57,360
Speaker 3: really good healthy conversations around that. But I would just

545
00:29:57,920 --> 00:30:01,720
Speaker 3: never ever give him any sort of skilled basketball advice,

546
00:30:01,920 --> 00:30:04,320
Speaker 3: just on the reverse that he would have never done

547
00:30:04,360 --> 00:30:07,320
Speaker 3: that to me in netball. But I would have to

548
00:30:07,360 --> 00:30:11,600
Speaker 3: say that as being an ex athlete myself. Is one

549
00:30:11,640 --> 00:30:14,800
Speaker 3: of the best things about being married to Joe, and

550
00:30:14,840 --> 00:30:17,560
Speaker 3: one of the hardest things about being married to Joe

551
00:30:17,800 --> 00:30:21,360
Speaker 3: is that my career is done, and there's almost this

552
00:30:21,520 --> 00:30:24,000
Speaker 3: sense of like, oh, if I'd done this then, or

553
00:30:24,360 --> 00:30:26,440
Speaker 3: I know this, so you should know this now and

554
00:30:26,520 --> 00:30:29,120
Speaker 3: let me help you with this, or do this because

555
00:30:29,120 --> 00:30:32,840
Speaker 3: it's differently, and one day that'll be gone and you know,

556
00:30:32,880 --> 00:30:36,040
Speaker 3: all of the feelings of what I've lost that he

557
00:30:36,120 --> 00:30:38,080
Speaker 3: still gets to do, and then the feeling of me

558
00:30:38,280 --> 00:30:41,680
Speaker 3: walking into his stadiums and sitting there and being so

559
00:30:41,760 --> 00:30:44,560
Speaker 3: happy to love and support and watch him do his thing.

560
00:30:45,160 --> 00:30:46,080
Speaker 2: Of course as an.

561
00:30:45,960 --> 00:30:48,680
Speaker 3: Eleinem in my heart where I'm like, oh, I'd love

562
00:30:48,720 --> 00:30:50,360
Speaker 3: to be back in the stadium full of people that

563
00:30:50,400 --> 00:30:56,080
Speaker 3: are cheering for me out there. But yeah, Joe and

564
00:30:56,080 --> 00:30:58,640
Speaker 3: I our entire careers have gone about things completely differently.

565
00:30:58,680 --> 00:31:01,239
Speaker 3: We're like chalk and cheese athlete that he is as

566
00:31:01,280 --> 00:31:04,160
Speaker 3: opposed to the athlete that I am, and our preparation

567
00:31:04,400 --> 00:31:06,640
Speaker 3: and who we are as athletes has always been really different,

568
00:31:06,720 --> 00:31:09,000
Speaker 3: and I actually think that has been a really nice

569
00:31:09,040 --> 00:31:12,479
Speaker 3: balance because he can calm my farm and I can

570
00:31:13,000 --> 00:31:15,880
Speaker 3: energize him and have some more of those high performance

571
00:31:15,920 --> 00:31:19,040
Speaker 3: behaviors that he wouldn't necessarily have had in the first place.

572
00:31:20,760 --> 00:31:25,320
Speaker 1: What's harder? I think I know the answer. Elite's elite

573
00:31:25,360 --> 00:31:26,960
Speaker 1: sport or being a mum.

574
00:31:28,400 --> 00:31:32,040
Speaker 3: I'll be a mum by far. Elite sport is easy.

575
00:31:32,960 --> 00:31:35,640
Speaker 3: That is the easy part as compared to.

576
00:31:36,120 --> 00:31:36,880
Speaker 2: Being a mum.

577
00:31:37,120 --> 00:31:44,880
Speaker 3: Best, best job in the world, hardest and most mundane, resilient,

578
00:31:45,600 --> 00:31:48,840
Speaker 3: twenty four o'clock that never ends, but worth every minute.

579
00:31:49,040 --> 00:31:52,400
Speaker 1: Definitely tell us about the kids.

580
00:31:52,640 --> 00:31:56,120
Speaker 3: I have eight year old twins, Jacob and Miller and

581
00:31:56,480 --> 00:32:02,280
Speaker 3: Jack who will before next month. They are all they're

582
00:32:02,320 --> 00:32:06,680
Speaker 3: three independent, completely different to each other kiddos, which keeps

583
00:32:06,720 --> 00:32:10,120
Speaker 3: me on my toes. Jacob, who is one of the

584
00:32:10,120 --> 00:32:13,800
Speaker 3: twins eight, was diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder when he

585
00:32:14,040 --> 00:32:17,040
Speaker 3: was two and a half, so we've been navigating that

586
00:32:17,280 --> 00:32:20,720
Speaker 3: for the last six years or so. Sounds crazy saying

587
00:32:20,720 --> 00:32:25,000
Speaker 3: that it's been six years, but I am raising three

588
00:32:25,040 --> 00:32:29,640
Speaker 3: American children. They have American accents. They don't know the

589
00:32:29,640 --> 00:32:35,320
Speaker 3: Australian anthem, they know the American anthem. They Yeah, it's crazy,

590
00:32:35,520 --> 00:32:37,280
Speaker 3: three little American kids over here.

591
00:32:38,240 --> 00:32:40,840
Speaker 1: That's so interesting, isn't it. I didn't think of that.

592
00:32:41,960 --> 00:32:46,080
Speaker 1: I didn't think of that. And yeah, wow, and do

593
00:32:46,200 --> 00:32:49,600
Speaker 1: they they just see themselves as American.

594
00:32:50,880 --> 00:32:53,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I think the twins now, as they get older,

595
00:32:53,120 --> 00:32:56,080
Speaker 3: they're starting to understand now the difference and oh, we

596
00:32:56,120 --> 00:32:57,200
Speaker 3: are from Australia.

597
00:32:57,320 --> 00:32:59,560
Speaker 2: Jack of course has no idea, he's too young.

598
00:32:59,440 --> 00:33:03,360
Speaker 3: But yeah, starting to understand now that Australia is home,

599
00:33:03,400 --> 00:33:06,600
Speaker 3: and especially in this last trip and in June we

600
00:33:06,720 --> 00:33:08,840
Speaker 3: came home, so that was really nice to see family.

601
00:33:10,760 --> 00:33:12,840
Speaker 3: But yeah, and I think they're only just starting to

602
00:33:13,120 --> 00:33:17,120
Speaker 3: comprehend how far away Australia is as home, and also

603
00:33:17,440 --> 00:33:21,720
Speaker 3: starting to understand the relationships that their friends have with

604
00:33:21,800 --> 00:33:27,800
Speaker 3: their families here that have aunties, uncles, grandparents all around

605
00:33:27,880 --> 00:33:31,360
Speaker 3: them that they visit weekends and do things with. And

606
00:33:31,840 --> 00:33:34,959
Speaker 3: that's not something that we have. So conversations that are

607
00:33:34,960 --> 00:33:36,320
Speaker 3: starting to pop up in our house.

608
00:33:37,800 --> 00:33:41,480
Speaker 1: And I know Joe recently, well not well recently, recently

609
00:33:41,600 --> 00:33:45,920
Speaker 1: went to Minnesota and you're still in Florida. How's that going?

610
00:33:47,040 --> 00:33:51,200
Speaker 3: It has been? We moved three times in three years.

611
00:33:51,720 --> 00:33:54,000
Speaker 3: We were in Salt Lake City for eight years, then

612
00:33:54,120 --> 00:33:59,479
Speaker 3: Joe got traded to Portland, then got signed with Milwaukee Bucks.

613
00:34:00,160 --> 00:34:01,800
Speaker 2: Moved to Milwaukee, and then we were.

614
00:34:01,720 --> 00:34:03,760
Speaker 3: There for ten months, and then he signed with Orlando,

615
00:34:03,960 --> 00:34:06,520
Speaker 3: so we moved here to Orlando, have been here for

616
00:34:06,560 --> 00:34:08,960
Speaker 3: twelve months, and honestly expected him to be signing here

617
00:34:09,000 --> 00:34:12,040
Speaker 3: again a very last minute that like in the NBA,

618
00:34:12,160 --> 00:34:14,400
Speaker 3: the business that it is, that changed and he had

619
00:34:14,440 --> 00:34:17,840
Speaker 3: an opportunity to go to Minnesota. And before that had happened,

620
00:34:17,840 --> 00:34:20,120
Speaker 3: we'd had the conversation that if he was going to

621
00:34:20,160 --> 00:34:22,719
Speaker 3: be moving again, that it wasn't fair for the kids

622
00:34:22,760 --> 00:34:25,440
Speaker 3: to be in four schools in four years. Three was

623
00:34:25,520 --> 00:34:30,200
Speaker 3: a lot and a lot on me as mum. So yes,

624
00:34:30,320 --> 00:34:33,319
Speaker 3: he moved to Minnesota about a month and a half

625
00:34:33,400 --> 00:34:37,000
Speaker 3: two months ago. Now, I think for the first month

626
00:34:37,200 --> 00:34:40,239
Speaker 3: I was riding on the high of we're used to this,

627
00:34:40,960 --> 00:34:44,080
Speaker 3: we've done this before, We're used to him being away

628
00:34:44,080 --> 00:34:46,520
Speaker 3: and on the road. But I think I have also

629
00:34:46,840 --> 00:34:52,160
Speaker 3: grossly underestimated the mental load that it has on me

630
00:34:52,560 --> 00:34:56,040
Speaker 3: of not having a finish line. So this is not

631
00:34:56,200 --> 00:34:59,120
Speaker 3: a five day road trip. This is not a ten

632
00:34:59,200 --> 00:35:02,280
Speaker 3: day road trip in two days home into five days away. Again,

633
00:35:02,440 --> 00:35:06,120
Speaker 3: this is completely different. And Dad has his own house

634
00:35:06,320 --> 00:35:08,279
Speaker 3: and lives in a different spot, and we have to

635
00:35:08,320 --> 00:35:11,440
Speaker 3: try and work out times to get to him, and

636
00:35:11,480 --> 00:35:13,680
Speaker 3: then when our weekends work that we could fly there.

637
00:35:13,719 --> 00:35:15,680
Speaker 3: He's of course on the road in the West Coast,

638
00:35:15,840 --> 00:35:19,160
Speaker 3: or you know, logistically.

639
00:35:18,680 --> 00:35:20,080
Speaker 2: It is a nightmare.

640
00:35:20,200 --> 00:35:22,480
Speaker 3: Even though it sounds really nice that we can fly

641
00:35:22,600 --> 00:35:25,120
Speaker 3: between two cities and have two houses and give the

642
00:35:25,200 --> 00:35:28,560
Speaker 3: kids snow and sunshine and all of that, but it's

643
00:35:28,560 --> 00:35:32,160
Speaker 3: been incredibly difficult, probably more difficult than I thought it

644
00:35:32,160 --> 00:35:34,040
Speaker 3: would be. But I think that's also on me and

645
00:35:34,960 --> 00:35:38,719
Speaker 3: the super woman that I try to be for my

646
00:35:38,840 --> 00:35:40,880
Speaker 3: family and the glue to keep us all together.

647
00:35:40,960 --> 00:35:42,680
Speaker 2: That I can't keep.

648
00:35:42,560 --> 00:35:44,759
Speaker 3: Juggling all of the balls all of the time, I

649
00:35:44,800 --> 00:35:48,800
Speaker 3: don't think so navigating through some of that at the moment,

650
00:35:48,880 --> 00:35:51,440
Speaker 3: and how I can get better support around me so

651
00:35:51,480 --> 00:35:54,080
Speaker 3: that Renee doesn't burn out.

652
00:35:56,280 --> 00:35:59,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think the idea of some lifestyles is way

653
00:35:59,840 --> 00:36:03,400
Speaker 1: better than the practical lived reality. You know, when you

654
00:36:03,440 --> 00:36:09,640
Speaker 1: think husband's in the NBA, I'm living in Orlando. It's beautiful,

655
00:36:09,719 --> 00:36:13,680
Speaker 1: it's Florida, it's it's you know, and while in some

656
00:36:13,800 --> 00:36:19,160
Speaker 1: ways it's fucking amazing, but the experience is not always amazing, right.

657
00:36:20,600 --> 00:36:22,920
Speaker 3: I have thought that since day one, and I will

658
00:36:22,960 --> 00:36:25,399
Speaker 3: be the first to say that before Joe had signed

659
00:36:25,440 --> 00:36:27,120
Speaker 3: in the NBA, like I would look at the NBA

660
00:36:27,200 --> 00:36:32,600
Speaker 3: and go wow, and this wag life that people I

661
00:36:32,760 --> 00:36:37,440
Speaker 3: genuinely think people think we have this most luxurious, incredible

662
00:36:38,239 --> 00:36:42,840
Speaker 3: sport lived life, and that it's quite a lonely existence,

663
00:36:43,080 --> 00:36:45,960
Speaker 3: especially for the families, and then especially when you get

664
00:36:46,000 --> 00:36:48,359
Speaker 3: to a point in the player's career like Joe has

665
00:36:48,400 --> 00:36:50,719
Speaker 3: been where he's one of the veterans, and that they

666
00:36:50,760 --> 00:36:53,359
Speaker 3: are moving around a lot more. We actually were really

667
00:36:53,440 --> 00:36:55,480
Speaker 3: lucky that we were in Salt Lake City for eight

668
00:36:55,560 --> 00:36:58,640
Speaker 3: years with the role that Joe played, that's almost unheard of.

669
00:36:58,760 --> 00:37:01,800
Speaker 3: So we were quite lucky to be able to entrench

670
00:37:01,840 --> 00:37:04,040
Speaker 3: ourselves in a team and a community for that long.

671
00:37:04,200 --> 00:37:08,960
Speaker 3: But it's definitely not the luxurious wag life that people.

672
00:37:08,680 --> 00:37:09,279
Speaker 2: Think it is.

673
00:37:09,400 --> 00:37:14,840
Speaker 3: It's quite lonely and logistically and mentally like incredibly tiring,

674
00:37:14,920 --> 00:37:17,120
Speaker 3: not only on us, on Joe as well, And like

675
00:37:17,200 --> 00:37:19,440
Speaker 3: I know they of course they get all of the

676
00:37:19,480 --> 00:37:21,960
Speaker 3: bells and whistles and they get paid incredibly well to

677
00:37:21,960 --> 00:37:23,600
Speaker 3: do what they do, So I'm not denying that for

678
00:37:23,640 --> 00:37:26,680
Speaker 3: a second. We're very grateful and privileged in that aspect,

679
00:37:26,760 --> 00:37:29,719
Speaker 3: but you know, eighty two games a year in all

680
00:37:29,760 --> 00:37:33,120
Speaker 3: different states, all across the country. They work bloody hard too,

681
00:37:33,200 --> 00:37:36,640
Speaker 3: and very, very tiring and exhausting in its own way.

682
00:37:36,800 --> 00:37:39,680
Speaker 3: So there's a lot to navigate in this lifestyle, and

683
00:37:39,719 --> 00:37:42,520
Speaker 3: a lot to navigate without a village around us.

684
00:37:44,320 --> 00:37:50,480
Speaker 1: What happens when? What happens when the superstar you, it's

685
00:37:50,560 --> 00:37:54,120
Speaker 1: just you. The kids are in bed, Joe's world away,

686
00:37:55,480 --> 00:37:57,400
Speaker 1: it's just you and your thoughts and you and the

687
00:37:57,400 --> 00:38:00,880
Speaker 1: shit hits the fan with you, like Kudie, who's your person?

688
00:38:00,920 --> 00:38:03,759
Speaker 1: Who do you reach out to or what do you

689
00:38:03,800 --> 00:38:07,080
Speaker 1: do like when you have, as we all do, when

690
00:38:07,080 --> 00:38:09,000
Speaker 1: you have a bit of a moment or a meltdown,

691
00:38:09,560 --> 00:38:10,640
Speaker 1: How do you navigate that?

692
00:38:11,920 --> 00:38:12,600
Speaker 2: Good question.

693
00:38:12,960 --> 00:38:16,040
Speaker 3: I don't allow myself to melt down that too often,

694
00:38:16,040 --> 00:38:18,279
Speaker 3: if I'm being completely honest, But I do think if

695
00:38:18,320 --> 00:38:20,759
Speaker 3: anyone's copying the brunt of that, that is Joe and

696
00:38:20,800 --> 00:38:24,319
Speaker 3: I think that's actually been a good change in our

697
00:38:24,360 --> 00:38:26,280
Speaker 3: relationship over the last couple of years.

698
00:38:26,800 --> 00:38:28,360
Speaker 2: Before then, I didn't used.

699
00:38:28,200 --> 00:38:30,000
Speaker 3: To unload to him because I didn't want to affect

700
00:38:30,040 --> 00:38:34,080
Speaker 3: his performance or you know, have any marriage issues or whatever.

701
00:38:34,320 --> 00:38:37,000
Speaker 3: How deep we get down that way, I think I

702
00:38:37,120 --> 00:38:39,560
Speaker 3: have really good people around me, not a whole lot

703
00:38:39,600 --> 00:38:43,239
Speaker 3: of people that understand this lifestyle, which I think is difficult.

704
00:38:44,040 --> 00:38:47,440
Speaker 3: But my brother is a really good support system for me.

705
00:38:47,520 --> 00:38:50,720
Speaker 3: I have a younger brother and a younger sister, but Tom,

706
00:38:51,160 --> 00:38:53,759
Speaker 3: he too has three young kids, just like I do,

707
00:38:53,920 --> 00:38:56,480
Speaker 3: and is just a good sounding board for me in

708
00:38:56,520 --> 00:38:58,520
Speaker 3: that way. And I also have one of my really

709
00:38:58,520 --> 00:39:01,960
Speaker 3: good friends in Salt Lakes, sity Emma, who I call

710
00:39:02,000 --> 00:39:04,200
Speaker 3: on quite a lot and she usually gets like the

711
00:39:04,280 --> 00:39:09,000
Speaker 3: mom side of the meltdowns. But I think your own

712
00:39:09,080 --> 00:39:11,919
Speaker 3: mum's always on speed dollars as well. But I try

713
00:39:11,960 --> 00:39:13,960
Speaker 3: not to call my own mum because I know that

714
00:39:14,000 --> 00:39:17,680
Speaker 3: she'll worry too much about me as well. But I

715
00:39:17,760 --> 00:39:21,839
Speaker 3: have my people, definitely help my people, But Joe is

716
00:39:21,880 --> 00:39:24,000
Speaker 3: probably my biggest sounding board there.

717
00:39:25,440 --> 00:39:33,240
Speaker 1: How has your mindset, thinking, feeling, operating system around managing

718
00:39:33,280 --> 00:39:37,719
Speaker 1: your body changed. Obviously you're not training like an elite athlete,

719
00:39:37,760 --> 00:39:39,919
Speaker 1: and you're not an elite athlete anymore, but you're still

720
00:39:39,920 --> 00:39:42,839
Speaker 1: in I mean, you look like you could play right now.

721
00:39:42,880 --> 00:39:48,359
Speaker 1: You look fucking amazing. How has that changed? Because I

722
00:39:48,400 --> 00:39:50,719
Speaker 1: know a lot of most athletes that I've worked with

723
00:39:50,800 --> 00:39:55,319
Speaker 1: have let's just say interesting relationships with their body and

724
00:39:55,360 --> 00:39:59,200
Speaker 1: with food and with exercise. How does that go now

725
00:39:59,200 --> 00:40:01,200
Speaker 1: that you're a thirty eight year old mum of three.

726
00:40:02,320 --> 00:40:04,719
Speaker 3: I think I'm in the period of finding that the

727
00:40:04,760 --> 00:40:08,960
Speaker 3: most difficult that I ever have. I think because I

728
00:40:09,080 --> 00:40:10,399
Speaker 3: used to get paid to be fit.

729
00:40:10,920 --> 00:40:11,560
Speaker 2: It was easy.

730
00:40:11,800 --> 00:40:14,520
Speaker 3: That part of my job was being as fit as

731
00:40:14,520 --> 00:40:17,719
Speaker 3: I could humanly be and put all of that time

732
00:40:17,760 --> 00:40:20,080
Speaker 3: and energy into my body, and I needed.

733
00:40:19,760 --> 00:40:20,880
Speaker 2: My body to perform.

734
00:40:20,960 --> 00:40:23,040
Speaker 3: My body doesn't need to perform in the same way

735
00:40:23,040 --> 00:40:24,640
Speaker 3: as that it used to as an athlete. But I

736
00:40:24,640 --> 00:40:28,400
Speaker 3: think now more my focus is on long term. I

737
00:40:28,440 --> 00:40:32,480
Speaker 3: think about you know, I think about me compared to

738
00:40:32,520 --> 00:40:35,520
Speaker 3: my parents, and we have had kids quite a lot

739
00:40:35,600 --> 00:40:38,279
Speaker 3: later than what my parents' generation do, And I think

740
00:40:38,320 --> 00:40:40,759
Speaker 3: about my kids and if that gets later again, well,

741
00:40:40,800 --> 00:40:42,879
Speaker 3: I want to be a grandparent that's around, that can

742
00:40:43,160 --> 00:40:46,720
Speaker 3: look after my grandkids and play on the grass.

743
00:40:46,320 --> 00:40:48,600
Speaker 2: And kick a football and do all of that stuff.

744
00:40:48,640 --> 00:40:50,600
Speaker 3: So a lot of my focus now, i'd say is

745
00:40:51,200 --> 00:40:54,799
Speaker 3: long term rene rather than now. However, I would say

746
00:40:54,840 --> 00:40:58,560
Speaker 3: that I sit in the hardest part now when it

747
00:40:58,600 --> 00:41:02,000
Speaker 3: comes to body and meat and self esteem, because I'm

748
00:41:02,000 --> 00:41:04,160
Speaker 3: obviously not as lean as what I used to be

749
00:41:04,200 --> 00:41:04,920
Speaker 3: as an athlete.

750
00:41:05,080 --> 00:41:06,160
Speaker 2: I don't need to be.

751
00:41:06,320 --> 00:41:10,120
Speaker 3: I also don't have the time or energy to put

752
00:41:10,120 --> 00:41:12,960
Speaker 3: in as many hours and effort into all of that

753
00:41:13,000 --> 00:41:13,680
Speaker 3: stuff as I do.

754
00:41:13,760 --> 00:41:16,160
Speaker 2: It's just craziness.

755
00:41:16,200 --> 00:41:18,120
Speaker 3: And I just you know, I'm thirty eight as well,

756
00:41:18,160 --> 00:41:20,000
Speaker 3: so I don't think the intensity that I used to

757
00:41:20,000 --> 00:41:24,239
Speaker 3: put my body through would do the same as what

758
00:41:24,239 --> 00:41:26,600
Speaker 3: it did five ten years ago. Do I believe that

759
00:41:26,640 --> 00:41:28,399
Speaker 3: if I worked hard enough that I could get out

760
00:41:28,440 --> 00:41:30,600
Speaker 3: on the court and smash it and play again. Yes,

761
00:41:30,760 --> 00:41:33,879
Speaker 3: but there is nothing to gain from that other than

762
00:41:33,920 --> 00:41:38,040
Speaker 3: honestly filling the external pat on the back achievement.

763
00:41:37,520 --> 00:41:39,920
Speaker 2: A little bit. Again, I would say.

764
00:41:41,800 --> 00:41:45,200
Speaker 3: My relationship with my body over my entire career has

765
00:41:45,239 --> 00:41:49,520
Speaker 3: been pretty consistent in that a lot of how I

766
00:41:49,600 --> 00:41:53,279
Speaker 3: performed and how I felt about myself was connected to

767
00:41:53,400 --> 00:41:58,279
Speaker 3: how I felt physically about myself. You may or may

768
00:41:58,320 --> 00:42:00,360
Speaker 3: not remember this, but when I was seventeen, I was

769
00:42:00,400 --> 00:42:03,600
Speaker 3: sat down by coach Lisa Alexander. I can put myself

770
00:42:03,640 --> 00:42:05,760
Speaker 3: on the chair at the Courts where I was told

771
00:42:05,800 --> 00:42:10,040
Speaker 3: that I looked great for an average person, but was

772
00:42:10,040 --> 00:42:12,399
Speaker 3: carrying too much weight for an athlete and of course,

773
00:42:12,400 --> 00:42:13,319
Speaker 3: as a seventeen year.

774
00:42:13,200 --> 00:42:14,840
Speaker 2: Old girl, what I heard is your fat.

775
00:42:15,760 --> 00:42:19,279
Speaker 3: So I think since that day, I was like, right,

776
00:42:19,360 --> 00:42:21,960
Speaker 3: I'm always from this day going to be the leanest,

777
00:42:22,000 --> 00:42:24,920
Speaker 3: the fittest. I'll never have that red mark against me,

778
00:42:25,000 --> 00:42:30,840
Speaker 3: and I think I came pretty close to achieving that. However,

779
00:42:30,880 --> 00:42:33,640
Speaker 3: I think in terms of, you know, I don't need

780
00:42:33,680 --> 00:42:36,040
Speaker 3: to look fit, or tend or any of those things

781
00:42:36,080 --> 00:42:39,279
Speaker 3: in a dress anymore. But that doesn't mean to say

782
00:42:39,280 --> 00:42:42,040
Speaker 3: that I don't look in the mirror still and go, oh,

783
00:42:42,040 --> 00:42:44,799
Speaker 3: but maybe if I just smashed myself for another couple

784
00:42:44,880 --> 00:42:46,960
Speaker 3: of weeks or go back to these old habits. Of

785
00:42:47,360 --> 00:42:50,480
Speaker 3: my vice was exercise, So I wouldn't say I had

786
00:42:50,520 --> 00:42:54,920
Speaker 3: an unhealthy relationship with food in that I would restrict

787
00:42:54,960 --> 00:42:57,960
Speaker 3: calories and stuff, but not enough to affect my performance,

788
00:42:57,960 --> 00:43:00,879
Speaker 3: but enough that I would feel and look and new

789
00:43:01,000 --> 00:43:04,640
Speaker 3: enough and even in the degrees that I did what

790
00:43:04,680 --> 00:43:06,920
Speaker 3: I needed to do to fuel my body to stay

791
00:43:07,000 --> 00:43:11,759
Speaker 3: and look the part, but also offorn with that as well.

792
00:43:11,800 --> 00:43:16,840
Speaker 3: And I think coming out for retirement, coming into retirement

793
00:43:16,880 --> 00:43:18,600
Speaker 3: and not training the way you always used to train,

794
00:43:18,680 --> 00:43:20,960
Speaker 3: of course you're going to look and feel different. And

795
00:43:21,000 --> 00:43:24,879
Speaker 3: then another layer that you didn't ask for, is that

796
00:43:25,040 --> 00:43:29,799
Speaker 3: you come into this NBA wag life and I don't

797
00:43:29,880 --> 00:43:33,480
Speaker 3: look like your average wag, right, Like I don't wear

798
00:43:33,520 --> 00:43:36,200
Speaker 3: a lot of makeup. I don't have the big, beautiful

799
00:43:36,440 --> 00:43:38,280
Speaker 3: curly hair over here in America.

800
00:43:38,440 --> 00:43:40,400
Speaker 2: I'm not a tiny little whippet.

801
00:43:40,480 --> 00:43:43,000
Speaker 3: I'm like an ex athlete, right, I've got muscles, i

802
00:43:43,040 --> 00:43:43,799
Speaker 3: still work out.

803
00:43:43,840 --> 00:43:45,480
Speaker 2: I'm like a taller, bigger girl.

804
00:43:45,520 --> 00:43:49,680
Speaker 3: And that is quite hard from a self esteem perspective

805
00:43:49,680 --> 00:43:52,600
Speaker 3: as well, when you're mixing with all of these beautiful,

806
00:43:53,840 --> 00:43:57,320
Speaker 3: social media perfect girls when it's not me.

807
00:43:58,760 --> 00:44:01,359
Speaker 1: Ah, that makes me laugh, But I get it. I

808
00:44:01,400 --> 00:44:02,719
Speaker 1: get it.

809
00:44:02,600 --> 00:44:05,399
Speaker 3: It just like yeah, and then you do you laugh

810
00:44:05,440 --> 00:44:08,200
Speaker 3: at yourself, and then I go, well, I truly don't

811
00:44:08,239 --> 00:44:09,800
Speaker 3: have the time or energy to do that anyway.

812
00:44:09,960 --> 00:44:12,560
Speaker 2: Like even if I could, I could have my whole team.

813
00:44:12,360 --> 00:44:14,239
Speaker 3: Of all of that, and I could dress in the

814
00:44:14,320 --> 00:44:16,480
Speaker 3: labels and the fashion, but it's just not me. I'm

815
00:44:16,480 --> 00:44:21,680
Speaker 3: like Deans and sneakers and Joe's teamhood because that's all

816
00:44:21,719 --> 00:44:23,480
Speaker 3: I could throw on after getting the kids to bed

817
00:44:23,520 --> 00:44:26,440
Speaker 3: and rushing to a game. So I think too, Like, obviously,

818
00:44:26,480 --> 00:44:28,480
Speaker 3: given my age now and I've got three kids and

819
00:44:28,560 --> 00:44:31,399
Speaker 3: Joe's been in the league for as long as he has.

820
00:44:31,960 --> 00:44:33,840
Speaker 3: I don't care about that stuff as much as I

821
00:44:33,880 --> 00:44:37,080
Speaker 3: did year one. But of course that I'm a woman

822
00:44:38,080 --> 00:44:39,520
Speaker 3: think about Oh, I do.

823
00:44:39,520 --> 00:44:42,520
Speaker 1: You know what, but I don't. Just yeah, firstly, I

824
00:44:42,560 --> 00:44:44,759
Speaker 1: totally understand. But even you know, I'm a sixty one

825
00:44:44,800 --> 00:44:47,120
Speaker 1: year old bug an idiot, and I still care what

826
00:44:47,160 --> 00:44:50,919
Speaker 1: I look like. You know, It's like anyone who goes, ah,

827
00:44:51,000 --> 00:44:53,960
Speaker 1: it's only about health and performance and function. For me,

828
00:44:54,239 --> 00:44:58,359
Speaker 1: I'm like, I call bullshit. Ye, everyone everyone cares a

829
00:44:58,400 --> 00:45:00,719
Speaker 1: little bit what they look like. That doesn't mean you've

830
00:45:00,719 --> 00:45:05,000
Speaker 1: got to be vain or conceited or egotistical. But I

831
00:45:05,520 --> 00:45:07,600
Speaker 1: don't know. Maybe they exist, but I don't know that

832
00:45:07,680 --> 00:45:11,600
Speaker 1: I've ever met anyone who absolutely doesn't care at all.

833
00:45:12,600 --> 00:45:14,680
Speaker 1: I'm not saying that needs to be the focus or

834
00:45:14,719 --> 00:45:18,520
Speaker 1: the priority, but I'm like, well, you know I want

835
00:45:18,560 --> 00:45:23,600
Speaker 1: to be My priority is definitely health, wellness, you know, function, performance, fitness, definitely,

836
00:45:23,960 --> 00:45:27,360
Speaker 1: But also I don't want to look you know, I

837
00:45:27,400 --> 00:45:29,440
Speaker 1: want to look as good as I can look for

838
00:45:29,480 --> 00:45:31,880
Speaker 1: what I've got to work with. I think that's healthy

839
00:45:31,920 --> 00:45:34,839
Speaker 1: and normal, and I think anyone who says that that's

840
00:45:34,880 --> 00:45:39,680
Speaker 1: irrelevant is a fucking is a big fucking fibber. Hey,

841
00:45:40,880 --> 00:45:44,200
Speaker 1: so you guys, I think he just turned thirty seven,

842
00:45:44,400 --> 00:45:49,719
Speaker 1: like just last month or something. Yeah, so he's on

843
00:45:49,800 --> 00:45:52,080
Speaker 1: the home straight of his career. He's probably not going

844
00:45:52,120 --> 00:45:54,799
Speaker 1: to play till he's fifty. So whether or not that's

845
00:45:54,880 --> 00:46:01,400
Speaker 1: another year or two or three, who knows when that's done.

846
00:46:02,680 --> 00:46:04,080
Speaker 1: Are you going to stay there? Are you going to

847
00:46:04,120 --> 00:46:06,680
Speaker 1: come to Australia or you're not sure? Or are you

848
00:46:06,719 --> 00:46:09,279
Speaker 1: going to what are you? What are you going to do?

849
00:46:10,440 --> 00:46:13,040
Speaker 3: This for us has changed over the last couple of years.

850
00:46:13,080 --> 00:46:16,080
Speaker 3: I think we've always said the day that Joe retired,

851
00:46:16,080 --> 00:46:19,480
Speaker 3: we're on the first plane back to Australia to be

852
00:46:19,520 --> 00:46:22,240
Speaker 3: in Melbourne with family and friends and all of that stuff.

853
00:46:22,239 --> 00:46:24,640
Speaker 2: We have house and stuff in Melbourne.

854
00:46:26,680 --> 00:46:29,920
Speaker 3: Navigating the school system for my son who is autistic

855
00:46:30,320 --> 00:46:37,440
Speaker 3: has been incredibly difficult, and with the changes and Australia

856
00:46:37,480 --> 00:46:40,560
Speaker 3: at the moment when it comes to autism and special

857
00:46:40,600 --> 00:46:44,920
Speaker 3: needs and even neurodiversity in schools is quite far behind

858
00:46:45,040 --> 00:46:48,759
Speaker 3: compared to over here in the States. Anyway, we'd still

859
00:46:48,800 --> 00:46:51,800
Speaker 3: plan to come back until we landed in Orlando and

860
00:46:52,120 --> 00:46:54,040
Speaker 3: the three kids in the schools that they are in.

861
00:46:54,280 --> 00:46:56,879
Speaker 3: This is another logistical nightmare. Craigar I have three kids

862
00:46:56,880 --> 00:46:58,960
Speaker 3: in three different schools and no husband here to help,

863
00:46:59,040 --> 00:47:02,440
Speaker 3: so it's a nightmare. But they're all really happy and thriving.

864
00:47:02,920 --> 00:47:07,000
Speaker 3: But Jacob is in a school that he is He

865
00:47:07,080 --> 00:47:10,799
Speaker 3: goes to school really happy, he comes home really engaged,

866
00:47:10,840 --> 00:47:13,960
Speaker 3: and is just a different kid, which is part of

867
00:47:14,000 --> 00:47:16,480
Speaker 3: the reason why we didn't move to Minnesota as well.

868
00:47:16,560 --> 00:47:20,399
Speaker 3: But seeing him thrive and be happy in school makes

869
00:47:20,440 --> 00:47:23,000
Speaker 3: it incredibly difficult for us to say, yep, we're on

870
00:47:23,040 --> 00:47:26,040
Speaker 3: the first flight back home, because I don't I think

871
00:47:26,040 --> 00:47:28,160
Speaker 3: for him it would be a step backwards in his

872
00:47:28,320 --> 00:47:32,040
Speaker 3: education and the resources that he has around him. Then

873
00:47:32,600 --> 00:47:35,080
Speaker 3: and then we'd also say that we landed in Florida

874
00:47:35,160 --> 00:47:37,160
Speaker 3: and this was just like this La La land for us.

875
00:47:37,200 --> 00:47:38,759
Speaker 3: I was like, I know, Disney's there, I don't know

876
00:47:38,840 --> 00:47:42,760
Speaker 3: much else about it. Well, first winter here in Florida,

877
00:47:43,520 --> 00:47:46,040
Speaker 3: it was just beautiful. We absolutely loved it here. So

878
00:47:46,080 --> 00:47:48,000
Speaker 3: we went, oh my gosh, we've been over here in

879
00:47:48,000 --> 00:47:50,160
Speaker 3: the league for ten years and we've done nothing. Let's

880
00:47:50,160 --> 00:47:52,240
Speaker 3: get our green cards. So we got our green cards,

881
00:47:52,280 --> 00:47:56,240
Speaker 3: so that now at least we have the option I

882
00:47:56,360 --> 00:47:59,399
Speaker 3: Joe says that whenever he retires, whenever that is however

883
00:47:59,440 --> 00:48:01,759
Speaker 3: many years A way that is that he just wants

884
00:48:01,800 --> 00:48:03,440
Speaker 3: to sit on the couch and not do anything for

885
00:48:03,480 --> 00:48:05,839
Speaker 3: twelve months, and I think that'll last a month of

886
00:48:05,880 --> 00:48:07,480
Speaker 3: being like stay at home.

887
00:48:07,360 --> 00:48:08,800
Speaker 2: Down and trying to kids.

888
00:48:08,880 --> 00:48:10,640
Speaker 1: So I agree.

889
00:48:12,560 --> 00:48:16,960
Speaker 3: He'll go into like coaching or something like that, a

890
00:48:17,040 --> 00:48:19,560
Speaker 3: role with a team or front office or something like that,

891
00:48:19,640 --> 00:48:22,560
Speaker 3: I think pretty quickly, which may keep us over here

892
00:48:22,600 --> 00:48:26,080
Speaker 3: as well. I think we're just keeping our options open

893
00:48:26,239 --> 00:48:28,400
Speaker 3: of what that can look like at the moment. But

894
00:48:28,880 --> 00:48:32,040
Speaker 3: definitely a hard decision to make when it comes to

895
00:48:32,239 --> 00:48:35,960
Speaker 3: Jacob and his schooling because it's just so important that

896
00:48:36,040 --> 00:48:38,799
Speaker 3: he is the happiest version of him, and we've found

897
00:48:38,840 --> 00:48:39,919
Speaker 3: that place for right now.

898
00:48:41,200 --> 00:48:43,440
Speaker 1: Well that makes total sense. I mean I think it

899
00:48:43,440 --> 00:48:46,879
Speaker 1: would almost be, you know, at this point in time,

900
00:48:46,920 --> 00:48:49,520
Speaker 1: would be kind of unfair and a little bit mean

901
00:48:49,600 --> 00:48:51,800
Speaker 1: to drag him out of that thing where he fits

902
00:48:51,840 --> 00:48:55,319
Speaker 1: in well, you know where where you know just what

903
00:48:55,360 --> 00:48:57,600
Speaker 1: you said, like he goes to school happy and he

904
00:48:57,680 --> 00:49:00,120
Speaker 1: comes home happy or whatever you said. You know, I

905
00:49:00,120 --> 00:49:03,640
Speaker 1: mean that's but for kids with those kinds of challenges,

906
00:49:03,719 --> 00:49:06,480
Speaker 1: that's not always. In fact, that's often not the case.

907
00:49:06,560 --> 00:49:09,360
Speaker 1: So you don't want to let that go in a hurry, right.

908
00:49:10,360 --> 00:49:13,040
Speaker 3: That's exactly right. It's like what we talked about at

909
00:49:13,080 --> 00:49:16,200
Speaker 3: the start of this call, though. I think with everything good,

910
00:49:16,320 --> 00:49:18,759
Speaker 3: there is a cost, and that for us is that

911
00:49:18,840 --> 00:49:22,160
Speaker 3: we are a long way away from family and missing

912
00:49:22,280 --> 00:49:25,840
Speaker 3: our nieces grow up, and my parents aren't getting any younger.

913
00:49:27,600 --> 00:49:30,719
Speaker 3: I'm obviously now stepping back into bits and pieces of

914
00:49:30,719 --> 00:49:32,640
Speaker 3: where I can in my career and fitting that in

915
00:49:32,680 --> 00:49:34,919
Speaker 3: with the flexible remote stuff that I can.

916
00:49:35,000 --> 00:49:36,400
Speaker 2: But I mean, obviously i'd.

917
00:49:36,160 --> 00:49:39,200
Speaker 3: Love to be working in sport in Australia, and you know,

918
00:49:39,200 --> 00:49:42,520
Speaker 3: I missing netball a lot and that environment, and I'm

919
00:49:42,600 --> 00:49:46,240
Speaker 3: navigating that however I can. But yeah, there's a cost

920
00:49:46,560 --> 00:49:49,759
Speaker 3: where there is also a reward. But what we will

921
00:49:49,800 --> 00:49:53,480
Speaker 3: never ever regret in the future is picking the best

922
00:49:53,840 --> 00:49:56,680
Speaker 3: place where the three of our kids are the happiest

923
00:49:56,680 --> 00:49:59,120
Speaker 3: and thriving, and for right now, that's in Orlando.

924
00:50:01,040 --> 00:50:04,759
Speaker 1: Before we wind up, tell us about you and I

925
00:50:04,760 --> 00:50:06,640
Speaker 1: have spoken a little bit about the work that you're

926
00:50:06,640 --> 00:50:09,160
Speaker 1: just starting to do and the business that you're developing,

927
00:50:09,280 --> 00:50:13,560
Speaker 1: because you are very entrepreneurial and creative as well, what's

928
00:50:13,600 --> 00:50:15,759
Speaker 1: the stuff that you're starting to do and want to

929
00:50:15,800 --> 00:50:20,160
Speaker 1: do more of in the high performance landscape, whether or

930
00:50:20,160 --> 00:50:23,000
Speaker 1: not it's in corporate or with athletes, or tell us

931
00:50:23,040 --> 00:50:24,960
Speaker 1: about the work that you're creating and building.

932
00:50:25,920 --> 00:50:30,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm about four to six weeks away from launching

933
00:50:30,200 --> 00:50:32,239
Speaker 3: a new business and I can't give you the name

934
00:50:32,280 --> 00:50:34,680
Speaker 3: and all of that softest yet or my there'll we

935
00:50:34,800 --> 00:50:36,600
Speaker 3: fire coming out of my team's ears.

936
00:50:36,800 --> 00:50:39,640
Speaker 2: But what I can say is what it's.

937
00:50:39,600 --> 00:50:41,600
Speaker 1: Not called the You project? Is it?

938
00:50:41,600 --> 00:50:41,960
Speaker 2: It's not.

939
00:50:42,080 --> 00:50:44,719
Speaker 3: I promise I'd love to take that from you. Know,

940
00:50:44,760 --> 00:50:47,080
Speaker 3: I'd actually love to do that with you. I think

941
00:50:47,080 --> 00:50:50,359
Speaker 3: you're on a good thing, Grego. But no, it's an

942
00:50:50,360 --> 00:50:54,480
Speaker 3: opportunity I think to get people to disconnect from the

943
00:50:54,520 --> 00:50:56,879
Speaker 3: digital space and the world that we live in now

944
00:50:56,920 --> 00:51:01,280
Speaker 3: and reconnect and collaborate with other like minded and even

945
00:51:01,880 --> 00:51:05,919
Speaker 3: disagreeable people to reconnect again, in particular to start with

946
00:51:06,560 --> 00:51:10,360
Speaker 3: women in a way, I think we're just getting a

947
00:51:10,400 --> 00:51:12,839
Speaker 3: little bit lost as to who we are in this

948
00:51:12,920 --> 00:51:16,439
Speaker 3: world and around What I touched on earlier.

949
00:51:16,120 --> 00:51:18,640
Speaker 2: Actually is we're all better off.

950
00:51:18,520 --> 00:51:22,920
Speaker 3: With connections and relationships and helping one another in those relationships.

951
00:51:22,920 --> 00:51:26,520
Speaker 3: So hoping to just connect people again to each other

952
00:51:26,760 --> 00:51:29,880
Speaker 3: so that we can all get a better quality of

953
00:51:29,920 --> 00:51:32,880
Speaker 3: life and better performance out of ourselves in all realms

954
00:51:32,880 --> 00:51:35,560
Speaker 3: of our lives. So I'm really excited to come into

955
00:51:35,560 --> 00:51:38,320
Speaker 3: that space and obviously use you as a mentor, Cragio

956
00:51:38,400 --> 00:51:41,799
Speaker 3: and pick your brain around aspects of that. But it's

957
00:51:41,880 --> 00:51:44,879
Speaker 3: funny that you said that I'm entrepreneurial and creative, because

958
00:51:44,920 --> 00:51:48,440
Speaker 3: I feel like I've spent my whole life feeling like

959
00:51:49,600 --> 00:51:51,239
Speaker 3: I'm not creative and that I was going to go

960
00:51:51,320 --> 00:51:54,160
Speaker 3: into like a job with one title, and that's what

961
00:51:54,239 --> 00:51:57,080
Speaker 3: I thought that I was working towards with all of

962
00:51:57,120 --> 00:51:59,800
Speaker 3: my study and all of that stuff, and life after netball,

963
00:52:00,000 --> 00:52:02,520
Speaker 3: it's just gone in such a different way. But it's

964
00:52:02,600 --> 00:52:06,440
Speaker 3: keeping it fun and exciting and just trying to, i guess,

965
00:52:06,480 --> 00:52:08,879
Speaker 3: make an impact as I can while I can when

966
00:52:08,880 --> 00:52:11,520
Speaker 3: I've got young kids and living in a different country

967
00:52:11,600 --> 00:52:14,759
Speaker 3: and making the best of it and having fun with it.

968
00:52:14,840 --> 00:52:17,960
Speaker 3: So it's actually it's been really nice reconnecting with you

969
00:52:18,040 --> 00:52:19,880
Speaker 3: over the last four to six weeks.

970
00:52:19,880 --> 00:52:23,000
Speaker 2: It really has. It's fun. There was actually one thing

971
00:52:23,000 --> 00:52:24,680
Speaker 2: that I want to ask you about.

972
00:52:24,760 --> 00:52:26,480
Speaker 1: Actually I'm ready.

973
00:52:27,760 --> 00:52:30,759
Speaker 3: I have just been thinking about it because, as you know,

974
00:52:30,960 --> 00:52:33,200
Speaker 3: I've been listening to a lot of your podcasts, and

975
00:52:33,200 --> 00:52:36,600
Speaker 3: on nearly every single one of them, you say that

976
00:52:36,719 --> 00:52:40,360
Speaker 3: you get the feedback from people that you're intimidating, And

977
00:52:41,000 --> 00:52:44,040
Speaker 3: I think about seventeen year old Rena would have called

978
00:52:44,080 --> 00:52:49,319
Speaker 3: you intimidating, whereas thirty eight year old Rena doesn't think

979
00:52:49,320 --> 00:52:52,360
Speaker 3: you're intimidating. I actually think you're a big, soft, cuddly

980
00:52:52,440 --> 00:52:55,360
Speaker 3: teddy bear that throws out some big swear words sometimes

981
00:52:55,360 --> 00:52:58,200
Speaker 3: and acts tougher than what you really are in the interior.

982
00:52:58,760 --> 00:53:02,520
Speaker 3: But I just about the people that are telling you

983
00:53:02,640 --> 00:53:07,160
Speaker 3: that you're intimidating. Are you intimidating or are they intimidated.

984
00:53:09,200 --> 00:53:14,200
Speaker 1: It's interesting because, like feeling intimidated or feeling any way

985
00:53:14,239 --> 00:53:19,759
Speaker 1: about any personal around any person is an individual response.

986
00:53:20,120 --> 00:53:23,200
Speaker 1: So I might have five people in front of me,

987
00:53:23,239 --> 00:53:26,600
Speaker 1: and one person's intimidated, and one person's curious, and one

988
00:53:26,680 --> 00:53:30,439
Speaker 1: person's excited and whatever. Right, So we have these five

989
00:53:30,520 --> 00:53:33,839
Speaker 1: different kind of internal realities going on around this one

990
00:53:34,000 --> 00:53:40,239
Speaker 1: external stimulus, Craig Harper, and so intimidation around me is

991
00:53:40,280 --> 00:53:45,239
Speaker 1: an individual response. It's not a universal response, Otherwise I

992
00:53:45,239 --> 00:53:47,440
Speaker 1: wouldn't be able to navigate life. But it is a

993
00:53:47,440 --> 00:53:51,719
Speaker 1: good question because you know, look, even if and I

994
00:53:51,800 --> 00:53:55,560
Speaker 1: had to realize this that but Craig, even if one

995
00:53:55,560 --> 00:53:58,239
Speaker 1: in every twenty people says you're intimidating, and it was

996
00:53:58,280 --> 00:54:00,840
Speaker 1: probably more than that at a time, was probably not

997
00:54:01,000 --> 00:54:03,919
Speaker 1: in five or ten, I don't know. And even if

998
00:54:04,000 --> 00:54:07,520
Speaker 1: I did not want to be timidating intimidating, which I didn't,

999
00:54:07,719 --> 00:54:12,960
Speaker 1: And yeah, I am a fucking softy. I'm I love people,

1000
00:54:13,160 --> 00:54:17,239
Speaker 1: I want to help people and serve people, and I'm intense.

1001
00:54:18,400 --> 00:54:23,720
Speaker 1: I'm intense and I'm passionate. But never in a million

1002
00:54:23,800 --> 00:54:27,520
Speaker 1: years has it been on my goal is to be intimidating.

1003
00:54:27,600 --> 00:54:30,799
Speaker 1: But I think it's a little bit of both intimidating.

1004
00:54:30,920 --> 00:54:32,680
Speaker 3: I think That's where I'm coming from, is that I

1005
00:54:32,680 --> 00:54:36,480
Speaker 3: don't think you are intimidating. I think I think that

1006
00:54:36,960 --> 00:54:40,120
Speaker 3: people find it intimidating that you come across as very

1007
00:54:40,120 --> 00:54:40,840
Speaker 3: self assured.

1008
00:54:42,440 --> 00:54:46,879
Speaker 1: Probably look and I mean, but also look, I think

1009
00:54:46,920 --> 00:54:49,439
Speaker 1: what I think. I say, this is what I think,

1010
00:54:49,520 --> 00:54:52,560
Speaker 1: but I could be wrong. Who says that? And I

1011
00:54:52,640 --> 00:54:55,080
Speaker 1: go by the way, I get more things wrong than right,

1012
00:54:55,320 --> 00:54:58,360
Speaker 1: you know, And that's like the thing is being in

1013
00:54:58,400 --> 00:55:01,320
Speaker 1: a position like I am, which not that I'm anybody special,

1014
00:55:01,400 --> 00:55:03,839
Speaker 1: but where I have thousands of people every day listen

1015
00:55:03,880 --> 00:55:07,240
Speaker 1: to what I say for me, It's an absolute privilege

1016
00:55:07,280 --> 00:55:09,840
Speaker 1: and an honor right. But I also want to be

1017
00:55:09,920 --> 00:55:13,479
Speaker 1: the real, raw, honest me, not the fucking the Craig Show.

1018
00:55:14,440 --> 00:55:16,759
Speaker 1: And I can do. Hey, everybody, welcome back to the

1019
00:55:16,800 --> 00:55:20,040
Speaker 1: You Projector's harps. Today we're chatting with Renee. Yeah, come

1020
00:55:20,080 --> 00:55:22,759
Speaker 1: at you live from Florida. It's five pass Yeah, coming up.

1021
00:55:23,120 --> 00:55:25,239
Speaker 1: I can do the bullshit because I did twenty years

1022
00:55:25,280 --> 00:55:29,400
Speaker 1: of radio and even then it wasn't bullshit. But people don't,

1023
00:55:30,040 --> 00:55:32,200
Speaker 1: you know. I just have to accept that some people

1024
00:55:32,239 --> 00:55:34,520
Speaker 1: will be inspired by me, some people will think I'm

1025
00:55:34,560 --> 00:55:38,720
Speaker 1: a fucking idiot, some people will be a bit intimidated.

1026
00:55:37,960 --> 00:55:42,720
Speaker 1: I try to move through life with an awareness bigger

1027
00:55:42,719 --> 00:55:45,600
Speaker 1: than me. You know, theory of mind that I've spoken

1028
00:55:45,640 --> 00:55:48,640
Speaker 1: to you about, understanding how other people think and see.

1029
00:55:49,640 --> 00:55:53,359
Speaker 1: But if I am constantly overthinking, am I am I?

1030
00:55:53,960 --> 00:55:56,120
Speaker 1: Does this person like me? Am I scaring the shit

1031
00:55:56,120 --> 00:55:58,720
Speaker 1: out of them? Am I intimidating? How do they feel

1032
00:55:58,760 --> 00:56:01,520
Speaker 1: about me? And if I'm constantly doing that, then I'm

1033
00:56:01,520 --> 00:56:05,759
Speaker 1: not being present? So I'm well aware that, you know,

1034
00:56:05,800 --> 00:56:08,160
Speaker 1: the only person who sees me like me is me,

1035
00:56:08,880 --> 00:56:10,880
Speaker 1: and I'm well aware that my version of me is

1036
00:56:10,920 --> 00:56:14,920
Speaker 1: no one else's. You know. When I was at UNI

1037
00:56:15,160 --> 00:56:19,880
Speaker 1: first time, a guy called doctor Paul Callery, who played

1038
00:56:19,880 --> 00:56:23,279
Speaker 1: footy for Richmond and Saint Kilda. He was ahead of

1039
00:56:24,000 --> 00:56:26,680
Speaker 1: head of school for me, and he said to me,

1040
00:56:28,120 --> 00:56:31,160
Speaker 1: he said, if you never want yeah, if you never

1041
00:56:31,160 --> 00:56:34,200
Speaker 1: want to offend anyone, he said, say nothing, do nothing,

1042
00:56:34,360 --> 00:56:38,640
Speaker 1: be nothing, and stand for nothing. And I always remembered it.

1043
00:56:38,680 --> 00:56:42,359
Speaker 1: He's like, because some people, you know, like, I know,

1044
00:56:42,520 --> 00:56:47,240
Speaker 1: sometimes I'm a lot. I'm a lot. But at least

1045
00:56:47,239 --> 00:56:50,600
Speaker 1: with me, you know where you stand, you know, and

1046
00:56:51,680 --> 00:56:54,200
Speaker 1: I you know. But yeah, thanks for the question. I

1047
00:56:54,600 --> 00:56:57,719
Speaker 1: try not to be but it is an interesting thing.

1048
00:56:57,760 --> 00:57:01,320
Speaker 1: And I find just an add on to that question.

1049
00:57:01,440 --> 00:57:06,000
Speaker 1: And this chat is when people say you make me

1050
00:57:06,200 --> 00:57:09,040
Speaker 1: feel like this, I go, Am I in charge of

1051
00:57:09,080 --> 00:57:13,720
Speaker 1: your feelings? Now? Am I in charge of your Oh? Wow? Wow?

1052
00:57:14,080 --> 00:57:16,640
Speaker 1: I'm somehow in charge of your No, I don't make

1053
00:57:16,720 --> 00:57:20,320
Speaker 1: you feel like that. You feel like that, because if

1054
00:57:20,360 --> 00:57:23,800
Speaker 1: I was in charge of how everyone feels, I'd make

1055
00:57:23,840 --> 00:57:31,080
Speaker 1: everyone feel happy. You know, Hey, it's been really nice.

1056
00:57:31,200 --> 00:57:33,920
Speaker 1: We should do it again, and I'm looking forward to

1057
00:57:34,000 --> 00:57:36,040
Speaker 1: coming to the States in twenty twenty five. I don't

1058
00:57:36,040 --> 00:57:38,440
Speaker 1: know what that's going to look like, but you and

1059
00:57:38,560 --> 00:57:40,160
Speaker 1: I am maybe going to do a one day or

1060
00:57:40,160 --> 00:57:42,400
Speaker 1: a two days something. They'll go, who the fuck is

1061
00:57:42,440 --> 00:57:45,760
Speaker 1: that old preck over there next to that young hot

1062
00:57:45,880 --> 00:57:49,720
Speaker 1: elite athlete. But anyway, we'll figure something out.

1063
00:57:50,720 --> 00:57:52,919
Speaker 2: We'll have some fun persently.

1064
00:57:53,040 --> 00:57:55,760
Speaker 1: We definitely will. Hey, if people want to find you,

1065
00:57:55,840 --> 00:57:59,360
Speaker 1: connect with you, you know, learn a little bit more

1066
00:57:59,360 --> 00:58:00,520
Speaker 1: about you. How to they do that?

1067
00:58:02,200 --> 00:58:04,640
Speaker 3: You can just find me on Instagram at Renee angles

1068
00:58:04,760 --> 00:58:07,280
Speaker 3: or renee angles dot com is my website as well.

1069
00:58:07,320 --> 00:58:10,400
Speaker 2: But yeah, usually Instagram is probably.

1070
00:58:10,400 --> 00:58:14,240
Speaker 3: The place, the easiest place in this landscape, isn't it.

1071
00:58:14,240 --> 00:58:16,440
Speaker 3: It's what people do these days, young people.

1072
00:58:16,240 --> 00:58:18,120
Speaker 1: I think it is. I think it is. Or just

1073
00:58:18,960 --> 00:58:22,840
Speaker 1: send a pigeon with a bloody message in its beak. Hey,

1074
00:58:22,920 --> 00:58:25,240
Speaker 1: I will say goodbye fair, but for now, Nay, thank

1075
00:58:25,280 --> 00:58:28,880
Speaker 1: you so much, love your guts, You're amazing. Congrats on

1076
00:58:28,920 --> 00:58:33,040
Speaker 1: everything you're doing. You're an inspiration and you are a

1077
00:58:33,160 --> 00:58:36,480
Speaker 1: creative You know what are creative because apart from other things,

1078
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Speaker 1: you're always solving problems and that's a creative process.

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Speaker 2: I appreciate that. Thank you. It's been good.