WEBVTT - V-DAY PREP! 0:00:00.480 --> 0:00:04.000 Matt you are looking absolutely glowing today. What's your secret? 0:00:04.160 --> 0:00:07.000 Well, Anna, I've been using this new hydrating tanning miss 0:00:07.080 --> 0:00:08.600 called Goldie B with two e's. 0:00:09.160 --> 0:00:11.240 I have to check it out. I've never heard of it. 0:00:12.119 --> 0:00:13.160 Go to their instagram. 0:00:13.560 --> 0:00:16.040 I want the fairy tale, I want the prince charming. 0:00:16.480 --> 0:00:19.400 She how do I put this? Isn't a fan of 0:00:19.440 --> 0:00:20.759 my kissing style. 0:00:21.120 --> 0:00:24.279 With a boyfriend and girlfriend for about twelve hours. He's 0:00:24.320 --> 0:00:27.280 in a trash bin. He's non recyclable. Catching them up. 0:00:28.560 --> 0:00:32.080 I love being love. I love love this month. 0:00:32.159 --> 0:00:34.160 I don't know why, but like the four days leading 0:00:34.240 --> 0:00:37.560 up to my period, my emotions have been all over 0:00:37.640 --> 0:00:40.559 the place. The dynamics of me and Michael's relationship. This 0:00:40.680 --> 0:00:43.239 week he has gone through the ringer. Oh, I've just 0:00:43.280 --> 0:00:45.960 been really annoyed with him. He's not really even like 0:00:46.360 --> 0:00:47.040 doing anything. 0:00:47.080 --> 0:00:48.199 But I'll be like, you don't love me? 0:00:48.280 --> 0:00:48.559 Do you? 0:00:48.920 --> 0:00:49.120 Oh? 0:00:49.680 --> 0:00:55.120 Yeah? 0:00:55.480 --> 0:00:57.880 Where's Your Head At is a podcast that talks all 0:00:58.000 --> 0:01:03.320 things relationships, breakups, reality TV, trending shows, and everything in between. 0:01:03.560 --> 0:01:06.280 This is your new go to destination for laughs, gossip, 0:01:06.440 --> 0:01:08.600 intimate details, advice, and much more. 0:01:13.840 --> 0:01:16.039 Hello Matthew, Hello. 0:01:16.080 --> 0:01:18.760 Good morning, and Something's a little bit different today. I 0:01:18.760 --> 0:01:20.440 don't know if I can put my finger on what 0:01:20.600 --> 0:01:21.000 it is. 0:01:21.520 --> 0:01:26.280 We are recording live from the Crown Audio Hub in Melbourne. 0:01:26.360 --> 0:01:28.640 It's really fun being in a new environment. 0:01:28.760 --> 0:01:30.840 How is it is? It's good to be out of 0:01:30.880 --> 0:01:33.440 the studio and in this new set up. How nice 0:01:33.480 --> 0:01:34.080 is it in here? 0:01:34.240 --> 0:01:36.800 How are you feeling because you were a bit shaky 0:01:36.840 --> 0:01:39.959 this morning? Are you feeling like Matt was suffering from 0:01:39.959 --> 0:01:41.280 a little bit of hangriness? 0:01:41.840 --> 0:01:43.760 Say I needed a coffee as well. I hadn't had 0:01:43.800 --> 0:01:46.240 a coffee for reckond four hours before I came in here. 0:01:46.280 --> 0:01:47.360 I was fanging for one. 0:01:47.520 --> 0:01:49.760 And what did you eat? You had the most random 0:01:49.880 --> 0:01:51.120 order from McDonald's before. 0:01:51.240 --> 0:01:53.800 Okay, well, actually that is my turn on this week, 0:01:54.600 --> 0:01:58.240 so thank you. My turn on this week is. I 0:01:58.280 --> 0:01:59.960 was with my mate the other day and he was like, 0:02:00.160 --> 0:02:02.080 I'm trying to diet. I'm trying to lean up, cut 0:02:02.160 --> 0:02:04.320 carbs out, and I was like, oh, okay. We're driving 0:02:04.320 --> 0:02:06.560 in the car and he's like and he pulled into 0:02:06.560 --> 0:02:09.320 Macis and I was like, you know, it's not really 0:02:09.320 --> 0:02:11.440 the healthiest option you could ever get. I was like, 0:02:11.480 --> 0:02:12.560 what are you going to do? And he's like, you 0:02:12.600 --> 0:02:15.160 know what you can do. You can order just the 0:02:15.200 --> 0:02:17.760 meat from Mackets, so not the burger. You order just 0:02:17.840 --> 0:02:20.960 the paddies with nothing else. I'm assuming if you wanted to, 0:02:21.080 --> 0:02:23.320 you could ask for like the salad from the burger 0:02:23.360 --> 0:02:26.239 as well. But he went through and ordered two grilled 0:02:26.280 --> 0:02:30.160 chicken patties, so that the grilled chicken breast and then 0:02:30.200 --> 0:02:32.000 a couple of the quarter pounder ones. 0:02:32.440 --> 0:02:36.000 So Matt was literally standing in Crown the most beautiful, 0:02:36.080 --> 0:02:39.960 luxurious hotel, eating two beef patties, and I was like, 0:02:40.040 --> 0:02:42.200 you know what, if it's going to get him out 0:02:42.200 --> 0:02:43.240 of his mood. 0:02:43.520 --> 0:02:46.320 Give him all the beef patties in the worker and 0:02:46.360 --> 0:02:48.760 it's healthy as well, and it only costs two dollars 0:02:48.760 --> 0:02:49.280 for the paddy. 0:02:49.520 --> 0:02:51.919 So how are you feeling? What are you out of ten? 0:02:52.639 --> 0:02:53.240 Where you are? 0:02:55.160 --> 0:02:57.920 I think I'm out of ten now I'm in the 0:02:57.960 --> 0:02:58.520 best mood. 0:02:58.720 --> 0:03:00.000 Okay, let's been recommended. 0:03:00.400 --> 0:03:01.640 Then how are you feeling? 0:03:02.320 --> 0:03:05.639 I'm feeling okay, I'm going to start with my ech 0:03:05.720 --> 0:03:08.760 of the week because this is leading me straight into it. 0:03:08.880 --> 0:03:11.000 I just got my period, so I'm on day one 0:03:11.040 --> 0:03:14.600 of my period. My back is sore, my tummy. Saw 0:03:14.800 --> 0:03:16.960 actually got a heat pack with me. I brought it 0:03:17.000 --> 0:03:17.919 with me to Crown. 0:03:18.680 --> 0:03:21.800 Uh and yeah, worst worst time of the month. 0:03:21.880 --> 0:03:24.799 Really, my fiance has her period at the moment and 0:03:25.639 --> 0:03:29.560 emotions everywhere, and I'm struggling to you. 0:03:29.480 --> 0:03:33.480 Know, it's so hard, like navigate it, navigate it. Yeah, 0:03:33.639 --> 0:03:36.320 I mean it is hard, Like it's hard for both parties, 0:03:36.960 --> 0:03:38.680 but I'm going to go with it's harder for the 0:03:38.760 --> 0:03:40.800 woman who's bleeding. 0:03:40.640 --> 0:03:43.280 For a few weeks. I could not imagine the pains 0:03:43.320 --> 0:03:43.960 and all that. 0:03:43.880 --> 0:03:46.880 Pain, and also like, imagine your hormones going all over 0:03:46.920 --> 0:03:49.960 the place. Like I reckon that I'm normally pretty easy 0:03:50.000 --> 0:03:50.680 to deal with. 0:03:51.080 --> 0:03:54.160 I'm like, you think I'm not that bad? 0:03:54.400 --> 0:04:01.040 Surely, Yeah, you're fine, NA give me that, are you know? 0:04:01.080 --> 0:04:05.440 I'm fine, I'm pretty like regular, I reckon. Normally I 0:04:05.480 --> 0:04:07.600 would say to you, like the day or two before 0:04:07.640 --> 0:04:10.040 my period, I get moody or cry, and then I'll 0:04:10.080 --> 0:04:12.839 be like, why am I crying about this random thing 0:04:12.840 --> 0:04:15.320 that's happened that I normally wouldn't care about. And then 0:04:15.360 --> 0:04:17.919 I'm like, oh, it's my period. But this month, I 0:04:17.920 --> 0:04:19.919 don't know why. But the four days leading up to 0:04:19.920 --> 0:04:23.560 my period, my emotions have been all over the place. 0:04:23.680 --> 0:04:26.560 The dynamics of me and Michael's relationship this week, like 0:04:26.640 --> 0:04:27.440 he has gone. 0:04:27.200 --> 0:04:27.839 Through the ringer. 0:04:28.560 --> 0:04:30.640 I've just been like really annoyed with him. He's not 0:04:30.760 --> 0:04:32.640 really even like doing anything. 0:04:32.680 --> 0:04:33.800 But I'll be like, you don't love. 0:04:33.680 --> 0:04:34.120 Me, do you? 0:04:34.480 --> 0:04:37.160 Oh yeah? And how do you? And I'll come from 0:04:37.160 --> 0:04:39.720 the guy's side of things, it is just an absolute 0:04:39.800 --> 0:04:42.120 mind fucked like I've done nothing different from what I 0:04:42.160 --> 0:04:43.640 normally do and it's. 0:04:43.520 --> 0:04:46.679 Wrong sometimes like it's just good to give some space, 0:04:47.360 --> 0:04:47.560 you know. 0:04:47.600 --> 0:04:47.960 What I mean. 0:04:49.080 --> 0:04:52.240 I was just like, you know, like ride the wave 0:04:52.279 --> 0:04:54.039 of emotions and then we'll come back. 0:04:54.080 --> 0:04:56.039 But when you can't say anything right, you're sort of 0:04:56.040 --> 0:04:58.240 second guessing yourself, and that's when it sort of gets 0:04:58.279 --> 0:04:59.800 a little bit. I gain in my own head and 0:04:59.839 --> 0:05:01.640 I'm well, what am I doing wrong? And I'm trying 0:05:01.640 --> 0:05:05.080 to please people, and it's just, you know, it's a 0:05:05.080 --> 0:05:08.159 better term of words, it's it's like disheartening, but I'm trying. 0:05:08.240 --> 0:05:10.120 You know, It's all good. Now we're at the other end. 0:05:11.400 --> 0:05:14.200 The period has begun, the period has begune. So we're 0:05:14.240 --> 0:05:18.279 in the same cycle. And so's my sister as well. 0:05:18.560 --> 0:05:22.080 So she's so obviously staying this so she's as well, 0:05:22.520 --> 0:05:23.400 all the women around me. 0:05:23.640 --> 0:05:25.919 At least it's just like one part of the month 0:05:25.960 --> 0:05:28.760 and then that's probably it's like cruising for the rest, 0:05:28.839 --> 0:05:29.240 so it's not. 0:05:29.240 --> 0:05:31.479 Scattered over different weeks and up against it. 0:05:32.800 --> 0:05:36.240 Oh god, Well, my turn on of the week is 0:05:36.320 --> 0:05:39.159 that we are staying at Crown tonight. 0:05:39.480 --> 0:05:40.080 That we are. 0:05:41.320 --> 0:05:43.640 They've very kindly given us a room, so we're actually 0:05:43.680 --> 0:05:47.440 recording live from Crown and then we are gonna explore 0:05:47.600 --> 0:05:49.720 Michael's taking me to Nobu, So it's kind of like 0:05:49.760 --> 0:05:51.240 an early Valentine's Day. 0:05:51.400 --> 0:05:52.039 That's pretty cute. 0:05:52.120 --> 0:05:53.760 What a good gift as well. 0:05:53.960 --> 0:05:56.240 Sometimes it's so nice to just go stay at a 0:05:56.279 --> 0:05:58.440 hotel in your own city and just get away. 0:05:58.640 --> 0:05:59.120 Staycation. 0:05:59.440 --> 0:06:00.880 You know, you don't have to make the bed in 0:06:00.920 --> 0:06:03.080 the morning, Someone's going to do it for you. You can 0:06:03.120 --> 0:06:05.920 get room service, have hotel set. 0:06:06.040 --> 0:06:08.359 What do we say about hotel sex on this podcast? 0:06:08.600 --> 0:06:15.480 Different gravy, the best gravy. Speaking of Valentine's anything planned? 0:06:16.080 --> 0:06:20.360 Well, if this comes out before Valentine's Day, Tammy turn 0:06:20.400 --> 0:06:24.359 off the turn off the episode currently currently, I have 0:06:24.720 --> 0:06:28.159 organized I've booked a dinner at her favorite restaurant. She 0:06:28.200 --> 0:06:31.520 wanted to go to a while ago saved it and 0:06:31.560 --> 0:06:34.000 I've booked us dinner there for two. I fly up 0:06:34.040 --> 0:06:38.480 to the Gold Coaster night before. I'm planning on. 0:06:42.880 --> 0:06:44.760 I'm excited that I'm not going to have my period 0:06:45.040 --> 0:06:46.320 for Valentine's Day this year. 0:06:46.440 --> 0:06:47.200 That is exciting. 0:06:47.279 --> 0:06:48.320 That is exciting for me. 0:06:48.360 --> 0:06:49.800 Do you have anything planned for Michael or are you 0:06:49.880 --> 0:06:51.200 letting him take control? 0:06:51.480 --> 0:06:53.880 Like, if you're listening, Michael, just this is the time 0:06:53.920 --> 0:06:57.560 to turn off, honey, love you. I think I'm going 0:06:57.600 --> 0:06:59.440 to do lingerie this year because I'm pretty sure last 0:06:59.480 --> 0:07:02.560 year I had my I'm having my period, my ten 0:07:02.640 --> 0:07:06.600 day period, mind you, Like it's you know, I really 0:07:06.600 --> 0:07:09.320 am in the trenches with this period. I'm gonna have 0:07:09.360 --> 0:07:12.400 my period on our wedding day, which is not ideal. 0:07:12.560 --> 0:07:14.280 So like, I'm kind of going to make the most 0:07:14.320 --> 0:07:15.440 of this Valentine's Day. 0:07:15.680 --> 0:07:17.040 Okay, what color are you going to go with? 0:07:17.840 --> 0:07:19.800 Red? Red lipstick? 0:07:20.280 --> 0:07:20.600 Nice? 0:07:20.880 --> 0:07:21.200 Yeah? 0:07:21.840 --> 0:07:26.120 Nice? I know. Wrestler about a kink that his kink 0:07:26.360 --> 0:07:30.520 was he made the girl. Wrestler talked about an autobiography. 0:07:30.920 --> 0:07:32.960 He would make her put the red lipstic on while 0:07:32.960 --> 0:07:37.880 he was taking her from behind in the mirror. Pretty hot. 0:07:39.600 --> 0:07:41.000 This is not pig anymore. 0:07:46.800 --> 0:07:50.680 So, Anna, I was scrolling my Instagram and I follow 0:07:50.920 --> 0:07:54.160 a lad Bible. Yes, I have some funny stuff on there, 0:07:54.240 --> 0:08:00.320 and I came across this article about a mum who 0:08:00.440 --> 0:08:04.000 was shocked after reading her son's birthday card from his girlfriend. 0:08:04.400 --> 0:08:07.000 Ah, what did the car say? Why is the mom 0:08:07.080 --> 0:08:08.520 looking like for the car. 0:08:09.160 --> 0:08:10.560 He must have left it, I don't know, on the 0:08:10.640 --> 0:08:11.720 kitchen bench or something. 0:08:11.880 --> 0:08:14.520 He's like opened it up and put it on his mantle, 0:08:14.600 --> 0:08:16.760 and she's like, oh, this is a nice card. 0:08:16.880 --> 0:08:18.760 Well, it literally says on the well. If I was 0:08:18.800 --> 0:08:20.880 a mom or a father and I saw this on 0:08:20.920 --> 0:08:23.800 the count, I probably would not open it. It says, 0:08:24.520 --> 0:08:27.080 I hope your birthday is as good as your dick 0:08:28.760 --> 0:08:30.360 with all love hearts around it. 0:08:31.000 --> 0:08:33.800 Surely is hiding this card if I if like, if 0:08:33.840 --> 0:08:35.920 you're giving a card like that to someone, surely they're 0:08:35.920 --> 0:08:37.760 putting that like in their sock draw. 0:08:37.800 --> 0:08:39.960 Oh yeah, putting it out of it that they don't 0:08:39.960 --> 0:08:40.440 want their. 0:08:40.400 --> 0:08:42.480 Parents to see in there out of their mom's sight. 0:08:42.720 --> 0:08:46.400 And then it says to my man, happy birthday, babe, 0:08:46.800 --> 0:08:49.560 love you loads Caroline. And then on the other side, 0:08:49.880 --> 0:08:52.160 you know you write a message today you came out 0:08:52.240 --> 0:08:58.720 of a vagina tonight, you'll be back in one. Personally. 0:08:58.760 --> 0:09:00.680 If Tammy is trying to talk dirty to me, I 0:09:00.720 --> 0:09:03.840 don't want her to put my mum's vagina in that conversation. 0:09:03.920 --> 0:09:06.719 It's probably not the way to go, not going to 0:09:06.840 --> 0:09:08.839 you know, it's not going to get me going the 0:09:08.920 --> 0:09:10.920 way of hope. 0:09:10.960 --> 0:09:14.600 Not. So is this like pre written on the card 0:09:14.840 --> 0:09:17.160 or is she Is this like a homemade card that 0:09:17.200 --> 0:09:17.800 she's made. 0:09:18.040 --> 0:09:21.520 I'll post the photos of the card on our Facebook page, 0:09:21.559 --> 0:09:25.440 but it is handwritten on the inside. The front looks 0:09:25.520 --> 0:09:27.679 to be an actual card. 0:09:28.480 --> 0:09:31.920 Okay, so that I hope your birthday is as good 0:09:31.920 --> 0:09:35.760 as your dick was. The card the company is doing. 0:09:35.960 --> 0:09:39.400 And then she has gone with she's gone with the. 0:09:39.240 --> 0:09:42.920 Theme and pulled the mother into it, which is questionable, 0:09:43.080 --> 0:09:45.640 just too much. Yes, have you ever written a card 0:09:45.679 --> 0:09:47.200 like this for Michael? 0:09:47.640 --> 0:09:48.520 No? 0:09:48.520 --> 0:09:51.160 No, no, never wrote anything kinky in a card? 0:09:51.640 --> 0:09:52.600 No, not really. 0:09:52.640 --> 0:09:55.599 I feel like cards are like a place for wholesomeness, 0:09:55.679 --> 0:09:58.680 and you know, I'm actually. 0:09:58.360 --> 0:10:02.199 The outpouring of your feeling. It is not like sexting. 0:10:02.440 --> 0:10:04.080 I'm really good with a wholesome card. 0:10:04.360 --> 0:10:07.360 Yeah, have you done like a dirty card? Is that 0:10:07.440 --> 0:10:08.920 a thing. I mean, obviously it's a thing. 0:10:09.000 --> 0:10:10.640 This girl I don't care, so I think I go 0:10:10.760 --> 0:10:13.160 the wholesome way. Have you ever been caught by your 0:10:13.200 --> 0:10:15.640 parents in the act or doing something inappropriate? 0:10:18.920 --> 0:10:22.520 I'm kind of reluctant to say the answer to this 0:10:23.080 --> 0:10:26.960 because I saw my mom the other day. She was like, 0:10:27.400 --> 0:10:30.880 so I was listening to your podcast, well, thank you, Emory, 0:10:31.400 --> 0:10:33.880 And I was like, oh yeah, because I honestly like 0:10:33.960 --> 0:10:37.560 forget sometimes that people listen to this always, literally always. 0:10:38.120 --> 0:10:40.960 And she was like, and that conversation that you and 0:10:41.000 --> 0:10:44.439 Matt spoke about about that movie Saltburn was disgusting. 0:10:45.679 --> 0:10:46.800 What did we say? 0:10:47.440 --> 0:10:49.600 We were talking about like the drinking of the bath 0:10:49.640 --> 0:10:50.320 water and stuff. 0:10:50.360 --> 0:10:52.520 So does Emory think I'm gross because I drink my 0:10:52.559 --> 0:10:54.319 fiance bathwater with a straw? 0:10:56.120 --> 0:10:59.199 She like, she's not seen the movie, okay, So like 0:10:59.520 --> 0:11:00.800 I was just like letting her know. 0:11:00.960 --> 0:11:03.679 I was like, this is an actual movie and we 0:11:03.679 --> 0:11:06.080 were reviewing it, Like, well I was reviewing because you. 0:11:06.080 --> 0:11:07.000 Hadn't really watched it. 0:11:07.120 --> 0:11:09.600 I got busy, but yeah, my mum was like, that 0:11:09.760 --> 0:11:11.760 is a disgusting conversation to be having. 0:11:11.800 --> 0:11:14.200 And I was like, probably don't listen to our podcast, 0:11:14.320 --> 0:11:15.160 because you. 0:11:15.040 --> 0:11:17.880 Know, we really just think we're having a conversation with 0:11:17.920 --> 0:11:19.560 each other and forget that people who are listening. 0:11:19.840 --> 0:11:20.800 So what was the question? 0:11:21.559 --> 0:11:25.640 Have my parents ever come across something inappropriate or caught 0:11:25.640 --> 0:11:29.000 you in the act of anything? Okay, well, mum, if 0:11:29.000 --> 0:11:32.840 you're listening, you probably turn off right about now. I 0:11:32.880 --> 0:11:37.360 had sex the night before my eighteenth birthday with my 0:11:37.440 --> 0:11:38.559 boyfriend at the time. 0:11:39.160 --> 0:11:41.920 Why was there anything significant about that or it's just well, I. 0:11:41.920 --> 0:11:44.000 Was like when I was seventeen, I was kind of like, 0:11:44.040 --> 0:11:45.240 I'm waiting for the right person. 0:11:45.240 --> 0:11:49.800 It's your virginity, my virginity, naturally you have sex. 0:11:50.320 --> 0:11:52.080 Sorry, yeah, sorry, I didn't make that clear. 0:11:52.320 --> 0:11:55.439 I lost my virginity the night before my eighteenth birthday, 0:11:56.040 --> 0:11:59.319 and yeah, I was like waiting and waiting, and then 0:11:59.440 --> 0:12:02.080 I was like, yeahs to be special and blah blah blah. Anyway, 0:12:02.880 --> 0:12:06.760 that's a little bit of a myth. I don't think 0:12:06.880 --> 0:12:08.920 that necessarily needs to happen. But anyway, we were like 0:12:08.960 --> 0:12:12.040 two months into the relationship and I was like, I 0:12:12.080 --> 0:12:14.120 don't want to be an eighteen year old virgin. 0:12:14.040 --> 0:12:17.320 So I was like, let's do this. Deed, we used 0:12:17.320 --> 0:12:20.239 a condom, nice safe sex. 0:12:20.000 --> 0:12:23.839 Say sex and anyway, he's obviously like taking it off, 0:12:24.480 --> 0:12:27.960 he's put it in the sidebin at my parents' house. Anyway, 0:12:28.200 --> 0:12:32.400 my mom was like a very overbearing parent, like extremely. 0:12:32.240 --> 0:12:34.600 Go through the wist, go through a waste. 0:12:38.920 --> 0:12:42.720 So my mom like the next morning he had left 0:12:42.920 --> 0:12:47.920 the house and she like came in holding it with 0:12:48.040 --> 0:12:53.120 tissue paper, being like what is this? And I was like, IW, 0:12:53.400 --> 0:12:56.800 like that is absolutely disgusting and rank and why are 0:12:56.840 --> 0:12:59.800 you holding that? Number two, Like it's my eighteenth birthday, 0:12:59.880 --> 0:13:02.800 Just let me live, like number one, you should be 0:13:02.840 --> 0:13:04.160 happy that I'm using this. 0:13:04.480 --> 0:13:05.640 Actually remember what she said. 0:13:05.679 --> 0:13:08.360 She was like, I'm happy you're having safe sex, but 0:13:08.400 --> 0:13:13.440 I'm not happy you're having sex. I mean it would 0:13:13.480 --> 0:13:15.760 be hard for a parent, right, Like yeah, I guess 0:13:15.800 --> 0:13:17.960 you're young, like when they turn eighteen, Like I just 0:13:18.000 --> 0:13:20.480 feel like eighteen is so young. Now now that I'm 0:13:20.520 --> 0:13:22.440 thirty one, I see eighteen year olds and I'm like, 0:13:22.440 --> 0:13:25.320 they're literally babies so young. 0:13:25.840 --> 0:13:27.000 Like imagine your. 0:13:26.920 --> 0:13:31.040 Sister is also extremely mature, Like in terms of like 0:13:31.360 --> 0:13:33.240 that age group, I feel like your sister is like 0:13:33.320 --> 0:13:35.600 I feel like sometimes I'm talking to someone my own age. 0:13:35.600 --> 0:13:38.840 She's sometimes more mature than people my age, whereas like 0:13:39.240 --> 0:13:42.680 an actual like eighteen year old who acts eighteen, they're 0:13:42.720 --> 0:13:43.360 so young. 0:13:43.600 --> 0:13:46.000 Yeah. The only annoysy when I talk to my sister 0:13:46.120 --> 0:13:48.040 is she comes from a place of like she has 0:13:48.120 --> 0:13:49.800 life experience, and I'm like, well, you don't, like do 0:13:49.840 --> 0:13:51.920 you know when she gives advice in that she's like 0:13:52.840 --> 0:13:55.680 old soul. I know. I'm like, you haven't done like 0:13:55.679 --> 0:13:57.480 you don't know, like you haven't done this stuff. So 0:13:57.480 --> 0:13:59.440 that's what pisces me off. But yeah, she's she's very 0:13:59.480 --> 0:14:01.800 mature in great to chat to and go do for advice. 0:14:02.280 --> 0:14:03.559 Yeah. 0:14:03.720 --> 0:14:07.200 But I remember when I was younger one time and 0:14:07.240 --> 0:14:10.880 I was like maybe in my teenage years. I'd hooked 0:14:11.000 --> 0:14:17.040 my PC up to the TV, and I thought like, 0:14:17.200 --> 0:14:19.280 you know, this is fun, and I went on to 0:14:19.440 --> 0:14:21.640 pawn on my like so it was on the big, 0:14:21.880 --> 0:14:27.760 like you know, fifteen inch screen and I was years ago, fifteen. 0:14:27.480 --> 0:14:29.320 In recent time, I think I was like. 0:14:29.240 --> 0:14:31.720 Fifteen sixteen, and I was watching porn and then I 0:14:31.760 --> 0:14:33.680 heard the garage door open. I was like shit, shit, shit, 0:14:34.160 --> 0:14:36.320 So you know, in frantic grade, I turned off the TV. 0:14:36.880 --> 0:14:39.320 As I turned it off, my mom and my sisters 0:14:39.320 --> 0:14:41.240 walked in and they're like, oh, what's with the boobies 0:14:41.280 --> 0:14:41.880 on the screen? 0:14:42.600 --> 0:14:45.320 And I had to quickly today that is actually disgusting. 0:14:45.400 --> 0:14:47.360 I'm so glad that never happened to me with my brother. 0:14:47.440 --> 0:14:48.200 I think that's fout. 0:14:48.680 --> 0:14:50.040 That was the closest I've been. 0:14:50.320 --> 0:14:51.880 Like, why are you trying to see porn? 0:14:52.040 --> 0:14:54.600 In like just fifteen sixteen you're trying to do why 0:14:54.640 --> 0:14:55.000 do you need to. 0:14:54.960 --> 0:14:56.680 See it on the big screen? Like don't you want 0:14:56.680 --> 0:14:57.560 to be a bit more like. 0:14:59.680 --> 0:15:03.080 You are? Us that perverted warning little guy what he. 0:15:03.040 --> 0:15:09.960 Wanted to do for We'll just leave that there, okay, Matt, So, 0:15:10.000 --> 0:15:13.960 I recently came across this article on Mamma Mia about 0:15:14.000 --> 0:15:17.800 a dating phenomenon called the flip. Now, we've been talking 0:15:17.800 --> 0:15:21.960 a lot about like relationship dynamics recently, and like, you know, 0:15:22.000 --> 0:15:24.600 who has the power in a relationship and things like that, 0:15:24.720 --> 0:15:29.160 and I think it's so crazy. So just a paraphrase, 0:15:29.280 --> 0:15:33.000 it's when a relationship ends because one person was more 0:15:33.120 --> 0:15:35.960 keen than the other and because the roles kind of reverse, 0:15:36.080 --> 0:15:39.440 so like one person started having the power, one person 0:15:39.600 --> 0:15:42.200 was more just like chill, and then the roles reverse 0:15:42.920 --> 0:15:45.840 and all of a sudden, the dynamics of the relationship 0:15:45.960 --> 0:15:48.040 just absolutely do not work. 0:15:48.880 --> 0:15:52.080 So you're meaning that one chase the other one, and 0:15:52.160 --> 0:15:56.240 then once I guess they were together, the one that 0:15:56.280 --> 0:15:58.400 was chasing could almost say that they were over the 0:15:58.480 --> 0:16:02.120 chase and they stopped being interested it and almost hooked 0:16:02.120 --> 0:16:03.880 the other one on, and then they're like, I'm over 0:16:03.960 --> 0:16:05.440 it now. Well it's just toxic. 0:16:05.520 --> 0:16:09.120 Well it's just like you know, obviously in relationships, there 0:16:09.160 --> 0:16:11.960 are so many dynamics, and like sometimes there can be 0:16:12.000 --> 0:16:14.560 a bit of a power struggle, but usually there's like 0:16:14.640 --> 0:16:18.080 one person who's kind of like more keen, like they're 0:16:18.120 --> 0:16:21.360 the keen one, and then someone's like taking the lead, right, 0:16:21.840 --> 0:16:24.600 But when that dynamic switches and the one who was 0:16:24.680 --> 0:16:27.520 more keen is all of a sudden taking charge, then 0:16:27.520 --> 0:16:30.000 the relationship dynamic just doesn't really. 0:16:29.760 --> 0:16:30.800 Work in the same way. 0:16:31.800 --> 0:16:35.480 I mean, I guess, like, can can it change? Like 0:16:35.600 --> 0:16:37.320 if it doesn't change for a long period, it can 0:16:37.400 --> 0:16:39.400 change on the daily one hundred percent. 0:16:39.440 --> 0:16:40.560 And that's what I was just about to say. 0:16:40.600 --> 0:16:46.400 So in healthy relationships there's ongoing like mini flips in dynamics. 0:16:46.640 --> 0:16:49.040 So that's good and I think that's needed. And I 0:16:49.080 --> 0:16:52.840 think if someone always holds the power. It's just it's 0:16:52.880 --> 0:16:55.640 not a very healthy relationship. So I think these mini 0:16:56.160 --> 0:16:59.360 switches in power dynamics are really healthy. 0:17:00.040 --> 0:17:03.360 Would you say to someone that is going through the 0:17:03.400 --> 0:17:07.400 flip or they're in a power struggle, or let's say, yeah, 0:17:07.720 --> 0:17:09.400 let's start with that they're in a power struggle. 0:17:11.160 --> 0:17:14.600 I would just say, make sure that you set your 0:17:14.640 --> 0:17:19.720 boundaries and expectations for what you want and deserve in 0:17:19.760 --> 0:17:22.520 a relationship. At the end of the day, in relationships, 0:17:22.520 --> 0:17:24.640 you just want to be treated right by your partner, 0:17:24.720 --> 0:17:27.040 and you should also be treating them right. You know, 0:17:27.240 --> 0:17:32.320 communication is always key. If someone's like being too dominant 0:17:32.400 --> 0:17:34.880 and they're kind of like taking the reins too much 0:17:34.920 --> 0:17:38.960 and you're starting to feel insecure. I personally, I feel 0:17:38.960 --> 0:17:40.840 like you can take a step back and be like, 0:17:41.040 --> 0:17:43.679 I don't like this, or this is my boundary, this 0:17:43.760 --> 0:17:45.720 is what I want, this is what I need from you. 0:17:46.320 --> 0:17:49.000 But like we always say, communication is key, and I 0:17:49.040 --> 0:17:52.600 think just also not freaking out when dynamics do change, 0:17:52.640 --> 0:17:57.280 because these mini kind of flips are normal and are 0:17:57.840 --> 0:18:01.560 genuinely healthy to have, because you don't want one person 0:18:01.720 --> 0:18:03.520 always in control. 0:18:03.640 --> 0:18:06.080 Essentially, I mean, yeah, I can, I can see what 0:18:06.119 --> 0:18:08.320 you mean by that. There's miniflips all the time. I 0:18:08.359 --> 0:18:10.720 feel it just depends on the situation. Like I mean, 0:18:10.760 --> 0:18:13.560 sometimes I just really I hate the expression I don't care, 0:18:14.160 --> 0:18:17.800 so like, I just sometimes I just don't. I'm not phased, 0:18:17.840 --> 0:18:20.399 I'm not fussed about I'm not fussed about stuff, so 0:18:20.480 --> 0:18:22.800 I don't I'm not going to take control of that situation, 0:18:22.840 --> 0:18:24.520 you know what I mean. Like, sometimes you're. 0:18:24.400 --> 0:18:27.000 Happy to sit in like the passage, just go. 0:18:27.000 --> 0:18:30.280 With the flow. Yeah, And that doesn't mean that the 0:18:30.440 --> 0:18:32.320 thing is flipped. It just well, it doesn't mean it's 0:18:32.320 --> 0:18:34.080 fipped for good. It just means, in that situation, it's 0:18:34.080 --> 0:18:34.760 a mini flip. 0:18:34.840 --> 0:18:36.720