1 00:00:05,921 --> 00:00:07,281 Speaker 1: Apote Production. 2 00:00:23,121 --> 00:00:26,921 Speaker 2: Welcome back to another episode of am I Bad Mum Podcast. 3 00:00:27,281 --> 00:00:29,641 Speaker 2: I don't want to go straight into this episode Rach 4 00:00:29,801 --> 00:00:31,801 Speaker 2: and really scare the shit out of you. But on 5 00:00:31,921 --> 00:00:33,201 Speaker 2: Monday it's December. 6 00:00:33,481 --> 00:00:34,081 Speaker 1: Yeah, no, I know. 7 00:00:34,321 --> 00:00:39,281 Speaker 3: I'm actually hanging for December one, December. I'm actually so excited. 8 00:00:39,521 --> 00:00:40,561 Speaker 1: Do you want to know why? 9 00:00:40,721 --> 00:00:42,600 Speaker 2: Why I can't fool a life of me? 10 00:00:42,921 --> 00:00:46,601 Speaker 1: Understand why? Because the elf on the shelf is back. 11 00:00:46,721 --> 00:00:53,401 Speaker 3: He's back, and my daughters went and found the stash 12 00:00:53,521 --> 00:00:56,801 Speaker 3: of elves. And you're wondering why I'm saying the stash 13 00:00:56,840 --> 00:01:01,321 Speaker 3: of elves because every year consecutively, I think maybe for 14 00:01:01,401 --> 00:01:04,721 Speaker 3: the last four years, I've forgotten the night before where 15 00:01:04,721 --> 00:01:07,241 Speaker 3: I put the elf from the year before, and then 16 00:01:07,281 --> 00:01:10,881 Speaker 3: I've had to go and buy another one on. So 17 00:01:11,081 --> 00:01:14,720 Speaker 3: now you've got a family of elf, but you really do? 18 00:01:15,560 --> 00:01:18,321 Speaker 3: We've got six six? 19 00:01:18,920 --> 00:01:20,840 Speaker 2: Do you lose it every year? Why don't you have 20 00:01:20,920 --> 00:01:22,920 Speaker 2: it put with your Christmas decorations? 21 00:01:23,000 --> 00:01:24,601 Speaker 1: I do. That's a problem. 22 00:01:25,241 --> 00:01:28,241 Speaker 3: Actually maybe no, maybe for the other years I haven't, 23 00:01:28,280 --> 00:01:30,681 Speaker 3: but this year in particular, I must have been like 24 00:01:30,840 --> 00:01:32,200 Speaker 3: clute on to go just. 25 00:01:32,161 --> 00:01:34,681 Speaker 1: Put it with the Christmas gear. So then my girls 26 00:01:34,681 --> 00:01:35,601 Speaker 1: get all excited. 27 00:01:35,640 --> 00:01:37,761 Speaker 3: They know where the Christmas gear is and they were 28 00:01:37,801 --> 00:01:39,441 Speaker 3: the ones that prompted putting. 29 00:01:39,241 --> 00:01:39,961 Speaker 1: The tree up. 30 00:01:40,081 --> 00:01:42,000 Speaker 3: Like a week ago or a week and a bit ago, 31 00:01:42,200 --> 00:01:43,761 Speaker 3: there's the tree up, trees up. 32 00:01:44,000 --> 00:01:47,641 Speaker 1: Oh god, it looks fab actually just quietly so. The 33 00:01:47,641 --> 00:01:49,481 Speaker 1: girls are really happy with what they did. 34 00:01:49,561 --> 00:01:53,361 Speaker 3: But in the process located family of elves on bottom 35 00:01:53,481 --> 00:01:58,401 Speaker 3: of said cupboard that the Christmas So then I had 36 00:01:58,401 --> 00:02:01,441 Speaker 3: the question from Elsie, Mom, why are all the elves 37 00:02:01,481 --> 00:02:04,161 Speaker 3: on shelves in with the Christmas decorations? 38 00:02:04,201 --> 00:02:06,081 Speaker 1: Because aren't they meant to be? 39 00:02:06,241 --> 00:02:09,121 Speaker 3: The magic doesn't come alive if anyone touches them or 40 00:02:09,161 --> 00:02:10,081 Speaker 3: if anyone sees them? 41 00:02:10,081 --> 00:02:13,161 Speaker 1: And why are they not hidden? And why have you 42 00:02:13,240 --> 00:02:14,280 Speaker 1: got six of them? 43 00:02:14,401 --> 00:02:15,961 Speaker 3: She looked at me, and she goes, also, why do 44 00:02:16,001 --> 00:02:19,240 Speaker 3: we have six of them? I looked at us, so well, 45 00:02:19,281 --> 00:02:20,400 Speaker 3: just keep the magic alive? 46 00:02:30,201 --> 00:02:33,441 Speaker 2: Am I bad mum for taking annual leave from being 47 00:02:33,481 --> 00:02:34,121 Speaker 2: their pa? 48 00:02:35,441 --> 00:02:36,641 Speaker 1: No, I feel like that too. 49 00:02:37,401 --> 00:02:40,441 Speaker 2: I went away for the weekend. It's the first time 50 00:02:40,441 --> 00:02:42,960 Speaker 2: we've ever been away for three nights and. 51 00:02:42,960 --> 00:02:44,520 Speaker 1: Left the girls by themselves. 52 00:02:44,761 --> 00:02:47,921 Speaker 2: Yeah, they never used to really like overnight by themselves. 53 00:02:48,121 --> 00:02:51,121 Speaker 2: They appeared to be fine, although Amelia was funny because 54 00:02:51,161 --> 00:02:53,401 Speaker 2: she said, Mum, I didn't even stay up, I didn't 55 00:02:53,441 --> 00:02:55,680 Speaker 2: watch anything. I just couldn't wait to get to bed 56 00:02:55,761 --> 00:02:57,201 Speaker 2: because I was worried about. 57 00:02:56,921 --> 00:02:58,241 Speaker 1: Being on my own. 58 00:02:59,161 --> 00:03:00,801 Speaker 3: Oh so she just wanted to go to bed, to 59 00:03:00,800 --> 00:03:04,241 Speaker 3: go to sleep so that she could get to the morning. Yeah, yeah, right, okay, 60 00:03:04,361 --> 00:03:06,840 Speaker 3: that's okay, great strategy and rage. 61 00:03:07,201 --> 00:03:10,361 Speaker 2: Like you, you know, when we go away or you're 62 00:03:10,401 --> 00:03:13,201 Speaker 2: not with your children, you get bombarded with phone calls 63 00:03:13,240 --> 00:03:16,681 Speaker 2: and text messages. And you had a night out recently 64 00:03:17,281 --> 00:03:20,641 Speaker 2: where your girls had a few hours by themselves. 65 00:03:20,441 --> 00:03:22,841 Speaker 3: And you just got like, oh as soon as I 66 00:03:22,881 --> 00:03:26,161 Speaker 3: got that five minutes in and Elsie loves a one 67 00:03:26,240 --> 00:03:28,361 Speaker 3: liner message, they just keep going. 68 00:03:28,520 --> 00:03:32,241 Speaker 1: Yeah, forty five messages one person. Yeah what is that? 69 00:03:32,281 --> 00:03:35,481 Speaker 3: One? Actually bad habit from probably me that she's probably 70 00:03:35,481 --> 00:03:38,001 Speaker 3: picked up on because I do a little bit the same. 71 00:03:38,121 --> 00:03:40,761 Speaker 1: I'm not a bulk rider of essay. 72 00:03:40,961 --> 00:03:42,961 Speaker 3: I'm like, if I have like four questions I need 73 00:03:43,001 --> 00:03:46,961 Speaker 3: to ask you, it'll come through in form for different messages. 74 00:03:47,081 --> 00:03:51,041 Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, yeah, So we went away and it was 75 00:03:51,201 --> 00:03:54,841 Speaker 2: nice and we actually I expected to hear from them 76 00:03:54,881 --> 00:03:55,441 Speaker 2: all the time. 77 00:03:55,681 --> 00:03:56,481 Speaker 1: Yeah didn't. 78 00:03:56,801 --> 00:04:00,321 Speaker 2: I was getting like alerts from the cameras when they 79 00:04:00,441 --> 00:04:02,281 Speaker 2: like leave the house and things like that. They were 80 00:04:02,321 --> 00:04:05,201 Speaker 2: going off doing their own thing. They were working a lot, 81 00:04:05,201 --> 00:04:08,161 Speaker 2: and they were working a lot separately, so one would 82 00:04:08,201 --> 00:04:10,441 Speaker 2: go to work. Holly said to me, Mom, I felt 83 00:04:10,481 --> 00:04:12,321 Speaker 2: like an Uber driver because she had to just drive 84 00:04:12,361 --> 00:04:15,241 Speaker 2: Amelia around and pick her up from her shift. I 85 00:04:15,281 --> 00:04:16,921 Speaker 2: was like, yeah, well, welcome to my world for the 86 00:04:17,041 --> 00:04:18,281 Speaker 2: last seventeen years. 87 00:04:18,361 --> 00:04:19,401 Speaker 1: Yeah, that was. 88 00:04:19,601 --> 00:04:22,041 Speaker 2: However, it is just an Uber driver and most of 89 00:04:22,081 --> 00:04:24,041 Speaker 2: the time you didn't even want to talk to me 90 00:04:24,201 --> 00:04:27,400 Speaker 2: in the uber. When I get an Uber I usually 91 00:04:27,561 --> 00:04:30,361 Speaker 2: chat to the driver if I am getting like kind 92 00:04:30,401 --> 00:04:33,521 Speaker 2: of friendly vibes from them, Yes, how is your day? 93 00:04:34,401 --> 00:04:36,681 Speaker 2: Crazy weather at the moment, like all that kind of 94 00:04:36,681 --> 00:04:39,801 Speaker 2: stuff you chat to Uber drivers about. Anyway, it was 95 00:04:39,841 --> 00:04:42,281 Speaker 2: a really good weekend and we had a lovely time. 96 00:04:42,761 --> 00:04:46,440 Speaker 2: The minute I got back great was it was like 97 00:04:46,681 --> 00:04:48,481 Speaker 2: bam bam, bam, bam bam. 98 00:04:48,561 --> 00:04:49,681 Speaker 1: They saved it up for. 99 00:04:49,761 --> 00:04:53,440 Speaker 2: Me, saved it all up. Mum, you need to do this. 100 00:04:53,721 --> 00:04:55,681 Speaker 2: You haven't got back to so and so. I've got 101 00:04:55,681 --> 00:04:57,801 Speaker 2: this email. You need to go back to this. You 102 00:04:57,841 --> 00:05:00,481 Speaker 2: have a text from my driving instructor. You haven't replied. 103 00:05:00,561 --> 00:05:02,080 Speaker 1: I went guys. 104 00:05:02,320 --> 00:05:06,921 Speaker 2: Oh, and I have been on hold and you'll leave 105 00:05:07,001 --> 00:05:10,361 Speaker 2: for three days from being your pa. I've had a 106 00:05:10,361 --> 00:05:13,801 Speaker 2: little break from being your pa. I will get back 107 00:05:13,841 --> 00:05:15,561 Speaker 2: to it today. 108 00:05:15,801 --> 00:05:20,241 Speaker 3: Also, they're very capable girls that can reply to goddamn emails. 109 00:05:20,681 --> 00:05:23,760 Speaker 3: Rach do, I haven't replied to my driving instructure about 110 00:05:23,801 --> 00:05:25,280 Speaker 3: my time of my driving. 111 00:05:25,440 --> 00:05:27,761 Speaker 2: Just to it yourself, I said, give him a text 112 00:05:27,841 --> 00:05:31,361 Speaker 2: before I left. Right on the Thursday, I was like, okay, 113 00:05:31,521 --> 00:05:34,281 Speaker 2: just let you know I've done all the washing. Nothing 114 00:05:34,281 --> 00:05:36,760 Speaker 2: else is going to be done now. And Hollywood, well, 115 00:05:36,841 --> 00:05:39,241 Speaker 2: but you need to wash our school uniforms on the weekend. 116 00:05:39,841 --> 00:05:42,600 Speaker 2: I went, no, No, you need to wash your school 117 00:05:42,681 --> 00:05:46,001 Speaker 2: uniforms on the weekend. Yeah, guess whose school uniforms haven't 118 00:05:46,041 --> 00:05:46,521 Speaker 2: been washed? 119 00:05:47,041 --> 00:05:49,361 Speaker 1: Oh well, that's not your problem. Please, my problem. Did 120 00:05:49,401 --> 00:05:51,640 Speaker 1: not wash them? Let them go stinky. 121 00:05:51,880 --> 00:05:53,921 Speaker 2: Yeah, put them back on how they are. 122 00:05:54,161 --> 00:05:55,961 Speaker 1: It is what it is. 123 00:05:56,161 --> 00:05:58,881 Speaker 2: Do you know what was funny before we left h 124 00:05:59,081 --> 00:06:03,361 Speaker 2: is that I was looking through the calendar on my phone. 125 00:06:03,681 --> 00:06:05,521 Speaker 2: I had to sit down with them and we were 126 00:06:05,561 --> 00:06:08,201 Speaker 2: going through all the shifts because they've both got two 127 00:06:08,320 --> 00:06:11,160 Speaker 2: jobs each now, so it's confusing. So they're both working 128 00:06:11,161 --> 00:06:14,161 Speaker 2: at macas Amelia's got City Beach, Holie's got all Worths. 129 00:06:14,521 --> 00:06:17,880 Speaker 2: And so we were working out over the three days, 130 00:06:18,601 --> 00:06:23,561 Speaker 2: who's working where and what time, and how they were 131 00:06:23,601 --> 00:06:26,361 Speaker 2: going to navigate the dropping off picking up of the 132 00:06:26,401 --> 00:06:30,241 Speaker 2: other one. Who's going to need the odd uber that 133 00:06:30,320 --> 00:06:33,881 Speaker 2: kind of stuff. As I was going through, I was like, Okay, 134 00:06:33,961 --> 00:06:35,201 Speaker 2: so Holly, you got this. 135 00:06:34,921 --> 00:06:37,321 Speaker 1: This time Amelia blah blah blah blah blah. 136 00:06:37,521 --> 00:06:39,960 Speaker 2: They're looking at all the other stuff I've got in 137 00:06:39,961 --> 00:06:42,601 Speaker 2: the calendar and they're like, what's all this stuff? Like 138 00:06:42,641 --> 00:06:45,440 Speaker 2: can you delete that out? Like that's making it really confusing. 139 00:06:45,521 --> 00:06:47,880 Speaker 1: I went, that's my stuff. 140 00:06:48,401 --> 00:06:53,200 Speaker 2: That's what I'm doing on my weekend in my calendar. 141 00:06:53,281 --> 00:06:56,561 Speaker 2: This is my calendar. It looked at me and laughed 142 00:06:56,561 --> 00:06:57,321 Speaker 2: because I was like. 143 00:06:57,921 --> 00:07:00,520 Speaker 1: You can't. You can't have a calendar, mom, you can't 144 00:07:00,561 --> 00:07:01,001 Speaker 1: have things. 145 00:07:01,121 --> 00:07:04,200 Speaker 2: I can't do stuff for yourself. Aren't have met that 146 00:07:04,401 --> 00:07:06,921 Speaker 2: shit out? You're not going wine? What do you think 147 00:07:06,961 --> 00:07:09,401 Speaker 2: you're gonna wine tasting on Saturday? 148 00:07:09,561 --> 00:07:11,481 Speaker 1: You're confusing my calendar. 149 00:07:11,761 --> 00:07:15,161 Speaker 2: This should just be dedicated to me. Your shit out 150 00:07:15,201 --> 00:07:15,481 Speaker 2: of it? 151 00:07:15,641 --> 00:07:15,961 Speaker 3: Do you know? 152 00:07:16,161 --> 00:07:19,721 Speaker 2: On the same half an hour rage one of them, 153 00:07:19,761 --> 00:07:23,961 Speaker 2: when they'd had their dinner right, and they went there's 154 00:07:24,041 --> 00:07:26,841 Speaker 2: like vegetables in the calendar in the sink, Like are 155 00:07:26,841 --> 00:07:28,721 Speaker 2: we throwing those out? Or like where they're going? Because 156 00:07:28,761 --> 00:07:30,841 Speaker 2: I want to wash my hands. I was like, there 157 00:07:30,921 --> 00:07:34,161 Speaker 2: are vegetables for mine and Dad's dinner that we haven't 158 00:07:34,201 --> 00:07:39,161 Speaker 2: had yet. You're sortid. It was just a real reminder 159 00:07:39,201 --> 00:07:43,441 Speaker 2: of everything's about them, so about them, everything is about them, 160 00:07:43,761 --> 00:07:46,121 Speaker 2: And so when I got bombarded with all this stuff 161 00:07:46,161 --> 00:07:49,241 Speaker 2: when I got home, I was just like, I'm taking 162 00:07:49,361 --> 00:07:53,641 Speaker 2: more holiday off being your pa in future because I'm 163 00:07:53,681 --> 00:07:59,081 Speaker 2: coming back to what's harder than actually if I'd done 164 00:07:59,081 --> 00:08:02,081 Speaker 2: those little bits and bobs as I'd gone over the weekend, 165 00:08:02,121 --> 00:08:04,121 Speaker 2: which I wasn't gonna do because I wanted to enjoy 166 00:08:04,161 --> 00:08:04,601 Speaker 2: my weekend. 167 00:08:05,041 --> 00:08:07,681 Speaker 1: That's exactly right, though you can enjoy your weekend. 168 00:08:07,921 --> 00:08:09,641 Speaker 3: Do you know how many kids would just get thrown 169 00:08:09,681 --> 00:08:12,921 Speaker 3: to wolves, Like they'd be like, Okay, have a great 170 00:08:13,001 --> 00:08:15,521 Speaker 3: three days, like mom and Dad wouldn't be sitting down 171 00:08:15,601 --> 00:08:19,961 Speaker 3: trying to micromanage their calendar with like other parents would 172 00:08:20,001 --> 00:08:20,481 Speaker 3: just go. 173 00:08:20,521 --> 00:08:21,041 Speaker 1: See you later. 174 00:08:21,521 --> 00:08:24,921 Speaker 2: What I realized they rage from what they were able 175 00:08:25,001 --> 00:08:27,681 Speaker 2: to do and the lack of a chat they needed 176 00:08:27,721 --> 00:08:30,201 Speaker 2: to have over the weekend is that they actually were 177 00:08:30,241 --> 00:08:31,801 Speaker 2: completely fine. They did. 178 00:08:31,921 --> 00:08:34,521 Speaker 3: You probably don't need to micromanage for now. For now, 179 00:08:34,841 --> 00:08:37,040 Speaker 3: let them sort out whether But I mean, like it's 180 00:08:37,121 --> 00:08:39,201 Speaker 3: very clear and that Amelia is going to be the 181 00:08:39,201 --> 00:08:42,561 Speaker 3: one with the old uber so do when she gets 182 00:08:42,561 --> 00:08:43,081 Speaker 3: a license? 183 00:08:43,281 --> 00:08:45,601 Speaker 2: Yeah, And so the only thing that did happen is 184 00:08:45,921 --> 00:08:49,401 Speaker 2: we were getting home and there was a big storm, 185 00:08:49,641 --> 00:08:52,201 Speaker 2: as we know in Brisbane, and so we've had to 186 00:08:52,241 --> 00:08:55,361 Speaker 2: wait at the airport because the ground stuff weren't allowed 187 00:08:55,401 --> 00:08:57,001 Speaker 2: to go out and get the bags off the plane. 188 00:08:57,041 --> 00:08:59,881 Speaker 2: So we're just in the airport. It's chaos, but it's fine. 189 00:09:00,561 --> 00:09:03,761 Speaker 2: And Holly is driving to work in the storm. So 190 00:09:03,801 --> 00:09:06,361 Speaker 2: I'm trying to work that out. I'm like, just find 191 00:09:06,361 --> 00:09:10,561 Speaker 2: an underground car park, stay sheltered, cool work, they'll understand 192 00:09:10,681 --> 00:09:13,281 Speaker 2: kind of thing. Amelia is at home, she's having a meltdown. 193 00:09:13,401 --> 00:09:16,201 Speaker 3: I was like, mate, you've got nothing to complain about us. 194 00:09:16,241 --> 00:09:17,641 Speaker 1: You're the one that's fine. 195 00:09:17,721 --> 00:09:18,441 Speaker 3: You're at home. 196 00:09:18,641 --> 00:09:20,561 Speaker 2: You're in the best position out of all of us. 197 00:09:20,921 --> 00:09:24,841 Speaker 2: We eventually get home, Rache it's probably about five thirty 198 00:09:24,921 --> 00:09:28,921 Speaker 2: six pm something like that, and Hi, Miil, you know, 199 00:09:30,121 --> 00:09:34,201 Speaker 2: and then Bella the dog is so excited, so so excited, 200 00:09:35,001 --> 00:09:37,521 Speaker 2: and I was like, has she had dinner yet? Amelia 201 00:09:37,561 --> 00:09:41,401 Speaker 2: turns around and goes, oh, she hasn't had breakfast. 202 00:09:42,201 --> 00:09:43,881 Speaker 1: What do you mean just have breakfast? 203 00:09:44,121 --> 00:09:45,041 Speaker 3: Oh no? 204 00:09:45,921 --> 00:09:49,281 Speaker 1: I was like, ah, dog, that thing called a dog. 205 00:09:49,361 --> 00:09:53,361 Speaker 1: You know, I haven't better for three days. No, there's 206 00:09:53,401 --> 00:09:55,121 Speaker 1: Bella in the corner, rolled over. 207 00:09:58,161 --> 00:10:00,761 Speaker 2: So what I realize is that they are perfectly able 208 00:10:01,161 --> 00:10:04,921 Speaker 2: to sort themselves out over the weekends. They are very independent. 209 00:10:05,521 --> 00:10:07,441 Speaker 2: They just might kill the dog in the process. 210 00:10:07,521 --> 00:10:08,921 Speaker 1: Yeah, I was like, what about the cat? Did she 211 00:10:08,961 --> 00:10:12,681 Speaker 1: get fed or at that? That's it.