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Speaker 1: This is the fitsy and with her with Kate Richie podcast.

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Speaker 2: How far do you take a joke? I mean, where

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Speaker 2: is the line? You know, We've played a few jokes

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Speaker 2: on each other over the years, fits you know, whether

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Speaker 2: it's dacking or jumping out from around the corner. I

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Speaker 2: think at one stage, I got a giant Oreo chocolate

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Speaker 2: biscuit and slammed your head together.

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Speaker 1: That was funny. Now the people liked it.

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Speaker 2: YouTube went off and everyone clapped. This, unfortunately, hasn't gone

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Speaker 2: too well for a banker who's now suing the business

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Speaker 2: because look, when she was hired, she already had a

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Speaker 2: couple of issues. She had a general anxiety issue. She

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Speaker 2: also had an autoimmune disorder and vertigo. Now, I don't

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Speaker 2: know how much that plays into the impact of the

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Speaker 2: joke that was played on her, but she's now turned around.

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Speaker 2: She's got legal advice. She's saying you took her too

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Speaker 2: far and I want your money. They found out that

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Speaker 2: she as they got to know her she started working there,

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Speaker 2: they found out that she has one age of fear.

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Speaker 2: And it was strange because you can kind of see

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Speaker 2: this through horror films, but it's dolls. She has a

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Speaker 2: fear of dolls, which casually came up in a conversation

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Speaker 2: one Friday afternoon when they were having drinks after work.

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Speaker 2: Cut to Monday morning. One of the guys has gone

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Speaker 2: home and he said, you know what, guys, I've got

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Speaker 2: a beauty. I have a Chucky doll at home from

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Speaker 2: the movie from Child's Play, I've got a Chucky doll.

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Speaker 2: When she gets into work on Monday, You're gonna love this.

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Speaker 2: Get your cameras ready. I'm going to put it in

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Speaker 2: her chair. So when she arrives, she goes to sit down.

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Speaker 1: Bang, Chucky.

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Speaker 2: Remember the Chucky movie when they went paintball shooting and

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Speaker 2: he swapped out the paintballs for real bullets.

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Speaker 3: I can't remember that, Chucky.

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Speaker 4: There's two things that I blathe more.

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Speaker 3: First of all, number one, he's a banker, and number two,

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Speaker 3: he's got a Chucky doll at home. Yeah, like what

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Speaker 3: he has too that I would love to hang out with.

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Speaker 1: What do you want to do? More interest rates or

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Speaker 1: Chucky dolls?

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Speaker 2: So anyway, she's come to work, seen the Tucky doll

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Speaker 2: on the chair, freaked out, screamed, has run out of

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Speaker 2: the building and has not returned to work.

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Speaker 4: Well that's fair enough, is it? I mean, it's how

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Speaker 4: do you get away with that? If she sues? I mean,

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Speaker 4: how much can you get away with? It was just

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Speaker 4: a prank.

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Speaker 1: It's a laugh.

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Speaker 4: You're gonna laugh at her.

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Speaker 2: The hard party is when they say to him, are

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Speaker 2: you aware that she has a fear of dolls?

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Speaker 1: Maybe maybe you're on a door. I don't have to

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Speaker 1: answer that. Well, that's the doll talking. Oh are you

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Speaker 1: are your ventriloquest?

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Speaker 4: Ah?

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Speaker 1: So I remember what.

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Speaker 2: There was a girl that worked here to me, we

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Speaker 2: had a bit of an incident because she had a

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Speaker 2: fear of fish and we had a.

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Speaker 4: Like it's not good that we worked next to the fishman. No,

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Speaker 4: but we had never come in. We had a taxi derby.

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Speaker 2: Piranha in the office and I walked up to her

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Speaker 2: tapped her on the shoulder. She turned around and I

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Speaker 2: was holding the piranha. Now she ran from the building

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Speaker 2: that day. Tom actually screamed multiple times and instantly began sobbing. Yes,

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Speaker 2: so she helped me understand her phobia, which was really

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Speaker 2: good because I got an education that day because I

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Speaker 2: realized that right, well that's true.

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Speaker 1: She wasn't making it up. So but through that test.

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Speaker 2: There was many meetings and hr issues.

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Speaker 1: Look, she doesn't work here anymore. That's got nothing to

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Speaker 1: do with the fish.

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Speaker 4: Why is it?

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Speaker 2: I don't know why.

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Speaker 3: She just.

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Speaker 2: Didn't you hook up with it. I don't know what

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Speaker 2: you're talking about. So that case is still under roofview.

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Speaker 1: What case?

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Speaker 3: This is?

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Speaker 2: The fits in with Her with Kate Richie podcast. A

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Speaker 2: bit of an interesting chat I had with my wife

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Speaker 2: over the weekend. I'm revealing a little bit more about everything.

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Speaker 3: You're right, I mean, we just heard the Nathan Cleary

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Speaker 3: the Daily mar Yeah.

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Speaker 2: First they'll describe what I'm wearing, and then they'll get

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Speaker 2: a photo of me looking down and say his life's

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Speaker 2: over and I'll.

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Speaker 1: Have to deal with that. Wait for the comments and

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Speaker 1: have a bit of a laugh. Who is he? Never

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Speaker 1: heard of him? Why are you riding this crap?

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Speaker 4: Who?

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Speaker 2: Anybody around the age and I'm talking to the sisterhood

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Speaker 2: here around the age of forty onwards. There's a thing

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Speaker 2: called menopause which can take place in Perry. Menopause is

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Speaker 2: very much a topic of conversation in.

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Speaker 1: My wife's world at the moment. She is Howard's Lasa Tommy,

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Speaker 1: what do you reckon?

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Speaker 4: Lovely Lisa? Forty two?

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Speaker 3: What are you?

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Speaker 1: Ween's her birthday?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, she's a memory. She's a mar Yeah that's

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Speaker 4: right mar.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Thanks mate.

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Speaker 2: Hey, let me know what you're giving her this year. Yeah. Anyway,

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Speaker 2: the conversation was up and we were talking about how

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Speaker 2: tough menopause is, and you know, for somebody going through menopause,

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Speaker 2: it affects everybody differently, but you know, you can go

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Speaker 2: on for ten years and it's a level of depression

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Speaker 2: and I think a lot of people don't understand it.

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Speaker 2: But in the menopause phase. With that, I said to

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Speaker 2: Lisa said, oh, I'm scared that I'm going to be

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Speaker 2: I'm going to change as a person around the house.

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Speaker 1: And I said, all right, well I can help you

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Speaker 1: out there.

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Speaker 5: Why don't we do a deal when you're going through menopause.

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Speaker 4: I'll do a deal.

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Speaker 5: You can go to a health retreat for one week

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Speaker 5: out of every month, right, what so you can catch

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Speaker 5: your breath.

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Speaker 1: Then I had a moment.

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Speaker 4: For one week out of every month.

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Speaker 1: Very generous.

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Speaker 4: That is an unbelievable get.

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Speaker 2: Then I said, well, who's going to do things here

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Speaker 2: and what about me? And then I said, okay, well

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Speaker 2: I'll have a girlfriend that can step in for that

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Speaker 2: week so they can do sort of the girl duties

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Speaker 2: and be part of my life for that week, and

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Speaker 2: then you come back. She moves out, and then we

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Speaker 2: continue on for the.

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Speaker 1: Next three weeks.

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Speaker 4: What like a nanny, But it's nice, it's a girlfriend.

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Speaker 1: Girlfriend anyway, This is I mean, I was a little

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Speaker 1: bit hypothetical, like I'm joking around a little bit. She

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Speaker 1: leans over with her hand and says, deal, now, I

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Speaker 1: don't want a girlfriend.

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Speaker 4: We're just getting a health retreat every three weeks.

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Speaker 1: Mate. Yeah, but hang on a minute. Shouldn't she be

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Speaker 1: worried about me and the other girl? How very quickly

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Speaker 1: the health retreat became more powerful than her concern about

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Speaker 1: her husband with another woman. Imagine if that was reversed

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Speaker 1: and I said.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, a bloke, another bloke can move in for a

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Speaker 5: week while I'm gone over my dead body, like there's

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Speaker 5: absolutely no way I'm letting another man play my role

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Speaker 5: in my house with my wife and family.

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Speaker 1: She within three seconds handout deal what.

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Speaker 3: But it's not It's not like she's woman's coming in

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Speaker 3: to take over that what's happening in the bedroom?

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Speaker 1: Yes, she is. That's a girlfriend.

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Speaker 4: Oh so that was part of the deal, was Well.

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Speaker 3: It's a girlfriend, it's intimate, so it's an open relationship,

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Speaker 3: all the duties.

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Speaker 2: Well for a week only though fits if she comes

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Speaker 2: home early, it's going to throw everything. If you have

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Speaker 2: a deal in your relationship, and maybe it's a little

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Speaker 2: bit different to the conventional marriage. Maybe there's a few

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Speaker 2: rounded edges or a little bit loose here and there.

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Speaker 4: Love Zara's Zarah's given us a girl from Campbelltown.

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Speaker 3: Tell us about your unusual relationship rules, Sarah, We've.

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Speaker 6: Been together probably eleven years now, and we and we

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Speaker 6: have no plans on living together. We're basically married, but

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Speaker 6: there is no no plans on living together.

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Speaker 3: Oh so what are the living arrangements then, Zara? How

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Speaker 3: often would you spend time at his house?

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Speaker 6: Probably about three times a week?

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Speaker 1: Okay, and you have it are the most nights.

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Speaker 6: And sometimes if we feel like it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, why haven't you moved in together?

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Speaker 6: Because, like you talk about the menopause thing, I'm scared

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Speaker 6: of that as well, Like I'm scared of the boots

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Speaker 6: and also like we have different lives, like I have children,

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Speaker 6: and yeah, it's not not any big deal. But just

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Speaker 6: because I like the way that I live in.

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Speaker 2: He makes places, Zarah, no rules, absolutely our rules and

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Speaker 2: no judgment.

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Speaker 4: No rules.

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Speaker 3: Then Zarah, what if Zarah, what about other partners?

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Speaker 4: I mean, have you had a conversation about that?

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Speaker 6: No, Like there's one hundred trust in relationship. It would

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Speaker 6: be together too long. We're like, we're married, but we're

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Speaker 6: just not conventional.

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Speaker 2: See I'm an American guy. The other day, Zarah, he

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Speaker 2: lives in New York, happily married. His wife lives in

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Speaker 2: LA Of course he's heavily married. Probably why it works well,

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Speaker 2: I think so they just have different the different stages

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Speaker 2: of their lives.

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Speaker 1: They love each other and they spend weeks together when.

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Speaker 2: It both works for them.

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Speaker 1: But that's how they do things right.

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Speaker 6: It's love, but it's just a different way.

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Speaker 1: It's a different kind of love.

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Speaker 3: I don't know what you want to be with the

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Speaker 3: one that you love all the time, though.

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Speaker 1: Don't you go through the height if you can't be

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Speaker 1: with the one you love, love the one you're with,

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Speaker 1: you know?

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