1 00:00:00,480 --> 00:00:04,120 Speaker 1: Good a groovers. Hope you're bloody terrific, welcome back. So 2 00:00:04,280 --> 00:00:08,880 Speaker 1: yesterday I kicked off the kind of how to get 3 00:00:08,960 --> 00:00:12,680 Speaker 1: unstuck conversation, how to get out of your own way, 4 00:00:12,720 --> 00:00:16,560 Speaker 1: how to stop self sabotaging, overthinking, how to stop being 5 00:00:16,600 --> 00:00:19,880 Speaker 1: held ransom to your own emotions, and all those things. 6 00:00:21,280 --> 00:00:24,200 Speaker 1: I think this is a really important conversation. I enjoyed it. 7 00:00:25,079 --> 00:00:28,200 Speaker 1: This is the completion of that. Here is part two, 8 00:00:28,520 --> 00:00:30,840 Speaker 1: number four on my how to get unstuck list is 9 00:00:30,960 --> 00:00:34,320 Speaker 1: choose to do what scares you. That is the thing 10 00:00:34,360 --> 00:00:36,520 Speaker 1: that you need to do to create the outcome you want. 11 00:00:37,320 --> 00:00:39,120 Speaker 1: I'm not just talking about what scares you running in 12 00:00:39,159 --> 00:00:40,760 Speaker 1: front of a truck do that, and no, of course not. 13 00:00:40,800 --> 00:00:46,000 Speaker 1: I'm talking about strategic, intelligent, purpose driven facing your fear. 14 00:00:46,680 --> 00:00:51,640 Speaker 1: Be courageous. Your goal is not to be fearless. Your 15 00:00:51,680 --> 00:00:56,600 Speaker 1: goal is not to eradicate all self doubt. Your goal is, 16 00:00:56,920 --> 00:01:00,640 Speaker 1: despite your fear, despite your overthinking, despite your self doubt, 17 00:01:00,680 --> 00:01:08,319 Speaker 1: despite your insecurity, do something really fucking brave because you can. 18 00:01:09,480 --> 00:01:12,640 Speaker 1: Because you can. I know you don't want to sometimes, 19 00:01:12,720 --> 00:01:16,200 Speaker 1: I know that you doubt yourself. At the very least, 20 00:01:16,360 --> 00:01:19,320 Speaker 1: you're going to have an experience. You might fuck up, 21 00:01:19,560 --> 00:01:22,679 Speaker 1: you might fall down metaphorically, you might get it wrong, 22 00:01:23,600 --> 00:01:25,000 Speaker 1: and then at the end of that you have a 23 00:01:25,080 --> 00:01:27,920 Speaker 1: challenge by the way. You might get it right, might 24 00:01:27,920 --> 00:01:30,399 Speaker 1: be fucking great. Whatever the outcome is, you're going to 25 00:01:30,440 --> 00:01:34,040 Speaker 1: learn something. You're going to learn something. I've spent years 26 00:01:34,160 --> 00:01:36,480 Speaker 1: doing things that didn't work. In fact, most of the 27 00:01:36,520 --> 00:01:41,800 Speaker 1: things that I tried, at least initially didn't work or 28 00:01:41,840 --> 00:01:43,560 Speaker 1: I got a four out of ten, not a ten 29 00:01:43,600 --> 00:01:46,759 Speaker 1: out of ten outcome, sometimes a minus two out of ten. 30 00:01:48,560 --> 00:01:53,160 Speaker 1: And that is because I knew. I knew that well, 31 00:01:53,200 --> 00:01:55,760 Speaker 1: I didn't know. Actually, I thought that I could probably 32 00:01:55,800 --> 00:01:58,600 Speaker 1: do this thing eventually. But in the moment, at the start, 33 00:01:58,680 --> 00:02:00,800 Speaker 1: I knew that I wouldn't win, that I wouldn't get 34 00:02:00,800 --> 00:02:03,120 Speaker 1: it right. I knew that it wouldn't be perfect. I 35 00:02:03,160 --> 00:02:05,480 Speaker 1: knew that it would be flawed. But I also knew 36 00:02:05,840 --> 00:02:10,480 Speaker 1: that that imperfection and that flaw and that three or 37 00:02:10,520 --> 00:02:14,040 Speaker 1: two out of ten result was a pathway. It was 38 00:02:14,080 --> 00:02:17,840 Speaker 1: a conduit to understanding and skill and development and growth 39 00:02:18,240 --> 00:02:22,840 Speaker 1: and better outcomes. It's in the middle of doing the 40 00:02:22,960 --> 00:02:27,200 Speaker 1: things that scare me that I get better. It's in 41 00:02:27,240 --> 00:02:29,960 Speaker 1: the middle of doing the things that I'm uncomfortable with, 42 00:02:30,000 --> 00:02:33,520 Speaker 1: that I'm unfamiliar with, around which there is little or 43 00:02:33,560 --> 00:02:35,920 Speaker 1: no certainty. It's in the middle of that that I 44 00:02:36,040 --> 00:02:39,919 Speaker 1: become the best version of me. It's in the middle 45 00:02:39,960 --> 00:02:43,080 Speaker 1: of letting fear control me that I become the worst 46 00:02:43,160 --> 00:02:46,799 Speaker 1: version of me, because if I don't manage my fear, 47 00:02:46,919 --> 00:02:50,360 Speaker 1: it will manage me. And I do want to not 48 00:02:50,480 --> 00:02:57,200 Speaker 1: be a prisoner in my own emotions, and neither do you. 49 00:02:58,680 --> 00:03:06,000 Speaker 1: Number five is practical, not sexy, not mind blowing. Number 50 00:03:06,000 --> 00:03:08,840 Speaker 1: five is write yourself for to do list. And that 51 00:03:08,919 --> 00:03:11,240 Speaker 1: might just be two things, that might be two hundred things. 52 00:03:11,320 --> 00:03:15,239 Speaker 1: Let's probably not go with two hundred. Right yourself a 53 00:03:15,360 --> 00:03:19,520 Speaker 1: to do list and fully commit to it, like fully, 54 00:03:20,120 --> 00:03:22,200 Speaker 1: this is me, now, this is what I do. Now, 55 00:03:24,200 --> 00:03:28,880 Speaker 1: remove the escape clause and the safety net, take away 56 00:03:28,880 --> 00:03:33,760 Speaker 1: the get out a jail card. Tell somebody else, perhaps, 57 00:03:34,680 --> 00:03:41,839 Speaker 1: so that now you've got a level of accountability. Take 58 00:03:41,880 --> 00:03:44,400 Speaker 1: the emotion whatever it is that you feel, the thing 59 00:03:44,440 --> 00:03:46,680 Speaker 1: that you want to do, that you're excited about but 60 00:03:46,840 --> 00:03:51,520 Speaker 1: scared to do. And then with that emotion, that excitement, 61 00:03:51,560 --> 00:03:54,280 Speaker 1: that goal, that vision, that dream, that thing that you 62 00:03:54,360 --> 00:03:57,040 Speaker 1: want to change, that thing that you are moved to 63 00:03:57,200 --> 00:04:00,880 Speaker 1: change or do, or be or create. Take that emotion 64 00:04:01,040 --> 00:04:03,920 Speaker 1: and wrap it in a strategy. Wrap it in a plan, 65 00:04:04,040 --> 00:04:07,800 Speaker 1: Wrap it in logic, Wrap it in accountability, wrap it 66 00:04:07,960 --> 00:04:12,480 Speaker 1: in wrap it. I'm not saying rabid wrap wrap, wrap 67 00:04:12,520 --> 00:04:19,160 Speaker 1: it in something which is almost impossible for you to 68 00:04:19,560 --> 00:04:27,000 Speaker 1: not operationalize. In other words, do so many people set 69 00:04:27,080 --> 00:04:32,440 Speaker 1: themselves kind of a goal or write themselves a to 70 00:04:32,480 --> 00:04:36,600 Speaker 1: do list, but they're on no level committed. Like if 71 00:04:36,640 --> 00:04:42,640 Speaker 1: I'm fully committed to something, fully committed I mean mentally, emotionally, behaviorally, 72 00:04:42,680 --> 00:04:47,919 Speaker 1: one boots and all. Then on the days when I 73 00:04:47,960 --> 00:04:51,880 Speaker 1: don't feel disciplined, I'm not. I'm not you know, inspired, 74 00:04:52,040 --> 00:04:55,720 Speaker 1: I'm not motivated, I'm not feeling it, I'm not loving it. 75 00:04:55,720 --> 00:04:59,800 Speaker 1: It doesn't matter because I'm fully committed, So barring sickness 76 00:04:59,880 --> 00:05:04,480 Speaker 1: or injury or some unavoidable reason, but barring that, I'm 77 00:05:04,520 --> 00:05:06,320 Speaker 1: doing it. And the reason that I'm doing it is 78 00:05:06,360 --> 00:05:10,720 Speaker 1: because I am fully invested and fully committed to this 79 00:05:10,839 --> 00:05:14,280 Speaker 1: process to create the thing I want to create. And 80 00:05:14,320 --> 00:05:18,080 Speaker 1: we need to get our head around the idea that 81 00:05:18,960 --> 00:05:23,080 Speaker 1: this won't be fun, quick, easy, or painless. And not 82 00:05:23,160 --> 00:05:25,400 Speaker 1: only is that okay, it's fucking great because in the 83 00:05:25,400 --> 00:05:27,919 Speaker 1: middle of all of that, I'm still gonna I'm going 84 00:05:28,000 --> 00:05:30,880 Speaker 1: to create better results anyway because I'm doing the workhead down, 85 00:05:30,920 --> 00:05:34,400 Speaker 1: bum up, I'm focused. But also the bonus and maybe 86 00:05:34,400 --> 00:05:36,240 Speaker 1: even the real gift in the middle of all of this, 87 00:05:36,360 --> 00:05:41,120 Speaker 1: is that I'm becoming better. I am making me a 88 00:05:41,200 --> 00:05:44,560 Speaker 1: stronger me, a better me, a more resilient me, a 89 00:05:44,640 --> 00:05:49,600 Speaker 1: more capable me, a more resourceful creative me, and hopefully 90 00:05:49,680 --> 00:05:53,640 Speaker 1: a better me for others, a better leader, a better communicator, 91 00:05:53,680 --> 00:05:56,720 Speaker 1: a better dad, a better mum, a better sister, a 92 00:05:56,720 --> 00:05:59,560 Speaker 1: better brother, a better friend, a better problem solver, a 93 00:05:59,560 --> 00:06:04,120 Speaker 1: better career. Like this is kind of the refiner's fire, 94 00:06:04,880 --> 00:06:08,440 Speaker 1: where we put ourselves in the fire of that challenge 95 00:06:08,839 --> 00:06:14,039 Speaker 1: and we come out the other side. Ah. So that 96 00:06:14,160 --> 00:06:17,839 Speaker 1: was five and six. Number seven is extricate yourself from 97 00:06:17,920 --> 00:06:23,239 Speaker 1: people who perpetuate your stuckness. Oh, I'll say that again. 98 00:06:24,160 --> 00:06:28,400 Speaker 1: Extricate yourself from the people who from people who perpetuate 99 00:06:28,440 --> 00:06:34,599 Speaker 1: your stuckness. In other words, as much as possible. And 100 00:06:34,640 --> 00:06:36,159 Speaker 1: I know there are a lot of variables around this. 101 00:06:36,279 --> 00:06:38,400 Speaker 1: You say, yeah, cool, Craig, but what if one of 102 00:06:38,400 --> 00:06:41,159 Speaker 1: those people is my partner or my brother, or my 103 00:06:42,160 --> 00:06:45,040 Speaker 1: sister or my barcelma. I get it. And so that's 104 00:06:45,040 --> 00:06:47,880 Speaker 1: why this is global, That's why this is broad and general. 105 00:06:47,920 --> 00:06:50,920 Speaker 1: But as much as possible. When you realize that there 106 00:06:50,960 --> 00:06:54,920 Speaker 1: is a personal person's on planet, you that and we're 107 00:06:54,960 --> 00:06:57,320 Speaker 1: not blaming them, but we realize that perhaps they are 108 00:06:57,360 --> 00:07:03,280 Speaker 1: a contributor. Then either if possible, if possible and appropriate, 109 00:07:03,400 --> 00:07:07,600 Speaker 1: we extricate ourselves from that relationship or that environment, or 110 00:07:07,800 --> 00:07:13,240 Speaker 1: we perhaps change the dynamic, that is, we maybe see 111 00:07:13,240 --> 00:07:16,480 Speaker 1: them less, we maybe realize there are certain conversations we 112 00:07:16,560 --> 00:07:19,320 Speaker 1: don't have with them. There are people in my life 113 00:07:19,400 --> 00:07:27,200 Speaker 1: virtue of situation and circumstance who over my journey have 114 00:07:27,360 --> 00:07:32,440 Speaker 1: not been encouraging or supportive, and that's okay, have not 115 00:07:33,080 --> 00:07:36,480 Speaker 1: had faith in me or confidence in me, and have 116 00:07:36,880 --> 00:07:42,640 Speaker 1: at times undermined, questioned, and done a whole lot of 117 00:07:42,680 --> 00:07:47,440 Speaker 1: things that really did not help me to move forward 118 00:07:47,480 --> 00:07:49,640 Speaker 1: to grow to a vole. In fact, if I had 119 00:07:49,920 --> 00:07:52,520 Speaker 1: paid too much attention, and I did pay too much attention, 120 00:07:52,560 --> 00:07:55,040 Speaker 1: but if I hadn't have been able to extricate myself 121 00:07:55,320 --> 00:07:58,680 Speaker 1: from that influence, I would not have done a lot 122 00:07:58,680 --> 00:08:01,320 Speaker 1: of the things I've done. And definitely no high watermark 123 00:08:01,360 --> 00:08:04,080 Speaker 1: for success or post a boyd for success. But I've 124 00:08:04,120 --> 00:08:06,320 Speaker 1: done some really cool things and I'm very happy and 125 00:08:06,360 --> 00:08:10,600 Speaker 1: proud of that. But I realize that there are certain 126 00:08:10,720 --> 00:08:15,200 Speaker 1: people that, although I may have to have a relationship 127 00:08:15,240 --> 00:08:21,040 Speaker 1: with them courtesy of just my life or situation, there 128 00:08:21,040 --> 00:08:24,480 Speaker 1: are certain people that I won't have particular conversations with, 129 00:08:24,560 --> 00:08:27,120 Speaker 1: I won't open certain doors. And that doesn't mean I 130 00:08:27,160 --> 00:08:29,120 Speaker 1: hate those people, are dislike them. It doesn't mean that 131 00:08:29,200 --> 00:08:34,400 Speaker 1: at all. It just means it just means that there 132 00:08:34,440 --> 00:08:37,960 Speaker 1: are there will always be people who don't understand you, 133 00:08:38,280 --> 00:08:45,640 Speaker 1: or your potential, or your possibilities or your vision. And 134 00:08:45,679 --> 00:08:48,520 Speaker 1: that's okay. We're not about hating on people. We're just 135 00:08:48,600 --> 00:08:51,880 Speaker 1: about realizing, okay, I need to And by the way, 136 00:08:51,920 --> 00:08:54,080 Speaker 1: we're not just looking for people who tell us what 137 00:08:54,120 --> 00:08:57,040 Speaker 1: we want to hear. That's the opposite of what we need. 138 00:08:57,920 --> 00:09:03,120 Speaker 1: But we're talking about people who people who genuinely love 139 00:09:03,200 --> 00:09:05,600 Speaker 1: us and care about us and will support us but 140 00:09:05,720 --> 00:09:10,840 Speaker 1: also give us intelligent, critical feedback, you know, when required. 141 00:09:11,559 --> 00:09:13,679 Speaker 1: So we don't need the haters, and we don't need 142 00:09:13,720 --> 00:09:17,840 Speaker 1: the over the top, gushy, backslapping, you know support group. 143 00:09:17,920 --> 00:09:20,840 Speaker 1: We don't need that because that can create problems of itself. 144 00:09:21,679 --> 00:09:24,760 Speaker 1: But just realize that who you hang around with matters. 145 00:09:26,120 --> 00:09:28,200 Speaker 1: In other words, hang out with people who drag you up, 146 00:09:28,880 --> 00:09:31,080 Speaker 1: so that I kind of meshed seven and eight there. 147 00:09:31,120 --> 00:09:34,840 Speaker 1: So number nine is this, do new things again? What 148 00:09:34,840 --> 00:09:37,400 Speaker 1: are we talking about? We're talking about getting unstuck. Do 149 00:09:37,559 --> 00:09:43,320 Speaker 1: new things, step into unfamiliar territory. I know that when 150 00:09:43,440 --> 00:09:46,480 Speaker 1: I do new things with new people in new environments, 151 00:09:47,440 --> 00:09:50,520 Speaker 1: I expose myself to new ideas. I expose myself to 152 00:09:51,600 --> 00:09:55,480 Speaker 1: even different cultures and conversations and people when I do 153 00:09:55,559 --> 00:10:01,960 Speaker 1: something unme all of a sudden, I'm doing something new 154 00:10:02,120 --> 00:10:04,600 Speaker 1: in a way that I've never done it, perhaps different place, 155 00:10:05,240 --> 00:10:09,520 Speaker 1: different experiences, and it opens my brain. It makes me 156 00:10:09,679 --> 00:10:12,320 Speaker 1: realize that I've been living in a corridor or an 157 00:10:12,360 --> 00:10:17,440 Speaker 1: echo chamber. At times, when we have new experiences, it 158 00:10:17,600 --> 00:10:21,160 Speaker 1: exposes us to things that we are generally not exposed 159 00:10:21,200 --> 00:10:24,880 Speaker 1: to in our day to day. Sometimes it builds or 160 00:10:25,480 --> 00:10:30,320 Speaker 1: arouses curiosity. Sometimes it creates awareness or insights. Sometimes it 161 00:10:30,360 --> 00:10:35,400 Speaker 1: gives us a different understanding. Sometimes it creates momentum. You know, 162 00:10:35,440 --> 00:10:38,240 Speaker 1: for example, the amount of people that I have worked 163 00:10:38,280 --> 00:10:41,360 Speaker 1: with over the years that have done something physical which 164 00:10:41,440 --> 00:10:45,440 Speaker 1: was a challenge for the first time, and I coached 165 00:10:45,480 --> 00:10:47,920 Speaker 1: them towards that. They did the work, they did the event, 166 00:10:47,960 --> 00:10:50,160 Speaker 1: they got the outcome, not me, but I supported and 167 00:10:50,280 --> 00:10:53,120 Speaker 1: coached them towards that. So somebody who'd never run in 168 00:10:53,160 --> 00:10:58,479 Speaker 1: their life, never run one kilometer, always considered themselves unfit, unhealthy, 169 00:10:58,559 --> 00:11:03,320 Speaker 1: a complete non athlete. People love trained up to eventually 170 00:11:03,360 --> 00:11:06,320 Speaker 1: do marathons, but even say a ten k or a 171 00:11:06,360 --> 00:11:11,280 Speaker 1: five k fun run, when something amazing happens, when people 172 00:11:11,360 --> 00:11:15,840 Speaker 1: do shit that they never thought they could do and 173 00:11:15,880 --> 00:11:20,040 Speaker 1: they get unstuck, they get unstuck, they get out of 174 00:11:20,800 --> 00:11:27,400 Speaker 1: the groundhog danus of overthinking to an extent anyway, But 175 00:11:27,520 --> 00:11:30,400 Speaker 1: what it does is it opens It opens new doors. 176 00:11:30,679 --> 00:11:35,520 Speaker 1: It opens possibilities and understanding of possibilities and understanding of potential. 177 00:11:35,800 --> 00:11:39,200 Speaker 1: Because when people do something that they never thought they 178 00:11:39,200 --> 00:11:42,160 Speaker 1: could do, instantly they have a new belief or the 179 00:11:42,160 --> 00:11:44,240 Speaker 1: belief is I can run a marathon. I know because 180 00:11:44,240 --> 00:11:47,199 Speaker 1: I just ran one, or a half marathon. The belief 181 00:11:47,320 --> 00:11:50,240 Speaker 1: is like, oh wow, I actually have more capacity and 182 00:11:50,320 --> 00:11:53,640 Speaker 1: more potential than I believed. I got it wrong? What 183 00:11:53,679 --> 00:11:56,960 Speaker 1: else did I get wrong? If I can do this, 184 00:11:57,160 --> 00:12:00,240 Speaker 1: what else can I do if I can get out 185 00:12:00,280 --> 00:12:02,679 Speaker 1: of my own way and run a marathon, or register 186 00:12:02,760 --> 00:12:05,120 Speaker 1: a business, or build a business, or do a degree, 187 00:12:05,360 --> 00:12:09,920 Speaker 1: or lose thirty kilos or menda relationship or overcome a 188 00:12:09,960 --> 00:12:13,319 Speaker 1: distractive habit. If I can do that, what else can 189 00:12:13,360 --> 00:12:16,640 Speaker 1: I do? And it's in the doing of especially new 190 00:12:16,679 --> 00:12:22,760 Speaker 1: things that we've never tried, that we change and that 191 00:12:22,840 --> 00:12:26,840 Speaker 1: we open new doors and we create momentum. You know, 192 00:12:27,080 --> 00:12:31,559 Speaker 1: it seems I'm kind of weird perhaps that I say 193 00:12:31,600 --> 00:12:35,880 Speaker 1: I'm not particularly academic, But I'm not particularly academic. That's 194 00:12:35,960 --> 00:12:38,679 Speaker 1: just the truth. But I'm in the middle of this 195 00:12:38,760 --> 00:12:43,920 Speaker 1: academic journey right now. And apart from the you know, 196 00:12:44,000 --> 00:12:47,560 Speaker 1: the work and hopefully we'll see, hopefully the outcome of 197 00:12:47,559 --> 00:12:50,440 Speaker 1: a PhD and all of that stuff, which is, you know, interesting, 198 00:12:50,559 --> 00:12:53,040 Speaker 1: and I guess the good achievement and all that, But 199 00:12:53,160 --> 00:12:56,240 Speaker 1: you know what's really interesting for me is I just 200 00:12:56,440 --> 00:12:59,280 Speaker 1: know so much different stuff now. I just have a 201 00:12:59,280 --> 00:13:03,880 Speaker 1: different insight. And I'm not a better person than I was, 202 00:13:03,920 --> 00:13:06,920 Speaker 1: but I've had in the last four years of my 203 00:13:06,960 --> 00:13:13,280 Speaker 1: PhD journey, so many new experiences, new conversations, new insights 204 00:13:13,320 --> 00:13:18,800 Speaker 1: in new environments, being exposed to new ideas, and just 205 00:13:19,000 --> 00:13:22,200 Speaker 1: so much stuff that is so different from the rest 206 00:13:22,240 --> 00:13:26,439 Speaker 1: of my life that it's fucking mind blowing. And it 207 00:13:26,679 --> 00:13:30,680 Speaker 1: just and honestly like, what are we now do I'm 208 00:13:30,720 --> 00:13:35,600 Speaker 1: sixty next month, which is fucking ridiculous. But I've never 209 00:13:35,679 --> 00:13:39,720 Speaker 1: been maybe I've been this excited, but I've never been 210 00:13:39,760 --> 00:13:45,840 Speaker 1: more excited. I don't think I've never been more curious, 211 00:13:46,520 --> 00:13:50,560 Speaker 1: like to do, to keep learning, to keep evolving, to 212 00:13:50,720 --> 00:13:54,320 Speaker 1: keep optimizing everything from my body to my brain, to 213 00:13:54,360 --> 00:13:58,600 Speaker 1: my knowledge, to my performance, to my emotional state, to 214 00:13:58,679 --> 00:14:01,880 Speaker 1: my outcomes, to my relifeationships, to my business and brand 215 00:14:01,920 --> 00:14:05,760 Speaker 1: and all of those things. I'm so fucking excited because 216 00:14:05,800 --> 00:14:11,720 Speaker 1: my life is well. Fortunately, yeah, fortunately, I'm very blessed 217 00:14:11,760 --> 00:14:15,520 Speaker 1: and very lucky. I acknowledge that. But at the same time, 218 00:14:15,600 --> 00:14:20,000 Speaker 1: I've worked like a motherfucker for forty years. I've born 219 00:14:20,040 --> 00:14:22,160 Speaker 1: in a great country with great parents, and so I 220 00:14:22,200 --> 00:14:24,600 Speaker 1: had lots of I had a running start, as most 221 00:14:24,600 --> 00:14:27,920 Speaker 1: of us who were born in Australia did not all. 222 00:14:28,000 --> 00:14:32,600 Speaker 1: But it's for me a lifetime of doing new things 223 00:14:32,720 --> 00:14:37,080 Speaker 1: and to stepping into unfamiliar territory, to exposing myself to 224 00:14:37,760 --> 00:14:42,760 Speaker 1: new things, hard things, difficult, unfamiliar things. For me, that's 225 00:14:42,840 --> 00:14:50,320 Speaker 1: what's kept me unstuck, opening businesses, building, helping build an industry, 226 00:14:50,400 --> 00:14:55,280 Speaker 1: personal training, writing the first course, writing books, getting books 227 00:14:55,360 --> 00:14:59,160 Speaker 1: published and distributed, working on the radio, working in television, 228 00:14:59,720 --> 00:15:02,280 Speaker 1: going back to or start doing my first degree at 229 00:15:02,320 --> 00:15:05,000 Speaker 1: thirty six years of age, going back at fifty six, 230 00:15:05,920 --> 00:15:11,480 Speaker 1: you know, for another crack, just this capacity that we 231 00:15:11,680 --> 00:15:16,720 Speaker 1: all have to just keep doing new things, having new experiences, 232 00:15:17,480 --> 00:15:21,640 Speaker 1: that we might keep growing and learning and evolving. Number 233 00:15:21,640 --> 00:15:24,560 Speaker 1: ten is a bit deep and philosophical, but that's me 234 00:15:24,680 --> 00:15:27,160 Speaker 1: tap into you. Number ten is tap into your internal 235 00:15:27,800 --> 00:15:31,960 Speaker 1: sat Nab. And if you know me, you've heard this 236 00:15:32,080 --> 00:15:34,920 Speaker 1: term many times. Your internal sat Nab is that kind 237 00:15:34,960 --> 00:15:41,720 Speaker 1: of knowing, that wisdom, that insight, that intelligence that comes 238 00:15:41,760 --> 00:15:46,640 Speaker 1: from I don't know where. Maybe it's instinct, maybe it's intuition, 239 00:15:46,840 --> 00:15:49,000 Speaker 1: maybe it's divine. I don't know what it is. I 240 00:15:49,200 --> 00:15:50,920 Speaker 1: really do not know what it is. But I do 241 00:15:51,040 --> 00:15:54,560 Speaker 1: know that I have that you have. That we all 242 00:15:54,640 --> 00:16:00,480 Speaker 1: have a knowledge, a knowing, and an understanding and a 243 00:16:00,640 --> 00:16:06,800 Speaker 1: level of wisdom and insight that is innate. I'm not 244 00:16:06,840 --> 00:16:09,360 Speaker 1: talking about things that we got taught or things that 245 00:16:09,400 --> 00:16:13,040 Speaker 1: we got told, or I'm not talking about acquired knowledge. 246 00:16:13,840 --> 00:16:17,440 Speaker 1: I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about in the 247 00:16:17,440 --> 00:16:21,120 Speaker 1: middle of the bullshit. There's always this still quiet voice. 248 00:16:21,640 --> 00:16:25,840 Speaker 1: There's always this deep seated knowing of what we should 249 00:16:25,920 --> 00:16:29,560 Speaker 1: do and shouldn't do. And sometimes we just drowned that 250 00:16:29,640 --> 00:16:32,360 Speaker 1: out with noise and with chaos and with busyness and 251 00:16:32,440 --> 00:16:36,160 Speaker 1: booze and drugs and lack of focus and attention. But 252 00:16:36,240 --> 00:16:38,240 Speaker 1: when we can be still, where we can hit the 253 00:16:38,280 --> 00:16:41,720 Speaker 1: pause button, when we can find some space and some 254 00:16:41,920 --> 00:16:48,280 Speaker 1: time and some quiet, then we can realize and come 255 00:16:48,320 --> 00:16:52,640 Speaker 1: to see and understand things that we don't when we're 256 00:16:52,680 --> 00:16:54,800 Speaker 1: in our head, when we're trapped in our head, when 257 00:16:54,840 --> 00:16:57,240 Speaker 1: we're trapped in the momentum and the chaos of life. 258 00:16:59,160 --> 00:17:03,320 Speaker 1: And this requires again, discipline, This requires some time. This 259 00:17:03,440 --> 00:17:05,320 Speaker 1: is not something that you can do in the middle 260 00:17:05,320 --> 00:17:08,840 Speaker 1: of the bullshit. This is something that requires you. Maybe 261 00:17:08,840 --> 00:17:10,959 Speaker 1: it means that five minutes, you know you have fourteen 262 00:17:11,000 --> 00:17:13,920 Speaker 1: hundred and forty minutes a day. Maybe it means five 263 00:17:13,960 --> 00:17:19,280 Speaker 1: minutes you sit somewhere and you try to switch off 264 00:17:19,280 --> 00:17:21,120 Speaker 1: and you just see what comes up for you. You 265 00:17:21,160 --> 00:17:23,200 Speaker 1: just feel what you feel, and maybe you get out 266 00:17:23,200 --> 00:17:25,200 Speaker 1: of your head and maybe you get into your heart. 267 00:17:26,000 --> 00:17:29,359 Speaker 1: Maybe you see what's going on in there. Number eleven, 268 00:17:29,359 --> 00:17:31,639 Speaker 1: we've got three more to go. Number eleven is keep trying. 269 00:17:32,040 --> 00:17:33,679 Speaker 1: And that's one of those things you think, well, you 270 00:17:33,680 --> 00:17:35,680 Speaker 1: wouldn't have to say that, But the truth is people 271 00:17:35,720 --> 00:17:38,800 Speaker 1: don't keep trying. The truth is people try and then 272 00:17:38,840 --> 00:17:42,600 Speaker 1: they stop. But if they kept trying, and they kept trying, 273 00:17:42,600 --> 00:17:46,200 Speaker 1: and they improvised and adapted, you know, and overcame and 274 00:17:46,320 --> 00:17:49,720 Speaker 1: survived and just figured it out and fell down and 275 00:17:49,760 --> 00:17:52,560 Speaker 1: got up and fell down and got up and you know, 276 00:17:52,720 --> 00:17:56,280 Speaker 1: fucked up and got back up, and you know, sometimes 277 00:17:56,320 --> 00:17:59,880 Speaker 1: it just comes down to not giving up. That's not set, 278 00:18:00,320 --> 00:18:02,680 Speaker 1: that doesn't require three HDS. You didn't need to pay 279 00:18:02,720 --> 00:18:05,800 Speaker 1: for that. But some people just don't give up, and 280 00:18:05,800 --> 00:18:09,160 Speaker 1: they're not, you know, and they outperformed people with more 281 00:18:09,200 --> 00:18:12,320 Speaker 1: talent and skill and a higher IQ and better genetics. 282 00:18:12,960 --> 00:18:16,040 Speaker 1: And I think part of the reason I've done okay 283 00:18:17,320 --> 00:18:20,720 Speaker 1: is that, like and for me, I've said this before, 284 00:18:20,880 --> 00:18:25,200 Speaker 1: because I wasn't the naturally gifted, talented, genetically blessed kid, 285 00:18:26,359 --> 00:18:28,560 Speaker 1: I always had to work harder for everything. I had 286 00:18:28,600 --> 00:18:30,600 Speaker 1: to work harder to get in shape and harder to 287 00:18:30,600 --> 00:18:33,919 Speaker 1: make sporting teams, and harder to get academic results, and 288 00:18:34,000 --> 00:18:37,760 Speaker 1: harder to even fit in socially because I wasn't the 289 00:18:37,880 --> 00:18:41,920 Speaker 1: naturally charming, charismatic, gifted kid. I wasn't that, and so 290 00:18:42,080 --> 00:18:47,959 Speaker 1: my mediocrity in some ways for me was a gift. 291 00:18:48,160 --> 00:18:51,280 Speaker 1: And it was the gift that turned into resilience. It 292 00:18:51,359 --> 00:18:54,639 Speaker 1: was the gift that turned into the capacity that I 293 00:18:54,720 --> 00:18:56,879 Speaker 1: have to keep going to not give up, to be 294 00:18:56,960 --> 00:19:00,720 Speaker 1: able to deal with what many people would call I 295 00:19:00,760 --> 00:19:04,679 Speaker 1: will generally call them insight into you know what's working 296 00:19:04,720 --> 00:19:10,320 Speaker 1: and what's not. Fall down, Get up, Fall down six times, 297 00:19:10,320 --> 00:19:17,720 Speaker 1: get up seven. Number twelve. This is an interesting one. Actually, 298 00:19:18,640 --> 00:19:21,199 Speaker 1: now I'm going to do that one last number, so 299 00:19:21,280 --> 00:19:22,760 Speaker 1: we'll call this one number twelve. You don't know what 300 00:19:22,840 --> 00:19:24,760 Speaker 1: I'm talking about, but I just switched my own list around. 301 00:19:24,800 --> 00:19:28,919 Speaker 1: Number twelve is build a new relationship with discomfort. I 302 00:19:28,960 --> 00:19:32,240 Speaker 1: talk about this too much, probably, but I'm saying this 303 00:19:32,400 --> 00:19:34,639 Speaker 1: for those of you who are relatively new and haven't 304 00:19:34,640 --> 00:19:36,480 Speaker 1: heard much of me. I'm going to tell you that 305 00:19:37,359 --> 00:19:39,960 Speaker 1: our capacity to be able to deal with discomfort and 306 00:19:40,000 --> 00:19:41,760 Speaker 1: do things that we don't want to do and things 307 00:19:41,800 --> 00:19:44,720 Speaker 1: that are not fun, quick, easy, or painless, that is 308 00:19:44,760 --> 00:19:50,320 Speaker 1: a superpower that is a personal development superpower because when 309 00:19:50,359 --> 00:19:55,080 Speaker 1: we can, when we can lean into the discomfort, when 310 00:19:55,119 --> 00:19:59,200 Speaker 1: we can when we can embrace the hard thing, when 311 00:19:59,240 --> 00:20:04,080 Speaker 1: we can choose to physically, mentally, emotionally work against resistance, 312 00:20:04,200 --> 00:20:06,840 Speaker 1: just like we go to the gym, we work against resistance. 313 00:20:06,920 --> 00:20:12,040 Speaker 1: The byproduct is strength. The byproduct is we build resilience 314 00:20:12,080 --> 00:20:14,800 Speaker 1: and capacity and insight. We do a hard thing and 315 00:20:14,840 --> 00:20:19,600 Speaker 1: we develop. And when we are prepared to change our 316 00:20:19,640 --> 00:20:23,560 Speaker 1: relationship with discomfort, that is, we are prepared to lean 317 00:20:23,600 --> 00:20:26,800 Speaker 1: into the pain in an intelligent, strategic, not a reckless 318 00:20:26,840 --> 00:20:30,600 Speaker 1: or silly way, but prepared to embrace pain on a 319 00:20:30,720 --> 00:20:37,160 Speaker 1: daily basis sometimes or embrace discomfort, then we accelerate our growth, 320 00:20:37,480 --> 00:20:41,199 Speaker 1: We accelerate our learning, we accelerate our resilience. Every day 321 00:20:41,240 --> 00:20:43,000 Speaker 1: in my life, I do things that I don't want 322 00:20:43,000 --> 00:20:45,719 Speaker 1: to do, things that are uncomfortable, but things that I 323 00:20:45,800 --> 00:20:48,000 Speaker 1: need to do to live my best life. Every day, 324 00:20:48,920 --> 00:20:50,919 Speaker 1: every day, I do things that if it was just 325 00:20:51,080 --> 00:20:54,159 Speaker 1: up to my comfort level or what I would like 326 00:20:54,240 --> 00:20:57,080 Speaker 1: to do or what is fun or what is convenient, 327 00:20:57,720 --> 00:21:02,720 Speaker 1: there's shit that I would absolutely not do. But because 328 00:21:02,720 --> 00:21:05,560 Speaker 1: of my commitment to being the best version of me. 329 00:21:06,280 --> 00:21:09,239 Speaker 1: I do that stuff on autopilot. I don't overthink it 330 00:21:09,680 --> 00:21:13,159 Speaker 1: because I realize that's the commitment, that's the price that 331 00:21:13,320 --> 00:21:17,200 Speaker 1: I need to invest every day. That's the emotional, physical, 332 00:21:17,320 --> 00:21:19,560 Speaker 1: mental investment that I need to make every day to 333 00:21:19,640 --> 00:21:23,280 Speaker 1: create the outcomes I want to create. And the last one, 334 00:21:23,359 --> 00:21:30,160 Speaker 1: Number thirteen is is is deep. Number thirteen is don't 335 00:21:30,200 --> 00:21:32,920 Speaker 1: ask me why thirteen. I just came up with thirteen points. 336 00:21:33,000 --> 00:21:38,680 Speaker 1: Number thirteen is consiting or mortality. One of the things 337 00:21:38,760 --> 00:21:43,760 Speaker 1: I think about is where I am now, Not in 338 00:21:43,800 --> 00:21:45,720 Speaker 1: a morbid way or a dark way, but where I 339 00:21:45,760 --> 00:21:53,919 Speaker 1: am now in the totality of Craig Harper's life. I 340 00:21:54,000 --> 00:21:56,280 Speaker 1: think about nine am sixty three, and I think about 341 00:21:56,320 --> 00:22:00,320 Speaker 1: twenty twenty three, So nineteen sixty three September. I was 342 00:22:00,359 --> 00:22:04,240 Speaker 1: born September twenty eight, So next month, September twenty eight, 343 00:22:04,280 --> 00:22:08,679 Speaker 1: I'll be sixty And I go, wow, if I'm a 344 00:22:08,720 --> 00:22:13,720 Speaker 1: typical Australian male, whatever that is, but I'm going to 345 00:22:13,800 --> 00:22:18,840 Speaker 1: live if I'm typical to around eighty might be eighty 346 00:22:18,960 --> 00:22:20,840 Speaker 1: one or eighty two, but let's just round it out 347 00:22:20,840 --> 00:22:23,440 Speaker 1: to eighty. So if you go, well, Craig, if you're typical, 348 00:22:24,200 --> 00:22:29,639 Speaker 1: your three quarters done. If I'm typical, let's hope I'm not. 349 00:22:29,720 --> 00:22:31,359 Speaker 1: Let's hope I have a few more years than that. 350 00:22:32,400 --> 00:22:35,160 Speaker 1: But if I'm typical, I have about twenty years to live. Now, 351 00:22:35,160 --> 00:22:37,560 Speaker 1: I know that you might go, oh, that's fucking sad 352 00:22:37,640 --> 00:22:44,000 Speaker 1: or dark or also real. Also potentially that's my reality. Potentially, 353 00:22:44,480 --> 00:22:46,800 Speaker 1: like I said, hopefully I can live longer and better. 354 00:22:46,960 --> 00:22:51,760 Speaker 1: But who knows? And so I think sometimes it's good to, 355 00:22:52,680 --> 00:22:57,120 Speaker 1: albeit somewhat uncomfortable and scary, to think about where am 356 00:22:57,160 --> 00:23:01,960 Speaker 1: I on my journey, on my human journey? How much 357 00:23:02,080 --> 00:23:04,920 Speaker 1: longer on my human journey am I going to wait? 358 00:23:06,680 --> 00:23:10,440 Speaker 1: How much longer am I going to feed myself bullshit, 359 00:23:10,800 --> 00:23:16,680 Speaker 1: either cognitively, emotionally or literally eating shit crap food? How 360 00:23:16,760 --> 00:23:19,960 Speaker 1: much longer am I going to waste my time, my talent, 361 00:23:20,040 --> 00:23:23,720 Speaker 1: my potential? Am I going to do it till I'm seventy? 362 00:23:23,840 --> 00:23:27,320 Speaker 1: Am I going to do it till I just dropped dead? 363 00:23:27,359 --> 00:23:32,200 Speaker 1: One day? Like? What? In the context of what really 364 00:23:32,240 --> 00:23:34,879 Speaker 1: matters to me, in the context of the totality of 365 00:23:34,920 --> 00:23:38,200 Speaker 1: my life? This is my only life. I can't get 366 00:23:38,200 --> 00:23:41,680 Speaker 1: another one, I can't get another body. And so for me, 367 00:23:41,760 --> 00:23:46,440 Speaker 1: who looks at the you know, just I once drew 368 00:23:46,480 --> 00:23:49,080 Speaker 1: a dot on the left hand side of my white board, 369 00:23:49,080 --> 00:23:52,280 Speaker 1: a dot on the right, and then I kind of 370 00:23:52,600 --> 00:23:54,840 Speaker 1: I've figured out my timeline where I was at, and 371 00:23:54,880 --> 00:23:57,280 Speaker 1: I looked at the context of the totality of my 372 00:23:57,320 --> 00:24:00,240 Speaker 1: life based on eighty years, and you know that that 373 00:24:00,320 --> 00:24:05,639 Speaker 1: line was three quarters complete. I'm like, wow. And of 374 00:24:05,680 --> 00:24:07,720 Speaker 1: course there are a few variables that hopefully I can 375 00:24:07,760 --> 00:24:11,560 Speaker 1: influence and control about doing the next twenty years or longer, 376 00:24:11,560 --> 00:24:17,719 Speaker 1: perhaps better. But this is great, sometimes as uncomfortable as 377 00:24:17,720 --> 00:24:19,480 Speaker 1: it might be, but it is great to step back 378 00:24:19,520 --> 00:24:24,520 Speaker 1: and go, fuck my life, my life, what am I doing? Like, 379 00:24:24,800 --> 00:24:27,760 Speaker 1: where am I at? What's going on with my job 380 00:24:27,840 --> 00:24:30,280 Speaker 1: and me and my relationships and my body and my staff, 381 00:24:30,320 --> 00:24:33,679 Speaker 1: and my happiness and my purpose and my reason and 382 00:24:34,200 --> 00:24:37,320 Speaker 1: my spiritual life and my religion norm whatever it is 383 00:24:37,359 --> 00:24:42,200 Speaker 1: that matters to you, Like one day, you and I 384 00:24:42,760 --> 00:24:45,359 Speaker 1: we ain't going to be here, yeah, and we need 385 00:24:45,400 --> 00:24:47,639 Speaker 1: to think about well, we don't need to do anything, 386 00:24:47,680 --> 00:24:51,280 Speaker 1: but I'm keen on figuring out, Okay, what am I 387 00:24:51,359 --> 00:24:53,399 Speaker 1: going to do? Be? Create? Change? What am I going 388 00:24:53,440 --> 00:24:55,199 Speaker 1: to do in the next twenty or thirty years? And 389 00:24:55,280 --> 00:24:58,240 Speaker 1: it's not all about ticking boxes and achieving, and it's 390 00:24:58,280 --> 00:25:00,280 Speaker 1: not all about that. I also want to have I 391 00:25:00,359 --> 00:25:03,680 Speaker 1: also want to laugh. I also want joy. I also 392 00:25:03,760 --> 00:25:06,840 Speaker 1: want to watch Netflix and ride motorbikes and fucking hang 393 00:25:06,880 --> 00:25:10,080 Speaker 1: out with friends. But at the same time, I want 394 00:25:10,080 --> 00:25:13,560 Speaker 1: to be the best version of me. I want to 395 00:25:13,600 --> 00:25:16,760 Speaker 1: live as long as I can optimally. I want to 396 00:25:16,760 --> 00:25:18,520 Speaker 1: eat great food. I want to live in a great body. 397 00:25:18,520 --> 00:25:20,840 Speaker 1: I want to I want to have a great, healthy mind. 398 00:25:20,880 --> 00:25:23,439 Speaker 1: I want a healthy brain. I want healthy relationships. I 399 00:25:23,440 --> 00:25:27,720 Speaker 1: want to do shit that's rewarding, fulfilling, and fun. I 400 00:25:27,720 --> 00:25:33,120 Speaker 1: don't want to let father time or mother nature take 401 00:25:33,160 --> 00:25:36,600 Speaker 1: a hold. There are things that I can do to 402 00:25:36,640 --> 00:25:39,960 Speaker 1: self regulate and self manage, which means I can live 403 00:25:40,080 --> 00:25:45,159 Speaker 1: longer for better if I do certain things well. I 404 00:25:45,200 --> 00:25:47,800 Speaker 1: feel like that was worth sharing. I'm not sure if 405 00:25:47,800 --> 00:25:50,760 Speaker 1: it was worth listening to. I enjoyed sharing it with you. 406 00:25:51,720 --> 00:25:56,240 Speaker 1: I love your collective guts is enjoy day, over and out.