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Speaker 1: This is the Fits in Whip with Kate Richie podcast.

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Speaker 2: We love to walk, we love to clear our minds,

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Speaker 2: we love to put on a podcast. And you know, Chrissy,

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Speaker 2: I'm into my kids spot or you know stuff Mum

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Speaker 2: never told me.

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Speaker 3: I love these podcasts.

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Speaker 2: The other one that I've been getting into is I've

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Speaker 2: had it. There's I don't know why this has popped

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Speaker 2: up on my feed, but it's.

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Speaker 3: Jennifer Welch and Angie Pump Sullivan.

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Speaker 2: They were two best friends, supporting each other through the

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Speaker 2: ups and downs of life, making each other laugh, from

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Speaker 2: family struggles to addiction to marital dissolution.

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Speaker 4: I then hearing you tuning into this podcast, I've got

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Speaker 4: to ask, have you had your hormones checked?

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Speaker 5: That's a great question.

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Speaker 4: You in Perry, Everyone's.

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Speaker 5: In Perry Perry, Perry Chicken.

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Speaker 3: I haven't been to.

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Speaker 2: So this has popped up on my feed and it

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Speaker 2: scared me a little bit because you know, I've been

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Speaker 2: with BJ for eighteen years now.

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Speaker 3: It's been long term.

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Speaker 2: These two ladies have put out two things that I

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Speaker 2: do that they're saying could be the end of our relationship.

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Speaker 2: Now this was the last I'll start with the last

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Speaker 2: one that they did first.

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Speaker 3: Okay, and this is around Valentine's Day. Have a listen

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Speaker 3: to this.

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Speaker 6: Number Three, the communicating on the internet like a post.

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Speaker 6: Like if I open up my phone on February fourteenth

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Speaker 6: and there is a three paragraph of and how wonderful

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Speaker 6: he is and how much you love them, I immediately

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Speaker 6: know something's up. I immediately know.

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Speaker 3: I agree. I think that is right up there. Split

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Speaker 3: in hairs with val renewal.

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Speaker 2: See people who I like to do this every now

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Speaker 2: and then, maybe for Bjay's birthday or for an anniversary whip.

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Speaker 3: You do it every now and then, tell me really

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Speaker 3: with it?

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Speaker 7: It's never extensive. I'll say things like I'll make a

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Speaker 7: slight joke, I say, I.

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Speaker 5: Love you as much as I love sandwiches or toasted.

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Speaker 3: See, I'm a bit something.

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Speaker 5: But I won't go into any level of depth because

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Speaker 5: I don't.

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Speaker 7: I don't think there's I don't see social media as

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Speaker 7: a place for that.

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Speaker 5: I mean, people like to do it, and sometimes I

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Speaker 5: read it going why do you continue to do this?

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Speaker 5: What are you trying to prove? And who do you

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Speaker 5: want to tell?

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Speaker 4: When I read them, I go, why do I know this?

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Speaker 4: Do you know what? I mean, like, why do I

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Speaker 4: know how you feel about your partner? I hope that

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Speaker 4: you told him or her sort of a supplementary number.

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Speaker 5: But you don't it for a surprise for them to see.

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Speaker 3: I mean, can I give you my reason why? Idea?

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Speaker 2: And this is coming from a guy, and we talk

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Speaker 2: about guys opening.

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Speaker 3: Up a little bit more as well, I see it.

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Speaker 2: I don't know it's because a lot of guys, first

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Speaker 2: of all, don't like to do it, because the older

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Speaker 2: generation see it as a sign of weakness to tell

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Speaker 2: everyone how.

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Speaker 3: Do you feel about your wife? No, but without a

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Speaker 3: doubt generation definitely.

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Speaker 2: My old man never did anything like this, never said

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Speaker 2: anything like this to my mother at all.

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Speaker 7: What I always think about those old quotes that you

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Speaker 7: see of older blokes saying, you know, the best decision

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Speaker 7: you'll make in your life is who you marry, and

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Speaker 7: that you know, the greatest thing behind any good man

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Speaker 7: is a great woman.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, you know, they're very old from old people that have.

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Speaker 2: Bat That's totally different to actually going out and broadcasting

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Speaker 2: how much that person means to you and to everybody else.

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Speaker 2: And this is the funny thing. They don't even do

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Speaker 2: it to their own partners because they don't show their

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Speaker 2: own emotion.

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Speaker 5: Or they struggle with communication, don't they that generation?

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Speaker 2: Hey, well, this is the one I want to focus

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Speaker 2: on because we've actually spoken about this. I mean we're

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Speaker 2: eighteen years so in a couple of years we're coming

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Speaker 2: up to twenty.

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Speaker 5: Now, are how excited to partners?

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Speaker 2: I want to get your thoughts on this and be

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Speaker 2: totally honest with me. But this is from the podcast

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Speaker 2: and they're saying this is the end of a relationship

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Speaker 2: if a couple do this.

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Speaker 6: Biggest red flag in a marriage. I mean, the biggest

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Speaker 6: bonan is a vowel renewal.

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Speaker 3: I think that's that's my one.

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Speaker 6: I know immediately within five years you're going to be divorced.

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Speaker 3: Like it's not even close.

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Speaker 2: So thirteen twenty fourteen. Vow renewals, like, have you been

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Speaker 2: to some before? Have you done them yourself? Is it

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Speaker 2: a sign? Are you trying to salvage your relationship or

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Speaker 2: is it I see it as an excuse just to

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Speaker 2: have another party.

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Speaker 5: I see a lot of people pull a face at

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Speaker 5: the idea. It's not for me. I don't think it's

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Speaker 5: necessary so much so.

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Speaker 7: I was at a fortieth not long ago and the

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Speaker 7: couple got up to make a speech and they said, surprise, we're.

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Speaker 5: Going to do a vow renewal. And then we're only joking.

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Speaker 5: We know everybody hates that, And did you just open up?

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Speaker 4: You?

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Speaker 5: Everybody started why that? Yeah, yeah, let's go. How quickly

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Speaker 5: can I get on a line bike?

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Speaker 7: No, they were joking, Swanny because they knew everybody hated it.

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Speaker 7: And I look, I understand if you if you capture

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Speaker 7: the moment and you're in love and you're there, I

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Speaker 7: don't have an issue with it. If you want to

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Speaker 7: celebrate it, by all means, go for it. It's not

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Speaker 7: for me.

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Speaker 4: Love the idea, I really love the idea. I mean,

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Speaker 4: I've never had the initial wedding, but I would say

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Speaker 4: that fits for you. After twenty years, I get the

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Speaker 4: feeling that you two, it's very rare, you still really

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Speaker 4: like each other, and you would marry each other again

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Speaker 4: if you met each other.

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Speaker 3: When you do it, you met each other.

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Speaker 4: Now, do you know what I mean? The closest I've

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Speaker 4: got is sometimes I look around my house and I

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Speaker 4: you know which cost me a fortune? And I go,

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Speaker 4: would I buy you again if I inspected you today?

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Speaker 5: Yes, I would I.

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Speaker 2: Do like that.

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Speaker 4: It's a bit of our renewal to my house every

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Speaker 4: time the mortgage comes out. But you're the same, you're

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Speaker 4: the I support your vow renewal.

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Speaker 7: Fitz Okay, yeah, if you want to do it. Michelle

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Speaker 7: in Parramatta, what do you think is this true? Is

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Speaker 7: a relationship doomed with a five years if somebody does this.

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Speaker 1: I don't believe that at all. I no, I've not

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Speaker 1: even been married two years yet, but I would quite

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Speaker 1: happily do it in twenty years time. And I know

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Speaker 1: a lot of people that have and they're still together today.

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Speaker 5: Oh yeah, there's no heart and fast rule.

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Speaker 2: The only negative too, The only coin I see in

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Speaker 2: it is that you don't want to push your love

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Speaker 2: onto everybody else. But I've always said with a group

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Speaker 2: of friends, if there's any reason, especially when you get

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Speaker 2: to our age.

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Speaker 3: Like we're always we're.

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Speaker 2: Always trying to come up with an excuse to get

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Speaker 2: everybody together. I mean, we're not celebrating twenty first anymore.

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Speaker 2: It's every decade we have our you know, a fortieth

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Speaker 2: or a fiftieth or you get to see each other

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Speaker 2: of our renewal. Like even BJ and I said as

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Speaker 2: a joke. Do you do do you do wedding dresses

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Speaker 2: from op shops? Do you you know what I mean?

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Speaker 2: Does everyone dress up in old suits and in our old

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Speaker 2: wedding dress?

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Speaker 7: You could do that or you could just privately do

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Speaker 7: it if you wanted to tell each other how much

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Speaker 7: you love for each other, but.

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Speaker 5: Then have a party for your twenty year.

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Speaker 3: Yeah you could.

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Speaker 7: You know, Tommy, you you were married in the South

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Speaker 7: of France, right, very exclusive.

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Speaker 5: Congratulations on all your success. But it was just the

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Speaker 5: two of you, just the two of them. So would

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Speaker 5: you go back there to renew your vows?

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Speaker 3: That's a good idea. You do a lope again, tom

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Speaker 3: We're probably a lope again. And then we had I

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Speaker 3: would ask the two women in the hot tub that

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Speaker 3: were watching at the time, does Chrissy know about this?

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Speaker 2: Chrissy when they when the ceremony was on, but Destrom

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Speaker 2: little did they know that there was two ladies hooking

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Speaker 2: up with each other in a jacuzzi line.

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Speaker 3: So I was saying I do, but I don't know

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Speaker 3: who I was saying.

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Speaker 5: Tom, Then you may now kiss which topped it on

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Speaker 5: the knee.

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Speaker 3: Really weirdly got married at Moolong Rouge Sits.

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