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Speaker 2: Welcome back to another episode about I.
Speaker 1: A ad Mom podcast.
Speaker 2: I had a little chuckle to myself, but also a
Speaker 2: little bit of a deep thought process I went through.
Speaker 2: Last night, Jay went out for dinner with mate. He's
Speaker 2: got three kids, but there I want to say, maybe
Speaker 2: twelve ten eight ish ages range. He's divorced, but he's
Speaker 2: got a new girlfriend. She's ten years younger and doesn't
Speaker 2: have children and wants to have kids, and so he
Speaker 2: is late forties.
Speaker 1: Is he contemplating it?
Speaker 2: Yeah, this is a thing. Like day came home and
Speaker 2: told me about this last night. I was like, what
Speaker 2: would you do?
Speaker 3: Do you want my honest opinion or like the podcast opinion,
Speaker 3: My honest opinion would be I would have sex with
Speaker 3: them until I got bored with it, and then I
Speaker 3: would say, thank you very much.
Speaker 1: I'm not interested.
Speaker 3: I'm not interested in reproducing. Again, Katie, I know that, Like,
Speaker 3: maybe that just sounds super insensitive of me, but I
Speaker 3: genuinely have no desire of reproducing as much as I
Speaker 3: love another human being.
Speaker 1: Or then that's what I mean.
Speaker 2: Though, imagine it like hypothetical this is, but imagine if
Speaker 2: you're completely in love, like he's obviously really in love
Speaker 2: with her, she really wants to be a mum.
Speaker 3: It's a really hard one to compromise on. Obviously for him,
Speaker 3: different story male with the female. That female's the one
Speaker 3: that's obviously I don't want to say like doing the
Speaker 3: hard work, but clearly we know who does the hard
Speaker 3: work within a pregnancy. That whole idea of then reproducing
Speaker 3: for him at near fifty, I don't know that I'm
Speaker 3: willing to compromise on that. Everyone's situation is so different,
Speaker 3: and I applaud people that can do it, But for me,
Speaker 3: I wouldn't want to hold them up, Like they're also
Speaker 3: ten years younger, but then they want to reproduce, like
Speaker 3: and have another family together.
Speaker 1: I get that, But like, surely.
Speaker 3: There's someone else that's like thirty and they could do
Speaker 3: it with them as well, Like it makes sense, doesn't
Speaker 3: make sense, It doesn't make sense.
Speaker 2: So you would you would find them someone else to
Speaker 2: have a baby with.
Speaker 3: Here with that stuff, I sort of go, I think,
Speaker 3: when you start talking about like cycles of life, could
Speaker 3: you imagine literally take yourself back into the depths of
Speaker 3: the newborn phase and doing it again. I meet someone
Speaker 3: like ten years younger than me, sorry, this shop has shut.
Speaker 3: I didn't want to compromise for my husband, let alone.
Speaker 1: I just couldn't.
Speaker 2: Like I get it, like I understand, and I think also,
Speaker 2: you forget about how it was and you look at
Speaker 2: newborn babies and like, oh, wouldn't it be cute. At
Speaker 2: the same time, I also feel like I'm almost at freedom.
Speaker 2: I feel freer.
Speaker 3: Yeah, for sure, especially for where you're at with your girls.
Speaker 3: I did have a moment with Elsie going into grade five,
Speaker 3: Gracie starting high school at the start of this year,
Speaker 3: was like, oh, fuck it, just go back for one more.
Speaker 1: You know what. I was thinking, You're just bored. You're bored.
Speaker 1: Your kids still love you. It is okay, Rachel.
Speaker 2: I definitely felt the same when the girls started school
Speaker 2: because they both went at once. And I remember I
Speaker 2: used to go to a gym class with some other
Speaker 2: of the girls that I knew, and they all had
Speaker 2: the oldest going off to school, but they had the youngest,
Speaker 2: and I remember just walking in and then dropping the
Speaker 2: little ones off in the crash and I was like, oh, like,
Speaker 2: I don't have anyone to drop off in there.
Speaker 3: It's kind of like a readjustment of who you are right,
Speaker 3: So there you go. It did cross my mind, and
Speaker 3: then I had a real severe chat with myself and
Speaker 3: smack myself around the head of his crimes and was like,
Speaker 3: you were nearly forty this year age, or get your
Speaker 3: shit together.
Speaker 1: I'm not doing it.
Speaker 2: Honestly, if I found out you were having the baby.
Speaker 3: You were not.
Speaker 2: I were just laugh a lot.
Speaker 1: Am I a bad mum for thinking it was cool?
Speaker 1: It's actually Gracie's idea for.
Speaker 3: This particular topic. So I'm just going to own that
Speaker 3: part because she was like, Mom was pretty messed up.
Speaker 1: Okay, it was a mistake. I'm sorry.
Speaker 3: So on Mondays, what happens for our school routine is
Speaker 3: that Gracie, obviously it's usually a rush.
Speaker 1: On Monday morning. I'm really honest. Yep.
Speaker 3: She left yesterday without her dance bag, so Monday afternoon
Speaker 3: is usually dropped to school, get bus back to said stop,
Speaker 3: then they get collected from the bus stop and then
Speaker 3: she gets dropped directly to dance. So her friend's mum
Speaker 3: came over and was like, I'll grab the bag now
Speaker 3: if you're home, and I can just give it to
Speaker 3: her when I get them from the bus stop and
Speaker 3: drop her to dance. I was like, amazing, Yes, I'll
Speaker 3: just get a leotard. Now, her leotard is like dark purple.
Speaker 3: And as we know in our age group that we're in,
Speaker 3: Nike Pro shorts seemed to be the only thing that
Speaker 3: your child will wear. And so I was like, oh,
Speaker 3: look there's a pair of Nike pros. Pick them up,
Speaker 3: similar color to the leotard, and I thought, gotta work.
Speaker 3: In my head, I was like, gotta work, gotta be cool.
Speaker 3: Shove them in, shove litad, choose wonderful, put some afternoon
Speaker 3: tea in there for a water bottle. Off it goes
Speaker 3: to dance, comes home, she returns home. Let's just say
Speaker 3: six thirty. I happened to be in between finishing off dinner.
Speaker 3: I was in the laundry doing some something.
Speaker 1: Katie.
Speaker 3: She walked in and she added leotard with his shorts on,
Speaker 3: and she goes, mum, and she just like she wasn't angry,
Speaker 3: but she wasn't laughing, and she goes, mum. She goes,
Speaker 3: I don't know what you were thinking. She said, I've
Speaker 3: just spent three hours at dance and all I've got
Speaker 3: cold all day is eggplant. I looked at it, and
Speaker 3: I was like, well, it didn't come off as well
Speaker 3: as in my head what it was going to look like.
Speaker 3: I was like, I'm so sorry, babe. And then she
Speaker 3: burst out laughing.
Speaker 1: And she goes, what were you thinking?
Speaker 3: And I was like, in my head, I was thinking
Speaker 3: it was cool and I was going to look really
Speaker 3: cool together.
Speaker 1: But now that I see it in real life, I'm like,
Speaker 1: I'm really sorry.
Speaker 2: She didn't even make her feel better by going, oh,
Speaker 2: it doesn't look too bad. I was like, did you
Speaker 2: not wonder why that was never a combo that she'd
Speaker 2: put together herself?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Well, I mean now luckily she found the humor in
Speaker 3: it as well, and she goes, mom, eggplant for three hours,
Speaker 3: I said, I don't know to stand an eggplant though,
Speaker 3: Like I find eggplant quite offensive because eggplant is actually
Speaker 3: really different shape to you, and it's a different color,
Speaker 3: and but eggplant whatever, I get it. And then she
Speaker 3: starts burst out laughing at bit more. And then I
Speaker 3: just said to it, I'm so sorry. She goes, Mom,
Speaker 3: all you could have put in was an oversized tea.
Speaker 3: It would have worked perfectly, so it would have just
Speaker 3: broken up the colors. She said, so if you're thinking
Speaker 3: of putting this one together again?
Speaker 1: Can you just put the oversize? And then I went,
Speaker 1: how about you just packed your own bag. Have to
Speaker 1: do it.
Speaker 3: You wouldn't even be called an eggplant because you would
Speaker 3: have packed your own bag, so then it would have.
Speaker 1: Been the right shorts. It's your fault. She goes, Mom,
Speaker 1: it's not cool. I was like, oh, I totally thought
Speaker 1: it was going to look cool, and it does not.
Speaker 2: She's going to need to educate you and what goes
Speaker 2: with what? In the dance draws, this goes with this.
Speaker 2: Don't use your own initiatives. Don't pick what you think
Speaker 2: is gonna look cool.
Speaker 3: Like I live in active wear, genuinely living active wear,
Speaker 3: so I'm quite like when it comes to active wear,
Speaker 3: I'm very like formatted about what goes with what and
Speaker 3: what does not go with what. I just had a
Speaker 3: brain explosion.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and she was called an eggplant for the entire
Speaker 2: dance class. And what we know, which her age group
Speaker 2: hopefully doesn't know, is the eggplan is the emoji for
Speaker 2: a penis. So you let your kick go to dance
Speaker 2: for an hour looking like a penis?
Speaker 3: Oud in my head when she goes, they called me
Speaker 3: an eggplant for three hours and in my head, I
Speaker 3: was like, ex emoji is a penis.
Speaker 1: Don't look like