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<v Speaker 1>Apodja Production.

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<v Speaker 2>Welcome back to another episode about I.

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<v Speaker 1>A ad Mom podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>I had a little chuckle to myself, but also a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit of a deep thought process I went through.

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<v Speaker 2>Last night, Jay went out for dinner with mate. He's

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<v Speaker 2>got three kids, but there I want to say, maybe

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<v Speaker 2>twelve ten eight ish ages range. He's divorced, but he's

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<v Speaker 2>got a new girlfriend. She's ten years younger and doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>have children and wants to have kids, and so he

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<v Speaker 2>is late forties.

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<v Speaker 1>Is he contemplating it?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, this is a thing. Like day came home and

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<v Speaker 2>told me about this last night. I was like, what

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<v Speaker 2>would you do?

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<v Speaker 3>Do you want my honest opinion or like the podcast opinion,

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<v Speaker 3>My honest opinion would be I would have sex with

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<v Speaker 3>them until I got bored with it, and then I

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<v Speaker 3>would say, thank you very much.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not interested.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not interested in reproducing. Again, Katie, I know that, Like,

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<v Speaker 3>maybe that just sounds super insensitive of me, but I

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<v Speaker 3>genuinely have no desire of reproducing as much as I

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<v Speaker 3>love another human being.

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<v Speaker 1>Or then that's what I mean.

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<v Speaker 2>Though, imagine it like hypothetical this is, but imagine if

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<v Speaker 2>you're completely in love, like he's obviously really in love

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<v Speaker 2>with her, she really wants to be a mum.

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<v Speaker 3>It's a really hard one to compromise on. Obviously for him,

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<v Speaker 3>different story male with the female. That female's the one

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<v Speaker 3>that's obviously I don't want to say like doing the

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<v Speaker 3>hard work, but clearly we know who does the hard

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<v Speaker 3>work within a pregnancy. That whole idea of then reproducing

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<v Speaker 3>for him at near fifty, I don't know that I'm

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<v Speaker 3>willing to compromise on that. Everyone's situation is so different,

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<v Speaker 3>and I applaud people that can do it, But for me,

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<v Speaker 3>I wouldn't want to hold them up, Like they're also

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<v Speaker 3>ten years younger, but then they want to reproduce, like

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<v Speaker 3>and have another family together.

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<v Speaker 1>I get that, But like, surely.

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<v Speaker 3>There's someone else that's like thirty and they could do

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<v Speaker 3>it with them as well, Like it makes sense, doesn't

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<v Speaker 3>make sense, It doesn't make sense.

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<v Speaker 2>So you would you would find them someone else to

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<v Speaker 2>have a baby with.

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<v Speaker 3>Here with that stuff, I sort of go, I think,

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<v Speaker 3>when you start talking about like cycles of life, could

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<v Speaker 3>you imagine literally take yourself back into the depths of

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<v Speaker 3>the newborn phase and doing it again. I meet someone

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<v Speaker 3>like ten years younger than me, sorry, this shop has shut.

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't want to compromise for my husband, let alone.

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<v Speaker 1>I just couldn't.

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<v Speaker 2>Like I get it, like I understand, and I think also,

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<v Speaker 2>you forget about how it was and you look at

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<v Speaker 2>newborn babies and like, oh, wouldn't it be cute. At

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<v Speaker 2>the same time, I also feel like I'm almost at freedom.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel freer.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, for sure, especially for where you're at with your girls.

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<v Speaker 3>I did have a moment with Elsie going into grade five,

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<v Speaker 3>Gracie starting high school at the start of this year,

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<v Speaker 3>was like, oh, fuck it, just go back for one more.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what. I was thinking, You're just bored. You're bored.

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<v Speaker 1>Your kids still love you. It is okay, Rachel.

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<v Speaker 2>I definitely felt the same when the girls started school

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<v Speaker 2>because they both went at once. And I remember I

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<v Speaker 2>used to go to a gym class with some other

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<v Speaker 2>of the girls that I knew, and they all had

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<v Speaker 2>the oldest going off to school, but they had the youngest,

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<v Speaker 2>and I remember just walking in and then dropping the

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<v Speaker 2>little ones off in the crash and I was like, oh, like,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't have anyone to drop off in there.

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<v Speaker 3>It's kind of like a readjustment of who you are right,

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<v Speaker 3>So there you go. It did cross my mind, and

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<v Speaker 3>then I had a real severe chat with myself and

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<v Speaker 3>smack myself around the head of his crimes and was like,

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<v Speaker 3>you were nearly forty this year age, or get your

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<v Speaker 3>shit together.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not doing it.

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<v Speaker 2>Honestly, if I found out you were having the baby.

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<v Speaker 3>You were not.

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<v Speaker 2>I were just laugh a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>Am I a bad mum for thinking it was cool?

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<v Speaker 1>It's actually Gracie's idea for.

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<v Speaker 3>This particular topic. So I'm just going to own that

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<v Speaker 3>part because she was like, Mom was pretty messed up.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, it was a mistake. I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 3>So on Mondays, what happens for our school routine is

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<v Speaker 3>that Gracie, obviously it's usually a rush.

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<v Speaker 1>On Monday morning. I'm really honest. Yep.

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<v Speaker 3>She left yesterday without her dance bag, so Monday afternoon

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<v Speaker 3>is usually dropped to school, get bus back to said stop,

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<v Speaker 3>then they get collected from the bus stop and then

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<v Speaker 3>she gets dropped directly to dance. So her friend's mum

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<v Speaker 3>came over and was like, I'll grab the bag now

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<v Speaker 3>if you're home, and I can just give it to

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<v Speaker 3>her when I get them from the bus stop and

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<v Speaker 3>drop her to dance. I was like, amazing, Yes, I'll

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<v Speaker 3>just get a leotard. Now, her leotard is like dark purple.

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<v Speaker 3>And as we know in our age group that we're in,

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<v Speaker 3>Nike Pro shorts seemed to be the only thing that

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<v Speaker 3>your child will wear. And so I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 3>look there's a pair of Nike pros. Pick them up,

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<v Speaker 3>similar color to the leotard, and I thought, gotta work.

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<v Speaker 3>In my head, I was like, gotta work, gotta be cool.

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<v Speaker 3>Shove them in, shove litad, choose wonderful, put some afternoon

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<v Speaker 3>tea in there for a water bottle. Off it goes

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<v Speaker 3>to dance, comes home, she returns home. Let's just say

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<v Speaker 3>six thirty. I happened to be in between finishing off dinner.

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<v Speaker 3>I was in the laundry doing some something.

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<v Speaker 1>Katie.

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<v Speaker 3>She walked in and she added leotard with his shorts on,

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<v Speaker 3>and she goes, mum, and she just like she wasn't angry,

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<v Speaker 3>but she wasn't laughing, and she goes, mum. She goes,

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know what you were thinking. She said, I've

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<v Speaker 3>just spent three hours at dance and all I've got

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<v Speaker 3>cold all day is eggplant. I looked at it, and

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, well, it didn't come off as well

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<v Speaker 3>as in my head what it was going to look like.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, I'm so sorry, babe. And then she

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<v Speaker 3>burst out laughing.

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<v Speaker 1>And she goes, what were you thinking?

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<v Speaker 3>And I was like, in my head, I was thinking

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<v Speaker 3>it was cool and I was going to look really

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<v Speaker 3>cool together.

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<v Speaker 1>But now that I see it in real life, I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm really sorry.

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<v Speaker 2>She didn't even make her feel better by going, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>it doesn't look too bad. I was like, did you

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<v Speaker 2>not wonder why that was never a combo that she'd

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<v Speaker 2>put together herself?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>Well, I mean now luckily she found the humor in

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<v Speaker 3>it as well, and she goes, mom, eggplant for three hours,

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<v Speaker 3>I said, I don't know to stand an eggplant though,

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<v Speaker 3>Like I find eggplant quite offensive because eggplant is actually

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<v Speaker 3>really different shape to you, and it's a different color,

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<v Speaker 3>and but eggplant whatever, I get it. And then she

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<v Speaker 3>starts burst out laughing at bit more. And then I

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<v Speaker 3>just said to it, I'm so sorry. She goes, Mom,

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<v Speaker 3>all you could have put in was an oversized tea.

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<v Speaker 3>It would have worked perfectly, so it would have just

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<v Speaker 3>broken up the colors. She said, so if you're thinking

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<v Speaker 3>of putting this one together again?

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<v Speaker 1>Can you just put the oversize? And then I went,

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<v Speaker 1>how about you just packed your own bag. Have to

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<v Speaker 1>do it.

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<v Speaker 3>You wouldn't even be called an eggplant because you would

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<v Speaker 3>have packed your own bag, so then it would have.

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<v Speaker 1>Been the right shorts. It's your fault. She goes, Mom,

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<v Speaker 1>it's not cool. I was like, oh, I totally thought

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<v Speaker 1>it was going to look cool, and it does not.

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<v Speaker 2>She's going to need to educate you and what goes

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<v Speaker 2>with what? In the dance draws, this goes with this.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't use your own initiatives. Don't pick what you think

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<v Speaker 2>is gonna look cool.

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<v Speaker 3>Like I live in active wear, genuinely living active wear,

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<v Speaker 3>so I'm quite like when it comes to active wear,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm very like formatted about what goes with what and

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<v Speaker 3>what does not go with what. I just had a

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<v Speaker 3>brain explosion.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and she was called an eggplant for the entire

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<v Speaker 2>dance class. And what we know, which her age group

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<v Speaker 2>hopefully doesn't know, is the eggplan is the emoji for

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<v Speaker 2>a penis. So you let your kick go to dance

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<v Speaker 2>for an hour looking like a penis?

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<v Speaker 3>Oud in my head when she goes, they called me

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<v Speaker 3>an eggplant for three hours and in my head, I

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<v Speaker 3>was like, ex emoji is a penis.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't look like