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Speaker 1: Apodja Production.

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Speaker 2: Welcome back to another episode about I.

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Speaker 1: A ad Mom podcast.

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Speaker 2: I had a little chuckle to myself, but also a

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Speaker 2: little bit of a deep thought process I went through.

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Speaker 2: Last night, Jay went out for dinner with mate. He's

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Speaker 2: got three kids, but there I want to say, maybe

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Speaker 2: twelve ten eight ish ages range. He's divorced, but he's

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Speaker 2: got a new girlfriend. She's ten years younger and doesn't

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Speaker 2: have children and wants to have kids, and so he

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Speaker 2: is late forties.

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Speaker 1: Is he contemplating it?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, this is a thing. Like day came home and

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Speaker 2: told me about this last night. I was like, what

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Speaker 2: would you do?

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Speaker 3: Do you want my honest opinion or like the podcast opinion,

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Speaker 3: My honest opinion would be I would have sex with

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Speaker 3: them until I got bored with it, and then I

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Speaker 3: would say, thank you very much.

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Speaker 1: I'm not interested.

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Speaker 3: I'm not interested in reproducing. Again, Katie, I know that, Like,

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Speaker 3: maybe that just sounds super insensitive of me, but I

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Speaker 3: genuinely have no desire of reproducing as much as I

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Speaker 3: love another human being.

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Speaker 1: Or then that's what I mean.

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Speaker 2: Though, imagine it like hypothetical this is, but imagine if

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Speaker 2: you're completely in love, like he's obviously really in love

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Speaker 2: with her, she really wants to be a mum.

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Speaker 3: It's a really hard one to compromise on. Obviously for him,

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Speaker 3: different story male with the female. That female's the one

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Speaker 3: that's obviously I don't want to say like doing the

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Speaker 3: hard work, but clearly we know who does the hard

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Speaker 3: work within a pregnancy. That whole idea of then reproducing

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Speaker 3: for him at near fifty, I don't know that I'm

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Speaker 3: willing to compromise on that. Everyone's situation is so different,

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Speaker 3: and I applaud people that can do it, But for me,

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Speaker 3: I wouldn't want to hold them up, Like they're also

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Speaker 3: ten years younger, but then they want to reproduce, like

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Speaker 3: and have another family together.

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Speaker 1: I get that, But like, surely.

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Speaker 3: There's someone else that's like thirty and they could do

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Speaker 3: it with them as well, Like it makes sense, doesn't

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Speaker 3: make sense, It doesn't make sense.

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Speaker 2: So you would you would find them someone else to

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Speaker 2: have a baby with.

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Speaker 3: Here with that stuff, I sort of go, I think,

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Speaker 3: when you start talking about like cycles of life, could

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Speaker 3: you imagine literally take yourself back into the depths of

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Speaker 3: the newborn phase and doing it again. I meet someone

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Speaker 3: like ten years younger than me, sorry, this shop has shut.

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Speaker 3: I didn't want to compromise for my husband, let alone.

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Speaker 1: I just couldn't.

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Speaker 2: Like I get it, like I understand, and I think also,

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Speaker 2: you forget about how it was and you look at

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Speaker 2: newborn babies and like, oh, wouldn't it be cute. At

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Speaker 2: the same time, I also feel like I'm almost at freedom.

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Speaker 2: I feel freer.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, for sure, especially for where you're at with your girls.

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Speaker 3: I did have a moment with Elsie going into grade five,

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Speaker 3: Gracie starting high school at the start of this year,

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Speaker 3: was like, oh, fuck it, just go back for one more.

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Speaker 1: You know what. I was thinking, You're just bored. You're bored.

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Speaker 1: Your kids still love you. It is okay, Rachel.

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Speaker 2: I definitely felt the same when the girls started school

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Speaker 2: because they both went at once. And I remember I

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Speaker 2: used to go to a gym class with some other

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Speaker 2: of the girls that I knew, and they all had

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Speaker 2: the oldest going off to school, but they had the youngest,

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Speaker 2: and I remember just walking in and then dropping the

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Speaker 2: little ones off in the crash and I was like, oh, like,

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Speaker 2: I don't have anyone to drop off in there.

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Speaker 3: It's kind of like a readjustment of who you are right,

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Speaker 3: So there you go. It did cross my mind, and

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Speaker 3: then I had a real severe chat with myself and

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Speaker 3: smack myself around the head of his crimes and was like,

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Speaker 3: you were nearly forty this year age, or get your

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Speaker 3: shit together.

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Speaker 1: I'm not doing it.

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Speaker 2: Honestly, if I found out you were having the baby.

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Speaker 3: You were not.

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Speaker 2: I were just laugh a lot.

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Speaker 1: Am I a bad mum for thinking it was cool?

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Speaker 1: It's actually Gracie's idea for.

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Speaker 3: This particular topic. So I'm just going to own that

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Speaker 3: part because she was like, Mom was pretty messed up.

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Speaker 1: Okay, it was a mistake. I'm sorry.

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Speaker 3: So on Mondays, what happens for our school routine is

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Speaker 3: that Gracie, obviously it's usually a rush.

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Speaker 1: On Monday morning. I'm really honest. Yep.

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Speaker 3: She left yesterday without her dance bag, so Monday afternoon

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Speaker 3: is usually dropped to school, get bus back to said stop,

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Speaker 3: then they get collected from the bus stop and then

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Speaker 3: she gets dropped directly to dance. So her friend's mum

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Speaker 3: came over and was like, I'll grab the bag now

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Speaker 3: if you're home, and I can just give it to

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Speaker 3: her when I get them from the bus stop and

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Speaker 3: drop her to dance. I was like, amazing, Yes, I'll

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Speaker 3: just get a leotard. Now, her leotard is like dark purple.

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Speaker 3: And as we know in our age group that we're in,

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Speaker 3: Nike Pro shorts seemed to be the only thing that

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Speaker 3: your child will wear. And so I was like, oh,

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Speaker 3: look there's a pair of Nike pros. Pick them up,

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Speaker 3: similar color to the leotard, and I thought, gotta work.

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Speaker 3: In my head, I was like, gotta work, gotta be cool.

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Speaker 3: Shove them in, shove litad, choose wonderful, put some afternoon

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Speaker 3: tea in there for a water bottle. Off it goes

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Speaker 3: to dance, comes home, she returns home. Let's just say

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Speaker 3: six thirty. I happened to be in between finishing off dinner.

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Speaker 3: I was in the laundry doing some something.

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Speaker 1: Katie.

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Speaker 3: She walked in and she added leotard with his shorts on,

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Speaker 3: and she goes, mum, and she just like she wasn't angry,

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Speaker 3: but she wasn't laughing, and she goes, mum. She goes,

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Speaker 3: I don't know what you were thinking. She said, I've

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Speaker 3: just spent three hours at dance and all I've got

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Speaker 3: cold all day is eggplant. I looked at it, and

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Speaker 3: I was like, well, it didn't come off as well

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Speaker 3: I was like, I'm so sorry, babe. And then she

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Speaker 1: And she goes, what were you thinking?

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Speaker 3: And I was like, in my head, I was thinking

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Speaker 3: it was cool and I was going to look really

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Speaker 3: cool together.

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Speaker 1: But now that I see it in real life, I'm like,

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Speaker 1: I'm really sorry.

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Speaker 2: She didn't even make her feel better by going, oh,

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Speaker 2: it doesn't look too bad. I was like, did you

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Speaker 2: not wonder why that was never a combo that she'd

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Speaker 2: put together herself?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Well, I mean now luckily she found the humor in

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Speaker 3: it as well, and she goes, mom, eggplant for three hours,

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Speaker 3: I said, I don't know to stand an eggplant though,

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Speaker 3: Like I find eggplant quite offensive because eggplant is actually

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Speaker 3: really different shape to you, and it's a different color,

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Speaker 3: and but eggplant whatever, I get it. And then she

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Speaker 3: starts burst out laughing at bit more. And then I

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Speaker 3: just said to it, I'm so sorry. She goes, Mom,

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Speaker 3: all you could have put in was an oversized tea.

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Speaker 3: It would have worked perfectly, so it would have just

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Speaker 3: broken up the colors. She said, so if you're thinking

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Speaker 1: Can you just put the oversize? And then I went,

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Speaker 1: how about you just packed your own bag. Have to

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Speaker 1: do it.

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Speaker 3: You wouldn't even be called an eggplant because you would

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Speaker 3: have packed your own bag, so then it would have.

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Speaker 1: Been the right shorts. It's your fault. She goes, Mom,

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Speaker 1: it's not cool. I was like, oh, I totally thought

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Speaker 1: it was going to look cool, and it does not.

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Speaker 2: She's going to need to educate you and what goes

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Speaker 2: with what? In the dance draws, this goes with this.

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Speaker 2: Don't use your own initiatives. Don't pick what you think

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Speaker 2: is gonna look cool.

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Speaker 3: Like I live in active wear, genuinely living active wear,

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Speaker 3: so I'm quite like when it comes to active wear,

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Speaker 3: I'm very like formatted about what goes with what and

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Speaker 3: what does not go with what. I just had a

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Speaker 3: brain explosion.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and she was called an eggplant for the entire

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Speaker 2: dance class. And what we know, which her age group

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Speaker 2: hopefully doesn't know, is the eggplan is the emoji for

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Speaker 2: a penis. So you let your kick go to dance

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Speaker 2: for an hour looking like a penis?

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Speaker 3: Oud in my head when she goes, they called me

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Speaker 3: an eggplant for three hours and in my head, I

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Speaker 3: was like, ex emoji is a penis.

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Speaker 1: Don't look like