1 00:00:00,520 --> 00:00:04,200 Speaker 1: A hollow term. It's harps. I've been instructed by the 2 00:00:04,240 --> 00:00:08,039 Speaker 1: women that boss me around at typ Central to not 3 00:00:08,160 --> 00:00:11,880 Speaker 1: come in too hot on the micro Apparently I have 4 00:00:11,960 --> 00:00:16,520 Speaker 1: a tendency to be somewhat loud and for both if 5 00:00:16,600 --> 00:00:22,760 Speaker 1: not frightening. So this is me being very regulated and 6 00:00:23,079 --> 00:00:26,960 Speaker 1: fucking boring. But anyway, HI, hope you're all good. I 7 00:00:26,960 --> 00:00:32,120 Speaker 1: hope you're well. I did a loaner a solo at 8 00:00:32,240 --> 00:00:35,800 Speaker 1: just Me the other day. Seemed to go okay. We 9 00:00:35,920 --> 00:00:42,160 Speaker 1: had someone booked in for tomorrow, which is Wednesday, recording 10 00:00:42,159 --> 00:00:47,879 Speaker 1: today Tuesday, and they pulled the pin and they had 11 00:00:47,920 --> 00:00:50,839 Speaker 1: a very good reason, So that is all good. Even 12 00:00:50,920 --> 00:00:52,920 Speaker 1: if they don't have a good reason, it's all good 13 00:00:53,720 --> 00:00:56,320 Speaker 1: because they're all guests and they're all being generous. But 14 00:00:56,840 --> 00:00:59,280 Speaker 1: so I thought I might. I was thinking to myself 15 00:00:59,360 --> 00:01:02,800 Speaker 1: self self, what are you going to do? What are 16 00:01:02,840 --> 00:01:06,960 Speaker 1: you going to do that might be of value? That's simple, 17 00:01:07,360 --> 00:01:12,200 Speaker 1: that's potentially helpful. That is kind of tied in with 18 00:01:12,440 --> 00:01:17,720 Speaker 1: my work. I've just started taking on just quietly in 19 00:01:17,760 --> 00:01:22,000 Speaker 1: the background. There one or two coaching clients. I've reigned 20 00:01:22,000 --> 00:01:25,039 Speaker 1: it back over the last few years because of all 21 00:01:25,120 --> 00:01:28,160 Speaker 1: the stuff that I will not mention because the stuff 22 00:01:28,200 --> 00:01:33,279 Speaker 1: gets too much airtime. But I thought I might share 23 00:01:33,400 --> 00:01:35,640 Speaker 1: some of the now For those of you who've heard 24 00:01:35,680 --> 00:01:39,360 Speaker 1: me a thousand times, this will be some of it 25 00:01:39,640 --> 00:01:45,400 Speaker 1: revision or repetition, so please feel free too fast forward 26 00:01:45,480 --> 00:01:48,960 Speaker 1: to the next episode or wait for the next episode. 27 00:01:49,680 --> 00:01:52,080 Speaker 1: But these are really kind of fundamental questions that I 28 00:01:52,160 --> 00:01:56,840 Speaker 1: find helpful, but only if we ask an answer and 29 00:01:56,880 --> 00:02:00,680 Speaker 1: then do something off the back of the asking and answering, 30 00:02:01,760 --> 00:02:03,760 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. So it's all well and 31 00:02:03,800 --> 00:02:06,480 Speaker 1: good to recognize something that needs to change, or something 32 00:02:06,480 --> 00:02:09,240 Speaker 1: that we're not doing or should be doing, or something 33 00:02:09,360 --> 00:02:14,320 Speaker 1: that's ineffective or something that's you know, self sabotaging or whatever. 34 00:02:15,120 --> 00:02:19,200 Speaker 1: That's good to recognize it and then to take ownership 35 00:02:19,240 --> 00:02:23,000 Speaker 1: of it acknowledge it. But then where the change happens 36 00:02:23,320 --> 00:02:26,239 Speaker 1: is not in either of those first two steps. Where 37 00:02:26,280 --> 00:02:30,799 Speaker 1: the change happens, obviously, is when we get a bit strategic, 38 00:02:31,280 --> 00:02:33,960 Speaker 1: create a plan, we make some decisions, we execute the plan, 39 00:02:34,000 --> 00:02:38,040 Speaker 1: we do something, and we start to see some results 40 00:02:38,120 --> 00:02:41,720 Speaker 1: in our world. We've spoken recently a little bit about 41 00:02:41,760 --> 00:02:46,240 Speaker 1: the idea of your life being a kind of a project. 42 00:02:46,320 --> 00:02:52,560 Speaker 1: Of course, ergo the you project and the reality that 43 00:02:53,120 --> 00:02:54,920 Speaker 1: things are not going to magically. You're not going to 44 00:02:54,960 --> 00:02:58,280 Speaker 1: magically succeed. You're not going to magically or mysteriously fall 45 00:02:58,320 --> 00:03:00,440 Speaker 1: on your feet. Nobody's going to knock on the door. 46 00:03:00,480 --> 00:03:02,520 Speaker 1: The Opportunity Fair is not going to knock on the 47 00:03:02,560 --> 00:03:06,079 Speaker 1: door and hand your fucking unicorn. It's not going to happen. 48 00:03:06,200 --> 00:03:11,040 Speaker 1: So the truth is for many of us, not you necessarily, 49 00:03:11,120 --> 00:03:14,560 Speaker 1: but for many humans, me included, at times there are 50 00:03:14,639 --> 00:03:16,799 Speaker 1: periods of our life, could be weeks, could be months, 51 00:03:16,840 --> 00:03:23,640 Speaker 1: could be years, could be fucking decades where we keep 52 00:03:23,639 --> 00:03:27,160 Speaker 1: doing what doesn't work, but we keep doing the thing 53 00:03:28,240 --> 00:03:31,280 Speaker 1: like we recognize, Ah, I need to obviously, just a 54 00:03:31,280 --> 00:03:34,160 Speaker 1: practical example, I need to get in shape. Some people 55 00:03:34,160 --> 00:03:36,360 Speaker 1: have been saying that for ten years while not actually 56 00:03:36,520 --> 00:03:42,000 Speaker 1: really really having a crack, not really making hard decisions, 57 00:03:42,040 --> 00:03:47,640 Speaker 1: not really doing difficult things, not really pushing the needle 58 00:03:47,720 --> 00:03:50,920 Speaker 1: on the effort, not being consistent, not owning up and 59 00:03:50,960 --> 00:03:54,880 Speaker 1: stepping up, while all the time recognizing that their current 60 00:03:55,000 --> 00:03:58,920 Speaker 1: trajectory with their health and their diet and their lifestyle 61 00:03:59,120 --> 00:04:02,720 Speaker 1: is probably heading down a path of destruction. No judgment 62 00:04:02,760 --> 00:04:07,400 Speaker 1: in that, no criticism in that. That's just literally what happens. 63 00:04:08,400 --> 00:04:10,320 Speaker 1: And you don't need to be a genius to look 64 00:04:10,360 --> 00:04:16,120 Speaker 1: at the stats on obesity and obesity related diseases and 65 00:04:16,160 --> 00:04:18,440 Speaker 1: all of that to figure out that we're not heading 66 00:04:18,520 --> 00:04:21,840 Speaker 1: in the right direction. Despite the fact that we know 67 00:04:21,920 --> 00:04:25,480 Speaker 1: more stuff, We've got more podcasts. We didn't have podcasts, 68 00:04:25,480 --> 00:04:27,440 Speaker 1: not that they're all good, not that these ones are 69 00:04:27,480 --> 00:04:30,680 Speaker 1: all good sometimes, but we've got more information. We've got 70 00:04:30,720 --> 00:04:36,160 Speaker 1: more access to academic research and studies. You don't need 71 00:04:36,200 --> 00:04:39,359 Speaker 1: to be an academic. You don't need to be a 72 00:04:39,520 --> 00:04:43,719 Speaker 1: high level kind of PhD or master's or honors student 73 00:04:43,880 --> 00:04:47,760 Speaker 1: or anything like that. You can go into academic search 74 00:04:47,960 --> 00:04:54,840 Speaker 1: engines and find whatever you want to find. You know, 75 00:04:54,920 --> 00:04:56,760 Speaker 1: sometimes it's a bit tricky, but you can just go 76 00:04:56,880 --> 00:05:01,760 Speaker 1: into a bunch of just go into Google as a 77 00:05:01,800 --> 00:05:05,120 Speaker 1: starting point and say, give me the top five academic 78 00:05:05,880 --> 00:05:09,680 Speaker 1: search engines and BIBD Bobby boot. Now you've got access 79 00:05:09,720 --> 00:05:15,679 Speaker 1: to actual science, not opinions about science. So when somebody 80 00:05:15,680 --> 00:05:18,960 Speaker 1: says I did my research, you know, I've been taking 81 00:05:19,000 --> 00:05:20,760 Speaker 1: this and I go, why are you taking that? I 82 00:05:20,800 --> 00:05:24,520 Speaker 1: did my research? And usually what I did my research 83 00:05:24,640 --> 00:05:27,640 Speaker 1: means is I watched three videos from people who had 84 00:05:27,680 --> 00:05:30,760 Speaker 1: no academic qualification in the field of which they were speaking. 85 00:05:31,040 --> 00:05:34,240 Speaker 1: That's often what it means, not always, but even then 86 00:05:35,320 --> 00:05:39,120 Speaker 1: we need to be careful. We need to be careful 87 00:05:39,120 --> 00:05:42,960 Speaker 1: that we're not paying attention to the wrong people, or 88 00:05:43,000 --> 00:05:47,120 Speaker 1: we're not trusting people who perhaps need to earn that. 89 00:05:47,200 --> 00:05:52,440 Speaker 1: And even with the stuff that I share and download 90 00:05:52,480 --> 00:05:57,159 Speaker 1: to you, all I have said forever, don't believe me 91 00:05:57,279 --> 00:06:00,360 Speaker 1: because I resonate with you, or I talk the way 92 00:06:00,360 --> 00:06:05,520 Speaker 1: that you enjoy, or I sound credible. The best I 93 00:06:05,560 --> 00:06:07,920 Speaker 1: can hope for from you is to think about what 94 00:06:07,960 --> 00:06:12,000 Speaker 1: I'm saying and if it sounds reasonable or a good idea, 95 00:06:12,120 --> 00:06:13,919 Speaker 1: like the things I'm about to share with you tonight. 96 00:06:14,560 --> 00:06:17,919 Speaker 1: And if you decide off the back of any of 97 00:06:17,960 --> 00:06:20,960 Speaker 1: the questions that I'm about to share with you fundamental 98 00:06:21,040 --> 00:06:24,640 Speaker 1: basic change your life type, change your thinking, change your habits, 99 00:06:24,720 --> 00:06:29,320 Speaker 1: change your outcomes type questions. If you decide that you're 100 00:06:29,320 --> 00:06:31,320 Speaker 1: going to roll the dice and you're going to take 101 00:06:31,400 --> 00:06:34,359 Speaker 1: action and do one of those things, that's cool. That's cool. 102 00:06:34,400 --> 00:06:40,279 Speaker 1: But also remember not everything works for everybody. So maybe 103 00:06:40,680 --> 00:06:43,800 Speaker 1: in my case, specific to me and you our relationship, 104 00:06:43,839 --> 00:06:47,479 Speaker 1: think about what I say, does that sound logical to you, 105 00:06:47,560 --> 00:06:49,480 Speaker 1: do I sound like I know what the fuck I'm 106 00:06:49,520 --> 00:06:54,279 Speaker 1: talking about? And then can you see perhaps the potential 107 00:06:54,320 --> 00:06:59,720 Speaker 1: benefits in asking that question, answering that question, and then 108 00:06:59,800 --> 00:07:03,120 Speaker 1: do doing something doing something off the back of that. 109 00:07:04,160 --> 00:07:07,479 Speaker 1: And this is how I guess. A frustration point of 110 00:07:07,520 --> 00:07:14,160 Speaker 1: mine after twenty one hundred episodes is that just so 111 00:07:14,360 --> 00:07:17,560 Speaker 1: many people don't do anything. So many people listen to 112 00:07:17,640 --> 00:07:20,640 Speaker 1: I'm not talking about you guys necessarily, I'm just talking broadly, 113 00:07:22,200 --> 00:07:26,200 Speaker 1: even people who've come to I've met I know people 114 00:07:26,240 --> 00:07:29,360 Speaker 1: by face now who come to my workshops, a lot 115 00:07:29,360 --> 00:07:31,760 Speaker 1: of them, and there are some people who've probably been 116 00:07:31,800 --> 00:07:34,920 Speaker 1: to twenty workshops of mine over the years, and God 117 00:07:34,960 --> 00:07:37,560 Speaker 1: bless them. This is not obviously I'm not talking about 118 00:07:37,560 --> 00:07:41,320 Speaker 1: an individual here, but they still don't do the work. 119 00:07:41,720 --> 00:07:43,880 Speaker 1: They like the words, they like the energy, they like 120 00:07:43,920 --> 00:07:47,560 Speaker 1: the ideas. They come, they get a bit inspired, a 121 00:07:47,640 --> 00:07:50,680 Speaker 1: bit motivated. The inspiration goes, the motivation goes, and then 122 00:07:50,680 --> 00:07:53,160 Speaker 1: the behaviors go, and now three weeks later they're back 123 00:07:53,200 --> 00:07:56,679 Speaker 1: at status quo. They're back where they were, and they're 124 00:07:56,760 --> 00:07:59,760 Speaker 1: waiting for the next emotional rollercoaster to jump on, or 125 00:07:59,800 --> 00:08:02,120 Speaker 1: the push or the next shove or the next light 126 00:08:02,120 --> 00:08:05,320 Speaker 1: bulb or whatever it is, and it just doesn't work. 127 00:08:06,080 --> 00:08:09,520 Speaker 1: It's it's our ability to succeed. And I've said this 128 00:08:09,600 --> 00:08:12,080 Speaker 1: many times, is it's about a lot of stuff. It's 129 00:08:12,080 --> 00:08:14,560 Speaker 1: not about one thing. So when someone says to you, 130 00:08:15,080 --> 00:08:17,320 Speaker 1: I've probably done this, So if I have, I was wrong. 131 00:08:17,440 --> 00:08:19,720 Speaker 1: But when someone says to you, you know, success is 132 00:08:19,880 --> 00:08:24,240 Speaker 1: all about this, that's bullshit because it's not all about 133 00:08:25,040 --> 00:08:29,160 Speaker 1: one thing. It's about a multitude of things. But like 134 00:08:29,320 --> 00:08:31,120 Speaker 1: one of the ones I'm going to share with you, 135 00:08:31,160 --> 00:08:32,640 Speaker 1: one of the ideas I'm going to share with you 136 00:08:32,679 --> 00:08:38,360 Speaker 1: tonight is extremely important. I would say it's definitely in 137 00:08:38,400 --> 00:08:40,120 Speaker 1: the top three. But we'll get to that when we 138 00:08:40,160 --> 00:08:42,319 Speaker 1: get to that, all right, So I'm just gonna I've 139 00:08:42,320 --> 00:08:47,640 Speaker 1: actually got ten questions. This could end up being too 140 00:08:47,760 --> 00:08:50,520 Speaker 1: I want to keep it short. I've already been banging 141 00:08:50,559 --> 00:08:53,920 Speaker 1: on for nine minutes, right, I want to keep it short, 142 00:08:54,040 --> 00:08:55,920 Speaker 1: So it might be five and then maybe I'll do 143 00:08:55,960 --> 00:09:02,440 Speaker 1: another five. But question one is what's my life telling me? 144 00:09:04,040 --> 00:09:06,959 Speaker 1: I always think about that for myself. I always think 145 00:09:06,960 --> 00:09:11,080 Speaker 1: about what are my relationships saying, what's my energy saying? 146 00:09:12,640 --> 00:09:16,280 Speaker 1: What are the outcomes? And results that I'm producing at work, 147 00:09:16,400 --> 00:09:21,880 Speaker 1: at university, on the stage, on the podcast, with friends, 148 00:09:21,960 --> 00:09:26,839 Speaker 1: with family, with individual projects with for example, Melissa who 149 00:09:26,920 --> 00:09:30,319 Speaker 1: runs my life. You know, like, am I what am 150 00:09:30,320 --> 00:09:34,520 Speaker 1: I like? For her? Like? Does her behavior tell me 151 00:09:34,600 --> 00:09:38,920 Speaker 1: that I don't get it? Sometimes? Sometimes it does? Does 152 00:09:38,960 --> 00:09:42,560 Speaker 1: her behavior like am I a person that she enjoys 153 00:09:42,600 --> 00:09:45,720 Speaker 1: working with and being around? Like that really matters to me? 154 00:09:46,400 --> 00:09:48,680 Speaker 1: Because who the fuck wants to work with somebody that 155 00:09:48,760 --> 00:09:51,920 Speaker 1: either they don't like or don't like being around? Right, 156 00:09:52,000 --> 00:09:53,920 Speaker 1: so we don't have to be best is, but I'm 157 00:09:54,520 --> 00:09:57,920 Speaker 1: it matters to me that she really enjoys the work 158 00:09:58,000 --> 00:10:01,880 Speaker 1: relationship and also the work, and that information is there. 159 00:10:01,920 --> 00:10:03,719 Speaker 1: You just need to open your eyes. You just need 160 00:10:03,760 --> 00:10:06,840 Speaker 1: to pay attention. You just need to ask great questions 161 00:10:06,880 --> 00:10:10,160 Speaker 1: about things and shut the fuck up and stop trying 162 00:10:10,200 --> 00:10:13,240 Speaker 1: to get an opinion or an idea across and stop 163 00:10:13,280 --> 00:10:16,400 Speaker 1: trying to win. Ask somebody a question if you want 164 00:10:16,440 --> 00:10:21,640 Speaker 1: to know how that's going, and then truly listen, truly 165 00:10:21,920 --> 00:10:25,960 Speaker 1: try to understand, truly try to do something smart off 166 00:10:26,000 --> 00:10:29,040 Speaker 1: the back of that piece of information and insight that 167 00:10:29,160 --> 00:10:34,480 Speaker 1: you get. So your life is always giving you data, 168 00:10:34,600 --> 00:10:39,599 Speaker 1: as we call in science data or information or feedback, 169 00:10:40,400 --> 00:10:43,640 Speaker 1: and then it's the important thing is to in the 170 00:10:43,679 --> 00:10:46,400 Speaker 1: context of all of those things, and not immediately and 171 00:10:46,440 --> 00:10:48,600 Speaker 1: not overnight, and we're not going to change the world 172 00:10:48,640 --> 00:10:54,120 Speaker 1: by the weekend, right, But it is to think about, all, right, well, 173 00:10:54,320 --> 00:10:57,200 Speaker 1: when I eat this way, or when I communicate this 174 00:10:57,280 --> 00:11:00,960 Speaker 1: way with these people, when I approach this issue with 175 00:11:01,040 --> 00:11:04,880 Speaker 1: my boss or with my sister or with my children, 176 00:11:05,720 --> 00:11:09,800 Speaker 1: it's just for whatever reason, it's a fucking catastrophe. And 177 00:11:09,960 --> 00:11:15,080 Speaker 1: often it's because of them. In fact, it's almost all 178 00:11:15,160 --> 00:11:19,720 Speaker 1: because of them. Then you go, oh, hang on, let 179 00:11:19,760 --> 00:11:23,599 Speaker 1: me bring my good friend's self awareness into the situation 180 00:11:24,440 --> 00:11:30,880 Speaker 1: and humility and honesty and accountability and personal responsibility. And 181 00:11:30,920 --> 00:11:33,720 Speaker 1: I go, okay, well, with this person, I am producing 182 00:11:33,800 --> 00:11:37,000 Speaker 1: some not very good results. And even though I want 183 00:11:37,000 --> 00:11:41,520 Speaker 1: it to be him or her, it's either entirely me 184 00:11:42,120 --> 00:11:45,199 Speaker 1: or maybe a little bit me, or maybe somewhere in between. 185 00:11:46,160 --> 00:11:48,959 Speaker 1: And the chances are most of the time it's somewhere 186 00:11:48,960 --> 00:11:52,040 Speaker 1: in between. Of course, that there are times when it 187 00:11:52,240 --> 00:11:54,400 Speaker 1: won't really be you at all, or it might be 188 00:11:54,559 --> 00:11:58,600 Speaker 1: all you. But and this is the challenge to be 189 00:11:58,679 --> 00:12:02,080 Speaker 1: able to like really grow and learn and evolve, really 190 00:12:02,360 --> 00:12:05,720 Speaker 1: not just bullshit on a podcast, not just another fucking mantra, 191 00:12:05,840 --> 00:12:09,760 Speaker 1: and not another cliche bloody post that we put on 192 00:12:09,800 --> 00:12:12,240 Speaker 1: the wall or we put on our iPhone or whatever. 193 00:12:12,320 --> 00:12:16,400 Speaker 1: All those things are cool. But I guess it, well, 194 00:12:16,400 --> 00:12:18,679 Speaker 1: I'm going to I'm going to read my next question 195 00:12:18,720 --> 00:12:22,160 Speaker 1: because it's dependent on this, I believe. So the next 196 00:12:22,280 --> 00:12:27,120 Speaker 1: question is am I ready to do the work right? 197 00:12:27,559 --> 00:12:29,880 Speaker 1: So they go together, like I'm getting all this starter, 198 00:12:29,920 --> 00:12:32,520 Speaker 1: I'm getting all this information if I'm putting on my 199 00:12:32,559 --> 00:12:35,440 Speaker 1: big boy pants or in your case, perhaps big girl pants, 200 00:12:35,800 --> 00:12:38,560 Speaker 1: and I'm ready to take ownership. I'm ready to stop 201 00:12:38,600 --> 00:12:41,679 Speaker 1: thinking I'm right all the time. I'm ready to stop 202 00:12:42,240 --> 00:12:45,240 Speaker 1: having to be right. Like that's a curse, that's ego, 203 00:12:45,320 --> 00:12:48,880 Speaker 1: that's bullshit, that's in security, that's fear. You don't fucking 204 00:12:48,960 --> 00:12:51,120 Speaker 1: need that. You're better than that. You don't need to 205 00:12:51,120 --> 00:12:54,760 Speaker 1: be right all the time, you need to be well. 206 00:12:55,120 --> 00:12:57,320 Speaker 1: This is me telling you, of course, way up what 207 00:12:57,360 --> 00:13:01,520 Speaker 1: I'm saying, But I suggest you humble and aware and 208 00:13:01,679 --> 00:13:06,760 Speaker 1: open to feedback. I'm not talking about criticism from haters. 209 00:13:06,800 --> 00:13:10,040 Speaker 1: I'm talking about, like what I'm saying right now, the 210 00:13:10,160 --> 00:13:13,640 Speaker 1: value in what I'm saying right now is not in 211 00:13:13,679 --> 00:13:16,080 Speaker 1: the words I'm saying, but rather in your ability to 212 00:13:16,080 --> 00:13:18,680 Speaker 1: be able to consume the words, analyze the words, think 213 00:13:18,679 --> 00:13:21,319 Speaker 1: about the words, think about whether or not there's some 214 00:13:23,520 --> 00:13:27,280 Speaker 1: millimeter of truth in it for you, and then do 215 00:13:27,520 --> 00:13:30,520 Speaker 1: something with that, do the work. Like everybody wants to 216 00:13:30,520 --> 00:13:34,719 Speaker 1: be wealthier not most people want to make more do 217 00:13:34,920 --> 00:13:37,079 Speaker 1: Most people want to be in better shape. Most people 218 00:13:37,120 --> 00:13:41,880 Speaker 1: want better relationships. Most people want a better career or 219 00:13:41,920 --> 00:13:44,960 Speaker 1: a better business or. Most people want less stress. Most 220 00:13:44,960 --> 00:13:49,120 Speaker 1: people want less anxiety. Most people want to be more grounded. 221 00:13:49,200 --> 00:13:51,640 Speaker 1: Most people want to be the calm in the cars cool. 222 00:13:52,440 --> 00:13:58,400 Speaker 1: All of those things don't fucking magically happen. You wanting 223 00:13:58,520 --> 00:14:02,440 Speaker 1: to be calmer doesn't make you calmer. You wanting to 224 00:14:02,480 --> 00:14:06,559 Speaker 1: be leaner and stronger and healthier and more functional doesn't 225 00:14:07,120 --> 00:14:12,200 Speaker 1: do anything until you wrap that want, until you wrap 226 00:14:12,240 --> 00:14:17,679 Speaker 1: that desire in some behavior, and then, on top of that, 227 00:14:17,840 --> 00:14:21,240 Speaker 1: some fully fucking committed This is what I'm doing now. 228 00:14:21,440 --> 00:14:23,720 Speaker 1: This is not what I'm trying for the twentieth time. No, 229 00:14:23,880 --> 00:14:26,640 Speaker 1: this is my new normal. And if it's not fun, 230 00:14:26,680 --> 00:14:30,640 Speaker 1: that's cool. It's not quick, don't give a shit. If 231 00:14:30,680 --> 00:14:33,800 Speaker 1: it's not easy, great I'm building resilience, I'm building understanding, 232 00:14:33,840 --> 00:14:38,800 Speaker 1: I'm building strength, I'm building emotional and the situational awareness. 233 00:14:39,240 --> 00:14:41,640 Speaker 1: I'm becoming a better version of me. So let's bring 234 00:14:41,720 --> 00:14:44,440 Speaker 1: on the fucking hard, because I tell you what, where 235 00:14:44,480 --> 00:14:48,080 Speaker 1: we don't grow is in the easy, and there's the irony. 236 00:14:48,200 --> 00:14:52,239 Speaker 1: We want the easy because easy is comfortable, familiar, certainty, 237 00:14:52,320 --> 00:14:55,560 Speaker 1: It's all that shit we love. But guess what, none 238 00:14:55,600 --> 00:14:59,200 Speaker 1: of that makes us stronger or better. I'm not saying 239 00:14:59,240 --> 00:15:02,120 Speaker 1: we need to live in in pain and uncertainty and adversity. 240 00:15:02,240 --> 00:15:05,200 Speaker 1: Of course we don't. But there will be times when 241 00:15:05,240 --> 00:15:08,280 Speaker 1: you and I are required in order to get where 242 00:15:08,280 --> 00:15:11,360 Speaker 1: we want to go, achieve our goals, reach our mountaintop, 243 00:15:11,440 --> 00:15:13,440 Speaker 1: whatever the fucking metaphor you want to choose, there will 244 00:15:13,480 --> 00:15:17,240 Speaker 1: be times when you and I are just required if 245 00:15:17,280 --> 00:15:22,920 Speaker 1: we want to succeed to do the thing. What's the 246 00:15:22,920 --> 00:15:25,360 Speaker 1: thing you need to do? I need to walk five 247 00:15:25,480 --> 00:15:29,920 Speaker 1: k's a day. Cool? Start tomorrow? Ah but albit, arbit, fuck, albit, 248 00:15:30,880 --> 00:15:35,160 Speaker 1: just fucking start tomorrow. Is it hard? Probably? Is it convenient? 249 00:15:35,200 --> 00:15:38,240 Speaker 1: Probably not? Is it? Does it take a long time? 250 00:15:38,400 --> 00:15:43,560 Speaker 1: A bit? Yep? Is it going to blow your life up? Nah? 251 00:15:43,800 --> 00:15:45,680 Speaker 1: Will you be all right, yep, can you do it 252 00:15:45,680 --> 00:15:50,440 Speaker 1: in three installments so it's more convenient instead of one. Yet, whatever, 253 00:15:51,120 --> 00:15:53,560 Speaker 1: whatever the thing is, figure out the thing that you 254 00:15:53,760 --> 00:15:57,680 Speaker 1: need to do, not you hope you'll do, not you 255 00:15:57,800 --> 00:16:00,160 Speaker 1: might get to one day on the fucking today do 256 00:16:00,320 --> 00:16:03,360 Speaker 1: list of your life when all the planets are aligned 257 00:16:03,400 --> 00:16:05,880 Speaker 1: and the angels arrived on the window with a fucking 258 00:16:05,960 --> 00:16:08,280 Speaker 1: message from you know who and you know where, and 259 00:16:10,640 --> 00:16:13,680 Speaker 1: just do the fucking thing that you keep talking about 260 00:16:13,800 --> 00:16:18,200 Speaker 1: or hoping to do or intending to do, and stop 261 00:16:18,280 --> 00:16:22,200 Speaker 1: waiting for the feeling that you're waiting for of inspiration 262 00:16:22,240 --> 00:16:25,840 Speaker 1: and motivation. Like, think about this, And I know this 263 00:16:25,920 --> 00:16:32,360 Speaker 1: is extreme, but let's say this is going to sound traumatic, 264 00:16:32,440 --> 00:16:37,760 Speaker 1: So for those who don't like this kind of little metaphor, 265 00:16:38,000 --> 00:16:42,760 Speaker 1: I apologize. But let's say you really should walk half 266 00:16:42,800 --> 00:16:45,640 Speaker 1: an hour a day, and you've known that for ten 267 00:16:45,720 --> 00:16:47,640 Speaker 1: years because you don't do any cardio, you don't ride 268 00:16:47,640 --> 00:16:50,560 Speaker 1: a bike, you don't you know, let's just say, and 269 00:16:50,600 --> 00:16:52,400 Speaker 1: of course there's way more ways to do it, but 270 00:16:52,440 --> 00:16:54,320 Speaker 1: let's just say walking half an hour, and you know 271 00:16:54,400 --> 00:16:56,960 Speaker 1: you really should walk half now maybe forty five minutes 272 00:16:57,040 --> 00:16:59,240 Speaker 1: right each day, just to move your body because you 273 00:16:59,280 --> 00:17:02,840 Speaker 1: sit a lot, and outside of structured exercise, there's not 274 00:17:02,880 --> 00:17:06,359 Speaker 1: a lot of calorie expenditure. And you've been telling people 275 00:17:06,359 --> 00:17:08,920 Speaker 1: and others, I need to start walking every day. I need, 276 00:17:09,000 --> 00:17:11,240 Speaker 1: you know, But the kids this, and the family that's 277 00:17:11,240 --> 00:17:14,439 Speaker 1: and work that, and you know, my loa back and 278 00:17:14,480 --> 00:17:16,640 Speaker 1: blah blah, and then it's five years, and then it's 279 00:17:16,680 --> 00:17:20,920 Speaker 1: ten years. Now let's say let's say now that there's 280 00:17:21,040 --> 00:17:23,680 Speaker 1: no absolute reason why you can't walk, but let's say 281 00:17:23,680 --> 00:17:29,160 Speaker 1: it's possible you're not injured. Right if, in some alternate reality, 282 00:17:32,040 --> 00:17:35,080 Speaker 1: the cost of you not walking for a year, so 283 00:17:35,160 --> 00:17:38,440 Speaker 1: three hundred and sixty five days in a row, was 284 00:17:38,520 --> 00:17:42,960 Speaker 1: that something fucking terrible would happen in your life. I 285 00:17:43,000 --> 00:17:45,480 Speaker 1: won't identify the terrible because we don't need to get 286 00:17:45,520 --> 00:17:48,920 Speaker 1: too specific. But let's say that you've got to walk 287 00:17:49,800 --> 00:17:54,840 Speaker 1: five k's a three hundred and sixty five days in 288 00:17:54,880 --> 00:17:58,600 Speaker 1: a row, and or something horrendous is going to happen, 289 00:17:58,680 --> 00:18:03,119 Speaker 1: something that you would truly fucking dread that, and it'll 290 00:18:03,160 --> 00:18:06,520 Speaker 1: happen the next day, the first day you have off. 291 00:18:07,200 --> 00:18:09,480 Speaker 1: Let's make it that day. Okay, So you're not walking 292 00:18:09,520 --> 00:18:11,840 Speaker 1: today and you get to the end of the day 293 00:18:11,880 --> 00:18:15,520 Speaker 1: and the horrible thing happens. Now. I know that's melodramatic, 294 00:18:15,560 --> 00:18:17,639 Speaker 1: and I know that's fucking ridiculous. I get all of that, 295 00:18:17,760 --> 00:18:23,000 Speaker 1: But my point is who would not do it? I 296 00:18:23,040 --> 00:18:27,399 Speaker 1: would think almost nobody. And I've had this conversation with 297 00:18:27,440 --> 00:18:29,800 Speaker 1: people and I said, if it was life and death, 298 00:18:29,840 --> 00:18:31,520 Speaker 1: would you absolutely do it? And they went, well, if 299 00:18:31,520 --> 00:18:33,800 Speaker 1: it's life and death, of course I'll do it. So 300 00:18:34,240 --> 00:18:36,480 Speaker 1: the point is not about it needs to be life 301 00:18:36,480 --> 00:18:40,600 Speaker 1: and death. The point is, given the right circumstances, we 302 00:18:40,800 --> 00:18:44,640 Speaker 1: absolutely know we can do it, because we just prove 303 00:18:44,720 --> 00:18:47,600 Speaker 1: that with this silly little kind of analogy or this 304 00:18:47,720 --> 00:18:50,880 Speaker 1: thought experiment, right, we know we can. We're not saying 305 00:18:50,920 --> 00:18:53,239 Speaker 1: run a fucking marathon. We're not saying bench press three 306 00:18:53,320 --> 00:18:56,240 Speaker 1: hundred pounds. We're not saying, you know, climb a mountain. 307 00:18:56,280 --> 00:18:58,080 Speaker 1: We're not saying do one hundred chin ups a day. 308 00:18:58,119 --> 00:19:01,000 Speaker 1: We're saying, walk at the pace that you walk at 309 00:19:01,119 --> 00:19:02,800 Speaker 1: for thirty minutes. If you've got to do it in 310 00:19:02,880 --> 00:19:06,679 Speaker 1: six five minute installments or ten three minute installments, or 311 00:19:06,720 --> 00:19:10,879 Speaker 1: fifteen two minute installments or one thirty minute, doesn't fucking matter. 312 00:19:11,359 --> 00:19:14,400 Speaker 1: We're still moving. We're still walking for thirty minutes, right, 313 00:19:14,960 --> 00:19:19,200 Speaker 1: And so the thing is we need to be prepared 314 00:19:19,240 --> 00:19:22,359 Speaker 1: to stop fucking talking about things that we're not going 315 00:19:22,440 --> 00:19:26,560 Speaker 1: to do and start doing the things. And when you 316 00:19:26,640 --> 00:19:29,200 Speaker 1: start doing the thing, and this has me being coaching 317 00:19:29,600 --> 00:19:32,959 Speaker 1: coach to little Bossy Craig, And I'm telling you this 318 00:19:33,000 --> 00:19:35,399 Speaker 1: for a reason. I'll explain the reason in a moment. 319 00:19:36,000 --> 00:19:39,720 Speaker 1: When you do it, don't tell one hundred people, don't 320 00:19:39,760 --> 00:19:42,960 Speaker 1: post about it on Instagram, don't post about it on Facebook. 321 00:19:43,440 --> 00:19:48,280 Speaker 1: Maybe in a month or three maybe, But why Because 322 00:19:48,320 --> 00:19:51,840 Speaker 1: what happens is when we start something like that and 323 00:19:51,880 --> 00:19:55,440 Speaker 1: we look for attention, we look for accolades, we look 324 00:19:55,520 --> 00:19:58,800 Speaker 1: for praise, and that's exactly what we do. We go, oh, 325 00:19:58,880 --> 00:20:01,639 Speaker 1: I'm doing this, I'm so good, I'm so proud of me, 326 00:20:01,800 --> 00:20:06,280 Speaker 1: and that that you're fucking walking. Bro, Come on, you 327 00:20:06,359 --> 00:20:09,480 Speaker 1: don't need a trophy for just not being a dickhead. 328 00:20:10,200 --> 00:20:14,520 Speaker 1: You don't need a trophy for walking. But this is 329 00:20:14,600 --> 00:20:17,720 Speaker 1: where we're fucking at in twenty twenty six. We want 330 00:20:17,720 --> 00:20:21,000 Speaker 1: a plaque and a fucking round applause, the round of applause, 331 00:20:21,040 --> 00:20:24,639 Speaker 1: and a ribbon and a trophy and fifteen thousand pats 332 00:20:24,640 --> 00:20:26,959 Speaker 1: on the back for doing something that is in no 333 00:20:27,200 --> 00:20:32,600 Speaker 1: way exceptional. This is how low our standards have become. 334 00:20:33,680 --> 00:20:35,680 Speaker 1: I'm not trying to be a ball breaker. I'm trying 335 00:20:35,680 --> 00:20:38,719 Speaker 1: to help you get strong. I'm trying to help you 336 00:20:38,880 --> 00:20:42,960 Speaker 1: be resourceful. I'm trying to help you be the answer 337 00:20:43,760 --> 00:20:46,000 Speaker 1: in your life. I'm not the answer in your life. 338 00:20:46,320 --> 00:20:49,400 Speaker 1: I haven't changed any lives. I have not changed one life. 339 00:20:49,440 --> 00:20:52,080 Speaker 1: Craig Harper is not the answer to anyone for anything. 340 00:20:52,400 --> 00:20:56,840 Speaker 1: Craig Harper is a bloke that says stuff. Now you think, oh, 341 00:20:57,000 --> 00:20:59,119 Speaker 1: and some people go, oh, that's not true, Harps, you 342 00:20:59,320 --> 00:21:01,080 Speaker 1: changed my life. I've had a lot of people say that, 343 00:21:01,119 --> 00:21:04,520 Speaker 1: which is really nice, and you know, my ego loves 344 00:21:04,520 --> 00:21:06,560 Speaker 1: that shit, right, But it's not true though. It just 345 00:21:06,680 --> 00:21:09,200 Speaker 1: isn't true because I said the same thing to a 346 00:21:09,280 --> 00:21:13,040 Speaker 1: thousand other people who did nothing. So it isn't about me. 347 00:21:13,119 --> 00:21:15,920 Speaker 1: It's about you, because you're the one. You're the one 348 00:21:15,960 --> 00:21:18,040 Speaker 1: that did the thing. You're the one that heard the words. 349 00:21:18,080 --> 00:21:21,960 Speaker 1: You're the one that operationalized the plan, the idea, the intention. 350 00:21:22,160 --> 00:21:24,360 Speaker 1: You're the one who kept going. You're the one who 351 00:21:24,359 --> 00:21:27,520 Speaker 1: got uncomfortable. You're the one who did the fucking work, 352 00:21:27,600 --> 00:21:30,520 Speaker 1: while others just keep talking about what they're going to 353 00:21:30,600 --> 00:21:34,840 Speaker 1: do but never do. So much of success, so much 354 00:21:34,880 --> 00:21:37,760 Speaker 1: of you changing your life and your body and your 355 00:21:37,800 --> 00:21:40,760 Speaker 1: outcomes and all the shit that needs to be changed. 356 00:21:40,840 --> 00:21:45,280 Speaker 1: So much is about mindset. So much is about your 357 00:21:45,320 --> 00:21:49,320 Speaker 1: ability to be able to just fucking hold on. You 358 00:21:49,359 --> 00:21:53,200 Speaker 1: feel like shit? Cool? I'm sorry you feel like shit? 359 00:21:53,680 --> 00:21:56,680 Speaker 1: What can you do? Can you walk a bit? Yeah? 360 00:21:56,720 --> 00:21:58,600 Speaker 1: I can, but not for long because I'm real tired. 361 00:21:58,680 --> 00:22:01,320 Speaker 1: Can you walk five minutes? Cool? Okay? And a few 362 00:22:01,320 --> 00:22:03,520 Speaker 1: hours walk another five? You've got to walk around the 363 00:22:03,520 --> 00:22:06,399 Speaker 1: house for five cool? Or maybe it's not thirty minutes, 364 00:22:06,440 --> 00:22:09,920 Speaker 1: maybe it's fifteen for you. Obviously, I'm just giving an example. 365 00:22:10,160 --> 00:22:12,680 Speaker 1: Maybe it's not walking at all. Maybe it's something else. 366 00:22:12,800 --> 00:22:17,600 Speaker 1: You know it, but that the idea is stop fucking 367 00:22:17,720 --> 00:22:22,040 Speaker 1: waiting for the mystical, magical, mythical, right time, for the crowd, 368 00:22:22,160 --> 00:22:28,320 Speaker 1: for the approval, for the applause. It is emotional and 369 00:22:28,400 --> 00:22:33,600 Speaker 1: psychological kryptonite. It makes you weak because then you have 370 00:22:33,680 --> 00:22:36,639 Speaker 1: a new addiction. And now your addiction is not fucking 371 00:22:36,760 --> 00:22:40,760 Speaker 1: chocolate and cake. Now your addiction is approval from others. 372 00:22:41,280 --> 00:22:44,639 Speaker 1: Now your addiction is to put shit on Instagram or 373 00:22:45,080 --> 00:22:48,560 Speaker 1: Facebook to show people how amazing you are. And then 374 00:22:48,720 --> 00:22:52,000 Speaker 1: all those positive comments you get back, that's like fucking 375 00:22:52,080 --> 00:22:55,320 Speaker 1: cocaine for your ego. And then but what about when 376 00:22:55,359 --> 00:22:58,159 Speaker 1: they stop, Well, you've got to pump it up or 377 00:22:58,160 --> 00:23:00,679 Speaker 1: what about note, So this is why we don't need that. 378 00:23:01,920 --> 00:23:06,160 Speaker 1: You want that, maybe, but you don't need that. What 379 00:23:06,200 --> 00:23:08,919 Speaker 1: you need is to make yourself the best version of 380 00:23:09,000 --> 00:23:13,560 Speaker 1: you that you can be. All right, I'm going to 381 00:23:13,640 --> 00:23:17,359 Speaker 1: finish with Have I done two or three? I think 382 00:23:17,480 --> 00:23:20,200 Speaker 1: only two I do bang on, so I've got a 383 00:23:20,200 --> 00:23:21,840 Speaker 1: bunch more, but I'm just going to do one more 384 00:23:21,880 --> 00:23:24,600 Speaker 1: because I want to keep this succinct, and I probably 385 00:23:24,600 --> 00:23:27,719 Speaker 1: do another one very soon. If you like these, by 386 00:23:27,760 --> 00:23:31,280 Speaker 1: the way, if you enjoy this and this is you know, 387 00:23:31,320 --> 00:23:33,080 Speaker 1: it's never going to be one or the other. But 388 00:23:33,240 --> 00:23:36,000 Speaker 1: and I'm not seeking accolades. I just want to know 389 00:23:36,080 --> 00:23:39,439 Speaker 1: what my audience likes. If you go, hey, you know 390 00:23:39,520 --> 00:23:44,520 Speaker 1: those solo ones, fuck off with those, no problem. I'll 391 00:23:44,640 --> 00:23:48,960 Speaker 1: just do interviews, right So, but if this kind of 392 00:23:51,760 --> 00:23:54,120 Speaker 1: no bullshit, you know, I'm not trying to be offensive 393 00:23:54,160 --> 00:23:57,400 Speaker 1: to anyone. I know someone gets some people get offended 394 00:23:57,400 --> 00:24:01,720 Speaker 1: by me. Totally understand that. Got a message from a 395 00:24:01,800 --> 00:24:05,120 Speaker 1: lady last night who sounds absolutely love me lovely, who's 396 00:24:05,119 --> 00:24:07,440 Speaker 1: been following me for years, who's got a couple of kids. 397 00:24:07,840 --> 00:24:10,560 Speaker 1: She told me how disappointed she's in me lately because 398 00:24:10,560 --> 00:24:15,480 Speaker 1: of my language. And firstly, I'm so brave for reaching 399 00:24:15,520 --> 00:24:18,880 Speaker 1: out and saying that. But what I loved about her 400 00:24:19,160 --> 00:24:23,360 Speaker 1: was she didn't attack me. She didn't. It wasn't horrible. 401 00:24:23,400 --> 00:24:26,840 Speaker 1: It was actually quite compassionate and nice and honest. And 402 00:24:27,680 --> 00:24:30,040 Speaker 1: it must have taken real courage because I got the 403 00:24:30,119 --> 00:24:32,720 Speaker 1: sense that she's in the kind of person who does this. 404 00:24:33,640 --> 00:24:37,199 Speaker 1: So if you're listening to this, young lady, you know 405 00:24:37,240 --> 00:24:39,879 Speaker 1: who you are. I appreciate you, and I appreciate what 406 00:24:40,040 --> 00:24:43,680 Speaker 1: you said, and I understand and it's and it's valid, 407 00:24:45,359 --> 00:24:48,800 Speaker 1: you know. Anyway, here we go. So my last question, 408 00:24:48,840 --> 00:24:55,879 Speaker 1: which should be briefish, is what's the best question that 409 00:24:56,000 --> 00:25:00,399 Speaker 1: I can ask regarding this thing, this problem, this challenge, 410 00:25:00,440 --> 00:25:05,640 Speaker 1: this goal, this need, this situation, this circumstance, this environment, 411 00:25:05,720 --> 00:25:09,760 Speaker 1: this person. What's the best question that I can ask? 412 00:25:09,800 --> 00:25:14,520 Speaker 1: So I want to put myself in a psychological and 413 00:25:14,680 --> 00:25:20,960 Speaker 1: emotional state via the questions that I ask. Where I 414 00:25:21,000 --> 00:25:23,840 Speaker 1: am more likely to solve a problem where I'm more 415 00:25:24,119 --> 00:25:27,440 Speaker 1: likely to come up with a solution, where I am 416 00:25:27,840 --> 00:25:33,840 Speaker 1: more likely to create a sense of connection, not disconnection, 417 00:25:34,400 --> 00:25:40,199 Speaker 1: and more likely to create a better result. So you know, 418 00:25:40,280 --> 00:25:48,800 Speaker 1: for example, if we're talking about my work, I could say, like, 419 00:25:48,880 --> 00:25:52,480 Speaker 1: here's a few questions about my work, Craig, where do 420 00:25:52,520 --> 00:25:57,679 Speaker 1: you Where do you enjoy working most or what situation 421 00:25:57,880 --> 00:26:01,240 Speaker 1: or circumstance or environment, And the true is, well, I 422 00:26:01,359 --> 00:26:04,360 Speaker 1: like working from home. I love doing my stuff on stage, 423 00:26:04,720 --> 00:26:06,560 Speaker 1: that would be my favorite, but you can't do that 424 00:26:06,600 --> 00:26:10,400 Speaker 1: all day every day. I love where I am right now, 425 00:26:10,400 --> 00:26:13,320 Speaker 1: which is sitting in my office talking into a mic thinking. 426 00:26:14,720 --> 00:26:16,920 Speaker 1: By the way, I have absolutely no notes in front 427 00:26:16,920 --> 00:26:19,280 Speaker 1: of me, not one note. I just have the questions 428 00:26:19,320 --> 00:26:23,000 Speaker 1: jotted down, but zero notes. And what this does for 429 00:26:23,119 --> 00:26:26,680 Speaker 1: me when I'm in this space that I'm very familiar with, 430 00:26:28,080 --> 00:26:32,040 Speaker 1: I can I actually can not always, but like even now, 431 00:26:32,040 --> 00:26:34,000 Speaker 1: I feel like I'm in a little bit of flow, right, 432 00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:35,560 Speaker 1: I feel like I'm in a little bit of flower 433 00:26:35,600 --> 00:26:40,600 Speaker 1: habitat sabotage myself now, but where I can get into 434 00:26:40,640 --> 00:26:43,439 Speaker 1: a space and a rhythm where I can do this 435 00:26:43,560 --> 00:26:48,520 Speaker 1: thing well. Right, So what's what's the best way for 436 00:26:48,600 --> 00:26:51,919 Speaker 1: me to do solo episodes. It's the way I'm doing 437 00:26:51,960 --> 00:26:55,119 Speaker 1: it right now. It's sitting in my office, got trees 438 00:26:55,160 --> 00:26:57,760 Speaker 1: outside my window. Birds. A bird just chirped like a 439 00:26:57,760 --> 00:27:01,959 Speaker 1: little motherfucker. You probably didn't hear it, but yeah, I'm 440 00:27:01,960 --> 00:27:04,840 Speaker 1: sitting here in shorts, t shirt, bare feet, and I 441 00:27:04,880 --> 00:27:07,880 Speaker 1: love it. It's the perfect environment for me to create. 442 00:27:08,760 --> 00:27:13,000 Speaker 1: It's the perfect environment for me to reflect and think 443 00:27:13,080 --> 00:27:17,600 Speaker 1: critically and to try to with all of that going on, 444 00:27:17,680 --> 00:27:20,679 Speaker 1: to try to have a level of awareness around what 445 00:27:20,960 --> 00:27:25,960 Speaker 1: is this experience like for my listeners right now, right 446 00:27:26,000 --> 00:27:29,879 Speaker 1: now as you hear this anyway, So always thinking about 447 00:27:29,880 --> 00:27:33,399 Speaker 1: all right in this situation, what's the best question? It 448 00:27:33,400 --> 00:27:36,840 Speaker 1: could be like I want to do weights? How should 449 00:27:36,880 --> 00:27:39,960 Speaker 1: I wait train? That's a good question. Should I train 450 00:27:40,680 --> 00:27:42,760 Speaker 1: two days a week or five days a week, that's 451 00:27:42,760 --> 00:27:45,760 Speaker 1: a good question. Should I do dumb bells, bar bells, 452 00:27:45,800 --> 00:27:49,000 Speaker 1: free weights? Should I do pinloaded? Should I do kettle bells? 453 00:27:49,040 --> 00:27:51,280 Speaker 1: Should I do train one on one with someone for 454 00:27:51,320 --> 00:27:54,720 Speaker 1: a while. Should I get a program at a regular 455 00:27:54,800 --> 00:27:57,840 Speaker 1: old gym and train myself? Should I do pilates because 456 00:27:57,840 --> 00:28:00,280 Speaker 1: that's a kind of strength training. Maybe I could go 457 00:28:00,359 --> 00:28:04,000 Speaker 1: to fucking rock climbing because I'm an outdoorsy type and 458 00:28:04,040 --> 00:28:06,479 Speaker 1: I love that shit, right, So it's not even with 459 00:28:06,560 --> 00:28:11,320 Speaker 1: the should I do say strength training question? Well, the 460 00:28:11,359 --> 00:28:14,720 Speaker 1: answer is for most people, it's definitely going to be 461 00:28:14,840 --> 00:28:17,959 Speaker 1: of value, right, So I can't say to you you 462 00:28:18,000 --> 00:28:20,719 Speaker 1: should You need to figure that out. But most people, 463 00:28:20,800 --> 00:28:23,000 Speaker 1: even including my eighty six year old parents, to do 464 00:28:23,080 --> 00:28:27,000 Speaker 1: some strength training is a benefit for me at sixty two, 465 00:28:27,160 --> 00:28:29,840 Speaker 1: it's of value. And then it's like, well, how hard 466 00:28:29,840 --> 00:28:33,119 Speaker 1: should I train? How often should I train? Should I 467 00:28:33,160 --> 00:28:35,400 Speaker 1: do lots of reps on lightweight? Should I do less 468 00:28:35,400 --> 00:28:39,040 Speaker 1: reps on heavyweights? Is there an advantage if I do 469 00:28:39,120 --> 00:28:41,400 Speaker 1: a bench press on a ball versus on a bench? 470 00:28:41,520 --> 00:28:45,920 Speaker 1: Is there? You know? Like should I do overhead lifting 471 00:28:46,080 --> 00:28:48,360 Speaker 1: like a military press or a shoulder press? What about 472 00:28:48,360 --> 00:28:50,720 Speaker 1: the compression on my spine because I had a back 473 00:28:50,720 --> 00:28:53,040 Speaker 1: at Da Da da, All these things. So we get 474 00:28:53,080 --> 00:28:56,120 Speaker 1: to good answers, We get to good answers and good 475 00:28:56,160 --> 00:29:00,480 Speaker 1: behaviors with good questions because the question is a light 476 00:29:01,200 --> 00:29:03,240 Speaker 1: that's going to be showe eventually on the answer and 477 00:29:03,280 --> 00:29:07,160 Speaker 1: the behavior, and you know, the ongoing kind of process. 478 00:29:07,680 --> 00:29:11,640 Speaker 1: It could be like here's a really great question. When 479 00:29:11,680 --> 00:29:14,840 Speaker 1: I eat this way or this particular food or this meal, 480 00:29:15,200 --> 00:29:16,960 Speaker 1: but when I eat at this time of the day, 481 00:29:17,760 --> 00:29:21,400 Speaker 1: what does my body tell me? Because your body's telling 482 00:29:21,440 --> 00:29:24,480 Speaker 1: you stuff all the time, what's your body telling you? 483 00:29:25,640 --> 00:29:30,960 Speaker 1: It could be I don't love my work? What is 484 00:29:31,000 --> 00:29:34,240 Speaker 1: that about? What is that about? Is it about the people? 485 00:29:34,400 --> 00:29:36,440 Speaker 1: Is it about the environment? Is it about the role 486 00:29:36,520 --> 00:29:39,400 Speaker 1: that I'm in? Is it about the pressure the responsibility? 487 00:29:39,480 --> 00:29:41,640 Speaker 1: Is about the fact that I sit in a fucking cubicle? 488 00:29:42,440 --> 00:29:45,120 Speaker 1: Is it the fact that I'm working real hard I'm 489 00:29:45,120 --> 00:29:48,520 Speaker 1: not getting recognition. Is it about the fact that I 490 00:29:48,560 --> 00:29:51,880 Speaker 1: think I've kind of maxed out my opportunities. There's no 491 00:29:52,920 --> 00:29:56,360 Speaker 1: clear path upward for me, and I want to be 492 00:29:56,400 --> 00:29:58,719 Speaker 1: moving up the ladder. But bah bah all of that. 493 00:29:59,280 --> 00:30:04,560 Speaker 1: So you know, even to this point specifically, you might say, 494 00:30:05,840 --> 00:30:08,640 Speaker 1: all right, that was good. Where the fuck do I start? 495 00:30:09,240 --> 00:30:11,080 Speaker 1: So I'm going to coach you right now, and you 496 00:30:11,120 --> 00:30:14,200 Speaker 1: can do whatever you want with this. If this episode 497 00:30:14,400 --> 00:30:19,400 Speaker 1: resonated with you, like if I was coaching me or 498 00:30:19,440 --> 00:30:23,120 Speaker 1: I was coaching you, I would say, did this really 499 00:30:23,160 --> 00:30:26,280 Speaker 1: resonate with you? And I know this will resonate strongly 500 00:30:26,440 --> 00:30:29,160 Speaker 1: with some of you, some of you be like, ah, 501 00:30:29,200 --> 00:30:32,280 Speaker 1: that's cool, and some of you have already tuned out, 502 00:30:32,640 --> 00:30:36,840 Speaker 1: and that's cool too. But I'm saying, if all you, 503 00:30:37,160 --> 00:30:40,120 Speaker 1: if this resonated for you, if this was meaningful for you, 504 00:30:40,520 --> 00:30:44,680 Speaker 1: if you think that this, ah, these ideas and these 505 00:30:44,760 --> 00:30:48,560 Speaker 1: words and these strategies could genuinely help you move the 506 00:30:48,600 --> 00:30:51,240 Speaker 1: needle on your life and your outcomes and the quality 507 00:30:51,240 --> 00:30:55,960 Speaker 1: of your experiences, then I would suggest take the thirty 508 00:30:55,960 --> 00:30:58,440 Speaker 1: odd minutes whenever it is, might be in five or 509 00:30:58,480 --> 00:31:02,880 Speaker 1: ten minute installments. But listen to it again with a 510 00:31:02,920 --> 00:31:08,160 Speaker 1: notepad and a pen, or a computer whatever, a laptop 511 00:31:08,200 --> 00:31:10,920 Speaker 1: and keyboard or bloddy, oh no they have a you 512 00:31:11,000 --> 00:31:13,320 Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. Listen to it again. Jot down 513 00:31:13,360 --> 00:31:16,440 Speaker 1: some questions, jot down some ideas. The stuff that's not 514 00:31:16,560 --> 00:31:20,240 Speaker 1: so relevant for you doesn't matter. Leave that the stuff 515 00:31:20,240 --> 00:31:23,680 Speaker 1: that is relevant. Write it down and then think about it, 516 00:31:23,760 --> 00:31:27,440 Speaker 1: and then plan about it, and then timeline it and 517 00:31:27,480 --> 00:31:34,479 Speaker 1: then do something. Don't look for approval, don't tell everyone 518 00:31:35,160 --> 00:31:39,760 Speaker 1: like your ability to do the work without people watching, 519 00:31:40,040 --> 00:31:47,160 Speaker 1: without people knowing, without people rewarding you, this is the challenge, 520 00:31:47,320 --> 00:31:48,800 Speaker 1: and of course you can do it in front of 521 00:31:48,800 --> 00:31:50,320 Speaker 1: others and you'll get all the stuff. And I'm not 522 00:31:50,360 --> 00:31:53,600 Speaker 1: saying that's terrible, you know, if you do the work 523 00:31:53,680 --> 00:31:57,160 Speaker 1: and you've got to support crew and call. But what 524 00:31:57,240 --> 00:32:00,640 Speaker 1: I care about, equally as the results that you were getting, 525 00:32:01,560 --> 00:32:06,440 Speaker 1: I care about who you are becoming through this process. 526 00:32:09,480 --> 00:32:12,880 Speaker 1: So in a lot of self help stuff, it almost 527 00:32:12,880 --> 00:32:16,000 Speaker 1: feels like, oh, we're trying to manage everything. We're trying 528 00:32:16,040 --> 00:32:18,160 Speaker 1: to manage the world. We're trying to manage all of 529 00:32:18,200 --> 00:32:23,200 Speaker 1: these external variables. To usk. Guess what. You can't really 530 00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:27,720 Speaker 1: manage shit, neither can I. You can influence things, you 531 00:32:27,760 --> 00:32:30,400 Speaker 1: can talk about things, you can you know, there are 532 00:32:30,400 --> 00:32:32,160 Speaker 1: some things we can move the needle on it a 533 00:32:32,160 --> 00:32:36,920 Speaker 1: little bit. But guess what you can absolutely fucking renovate 534 00:32:36,960 --> 00:32:40,120 Speaker 1: the shit out of. And that is you. That is 535 00:32:40,160 --> 00:32:42,840 Speaker 1: your thinking and your habits and your behaviors and your 536 00:32:42,960 --> 00:32:49,240 Speaker 1: questions and your outcomes. So perhaps perhaps the challenge is 537 00:32:49,280 --> 00:32:52,680 Speaker 1: not to change my external world, but to navigate it 538 00:32:52,800 --> 00:33:00,560 Speaker 1: intelligently while renovating my internal world. Enjoy the journey.