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Speaker 1: Hi everyone, It's Carli here and welcome to this week's

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Speaker 1: Mojoe Monday. So today I want to talk about something

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Speaker 1: that is very hard to ignore, and that is the

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Speaker 1: sharp rise in mental health issues over the past couple

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Speaker 1: of decades. Now, this is a huge topic, and I

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Speaker 1: am not going to try and unpack all the reasons

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Speaker 1: in a short podcast, but you know, it's very complex,

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Speaker 1: but we can't overlook a few really clear changes that

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Speaker 1: have happened in our environment and therefore our daily experience,

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Speaker 1: especially since my daughter was born back in two thousand

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Speaker 1: and six, which also happens to be the year that

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Speaker 1: the first smartphone hit the market, and there's been massive

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Speaker 1: changes to our experience since then, so a lot has shifted.

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Speaker 1: We have more information at our fingertips than ever before.

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Speaker 1: We have connection to thousands of more people than ever before.

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Speaker 1: You think about it, that's just crazy how many people

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Speaker 1: were connected to Now we are moving less, we're sleeping poorly,

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Speaker 1: we're more distracted than ever, we're eating more ultra processed foods.

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Speaker 1: And despite being more connected online, a lot of people

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Speaker 1: are feeling lonely and disconnected in real life and stillness

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Speaker 1: this kind where you just stare out the window and

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Speaker 1: let your mind wander, which I remember doing as a

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Speaker 1: kid and as a teenager. You know, even if you

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Speaker 1: were listening to music on your walkmen, But now it

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Speaker 1: feels really uncomfortable for people to just sit in stillness.

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Speaker 1: We've become scared to be bored, and we reach for

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Speaker 1: our phones even before we even realize that we're doing it.

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Speaker 1: It's becoming such a habit. And of course I could

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Speaker 1: go on and on that what's happening as a result

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Speaker 1: of all this is that we are more anxious, more

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Speaker 1: depressed than any other time. And I truly believe that

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Speaker 1: we are in a lot of cases, not all, of course,

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Speaker 1: but a lot of cases, we are pathologizing normal human emotions.

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Speaker 1: For example, if you've gone through a divorce, or a

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Speaker 1: loved one has died, or you have lost your job,

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Speaker 1: or you're feeling anxious or sad or hopeless, it's a

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Speaker 1: normal human response. Even if you think about a fifteen

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Speaker 1: year old or a young person who's required to do

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Speaker 1: a presentation at school in front of their peers, it's

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Speaker 1: normal to feel anxious or nervous. So I'm kind of

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Speaker 1: digressing a bit, But what is really clear is that

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Speaker 1: more and more people are turning to therapy and medication

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Speaker 1: to cope with all of this. So let me be

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Speaker 1: clear that I'm not anti therapy or anti medication, because

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Speaker 1: I know both can be incredibly helpful, and I know

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Speaker 1: people who it has been incredibly helpful for. But I

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Speaker 1: do think we've got to ask a deeper question, what

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Speaker 1: is the reason we are turning to therapy or medication?

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Speaker 1: So is the goal to just reduce symptoms? Because that's

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Speaker 1: what we're very focused on today is reducing symptoms. And

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Speaker 1: many people are going to their GP to get a

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Speaker 1: script just to take the edge off their anxiety. But

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Speaker 1: I'll tell you what I would actually love to see.

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Speaker 1: I would love to see people walk out of that

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Speaker 1: same appointment with a script for something that they can do,

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Speaker 1: that they have decided that they can do that will

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Speaker 1: enhance their quality of life, something that moves them forward physically, emotionally, spiritually.

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Speaker 1: Because the truth is change doesn't happen without movement, without action.

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Speaker 1: So here's a question for you. What moves you, what

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Speaker 1: lights you up? What do you want? Because if you

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Speaker 1: want to be a certain way to have a life

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Speaker 1: worth living, you have to take action, and you also

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Speaker 1: have to take responsibility for that action because no one

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Speaker 1: else is going to do it. So I'm going to

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Speaker 1: give you just a couple of personal examples because this

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Speaker 1: isn't just theoretical for me. So, since going to CrossFit

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Speaker 1: and yoga consistently, I feel the quality of my life

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Speaker 1: has increased dramatically. So my body is stronger at fifty

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Speaker 1: five than it's ever been, and that strength really spills

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Speaker 1: over to my mind because we know that the connection,

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Speaker 1: that connection between mind and body, and I really feel

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Speaker 1: more capable, more grounded than ever before. And since i

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Speaker 1: started putting my phone down when my kids want to

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Speaker 1: talk to me, I feel in that moment a deeper

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Speaker 1: connection with them. And that is such a small action,

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Speaker 1: but in that moment, I'm really present and they feel

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Speaker 1: it as well. And he's one for you. Since I've

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Speaker 1: started joking around more with Paul, my husband, I feel

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Speaker 1: more connected with It's kind of lighter, and it's amazing

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Speaker 1: what a little playfulness can do. But that takes intentionality.

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Speaker 1: It takes action to stop what I'm doing and just

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Speaker 1: be playful for a few minutes. And a big one

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Speaker 1: also is that since I've started having screened free time

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Speaker 1: an hour before bed and putting my phone in another room,

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Speaker 1: which I've been doing for years, but my sleep has

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Speaker 1: dramatically improved, and of course that is going to have

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Speaker 1: a positive impact on my well being, my quality of life.

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Speaker 1: So I wind down properly, I let those beautiful hormones

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Speaker 1: sleep ho hormones kick in naturally, I rest better and

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Speaker 1: that affects everything the next day. So none of these

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Speaker 1: are massive life changes, but they're intentional actions that support

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Speaker 1: my well being. So when I feel anxious or flat

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Speaker 1: or sad or whatever emotion comes up for me, which

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Speaker 1: is inevitable, rather than trying to ignore these emotions or

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Speaker 1: resist them, I work out what I need to do

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Speaker 1: that is going to help, not hinder, but help me.

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Speaker 1: Every action you take creates your experience, and every action

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Speaker 1: creates your circumstances. So you need to take the action

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Speaker 1: that's needed right in that moment, and that's what moves

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Speaker 1: the needle. That's taking responsibility for your choices and your actions.

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Speaker 1: So if you are currently in therapy or you are

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Speaker 1: taking medication and it's helping you, then great, that's the

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Speaker 1: action you need to take. But it's just one piece

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Speaker 1: of the puzzle. So don't stop there, ask yourself, what

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Speaker 1: else can I add that is going to help me

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Speaker 1: live a better life, not just manage symptoms. Because no

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Speaker 1: pill and no therapist and no app is going to

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Speaker 1: hand you a sense of meaning or joy or purpose

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Speaker 1: in your life. You can't wait for that. You can't

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Speaker 1: wait for something to kick in before you can start

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Speaker 1: living a full life because that meaning, joy and purpose

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Speaker 1: is something you get from moving, from taking action. That's

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Speaker 1: something you cultivate through small, intentional actions over time. So

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Speaker 1: this week I want you to sit with this. What

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Speaker 1: moves you, what moves you physically, emotionally, spiritually, and what

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Speaker 1: needs to be nurtured right now? Is it your relationships,

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Speaker 1: your health? What is it that you need to do?

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Speaker 1: And what's one small thing you can do to improve

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Speaker 1: the quality of your life starting now? So once you've

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Speaker 1: finished listening to me, what's one thing you can do?

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Speaker 1: Because I really believe everyone needs more than just symptom relief.

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Speaker 1: We all deserve a life that feels worth living. But

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Speaker 1: it's really up to us to go out and live

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Speaker 1: that life. So thank you so much for listening. I

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Speaker 1: hope that was valuable for you. Bit of food for

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Speaker 1: thought and I will catch you Next week SIA