1 00:00:00,560 --> 00:00:02,759 Speaker 1: I'll get a Tom Hope, You're terrific. Welcome to another 2 00:00:02,800 --> 00:00:08,200 Speaker 1: installment of the You Project. So I've decided I'm going 3 00:00:08,280 --> 00:00:09,799 Speaker 1: to do a little series. I'm gonna do a little 4 00:00:09,880 --> 00:00:13,800 Speaker 1: series this week. So this will come out on Tuesday. 5 00:00:13,920 --> 00:00:17,680 Speaker 1: So Tuesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday. Don't ask me why I'm 6 00:00:17,720 --> 00:00:20,680 Speaker 1: starting on a Tuesday, fuck it because I can. Because 7 00:00:20,680 --> 00:00:24,520 Speaker 1: I can. And the idea excuse that noise in the 8 00:00:24,520 --> 00:00:27,280 Speaker 1: background and moving shit on my desk. The idea for 9 00:00:27,360 --> 00:00:32,440 Speaker 1: this short this is going to be somewhat reminiscent of 10 00:00:32,479 --> 00:00:36,080 Speaker 1: my Life podcast episodes. If you remember, back in the day, 11 00:00:36,680 --> 00:00:38,800 Speaker 1: I did two hundred episodes of Life, which were like 12 00:00:38,880 --> 00:00:43,640 Speaker 1: these little ten minute installments, like little daily coaching sessions. 13 00:00:43,640 --> 00:00:45,120 Speaker 1: So for this week it's going to kind of be 14 00:00:45,159 --> 00:00:49,120 Speaker 1: a version of that. I've got a bunch of really 15 00:00:49,120 --> 00:00:52,120 Speaker 1: good stuff lined up, some amazing guests coming, lots of 16 00:00:52,120 --> 00:00:56,040 Speaker 1: great things. I've got a few interview this views this week, 17 00:00:56,080 --> 00:01:00,400 Speaker 1: which will go live from kind of Sunday Monday onwards. 18 00:01:00,440 --> 00:01:03,120 Speaker 1: After this stuff. But I thought we'd do something different, 19 00:01:03,440 --> 00:01:06,319 Speaker 1: might work, might not, who knows. It's what you do? 20 00:01:06,520 --> 00:01:09,240 Speaker 1: You ever go, don't you? So I want to share 21 00:01:09,280 --> 00:01:14,560 Speaker 1: a different idea or construct or strategy or life improving 22 00:01:14,880 --> 00:01:19,240 Speaker 1: kind of technique that might help you create some kind 23 00:01:19,280 --> 00:01:27,280 Speaker 1: of internal or external positive shift, some kind of improvement, growth, development, evolution, understanding, insight, awareness, 24 00:01:27,319 --> 00:01:33,679 Speaker 1: some form of improvement on planet you. And some of 25 00:01:33,720 --> 00:01:37,640 Speaker 1: the things that I'm sharing, a lot of what I'm 26 00:01:37,640 --> 00:01:42,520 Speaker 1: sharing has really been stuff that has just become evident 27 00:01:42,600 --> 00:01:46,400 Speaker 1: to me through my own trials and tribulations, falling down 28 00:01:46,440 --> 00:01:49,520 Speaker 1: and getting up for sixty odd years. So you know, 29 00:01:49,600 --> 00:01:52,760 Speaker 1: in business, in life, with health, in relationships, with money, 30 00:01:52,800 --> 00:01:56,000 Speaker 1: with you know, lifestyle, with trying to figure out who 31 00:01:56,080 --> 00:01:57,640 Speaker 1: I am and who I want to be and how 32 00:01:57,680 --> 00:02:00,960 Speaker 1: I want to be and how I might make that happen. 33 00:02:04,120 --> 00:02:11,799 Speaker 1: But also, you know, from my experience working with thousands 34 00:02:11,880 --> 00:02:17,559 Speaker 1: of people in a personal training capacity thousands of sessions. 35 00:02:18,440 --> 00:02:20,880 Speaker 1: I've said this a bunch of times, but I did 36 00:02:20,880 --> 00:02:25,400 Speaker 1: over fifty thousand sessions of personal training. Think about that. 37 00:02:25,480 --> 00:02:29,960 Speaker 1: Fifty thousand sessions of personal training. That's a lot of conversations, 38 00:02:30,040 --> 00:02:32,360 Speaker 1: that's a lot of interaction. That's a lot of different 39 00:02:32,480 --> 00:02:34,639 Speaker 1: minds and a lot of different beliefs, and a lot 40 00:02:34,639 --> 00:02:37,600 Speaker 1: of different bodies, a lot of different backgrounds, a lot 41 00:02:37,600 --> 00:02:41,880 Speaker 1: of different expectations and a lot of different needs that 42 00:02:41,960 --> 00:02:45,400 Speaker 1: I needed to navigate and negotiate and understand and have 43 00:02:45,520 --> 00:02:48,360 Speaker 1: some kind of insight into in order for me to 44 00:02:48,400 --> 00:02:54,040 Speaker 1: be able to help people create the outcome slash outcomes 45 00:02:54,120 --> 00:02:59,440 Speaker 1: that they wanted to create with their body. And while 46 00:02:59,639 --> 00:03:02,480 Speaker 1: mostly we know that mostly people go to the gym 47 00:03:02,520 --> 00:03:05,320 Speaker 1: because they want to change something about their body, a 48 00:03:05,520 --> 00:03:10,480 Speaker 1: physiological kind of shift, of course, we also know that, 49 00:03:11,440 --> 00:03:13,360 Speaker 1: you know, even when we just talk about getting in 50 00:03:13,400 --> 00:03:16,320 Speaker 1: shape physically, we know that it's not just about the body. 51 00:03:16,400 --> 00:03:18,760 Speaker 1: As I've said many times quite often, it's almost like 52 00:03:18,800 --> 00:03:22,920 Speaker 1: the body is the consequence. It's really a behavioral and 53 00:03:23,040 --> 00:03:29,880 Speaker 1: practical and social and emotional and psychological process with a 54 00:03:29,919 --> 00:03:34,480 Speaker 1: physical consequence. You know, it's about choice, it's about thinking, habits, behavior, 55 00:03:34,960 --> 00:03:38,000 Speaker 1: all that stuff. And so, you know what was really 56 00:03:38,040 --> 00:03:40,320 Speaker 1: interesting for me as a young trainer, as a young 57 00:03:40,400 --> 00:03:44,480 Speaker 1: gym instructor, as someone who kicked off their health career 58 00:03:44,560 --> 00:03:48,200 Speaker 1: fitness career at eighteen with really no fucking idea. But 59 00:03:50,440 --> 00:03:54,240 Speaker 1: as I was primarily at that stage anyway, an experiential learner, 60 00:03:54,280 --> 00:03:57,800 Speaker 1: I was quite good at understanding people and reading people, 61 00:03:58,000 --> 00:04:03,920 Speaker 1: and intuitively, while I didn't have great academic or theoretical knowledge. 62 00:04:04,720 --> 00:04:09,000 Speaker 1: I was not bad at intuitively and instinctively being able 63 00:04:09,040 --> 00:04:13,240 Speaker 1: to meet people where they are at. And you know, 64 00:04:13,560 --> 00:04:17,080 Speaker 1: the common denominator, as I've said many times for people 65 00:04:17,080 --> 00:04:18,960 Speaker 1: who go to a gym, is that they want to change. 66 00:04:19,000 --> 00:04:22,920 Speaker 1: And so in a way, you're not just a gym 67 00:04:22,960 --> 00:04:27,320 Speaker 1: instructor or a personal trainer, or an exercise physiologist or 68 00:04:27,360 --> 00:04:30,320 Speaker 1: a gym manager or whatever I was at that stage 69 00:04:30,320 --> 00:04:34,800 Speaker 1: of my journey, But you are an agent of change. 70 00:04:35,839 --> 00:04:40,599 Speaker 1: You are a change management expert of sorts, or you 71 00:04:40,680 --> 00:04:46,320 Speaker 1: become that over time because you start to realize that 72 00:04:46,680 --> 00:04:52,440 Speaker 1: helping someone change their body, but also change their understanding 73 00:04:52,520 --> 00:04:57,559 Speaker 1: and change their knowledge, and change their thinking, and change 74 00:04:57,600 --> 00:05:01,200 Speaker 1: their habits and behaviors, and change their their day to 75 00:05:01,279 --> 00:05:04,200 Speaker 1: day operating system, and to change the way that they 76 00:05:04,320 --> 00:05:08,200 Speaker 1: think about food or relate to food, to change the 77 00:05:08,279 --> 00:05:11,520 Speaker 1: relationship that they have with food and their body and 78 00:05:11,600 --> 00:05:15,960 Speaker 1: with exercise, the way that they socialize, the way that 79 00:05:16,000 --> 00:05:19,240 Speaker 1: they self regulate or don't self regulate. You realize that 80 00:05:19,320 --> 00:05:26,440 Speaker 1: this is like a really multi dimensional, complicated, integrated process. 81 00:05:26,800 --> 00:05:31,160 Speaker 1: It's not about one thing, It's about many things, and 82 00:05:31,279 --> 00:05:38,280 Speaker 1: often it's about people's willingness to do the thing that 83 00:05:38,320 --> 00:05:41,160 Speaker 1: they have been unwilling to do up until that point 84 00:05:41,200 --> 00:05:44,840 Speaker 1: in time. What do I mean by that, Well, how 85 00:05:44,880 --> 00:05:47,960 Speaker 1: many of us, how many of you listening? I know 86 00:05:48,160 --> 00:05:50,359 Speaker 1: I have done this, But how many of us know 87 00:05:50,480 --> 00:05:53,039 Speaker 1: what we should do, but don't do what we know 88 00:05:53,160 --> 00:05:58,919 Speaker 1: to do because it's uncomfortable or because it's not convenient, 89 00:05:59,080 --> 00:06:02,039 Speaker 1: or it's not quick, or it's not painless. And the 90 00:06:02,080 --> 00:06:04,880 Speaker 1: answer is, obviously, many of us, or perhaps all of us, 91 00:06:04,960 --> 00:06:07,560 Speaker 1: have done that at some stage. And so there's the 92 00:06:07,640 --> 00:06:12,400 Speaker 1: thing that we're capable of doing. That's one. And two, 93 00:06:13,120 --> 00:06:16,799 Speaker 1: there's the thing that we're actually doing with those capabilities 94 00:06:17,000 --> 00:06:20,719 Speaker 1: or with that capacity or with that potential. And it's 95 00:06:20,760 --> 00:06:23,200 Speaker 1: my experience that while a lot of people have most 96 00:06:23,240 --> 00:06:30,480 Speaker 1: people I would say have a capacity for significant change, shift, growth, evolution, development, resilience, competence, 97 00:06:31,120 --> 00:06:35,080 Speaker 1: you know, all of those things that there's also a 98 00:06:35,160 --> 00:06:37,800 Speaker 1: large percentage of people who never really even open the 99 00:06:37,880 --> 00:06:42,000 Speaker 1: door on that stuff because they're too lazy, they're too inconsistent, 100 00:06:42,760 --> 00:06:51,320 Speaker 1: they're too fearful, or they're too unwilling to choose the 101 00:06:51,400 --> 00:06:54,839 Speaker 1: right path, not the easy path. As pursuant to the title, 102 00:06:54,880 --> 00:06:58,120 Speaker 1: of this episode, and that is, you know, there are 103 00:06:58,120 --> 00:06:59,640 Speaker 1: the things that we need to do, and they're the 104 00:06:59,640 --> 00:07:01,600 Speaker 1: things that we want to do. Are the things that 105 00:07:01,680 --> 00:07:04,000 Speaker 1: need to be done to create the outcome we want 106 00:07:04,040 --> 00:07:07,440 Speaker 1: to create with our body, with our brand, with our business, 107 00:07:07,480 --> 00:07:10,320 Speaker 1: with our lifestyle, with our relationships, with our bank balance, 108 00:07:10,680 --> 00:07:15,000 Speaker 1: with our academic journey, with our capacity to live our values, 109 00:07:15,080 --> 00:07:20,280 Speaker 1: to walk our talk, to live that life of spirituality 110 00:07:20,320 --> 00:07:24,600 Speaker 1: that's aligned with our values and beliefs. There's the path 111 00:07:24,640 --> 00:07:28,520 Speaker 1: that we can choose that's somewhat easy and convenient and painless, 112 00:07:29,880 --> 00:07:32,320 Speaker 1: but my experience and observation is that that doesn't get 113 00:07:32,360 --> 00:07:34,280 Speaker 1: us where we really want to go or could go. 114 00:07:36,200 --> 00:07:41,119 Speaker 1: And so you know, this willingness to be able to say, 115 00:07:41,840 --> 00:07:43,800 Speaker 1: I'm going to take the right path, and by the 116 00:07:43,880 --> 00:07:47,160 Speaker 1: right path, I mean the most effective, the most productive, 117 00:07:48,760 --> 00:07:52,560 Speaker 1: the one which is the most likely to open the 118 00:07:52,640 --> 00:07:57,480 Speaker 1: door wide on my capacity, on my potential, on my gifts, 119 00:07:57,680 --> 00:08:03,720 Speaker 1: on my genetic potential, so that I can get close 120 00:08:03,840 --> 00:08:08,120 Speaker 1: to or closer to the version of me that I 121 00:08:08,240 --> 00:08:12,240 Speaker 1: want to be. Now, if you're listening to this and 122 00:08:12,280 --> 00:08:15,120 Speaker 1: where you're at is already good, and you are with 123 00:08:15,160 --> 00:08:17,800 Speaker 1: your body, with your health, with your habits, with your life, 124 00:08:17,840 --> 00:08:23,080 Speaker 1: with your income, career, all the stuff that makes up 125 00:08:23,080 --> 00:08:25,840 Speaker 1: your life. If for the most part, you are genuinely 126 00:08:26,000 --> 00:08:29,280 Speaker 1: pretty happy and pretty fulfilled and kind of there in 127 00:08:29,280 --> 00:08:34,720 Speaker 1: inverted commas there, then this probably ain't for you. But if, 128 00:08:34,880 --> 00:08:38,520 Speaker 1: like many people, you have been the one day soon person, 129 00:08:38,720 --> 00:08:41,160 Speaker 1: or the it's not the right time but it will 130 00:08:41,200 --> 00:08:44,160 Speaker 1: be the right time soon person, or the I'll start 131 00:08:44,240 --> 00:08:47,920 Speaker 1: Monday or I'll start January one person, then maybe this 132 00:08:48,000 --> 00:08:51,880 Speaker 1: is for you. You know, for me, I have spent 133 00:08:52,640 --> 00:08:55,280 Speaker 1: or I spent a lot of my early years trying 134 00:08:55,320 --> 00:08:59,960 Speaker 1: to trying to get to the top of the mount 135 00:09:00,120 --> 00:09:06,760 Speaker 1: without the climb, the metaphoric mountain without the climb, choosing convenience, 136 00:09:08,240 --> 00:09:13,880 Speaker 1: choosing the quick fix, choosing instant gratification. And while all 137 00:09:13,920 --> 00:09:20,760 Speaker 1: of these things are super attractive and sexy, they might 138 00:09:20,800 --> 00:09:26,720 Speaker 1: be good for marketing. Convenience, instant gratification, quick fix, the hack, 139 00:09:26,840 --> 00:09:30,040 Speaker 1: the this, the shortcut, the whatever it is. All of 140 00:09:30,080 --> 00:09:34,360 Speaker 1: those things are better or worse. They're good marketing tools 141 00:09:34,360 --> 00:09:37,520 Speaker 1: because they seem to sell stuff because people love that idea. 142 00:09:37,640 --> 00:09:40,920 Speaker 1: But what they're not good for producing is long term 143 00:09:41,040 --> 00:09:46,240 Speaker 1: change or long term success or growth within humans. And 144 00:09:46,280 --> 00:09:51,679 Speaker 1: the irony is that, you know, the thing that we avoid, 145 00:09:52,559 --> 00:09:55,960 Speaker 1: which is the right path, is the thing that helps 146 00:09:56,040 --> 00:10:02,480 Speaker 1: us become that more evolved, more developed, more capable, more adaptable, 147 00:10:03,600 --> 00:10:11,160 Speaker 1: more resilient, more skilled, more aware version of us. As 148 00:10:11,200 --> 00:10:13,120 Speaker 1: most of you know, I've spent a lot of my 149 00:10:13,200 --> 00:10:17,040 Speaker 1: life educating myself, and that is, you know, experientially and academically, 150 00:10:17,080 --> 00:10:19,760 Speaker 1: I've been at the cold face of learning. I'm still there, 151 00:10:19,960 --> 00:10:22,800 Speaker 1: you know. I'm still reading, I'm still listening, I'm still watching. 152 00:10:22,920 --> 00:10:28,240 Speaker 1: I'm still formally studying and informally studying. I see myself 153 00:10:28,280 --> 00:10:33,800 Speaker 1: as a perpetual student, and I'm well aware that the 154 00:10:33,920 --> 00:10:38,839 Speaker 1: times where I have really learned and really evolved and 155 00:10:39,040 --> 00:10:43,600 Speaker 1: really gone to another level in terms of my own development, 156 00:10:44,559 --> 00:10:48,319 Speaker 1: my own understanding as a human using the limited ability 157 00:10:48,360 --> 00:10:52,400 Speaker 1: and knowledge and potential that I have. But when I've 158 00:10:52,440 --> 00:10:56,960 Speaker 1: really gone to another level, and I'm not saying this insincerely, 159 00:10:57,040 --> 00:11:00,400 Speaker 1: but is when I've just leant into the starfy that 160 00:11:00,600 --> 00:11:04,360 Speaker 1: terrified me, which is not to say that everything needs 161 00:11:04,400 --> 00:11:08,400 Speaker 1: to terrify us, or perhaps lent into the stuff which 162 00:11:08,520 --> 00:11:15,240 Speaker 1: was for me somewhat somewhere between uncertain, unfamiliar and uncomfortable 163 00:11:15,320 --> 00:11:18,239 Speaker 1: and at the other end of the scale fucking terrifying. 164 00:11:18,600 --> 00:11:22,720 Speaker 1: But somewhere in that mix there where you know. When 165 00:11:22,760 --> 00:11:26,360 Speaker 1: I set up my first personal training business, which was 166 00:11:26,440 --> 00:11:28,959 Speaker 1: in nine ninety thirty four years ago, there weren't any 167 00:11:29,000 --> 00:11:31,760 Speaker 1: in Australia. I didn't know how to lease commercial premises. 168 00:11:31,840 --> 00:11:34,120 Speaker 1: I didn't know how to buy commercial gym equipment. I 169 00:11:34,160 --> 00:11:37,160 Speaker 1: was twenty five when I was in the setting up process. 170 00:11:37,920 --> 00:11:41,040 Speaker 1: I'd never owned a business. I'd never done a leadership course, 171 00:11:41,080 --> 00:11:44,760 Speaker 1: a management course, a business course. I didn't have a degree. 172 00:11:45,600 --> 00:11:48,600 Speaker 1: Nearly every adult, because I still felt like a child 173 00:11:48,640 --> 00:11:51,600 Speaker 1: at the time, nearly every adult who gave me feedback 174 00:11:51,679 --> 00:11:55,480 Speaker 1: told me it wasn't a good business model, it wouldn't work. 175 00:11:56,080 --> 00:11:58,480 Speaker 1: I had a belief that it would work. I don't 176 00:11:58,520 --> 00:12:00,800 Speaker 1: know that I had the optimal bitin business model at 177 00:12:00,800 --> 00:12:04,280 Speaker 1: that stage. I probably well, I definitely didn't, But I 178 00:12:04,320 --> 00:12:10,520 Speaker 1: had an inherent, intuitive, very strong belief that it would work. 179 00:12:11,640 --> 00:12:16,079 Speaker 1: But what was required of me in that moment that 180 00:12:16,200 --> 00:12:18,760 Speaker 1: like the easy path would have been to continue on 181 00:12:18,880 --> 00:12:22,120 Speaker 1: working for someone else in someone else's gym, but one 182 00:12:22,240 --> 00:12:26,520 Speaker 1: I fucking hated it. But with it, with that job 183 00:12:26,679 --> 00:12:33,800 Speaker 1: came predictability, came, familiarity, came consistency of wage, came holiday pay, 184 00:12:33,960 --> 00:12:37,440 Speaker 1: came sick pay, all of those very easy, convenient things. 185 00:12:37,760 --> 00:12:41,320 Speaker 1: But what didn't come for me was growth. What didn't 186 00:12:41,360 --> 00:12:43,040 Speaker 1: come for me, or not at the level that I 187 00:12:43,120 --> 00:12:47,320 Speaker 1: wanted it was was that capacity for me to be 188 00:12:47,360 --> 00:12:52,360 Speaker 1: able to climb some metaphoric ladder so that I could 189 00:12:52,400 --> 00:12:55,880 Speaker 1: be in charge. That that wasn't really available to me 190 00:12:56,040 --> 00:12:58,960 Speaker 1: beyond the point. And it's not that that model or 191 00:12:59,000 --> 00:13:03,400 Speaker 1: that particular environment that I was in was bad. In fact, 192 00:13:03,440 --> 00:13:06,120 Speaker 1: that business at that time and my boss at that time, 193 00:13:06,600 --> 00:13:08,719 Speaker 1: they were both good. It was a good business. I 194 00:13:08,920 --> 00:13:11,840 Speaker 1: liked the business, I liked my boss. But there was 195 00:13:11,920 --> 00:13:15,760 Speaker 1: only so far I could go, and I'd gone that far. 196 00:13:16,679 --> 00:13:21,560 Speaker 1: And what I couldn't do is I couldn't create new things. 197 00:13:22,000 --> 00:13:24,520 Speaker 1: I couldn't come up with an idea and just act 198 00:13:24,600 --> 00:13:27,000 Speaker 1: on it. Everything had to be run through my boss. 199 00:13:27,520 --> 00:13:29,440 Speaker 1: And it didn't want to be anything too big or 200 00:13:29,440 --> 00:13:32,240 Speaker 1: too different, because that would get quashed. And I understood 201 00:13:32,280 --> 00:13:35,400 Speaker 1: it because, like a lot of my ideas and a 202 00:13:35,440 --> 00:13:38,440 Speaker 1: lot of my thinking was very unconventional. The idea of 203 00:13:39,200 --> 00:13:42,000 Speaker 1: building a stand alone, for want of a better term, 204 00:13:42,080 --> 00:13:46,120 Speaker 1: a stand alone, public gym that was only open to 205 00:13:46,160 --> 00:13:49,559 Speaker 1: the public if they were making appointments. There were no classes, 206 00:13:49,600 --> 00:13:53,600 Speaker 1: there were no memberships, There was no group exercise, there 207 00:13:53,720 --> 00:13:58,520 Speaker 1: was no pool, there was no circuit classes there. It 208 00:13:58,600 --> 00:14:02,240 Speaker 1: was all appointment. It was more like a even though 209 00:14:02,240 --> 00:14:04,319 Speaker 1: to walk in it looked like a gym, it looked 210 00:14:04,360 --> 00:14:09,040 Speaker 1: like a private gymnasium, which it was. It operated more 211 00:14:09,120 --> 00:14:12,480 Speaker 1: like a clinic. It operated more like a medical practice 212 00:14:12,520 --> 00:14:17,360 Speaker 1: than a fitness center. And on a daily basis, I 213 00:14:17,480 --> 00:14:21,640 Speaker 1: had people. By the way, there's no self pity in this. 214 00:14:21,760 --> 00:14:25,040 Speaker 1: These people weren't trying to undermine me. These most of 215 00:14:25,080 --> 00:14:28,440 Speaker 1: the people who gave me this kind of negative feedback 216 00:14:29,520 --> 00:14:34,440 Speaker 1: or this feedbay feedback that was somewhat doubtful of what 217 00:14:34,520 --> 00:14:37,680 Speaker 1: I was doing and how and its potential for success. 218 00:14:38,200 --> 00:14:40,720 Speaker 1: I truly believe that most of those people believed that 219 00:14:40,800 --> 00:14:43,040 Speaker 1: they were coming from a good place, and in essence 220 00:14:43,080 --> 00:14:47,600 Speaker 1: they were. Turns out they were wrong, though, turns out 221 00:14:48,200 --> 00:14:51,320 Speaker 1: they were totally wrong. Turns out I was totally right. 222 00:14:52,440 --> 00:14:54,560 Speaker 1: Also turns out that I still didn't know a lot 223 00:14:54,560 --> 00:14:57,480 Speaker 1: of shit. Also turns out that I fucked many things up. 224 00:14:58,520 --> 00:15:03,120 Speaker 1: But what happened when I walked away from the easy path, 225 00:15:03,200 --> 00:15:05,320 Speaker 1: which was option A the gym with the other guy, 226 00:15:06,240 --> 00:15:09,240 Speaker 1: and I got paid reasonably well. But I chose for 227 00:15:09,400 --> 00:15:13,960 Speaker 1: me based on my values, based on my personality, based 228 00:15:14,040 --> 00:15:18,640 Speaker 1: on the kind of relationship I wanted to have with work, 229 00:15:19,880 --> 00:15:22,960 Speaker 1: like I wanted to just create this thing which was 230 00:15:23,200 --> 00:15:32,560 Speaker 1: basically a convergence of my passion, my curiosity and the 231 00:15:32,600 --> 00:15:36,760 Speaker 1: potential for making money around that, and to design my 232 00:15:36,880 --> 00:15:41,640 Speaker 1: own career and therefore, more broadly, to design my own 233 00:15:41,720 --> 00:15:44,480 Speaker 1: life and lifestyle, which at that point in time was 234 00:15:44,600 --> 00:15:49,920 Speaker 1: built around this new model, this new thing, this personal 235 00:15:50,040 --> 00:15:53,560 Speaker 1: training center. Of course, they were going to happen anyway. 236 00:15:54,240 --> 00:15:58,240 Speaker 1: Of course, at Craig Harper didn't invent personal training globally. 237 00:15:58,360 --> 00:16:03,280 Speaker 1: I was definitely in the ground floor in Australia. But 238 00:16:03,880 --> 00:16:06,520 Speaker 1: what that you know in setting up a business in learning? 239 00:16:06,520 --> 00:16:08,720 Speaker 1: How to manage people in learning, how to be a 240 00:16:08,840 --> 00:16:11,840 Speaker 1: leader in learning, how to hire and fight in learning, 241 00:16:11,840 --> 00:16:15,920 Speaker 1: how to have grown up conversations with accountants and real 242 00:16:16,040 --> 00:16:21,840 Speaker 1: estate people and business people, and to understand all the 243 00:16:22,000 --> 00:16:25,240 Speaker 1: legalities around all the stuff that I needed to do 244 00:16:25,360 --> 00:16:29,800 Speaker 1: and know and implement to be able to have, you know, 245 00:16:30,440 --> 00:16:33,960 Speaker 1: hourly conversations with people who are older than me and 246 00:16:34,000 --> 00:16:36,680 Speaker 1: in many ways more smarter than me, and definitely more 247 00:16:36,800 --> 00:16:39,920 Speaker 1: business savvy than me. To be able to put myself 248 00:16:39,920 --> 00:16:44,080 Speaker 1: in that situation and to be okay with looking silly, 249 00:16:44,480 --> 00:16:48,160 Speaker 1: to be okay with getting things wrong, to be okay 250 00:16:48,240 --> 00:16:53,040 Speaker 1: with apologizing when I needed to apologize. For me, it 251 00:16:53,200 --> 00:16:58,520 Speaker 1: was this, you know, this opportunity to be able to 252 00:16:58,640 --> 00:17:02,320 Speaker 1: lean into doing the right thing, not the easy thing, 253 00:17:02,480 --> 00:17:07,399 Speaker 1: the inconvenient thing that just happened for me, to be 254 00:17:07,480 --> 00:17:11,800 Speaker 1: the best thing, because sometimes the inconvenient thing is the 255 00:17:11,800 --> 00:17:16,359 Speaker 1: best thing for you. Sometimes the thing that people think 256 00:17:16,440 --> 00:17:20,000 Speaker 1: you shouldn't do is actually the thing that you should. 257 00:17:21,800 --> 00:17:26,040 Speaker 1: I remember, you know, most of you know, my like 258 00:17:26,080 --> 00:17:29,000 Speaker 1: swimming sports experience, where I was you know, humiliated and 259 00:17:29,000 --> 00:17:31,440 Speaker 1: all this stuff, which was all again all my doing 260 00:17:31,480 --> 00:17:34,480 Speaker 1: though self pity. But what I don't talk about much 261 00:17:34,680 --> 00:17:39,600 Speaker 1: is subsequent to that. I went home that day after 262 00:17:39,640 --> 00:17:47,119 Speaker 1: I had this horrible experience, self created experience, and I 263 00:17:47,280 --> 00:17:49,720 Speaker 1: decided I was going to go for a run. I'd 264 00:17:49,760 --> 00:17:52,520 Speaker 1: never been for a run. And even though we had 265 00:17:52,560 --> 00:17:56,639 Speaker 1: compulsory cross country running at my school, that is, we 266 00:17:56,840 --> 00:17:59,800 Speaker 1: we once a week on you know, for parts of 267 00:17:59,800 --> 00:18:02,399 Speaker 1: the anyway, we had to because I went to a 268 00:18:02,440 --> 00:18:06,000 Speaker 1: boys college and in year seven we did these very 269 00:18:06,040 --> 00:18:09,600 Speaker 1: regular cross country runs. And because I was morbidly obese, 270 00:18:09,680 --> 00:18:12,560 Speaker 1: because I was wildly unfit, because I was the furthest 271 00:18:12,560 --> 00:18:17,399 Speaker 1: thing away from an athlete you could imagine. I walked. 272 00:18:17,520 --> 00:18:19,560 Speaker 1: I didn't run because I couldn't run because I was 273 00:18:19,720 --> 00:18:25,080 Speaker 1: thirty to thirty five kilos overweight, and I was wildly unfit. 274 00:18:25,160 --> 00:18:27,600 Speaker 1: I had an aerobic conditioning, it would hurt because my 275 00:18:27,600 --> 00:18:30,800 Speaker 1: body was so heavy to run and so on. So, 276 00:18:30,920 --> 00:18:34,280 Speaker 1: to be honest, I'd never really been I've never really 277 00:18:34,400 --> 00:18:38,600 Speaker 1: trained properly either. I've done bits and pieces of sport, 278 00:18:38,640 --> 00:18:41,880 Speaker 1: but in terms of in terms of getting my body 279 00:18:42,040 --> 00:18:44,879 Speaker 1: and going right, I'm now going to train this body. 280 00:18:44,920 --> 00:18:49,560 Speaker 1: I Am now going to consciously and intelligently manipulate my 281 00:18:49,680 --> 00:18:53,880 Speaker 1: physiology to create a different outcome so that I can look, feel, function, 282 00:18:54,480 --> 00:18:58,359 Speaker 1: and be different on a biological and a functional level. 283 00:18:58,760 --> 00:19:01,679 Speaker 1: I'd never done that. So I got home from the 284 00:19:01,680 --> 00:19:09,520 Speaker 1: swimming sports and I I went I decided I was 285 00:19:09,560 --> 00:19:12,320 Speaker 1: going to go for a run because I understood. I 286 00:19:12,400 --> 00:19:15,800 Speaker 1: understood essentially that if I moved more, if I increased 287 00:19:15,840 --> 00:19:18,800 Speaker 1: my energy expenditure, I'm sure I wouldn't even have known 288 00:19:18,840 --> 00:19:20,840 Speaker 1: that term then. But if I knew that if I 289 00:19:21,040 --> 00:19:25,400 Speaker 1: moved more and consumed less, that that would probably make 290 00:19:25,480 --> 00:19:29,439 Speaker 1: me lose weight. I didn't really understand, you know, the 291 00:19:29,480 --> 00:19:33,160 Speaker 1: science of energy, you know, input and output. I didn't 292 00:19:33,160 --> 00:19:36,920 Speaker 1: really get that, but I kind of knew. So what 293 00:19:36,960 --> 00:19:41,959 Speaker 1: I did was I literally said to myself, whatever I 294 00:19:42,080 --> 00:19:45,160 Speaker 1: eat normally, I'm going to eat half that. So it's 295 00:19:45,200 --> 00:19:48,200 Speaker 1: not like I started choosing better foods and different foods 296 00:19:48,240 --> 00:19:50,920 Speaker 1: and I went to the bloody whole food section of 297 00:19:50,960 --> 00:19:55,119 Speaker 1: the soupermarket and I started eating salads, salads and fucking 298 00:19:55,160 --> 00:19:59,000 Speaker 1: almonds and you know, watermelon like a chat. I just 299 00:19:59,400 --> 00:20:02,400 Speaker 1: had what? So if for breakfast I would have eight 300 00:20:02,440 --> 00:20:04,320 Speaker 1: week bits, I would all of a sudden, I would 301 00:20:04,320 --> 00:20:06,320 Speaker 1: have four. If I would eat two rolls for lunch, 302 00:20:06,320 --> 00:20:10,360 Speaker 1: I would have one. If I would have, you know whatever, 303 00:20:10,520 --> 00:20:13,359 Speaker 1: five hundred grams or four hundred grams of something for dinner, 304 00:20:13,400 --> 00:20:16,080 Speaker 1: I would have two hundred grams. I didn't weigh it, 305 00:20:16,119 --> 00:20:18,960 Speaker 1: but you know what I mean. I literally harved everything. 306 00:20:19,600 --> 00:20:21,840 Speaker 1: And some of the food I ate was healthy food 307 00:20:21,840 --> 00:20:26,280 Speaker 1: because it was the seventies, and some of it wasn't 308 00:20:26,280 --> 00:20:30,640 Speaker 1: particularly healthy food. But what I did was, I don't 309 00:20:30,680 --> 00:20:32,919 Speaker 1: know what my calorie intake was, but let's say my 310 00:20:33,000 --> 00:20:36,600 Speaker 1: calorie intake was it was probably somewhere around four thousand 311 00:20:36,600 --> 00:20:39,600 Speaker 1: calories a day, I would estimate, well, I harved it 312 00:20:39,600 --> 00:20:43,679 Speaker 1: to two. And I don't know what my energy expenditure was, 313 00:20:43,960 --> 00:20:48,640 Speaker 1: but it wasn't much other than incidental activity, other than 314 00:20:48,800 --> 00:20:53,360 Speaker 1: just ambulating my ninety odd kilo body around the planet 315 00:20:54,119 --> 00:20:55,760 Speaker 1: and getting in and out of a chair and on 316 00:20:55,800 --> 00:20:59,680 Speaker 1: and off a bus and walking to you know, school, 317 00:20:59,760 --> 00:21:01,840 Speaker 1: and not that I walked to school because I caught 318 00:21:01,840 --> 00:21:04,040 Speaker 1: a bus, but you know, walking from the bus to 319 00:21:04,080 --> 00:21:06,760 Speaker 1: school and moving through the day and you know, all 320 00:21:06,800 --> 00:21:09,600 Speaker 1: that kind of incidental and what we might even call 321 00:21:09,680 --> 00:21:13,919 Speaker 1: as an adult occupational activity, all that stuff. It wasn't 322 00:21:13,960 --> 00:21:17,880 Speaker 1: a lot. So then on top of my harved calories, 323 00:21:18,040 --> 00:21:22,359 Speaker 1: I introduced, you know, running. Now, when I started running, 324 00:21:22,480 --> 00:21:28,399 Speaker 1: I literally remember I remember the first time that I consciously, voluntarily, 325 00:21:28,560 --> 00:21:33,639 Speaker 1: with nobody looking or coercing, I went for a run. 326 00:21:34,280 --> 00:21:36,760 Speaker 1: I can't remember how far, but it kind of mean 327 00:21:37,000 --> 00:21:39,360 Speaker 1: more than two hundred meters before I had to stop. 328 00:21:41,040 --> 00:21:44,520 Speaker 1: And when I say running, yeah, jogging, And that is 329 00:21:44,560 --> 00:21:49,840 Speaker 1: where I started. And honestly, I do remember vividly how 330 00:21:49,960 --> 00:21:53,200 Speaker 1: painful it was for me to run. I do remember 331 00:21:53,200 --> 00:21:58,360 Speaker 1: how uncomfortable it was. I do remember gasping for air. 332 00:21:58,560 --> 00:22:03,880 Speaker 1: I do remember feeling like a whale fucking running around 333 00:22:03,920 --> 00:22:09,160 Speaker 1: the streets of Latroe Valley, specifically moe at that time. Yes, 334 00:22:09,240 --> 00:22:14,239 Speaker 1: you can laugh, Moey, And I remember how I just 335 00:22:14,400 --> 00:22:18,960 Speaker 1: felt like I was in a body that didn't really 336 00:22:19,040 --> 00:22:23,119 Speaker 1: belong to me, and I, you know, everything, all the 337 00:22:23,400 --> 00:22:27,760 Speaker 1: emotional and mental and physical kind of discomfort you could feel. 338 00:22:28,720 --> 00:22:31,840 Speaker 1: I felt it anyway. So I made my self go 339 00:22:31,960 --> 00:22:36,040 Speaker 1: for a walk slash run, and I can't even remember 340 00:22:36,119 --> 00:22:38,040 Speaker 1: how far, but I think it was probably somewhere in 341 00:22:38,080 --> 00:22:40,280 Speaker 1: the four or five kilometer. You know. I was probably 342 00:22:40,320 --> 00:22:45,520 Speaker 1: outside for thirty forty minutes, maybe a bit longer, mostly walking, 343 00:22:45,680 --> 00:22:49,600 Speaker 1: some jogging, and over time, you know, I did less 344 00:22:49,640 --> 00:22:53,160 Speaker 1: walking and more jogging, then eventually less and less walking, 345 00:22:53,200 --> 00:22:56,359 Speaker 1: more and more jogging, and then eventually, I don't know, 346 00:22:56,440 --> 00:23:00,159 Speaker 1: maybe maybe six weeks, four weeks, six weeks in to 347 00:23:00,240 --> 00:23:04,080 Speaker 1: the process, maybe eight weeks I was jogging. I was 348 00:23:04,160 --> 00:23:09,040 Speaker 1: jogging very slowly. And I can tell you because you know, 349 00:23:09,160 --> 00:23:12,520 Speaker 1: I'd halved my food and I'd probably doubled my energy 350 00:23:12,520 --> 00:23:15,160 Speaker 1: expended to the weight started to fall off. And while 351 00:23:15,240 --> 00:23:18,719 Speaker 1: it hurt and it was uncomfortable, and I was constantly 352 00:23:18,800 --> 00:23:21,919 Speaker 1: fucking hungry at the start, and I obsessed about food, 353 00:23:22,400 --> 00:23:26,040 Speaker 1: and I had had a really unhealthy relationship with food 354 00:23:26,200 --> 00:23:31,120 Speaker 1: until that point in time, there was enough internal leverage, 355 00:23:31,280 --> 00:23:35,359 Speaker 1: enough emotional and sociological because I didn't want to be 356 00:23:35,440 --> 00:23:39,720 Speaker 1: fat in front of people, and psychological leverage. There was 357 00:23:39,920 --> 00:23:43,080 Speaker 1: enough leverage. There was enough of a reason for me 358 00:23:43,160 --> 00:23:47,119 Speaker 1: to override those cravings for me to override that obsession, 359 00:23:47,520 --> 00:23:50,560 Speaker 1: for me to override that desire to sit on the 360 00:23:50,600 --> 00:23:55,040 Speaker 1: fucking couch and do nothing, and to override that desire 361 00:23:55,960 --> 00:23:59,080 Speaker 1: slash obsession that I had had with food to eat 362 00:23:59,200 --> 00:24:02,960 Speaker 1: anything that just made me feel good. I was such 363 00:24:03,080 --> 00:24:06,720 Speaker 1: a foodie. I was so obsessed with eating for pleasure. 364 00:24:08,800 --> 00:24:15,199 Speaker 1: And this process was hard, This process was uncomfortable, but 365 00:24:15,280 --> 00:24:19,399 Speaker 1: it was the right path for me. The easy path 366 00:24:19,480 --> 00:24:21,480 Speaker 1: was sitting on my ass and eating junk. That was 367 00:24:21,520 --> 00:24:23,320 Speaker 1: the easy path. And I'm not trying to sound like 368 00:24:23,400 --> 00:24:29,920 Speaker 1: some big, noble, high performing, you know, dickhead, but it's 369 00:24:30,119 --> 00:24:33,440 Speaker 1: everything that I've done in my life that's created a 370 00:24:33,480 --> 00:24:41,679 Speaker 1: really good outcome or some significant form of growth or 371 00:24:41,720 --> 00:24:46,520 Speaker 1: improvement or insight or learning. Even down to what I'm 372 00:24:46,560 --> 00:24:51,800 Speaker 1: doing right now with my PhD, everything has had at 373 00:24:52,640 --> 00:24:56,680 Speaker 1: times on that particular part of my journey, everything has 374 00:24:56,720 --> 00:25:03,119 Speaker 1: had a significant component of disco. And for me that 375 00:25:03,240 --> 00:25:05,600 Speaker 1: is and we don't need to live in perpetual pain 376 00:25:05,720 --> 00:25:10,960 Speaker 1: or discomfort, of course, but for me that's where the 377 00:25:11,000 --> 00:25:14,760 Speaker 1: growth has come. And for me, that uncertainty, that unfamiliarity, 378 00:25:14,880 --> 00:25:19,600 Speaker 1: that discomfort, that's always for me been the path of growth, 379 00:25:20,680 --> 00:25:26,960 Speaker 1: the path of understanding myself, the path of understanding how 380 00:25:27,520 --> 00:25:34,720 Speaker 1: I could optimize and operationalize my potential. How I could 381 00:25:34,840 --> 00:25:42,120 Speaker 1: stop letting my innate ability and my genetic potential and 382 00:25:42,400 --> 00:25:47,840 Speaker 1: my largely unused IQ. How I could start to be 383 00:25:50,000 --> 00:25:53,880 Speaker 1: more productive, How I could start to get more out 384 00:25:53,920 --> 00:25:56,239 Speaker 1: of what I had to work with. Of course I 385 00:25:56,240 --> 00:25:58,919 Speaker 1: couldn't have I couldn't wake up the next day and 386 00:25:59,000 --> 00:26:01,200 Speaker 1: have a higher IQ or more hours in the day, 387 00:26:01,240 --> 00:26:05,639 Speaker 1: or different genetics, or wake up with new skills. But 388 00:26:05,680 --> 00:26:08,040 Speaker 1: what I could do every day is I could go, well, 389 00:26:08,080 --> 00:26:11,440 Speaker 1: how do I optimize what I have? And the way 390 00:26:11,480 --> 00:26:15,639 Speaker 1: that I optimized it was constantly doing the work and 391 00:26:15,680 --> 00:26:17,280 Speaker 1: the way that you do it is the same. And 392 00:26:17,280 --> 00:26:18,879 Speaker 1: that doesn't mean that all days have got to be 393 00:26:18,920 --> 00:26:21,760 Speaker 1: hard days or all ours have got to be hard hours. 394 00:26:23,560 --> 00:26:26,600 Speaker 1: But it means that at some stage we need to 395 00:26:26,760 --> 00:26:28,520 Speaker 1: I believe, we need to need to hit the pause 396 00:26:28,520 --> 00:26:30,720 Speaker 1: button and put our life and put our behavior, and 397 00:26:30,760 --> 00:26:34,800 Speaker 1: put our health habits, and put our career and put 398 00:26:34,560 --> 00:26:39,000 Speaker 1: our behaviors around money and all of these things that 399 00:26:39,080 --> 00:26:43,879 Speaker 1: comprise the totality of planet you, you know, thinking, habits, 400 00:26:43,960 --> 00:26:47,359 Speaker 1: behavior's outcome. Put them up on the old metaphoric hoist 401 00:26:47,520 --> 00:26:53,160 Speaker 1: in the metaphoric garage and walk around and kick the tires. 402 00:26:53,240 --> 00:26:55,560 Speaker 1: What's work and what's not? What am I doing that's 403 00:26:56,080 --> 00:26:58,080 Speaker 1: serving me? What am I doing that's a form of 404 00:26:58,119 --> 00:27:02,399 Speaker 1: self sabotage. Am I taking the right path? Or am 405 00:27:02,440 --> 00:27:03,639 Speaker 1: I taking the easy path?