1 00:00:34,140 --> 00:00:39,680 Suze: May 8, 2022, I have a surprise for all of you. 2 00:00:39,690 --> 00:00:40,650 KT: KT is here. 3 00:00:40,659 --> 00:00:42,559 Suze: KT is in the house now. 4 00:00:43,140 --> 00:00:45,559 Suze: I sat down this morning 5 00:00:46,040 --> 00:00:50,660 Suze: to do an entire podcast that was like happy Mother's Day. 6 00:00:50,659 --> 00:00:53,480 Suze: But then I go on to do a financial forecast 7 00:00:53,490 --> 00:00:56,260 Suze: for the last half of this year 8 00:00:56,940 --> 00:00:59,750 Suze: and I sat here and I sat here and I 9 00:00:59,750 --> 00:01:01,460 Suze: thought about everything 10 00:01:01,840 --> 00:01:05,260 Suze: and KT was walking back and forth going in and 11 00:01:05,260 --> 00:01:06,850 Suze: out and finally I said, KT, 12 00:01:07,240 --> 00:01:10,290 Suze: I'm changing what we're doing today. I need you to 13 00:01:10,290 --> 00:01:12,360 Suze: come in and help me. 14 00:01:13,040 --> 00:01:15,130 Suze: Even if it's just to sit here and talk with 15 00:01:15,130 --> 00:01:18,750 Suze: me because here's the bottom line because you missed me. 16 00:01:18,760 --> 00:01:19,920 Suze: I always miss you 17 00:01:19,920 --> 00:01:23,660 KT: No, the audience misses me on Sunday. 18 00:01:24,140 --> 00:01:24,880 KT: They do. 19 00:01:24,890 --> 00:01:25,810 Suze: I think it's true. 20 00:01:25,810 --> 00:01:28,600 KT: Everyone do you all miss me on Sunday? I know 21 00:01:28,600 --> 00:01:29,979 KT: that Suze School is really 22 00:01:29,980 --> 00:01:32,160 Suze: important. Do you know that they're writing in and they 23 00:01:32,160 --> 00:01:35,530 Suze: say that they like our banter and our interaction more 24 00:01:35,530 --> 00:01:37,270 Suze: than Suze school. Can you believe that you're 25 00:01:37,270 --> 00:01:40,940 KT: gonna love today than especially mommies? 26 00:01:41,140 --> 00:01:43,730 Suze: But we have an update, We have an update for 27 00:01:43,730 --> 00:01:44,660 Suze: all of you. 28 00:01:45,440 --> 00:01:48,840 Suze: You know how we asked you right in and give 29 00:01:48,840 --> 00:01:50,660 Suze: us your answer 30 00:01:51,040 --> 00:01:57,450 Suze: two if that destination wedding mother who couldn't afford to go, 31 00:01:57,460 --> 00:02:01,470 Suze: do you think her son knew her financial situation or 32 00:02:01,470 --> 00:02:05,620 Suze: did he not? And Ms Travis in her sweetness. You're 33 00:02:05,620 --> 00:02:08,010 Suze: so sweet. They all love your sweetness. 34 00:02:08,110 --> 00:02:10,660 KT: They should you have to be kind 35 00:02:12,240 --> 00:02:16,490 KT: wait tell everyone there's a lot of listeners maybe that 36 00:02:16,490 --> 00:02:17,480 KT: don't know 37 00:02:17,490 --> 00:02:18,760 Suze: that question. Okay, 38 00:02:18,760 --> 00:02:21,440 KT: so I think it was just last Thursday, we get 39 00:02:21,440 --> 00:02:25,560 KT: a question. And it was a mother whose son is 40 00:02:25,560 --> 00:02:28,540 KT: having a destination wedding. We think it's in Europe or 41 00:02:28,540 --> 00:02:31,460 KT: Paris someplace anyway, she 42 00:02:31,540 --> 00:02:36,359 KT: absolutely could not afford to go and attend her son's wedding. 43 00:02:36,740 --> 00:02:39,250 KT: And she was asking Suze, listen, the only way I'm 44 00:02:39,250 --> 00:02:41,810 KT: going to do this. If I really max out and 45 00:02:41,820 --> 00:02:46,310 KT: get further and deeper in debt. Long story short, Suze 46 00:02:46,310 --> 00:02:49,250 KT: took a poll. How many of you think 47 00:02:49,639 --> 00:02:51,530 KT: that she should go? Suze told her 48 00:02:51,900 --> 00:02:55,760 Suze: that she should go. How many people out there thought 49 00:02:56,139 --> 00:02:57,460 Suze: that her son 50 00:02:58,139 --> 00:03:03,290 Suze: knew how bad of a situation she was in, financially speaking? 51 00:03:03,300 --> 00:03:07,790 Suze: Or did he not know? Because if he knew, how 52 00:03:07,790 --> 00:03:11,310 Suze: is it possible that he could have done a destination wedding? 53 00:03:11,310 --> 00:03:15,270 Suze: Although KT's twin sister, Lynn hi Lynn , I know that you're 54 00:03:15,270 --> 00:03:16,410 Suze: going to be listening to this 55 00:03:16,940 --> 00:03:17,970 Suze: educated me 56 00:03:17,980 --> 00:03:19,510 KT: on that. 57 00:03:19,510 --> 00:03:24,560 Suze: It's usually the bride's parents that plan the wedding 58 00:03:24,940 --> 00:03:27,489 Suze: and where it's going to be and everything. Maybe her 59 00:03:27,490 --> 00:03:29,520 Suze: son didn't know about it at all. But that's not 60 00:03:29,530 --> 00:03:30,059 Suze: the point. 61 00:03:30,070 --> 00:03:33,180 KT: The point is that we were curious what you all 62 00:03:33,180 --> 00:03:35,650 KT: thought and I said to Suze, I said 63 00:03:36,040 --> 00:03:40,160 KT: her son should absolutely pay for his mom, wasn't it? 64 00:03:40,600 --> 00:03:42,020 KT: If she wanted to 65 00:03:42,020 --> 00:03:42,980 Suze: KT, you are off 66 00:03:42,980 --> 00:03:43,610 KT: track. 67 00:03:44,020 --> 00:03:45,800 Suze: KTs always off track. Here. 68 00:03:45,800 --> 00:03:47,130 KT: I come 69 00:03:47,130 --> 00:03:51,240 Suze: on KT stick with me here, baby doll. The question was, 70 00:03:51,400 --> 00:03:54,250 Suze: did her son know 71 00:03:54,340 --> 00:03:58,720 Suze: of her financial situation or did he not know, 72 00:03:59,350 --> 00:04:00,360 KT: definitely didn't know. 73 00:04:00,360 --> 00:04:05,090 Suze: And I said he definitely knows a lot of you 74 00:04:05,090 --> 00:04:07,620 Suze: wrote in on the women and money app. You can 75 00:04:07,620 --> 00:04:10,900 Suze: all go and read those. And then even more thousands 76 00:04:10,900 --> 00:04:14,150 Suze: of you wrote in on the email account. Ask Suze 77 00:04:14,150 --> 00:04:16,150 Suze: podcast at gmail dot com 78 00:04:17,040 --> 00:04:19,260 Suze: And 5 : one. 79 00:04:19,640 --> 00:04:20,989 Suze: You agreed with KT. 80 00:04:20,990 --> 00:04:23,059 KT: Yes, thank you. I was right. 81 00:04:23,440 --> 00:04:24,239 KT: I don't think 82 00:04:24,240 --> 00:04:26,100 Suze: that doesn't mean you're right. 83 00:04:26,910 --> 00:04:29,840 KT: But wait, let's talk about Mother's Day. 84 00:04:30,060 --> 00:04:33,570 Suze: But anyway, I just wanted to update all of you 85 00:04:33,580 --> 00:04:37,010 Suze: that the majority of you thought that he did not 86 00:04:37,010 --> 00:04:40,260 Suze: know now I wrote this woman back 87 00:04:40,640 --> 00:04:42,960 Suze: and she did not answer me. So if you 88 00:04:42,960 --> 00:04:44,080 KT: probably won't, she 89 00:04:44,080 --> 00:04:46,420 Suze: may be mad at me. But don't be mad at 90 00:04:46,420 --> 00:04:48,860 Suze: me if you're mad at me. Really. Just 91 00:04:49,240 --> 00:04:53,640 Suze: just let's educate everybody, including yourself. But that's the results 92 00:04:53,640 --> 00:04:54,550 Suze: of the poll. 93 00:04:55,040 --> 00:04:59,750 Suze: So before No, no, no. Before we start, what is 94 00:04:59,750 --> 00:05:06,190 Suze: with you today? I'm not inviting you on Sunday anymore. Anyway, 95 00:05:06,200 --> 00:05:07,849 Suze: before we start 96 00:05:08,240 --> 00:05:10,360 Suze: on our Mother's Day podcast, 97 00:05:10,839 --> 00:05:13,719 Suze: I just want to say something. Today was going to 98 00:05:13,720 --> 00:05:19,020 Suze: be financial forecast day. Suze School on what I wanted 99 00:05:19,020 --> 00:05:25,880 Suze: you to know about the stock market, gold, real estate interest, rate, mortgages, 100 00:05:25,890 --> 00:05:29,110 Suze: all of that. I was going to tell you everything 101 00:05:29,110 --> 00:05:30,160 Suze: I wanted you to know. 102 00:05:31,040 --> 00:05:33,790 Suze: But I just couldn't do it on Mother's Day. So 103 00:05:33,800 --> 00:05:37,460 Suze: next Sunday I will be doing it. But until then 104 00:05:38,540 --> 00:05:40,909 Suze: if you have a large sum of money, if you're 105 00:05:40,910 --> 00:05:44,490 Suze: thinking about investing, if you have this plan that you 106 00:05:44,490 --> 00:05:48,599 Suze: want to do, can you just not do anything at 107 00:05:48,610 --> 00:05:49,250 Suze: all 108 00:05:50,140 --> 00:05:54,210 Suze: Until next Sunday? Okay. Because a lot of you are 109 00:05:54,210 --> 00:05:57,800 Suze: telling me that you're seeing financial advisors, maybe you have 110 00:05:57,800 --> 00:06:01,770 Suze: $800,000 and they have this plan for you and this 111 00:06:01,770 --> 00:06:03,979 Suze: is what they want to do with you. Can you 112 00:06:03,980 --> 00:06:07,960 Suze: just not do anything right now? 113 00:06:08,040 --> 00:06:09,240 KT: Better listen to her. 114 00:06:09,240 --> 00:06:11,060 Suze: All right, KT. 115 00:06:11,640 --> 00:06:13,350 KT: So Mother's Day, 116 00:06:14,140 --> 00:06:16,230 KT: I just have to share this with everyone is a 117 00:06:16,230 --> 00:06:22,450 KT: little intro all week long, Suze has been attending virtually 118 00:06:22,839 --> 00:06:26,740 KT: a financial seminar that she absolutely loves it. She does 119 00:06:26,740 --> 00:06:32,010 KT: this every year and it's very complex. It's very deep strategies. 120 00:06:32,010 --> 00:06:34,120 KT: It's really, it's, it's to 121 00:06:34,120 --> 00:06:36,130 Suze: me you would never want to go to and 122 00:06:36,140 --> 00:06:37,690 KT: you don't want to go to this. This is 123 00:06:37,690 --> 00:06:42,660 Suze: like for the top economist, Chartist financial 124 00:06:43,140 --> 00:06:46,700 Suze: gurus of the world, the world. 125 00:06:47,350 --> 00:06:50,740 KT: So for Suze, this whole boot camp thing she does 126 00:06:50,740 --> 00:06:52,560 KT: every year is really exciting. 127 00:06:53,040 --> 00:06:54,560 KT: And all of a sudden 128 00:06:55,339 --> 00:07:00,370 KT: she's listening and I look at her and I'm like, wow, 129 00:07:00,370 --> 00:07:04,670 KT: what's that about? She was she resonated with a speaker. 130 00:07:04,670 --> 00:07:07,920 KT: A speaker came on. A gentleman by the name of 131 00:07:07,920 --> 00:07:09,070 KT: Frank Luntz 132 00:07:09,740 --> 00:07:15,140 KT: Frank came on and completely blew everyone away with a 133 00:07:15,140 --> 00:07:19,040 KT: topic and a subject no one expected. 134 00:07:19,040 --> 00:07:21,530 Suze: Well actually KT, the truth of the matter is he 135 00:07:21,530 --> 00:07:25,370 Suze: was in the middle of the serious complex thing. 136 00:07:25,370 --> 00:07:26,290 KT: Very complex 137 00:07:26,300 --> 00:07:29,660 Suze: because he's like this pollster, he's like this brilliant 138 00:07:29,940 --> 00:07:30,750 Suze: man 139 00:07:30,840 --> 00:07:34,230 Suze: all right. And he's charting all this and saying what's 140 00:07:34,230 --> 00:07:36,440 Suze: going to happen and da da da da and all 141 00:07:36,440 --> 00:07:37,950 Suze: of a sudden he says, 142 00:07:38,840 --> 00:07:40,360 Suze: you know, however, 143 00:07:40,840 --> 00:07:44,140 Suze: I know a lot of you watching right now have 144 00:07:44,140 --> 00:07:47,420 Suze: children that are probably between the age of 11 and 145 00:07:47,430 --> 00:07:50,720 Suze: 18 and you're going to really want to listen to 146 00:07:50,720 --> 00:07:54,170 Suze: this because you're not gonna find it anyplace else. But 147 00:07:54,170 --> 00:07:56,650 Suze: right here with me right now 148 00:07:57,140 --> 00:07:57,760 Suze: and I'm like, 149 00:07:58,140 --> 00:07:59,910 Suze: what's he talking about? 150 00:07:59,920 --> 00:08:05,010 KT: I asked Suze that she absolutely should share verbatim what 151 00:08:05,010 --> 00:08:05,970 KT: he said, 152 00:08:05,980 --> 00:08:09,210 Suze: Yes. And he said that he was going to give 153 00:08:09,220 --> 00:08:10,950 Suze: six indicators 154 00:08:11,340 --> 00:08:15,660 Suze: because he knew what mattered most to everybody 155 00:08:16,040 --> 00:08:18,260 Suze: wasn't about money really, 156 00:08:18,840 --> 00:08:22,280 Suze: what matters even more than how much you make and 157 00:08:22,280 --> 00:08:27,150 Suze: market insights and political insights is the health and happiness 158 00:08:27,160 --> 00:08:28,950 Suze: of your Children. 159 00:08:29,540 --> 00:08:33,329 Suze: And I know from the emails that I get and 160 00:08:33,330 --> 00:08:36,130 Suze: from all the correspondence and everything and when I do 161 00:08:36,130 --> 00:08:39,610 Suze: meet you in person, you have always for the past 162 00:08:39,610 --> 00:08:40,660 Suze: 40 years. 163 00:08:41,410 --> 00:08:46,180 Suze: especially if you are a mother. One thing that's in 164 00:08:46,179 --> 00:08:48,189 Suze: common with all mothers what Katie 165 00:08:48,200 --> 00:08:49,580 KT: is, they all have children 166 00:08:49,590 --> 00:08:52,670 Suze: or they had children, but you would give your life 167 00:08:52,679 --> 00:08:53,860 Suze: for your children 168 00:08:54,240 --> 00:08:58,349 Suze: and what Frank said here was absolutely true, 169 00:08:58,940 --> 00:09:00,650 Suze: right? That's what matters most 170 00:09:01,240 --> 00:09:02,260 Suze: more than money 171 00:09:02,840 --> 00:09:05,660 Suze: is the health and happiness of your children. 172 00:09:06,040 --> 00:09:09,850 Suze: So here are the six indicators that he gave 173 00:09:10,440 --> 00:09:12,860 Suze: of whether your children will grow up healthy, 174 00:09:13,540 --> 00:09:14,260 Suze: happy, 175 00:09:14,640 --> 00:09:17,459 Suze: drug free and alcohol free. 176 00:09:18,240 --> 00:09:19,950 Suze: Now before I go through them, 177 00:09:20,780 --> 00:09:22,360 Suze: this man is a 178 00:09:22,740 --> 00:09:27,059 Suze: chartist. This man is somebody who does research. So he 179 00:09:27,059 --> 00:09:29,850 Suze: just doesn't say something and think it's true. 180 00:09:30,640 --> 00:09:34,260 Suze: He has done the research to know that these are true. 181 00:09:34,640 --> 00:09:36,459 Suze: So listen closely. 182 00:09:37,140 --> 00:09:38,160 Suze: Number one, 183 00:09:39,040 --> 00:09:41,860 Suze: how often do you have dinner with your Children? 184 00:09:42,830 --> 00:09:45,949 Suze: It requires five nights a week or more 185 00:09:46,740 --> 00:09:48,660 Suze: because that tells them 186 00:09:49,040 --> 00:09:51,949 Suze: that it's not your job that matters to them. 187 00:09:52,440 --> 00:09:56,060 Suze: It's they, the Children that matter most. 188 00:09:56,740 --> 00:09:57,850 Suze: So think about that. 189 00:09:58,840 --> 00:10:00,660 Suze: Now as I'm doing these, 190 00:10:01,040 --> 00:10:04,460 Suze: you might want to write down Yes, I do that 191 00:10:04,940 --> 00:10:06,760 Suze: or no, I don't. 192 00:10:07,340 --> 00:10:08,560 Suze: Okay. Everybody. 193 00:10:09,440 --> 00:10:10,660 Suze: Number two, 194 00:10:11,540 --> 00:10:15,860 Suze: how often do you take them to religious services? 195 00:10:16,540 --> 00:10:20,160 Suze: If they believe in something greater than themselves, 196 00:10:20,940 --> 00:10:24,800 Suze: they're more likely to treat themselves and treat you and 197 00:10:24,800 --> 00:10:29,360 Suze: treat others with decency, civility and respect? 198 00:10:30,740 --> 00:10:31,760 Suze: Do you do that 199 00:10:32,140 --> 00:10:34,860 Suze: or don't you? Yes or no. 200 00:10:36,540 --> 00:10:37,650 Suze: Number three, 201 00:10:38,540 --> 00:10:41,360 Suze: how often do you check their homework? 202 00:10:42,340 --> 00:10:46,260 Suze: It's got to be four nights a week or more 203 00:10:47,040 --> 00:10:51,960 Suze: because that teaches them that their intellectual development 204 00:10:52,440 --> 00:10:55,860 Suze: as as important as their physical development. 205 00:10:56,350 --> 00:11:00,959 Suze: You can't leave them alone. Even if they say mom, 206 00:11:00,970 --> 00:11:04,189 Suze: I'm doing it, you actually have to look at it 207 00:11:04,200 --> 00:11:07,660 Suze: to prove to them that it matters to you. 208 00:11:09,190 --> 00:11:11,650 Suze: Do you do that or do you not? 209 00:11:12,540 --> 00:11:14,460 Suze: Yes or no. 210 00:11:15,340 --> 00:11:16,559 Suze: Number four 211 00:11:16,940 --> 00:11:19,719 Suze: do you take and this is going to be very 212 00:11:19,720 --> 00:11:20,960 Suze: difficult for you all. 213 00:11:21,440 --> 00:11:25,160 Suze: Do you take weekly trips every year 214 00:11:25,540 --> 00:11:30,359 Suze: where you leave your cell phone and this device, this computer, 215 00:11:30,500 --> 00:11:33,970 Suze: everything that you carry with you, your pads and so forth. 216 00:11:33,980 --> 00:11:35,650 Suze: Do you leave them at home? 217 00:11:36,540 --> 00:11:39,059 Suze: You need to reconnect with them 218 00:11:39,440 --> 00:11:42,160 Suze: and they need to reconnect with you 219 00:11:42,540 --> 00:11:43,949 Suze: and it doesn't help. 220 00:11:44,540 --> 00:11:46,660 Suze: A weekend is not long enough 221 00:11:47,240 --> 00:11:50,940 Suze: in the research that we've done. It's got to be 222 00:11:50,950 --> 00:11:52,250 Suze: an entire week, 223 00:11:55,040 --> 00:11:56,860 Suze: do you Or don't you? 224 00:11:57,340 --> 00:11:58,559 Suze: Yes or no. 225 00:11:59,540 --> 00:12:00,650 Suze: Number five. 226 00:12:01,340 --> 00:12:04,860 Suze: Do they tell you the truth about where they are 227 00:12:04,860 --> 00:12:09,339 Suze: on Friday and Saturday nights? And do they tell you 228 00:12:09,340 --> 00:12:11,560 Suze: the truth about who their friends are? 229 00:12:12,340 --> 00:12:14,860 Suze: And do you demand the truth from them? 230 00:12:15,440 --> 00:12:18,559 Suze: Because if those kids are lying to you 231 00:12:18,940 --> 00:12:19,750 Suze: about that, 232 00:12:20,140 --> 00:12:22,559 Suze: they will lie to you about anything 233 00:12:22,940 --> 00:12:26,620 Suze: and if you don't demand the truth for them, they 234 00:12:26,630 --> 00:12:27,949 Suze: won't give it to you. 235 00:12:29,140 --> 00:12:30,250 Suze: Do you do that? 236 00:12:30,940 --> 00:12:32,260 Suze: Yes or no? 237 00:12:32,940 --> 00:12:36,960 Suze: And number six, do they participate in a team sport 238 00:12:37,440 --> 00:12:41,760 Suze: because that teaches them that they owe something 239 00:12:42,440 --> 00:12:46,020 Suze: they have to be strong and healthy and respectful of 240 00:12:46,020 --> 00:12:46,850 Suze: their friends 241 00:12:47,240 --> 00:12:49,850 Suze: and their colleagues and their comrades. 242 00:12:50,540 --> 00:12:51,760 Suze: Do they do that 243 00:12:52,440 --> 00:12:53,360 Suze: or don't they? 244 00:12:53,740 --> 00:12:54,850 Suze: Yes or no? 245 00:12:56,040 --> 00:12:58,890 Suze: All right. Now, what I want you to do is 246 00:12:58,890 --> 00:13:01,650 Suze: look at the little paper that you wrote yes or 247 00:13:01,650 --> 00:13:02,160 Suze: no 248 00:13:02,640 --> 00:13:03,360 Suze: on it. 249 00:13:04,140 --> 00:13:06,860 Suze: Now these are the indicators 250 00:13:07,440 --> 00:13:11,059 Suze: that Frank gave that day at this seminar 251 00:13:11,440 --> 00:13:14,860 Suze: And if you get five out of those six 252 00:13:15,740 --> 00:13:16,760 Suze: indicators 253 00:13:17,340 --> 00:13:19,559 Suze: that I just read to you right 254 00:13:20,240 --> 00:13:26,679 Suze: Now, your kids have a 97% chance of being successful. 255 00:13:26,950 --> 00:13:28,059 Suze: Did you hear that 256 00:13:29,740 --> 00:13:32,459 Suze: if you get three of them or less, 257 00:13:32,940 --> 00:13:34,760 Suze: you have a problem. 258 00:13:35,640 --> 00:13:39,550 Suze: If you get two or less, you have a crisis. 259 00:13:39,559 --> 00:13:40,930 Suze: Did you like those KT? Oh 260 00:13:40,929 --> 00:13:43,390 KT: my goodness, So Suze, I want you to post that 261 00:13:43,400 --> 00:13:46,280 KT: on the board, put that on the women and money 262 00:13:46,280 --> 00:13:49,569 KT: app so people can come and read that and maybe 263 00:13:49,570 --> 00:13:52,040 KT: share it with a whole lot of mothers or even 264 00:13:52,040 --> 00:13:53,980 KT: the dads out there share 265 00:13:53,980 --> 00:13:54,660 Suze: this 266 00:13:54,740 --> 00:13:55,340 Suze: and talk 267 00:13:55,340 --> 00:13:56,059 KT: about it 268 00:13:56,240 --> 00:13:58,240 KT: as a family with each other 269 00:13:58,250 --> 00:14:00,850 Suze: because you know, a lot of you right in and 270 00:14:00,850 --> 00:14:04,000 Suze: you asked me Suze, what can I do to make 271 00:14:04,000 --> 00:14:05,860 Suze: sure that my kids are successful 272 00:14:06,840 --> 00:14:10,219 Suze: and I can tell you the things that I think 273 00:14:10,230 --> 00:14:13,050 Suze: but KT and I really aren't mothers, 274 00:14:13,440 --> 00:14:17,610 Suze: we've never been in that situation. We have nieces and nephews, 275 00:14:17,620 --> 00:14:21,100 Suze: but we get to send them home with who their mothers, 276 00:14:21,110 --> 00:14:21,780 Suze: but 277 00:14:21,780 --> 00:14:23,660 KT: we're kind of special mothers. 278 00:14:24,240 --> 00:14:28,100 Suze: But you know, we're mothers to everybody or we try 279 00:14:28,100 --> 00:14:30,800 Suze: to mother all of you and take care of you 280 00:14:30,810 --> 00:14:33,910 Suze: as much as we possibly can. But I hope you 281 00:14:33,910 --> 00:14:34,760 Suze: found that 282 00:14:35,240 --> 00:14:39,390 Suze: as helpful and maybe as moving as I did, time 283 00:14:39,390 --> 00:14:42,140 Suze: will tell now, what do you have up your sleeve? 284 00:14:42,150 --> 00:14:45,860 Suze: She has this look on her face everybody And every 285 00:14:45,860 --> 00:14:46,230 Suze: time I'm 286 00:14:46,230 --> 00:14:49,360 KT: about to do, everyone really 287 00:14:49,840 --> 00:14:54,290 KT: is special because of what Suze just said that we 288 00:14:54,290 --> 00:14:57,910 KT: Suze and I are not mothers. And her definition is 289 00:14:57,910 --> 00:15:03,040 KT: that we don't have nor did we bear Children. However, 290 00:15:03,050 --> 00:15:05,560 KT: I disagree with MS Orman. 291 00:15:05,940 --> 00:15:07,800 KT: Now I'm calling you Ms Orman because you call me 292 00:15:07,800 --> 00:15:09,910 KT: Ms Travis. When it becomes important. When you 293 00:15:09,910 --> 00:15:11,030 Suze: disagree with me, 294 00:15:11,030 --> 00:15:11,960 KT: I disagree with 295 00:15:11,960 --> 00:15:13,240 Suze: I can disagree with 296 00:15:13,240 --> 00:15:17,910 KT: you And everybody listen up and Suze, You listen very carefully. 297 00:15:17,920 --> 00:15:22,170 KT: I have an email here that's extremely special and the 298 00:15:22,170 --> 00:15:24,420 KT: subject says mother 299 00:15:24,740 --> 00:15:28,480 KT: to bring up a child with care and affection. 300 00:15:28,840 --> 00:15:30,790 KT: I think that's a term. I don't know if that's 301 00:15:30,790 --> 00:15:33,650 KT: the term from the dictionary, but that was the headline 302 00:15:33,660 --> 00:15:36,660 KT: of this email ready everyone. 303 00:15:37,460 --> 00:15:40,520 KT: Even though I'm no longer a child, I met a 304 00:15:40,520 --> 00:15:41,960 KT: woman named Suze. 305 00:15:43,940 --> 00:15:46,710 Suze: Oh she's crying. It's okay to cry KT! 306 00:15:46,720 --> 00:15:47,680 KT: You 307 00:15:47,680 --> 00:15:49,360 Suze: can read it. Come on baby doll. 308 00:15:50,040 --> 00:15:51,860 Suze: You chose it somehow. 309 00:15:52,940 --> 00:15:55,810 KT: I read this a million times. Everyone but it's already 310 00:15:55,810 --> 00:15:58,610 KT: because I'm in the room looking at Suze. This is 311 00:15:58,610 --> 00:16:01,050 KT: making me a little bit emotional. So wait a minute. 312 00:16:01,050 --> 00:16:01,460 KT: All right, 313 00:16:04,940 --> 00:16:07,550 Suze: you can do it. They all know you get emotional. 314 00:16:08,040 --> 00:16:09,850 Suze: That's why I love her. Everybody. 315 00:16:09,920 --> 00:16:12,260 KT: Even though I'm no longer a child, I met a 316 00:16:12,260 --> 00:16:13,760 KT: woman named Suze. 317 00:16:16,770 --> 00:16:19,870 KT: She took me into her life mentally and treated me 318 00:16:19,870 --> 00:16:21,550 KT: with care and affection. 319 00:16:22,040 --> 00:16:24,860 KT: I was broken mentally. And Suze knew it. 320 00:16:26,240 --> 00:16:28,740 KT: She said to me here is some money. So you 321 00:16:28,740 --> 00:16:33,040 KT: and your kids can eat so you can survive. I'm shocked. 322 00:16:33,050 --> 00:16:36,450 KT: Suze is giving me money. There must be a motive. 323 00:16:36,460 --> 00:16:38,060 KT: I'm scared. I thought 324 00:16:38,540 --> 00:16:42,040 KT: no one especially a stranger was ever so kind to 325 00:16:42,040 --> 00:16:43,540 KT: me and my Children. 326 00:16:44,320 --> 00:16:47,130 KT: Man, Suze. You really helped me to pick up the 327 00:16:47,130 --> 00:16:51,080 KT: pieces that were broken. You continue to show me you 328 00:16:51,080 --> 00:16:51,860 KT: care 329 00:16:52,240 --> 00:16:55,470 KT: for years now. You still are there for me. 330 00:16:55,840 --> 00:16:57,660 KT: You kept giving and giving 331 00:16:58,540 --> 00:17:02,330 KT: not money. Just someone who cares about me and man. 332 00:17:02,330 --> 00:17:04,659 KT: You helped me put my life on track 333 00:17:05,540 --> 00:17:07,670 KT: my mental status as well. 334 00:17:08,540 --> 00:17:11,770 KT: We don't even get to see each other daily nor physically. 335 00:17:13,340 --> 00:17:16,820 KT: Suze. You taught me money can help you to survive 336 00:17:16,830 --> 00:17:18,170 KT: and live comfortably. 337 00:17:18,640 --> 00:17:21,850 KT: But also taught me Your health is so important. 338 00:17:23,840 --> 00:17:26,939 KT: Now, I know why people go insane and do harmful 339 00:17:26,940 --> 00:17:29,860 KT: things and mess up their life because of money. 340 00:17:30,240 --> 00:17:34,090 KT: Like you said, you control the money. Don't let the 341 00:17:34,090 --> 00:17:38,360 KT: money control you. Anyway. When I'm trying to say Suze 342 00:17:39,340 --> 00:17:42,080 KT: is that you are one of my mother's and I'm 343 00:17:42,080 --> 00:17:44,770 KT: so so thankful for you. 344 00:17:45,940 --> 00:17:50,050 KT: Thank you Suze for helping. Thank you, Suze for being real. 345 00:17:50,940 --> 00:17:52,950 KT: Thank you. Suze for caring. 346 00:17:53,440 --> 00:17:55,960 KT: Thank you. Suze for showing affection. 347 00:17:57,340 --> 00:17:59,560 KT: I know I may never see you again. 348 00:18:01,240 --> 00:18:03,820 KT: But it's always cool to get a text from you 349 00:18:03,820 --> 00:18:06,510 KT: once in a blue moon. It keeps a smile on 350 00:18:06,510 --> 00:18:08,730 KT: my face. Happy Mother's Day, Suze. 351 00:18:11,440 --> 00:18:12,679 KT: Do you know who it's 352 00:18:12,680 --> 00:18:13,790 Suze: from tell 353 00:18:13,790 --> 00:18:16,780 KT: everybody I can't talk anymore, 354 00:18:16,790 --> 00:18:20,770 Suze: it's from a woman by the name of Ayanna 355 00:18:21,140 --> 00:18:24,040 Suze: And I've talked to all of you about Ayanna over 356 00:18:24,040 --> 00:18:27,770 Suze: all these years in 2018 357 00:18:28,140 --> 00:18:29,550 Suze: I met Ayanna 358 00:18:30,040 --> 00:18:31,560 Suze: and a group of other 359 00:18:31,940 --> 00:18:34,760 Suze: women who survived domestic abuse 360 00:18:35,440 --> 00:18:40,090 Suze: and I was asked by Avon would I interview them 361 00:18:40,100 --> 00:18:41,560 Suze: and help them 362 00:18:41,940 --> 00:18:44,669 Suze: because they have been through horrific 363 00:18:45,540 --> 00:18:47,669 Suze: physical and mental torture 364 00:18:48,140 --> 00:18:51,760 Suze: and that always results in financial abuse and could I 365 00:18:51,760 --> 00:18:52,670 Suze: help them? 366 00:18:53,140 --> 00:18:57,470 Suze: And Ayanna at the time was 35 years of age. 367 00:18:57,470 --> 00:19:00,000 Suze: Again this is KT back in 2018 368 00:19:00,450 --> 00:19:01,190 KT: girls 369 00:19:01,200 --> 00:19:03,159 Suze: and she has to 370 00:19:03,740 --> 00:19:06,030 Suze: little girls, they're not so little anymore. 371 00:19:06,350 --> 00:19:06,909 KT: One 372 00:19:06,910 --> 00:19:11,560 Suze: is anyway and she literally was almost on the streets. 373 00:19:12,440 --> 00:19:16,610 Suze: She had no money, her refrigerator was empty. What she 374 00:19:16,609 --> 00:19:19,270 Suze: had gone through was absolutely amazing 375 00:19:20,040 --> 00:19:23,590 Suze: and tragic and in fact I did an interview with 376 00:19:23,590 --> 00:19:26,280 Suze: her KT, I don't know if you remember this, we 377 00:19:26,280 --> 00:19:28,860 Suze: put it on the Women and Money podcast 378 00:19:29,540 --> 00:19:30,050 Suze: and 379 00:19:30,740 --> 00:19:33,600 Suze: I think it was November of 2019 I could be 380 00:19:33,600 --> 00:19:37,640 Suze: wrong but right in there we aired the interview that 381 00:19:37,640 --> 00:19:42,020 Suze: I did in 2018 with Ayanna, I let all of 382 00:19:42,020 --> 00:19:43,060 Suze: you hear it 383 00:19:43,640 --> 00:19:45,669 Suze: and over the years 384 00:19:46,040 --> 00:19:49,550 Suze: I've become very close with her but only through text 385 00:19:50,240 --> 00:19:53,230 Suze: at one point she said to me I don't really 386 00:19:53,230 --> 00:19:55,850 Suze: believe it's you because I've never heard your voice, 387 00:19:56,340 --> 00:19:57,450 Suze: how do I know 388 00:19:57,840 --> 00:19:58,859 Suze: that? It's you 389 00:19:59,540 --> 00:20:01,439 Suze: and so for that one time I called her and 390 00:20:01,440 --> 00:20:04,360 Suze: I said it's me Ayanna, it's me. 391 00:20:04,840 --> 00:20:08,050 Suze: But I think KT the reason that she wrote that 392 00:20:08,840 --> 00:20:12,410 Suze: and Ayanna thank you for writing that is we were 393 00:20:12,410 --> 00:20:17,460 Suze: texting the other day about a situation she again got 394 00:20:17,460 --> 00:20:19,960 Suze: herself into and 395 00:20:20,340 --> 00:20:23,750 Suze: she said, so how are you going to celebrate Mother's Day? 396 00:20:24,940 --> 00:20:28,729 Suze: And I said Ayanna, KT and I both have lost 397 00:20:28,730 --> 00:20:29,550 Suze: our mothers. 398 00:20:29,940 --> 00:20:32,460 Suze: We don't have Children. 399 00:20:32,840 --> 00:20:34,670 Suze: So we're not mothers. 400 00:20:35,140 --> 00:20:38,460 Suze: So we're not really going to celebrate it for us. 401 00:20:38,470 --> 00:20:42,960 Suze: We celebrate it for everybody else besides us. 402 00:20:43,340 --> 00:20:44,270 Suze: And she said 403 00:20:45,140 --> 00:20:48,710 Suze: you're my mama don't tell me that you're the only 404 00:20:48,710 --> 00:20:52,640 Suze: mama I really have. You've been there for me. And 405 00:20:52,650 --> 00:20:55,160 Suze: she said, so don't say that you're not a mother. 406 00:20:55,940 --> 00:20:59,580 Suze: And I said okay Ayanna. So obviously 407 00:20:59,580 --> 00:21:02,680 KT: that's why she sent this with the with the term 408 00:21:02,690 --> 00:21:06,669 KT: mother to bring up a child with care and affection. 409 00:21:07,040 --> 00:21:07,530 Suze: So 410 00:21:07,530 --> 00:21:10,360 KT: Suze, you've been caring with affection 411 00:21:10,740 --> 00:21:14,640 KT: and great guidance actually for quite a few years now 412 00:21:14,810 --> 00:21:18,370 Suze: for four years. But and the truth is I'll be 413 00:21:18,369 --> 00:21:20,760 Suze: there really for Ayanna's the rest of her life 414 00:21:21,140 --> 00:21:23,449 Suze: because when somebody has nobody 415 00:21:24,040 --> 00:21:26,770 Suze: when somebody doesn't have anybody to turn to 416 00:21:27,240 --> 00:21:32,359 Suze: and they've been through the physical, psychological, mental and financial 417 00:21:32,359 --> 00:21:33,060 Suze: abuse 418 00:21:34,240 --> 00:21:36,550 Suze: that this woman has been through in her life. 419 00:21:37,940 --> 00:21:39,179 Suze: I don't know it gives me a 420 00:21:39,180 --> 00:21:39,670 KT: great 421 00:21:40,040 --> 00:21:41,139 Suze: what 422 00:21:41,150 --> 00:21:43,810 KT: what I have to just say to people so that 423 00:21:43,810 --> 00:21:49,219 KT: they understand Suze's not. Suze doesn't finance and give her money. 424 00:21:49,230 --> 00:21:52,110 KT: She gives her tough love. You've been tough with her 425 00:21:52,109 --> 00:21:53,250 KT: big time. 426 00:21:53,359 --> 00:21:56,270 Suze: I've met some of her needs when she would have 427 00:21:56,270 --> 00:21:57,260 Suze: been on the street 428 00:21:57,840 --> 00:21:58,629 Suze: and with food 429 00:21:58,630 --> 00:22:01,109 KT: and with her without asking, but 430 00:22:01,109 --> 00:22:05,060 Suze: not that much right. And she doesn't ever ask. 431 00:22:05,440 --> 00:22:08,669 Suze: But I know when things have gotten really, really rough. 432 00:22:09,340 --> 00:22:14,170 Suze: So an extra $200 there, maybe $300. Not large sums 433 00:22:14,640 --> 00:22:15,660 Suze: can really 434 00:22:16,240 --> 00:22:18,060 Suze: change somebody's life. 435 00:22:18,740 --> 00:22:20,659 Suze: So that was sweet KT. But 436 00:22:21,240 --> 00:22:24,310 Suze: I think it's true. Maybe we are mama's. 437 00:22:24,930 --> 00:22:25,380 KT: Yeah. 438 00:22:25,380 --> 00:22:26,960 Suze: You know, a lot of times 439 00:22:27,440 --> 00:22:29,770 Suze: when you don't have children of your own or even 440 00:22:29,770 --> 00:22:30,560 Suze: if you do 441 00:22:31,340 --> 00:22:34,060 Suze: sometimes somebody who is really in need 442 00:22:34,440 --> 00:22:37,650 Suze: of love and affection and caring, caring 443 00:22:37,650 --> 00:22:38,700 KT: more than anything 444 00:22:38,710 --> 00:22:39,560 Suze: is something 445 00:22:39,940 --> 00:22:41,260 Suze: that all of us 446 00:22:41,640 --> 00:22:44,670 Suze: hopefully are capable of doing all right 447 00:22:45,540 --> 00:22:49,520 KT: to all the mommies out there, congratulations. 448 00:22:49,940 --> 00:22:52,900 KT: Love up your babies. Or you're growing up Children. 449 00:22:52,910 --> 00:22:57,709 Suze: All the Children out there love up your mothers and 450 00:22:57,710 --> 00:23:01,460 Suze: the greatest gift that you could give all of them 451 00:23:02,140 --> 00:23:05,479 Suze: is for you to be financially independent. For you to 452 00:23:05,480 --> 00:23:08,540 Suze: know all the financial situations that you should be aware 453 00:23:08,540 --> 00:23:10,859 Suze: of in your life and that you never give a 454 00:23:10,859 --> 00:23:15,750 Suze: destination wedding that your mother can't go to. That's what 455 00:23:15,750 --> 00:23:18,850 Suze: I say. All right. Everybody until 456 00:23:18,940 --> 00:23:23,689 Suze: Thursday with the true ask Suze and KT anything. What 457 00:23:23,690 --> 00:23:25,359 Suze: do you want to say, girlfriend. 458 00:23:25,359 --> 00:23:28,320 KT: Alright, Mom stay safe. Strong and 459 00:23:28,320 --> 00:23:33,800 Suze: said here, Happy Mother's Day, Everybody and Robert. Tell your mama, 460 00:23:33,810 --> 00:23:39,850 Suze: KT and Suze say Happy Mother's Day. Bye bye.