1 00:00:41,340 --> 00:00:46,669 Suze: May 12th, 2024. Welcome everybody to the Women and Money podcast. 2 00:00:46,680 --> 00:00:49,470 Suze: As well as everybody smart enough to listen. 3 00:00:50,430 --> 00:00:57,490 Suze: Today is Mother's Day, a really, really important day in 4 00:00:57,500 --> 00:01:01,200 Suze: every one of our lives for without mothers, none of 5 00:01:01,209 --> 00:01:02,840 Suze: us would be here. 6 00:01:03,520 --> 00:01:07,339 Suze: And, you know, it's so funny because as the years passed, 7 00:01:07,830 --> 00:01:12,099 Suze: I must admit that I miss my mom more and 8 00:01:12,110 --> 00:01:14,099 Suze: more and more 9 00:01:14,830 --> 00:01:20,089 Suze: and that surprises me because I just, it just does. 10 00:01:20,989 --> 00:01:24,949 Suze: So, you love them, you don't love them. You're getting 11 00:01:24,959 --> 00:01:28,089 Suze: along with them. You're not getting along with them, they're 12 00:01:28,099 --> 00:01:31,660 Suze: getting older. Maybe they're getting angrier, maybe they're not giving 13 00:01:31,669 --> 00:01:35,430 Suze: you the responses you want, maybe they're just whatever 14 00:01:36,569 --> 00:01:41,429 Suze: and in the end, no matter what the relationship was 15 00:01:42,010 --> 00:01:47,529 Suze: when they're gone and the years pass, you miss them 16 00:01:47,569 --> 00:01:52,040 Suze: and love them more and more and you possibly end 17 00:01:52,050 --> 00:01:56,180 Suze: up saying to yourself, why wasn't I more patient? Why 18 00:01:56,190 --> 00:01:58,029 Suze: wasn't I more understanding? 19 00:01:58,800 --> 00:02:01,980 Suze: Why didn't I get that? It's really harder to get 20 00:02:01,989 --> 00:02:04,599 Suze: old and that you have less years in front of 21 00:02:04,610 --> 00:02:09,860 Suze: you than you do behind you. Why was I so selfish? 22 00:02:10,979 --> 00:02:14,070 Suze: All those things are possibilities. 23 00:02:14,770 --> 00:02:19,589 Suze: So it's really, really important that on this day that 24 00:02:19,600 --> 00:02:23,070 Suze: we wish every single mother out there 25 00:02:24,500 --> 00:02:28,038 Suze: a happy, happy Mother's Day. 26 00:02:28,919 --> 00:02:32,619 Suze: You know, it's so strange because just the other night 27 00:02:33,160 --> 00:02:37,669 Suze: I had the most unusual dream for me because I 28 00:02:37,679 --> 00:02:41,059 Suze: usually don't dream things like this. The truth is in 29 00:02:41,070 --> 00:02:44,750 Suze: the morning when we wake up, KT always says, what 30 00:02:44,758 --> 00:02:47,660 Suze: did you dream? And I said, I don't know, 31 00:02:48,399 --> 00:02:50,990 Suze: maybe I dreamed. I don't remember if I had a 32 00:02:51,000 --> 00:02:53,500 Suze: dream or not. And then KT goes on to tell 33 00:02:53,508 --> 00:02:57,020 Suze: me the most elaborate, incredible dreams. And I always wonder 34 00:02:57,029 --> 00:02:58,820 Suze: how come I don't dream. 35 00:02:59,809 --> 00:03:01,669 Suze: But the other night 36 00:03:02,869 --> 00:03:06,520 Suze: I had the most unusual dream. 37 00:03:07,399 --> 00:03:11,470 Suze: I was there wherever there was with my mom 38 00:03:12,339 --> 00:03:17,020 Suze: and with my granny, my mom's mom and we always 39 00:03:17,029 --> 00:03:21,580 Suze: called her granny and we used to fight over whose 40 00:03:21,589 --> 00:03:26,079 Suze: house she would stay at because she lost her husband, 41 00:03:26,089 --> 00:03:30,229 Suze: my grandfather, Joe at a very, very young age. She 42 00:03:30,240 --> 00:03:34,149 Suze: must have been in her late fifties when he died 43 00:03:34,970 --> 00:03:40,429 Suze: and she herself died at 63 years of age. 44 00:03:41,110 --> 00:03:46,449 Suze: So she was extremely young when she died as well. 45 00:03:47,470 --> 00:03:50,350 Suze: And so there she was, and she was a little 46 00:03:50,360 --> 00:03:55,270 Suze: bit older version of herself in this dream. And the 47 00:03:55,279 --> 00:04:00,580 Suze: truth of the matter is my mother looked identical to 48 00:04:00,589 --> 00:04:07,009 Suze: my grandmother in many ways. I look identical to my mother. 49 00:04:07,570 --> 00:04:11,669 Suze: Sometimes I look at pictures of my granny and I 50 00:04:11,679 --> 00:04:14,889 Suze: think that I'm looking at pictures of my mother 51 00:04:16,130 --> 00:04:21,640 Suze: and sometimes KT snaps a picture of me and I 52 00:04:21,649 --> 00:04:25,269 Suze: look at it and I think, oh my God, that's 53 00:04:25,279 --> 00:04:26,670 Suze: my mother. 54 00:04:27,720 --> 00:04:32,058 Suze: So there's a very, very strong connection there. 55 00:04:32,880 --> 00:04:34,500 Suze: So we were all 56 00:04:35,350 --> 00:04:36,250 Suze: present 57 00:04:36,980 --> 00:04:39,640 Suze: and at this moment in time in the dream, I'm 58 00:04:39,649 --> 00:04:42,480 Suze: just with my grandmother 59 00:04:43,410 --> 00:04:48,600 Suze: and I find myself going up to my grandma and 60 00:04:48,609 --> 00:04:53,099 Suze: I put my arms around her and I hold her very, 61 00:04:53,109 --> 00:04:54,558 Suze: very close to me. 62 00:04:55,440 --> 00:04:59,709 Suze: And I say granny, I want you to move in 63 00:04:59,720 --> 00:05:00,660 Suze: with us. 64 00:05:01,750 --> 00:05:07,390 Suze: Really granny. I want you to move in with me 65 00:05:07,399 --> 00:05:08,329 Suze: and mommy. 66 00:05:09,700 --> 00:05:12,808 Suze: So obviously I was living with my mother, but I 67 00:05:12,820 --> 00:05:16,109 Suze: was as old as I am now. 68 00:05:17,549 --> 00:05:18,219 Suze: And 69 00:05:18,880 --> 00:05:22,940 Suze: I said it meaning every single word of it. 70 00:05:24,079 --> 00:05:28,339 Suze: Then all of a sudden her face in the dream 71 00:05:28,350 --> 00:05:33,119 Suze: became very large and it was right in front of 72 00:05:33,130 --> 00:05:33,649 Suze: me 73 00:05:34,480 --> 00:05:41,200 Suze: and her face, her eyes right there started to cry. 74 00:05:41,910 --> 00:05:47,100 Suze: The most beautiful tears I've ever seen tears that said, 75 00:05:47,369 --> 00:05:51,700 Suze: thank you so much. Thank you, Suze. Now, I'm not 76 00:05:51,709 --> 00:05:56,609 Suze: going to be alone now, I'm not afraid. And I 77 00:05:56,619 --> 00:06:00,299 Suze: was like, right granny, you're gonna be with us forever. 78 00:06:00,309 --> 00:06:02,980 Suze: I'll make sure you're absolutely ok. 79 00:06:03,390 --> 00:06:06,809 Suze: Then all of a sudden my mom walked up and 80 00:06:06,820 --> 00:06:09,730 Suze: she's looking at the two of us like what just 81 00:06:09,738 --> 00:06:15,308 Suze: went on here. And I said, mom, mom, I just 82 00:06:15,320 --> 00:06:18,950 Suze: told granny that I wanted her to move in with 83 00:06:18,959 --> 00:06:22,130 Suze: us that we were going to take care of her 84 00:06:22,140 --> 00:06:25,299 Suze: just like I'm taking care of you for the rest 85 00:06:25,309 --> 00:06:30,209 Suze: of both of your lives. And with that, my mom 86 00:06:30,779 --> 00:06:34,660 Suze: puts her hands like in prayer over her chest 87 00:06:35,809 --> 00:06:39,829 Suze: and you could tell that what she was really saying 88 00:06:39,839 --> 00:06:46,269 Suze: with that gesture was really, really Suze. That's the best 89 00:06:46,279 --> 00:06:49,209 Suze: thing you have ever said to me in your entire 90 00:06:49,220 --> 00:06:54,390 Suze: life that my mother now can live with me again. 91 00:06:55,190 --> 00:06:58,000 Suze: And we both could live with you. 92 00:06:59,299 --> 00:07:00,540 Suze: And for me, 93 00:07:01,428 --> 00:07:06,140 Suze: that was such an extraordinary moment. And with that I 94 00:07:06,149 --> 00:07:08,808 Suze: woke up, but that dream, 95 00:07:09,690 --> 00:07:16,010 Suze: that incredible dream is still so with me, especially today, 96 00:07:16,239 --> 00:07:18,910 Suze: I can't even tell you, but maybe you can feel 97 00:07:18,920 --> 00:07:20,970 Suze: it through my words. 98 00:07:21,820 --> 00:07:24,440 Suze: But isn't that what we all want? 99 00:07:25,269 --> 00:07:28,559 Suze: Don't we all just want to know that when we 100 00:07:28,570 --> 00:07:30,959 Suze: get older, we will not be alone 101 00:07:31,779 --> 00:07:36,619 Suze: that we will somehow be taken care of whether it's 102 00:07:36,630 --> 00:07:37,950 Suze: by others? 103 00:07:38,850 --> 00:07:44,309 Suze: But hopefully, we could also be taken care of by 104 00:07:44,320 --> 00:07:47,859 Suze: what I call our financial Children, our money that we 105 00:07:47,869 --> 00:07:49,510 Suze: have worked so hard for 106 00:07:50,369 --> 00:07:54,220 Suze: that. We have saved that we have invested that we 107 00:07:54,230 --> 00:07:56,839 Suze: have listened to the Women and Money podcast in the 108 00:07:56,850 --> 00:08:00,369 Suze: Suze Orman Show now for almost 30 some odd years, 109 00:08:01,269 --> 00:08:05,809 Suze: years of labor, really for this birth of our own 110 00:08:05,820 --> 00:08:10,390 Suze: ability to financially take care of ourselves. 111 00:08:11,410 --> 00:08:13,950 Suze: So today Mother's Day 112 00:08:14,899 --> 00:08:18,049 Suze: really is a day that needs to be filled with love, 113 00:08:18,549 --> 00:08:24,850 Suze: with forgiveness, with gratitude for our life. We need to 114 00:08:24,859 --> 00:08:30,739 Suze: mother our own souls. I can't tell you how important 115 00:08:30,750 --> 00:08:31,709 Suze: that is. 116 00:08:32,440 --> 00:08:36,460 Suze: And what that means is whether you have a mother, 117 00:08:36,950 --> 00:08:41,140 Suze: whether you love your mother, you don't love your mother, 118 00:08:41,150 --> 00:08:44,900 Suze: your mother has died or you have no idea who 119 00:08:44,909 --> 00:08:50,419 Suze: your mother really is. No matter what the situation is, 120 00:08:50,429 --> 00:08:54,979 Suze: you have to see yourself, the women out there, 121 00:08:55,849 --> 00:09:00,848 Suze: you have to see yourself as the mother of your 122 00:09:00,859 --> 00:09:02,380 Suze: own soul. 123 00:09:03,520 --> 00:09:05,469 Suze: You are the mother, 124 00:09:06,299 --> 00:09:10,400 Suze: you are the caretaker, you are the protector 125 00:09:11,169 --> 00:09:18,469 Suze: of your future, of your financial soul, of your spiritual being, 126 00:09:18,880 --> 00:09:23,909 Suze: of everything that is inside of you and everything that 127 00:09:23,919 --> 00:09:25,419 Suze: you have created. 128 00:09:26,190 --> 00:09:29,880 Suze: So you have to treat it with respect, you have 129 00:09:29,890 --> 00:09:33,289 Suze: to treasure it for, you will never have another. 130 00:09:34,090 --> 00:09:37,589 Suze: You have to make sure that you're gentle with it. 131 00:09:38,140 --> 00:09:42,309 Suze: You nurse it, you feed it, you nourish it. 132 00:09:42,979 --> 00:09:49,489 Suze: But most of all you love yourself exactly for how 133 00:09:49,500 --> 00:09:50,450 Suze: you are. 134 00:09:51,380 --> 00:09:56,150 Suze: You love your heart, you love your mind, you love 135 00:09:56,159 --> 00:09:58,939 Suze: every single part of you 136 00:09:59,830 --> 00:10:01,099 Suze: for. It's really, 137 00:10:02,070 --> 00:10:02,919 Suze: really 138 00:10:03,690 --> 00:10:05,510 Suze: only through love, 139 00:10:06,409 --> 00:10:10,919 Suze: loving every single moment of your life. 140 00:10:12,330 --> 00:10:20,500 Suze: Understanding that you are the ultimate mother of your own existence. 141 00:10:20,969 --> 00:10:28,030 Suze: It's only when you really understand that and through self-love, 142 00:10:28,049 --> 00:10:29,500 Suze: self-worth 143 00:10:31,710 --> 00:10:37,070 Suze: knowing your own value and standing in your truth that 144 00:10:37,080 --> 00:10:44,069 Suze: you will be the most unstoppable mother in this world.